WHAT DID YOU HAVE TO UNLEARN FROM PAST MORGAN

TO BECOME PRESENT MORGAN

I GOTTA STOP BEING GHETTO

I'M FROM I'M FROM EAST SAINT LOUIS

MANKATO CITY MISSOURI

LIKE I'M FROM THE HOOD

LIKE ALL MY

MY FAMILY UM

MY SIBLINGS WE ALL FROM THE HOOD MORGAN

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR COMING

THANK YOU VERY MUCH YOU'RE WELCOME MAN

I HAD TO STOP BEING A VICTIM RIGHT

I HAD TO STOP SAYING PEOPLE WERE DOING THIS SYSTEM

AND THIS WAS DOING THIS TO ME

CAUSE I COME FROM A MARGINALIZED COMMUNITY RIGHT

AND SO THE EASIEST WAY IS TO BLAME SOMEBODY ELSE

MOST PEOPLE COME BACK FROM

YOU KNOW FROM WAR AND

YOU KNOW WHEN I WAS IN AFGHANISTAN

WHEN I CAME BACK PEOPLE ARE COMING BACK WITH PTSD

WHAT I WAS TOLD AND WHAT I WAS TAUGHT IS ABOUT POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH

I TAKE MY TRAUMA AND LET IT BE A CATALYST TO PROPEL ME FORWARD

I MADE A CHOICE THAT I DIDN'T WANT TO LIVE THE WAY OTHER PEOPLE LIVED

AND SAY THIS IS WHAT'S HAPPENING TO ME

AND STARTED TO MAKE THE THINGS I NEEDED IN MY LIFE TO MAKE THEM HAPPEN

WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE BIGGEST LIE THAT MOST PEOPLE BELIEVE

WHEN IT COMES TO DISCIPLINE

THE FIRST THING I LEARNED IN MARINE CORPS

IS WHAT WE CALL THE DEFINITION OF DISCIPLINE AT THAT TIME

INSTANT WILLINGNESS OBEDIENCE TO ORDERS

SELF RELIANCE AND TEAMWORK

YOU NEED TO DO THE THING NOW AND NOT THINK ABOUT IT LIKE EXECUTION

IT'S NOT ABOUT LIKE

LET'S WAIT LET'S SEE WHAT'S GOING ON

THE DISCIPLINE SETS YOU UP FOR SUCCESS

BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE BUCKLE WHEN IT GETS HARD

MOST PEOPLE RUN AWAY WHEN IT GETS HARD

WE HAVE MIKE'S CAMERA INTERNET

ONE MESSAGE FOR ANYBODY THAT WATCHES THIS

WHAT WOULD THAT BE

YOU ARE WHO YOU CHOOSE TO BE

AND THE MOMENT YOU STOP PROCRASTINATING ON THE DIRECTION YOU WANNA GO

YOU'LL MOVE FORWARD AND WHEN YOU MOVE FORWARD

YOU ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS

AND WHEN YOU ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS

YOU'LL BE WHERE YOU'RE MEANT TO BE

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All right let's jump right in Morgan thank you very much for coming

Thank you very much

You're welcome man

I remember when you first joined Augusta seeing the videos that you would make at first be like yo yo yo yo what's up Augusta

How's everyone doing

And I was like well this is the kind of cool because it kind of brings a the energy of especially like early in the morning

Right right um I just wondering like where after after I saw that video I went to your profile a little bit a little digging see that you were you call yourself like the people's coach

They call me people cause I don't call myself

They call me the people

I didn't name myself that that's not something I did

Yeah they call you the people's coach

What is that about

What is it that you do that you coach people

So I coach enduring sports and you know triathletes ultra athletes and I do the sports as well myself

But what I really do is really get in touch with you know the people themselves

And and so I'm always getting to know people brighten somebody's day

And it really blew up during Covid and then people said man that's the pew the people do like the people's coach and just stop

And so my one of my mentors told me a long time ago he said if you do it for the people everything else will work itself out

And so I really focus on bringing light to people's eyes being the Brighton of the community being the mayor of my town and that's where the people's coach was born

Um and guess what

When you the more people you know the more things you can control the more um lives you can change and the more successful you feel or are interesting

