00:00:06 Archita: What if success wasn't something we chased, but something we remembered? What if the peace we are looking for on the outside has always been a frequency insiders quietly waiting to be tuned into. Today's conversation is about harmony. Not as an idea, but as a lived experience. Welcome to Inner Light,

00:00:29 Archita: the space where we explore purpose, alignment, and the quiet wisdom that guides us back to ourselves. I'm your host and today I'm joined by Robin Claire, author of Harmony The Frequency of True Success and the creator of the Harmony method, a framework born from her own powerful journey of healing and transformation. We are exploring what happens when inner awareness meets outer purpose, and how harmony becomes the bridge between the two. Robin, I'm so grateful you're here today.

00:01:03 Robin Clare: Yes. Thank you. I'm excited to be here with you today.

00:01:08 Archita: Yes. Me too. And I can't wait to have this amazing conversation with you. Uh, and I'm sure our listeners feel the same way. So without wasting any time, let's dive into it. So, Robin, before we get into the method and the framework, I'd love to begin somewhere personal. So when you look back at your own journey, especially those forty years of struggle, what does the word harmony mean to you now that it didn't mean back then.

00:01:38 Robin Clare: Yeah, it totally has a different meaning. Um, you know, because I had probably the same understanding of harmony that everybody has, and that would be, oh, we should get along right. Or it's musical notes that are in tune. Right? Like, we have these ideas of of what harmony means. People singing together. And it sounds good. And so for me, like everyone else, when I was, uh, maybe, uh unawake. And in my, uh, obsessive eating and bulimia, uh, addictions, I, I didn't understand what Harmony was, but then I started listening to I was listening, I heard your word, inner light, and I started, I started I decided that after a bulimic episode where I. I really thought I was going to die, um, I decided to truly come into recovery and I started to pay attention to my inner light, which I might call my soul's energy, and started really listening to that. And that brought me on the path of what I call now harmony, which is the inner alignment of your inner world and your outer world. And so it becomes so you're not two different people. Uh, it's almost, you know, that expression, what you see is what you get. That's what happens in harmony. The person that you are on your inner world is the person that is reflected on your outer world. And so I could turn around and say to you, so when I was in addiction, that was probably true. But it was not harmony, disharmony, because who I was on the inside, all confused and filled with trauma, was what I was doing on the outside through my, uh, hurting of myself, through, um, through, uh, binging and purging, and so. So I wouldn't call that truly harmony. I would call that, uh, equal disharmony, both on the inner world and the outer world. But each were reflecting off of each other.

00:03:55 Archita: That's that's, uh, such a beautiful, uh, you know, explanation of harmony. And it brings harmony in a new light. And like you said, we have all had this perception of harmony as being everything, uh, being in sync. But this is a new perspective. And I am so excited to learn more about this from you. And this really sets the tone for this conversation. And that brings me to the point. Um, I'm curious, uh, that many people hear the word harmony and imagine perfection like you just described. like everything balanced, everything calm. But life isn't always neat. So what do you think people misunderstand most about living in harmony?

00:04:42 Robin Clare: Well, I mean, it's it's a it's a daily. It's a daily practice, right? Um, because some days are better than others and you're going to try to be in harmony. So for example, like today, coming up to the podcast, I was really excited because I got up this morning, I, um, I, I went into prayer and meditation and then I went to the gym and I lifted weights, and then I came home and I had a very healthy breakfast, and I took all my supplements, and I'm drinking my mushroom tea now while I'm talking to you. And I feel very harmonious. Right. Things that and I'm and I'm sharing this wisdom like things that I it's like I was working on my inner world, but I was also working on my outer world. And one of the things we might have talked about before. Long term recovery requires the integration of mind, body, spirit and emotion. And today, I feel like I've already hit those in my in all the things that I've done, including talking to you, where I'm using my mind and where I'm connecting with spirit. But I've already meditated, and I've already been to the gym and I've already eaten. Well, like that is the that is the secret that that harmony within all aspects of your life is the secret to long term recovery. Because it's just not a matter of, uh, stopping what you were doing. It's what are you doing to enhance your mind, your body, your spirit, your emotion. So the idea of going back to your, um, secondary addiction. And because I do believe the true addiction is to suffering. And then we pick our poison in our secondary addiction. So if you're living a life where you're examining your trauma and trying to figure out why are you suffering? Which I did for many, many years, that allows you to live in the external world in and use the integration of mind, body, spirit and emotion to keep you on the path of recovery for for the long term.

