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and best selling author of the book, Erectile Dysfunction Fix.

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Hello there, Modern Man. In this episode, we have Tripp Kramer,

who is the owner of Tripp Advice, and he is an expert in

dating advice for men. And I am so glad that he's here with us,

because we're going to find all sorts of nuggets about gow to

have sexual magnetism for the opposite sex. So, welcome Tripp.

Thanks. Dr. Anne, I appreciate being here and

excited to help out your audience so thank you for having

me.

Well, I'm looking forward to our episode, because

I'm just gonna dive into it. And you're in the world of dating,

which is a very complex world. And so what are the common

problem or challenges that you face with men, with dating in

2025 at this point?

Yeah, in 2025 there's a lot. I'd say, in no

particular order. You would say right now men just don't really

know how to act with women. They're just a little bit lost

because women want very masculine guys, but women have

become more masculine over the past 30, 40, years. Men are a

little bit more turned off by the fact that women are saying

that they don't need a man and that women are really trying to

make a life for themselves that doesn't necessarily need a man

like we did in 50, 60, 70, years ago. And so there's this kind of

gender war going on between men and women that's making it

harder for everyone to get together and respect each other,

and so men just don't really know what to do. Meanwhile,

they're trying to do online dating, because that's so easy

to just do on your phone, but online dating is very

challenging to meet women on there, and then if they want to

meet women in person, it's confusing. They don't know what

to do because of the "ME TOO" movement, and women saying

online that it's creepy when guys approach, but then they

also say that they do want them to approach, and why men

approaching anymore. So a lot of mixed signals coming in from

women, from society, from the internet, and they're just a

little bit lost, more lost than they ever have been, I would

say, over 10 years ago, it was very simple. It was just, yeah,

I'm a little bit nervous to talk to women, and I don't know how

to flirt. That was really the only issues. Now we've stacked

it all, and it's become challenging to be able to meet

women in this modern world. So that's what we're dealing with

right now.

Wow. That is very, very interesting. And I actually

do see that at this point, and it's even more challenging,

particularly in the population. I work with older men over 50,

let's say divorce or widow, lost his partner, now back in the

dating world, and starting to see the challenges now and

trying to navigate that. So how do you advise men to navigate

this tough water right now?

Keep it simple. Everything with this, because

it's so complicated, has to be simplified. So we need to go to

the very basics of what attraction is. Attraction has

not changed. So that's what men have to understand. Women have

to understand that too. We're talking to men right now,

attraction has not changed. Women are attracted to a

specific set of traits from men. That's just how it is. It's

primal, so we have to tap into those traits, and that is what's

going to help with building attraction with women. I'm just

kind of giving you a very bird's eye view of it all. But then the

second problem is, okay, great. I understand how to attract

women and flirt, and I understand the male and female

dynamics, but how do I meet women? That's the other part,

because online dating isn't working for me, or I have

approach anxiety, or whatever complaints men have right now

about meeting women in 2025 it's all about volume. It's all about

volume, which means that you have to be getting lots of

chances at bat to a have a chance to see if a woman's going

to be attracted to you, because they have a lot of options today

or. B find someone who you are attracted to, because it's

important to know who you're going to like as well. So in

order to do that, we need volume. So we need to do

everything. I am not anti approaching I'm not anti online

dating. I'm not anti anyway of meeting women. My whole theory

is you have to give yourself all the different options possible.

So online approaching, through your social circle, through

events, meetups and single events, whatever you can find in

your city, all of it, all the above, and then maximize the

output of all those different things. For example, you want to

be swiping at least an hour a day. You want to be approaching

women at least a couple times per week, at least. And the more

and more you do that, what's really cool is you're not going

to just get more chances at bat to meet a woman that you enjoy,

and she enjoys you, but you're also going to get better at the

art of being able to attract a woman, because you can't just

learn any skill from a book and then it's there. You need to

practice it. You need to put it into play.

