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Well, Hey everybody.

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Jonathan Doyle with you.

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Once again, welcome aboard
to the daily podcast and new

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listeners, regular listeners.

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You are all very welcome.

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Thank you so For the precious
gift of your time, the one

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great commodity on this planet.

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That we cannot increase.

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We cannot find more of it is finite.

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So we've got to make the
absolute best use of the time we

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have, and I respect your time.

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I value your time.

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But let me take a tiny moment of
your time to say, please subscribe,

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You can go once you get the link to
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amazing online masterclass for women.

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Uh, for women all around the
world, it's a fantastic program.

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So please go check that out now.

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I'm going to jump into,
listen to question.

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And just a second before I do

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I am often asked a couple of
interesting questions about reading.

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One is people ask me what
I'm currently reading.

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Because regular listeners
know I'm a voracious reader.

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I think for me, heaven will kind of
be like a very, very large library.

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I just get to sit in a big comfy chair.

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For like several thousand
years at a time and just read.

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It's been raining here so much.

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It's kind of great indoor weather.

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I've been pairing through so many books.

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So.

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People often ask me what I'm reading.

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And, uh, and the other question they get
asked is how do I manage to read so much?

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And I think it's kind of related
to the listener question that

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I'm going to answer today.

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I think I make it something that's
just a bit of a non-negotiable for me.

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I try and build a bit of my life
around But look just quickly.

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What I'm reading.

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I just finished a book called build.

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Build an unorthodox guide to
making things worth making it's

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from a guy called Tony Fidel.

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Uh, if I D E double L it's a big book and
powered through it really interesting guy,

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he worked with Steve jobs very closely.

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He's a pretty famous
Silicon valley entrepreneur.

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And it was just a great book about,
you know, really entrepreneurial spirit

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building something from the ground up.

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So I took a lot out of that.

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Uh, just about the finishing about
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its, I think it's a first book.

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Bye Madeline pop Hilker.

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And it's called.

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You're going to be okay.

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16 lessons on healing after trauma.

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You're going to be okay
by metal and Patelco.

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Um, really great book, really
good summary of dealing with PTSD.

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And, uh, Bouncing back from trauma.

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So I've almost finished that
it's just a really good.

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Holistic covering of the personal
journey of PTSD and the kind

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of steps that people can take.

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To, to grow into heal through it.

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And the third book I am reading.

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Just about to finish is,
uh, it's just brilliant.

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It's one of my little quicks,
a personality it's called

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the Lords of easy money.

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Um, it's a book on the internal
dynamics of the us federal reserve

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banking system, which of course I
know is relevant for all of you.

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And you're all thinking to
yourselves, where can I get a

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copy as by Christopher Leonard?

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My other hat is.

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Being involved with global macro finance
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And so the Lords of easy
money is a fantastic.

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Investigative exploration of what actually
goes on in the global banking system.

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Let me just say this.

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You don't want to know what's going on.

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If your head is in the sand, I humbly
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Because it's just not pretty.

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Um, I think I'll be doing more work
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I care deeply about people coming
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actually are rather than the way
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But, uh, there are the three
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I'm thinking I'm not trying to get metal

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Onto the show and dish, uh, share
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her story that we can all learn from.

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Uh, so what else, the other thing I wanted
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things that I'm doing on a regular daily
basis that you may be interested in.

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You all know that I have a
really strong daily routine.

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I have a really You know, commitment
to physical fitness and training

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and all that sort of stuff.

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Uh, recently I've been trialing,
uh, athletic greens, a G one.

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So you can find athletic
greens on the internet.

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It's a New Zealand company.

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And so basically you just take this small
amount of powder in water each morning.

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And, uh, it's just a,
yeah, so go check it out.

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Look, it's just one of those
pieces that I'm putting in place.

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Uh, I've used it.

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You similar stuff before, but, uh,
athletic greens is probably the

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best known product on the market.

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I think.

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Anything we can do just to give
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the general health wellbeing area.

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So go check that out.

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I'm using it.

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I'm finding some good results from it.

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And I just a general feeling of
wellbeing and the other thing

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I just recently is look because
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I've always been using heart rate
monitors and that sort of stuff.

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And, you know, the watch that I use
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measures, resting, heart rate, all that

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But I've gone next level with
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O U R a O U R a hour.

