So I'm going to get going on the episode today, but I just want to say something.

I went to my life coaching mastermind from the life coach school this week, and I just got back. And I was surrounded with so many coaches who do all sorts of different things. And it was just so inspiring. I was surrounded by coaches who helped things with over drinking, over eating, um, just random things like, uh, woman's fashion.

And like, there's a coach who does decluttering and it was just so cool being surrounded by coaches. And I was the only one who does. Vaping. So I actually have a meeting this week with somebody who helps with podcasts and they might help me straighten my pockets up a little bit more and make it even better.

So I'm very excited for that meeting. Uh, but today I want to talk about a very common thing that people talk about and they're not sure like what's right, what's wrong. And it's quitting cold Turkey. So I'm going to talk about my opinions on it and then let you decide what's best for you. But remember the way that I help people quit vaping is very simple.

If you no longer believe things about vaping that creates desire and you can sit with any uncomfortable emotion, craving or urge, I call those the same things in your body, then you will stop vaping. You will get through the withdrawal period and you will no longer have a desire to vape. It really is pretty magical.

Remember that desire to vape your desire for nicotine is actually a learned desire and you can unlearn that desire. It's pretty cool. So. I'm quitting cold turkey for anyone who doesn't know. I'm sure most people know what that means, but um, cold turkey is just quitting like right now, today, right now, I'm not going to wean off and I can do patches, nothing like that.

So I have an episode on nicotine replacement and my opinion on nicotine replacement is it doesn't really make sense to quit using nicotine replacement because you are literally getting addicted to the same exact substance that you're trying to get unaddicted from. But what I do want to say is this, I don't think that it's black and white, right?

Or wrong to quit cold turkey or use nicotine replacements or anything like that. But what I can tell you is that it's much easier to quit after you start to shake up the beliefs that are creating desire. And after you learn how to sit with your emotions. So when people are first starting quitting, I think the most important skill set you can learn.

Is learn how to get into your body, learn the difference between something that's anxiety and something that's just a craving to use nicotine, learn the difference between joy or fear or regret or shame or judgment because it's really important to understand the emotions in your body. If you can sit down with the emotions in your body and understand them and name them, you no longer need to escape them with things like nicotine.

Now, remember, nicotine is obviously addictive. So when you're vaping, you still have to learn how to sit with urges and cravings, whatever you call them. So that's the same skill set though. The cool thing about learning how to feel your emotions is that you're learning how to sit with uncomfortable vibrations in your body.

And when you do that, you also are simultaneously learning how to sit with urges and emotions and cravings so that when you have a craving come up, it's. Uh, practice thing that you can sit with, you don't need to respond to it. So if you want to quit cold Turkey, I would recommend that you practice this work and you understand what you believe about nicotine before trying that.

The reason why so many people try to quit cold Turkey and doesn't work for them is because they're typically willpowering themselves against beliefs that are creating desire to use nicotine. For example, if you think that nicotine is helping you with your anxiety, that's a belief that you hold. That's a, that's a thought error, by the way, it doesn't actually help with anxiety.

It creates a lot more of it. But if you think that nicotine is helping you with your anxiety and then you try to quit cold turkey, when you feel anxiety, you're going to have a very strong desire to use nicotine and then you're going to get into a willpower battle with yourself. This is where most people find themselves struggling really hard, especially when they quit cold turkey is that they have all these belief systems in place and then they just stop taking the action.

That the belief systems want them to take, and then they're fighting themselves against their own beliefs, their own thinking, and what happens in is once you're in willpower, you're using all of your will, right? So it's a very, very limited short term thing that you can do until eventually you lose your willpower, you lose your energy and you end up giving in.

And then the worst part about that, the tragic part is typically people think there's something wrong with them, so they use their failed attempt. Ammunition against themselves. They start beating themselves up. They start shaming themselves. They start verbally attacking themselves and it makes the whole thing worse because what is somebody who vapes do when they feel shame and guilt?

And resentment and judgment, they vape. So remember, I talk about this all the time in this podcast. Like, you have to learn how to love yourself if you want to quit vaping. And you, I guess I shouldn't say that. You don't have to. But if you don't love yourself and you try to quit vaping, you're most likely going to fail.

And if you don't fail, you're going to hate yourself the whole time that you quit. So what's the point? You might as well be a vaper. I always say it's better that you vape and love yourself than to not vape and hate yourself. I really believe that. Why? Because every single thing that we do in life, everything that we do in life.

Everything that we want in life is because of how we think we're going to feel when we have it. So if we're quitting out of hatred, it's like you might as well just vape and love yourself or you might as well just vape and feel the false sense of dopamine rather than hate yourself quitting. There's no winning when you hate yourself into getting results because what happens in is you're only after the result.

But I promise you the best part about quitting vaping is the journey that it takes in order to feel your emotions and be present enough with yourself and be willing to question the things you believe. That's the journey. That gets you to be a quitter permanently so that you're never having to use willpower.