Wow, that sounds like marketing. You gotta be out

there. You gotta create multiple messages on different platforms.

Like you said, in person, online and at events and social circles

and volume. And it's very, very interesting. So can you talk

about the trait that you mentioned earlier? And the

attraction has not changed. I love that absolutely. Attraction

has not changed in 2025 or in 1925 or 1825. You're still men,

you're still women. And there are certain things that women

are attracted to. So let's dive deep into that. What are those

traits?

Cool. So we have to break it down to what are

women attracted to in a primal sense. And I did not make this

up. This is from research, real research that has been done,

data that has been collected over several cultures, by the

way, to find out that no matter where you're from or who you

are, if you are a female, then you are going to be attracted to

this set of traits. The set of traits can be categorized as

provider and protector traits. Okay, so provider protector

traits are traits that a man can exhibit that are going to be the

most attractive to women. So obviously you got some that are

money resources. So again, provider protector traits being

able to protect the family and get access to resources. So if

you have money, that's going to help. I know that scares some

guys away, so don't worry. We're going to get into that. I know

not every guy has money, or they even it's very big of how much

money do you really need? We'll get into that. So money

strength, mentally and physically. So someone who can

protect, usually is someone who doesn't have any sort of

emotional issue or disorder, so that they can be around to

again, protect the family. So that's going to also have to do

with your ability to be decisive and to lead and to make

decisions that are going to help the family, as well as just

general common sense and intellect. So all these things

are things that are going to help protect and provide for a

family. Okay? Because it's not that women are necessarily weak,

although they have done studies that the male body generally,

typically is stronger, usually taller. But women get pregnant,

and when they're pregnant, they cannot protect the family, and

they have to be burying the child and taking care of the

child. So that's where this is all coming from. This is based

in, you know, evolutionary theory. So leader, provider,

protector, intellect, social charisma, right? If you're

someone who's well connected and you're good with people, that's

also a sign that you can access resources. So I'd say that's a

majority of it. What I teach here at Tripp Advice is how to

access those without having to be super well connected, like a

celebrity, or super rich or super tall. Do those things

help? Absolutely, if you are super rich, super tall, super

good looking, a celebrity of some sort, you can pretty much

be with most women. Now, a lot of the rhetoric online is that

if you don't have that, then you're just not going to be able

to get anywhere, and it's money, looks and status. If you don't

have that, nothing's going to happen. I'm coming here to tell

you that that is not true. You don't need to have the most

extreme versions of all that. Instead, you just need to

display person. Reality, traits that exhibit that. Now, to be

fair, no you cannot use and tap into these traits and be someone

who is has no path, no purpose. You're completely broke. You're

living at home with your parents. You're not good social

like those things. You have to have a bare minimum, I would say

it's like a spectrum. If you have it all, rich, famous, etc,

you get more options with women. If you're at the bottom, where

you're a loner and you have no money and you have nothing going

on for yourself, I don't know. You're homeless, let's say you

clearly don't have a lot more options with women here. But the

more you can tap into these traits, the more opportunities

you have. Is that clear?

Yeah, no, that makes sense. It's almost like

women want to feel a sense of safe and being protected, and

that is either you're a human or you're a bird, because you want

to feel protected, because you're going to be pregnant,

you're gonna have babies that you need to protect, but you

need somebody to protect you, as well as shelter, physical and

mental protection. But I like the way that you break that

down. But the first thing I thought about, well, that's kind

of big order, a tall order there for men to have financial and

physical strength, mental strength and social status.

We're not talking about the movie star. They're movie star

for a reason. They have this physical attribute. Whether they

have the personality trait, we don't know. But the physical

attribute, I'll ask you something about that later. But

how are average daily men who does not have an eight pack, who

are in their 50s, who are just now coming out of a divorce.

They've been married, let's say 25 years. It's out of a divorce.