And now after being in people's coach by the end of this podcast if you had if you if someone only heard one thing from you today what would that be

Always keep moving forward right and the quickest answer that you're looking for is within yourself

Don't feel that you have to go to find it

Everybody's always like I'm looking for success

I'm trying to find the balance

They always looking outside of where it already is

And I always tell people that I work with even my athletes or my um my my life coach uh clients is like I'm not giving you anything you are you don't already possess

Like what you have is within you but no one looks there first they wanna put it on the outside like it's it's them it's them it's them instead of as it's me what can I do to move forward

And so I said look within first be very introspective when you're doing things and it'll change the way you look at the world

I think that's one problem most people actually have is they look exterior for personal success

They look at um how other people are trying to do it and just doesn't always work cause you're not the same person they are

Yeah it was I was just talking about my um my business partner Mike right and he I was telling him how like most people can't handle the weight

Everybody wants to be hey Mike Andy's or something like that

But if you put the normal person in that spot they couldn't handle the load because the responsibility and the things that he possesses is what he can handle and that's what his capacity is

Yeah right and people that's harder that's almost like somebody like you're inadequate but that's not what they're saying is like you haven't built up the the the structure within your life to be able to handle that type of capacity

And most people just don't wanna do the work

They want the easy way out

They wanna make the money tomorrow and stand instead of saying like you know what

I'mma put my head down and just be disciplined and do the things that I don't wanna do to have the things other people don't have

What do you think separates those people that have the capacity to do it versus the ones that don't

Hmm that's a good question

Okay um so i'mma repeat it

So what separates from the people that have the capacity to do it in comparison to the people that don't have the capacity to do it

Well if you if you look at somebody that is like eye color usually high functioning right and they are able to hold more they usually have more life experiences right

And so the more you do hard things the more you can handle hard things and more hard things don't become not as hard

But the people that don't that don't possess it are usually trying to get it given to them not knowing that they need to go through it to grow through it right

They have to like actually put in a situation and build the resilience need it to hell and handle the pressure

You know what I mean and so they are that's a there's a quarter that you say no pressure no diamond

Like you just if you if you gonna do some you gotta do it differently

Because if you know if the diamond is the most rarest you know mineral in the world and it needs pressure to be as beautiful as it is

What makes you think that you're gonna be different

But most people can handle the pressure

They don't want it and it's just temporary within them so it's not sustained

That's interesting

What pain do you understand that most coaches don't what pain it doesn't matter what type of pain doesn't matter no pain um emotional right everything you go through

Let's just talk so we let's we do we all do long care right and and so the biggest we talked about it today on the plane was people don't understand that to hire and to train you have to be a different person

You think you can go out and and we and I won't say other people cause I thought this too

I thought I could just do a thing and the thing would happen right I'm just gonna hire somebody and they gonna be the best person and they gonna be close to me and guess what

Yeah that never happens right never damn happens

But what what what changed is when you realize that you are the filter and what goes into you and what comes through you is decided by you

And so if you want clean water you're not gonna use a dirty filter right are you are you gonna use a specific filter and what does that look like

And so I believe that like a lot of people don't do the inner work

It is what it comes down to right uh I know Mike Andy has talked about uh the connection between like home and work and success but that's very very important

And when people realize that that's when the growth starts to happen right

And so that it I'm looking at meeting the person who are they

The person I'm coaching where they are not where I think they should be

Hmm yeah and um I'm saying that so you said the pain you said um that pain that most could you don't understand is the emotional pain

There's different drivers that people have right

There's either trauma they've had

There's uh revenge that people might have depending on their life circumstances

How can someone get any emotional pain that they've had throughout their life and use it as fuel to not only be successful outwardly but most importantly inwardly understand it

You can't just like anything you can't in business you can't change the business if you don't understand the business you can't make more money if you don't understand the numbers if you don't understand the piano you can't understand the numbers right

And if you don't know what is going on you can't create something new or better right

And so to to get to that point you have to be able to have the the intestinal fortitude or the courage or bravery right to look within for that and say like okay I'm I'm lacking something and that doesn't make it bad that just makes that reality and this is what I'm gonna do to be better at it

I need to make a decision or decide to be more than I was and not be happy and and content or complacent in the in the place that I am

