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hello listeners and welcome to voice over work an audiobook sampler where do

you listen today is June 10th 2025 today's featured book is gain social

awareness and become socially perceptive how to read social cues emotions

behavior and intentions by Patrick King this is part of his how to be more

likeable and charismatic series according to the author social awareness is

not a given these days but if you have it it will seem like you have a super

power because of how perceptive you'll be but the secret is that it's not that

hard you can get inside people's heads with a simple conversation or

observation and this book is like a manual to people's behavior once you

see these things you can never unsee them you'll be able to speed read people

in situations from seemingly small and simple things and you'll marvel at just

how simple and predictable people can be now today's episode is a chapter by

chapter preview of this book from Patrick King we're gonna play the first few

minutes of each chapter just to give you an idea of the contents and the style

that you'll see in this book so before we grab the excerpts from the actual book

let's do a chapter rundown here so you can anticipate what's coming up in this

in the episode chapter one is learning to listen and the author tells us that

through people watching understanding body language reading voice and

interpreting the different styles of smiles we can better learn to read

people understand where they're coming from and what they might do next chapter

two is entitled how to read the room there's an important point here right

at the beginning of the chapter of knowing when the conversation is over

studies have shown that most conversations carry on longer than the

participants wish they would it's important to know when to cut and run

there's such a thing in conversation as well as cooperative overlapping where

you work together with your conversational partner to make the

conversation flow and make it very productive and enjoyable tucked into

this chapter are some clues to the character of the person you're dealing

with and these can be real helpful and then a little item called the server

test take a look at that one it'd be it's interesting at the end of chapter

two chapter three is to challenge your assumptions to build real empathy and

here we all know that we have our own cognitive distortions that interrupt

our perception of the real world we perceive it fine but we interpret it

incorrectly and by getting rid of cognitive distortions by understanding

stereotypes and how we consciously or unconsciously apply them to the people

we're conversing with how they can hinder or help a relationship chapter four

is how to understand people by understanding the language they use

there's a concept in here called the four ears model and it's not a physical

deformity something you should check out and the concept of weasel words you

should know your weasel words when to use them how to avoid them and how to

watch for them in a conversation and finally chapter five digging deeper to

learn what really makes people tick you have to know a person on some level to

have a real conversation with them and you get to do that by learning to listen

and understanding what's going on inside their heads something you have to do

quite quickly in a conversation with the new acquaintance what meltdowns and

tantrums in our core fears can do to help or hinder a conversation and

understanding people and what people's friendships say about them and also learn

how to predict a person's social behavior so that's quite a list just a

quick rundown of the chapters to give you an idea of what this book contains

let's start now with chapter one again the first few minutes from each chapter

and then we'll sign off for today's episode thanks for joining us