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Leila Ainge:Leila Ainge This is a podcast
Leila Ainge:all about human behaviour, weaving
Leila Ainge:together fascinating research, opinions, and real
Leila Ainge:life experiences. I'll give you a psychologist's
Leila Ainge:insight into how we behave in spaces we live
Leila Ainge:and work in, and how they in turn, shape
Leila Ainge:us. You this season, we're exploring
Leila Ainge:my favorite topic, impostor phenomenon.
Leila Ainge:So get comfy and let's dive into today's
Leila Ainge:episode.
Leila Ainge:Welcome to the first episode in this
Leila Ainge:series of psychologically speaking, where we'll
Leila Ainge:take a look at the impostor phenomenon backstory
Leila Ainge:and the narratives around one of the most talked about
Leila Ainge:experiences in business.
Leila Ainge:Impostor phenomenon is characterized
Leila Ainge:as self doubt, attributing success to luck,
Leila Ainge:and a fear of failure or being found
Leila Ainge:out. In almost every
Leila Ainge:article you'll read about Impostor, the story
Leila Ainge:you're being told is one where you need to overcome
Leila Ainge:impostor syndrome. It's a narrative
Leila Ainge:that I became increasingly uncomfortable with.
Leila Ainge:What I was noticing with my own clients
Leila Ainge:were the experiences and spaces that heightened
Leila Ainge:self doubt or feeling lucky, and that risk of
Leila Ainge:exposure more than others. I was
Leila Ainge:curious about the syndrome narrative.
Leila Ainge:Does it accurately describe the experience
Leila Ainge:of impostor? Curiously,
Leila Ainge:for one of the most talked about experiences in business,
Leila Ainge:there was very little research on the way
Leila Ainge:entrepreneurs and people who own their own
Leila Ainge:businesses experienced impostor
Leila Ainge:feelings. Throughout this series, I'm
Leila Ainge:going to use the phrase phenomenon, and I'll be talking about
Leila Ainge:impostor experiences and feelings.
Leila Ainge:What we call the experience is
Leila Ainge:important. A syndrome and a phenomenon are
Leila Ainge:two very different things. A syndrome
Leila Ainge:indicates that there's something wrong. It's a set of
Leila Ainge:signs or symptoms. And usually a
Leila Ainge:syndrome is something that we try to fix with either
Leila Ainge:medication or therapy.
Leila Ainge:Importantly, though, a syndrome suggests that
Leila Ainge:the issue lies with the individual.
Leila Ainge:My research really challenges that thinking.
Leila Ainge:And to be clear, medically,
Leila Ainge:impostor syndrome does not exist. So
Leila Ainge:why is everyone calling it that syndrome?
Leila Ainge:is admittedly easier to say than phenomenon.
Leila Ainge:But to understand why impostor is more commonly thought of as
Leila Ainge:a syndrome, we'd need to take a look at how it's been
Leila Ainge:researched in the past.
Leila Ainge:Impostor phenomenon started with a series of clinical
Leila Ainge:observations. Back in 1979,
Leila Ainge:two psychologists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne
Leila Ainge:Ives, were seeing women in their clinics who were
Leila Ainge:intellectually at the top of their game, high achievers.
Leila Ainge:These women were worried about failing, getting caught
Leila Ainge:out. They felt lucky rather than being
Leila Ainge:talented. They used the word
Leila Ainge:phenomenon to describe the enigma of these
Leila Ainge:experiences being associated with successful
Leila Ainge:women, these three broad
Leila Ainge:feelings became associated with the impostor
Leila Ainge:phenomenon. Through clansonime's work. In
Leila Ainge:fact, a recent review of all of the studies that have
Leila Ainge:happened since 1979, these
Leila Ainge:are still the three key areas that we associate
Leila Ainge:with impostor. The narrative
Leila Ainge:hasn't changed much in 46 years,
Leila Ainge:and I want you to consider one reason for that.
Leila Ainge:The way in which we think of and measure the
Leila Ainge:impostor experience has been pretty consistent for
Leila Ainge:that time, too.