So I think it's really focusing on who you are

And ever since like all these different things that we leave the questions that we've talked about you know so far is like there's a big part that we we we all miss in life in life could be better when you choose to be a better person life could be better when you choose to be a better human life could be a better when you choose better humans around you

Right

And so that all comes from an emotional route that's deeper within that most of us don't even understand

So we come with these problems that we wonder why life is a certain way

But when you dealing with issues or you dealing with sickness they wanna know what the root of it is not what the symptoms of it is

You know what I mean

You know so look at it was all we got

We got season ideas so we having a bad offseason

What are you not doing

Are you not advertising or do you just you know like we did

We just you know it's October guess we done until April and then complained about like what we don't have but what are we doing to change it

And so if you don't look at the obvious thing and most people don't know to do that right

And the harder part about it is most people don't understand how powerful it is

Because no one teaches you

Hey man I want you to like look within yourself look within yourself

Everybody says be better be more do this do that

So everybody's a human doing instead of being humans being being present in their lives being president in their souls to move forward

The one thing that I heard in that was um the people around you

I'm a big believer about having people around you

That would keep you either in a better place or have good environment

Um one thing that I went through in high school was trying to pick between different friend groups

Right right and a lot of people think go through that

And I think that you know road that you get to when you have to split is uh very determining on how a majority of your life will go until you decide to change that

I think I was just blessed by choosing a good friend group

I mean we're still good

We still work jobs have families

Now like no one's doing drugs and then the other friend group that I watch go down the other path

It's just if tearing ourselves apart you know right not where not where they wanna be

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I've had to say my last I mean that's part of my life story

Like if I would have never left home I'd have been around the same people that people that I probably wouldn't let me change that

I would not be hanging around today because they're not bringing any value to me

They're not in they're not moving in the direction that I wanna move in

They're stagnant or in reverse or stuck

Neither one I wanna be associated with

I wanna move forward

I wanna have consistent success

I wanna execute execute execute and so I can have the things that I want that be my for my family and for myself

And I also want to make sure that I'm I think brine brine brine brown says is I want to be around people that are in the same arena than I am fighting the same fight and in that perspective of acting having to switch between your environments or people

Everything you're consuming

Um what did you have to unlearn from past Morgan to become peasant Morgan

I gotta stop being ghetto

I'm from I'm from ST Louis Mankan City Missouri

Like I'm from the hood

Like all my my family uh my siblings we all from the hood

Uh you know four brothers one of yeah four brothers one you know got killed and I'm the only one that's graduated high school

The girls have graduated three girls right

And so I had to stop being a victim

I had to stop saying people were doing this system in this was doing this to me because I come from a marginalized community right

And so the easiest way is to blame somebody else but what I stop doing is um stop blaming

And I took it into my own hands one of the biggest grow pieces that I had

And I'm actually gonna talk about that this weekend

Is when you when you look at most people come back from you know from war

And you know when I was in Afghanistan when I came back um people are coming back with PTSD post traumatic stress right um post traumatic stress disorder PTSD within they took out the d

Well what I was told and what I was told is about post traumatic growth

I take my trauma and let it be a catalyst to propel me forward

I made a choice that I didn't want to live the way other people live and say this is what's happening to me and started to make the things I needed in my life to make them happen

That's crazy

Talk to me a little bit more about that

Um that military history from like where you started to pretty much where you are at now

Cause I know that the military either brings out the best in your brings out the worst

It brought a whole lot of things in

It's Marine Corps baby like you know hell death of destruction every moment

I live is a digital threat of all your life

Like that's type of things we learn

I don't think that way anymore

We'll make sure it clear cut grass and I help people grow but like it's it's a it's a doctoration

Right and so um the military gave me discipline

I do things when I don't wanna do them

I can do hard things um when other people quit

I can do things that most people deem impossible cause I make a choice to move forward

Um and it also gave me the ability to be organized um and appreciate the small things cause you know the Marine Corps always talks about doing more or less

Yeah and and you know whatever people one of the things I had the biggest issue with when I actually um came back from deployment