00:06:59 Archita: Absolutely. And what you just shared, I think that's so powerful. And, uh, people really need to understand that being in harmony doesn't always mean perfection, because, um, what I'm hearing is that harmony isn't the absence of struggle, it's the relationship we build with ourselves during the process. And that shifts the whole definition of harmony.

00:07:25 Robin Clare: So yes. yes. And really learning to to pay attention to to the struggle. Right. Like what is what is going on here. Like what is dependent on the struggle. Right. Um, um, for example, a friend of mine's, uh, mom passed away, uh, not this week, but the week before. And then on the way home, she got this, she got the flu, and then she's like, I'm trying to get back to work. And I'm like, maybe your body doesn't want you to. Maybe your body wants you to rest. And, you know, and really, um, absorb what happened. Your mother passed away. Regardless of what the relationship was, it is a major change. And our body needs to, um. Our body needs to catch up. Right? And we and our mind and our spirit and emotion are all impact impacted by a loss like that. And so I said to her, you just need to take the rest of the week. I mean, that's why they have bereavement leave, right? Take the rest of the week. Really process this. Walk outside. Do what you need to do. Or stay in bed and pull the covers over your head. Whatever works. But allow your mind, your body, your spirit and emotion to process everything that's going on. So my point here in what, in response to what you said is pay attention. Like pay attention and say what is bothering me and why?

00:09:00 Archita: Exactly. And how is this making me feel? What is the purpose of this? What is it teaching us? I think these are questions that. Yeah, that's really important.

00:09:12 Robin Clare: I agree with you that, you know, life is a if we if we all can agree on the fact that we are a soul being, having a human being experience or a divine being, having a human being experience. We have to know that our soul is leading, leading the charge, right? We have things that we are going to experience because they're part. They're there. What our soul needs for us to learn this lifetime. I mean, we wouldn't be here. We wouldn't be in this body if we didn't have things that we needed to learn. And I do believe that if you don't really pay attention to that and you don't learn what your soul wants to learn, you'll get many experiences to learn it, right. You'll say, why is that happening again? Oh my God, it's happening again, right? Like, you're going to have to step back and say, what is it that I need to learn from this? So that's very it's a really important concept for people because once you learn it then you it may happen again, but it won't have the same emotional charge that it has when you don't recognize that it's a soul lesson.

00:10:25 Archita: Exactly. And and let's stay with that for a moment. Robin, in your experience, what? What tends to happen internally when we fall out of harmony with ourselves? And what are the deeper patterns underneath behaviors like overcontrol striving or self punishment?

00:10:45 Robin Clare: Yeah. So so the interesting thing for me. So, um, I've shared that I was obsessively eating and I had bulimia. And what I discovered is that in throughout my life, I, I, I suffered through a lot of, um, trauma that was created by, uh, experiences that I had, that where I became humiliated and then I experienced shame, and and I really took a look at it. I, I kind of drew a stick figure of myself and started going around my stick figure. When did I feel this? And oh my gosh, I couldn't believe how many opportunities I had to feel humiliated and shame. And what I discovered was that the bulimia after I would overeat, which would make me feel better, you know, feel, you know, not understanding what I was truly hungry for and feeling better. The bulimia was a way to self humiliate myself, and that was a very interesting awakening for me to understand that I was humiliating myself before anybody else could humiliate me. But then I had to understand is not yes, how to stop humiliating myself through the bulimia, but also how to not allow people's, um, what what people say to me or, and do to humiliate me and the way that I was able to, to stop their impact on me was to realize that no one can humiliate or shame me unless I give them the title of judge. If I don't give them the title of judge and they say something that feels derogatory to me or embarrassing, I can just look at them and I can say, screw you. Or I can say thank you. I needed to hear that. Right? Or I can just pause, which is I'm very good at. And I invite everybody to practice the pause. Pause for like five to 10s, which is a very long time when someone has said something to you that is not very nice. And then turn it around, turn it around and say, either I really can you repeat that? I don't understand what you meant, or can you explain what you mean? Or you can even be really compassionate and say, it seems like you're really upset. Is there something I can do to help? All of those tactics diffuse it. From your perspective, it's just their words. It's it's not going to have the same impact on you emotionally and upset your nervous system. If you recognize that, most likely what they're saying is a reflection of something that's bothering them, not you, I would say ninety five percent of the time it's not you, it's them. And if you can pause and remember that, then the way that you respond will feel better to you.