You're not having to beat yourself up or go against your own belief or your own thinking. You don't have to fight your emotions when you know how to sit with them with love. You don't need to willpower your way out of cravings. This is the way to quit. It's amazing. So I would say that if you want to quit cold turkey.

I wouldn't recommend that until you learn some of the beliefs that are creating desire and you do some emotional work, because I promise you, if you want to quit cold Turkey and you've been feeling your emotions and you've understood, eliminated some of the beliefs that are creating desire, it'll be much easier to quit.

I'd rather have it take a little bit longer for you to wean off while doing this work and then quit than try to willpower and force yourself from a place of kind of like authoritarian rule into quitting on a dime when you're not quite ready to do it. And I know I have a podcast saying that readiness is a choice, but I want you to know that you can make that choice after you practice the tool so that it becomes much easier to make that choice.

I think so many times we try to get results in our life. Out of like beating ourselves up and forcing ourself. And when you want to do something like quit vaping, remember that that's an act of self love. The reason that you want to quit vaping is because you want to become the person that loves himself enough to do healthy things for themselves to not avoid their emotions when things go bad.

Right. So why would you try to willpower your way and force yourself into something that's going to be loving for yourself? It really doesn't make sense if you think about it, I'd much prefer that you're someone who vapes, who learns how to love themself than somebody who quits thinking that doing it through force and really self loathing.

It's going to get them the results they want because you, you might actually quit, but it most likely it's not going to last. And what's the point of quitting if you hate yourself? I really mean that. I need to get a t shirt that says that. Why should I quit vaping if I hate myself? So I've said it before and I will say it again.

This work that I do is so important, but it's not about vaping. Vaping is the window I use. It's the hook I use to show you how to feel your emotions and to choose beliefs that serve you into the life that you want. This is what life coaching is all about. Vaping will be such an easy thing to drop when you do it the way that I teach you, but if you're not quite ready or if you feel like you have to force yourself into quitting or you're at a battle with yourself or you're angry with yourself, I wouldn't recommend you quit cold turkey.

This work takes some time sometimes it doesn't always, by the way, like it could just be one day where you just decide, you know what? You have like a belief shift and you're like, I'm done. And I know that you guys might've heard of Alan Carr and he has the. He has a bunch of books called The Easy Way to Quit, Smoking and Vaping, and all that stuff.

And what Alan Carr does, essentially what his method is, is he just changes your beliefs. Throughout the book so that you don't see any benefit to vaping. That's kind of a similar structure of what I do, but I also want you to learn the skillset of changing your beliefs. So Alan Carr fishes for you. I teach you how to fish.

And in addition, I teach you how to feel your emotions in a way that Alan Carr doesn't. Um, not that there's anything wrong with that. He helps a lot of people every year quit, but I like to teach people how to teach themselves how to create the life they want. That is what life coaching is about. That's why it's so valuable to learn this skillset and how I teach it.

So hopefully this makes sense to you guys. And when it comes to quitting cold turkey, I know that it works for some people, but I want to make sure that you're quitting cold turkey and the way that's going to work the best for you. And I want, you know, I talk about my dad a lot on this podcast because my dad is like the stereotypical person I think of when quitting in all the wrong ways.

And before he got his leg surgery, he quit cold turkey and he didn't do any mental work at all. He did absolutely no emotional work. And he did no questioning of the belief systems that created him to be a smoker in the first place. So the minute that he got healthy and the moment, the stress reappeared in his life while he started coping in the only way he knew how, which was smoking.

He's back up to two packs a day. And I do want to tell you guys this as a life coach, one of the tools that I. Sincerely practice is unconditional love, not just for myself, but for the people in my life. And it took me a really long time to get there, but I can confidently say that I love my dad so unconditionally, even though he smokes two packs a day and that alone, that skill set will come to you from the work that I teach.

And it allowed me to let go of so much negative emotion I felt towards my dad. So much fear, a little bit of resentment, to be honest, um, so much judgment, all that's gone. Now my dad gets to show up exactly who he is. A 40 cigarette smoker a day, and I get to love him exactly that way. And I really want you to have this experience for not only yourself, but also the people that are surrounding you in your life, because this work, it doesn't just help you stop vaping.

It liberates you emotionally so that you can become the person you want to become. And genuinely show up as that best version of yourself in any room that you walk into. So should you quit cold turkey? It's completely up to you. Make sure that you are doing it from a clean place. And when I say clean, I mean an emotionally positive place, not a place of forcing or of resentment or of self hatred or shame because that's not fun.

And I'm not saying that vaping should be fun or quitting vaping should be fun, but I'm also not saying it has to be horrible, miserable, terrible, because what's the point in quitting if it's a horrible experience, you might as well keep vaping. I really want you to become the best version of yourself and this work is the window to that.

So if you're ready to quit, give it a shot. If you still think you need to feel your emotions, if you play around with your belief systems a little bit, question what you believe about nicotine, it's creating the desire to keep on listening and I will see you in the next episode. This was great. I'm so happy to be back and I love you guys so much.

You're all. You as kind, you as worthy, you as perfect. What is the, what's the, Oh, you is kind, you is smart and you is important. I'll see you next week, guys.