Haven't dated in a while, not in the best of shape, middle class

level. And how does he optimize his chances in dating?

Absolutely so here's the good news, here's

what I found. This is, again, all the common rhetoric

happening right now online. Looks matter, personality

matters a lot more. There's a heavier weight in terms of being

able to provide for the family when you have certain

capabilities in your personality. So yeah, if you're

tall, you're strong, you're lean, you have an eight pack.

Does that help? Yes, but you don't necessarily need that, and

you can make up for that with some of the personality traits

that we can talk and dive into deeper for men who are, you

know, over 40. So that's just has to be clear. Now, with that

being said, Of course, if you're severely obese and you're just

not in any shape whatsoever, then that is going to hurt your

chances. You're over 230 pounds and you don't take care of your

grooming or your style, and you just don't look well kept then,

yeah, that's not going to help. But there's quick little fixes

you could do that. Obviously, you can't lose weight that fast,

but you can at least do some grooming and wear some clothes

that's instantly going to make you look a lot better, and you

should be working on getting your weight down. You don't need

to be jacked. I'm telling you that right now. Yes, the muscles

help, but you don't need it. Okay? So I would say again, you

want to work on it all, but there's going to be a heavier

weight with your personality traits. So what does that mean?

The old saying confidence, women are attracted to it. I mean,

that's really it in a nutshell. But what does confidence look

like? So it's confidence, it's charisma, it's path and purpose.

So if you are a person, even if you're over 40, middle class,

divorced couple kids, just getting and fixing Ed, whatever

it may be, you can work on your personality. You can work on

your charisma and confidence to become an attractive person. And

the way that you do this is by talking to lots of women. So you

have to have more experiences with women. I know before this,

Anne, we were talking about sexual confidence. One of the

biggest things about sexual confidence, and confidence in

general, is two things. It's mindset and it's competence.

That's all it is. Okay? So mindset and competence. So if

you are competent, meaning you are good at something, whatever

that is competent, let's say now in socializing or sex, that

means that you're good at it. How did you get good at it? You

practiced it. You had experiences with it. You went

out, you talked to women, you went on dates. You had sexual

experiences. You had times where you flirted with women. You got

rejected. You didn't get rejected. You put yourself out

there enough. You build that competence, you build that skill

set. But then there's mindset, if you don't like yourself and

you have low self esteem, and you don't think that you're a

guy who's worthy of a woman to have sex with or a woman to

date, then really none of it's going to matter. But it's all

very interconnected and circular. You don't kind of sit

at home and build self esteem. Esteem is built through the act

of doing, being competent in whatever area that you're trying

to be competent in. And also, self esteem is built by keeping

the promises that you make to yourself. So if you're always

working on something and you have goals, whether it's in your

career or your hobbies or just hanging out with friends and and

making friends and being around people, and going to the gym and

saying that you're going to do something and you're going to do

it, and you're going to follow through little by little, like a

house that's being built, every little brick makes you feel

better about who you are. Okay? So now I'm feeling better about

who I am because I'm working on myself. I'm going to the gym,

I'm putting on new clothes, I'm approaching some women, I'm

trying new things. I'm trying new hobbies. Little by little,

you start to feel more worthy. And it's this awesome snowball

effect where then you like yourself, you start to feel

deserving of having an amazing woman. You start to act like

that when you're talking to women, when you're being sexual

with them, when you're in the bedroom with them. And and it's

this kind of slow process that you build yourself up to be that

person, even if you're don't have a six pack, even if you're

not super rich, even if you're a guy who's fresh out of a

divorce. So no, it's not instant. That's not how life

works. Nothing in this world is but it says not this feat where

you have to be making several six figures a year and have an

I love that. And when you said sexual confidence

eight pack.

comes from mindset and competence, what is the mindset

you're thinking about? Like, what type of thought that he

needs to making affirmation in his mind? Is this something that

an affirmation he needs to do every day or is it a routine?

