this is J the host of the NGA podcast. This is five point Fridays. This is part of the everyday series where we share insights and inspiration in the form of five different points. About a topic that I believe will improve the quality of your life. Friday is a good time to reflect on such topics because you are winding down from the week and getting ready to relax on the weekend. Or some of you are getting ready to grind on the weekend, whatever it is that you do. Uh, Friday, still a good time to reflect on topics like this. And today on this episode, we are going to talk about stop being a fan, stop, being a fan. It is very easy for every single one of us to have idols. And people that we look up to, if we are football fans, we will be idolizing people like Christian Ronaldo, Leona MES, if we are in business and leadership. And it's very easy to idolize the captains of industries, such as the Steve jobs in our mascot, Jeff Bezos. Oprah Winfrey's. If you're an entertainment, it's very easy to idolize people like Beyonce, Jay Z will Smith and Denzel Washington, and even your own life is even if the people are not mega famous, it is very easy to get lost in infatuation. When we become super fans of whether it's our parents or whether it's a local community leader, or whether it's anyone in your sphere of influence, it's very easy to be a stock raising raving fan and what that does. It's a very good thing because you have someone to look up to, to emulate, to know that they've achieved what you've been able to achieve, but sometimes you can fall into the trap of over glorify. Holding them on a pedestal and idolizing them to a point where we feel that they can't do no wrong. And this is not necessarily the healthiest approach because you end up downplaying what you have to offer the end up subordinating to them and not realizing the greatness that is innate in them. And when it comes time for you to potentially go up or go up against them or enter into the same field as they are, or we start getting notices by them, you start downplay what you're capable of doing because you hold them too much on a pedestal and you're not going to be a balanced and a partial and wise human being when it comes to that. This is something that I have myself a been through. And there is one of the greatest bodybuilders of all time. Dorian Yates was able to shed some lights on this. Now Dorian Yates was in juvenile detention center. Then he started working out and he decided that he would become a full-time bodybuilder, but he said he wants to take it to the max. And when he started training, And about 83. Uh, there was a Mr. Olympia. Now, Mr. Olympia is the highest competition that you can win. He went up against a, the bodybuilder Lee Haney, Lee Haney. It was the first body board to win eight Mr. Olympia titles in a row, greatest physic of all time up until that point. And when he was coming up, he idolized Lee Haney, Dorian, yet idolized, the hate he felt he could do no wrong. And it was very hard to beat him. Then when later on in his career, when he started winning shows and he started raising his profile, he people started saying, and himself that, you know, I've taken beat Lee Haney. He can take them on, he can beat him. Why not? That's when he decided to make the mental. And stop being a fan of behavior and start seeing him as another competitor and Dorian would not have been able to rise to the highest that he was able to. If he didn't and he looked at Lee Haney and you said, I have to stop idolizing the skies. Let's see. I'm like, oh my gosh, this is seven times six time Mr. Olympia and say, no, no, no, no, here's this guy. He has two arms, two legs, lifts weights. And one thing I can guarantee it does not train as hard as me. It does not give as much as he does to my craft as I do, because it's not possible. It's not possible for someone to be working harder to be doing more. That is, that was his conviction. And he was able to go up against. Play second against them. And then afterwards, he was able to dominate a majority of the nineties and when six Mr. Olympia titles in a row. And I don't believe he would have been able to do that if he still remained a fan. So I'm willing to share five points on how we can stop being a fan of other people. So we can not put a cap on our potential and we can go and operate and compete at the highest. The first point is trust in yourself. Trust in yourself. Someone said to me, if you lose trust, then you lose meaning. And when you lose, meaning you lose your life. Maybe not physically, but definitely emotionally. And if he loses it emotionally, the physical loss of life is not that far behind. When you have the mindset that you're going to stop being fan you to understand that you need to trust in your own abilities, some over glorifying other people. What is it that you're capable of? How well can you speak? How well can you dance? How well can you. How well, can you manage projects? How well can you run businesses? How well can you influence other people? How far is it? Can you take your potential and your tenants? And we all have our innate tenants and we will be disingenuous. If we say we don't know what we're good at. And we don't know what we like doing. That's nonsense. The reason we have a sense of not sure what we are good at, and we don't trust ourselves is because we have taken too much. Authority from opinions and suggestions of other people, of who we may be fans of whom we over-glorified, but if you were to take what they say and what they think and take them off the pedestal that you have them on and say, actually, I am very good at what I do and I can reach the highest levels possible and I'm able to trust in myself. And nobody else, because at the end of the day, if you don't have trust for yourself, you're not going to be able to trust everybody else. So you need to have an innate trust in yourself as Dorian Yates, he had to trust that he was able to work harder and guide better than anybody else. And hence, he was able to stop being a fan and become the success that he was able to be in life. So that's the first point you need to trust in yourself. The second point of how to stop being afraid and is take stock of their characteristics. Tim, you said infatuation comes from the delusion that someone else's possesses a characteristic that you do not, and this is not true. When you take stock of another person's characteristics, we don't, we're not fan of people. We're not a fan of a person because sometimes we don't even know the person, what their background is and what they think and who they are as a person. What you can be infatuated by is a characteristic that they display. Michael Jordan is seen as the goat of basketball, not because of his personality, but because of characteristics that he possesses he's killer world is killer instant, his competitiveness, his drive, his motivation, he's disciplined. He's ability to change the game around and the fact that he was a psychopathic winner, that those are all characteristics that we can possess ourselves. So if you a person that was. In fact, you by let's say, Michael Jordan take a stock of what is it in a person that you are a fan of. And when you understand what is that? You're a fan of a question that you can ask