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Oh, look, these things.

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It's just bizarre.

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It's a ring that you wear on your finger.

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And it measures everything, uh,
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heart rate, heart rate variability.

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Sleep patterns.

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It is how it does what it does.

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I don't know.

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Maybe I don't want to know it's
a hospital grade, which is like,

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it's, the data is phenomenal.

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primarily to monitor sleep patterns.

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And I just want to try and be I'm
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I, I think it's one of the big
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Like a lot of things I do.

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I've gone to the more extreme
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Uh, I sleep at almost
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Every single day.

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I wake it almost the same
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I think there is so much, I should do a
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the things that I do, they seem very basic
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that many people are not doing them.

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Those things are like, you know, the,
the, our bedroom is just pristine.

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It's, it's beautiful.

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It's calm.

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It's always perfectly tidy.

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You know, there's all these cues that.

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I don't know if I'm just telling
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but the kind of cues that we get
around certain times of the day,

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I begin to Primus for certain things.

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Getting to sleep at the right
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The temperatures should be relatively low.

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Uh, what else?

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You know, just I've started using iron.

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Masks, and that's going
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You need to really, you need to
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out any ambient light whatsoever.

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So there's all these hacks,
but this hour thing is just

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Can I tell you a little secret?

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I'll tell you something.

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This very rarely happens to me, but
I, I did a really hard bike session

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yesterday morning, and then I, what I do
next, I did a really hard gym session.

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And I was getting through some
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just like, oh, well, I'm wrecked.

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And I actually had a nap, which I
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I had this like 20 minute nap.

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It was just perfect.

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I felt amazing.

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And then later that
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Uh, I go to check the stats,
my stats on the hour app.

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And it asks me, it says,
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And I think it's got a gyro in it.

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So it must know when
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And this thing realized
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So it adjusted all my data based
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So look, uh, these are the just little
things that make that make it easier to.

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To operate at a sort of peak performance.

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So, and realize that the journey towards.

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Being our best is so that we
can contribute and serve people

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better and enjoy life and make a
meaningful contribution to others.

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So that's kind of, what's behind it,
but there's two things that I'm doing,

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uh, athletic greens and the outer ring.

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You've heard my latest book reading.

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Now I'm gonna jump into today's
question or power through this one.

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I love listening to questions.

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It came through yesterday.

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If, uh, if you are on my list, because
I know that some of you are still

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waiting for me to produce your episodes.

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They're all coming.

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Um, look this great one I got yesterday.

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One thing that I'd be interested
in knowing more about says Peter

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is, um, and there may be others
who have similar thoughts is how

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to go about turning a should.

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Into a must.

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Can we all relate to that?

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Everybody?

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Can, you all relate Do you
have a shoot in your life?

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We often Tuft and say at live
events, we've got to stop

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shooting all over ourselves.

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Um, Uh, turning a chute into a must EEG.

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Peter says I should eat healthier
food into, I must eat healthier food.

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Uh, it may make a good issue.

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To discuss for your listeners.

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Um, but I'd like to get
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Peter, thank you for a great question.

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How do we turn our shoulds into musts?

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I have quite a few thoughts on this.

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First point, why does
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Why do we even notice them as a thing?

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Why do we have this internal sense at
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be doing, we tell ourselves we should
do this, but we are not doing it.

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Why does it happen?

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And it's important.

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Why do we even notice

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Now I want to say the reason that
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It's what I call a tele
biological imperative.

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Teleology is kind of the study of.

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The end point of a, of an object.

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So.

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It's basically a metaphysical concept.

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That means what is a
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What's it for?

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What's its purpose.

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It's related to ontology, but teleology
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to do, but like w what's the You know,
what does the vacuum cleaner fall?

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Well, it's vacuuming.

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What's a human person for what's
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What does it mean to be human?

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What's?

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Uh, what, what direction
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Essentially, we are human becomings right.

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Rather than human beings are human.

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Becomings.

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We are always.

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On a journey are the two wards
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So think about this The only reason
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because we have this interior since.

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That there is another possible.

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Level of reality we could
be experiencing right.

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So when Peter gives us example
here of eating healthier food.

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The only reason we can, you know,
have that idea of we should eat

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healthier food is because we have
a sense that there's something

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we're doing that isn't serving us.

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So, this is a good thing.