Was people not lack of appreciation for the things that they had

You know what's that saying

They say many gave some some gave

All right that means you know many were there

We I gave you a part of me but like some gave the ultimate sacrifice their lives

And I don't that's not lost to me right

And I use that to to push me forward and everything that I do and make the choices based off the people that are no longer able to make those choices because they they're sacrificed their lives

So I could be here having this conversation with you in owning uh uh franchises of Augusta or changing people's lives

And I made sure I took that experience in make something positive with it right

And the Marine Corps is not a it's not a fun place all the time like your brotherhood and and there's exciting things you get to blow up stuff you get to shoot stuff you get to go cool places right

But there's also a part of it where people like always tell you about that stuff happens in the Marine Corps

Marines are still human right and you can get humans have emotions humans need compassion humans need empathy humans need joy humans experience sadness

And sometimes when when you are in the Marine Corps um you get jaded about that right and so you leave

And when nobody's giving you all those things um or they're not being created within your environment you get to a place where you don't know if you know what's important to you

Um but I have people in the Marine Corps that tell me like don't take this stuff too seriously

Make sure you're doing the things that that bring you value no matter if it's today or tomorrow

And so it's like the biggest value I got in Marine Corps

The people that I met along the way they gave me the tools to put in my toolbox so I could be successful

Um you talk a little bit about different qualities that you learn in the Marine Corps whether it's leadership uh compassion discipline I wanna zoom in a little bit on discipline because of pretty misuse term sometimes

What do you think is the biggest lie that people that most people believe when it comes to discipline

Well I'll start with the one the first thing I Learned in Marine Corps what we call a definition of discipline at that time instant willing instant willingness obedience to orders self reliance and teamwork right

It's it's like instant willingness is like you need to do the thing now and I think about it like execution

It's not about let's wait let's see what's going on

But in the and I said the instant when it's obedience to orders right

And so when it's obedience like people think about you're telling me what to do is no you're listening to yourself

What what what decisions are you making that you're not moving forward on right

And so disciplines is literally doing hard things when you don't wanna do them right stand in the position of attention for hours you know rushing into a building whatever it looks like

But the discipline set you up for success because most people buckle when it gets hard most people run away when it gets hard

They literally in the military alone

The discipline comes for us doing things that other countries will not put their other people to through

That's what training is right

Discipline is doing it day in and day out no matter what the situation no matter what the weather and not making excuses

No most Marines over there that's a saying is that if Marine ain't complaining he ain't happy

Right that's discipline right but guess what

They're still getting the job done

They're still America's 9 1 1 the strongest fighting force in the in the world

And so with that being said our level of discipline that we have to do things when we don't wanna do them I mean you're unstoppable

There's nothing that can't be accomplished with something body propelling themselves for with that type of power

One of the things that I like to say that kind of goes with what you're saying was when times get hard hard get going

Okay so I really like that quote because most people like you're saying that buckle under pressure

That's kind of what that quote stands out to me with bow

Like sometimes you get hard only person that gets through it once that go at it you gotta go through it to go through it man

And people just wanna be giving things and this is not what it is man

It's just like um it's structure

It's it's is dedication is resilient is great

I mean I can use a lot of different words to describe what discipline actually is but it's the ability to do things when you don't want to do them

And like my wife always tells me all the time it's like well you like going to work

I said I do not like working at all

I don't even like running so but you do it every day because there's a necessary outcome that I'm looking for

I know this has to be done to get there and I'm not gonna be the one saying that I can't if I won't so what would you say

Not would you how would you diagnose people when it comes to their lack of discipline whether it becomes like burnout or avoidings or just overall being tired

How would you die in those three kinds of

Well I ain't diagnosed nobody like a doctor we'll hit you with that one right but my observation of another human being right it's like you gotta ask them questions like who like who are you

Where do you come from

Why do you believe the things you believe

Um actually Marco sent me something the other day um and it talks about um trash in trash out okay right let's talk about you know we always looking for the output of people but we're not looking for the input of you know how what made them who they are right

And that's a big piece like what is what is feeding you what is feeding those things and where do you come from

And so if you wanna help someone if you wanna move somebody out of the place they in and get them to get just a little momentum right

You have to understand who they are why they do the things that they do and you have to talk to them in a way where they understand it not just because you believe it to be so right cause you can't I can't tell you who you are the expert of you is you right

