I found that after maybe four years of just absolutely no driving and then with a pandemic, there was a delay in exchanging my license. So it took about, Nearly 12 months to get my license exchange. So there was a massive delay before I was even legally allowed to drive once we did have a car. And then when we did have a car, I realized that I wasn't as confident as I was back in Australia. I found that even though the same side of the road, it was very different.

Can you remember the technique or the step that you took that actually was the bit where you went, I'm gonna be able to do this

Doing it I think I know that. Is that such a, you know, a pain thing to say if you're listening to this and you're like, Oh, how do I even get to that? The point. You just have to do it. So I don't like flying, right? But as long as I keep flying, it won't ever really get worse. And I've said I've had really bad flights, uh, in Australia with a lot of turbulence, 45 minute flights where the whole plane just gets shaken and everyone stops talking and you see drinks going everywhere, and you're just like, Okay, but you still kind of need to get to places so you keep flying, right? You might not like it, but you keep. So the same approach I had once I accepted essentially, that I, I had to change, I had to do something. I was not going to wake up and be like, Yeah, I'm an amazing driver. Look at me. Go like, I mean, that would've been nice and maybe that will happen one or 2 million in, in a million. People might have that, but the reality is you just have to do it. So I just did it. Um, and with doing it every day, it got easier. Every time I did it, it got better. even just getting in the car and maybe reversing out and then going back in again. Boom. You've done something. You've gotten in the. car Started it up, you did all the head checks, you know, and then you reversed and entered the driveway. That's better than nothing, I think. I think this idea that we have to be perfect from the first time we do something again or at all, when we first time we do something, really hinders us to do anything at all. So I think really just throwing that idea out of the window that I had to be perfect and just hit the a road or a motorway straight away. Whatever, that doesn't matter. I'm happy for what I have now, and every day I get better at it, you know, and every day life says, Okay, you're gonna have to grow a little bit more. Now I have to do the, a road to, go to work and, pick up, our child from nursery. So I have to do it. There's no way around it. So you grow, they're, they're my stretch goals as I call them, you know? But I think that's really important and most people listening in will probably already have identified perhaps a need for them to drive, a need for them to drive and also a need for them to perhaps get more self confident in their driving. And then I just say, Just get on it.

It's okay to say, I need someone to help me, uh, guide me on, on the next part of my journey, and sooner or later the training wheels come off and you'll find that it's actually been you all along. I think that's really important, to not think that you are a failure for seeking help or that you're a bit odd for doing that. It's the exact opposite, you know? it might be difficult doing the first couple of steps. You will find your life improve and you, it's just, I can't emphasize that enough. Just even starting. It's just amazing. It's just an amazing that you're listening to the podcasts it's just starting. I wish there was more awareness about people who do hesitate to get into the car. And I think I wish more people would acknowledge that it can be a hurdle it's just that sooner or later you, you do need to start to do something to change the status quo. It won't just miraculously overnight change