Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you're doing well I

hope you feel safe and understood, loved, supported,

empowered, inspired. And if you are not feeling all these good

feelings, I hope my episode here helps you to find a space where

you can recharge your batteries and get back to yourself. I want

to take a deep breath. It's been a crazy busy day. And winding

down is really, really important. So whatever you do

right now, if you're not driving, if you're not riding a

bicycle or operating machinery, maybe you want to take a moment

and just close your eyes and breathe in through your nose,

exhale through your mouth. And I'll keep keep to a deep breath.

And you will see how positively it can affect your mind and your

body. I will try and stick to my deep breathing, I usually have a

more shallow breath. Alright, so today, I want to talk about

decision making. But I want to reflect on the other side of

decision making. So let's say a couple of weeks ago, I talked

about decision making. And you making decisions today I want to

talk about the decisions that you are not making the choices

that you are not chasing after you not making a decision is

also a decision right? Not rising. raising your voice

excuse me, is also a statement when it comes to voting, for

instance, not going out there to vote will give you a vote to

another person. You deciding to stay in a relationship that is

mediocre, that is not really awesome. But also not too

terrible. is a statement. You saying yes to everybody. And

never being able to set a boundary to say no, also is a

statement. So whatever we do, everything has an impact. And I

feel and for the longest time, I thought that if I feel

conflicted, and I don't make a decision, then I'm at peace,

then I will have this sense of security that will make me feel

good. But what I was not realizing is that this sense of

security is false. Not making a decision because of wanting to

avoid drama, conflict, or whatever it is you want to avoid

is also going to have an impact on your life. And to come to

that realization, it made me feel very uncomfortable because

I realized that I was doing that for many, many years. Instead of

making a decision and regretting it in the future, I decided to

not take action and to stay in certain situations thinking that

this would be the safe way out. Well, my darling, this is what

I've learned. There is no safe way out. If you don't take

action if You don't make a decision it will impact your

life in a way that you really, really don't want. So, taking

action, sometimes a taking a risk might be better than

staying stuck voluntarily, not changing anything. And thinking

that this is the safe way out.

So if that is news to you like it was to me,

it is scary, right? Because all of a sudden you realize, oh my

god, I'm responsible for my actions. I'm responsible for my

happiness right now. If I'm not happy right now, I can't blame

anybody else outside of me. It is all on me, I have to take

100% ownership when it comes to my life, when it comes to my

happiness, contentment when it comes to my relationship

satisfaction, my job satisfaction. So I will keep

this episode fairly short today and invite you to think about

the decisions in the future that you want to be making. Knowing

that taking action is going to benefit you. And not taking

action is not going to make you be safe. And it's not going to

get you closer to your goals and dreams, your goals and dreams

you cannot reach by not making decisions. And there's always

you know, something to be lost when you make a decisions, but

there's always something to be one as well. So if you will make

a decision that you regret down the road, there will always be

something positive about it, even though you didn't like the

outcome. You have the balls to take action, you failed. You're

gonna make a new decision soon and you will succeed eventually,

but staying stuck, not making decisions is not gonna get you

anywhere. So I'm gonna leave you with that. And yeah, share your

comments with me. Share your experience with choice making

decision making with me, and I will be out there very soon

again. Take care. Bye bye