Because mindset sometimes is a little like a big term. What

does that mean? Mindset? So can you dive into that?

Yep, I have a few mindsets for you. I think that

one of the biggest ones is confidence is not perfection,

and you, combined with that, is progress is more important than

perfection. So this is what stops us from taking action. I

still deal with this on a daily basis, and then I snap myself

out of it, because I come back to the mindset we're human and

we don't want to make mistakes or errors, and because of that,

it can prevent us from taking action because we're too scared

to make mistakes. You're going to make mistakes, and you have

to make mistakes. That is the toll that you have to pay in

order to get better at something. So you have to

understand that you're not going to be going and having amazing

first dates, amazing sexual experiences, amazing approaches,

amazing times in the gym, amazing times at your work, all

the time. That's not life. Life is actually more so filled with

a lot of errors and rejection and problems. And I don't say

that in a negative or pessimistic way. It's just what

has to happen to get to the points where then you've

accomplished something and then you feel amazing. Otherwise

everything would be easy. You know, everyone would just have

everything all the time. So you have to have that mindset and

remember that if you want to make that real quick and to the

point you could just remember progress is more important than

perfection, and you'll never reach that. And that's okay,

because it's never about perfection, it's about progress.

So that's one of my biggest ones. I like to tell people any

thoughts on that, because I got another one for you.

That makes sense. It's like I play tennis. You

want to get better at your skills and strokes, tou got to

go out there and practice, practice, practice, practice.

Yeah, exactly, exactly. Here's a motivational

mindset. So it helps motivate you, and it's a mindset that is

going to help you take more action and try to be a better

person every day. This was taught to me over 15 years ago

by a mentor of mine. He said to me, successful people do what

unsuccessful people are unwilling to do. What that means

is there's a lot of people in this world who won't do the hard

thing or go the extra mile, and they just won't succeed. But the

people, all the people who've been successful, and I don't

mean Elon Musk, Trump, whoever the most successful people in

the world, whoever you see that is, I don't mean you have to be

to that degree, but just your everyday person who is being

successful or moving forward or building something is doing

actions and taking actions that other people aren't. So you have

to do those actions. So for example, let's say going to the

gym, your schedule is really hard. Got to get to work by

nine, and you're exhausted after six when you get home. Well,

what is a successful person going to do? It's going to

figure it out, it's going to go to he's going to go work out a

lunch, it's going to wake up super early. Maybe you don't

want to do that. Maybe that sucks and that's painful for

you. But successful people do what unsuccessful people are

unwilling to do. Let's talk about dating, going out,

approaching women, getting rejected. Affected. Maybe you're

45 years old and you go, wow, that seems silly. I gotta go out

and approach women. I gotta go to a bar, or I gotta go to a

crowded area during the day where people are shopping. Do I

really have to do this? No, you don't have to. But the people

who are unsuccessful are not going to do that. But if you're

willing to do that, the thing that seems a little ridiculous,

a little bit hard, you're going to see results in that area. I

would almost say this is another way of saying success lies

outside of your comfort zone. But that saying is a little old

now, and I like the one that that I've been using, because

there's something motivational in there. And I think men can

really attach to that idea of, like, yeah, I want to be

successful, so I'm going to do the things that most people are

not willing to do. Let's go.

I love that. It's almost like the analogy you, a

lot of things you say, it's almost like aligned with

entrepreneurship, and with any goal, entrepreneurship and goal

is persistence and consistency and keep moving. I wouldn't say

fail. We did not succeed. I never thought about kind of

dating in that sense. It definitely opened up some new

frontier for me just listening to what you're saying. But I

want to kind of what you were talking about, physical and

personality. Is there a research and shows, I mean, initially,

before we meet somebody, there's definitely a physical thing,

because we judge what we see. Our mind processes what we see,

what we hear, and everything. So there's this definitely physical

trait that is the first impression before you start

reading somebody. So is there research that shows how long

that takes? Like, let's say, a man approaches a woman. How long

does that take us? She looks at him, she's assessing his

physical physique, how he carries himself, his hygiene,

what he wears and so forth. How long does it take the

personality kind of override the physical attribute?