Leila Ainge:The idea that these feelings
Leila Ainge:belonged to the women in their minds,
Leila Ainge:rather than being a consequence of
Leila Ainge:the situational context, is interesting to
Leila Ainge:me, and I think it helps to explain why
Leila Ainge:syndrome seems to fit the phenomenon. We
Leila Ainge:should also consider that despite the term phenomenon being
Leila Ainge:used in the original study, the narratives of
Leila Ainge:that decade most likely influenced
Leila Ainge:interpretation. So earlier in the
Leila Ainge:1970s, the term fear of success
Leila Ainge:had been coined by Martina Horner.
Leila Ainge:Martina, also a psychologist, had set an
Leila Ainge:exercise for men and women, and, she'd had them finish
Leila Ainge:writing a story queue about being successful in a
Leila Ainge:medical setting. Now, remember, back in the
Leila Ainge:1970s, not many women made it
Leila Ainge:into the top of medical professions.
Leila Ainge:A key difference between the men and women in that
Leila Ainge:study were the ways in which negative imagery was
Leila Ainge:used more by women. When writing about the
Leila Ainge:success of a woman, Martina
Leila Ainge:concluded that women had what she thought of
Leila Ainge:as a trade off mindset. When it came to
Leila Ainge:success, the success was synonymous for
Leila Ainge:women with making big life changes and sacrifices.
Leila Ainge:Of course, these narratives and negative
Leila Ainge:stories still exist. Women are unfairly
Leila Ainge:judged on balancing careers and family life in
Leila Ainge:comparison to men. Thinking about the
Leila Ainge:cultural tone that existed when the original research took
Leila Ainge:place is useful, though, because it helped me to
Leila Ainge:think about posing different questions to understand the
Leila Ainge:impostor experience.
Leila Ainge:So how do we measure an,
Leila Ainge:enigma? Typically, impostor
Leila Ainge:phenomenon is measured through a diagnostic
Leila Ainge:questionnaire. The Clantz impostor scale
Leila Ainge:is just one example. And one of their
Leila Ainge:statements says, sometimes I'm afraid others
Leila Ainge:will discover how much knowledge or ability I really
Leila Ainge:lack, and there'll be a rating with that
Leila Ainge:statement. So that's something you always experience
Leila Ainge:or rarely experience. But what
Leila Ainge:does sometimes or rarely mean? And, which
Leila Ainge:situations? What's the context?
Leila Ainge:I want to know when they felt that
Leila Ainge:way, were they writing a report? Were they sat in a
Leila Ainge:boardroom? Or were they doing their thing on
Leila Ainge:Instagram live? Because these situations,
Leila Ainge:they are so different. I think another
Leila Ainge:problem with diagnostics is that, trying to determine
Leila Ainge:how much of a problem that person has,
Leila Ainge:it's what's wrong with them. It puts the emphasis back
Leila Ainge:on that individual rather than the situations they are
Leila Ainge:experiencing. I'd like you to
Leila Ainge:consider, that impostor feels more at home
Leila Ainge:alongside the word phenomenon than it does
Leila Ainge:syndrome. There's a lot about
Leila Ainge:impostor that's still unexplained, and
Leila Ainge:largely because we've not been asking the right questions.
Leila Ainge:This is what motivated me to talk to the
Leila Ainge:entrepreneurial community, because here you've got
Leila Ainge:a group of people who are putting themselves out there and
Leila Ainge:taking huge, big risks. Running
Leila Ainge:a business is not easy.
Leila Ainge:So how do entrepreneurs experience impostor
Leila Ainge:phenomenon? Surely they need to be the
Leila Ainge:opposite of somebody who's got self doubt or fear of
Leila Ainge:exposure and thinks that they're just lucky.
Leila Ainge:Shouldn't entrepreneurs be really self assured and
Leila Ainge:confident, ready to put themselves into really
Leila Ainge:awkward situations and reframe negative
Leila Ainge:thoughts? This is what those self help
Leila Ainge:articles in magazines are telling us we need to
Leila Ainge:do. The types of things these articles
Leila Ainge:tell you and me to do are, name the feelings, get
Leila Ainge:feedback, and talk about your feelings with a coach or
Leila Ainge:psychologist. But what
Leila Ainge:if you are, not the problem?
