Hello, and welcome to the Brianna's experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And if you're looking for a place where you

can rest and relax, unwind from a busy day, and just reflect

about yourself and your life, then this is the place to be.

I'll be had a good day so far, I hope you feel good. It's been

really, really cold here in Canada. So I just went for a

walk with my dogs. And now am inside by the fireplace, all

bundled up.

Yeah, so that's my life today. And I want to talk about your

perception and their perception. Today, the day I realized that

people perceive life on such different

in such different ways on very different levels,

I was able to show compassion again and to

feel more understood or for more forgiving when people didn't

understand my situation or my point.

I'm going to give you an example.

Look at siblings. And when the parents go through divorce,

sometimes siblings have a very different view of what happened

in the past and how they processed the divorce. And their

overall experience with the family splitting up.

It's been crazy for me, when I realized that my brother

perceived our whole childhood,

so different than I did. And it made me understand then why we

are

a word drifting apart at times, and not really understanding

each other. And as soon as I understood how he saw the past,

and how he is seeing the world,

it made me feel so much better. And it opened my horizon as

well.

So when you look at your relationships, now, be it with

your parents, or your friends, or your siblings, or even your

partner, I find that such a critical tool to have.

Because then they feel understood by you, and you don't

feel as upset when they don't get you.

Let's take another example, a couple watching a movie.

And the girl is focusing on relationship stuff, or the

actors that she recognizes from other movies. And the guy is

just focused to see the next action movie and the next. I

don't often violent scene

like this is very generalized, but just as an example. So those

two people would experience a movie on very different levels

as well. And if we know that about a partner, then we know

how to make him or her feel good and what they need and want and

when we show them that for us an experience is very different

than for them, then we can also create understanding from their

side.

Then look at it as an accident.

It is crazy how when different people or different parties are

involved

in the open

how different people perceive

accidents, let's call it an accident, something big that

happens. And

it is not only the perception that is different, I feel it is

also learned views and beliefs and how you grew up in life.

There's tons of examples and tons of experiments with little

children because people wanted to find out why there's children

that are very confident on a playground, and why there's

others that are way more anxious. So

So they let the confident children and the scared anxious

children walk over a ladder.

Not a ladder like little wooden bridge that was a little

unstable but not

bad. And they observed that those children that were

confident just crossed that bridge, and were totally okay

with that. And the anxious children were very hesitant,

very shy and didn't want to cross the bridge. And it is

doctors who discovered that those children that were anxious

had a way different perception, when it comes to balance, they

had a

not worse, like, not less good, I want to say, but just a

different sense of balance. And this is why they were so scared

and hesitant. And I know there's people out there who

laugh about weaknesses. Sharon Floyd, we say in German, when

someone hurts him or herself, and it just looks weird. And

then it makes the other person laugh.

A lot of people laugh about, so to say weaknesses when it comes

to physical performance. And when you realize that those

people have a very different brain, they have a very

different perception of heights and

speed, then

we all understand why some people react to situations

differently than others.

And when it comes to dating, I find it very, very important

that when you're out there and meeting people, that you not

only focus on which impression impression you are leaving, and

how you feel about the person. But also, if you can relate to

how that person feels. There's people out there who are

terrified of horror movies, and other people just find them

super funny and awesome, and have no

no trigger embedded at all, when it comes to the scary movies.

And

it doesn't mean that you shouldn't relate and start a

relationship with someone who has a very different view on

life or perception than you. But it just means that it will need

more time and understanding then to get to know each other. And I

feel a lot of the time, we see our views, we see our

perception, and we're trying to like, I don't want to say

condom,

like a bag,

to wrap it around that other person and to see them, like we

want to see them. And whatever they do that is not in alignment

with our beliefs, we usually ignore in the beginnings of

romantic relationships, but also the things that then later on,

get really, really annoying and hard to bear.

And it can be such little things. But if it is so

different to what you are used to it can be annoying to a point

that you don't want to spend time with that person anymore.

It can be noise, it can be tastes, it can be views on

religion, it can be

the way they relate to their parents, the way they see the

future, the way they receive news from from politics.

If we learn to be open if we learn to see through the eyes of

the other person and to know Oh, that person went through trauma

in the past and this is why she sees the world. How she does

right now and maybe you guys can talk about it and help her out

and make her aware of it and add lots of beautiful thing and

people are most of the time very, very open to that as soon

as they realize that you have a strong will and interest to

understand the other person.

In future episodes I will talk lots more about love and

relationship and how I feel love is understanding the other

person being cute.

Yes about the other person. And this is just the first big tool

I want to give you today. Because when we learn to see

that a person is shaped by her experiences from the past, then

we understand them better. And we can even help them to get out

of that box.

One last example I want to throw out there, look at the guy who

is into a girl that is way out of his league.

And he only thinks about his insecurities, and her beauty and

her confidence. But maybe you remind her of her dad, and maybe

she went through trauma with guys that are totally wrapped

and sexy in the eye of the public. And maybe you'd be the

perfect fit, because you could give her comfort and make her

laugh and everything. But it is in this situation, your

perception

that holds you back

in

at talking to her and being curious about her and knowing

what her story is, you just see her beauty, and that intimidates

you. But you don't know her story, and everybody has a

story. And maybe you are the one for her. Maybe you're not but

give it a chance and get out of your little box and be curious

about other people. And you'll be surprised how awesome the

feedback as and how beautiful of friendships you can build and

maybe even relationships.

All right, this was the Borealis experience. I'm your host Aurora

today was about perception. And I'm very excited to be out there

tomorrow again for you. Until then, take good good care of

yourself, drink lots of water. Maybe spoil yourself to

meditation and take real good care of yourself.