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So whenever I think about it right
now, what are the shifts in your life?

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What are the things that you tell
yourself you should do more of?

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For me, it's like, I should read more.

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I mean, I read lots, but I'm
like, oh, I really should read

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So, how do you turn it into a must?

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How do you turn it into a muscle?

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The first thing I want
to suggest practically.

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And Peter's kind of suggested
this in the question itself is

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you got to recognize the gap.

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It's going to get conscious about the gap.

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How many times do you
hear me say that word?

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Conscious like so many times in this
journey of personal development growth,

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the issue is a lack of consciousness.

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We, we sort of vaguely understand
that we want something, but

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we're not quite sure what it is.

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And it knows a way it is, and
it probably increases our stress

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levels, but we don't actually get
So you got to recognize the gap.

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You got to go well, W what do
I want to eat healthy food?

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Well it's because if I eat
healthier food, I'll feel better.

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I look better.

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I'll feel better about myself
and where I'm, where I'm at in

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the world and what I'm doing.

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And then it'll be good
for my family to see it.

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And, uh, I'll just feel better.

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I'll I'll have lists of criticism
and I'll film a confident.

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So we've got to see that there's a gap.

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There's a gap between
the person you are now.

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And the person you could be.

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So how do we close that gap?

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I mean, it's why my first book
was called bridging the gap.

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Right.

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It is based on this idea
of how do we bridge that?

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Gap.

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So let's dig deeper.

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Uh, why do we not close this gap?

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Why do we not turn shoulds into musts?

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I would point to the
Scholastic philosopher.

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Frederick of awesome.

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Who famously gave us the
metaphysical hermaneutic of outcomes.

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Raise The metaphysical
principle of Ockham's.

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Comes razor.

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So Ockham's razor is this idea that
that was a philosophical principles.

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How do you deal with a complex issue?

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And.

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You know, Frederick of Aachen.

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Basically gave us this idea.

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That the simplest solution to a complex
problem is almost always the correct one.

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That the simplest solution
to a complex problem.

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Is almost always the correct one.

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It's a very helpful
philosophical principle.

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Principal, because so often we get tied
up in the complexity, you know, why

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don't I turn this shit into my water?

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And I do Go for the simplest
possible explanation.

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That's the genius idea that, um,

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Frederick have OCHEM gave us.

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And I'm going to say there's two reasons
why we're not turning shoulds into musts.

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One is because you have not associated
enough pain to where you currently

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are, or two, you haven't associated
enough potential pleasure or enough

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potential upside to it becoming a must.

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So, what this means is if
you stuck with a should.

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That isn't a must it's because
you have not associated enough

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pain to staying where you are.

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So I think this was where, you
know, Freud kind of got this.

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Correct?

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I think Freud was pretty
correct when he said that.

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You know, the two motivating forces
of the human experience or avoidance

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of pain and the pursuit of pleasure.

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No, I think he took that in
some incorrect directions.

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But fundamentally it can be helpful.

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So why don't we turn it should to a
must because we're not in enough pain.

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We're not in enough pain.

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I used to soundstage regularly.

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I'd You know that you don't make
kidney dialysis and option, right.

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So I had a friend once who was
on kidney dialysis, you know,

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I think it was twice a day.

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And that's no, no, that's not optional.

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That's not a, should he, he doesn't
wake up in the morning thing, you know?

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Saying I should get dialysis today.

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He it's, it's a must.

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And if you think about why does
he go to get dialysis each day?

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Well think about it carefully.

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There's two things working simultaneously.

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One.

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Is he is associated a great deal
of pain to not making it a must.

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What's the pain.

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Well, he'll die.

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And his family will be without him.

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So there's a lot of pain in that
area, but then there's also the

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upside, which is what he gets to live.

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He gets to live longer.

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He gets to be alive with his family.

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So you can see these two forces.

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Coalescing.

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And this is an extreme example, right?

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So we've just got to take that principle.

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That these are the not enough pain.

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Or that we don't, we haven't sort of
clarified enough of an upside upside.

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So let's go with Peter's actual
example of, I should eat healthier.

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Why are you not eating healthier?

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Well, I would suggest we could
look at some small details.

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Like it's, it's inconvenient.

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It's, there's too many things to organize,
but really the reason that at the

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We're not moving from a should
eat healthier to a mustard.