yourself is where in my life have I displayed the same character. Where have I been disciplined? Where have I been focused? Where have I been reliable? Where have I been competitive? Where was I psychopathic winner? Where have I been able to turn things around? Where have I been able to just become the very best and people load me as the best at whatever it is that I do once you read it? Is that another person is, you're not a fan of the person. You're a fan of the characteristic. You are on your path to maximizing yourself and taking people off pedestals. The third point of how to stop being a fan is. No, that you can achieve what they can. Les brown said, if someone else can do it then, so can you, when you realize that you can, that there's no one on the face of the earth, who's at the end of the day, more intelligent, more gifted, more disciplined than you can be. Then you will stop being offense of minimizing yourself and stop maximize, uh, other people. If you look at someone who has built a massive business and you are infatuated by that, and you're a fan of that, and you believe that you can do the same thing, you stop being a fat and start seeing them as a PM. When you realize a person is a fantastic. And you can't be a fantastic mother. Then you stop seeing a person as a fat and you start seeing them as a peer. We cannot live the maximum maximized life. If we continually subordinates ourselves to others, people just know that you can achieve what they can. Roger. I ran the four minute mile was a very first mantra on the four minute mile and other people we realized, Hey, he did it. So can I, those people who believe that they could. They started breaking the four minute mile. So take us take stock of the people that, who are your heroes and understand that you can achieve what they can. The fourth point on how to stop being a fan. No, that you can achieve more scripture says if you believe me, it will be concept onto you as righteousness. If you believe that you can do more Simo, become more, have Lowe evolve more, then you stop being a fan of other people and you start seeing them as brothers and sisters on the path. And you don't have this mental block in your head that you go off and become something. Go back to bodybuilding. Dorian Yates said, I can do what can you Haney did? And I could do more than what the Haiti did and with the mindset that that's Dora and was able to come in, become a bigger, more conditioned and ushered in a new age. And then you look and by the burden that dominates it for quite a long time. And we had the. Mindset that he could achieve more. So have the mindset that you can achieve more. And you're not going to be held back by infatuations on fantasies of what another person can be realized that you can achieve. The fifth thing that we can do to stop being a fan is. Stay in your lane, stay in your lane. Sean puffy Combs puff. Daddy is one of the greatest entrepreneurial hip hop artists. Ever bar none. And he's got such a great investment mind. He's also mentored by one of the best investors in the hedge fund owners, ever Ray Dalio, who wrote the book principles. And he said an insight. Sean puffy Combs, knowing that, you know, hip hop is yeah. Is generally based off of beefs and competitions. And one person said they're better than the other. So Sean puffy Combs puff daddy operates in the Surrey competitive environment. And he said, I can't be successful watching what other people are doing as it takes away from what I'm doing. Say that again, I can't be successful. Watching what other people are doing as it takes away from what I'm doing. When you do what you call lane, watching you are not focused when you're on the prize. Michael Phelps is a serial winner. He's one of the, I say he's a greatest Olympian by middle spot. None. And when he is in the pool and he's, he is going to go and swim. He doesn't look to the left, he doesn't move to the right. It keeps focused on the end goal and he carries on looking straight and he doesn't lane watch. If you notice, I have a swimmers who looking to what the other swim is doing, it takes away from the speed. It takes away from the technique and they don't get the title. Put it in get the performance that they would have because they were watching what another person was doing. So you need to be able to stay in your lane if you are. A writer. Don't look at someone else who is a single, if you are an actor, don't look at someone else. Who's that who manages projects. If you are in what industry don't look at other people who are in other industries draw inspiration from it. The drop is packed practices from them, but don't look at your results in comparison to their results to sum up this entire. Premise of stopped being a fan Jordan, B Peterson, Penn and 12 rules for life. He said, pay yourself to who you are today. Not to who compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who somebody else is today. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who somebody else is today. Why? Because you are the only person who has your history. Your background, your upbringing, your advantages and disadvantages. So the only person who makes sense for you to compare, contrast, and compete with is the person that you, uh, yesterday and not who somebody else is today. I know. A culture out there where people say, I'm going to outdo you. You will not beat me. You will not outwork me. That's fine. The scripture says that it is foolish to compare yourselves one to another, hence, stay in your lane. Don't say to another person, you cannot beat me. You cannot outwork me because you're not in competition with. They don't have your advantage advantages or disadvantages. The only person you should benchmark yourself against is who you were yesterday. So stay in your lane, your person, you should aim to be. There's a version of yourself that you were yesterday and then tomorrow the person you should aim to beat as a person that you are today, and that leads to continuous improvement. So stay your name, Kevin. Kevin. Hart's had a fun, a funny joke about that. That's why I stay in my lane. I stay at my financial aid, staying in your financial aid. And you had that joke. I got my check into my savings on my medicine. I said to my check, let's go take the business days as very important because other people add ticket to keep up with the Joneses. But anyway, that you should be able to stay. I hope you enjoyed this episode of five point Fridays, where we talked about stop being a fan, don't be infatuated by other people. Don't glorify it and put people on a pedestal because that minimizes what you're capable of and maximum over maximizing what they're capable of and the way that you can do that to stop being a fan. Is to trust in yourself to take stuff up that characteristics three, know that you can achieve what they can for no, that you can achieve more five stay in your lane. If you enjoy this episode, please like share comment, add subscribe. If you're interested in any books and merchandise. Please head over to the websites. Have a fantastic Friday. Enjoy your day, winding down, or getting ready to grind more on the weekend. Make a decision to stop being a fan and believe, and trust more yourself. And I will see you on the next episode.