Well, here's what happens. It's pretty much

instantaneously. So it doesn't take too long for man or woman

to assess physically, whether or not they find the person

attractive and even to the degree of, would I sleep with

this person? Now for a man, it happens a lot quicker. For a

woman, she may say, I want to see I would sleep with this guy,

but women will not sleep with a man that fast as a man would

with a woman, because she has to think about safety, that's a

whole other thing. But to answer your question, yeah, it happens

instantaneously. From all that I've I've researched, however,

when it comes down to your personality, it actually makes

you more attractive physically. What I mean is, if you ever

heard a woman say, I don't know what it is about this guy, I

like him, but he's not really my type. He's not the kind of guy I

would go for, like, straight up that line. He's not the kind of

guy that I go for, but I like him. What may happen is you go

up to a woman and, by the way, make or break, you can go up to

a woman and she would be like, I would sleep with this guy. I'm

attracted to him. But then you open your mouth and you're

creepy, you're not confident, you're kind of weird, you're not

giving good eye contact, you're not being playful and funny. All

those things can hurt your now ability to then have sex with

this woman, go on a date with this woman. So when you are

approaching a woman, or when you're on a date with a woman,

and she doesn't find you that physically attractive once she

sees more of those leadership qualities, charisma, confidence,

decisiveness, those masculine traits, holding eye contact,

speaking well, showing your intellect, showing that you have

a life that you care about, that you're passionate about, and

desire. And yes, I know that's a lot. It's like, well, how do you

show all that within two minutes? I mean, you don't, you

start to roll it out, but the way that you speak to a woman,

at least in the very beginning, you can start to get this kind

of, like sales, kind of like marketing, you were saying, it

can start to persuade a little bit, because now she's getting

this whole other side of you, because now she's taking in more

than just visual. You were saying what happens visually?

But there's more. There's other senses that women are picking up

on, from what she hears, from what she even what down to what

she smells. That's why people wear cologne. And there's such

thing as pheromones. And also, not just seeing what you look

like, but seeing how you act. If you go up to a woman, you're not

giving your eye contact, and you're kind of tight body

language, and you're showing really shy, or you're really

monotone, and you're talking like this, and you don't have

that kind of charismatic vibe to you in the way that you're

speaking with your tone. She's going to see that. She's going

to hear that. And that can hurt your chances or make your

chances again. It might sound overwhelming to a guy who's

listening to this, while that sounds like a lot, sounds like a

lot of work, a lot of this can become second nature, and a lot

of men already have this. Most of us know how to talk, how to

speak. Most of us have intellect. It's just the

nervousness that you feel when you're talking to a woman you're

attracted to and you're scared of rejection, starts to damper

some of those personality traits, and it makes it harder.

So then what you need. To do. Circling back to what I said

earlier on this call, is you need to practice. Have

conversations, go out, talk to women you're attracted to

practice that approach. Go on the dates, so that you can get

better at this and become more comfortable with it over time,

so it's not as challenging as I thought it was when I was

learning this stuff. I mean, my quick background on me is I was

a very shy guy. I had a little bit of a fun personality, but I

didn't really know how to show it. I dampered myself. I chained

myself because I didn't want to get rejected or as fearing what

people would think of me. And then over time, I started to

care less, and that made me become more charismatic over

time, with years of practice and coming out of my shell, so it is

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So from what I hear, and I hear this a lot, is charisma is

learned. You're not born with it. Charisma is something that

you've learned, but you have to practice and then get confidence

with it. And I'm just going to hit it right on the point how

much of sexual performance is to a man at this point. I've heard

saying from my patient, from friends, that, hey, if I'm not

performing the bedroom, I'm not a man at all. And so let's say

he's not at his best, optimal performance in the bedroom. How

can he compensate for that in his personality or in his

relationship or dating?