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Healthier is there's not enough pain.

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There's discomfort.

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They might be like, well, I'm, you know,
I'm might be, might say I'm five kilos

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overweight, or 10 kilos overweight.

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And I could change it if I just did this.

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But you're not in enough

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Like, if you were like eating so
terribly that you were seriously

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unwell and your life was at risk,
then you'd have enough pain.

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So, and you know, and it doesn't
have to be real terrible pain.

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We can just begin to think.

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You know, what if I don't change this?

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So this is the actual practical
You know, get your journal out.

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Think of something that you're
trying to turn into a must and go.

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If I do nothing.

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Right.

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The question.

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If I do nothing.

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What is the trajectory of this?

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What is going to happen now?

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That trajectory can be any way from you.

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Don't have to just going to continue
the way it is and nothing's going to

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change, and you're going to be stuck
in this particular place forever.

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Or what if it gets worse?

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Well, if it gets worse,

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I'm going to get sick or I could maybe,
you know, my family could be without me

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years before it was necessary for me to,
to, to, for my life to draw to a close.

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So we have to get conscious about
the potential pain of doing nothing.

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We have to really feel it, identify
it articulated to ourselves.

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If I do nothing, where
is this going to take me?

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If I continue to just have a
should, that never becomes a must.

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Where is this going to take me?

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And then you can apply the
same principle to the upside.

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You go, right?

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If I act on this, if I turn this shit
into a must, what am I going to get?

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What are you going to be the benefits?

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Write them down.

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I'm going to get this.

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I'm going to get this.

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I'm going to get this.

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And the last thing I would offer you is.

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Uh, you know, Carol origins,
woop goal setting strategy.

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Now, if you go back through the
episodes, I think I just looked at it

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before it, somewhere around episode.

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If you go to season six
episodes, excuse me.

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Episodes 48, 49, 50 51.

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I did a four-part series
on woop goal setting.

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So that is wish.

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What is it that I want to be different?

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What am I wishing for?

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Then you identify the outcome.

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If I get my wish, what will I
experience will be the outcome of that.

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Then you identify the obstacles.

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So why aren't you eating healthy?

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Well, the obstacle is I don't like
shopping or I don't know what to

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cook or I don't know what to buy or.

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At this time of day, there's this
issue that, you know, makes it

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difficult for me to eat well.

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And then you develop a plan.

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So WWP, whoop wish outcome
obstacle, make a plan.

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Okay.

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So summary.

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Why do we not make sure it's musts?

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Because or firstly,
why are they important?

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Because we, we, we intuitively sense
that there is something we are meant

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to be something we are meant to become,
and we only recognize shoulds and musts.

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Because we, since we're not where we
want to be, and that's a good Why don't

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we change because we've, although we
are the haven't associated enough pain

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to stay in where We haven't associated
enough pleasure to the change.

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So you work in those two
areas, work around those two

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principles of pleasure and pain.

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Go and check out the episodes.

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On woop goal setting.

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Identify your wish.

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Look at the outcome that you will
gain from achieving your wish.

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Identify the obstacles
and then get to a plan.

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Those things could be helpful.

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Look.

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I hope that's useful to everybody.

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I can do these things in live seminars.

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So a reach out.

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If you'd like me to come and
speak live at your business at

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your conference, it's all there.

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Go check out the other show
notes, uh, reach out anytime

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you want to suggest a topic.

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Just go to the website, Jonathan doyle.co
dot C And there's a contact page there.

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Shoot me an email.

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Let me know what topics
you want me to cover.

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All right friends.

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We're heading into the weekend.

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Now it's going to be another
wet, miserable, rainy one here

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in Australia, but that's okay.

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I've got a indoor training bike.

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Where I can still do ridiculous things.

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I hope you're still gonna
get active over the weekend.

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You know, I always say if you're
only walking to your letter box, then

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just walk to your letter box twice.

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It's all relative friends.

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Just get yourself moving.

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Get yourself active.

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Shut these gaps between your shirts.

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And you're must, the more you do this.

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The more your life improves and
the more that you are a blessing

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and a joy to other people.

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So let's get some skin in the game.

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Please make sure you've subscribed.

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Go and check out the show notes.

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Go check out those links.

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My name's Jonathan Doyle, and I'll
have another message for you tomorrow.