I just need to give you the tools to look deeper so you can make the decisions from there

I'm the guide no not the change

That's understandable

And in the coaching setting when you're coaching these different athletes different people what is that process looking at

Cause like you said you have to get to know the person you have to know where they're coming from you know why they do the things they do why they think the things that they think

So in that coaching setting are you coaching people based on what they're planning to do or you coaching people based on what they are who they are

Coaches like cut grass

Most customers don't know what the hell they want

Okay they know where they want they know where the end result they want but they don't know what it takes to get to get there

That our job is to educate right that's what coaches are

My job is educated and keep you keep you safe keep you healthy and get you the things you want with like minimum failure right not out not minimum not no failure but like minimal failures

Right and so um the the key is just like working with people and taking the time to get to know them

Uh I call it a coaching courtship right like I I'm coaching you well I don't know nothing about you

Yeah so I need to be asked I need to be more curious than judgmental I need to stop telling you who you are and ask you who you are who do you believe you are

Why do you believe that

How long have you believed it

When did you start believing it

Right and so do if you do that with everything else and I know we talked about sales before right

It's you be you need to be curious that judgmental so if you use that in any case you can get to know a person and more about them um without telling them who they are

Cause like when you when you're give an unsolicited advice where you basically telling a person that you know more than they do right

And so if you really wanna be helpful be be willing to listen cause that is a larger form of communication that most people lack right

And then ask them the questions and let them be let them teach you about them right

And so it's about being curious

I think that's the biggest piece of me being a coach

I'm curious of who you are how you work and I genuinely want better more for you even if you don't know what you want right

And so then as I get to know you like I tell people it don't matter if it's life coaching or athletic coaching cause I do both right it doesn't matter what it is the first 60 to 90 days there's Nikki you said so how we gonna do it

Well I don't know know who you are

Well what is your strategy

Like you just asked me I don't know my strategy because my strategy with you might not be my strategy with him right

You're not the same person and for me to assume that you are are the same person

Guess what

There might be a system to control the data behind it but the person itself is uncontrollable right

You are who you are and who you will be until you're not that's reality is what it is right

And so as getting to know each person um to the best of your ability and then you can guide them

Like what we do we do test we do test resulting for for marketing we do we gonna test this

And the better we know the more we use this one lane of knowledge over and over and over again we get better at it

We we we tweak it and we do make it better

We tweak it like Michael just talking about the other day about you know door hangers how when they first put them out like nobody want them

But then if you put the words here then it looks you put the price on it is better

You put the QR code is great but you cross it out with a with a red X it has a better conversion

And so you have to go through these inner races in yourself to continuously be a student of who you are

Always have a learning mindset and when you get the when you have the ability to like look and be introspective and like kind of evaluate yourself man you can do great things man it's like you running yourself diagnostic

I kind of think part of that what you just said um brought up the point of um like employees have employee mindset and you have owner mindset

Uh I think the difference is is the learning mindset versus the stagnant

Like employees are more stagnant they clock out they go home they wanna do whatever they wanna do

Employees go home if they don't know something

They try to research it and look it up and they kind of learn about it

And like you say doing test samples and stuff like that's the difference between employees and owners mindset

And something part of that that I wanted to ask you is like how would you guide a coach that doesn't or not a coach sorry an owner that doesn't know how to separate himself from business and personal life

It kind of turn off that switch to be more involved with this life

I mean he has to know who he is

I don't think usually when people are the same and I would say well usually when I am the same or when I was the same I didn't know that there was even a difference right

I thought leadership at at work was the same thing as leadership at home and said the leadership of my marriage

When it's not the same right um it takes humility you gotta humble yourself real quick you gotta let go of that ego and when you are high I call it high functioning right

When you are when you're used to doing more than normal and people have get you accolades or you said man I move faster I get up earlier I do more work I do this

LA LA LA you forget that you forget that you are still human right

And so you just start doing a thing instead of being again right

And so when you're doing it there's there's no separation for you so you have to kind of step back and identify what's different

And most people I say the easiest way is to have a mentor to have a coach

Um some people can look within assemble like I didn't I I I've already I I've Learned to separate the two but I didn't teach myself right