00:14:02 Archita: That is, you know, such a beautiful way to put it. And, um, like I've always said, uh, you are in control of your own emotions. You are in control of how other people perceive you or make you feel. So yes, I think nobody can make you feel something that you, um, don't want to feel. Like I said, uh, you know, you are in control. So it also sounds like awareness wasn't, um, about judgment. It was about witnessing. And that witnessing became the doorway to healing. So thank you so much for sharing that, Robin. Yeah.

00:14:40 Robin Clare: You're welcome. Yeah. That was so big for me that when I realized that if I don't give them that title of judge, then they're just saying things to me, right? Those are them talking to me. And I can choose how I react, which is I can still be mad, right? Because sometimes people say not nice things, right? I can still, it's my prerogative to get mad and react that way. Or I can just say thank you. I didn't realize I was doing that or see. Is there something wrong? It seems like you're upset, right? Any one of those happens because I didn't. I didn't allow that person to judge me. Or be.

00:15:30 Archita: The judge.

00:15:31 Robin Clare: The judge of me? Yes. They are judging me. Right. But I didn't give them the title of judge.

00:15:40 Archita: Exactly. And I think people really need to understand the difference between the two, because at the end of the day, how you react to what people say about you or say to you is completely up to you. So definitely yes. But yeah. So, Robin, that um, also brings me to the question, how does misalignment show up in everyday life for people who may not struggle with eating disorders but feel restless, exhausted, or unfulfilled.

00:16:12 Robin Clare: Yes. So I think that leads us to the harmony method itself. Um, because I think that the the first step in the harmony method is, is called awareness. And awareness is when you begin to learn to listen to your soul's guidance, right? Whatever that is for you, whatever it is, whether it's um, for me, it's I don't necessarily sit down and meditate, I actually walk. We're fortunate to have a pond in our neighborhood. And so I walk down to the pond and I sit there and I connect with Gaia, with Mother Earth, with with the divine. And I just talk about my day. I ask for guidance. All of that, you know, connecting to my soul. Um, so there's walking in nature when my kids, when when my kids were little and it was such a busy household, the way that I used to do it is I would hand wash all the dishes. Um, and nobody was coming to help me. So I knew that the the more I kept my hands in that warm, soapy water and took my time, the more time I would have for myself in solitude. So those are like two ways that you wouldn't think are meditative, but they are meditative. So the first thing I would say, and then of course, meditate. Yes, if you want to, that's wonderful. And that's a great idea. So any way that you can connect to your own inner world. Another suggestion I have is to, um, write down every day in your journal. What does my soul want me to know today? And just write however long it is a sentence, a page, whatever it is, just write what you, what you, your soul is trying to communicate. Because when your soul communicates with you and you can recognize it, that's where awareness begins. Because your soul starts leading you down the path of the rest of the harmony method. Um, in order to be able to achieve that inner, um, inner alignment, that inner wellness with your external, um, way that you are in the world.

00:18:37 Archita: Those are some amazing, um, advice that you just shared. Uh, Robin, and thank you so much. And, you know, I always tell this to our listeners the first place to start is always meditation. But like you said, it might work differently for different people. So yes, whatever works for you, I think starts slow. It doesn't matter as long as you start. And that's that's really helpful. Um, but yeah. Um.

00:19:06 Robin Clare: Also I wanted to I'm looking at a sign on my desk, and I and I don't know, I'm inspired to share it with your, um, with your listeners, and, and it's really about the spiritual path, and it's really about finding a way to live in harmony. And, um, and sometimes people are afraid, right? They're afraid of their own inner world. They're, you know, or they're too busy, you know, or or whatever it is. But there's a lot of fear around around the connection to the soul or looking for synchronistic events. And I just want to share that it is when you start listening, you know, going inside, no matter how you do it, whether it's a walk or even I love, uh, spiritual music. Like, I love listening to meditation music. And that always brings me to a wonderful place, um, to to hear what's going on. But the thing I wanted to share was I keep this sign on my desk. It says, what would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? Like, isn't that amazing? Like, what would you do? That's right. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? I bet you, you. I bet you you'd be more adventurous.

00:20:33 Archita: Exactly. I mean, that's something so powerful. And it's really important that we, um, ask ourselves this because then the possibilities would never end. We would actually do everything that we are now scared to do. So. Yes, definitely.