It really goes down to the same formula as I

was talking about. You can't really just have sexual

confidence by thinking about it. Obviously, there's gonna be

things that help you, help with that, with erectile dysfunction,

so that is something that you do and can fix on your own. But

once you have that fixed, or mostly fixed, because think

about it, right? What are we talking about? Sexual

confidence, what does that even mean? What does sexual

confidence look like? Okay, I would imagine it looks like a

guy being with a woman feeling fully comfortable that he's

going to be able to please her and be more inhibited in the

bedroom. Now, that stuff isn't really challenging to do. So

where is this lack of confidence coming from? It's just coming

from up here. That's all it is. So you're not going to convince

yourself in a room alone or by watching porn on a screen that

you can be good in the bed. You have to be with women. That's

how you build sexual confidence. You have to be with women,

sexually. You have to be sleeping with women. You have to

have sexual experiences, because I promise you, even just a

couple, you might be a Casanova, sleeping with a new girl every

week, even having a few positive experiences, or at least

learning from some experiences, and learning your body when it's

with another woman, is going to start to give you a new mindset,

right? It's going to help you with how you're acting with a

woman the next time you see them. So a lot of it starts with

some of the things that you do, and with fixing erectile

dysfunction. And a lot of it has to do with what I teach with,

Okay, well, before you have sex, you have to what meet women, go

on dates, approach online dating, do all those things so I

wouldn't even concern yourself right now with sexual confidence

and having that. I would rather a guy work on meeting a lot of

women, having a lot of volume, working on some charismatic

traits, getting rejected, a bunch going on dates where some

go well, some don't, and then trying to pursue women sexually

and seeing what happens from there, and then you can see how

your sexual confidence is there. It's like, we don't want to put

the cart before the horse, or else you're just going to go

insane and be so overwhelmed that none of this is going to

happen. So don't connect your sexual confidence to your

confidence with going and talking to a woman. Yeah,

they're intertwined, but one thing at a time, get to the

point where you can have even even a chance where you are

going to sleep with the woman. Once we have many of those

chances, good, now we can work on more sexual confidence. I do

the same thing when men are approaching women, you know,

they go, oh, there's a girl over there. Like, what do I do? I

gotta do all these things. I gotta flirt. I gotta give good.

Eye contact. I have a whole list. I'm going crazy. I can't

do this. I'm not going to approach you're getting ahead of

yourself here. Why not just go out one day and wave hello to 10

different women. Because if you can't do that, then nothing's

going to work. Now, to connect everything in my little

ecosystem here, I don't want to go talk to women and say hi to

10. That's weird trip. You don't have to. But guess what

successful people do? What unsuccessful people are

unwilling to do? So it's all kind of connected. There baby

steps, and you get to that point, and then you see, I don't

know, maybe you think you don't have sexual confidence, and all

of a sudden, you're with a woman, you guys are getting

sexual. She's really into you. And all of a sudden you just

have it, because it's primal, and you think that you are going

to mess up in the bedroom, and you were just a rock star. How

do you know? You're just guessing. You're making up

little thoughts and stories in your head. Okay, maybe that

doesn't happen. You're with the woman. You can't get it up.

Didn't go really well, but then she doesn't really care, because

you're good at going down on her, and then that helps a

little bit. We don't want to solve problems we don't have

yet. You don't know you have a problem until you take action.