I I took the time to read to watch pod to to watch podcast listen to podcast right and to understand why am I moving the way I do why am I leading to my family neither what and it's like any business do I run a pressure washer company like I own a lawn company

Yeah there's similarities but they're not the same

Yeah right because each customer wants something different and you got to show for them different

You know you have the the guy over here that is pressure washing

Guess what

You can you can give them um this package deal but you might not be able to do the same package deal over here

So it really comes up to so it comes down to that when you're trying to figure out um hold on did that answer your question

Yeah I did

Yeah so like something that I struggled with for a few years was separating myself between the business and my um my now wife

Okay um like I was always working all time

We were laying on the couch watching a movie the phone rings I'm call I'm answering trying to do a quote at 7:30 at night

And now she's pissed off cause I just burnt 30 minutes on the phone with somebody

I've been there my wife was sitting on the couch right now

Haha I've been there man you know but not knowing when to turn off

And it's still hard right um cause like for me I deal with a lot of anxiety and like when my mind is going I don't feel that pain

Right and so um but what I had to ask myself is why am I anxious what am I anxious about why do I feel the way I feel and it takes I mean that's a life journey like I like I always have

It took me 46 years to figure out the things that I know and you not always get it

But if I know if I was coaching you and you you said this was happening to you

The the first thing I would ask is like did you ask her anything what she want how it affects her

Because many times we forget that they are part of our lives and we start making decisions for them instead of with

Yeah that's that's the one thing that me and my wife actually did was like I asked her like what is the issue of it

And she's like I want quality time with you and I was like yeah but it was just like 30 minutes

They're like yeah the point is that it got separated from quality time to now your business now you have to kind of refocus and being on quality time

Um so you was cause you cause you were thinking like when you when you make that stay when you say I was only 30 minutes you were focusing on it being time

Yeah quality time is different to time correct right yeah quality time is you being present the phone being off in the other room

That's quality time right and so um when somebody would say something like that like you you you invalidate what they're feeling exactly

And that's never the direction you wanna go in any relationship and so um and it's hard it ain't easy like you but you have to literally be on a a path of growth to to wanna see it like in religion and life and work and whatever it is

Like if you wanna grow at something you have to be intentional every moment of your life to to to to continue growing

I eat sleep drink business right yeah and that's why I get better at it same thing with my my personal growth same thing with my relationship my wife

Like I like I'm always learning every day

I Learned some last week I Learned some today about myself and so it's always been having that but you know beginners mindset is like I'm not too far ahead where I can't learn something new

And the moment you start thinking that that's the moment you just lost

I think part of that also comes from just like doom scrolling is like personal doom scroll

Yeah never heard of it that way

But okay yeah the difference between like I guess us and some of people who are more of the employee mindset is like when I listen to a podcast it's not something goofy or fun

It's usually about business something about personal something about relations

And then I still focus yeah and after that podcast I think about what that podcast was saying and I try to enroll it into my life or see how it would work in my life

Like most people just listen to it for content period and then they go back to listening to a different piece of content

You were doing this they doing the thing they're humans doing not humans being right

And then that's a hard focus that's a hard switch man because no one is no one is saying having this conversation like let me teach you how to be a human being

Cause in most sense if you look at it weird we are taught how to be humans doing do the thing get the thing

That's the right race right

Work hard have you know get it by car work hard get better credit buy house work hard you know so you can get a retirement right

You're doing a thing but who are you what are you being

And it's usually when the when the thing that you're doing is no longer serves you when you start asking me you ask yourself what's what's going on

Am I missing something

And then with light of people call us midlife crisis right because you're trying to start now

You're trying to figure out why you are unhappy with the thing that you were told to always do

Let's do this

It's kind of like the live to work versus work to live

You know it's kind of getting yourself out of that mind that is yeah and then the most yeah like people even be wouldn't like on dietary things like they're not eating for substance they're eating for joy

Yeah but you know they're just doing the thing and like it's hard man like none of these things are easier cause if it was we would be having conversations about it

And it's it's it's taking the time to understand that we are flawed right

And that doesn't make it bad it just makes us different

Yeah yeah right

And so when you realize that you stop beating yourself up for being somebody did you know you be you're not the person that you think you should be based on what you saw her read and you accept yourself that's when the gross stuff starts to happen