00:20:49 Robin Clare: And the fear? The fear is real. I mean, we don't want to. We don't want to ignore it. Um, and usually. So there's, um, you know, if you, there's a form of psychology, um, called, uh, family constellations, and it says that we have we're made up of parts, all these little experiences, all these little times in our lives. And sometimes there's a part of us that's afraid because it wants to protect us from getting hurt. But sometimes that part of us is from our childhood, right? When we experience some sort of childhood trauma or teen trauma, and what we have to say to this part of us that's afraid is, well, thank you for trying to protect me, but I'm a grown up now, right? I, I, I can I can manage this. So maybe you could take on a different role. Um, and for me, my, um, my part that always underminded me was this part of me that was very aggressive because I grew up in a neighborhood where I was the only girl and I had brothers, and I really needed to be really tough in order to survive in that neighborhood. And so I realized that this part of me that was very aggressive doesn't serve me as an adult. And so what I did is I asked that part of me that was very aggressive to now become assertive. Right. Help me to, uh, not let opportunities go by. Help me to be, you know, respond to people when they write to me, like to just, um, just be assertive in my life instead of aggressive. And so that was very helpful. So I would say to folks, you know, if you're afraid, really go inside and say what? What? Where does this fear, uh, start? Like, what part of me was afraid? And then to work with that part, to say we don't have to be afraid anymore. Let's give you another job. And like I did, you know, like I said, be assertive instead of aggressive. Um, and this part that maybe is afraid is being protective, but maybe it's your inner child that's being protective. So you would say, please don't be protective, but why don't you help me to have more fun? Right. Why don't you, as my inner child, like, maybe, like, insist that we have fun and do things that are fun instead of not doing things because we're afraid?

00:23:30 Archita: Yeah, that that makes us realize how important it is to acknowledge that fear inside of us and overcome that fear as well, with time. So, Robin, for someone listening right now who feels out of alignment, maybe ashamed, maybe exhausted from striving. What would you gently want them to remember about their original frequency?

00:23:55 Robin Clare: Oh, yes. So what I would want them to remember is that the Harmony method is a way to regain that connection to your inner world and then work with it, commit to it, embody it through mastery, and then turn the corner and make sure you're doing the same thing in your outer world, through service, through self-leadership. Become the person that you feel on the inside, on the outside, right? Walk as that person and then the freedom is what you achieve when that inner world and your outer world are one. and that freedom then allows you to have the things in your life that are most important to you. Because I could never tell someone what freedom means to them, right? It's not just it could be more time with their children. It could be. It could be travel. It could be, um, you know, more time to play sports. It it could be anything. Right? But by aligning your inner world and your outer world being the same, you know, being the same inside as you are outside provides a freedom that is makes you more relaxed in the world and then able to do what it is you need and what it is that you love the most. And that's that's when you're living in a state of freedom. And then ultimately, all of that together is is the frequency of harmony because you are harmonious between your inner world, your outer world and what you most desire.

00:25:41 Archita: Absolutely. I think that was beautifully said. And that, you know, this entire conversation makes me realize that inner wellness plus outer purpose equals harmony. And harmony isn't something we achieve. It's something we return to. So thank you so much, Robin, for sharing such a different perspective on harmony with us today. I think it's really important people realize that. So, Robin, where can listeners connect with you and learn more about the Harmony method and your book?

00:26:14 Robin Clare: Yes. So, um, the on my website, which is Harmony with Robin r o b I n they can find all kinds of information there about the Harmony method. Um, I do also and the books are my this is the Harmony is my fifth book, so all my books are listed there and then I offer a lower cost way to experience the harmony method called, uh, and it's, it's an experience of harmony method with the within the Akashic records, which is our souls. Um, the library of all of our souls experience past, present and future. And that's called the Akashic Harmony message. And you can find that on my home page and then in my offerings.

00:27:08 Archita: Perfect. So I'll make sure that all those details are available in our show listing so that our listeners can feel free to reach out to you whenever they want. So once again, thank you so much, Robin, for being a part of Inner Light today, and this has truly been amazing to our listeners. As you move through your day, I invite you to pause and ask yourself, where am I striving and where can I soften into alignment? Harmony isn't something far away. It's a remembering. Thank you for listening to Inner Light. If this conversation resonated, share it with someone who needs that reminder. And until next time, stay aligned, stay aware and trust your inner light.