Oh, I love that. I love that. And I see that all

I think what you're saying here, it connects

the time. Is that when I'm working with men with ED and

even though they get better, even after treatment, they're

still fixated on, Oh my god, I gotta be rock hard, ready to go

in five minutes. And I'm not. Then I'm not the man that I used

to be. And arousal takes time. Sometimes you gotta let your

body be prepared. And if you're with a partner and you're

attracted to her, she's attracted to you. That, in

itself, is actually an initiator of the erection response. The

brain is the largest sexual organ for men and for women, and

we oftentimes focus on our sexual organ instead of up here,

because if nothing goes on up here in the brain, nothing's

going to be initiated below the belt. And there are three steps

that need to happen in the brain, first, before even it

goes down the nerve to go down to your sexual organs. Like the

senses. Your senses need to be aroused, like what you see, what

you smell, what you taste, what you hear and touch. All those

senses occur during dating sexual encounter, right? But

then that gets processed in your emotional state, meaning, if

you're fearful, if you're distressed, that kind of dampen

down that senses that feed into it, and then that gets processed

also in the brain, in the hormones. Different hormones

need to be released as well in the brain before the initiation

go down the nerve, down the chain to stimulate your heart,

to get more blood flow, and then more blood flow go down to the

sexual organ, but three steps need to occur in the brain. But

if your mindset is not in a right state, that will dampen

that fire and it's not going to go past it. And I see men is

that they're not focusing on the mindset. I always tell them,

like, just relax. Don't focus on performance. Enjoy the moment.

Enjoy your senses. Get into it, and then don't think about, Oh

my god, am I gonna get it up this time? Am I gonna be able to

perform or not? Because the more you think about it, guess what,

to exactly what I'm saying. What we're talking about is this the

it's not gonna happen, right? It's almost like

counterintuitive, like, the more you think about it, is not going

to happen, but that's the way our body is made is that it's

all in sometimes, what thoughts that you put in your mind that

allows you to be able to have the function that you want. So

it's exactly what you were saying, even about dating as

well, too. Because I can tell you, the mind is so powerful

that men that are paralyzed from the neck down can't feel

anything, can still get an erection because of the power of

the mind. As the power of the mind is that powerful.

art of being present and doing that's everything. Because,

yeah, the more present you are, the less thinking you're doing,

and the more that you'll be able to tap into your body sexually,

the more that you'll be able to just go out, talk to women,

date. This isn't tennis, in a sense. This is not sailing. This

isn't a technical skill. This is Your body knows how to do all

these things. You know how to talk, you know how to converse

with people, and then you know how to have sex, even if you've

never had it before, you know how to do it. You just know how

to do all these things that we're talking about, but in

order to do them, it's more about getting out of your head

and staying in the moment and just doing the thing that you

need to do, so, not listening to your thoughts, letting your

thoughts wash through you. A lot of this is also Buddhist

practices. If you read the book, The Power of Now, this helps

tremendously. I recommend that book to anyone who's trying to

learn how to be more present and stay in the moment. But like

Anne saying, being present, like I'm saying, taking action all

that together. Other would be like step one, and then you see

what happens.

That's right, start with step one and see what

happens. And I tell men, act as if you're in the playground. Get

there and see how you feel, and decide whether you want to do

the swing, the slide, the monkey bars, or what. Just being

present. Because amazingly, that works. That works. I mean, I saw

many, many men that would say, Well, yesterday I had the best

sex. We went on for an hour and a half. You know, last week,

couldn't get it up. The week before was partial. You like,

What the heck is going on? And that kind of tap into the

presence I was, like, maybe his mindset. Having said that, I

really enjoy our conversation today. I learned quite a few bit

of stuff, and it's almost feel like, Oh my god, seems like the

guy have to do a lot to kind of attract women. Is that the case?

If I were a man, I'll be like, Oh my goodness, what I need to

do? What are your thoughts?