Like because you start to like realize that like I am the captain of my ship

Like I decide where I go and everybody's gonna move at different pace

You just have to actually move forward don't confuse more winner with movement right

And so if we're moving forward we're moving forward we're moving forward we're leaving the same place we're not just spinning our wheels and we're actually growing and we see the growth that's the direction you should be going

You're spinning your wheels you're missing all this you just go you just you just going through the motions over and over and over again and it just doesn't lend to successful life

You're not fulfilled you're doing the thing again right every time you do a thing it might feel good temporarily but you good you're not gonna want to get

It's not sustainable cause it's not how we're wired

Yeah that's interesting

I I'm stuck on the humans doing versus humans being

Yeah I think that's I think that's well I haven't heard that before

Okay and it's making me think a lot of like personally what am I actually doing

Because I have a huge struggle when it comes to appreciating those things appreciating moments that I have with people cause I'm constantly thinking of things that aren't going on going on in the background and stuff yeah so it's like when you're when you're coaching someone uh in life to stay more present what is some of that advice you'd give them

You you gonna cut the fat

It's like anything right if you just did more and better you know more and better like you do the things that you're see that you're doing well and stop doing the things you don't need to be doing

We we get we get bogged down by trying to do too much you know I I many times I was stood I mean I get some clients like oh yeah I'm reading this book I'm reading this book

I said I want you to read the one perfect that before you move forward right

We think we need to be like we we we get stuck in doing too many of the wrong things instead of doing a whole lot of the right thing right

And I heard the thing the other day

It says you you know what your gift is because it's the one thing that comes easy to you that you do better than everybody else

I mean people doing that

Hmm are you doing it now

Am I doing it right

Right

It took me a long time to figure it out

I know coaching is what I wanna do

I wanna do it in Augusta

I wanna do it in life

Like you know everything else is just like this the mirror

This is the path to get to where I wanna go

I like helping people

I like that's why I talk to you

That's why people know who I am in Augusta

They cause I ain't my Andy's

I didn't start the dang old thing

It's because I wanna help people be better

That's why this one reason I joined Augusta is because everyone in Augusta wanted that exact same thing

We're always helping each other out

Like I've never never been other not even in the Marine Corps cause that's a whole different like nocturnation and mission

But like I went to the conference and I was like man like everybody help me

I didn't know anyone but I didn't feel alone right

Because in that moment they were present they weren't just doing something they were present

So I felt how important that stuff was to him

And that's what made me say you know what i'mma go ahead and drop that you know 15 20 G's which was hard as hell but you know it needs to be done right

There's a little bit but I think I think that's how me and Ricardo have such a strong bond

Be Ricardo and Aiden

It isn't a part of Gusta but we all met at Landscape Summit and we were all trying to help each other and we continue doing that outside of um conference

So we would always do Facetimes phone calls try to help each other in whatever areas we can and it just created a bond like we all just like being around each other all the time

I've been trying to talk to every everybody I can

My goal is to talk to everybody that is that is with a part of Augusta everyone

I've been on so many phone calls and so many conversations some people I talk to once some people I talk to thousand times

So I just went hiking with Travis right

You know just like let's meet up

I never met I've seen them before we never met before you know we've been on a phone call but that's about it

And so that's a big piece of like you know really changing and really you have to let people in you have to be willing to be brought in too

Yeah we'll do some a little bit rapid five questions nowhere little short on time

Okay

After people spend some time with you and you get a chance to talk to people what is that you what is that you want them to take away from that conversation

There are no limits only limits that you said were on yourself that rapid fire enough for you

That that is straight to the point exactly

What lessons would you say that you Learned late into your journey that now you're trying to portray or teach people

It ain't nobody else's fault but my own exactly

How can people learn that

Self accountability is the most important thing

Start taking accountability start when you doing the moment you blame somebody else the moment you point the finger and notice three fingers pointing right back at you

Right if you if you're saying is someone else

If you saying I can't hire you know we can't find good people but maybe you're not a good person

Hmm the filter is you when in an interview setting whether you're trying to get to know a person whether it's professionally personally romantically what are some of those questions that could really open up that person

Well romantically only person I'm getting to know is my wife so I try to throw that thing in there on me