Leila Ainge:Will these tools help you to get ahead then?
Leila Ainge:It was such an interesting opposite for
Leila Ainge:me to think about entrepreneurs as a group,
Leila Ainge:and it felt really obvious to say, tell me
Leila Ainge:about your impostor feelings. Tell me about when you're
Leila Ainge:experiencing this and, under what
Leila Ainge:situations. I didn't want to use
Leila Ainge:existing questionnaires. I didn't want to go around
Leila Ainge:pseudo diagnosing people. I
Leila Ainge:wanted to understand their experiences and say, what do
Leila Ainge:you think? How are you making sense of this?
Leila Ainge:Historically, men and women have not wanted to speak about
Leila Ainge:impostor feelings with peers because it feeds the fear of
Leila Ainge:being found out. It's a key barrier for overcoming
Leila Ainge:feelings. When the pandemic happened, we were
Leila Ainge:all suddenly thrust into online ways of working,
Leila Ainge:and I was starting to observe the ways entrepreneurs
Leila Ainge:in some online communities were creating spaces
Leila Ainge:where it was safe to say, I've got self
Leila Ainge:doubt. I'm really worried about putting myself out
Leila Ainge:there. I don't want to be visible. The
Leila Ainge:contrast with putting forward positive self image in
Leila Ainge:other online spaces reinforced my
Leila Ainge:idea into researching how
Leila Ainge:entrepreneurs navigate online spaces
Leila Ainge:and, impostor feelings.
Leila Ainge:Here's what I found. Entrepreneurs
Leila Ainge:experience impostor phenomenon in
Leila Ainge:unique ways, moving beyond a fear of
Leila Ainge:failure, feeling like a fraud, and waiting to be found
Leila Ainge:out. The women who shared their experiences
Leila Ainge:with me talked about visibility,
Leila Ainge:especially where there are intersections around race
Leila Ainge:and neurodiversity, how, they cope
Leila Ainge:successfully with comparison using
Leila Ainge:whatever tools social platforms provide,
Leila Ainge:and curiously, how that comparison is so
Leila Ainge:often inward looking. In fact, one of
Leila Ainge:the phrases that stuck with me from the moment I
Leila Ainge:heard it was, a woman who said, I miss her.
Leila Ainge:I miss me. And, finally, they spoke
Leila Ainge:candidly about competition
Leila Ainge:in their own words. Visibility,
Leila Ainge:comparison, and competition are at the heart of
Leila Ainge:impostor feelings and experiences. We'll
Leila Ainge:explore what this means and how it relates to women
Leila Ainge:who are getting ahead and getting things done,
Leila Ainge:because the women I spoke to had been successfully
Leila Ainge:running businesses for an average of seven
Leila Ainge:years, some of them more than 15.
Leila Ainge:This is why that narrative of something being wrong with the
Leila Ainge:individual didn't feel right to me.
Leila Ainge:These women are getting ahead. Despite experiencing
Leila Ainge:impostor phenomenon, they've adapted and
Leila Ainge:created ways of coping in a space that is
Leila Ainge:often psychologically unsafe and
Leila Ainge:competitive.
Leila Ainge:Today, we've looked at the impostor
Leila Ainge:backstory, the way in which success was
Leila Ainge:feared by women in the 1970s,
Leila Ainge:and the current narratives that focus on
Leila Ainge:overcoming a syndrome, which, of course, puts the
Leila Ainge:emphasis back on the individual. I've
Leila Ainge:asked you to consider ditching the word syndrome
Leila Ainge:in favor of impostor phenomenon. It's
Leila Ainge:a phrase which nicely guides us to a place where we
Leila Ainge:consider there's more to impostor than
Leila Ainge:overcoming our fears.
Leila Ainge:In the next episode, I'll be introducing.
Leila Ainge:You to a psychological term called context collapse,
Leila Ainge:how it helps us to explain behavior in online
Leila Ainge:spaces and why it then relates to
Leila Ainge:impostor. M.
Leila Ainge:That's it for today. I hope you learned something
Leila Ainge:new, or perhaps I've given you a new way to think about
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