In terms of what next steps of exactly what to

do? So, like, you just listened to this episode, and now you're

going, where do I begin? So I'll give you a homework, and I'm

going to make it very easy for you. You're going to take one

hour this week, whatever works for you, and you're going to go

out and we're going to say hi to 10 people, men, women, doesn't

matter. Over 18, obviously, do that, step one. Step two, you're

going to call up and find or email a photographer in your

area, and you're going to get pictures of yourself for your

online dating profile. Okay, I want you to be I'm very clear

how these steps are. I didn't say start an online dating app

profile, I said, hire a photographer. That's step two,

get pictures done that are just various pictures, the

photographer will know what to do. That's going to be the best

step to getting more matches online. I'm going to stop there,

because that's a lot right there for people. Do that. Just do

that. If you can do that, you've already done more than probably

90% of guys.

Why professional professional photographer

instead of using your phone and do selfies?

Selfies. They've done studies on selfies. They

don't get enough matches, because the angle in which

you're taking a selfie is not attractive. You can't, I mean,

you could, but most people don't know how to do it. The most

attractive angle, which I can go into detail. But again, you

don't need to know this, the photographer should know this,

is really no closer than a medium shot from the stomach,

belly button up with a slowly tilted head down so you're not

like your neck isn't up like this, but just below parallel, I

should say just a little bit down, and then a slight smile

with a very, very, it's called a squinch. A very slight squint in

your eyes, very slight. So that's going to be the most

attractive. And you can't really get that on a selfie. For those

of just listening. I'm holding my phone. I'm putting it up to

myself, because you won't get that angle. No one takes a good

selfie.

It's not that expensive to get a professional

photographer for a few shots.

Spend the money. I mean, how important is it to you

to get, if this is a priority for you, and you want to really

get a lot of matches and you want to meet women, then spend

the money. Use a credit card, go into debt, get a loan, I don't

know, your house savings, take a little bit more out. I mean, if

it's not a priority for you, then yeah, I guess go as cheap

as you can. But if it is, do it right, spend the money. It's

worth the investment, because it's going to get you results,

and then you're going to be super happy that you did it.

When you say, hi, is it just a wave? Wave, or is

it kind of like, Hey, I'm Tripp. How are you? Is it coming over,

shaking hands, starting conversation? What is that?

Good question? Yeah, so let's get more

specific. Loking and giving eye contact and just saying hello.

That's it. And walking past them, little wave, hand in the

air. Hello, eye contact. Walk away.

Yeah, love it. Love that. And it's simple, you can

do this. Men, you can do this. And the law of attraction has

not changed. Thousands of years, it's still the same, whether

caveman days or nowadays. But then with the women empowerment,

the waters are a little bit tougher, but it's still the

same. So having said that, I know that you run Tripp Advice,

tell us about what you do and how men can work with you.

Absolutely. So we have a whole coaching team over

here at Tripp Advice. We specialize in helping men,

especially men over 30, with dating, meeting women,

attraction, online dating, approaching, basically any kind

of guy who's looking to get more dates. We work with all ages.

We've even worked with people, guys up to 70 years old. But we

work with men who are ready to make changes in their dating

lives. There is no shortcuts in life, but I'll say working with

us is like a shortcut, because you just don't have to do too

much trial and error. So we can cut to exactly what needs to be

done to be able to get you the volume, be more attractive, get

more dates, have more experiences. And this is for

guys who are either looking for just hey, I want to have fun and

have sexual experiences, or for guys who are like, No, I want a

girlfriend, I want a wife, I want to settle down, I want to

do something like that. So we help in all those areas, and we

guide you and tell you exactly what to do. We call it the Tripp

Advice Accelerator Program. So if you're interested in learning

more about that, we do free calls. You can book a free call

with us at trippadvicecoaching com. And trip is with two P's.

Akay. And I myself work with Tripp and his team

also help us with our men in getting sexual restoration as

well, too. And so check out his website. We'll put that in the

link in the description. And having said that, I hope Modern

Man that you find this valuable and just know that you are not

alone. There are resources out there, and do not have to suffer

in silence. There are help. Check Tripp out, check our

program out, and our coaching program as well at noedman.com

and we'll see you in the next episode. Thank you Tripp for

being with us today.

Thank you, Dr. Anne, appreciate your time.

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