I'm not going to I'm not buying that one right

So I'll ask a question okay ask a question one more time in an interview setting right conversational what got you

If you're trying to get to know a person trying to get them to open up to you tell you about their story tell you who they are what are some of the questions you're asking

Why that's it we did this on the other call like I I kept asking I was like why why

And you just thought you paused cause no one asked you right

And so you like why do you ask me that

We do it right here why did you ask me that

Because I wanna be better at getting people to open up

Why is that important to you

Cause like we've been talking about this whole time getting to know who the person is rather than what the person is probably where the meat and potatoes are

Why does it matter who they are

Because when you realize who they are tells you a lot about you themselves

Why do you question why are you questioning yourself

You said maybe are you not sure about what you're what you're asking

No it's not that the deeper we get the harder it is for you

Yeah right because you need to understand the root of why you're asking the question

Okay and if cause if you're just being surface level they're gonna give you surface level answers

If I ask you how's your day going you gonna say good

Why why why why is it good right

And so it's the ability to dig deeper and so it's asking the right questions and if you ask why and you frame it the correct way you can get them to give you more

Because we're so used to be in transaction when we walk through life

And when I ask you to be more than transaction be emotional be present be human being out of human doing

You don't know how to do that so we need to flex that muscle seems like when you get to the gym haha the internal gym

Yeah um if you had to give someone one single step that they can start to take tonight in order to either become a better person or better um owner better boss partner what would that be

I think it's doing the thing that's the hardest for you to do right

When you I'll speak from a personal vulnerable spot

When it comes to me in my life or my marriage or my family I thought I had it figured out right

And when somebody tell me you need to be better and when you feel you need when somebody tell you need to be better something that you already think you good at that's a problem

And so know that the people around you probably know a part of you that you don't see so learn how to listen

I think a lot of humility though and 1,000% yeah yeah I've been there since a huge struggle yeah one single question that people should be asking themselves now in order to figure out that part that they're missing or that thing that would be the next unlock

What do you think that question would be am I truly happy at where I am today

Why does that matter

Good one I see you learn fast right

Um it it matters is because sometimes we start doing things right and we're not we're not doing things that make us happy

Why do I want to be in the place that I am

Why do I want to have the things that I want to have

Why why why why why it matters

Because if you don't understand the reason you can't control the outcome right and so when you as you understand things more you're able to guide it in a direction that is beneficial to you and that's the key right

And so we're not asking ourselves know why why why you don't got to do it to another person you can do it to yourself

It's like okay I want I want to you know be a you know have a million dollars in revenue but why is that what you really want

And I realized like for me I don't need a million dollars in revenue

I need to make$10,000 a month free and clear taxes

Hmm right that's my thing right but I did until I started asking my question why are you doing this company

Why do you wanna run this company

Why are you building it

You don't understand what you're doing

You're just doing the thing and that just it feels so chaotic in your brain when you have no direction have no purpose

I think one thing I'm gonna take away from this interview um is the why I think something that people could do today to kind of help guide themselves if they aren't comfortable talking to somebody would be making a notebook with just why

So like I had a good day today and then I blow it

They write why and then they try to explain why they had a good day

Or like you're saying why do I want a million dollars

Why do I want a company

Why do I want this

And just keep putting wide answering that question till I get to the root cause

What do you think

That that would be a good practice

Yes every day and I think to add on to that probably not just positive things as in like why success why does why that

But like also like why do I react the way that I do when this all things why does this trigger me

Why does it make me feel like that

I think that why is it

Then I couldn't think about it

Most people that's what you go to therapist for

Yeah they did all I do is that's all they do is just what I did with you is like they ask you why do you feel that way

When did you start feeling like that

You know they they're curious about you because you you you're not taking the time to get to know yourself so they have to guide you directly so you can get to know you

Yeah we have five minutes

We do not we uh we have final question

We have Mike's camera internet

One message for anybody that watches this what would that be

You are who you choose to be and the moment you stop procrastinating on the direction you wanna go you move forward

And when you move forward you accomplish great things

And when you accomplish great things you'll be you'll be where you're meant to be perfect

Thank you very much Morgan always thank you thank you so much for listening and for watching

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