This video might be the most important video that you watch all year. And I don't say that lightly. Because if you're like most people, you've already set goals for the new year, or you're about to, and you've done this before. New year, new intentions, new resolutions. And yet, statistically, most people will be in close to the exact same place they are right now, a year from now. Same income, same stress, same health challenges, same patterns. Not because they didn't want it badly enough, but because they misunderstood what goal setting actually is. And today, I want to flip the entire script of goal setting on its head. Because the word resolution doesn't mean what most people think it means. A resolution isn't something that you set. A resolution is something you resolve. And if the internal resistance hasn't been resolved, no goal, no matter how inspiring, can ever fully materialize. And I'm not speaking from theory here. I'm speaking from experience. So a decade ago, I was struggling with addiction, broke two homes in foreclosure. Now I'm running my own business, going from zero to 40 million in revenue, doing what I love. And the shift didn't come from hustling or grinding or having the perfect strategy. It was a byproduct of letting go of the beliefs that were standing in the way of me and my vision and my dreams. So in this video, I'm going to walk you through a process of getting absolutely clear, not on what you need to do, but who you need to become in this next year to create quantum leaps in your health, your wealth, your relationships, and your life. So let's get into it.

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All right, guys, it's the new year. New year, new you. It is the month of vision boards and journaling and setting goals. And I don't want to be A Debbie Downer here. But here's the reality. Most people will make incremental gains this year, but they'll fall short of most of their goals. What happens when we do that? And I'm speaking from experience because I did this for most of my life until I learned what I'm going to be sharing with you in this episode. I just rolled them over to the next year or I'd sweep them under the rug. Nobody pay attention to that goal that I didn't achieve and I would just sort of keep on keeping on. And then what most people do is they look, they take a glance at where they didn't achieve their goals and then they falsely conclude that, well, it's because of a lack of discipline, or I'm not consistent enough, I'm not motivated enough, or the economy was bad, or something else out of their control is the reason. Or here's my favorite. Spirit did not want me to achieve the goal. Spirit wanted something else for me. And that's almost never the real reason. So the real reason your goals don't materialize is, is because we were never taught how to set them. The reason our goals don't materialize is because of what I would call an inner conflict. So you consciously want a thing, right? To make more money, to be healthier, but unconsciously you believe that it's not possible. And the nervous system, this goal achieving machine inside of you, it's always going to default to what you believe, not what you want. So every goal is surrounded by some form of identity based belief. In other words, you might say, hey, I want to make a million dollars this year. But you also believe that money is scarce. That's an inner conflict. And that belief is going to win out over the desire. You might say, hey, I want to be healthy this year. But what you're telling yourself consistently is my body always breaks down or there's something wrong with me. Say, hey, I want to grow or start a business this year. But you say, but there's not enough time or it might be too risky. So it's like driving a car. Most people when it comes to goal setting and success, they have their foot on the gas. So they're trying to move towards achieving their goals. But what they don't realize is at the same time they have their foot on the brake and the brake are your limiting beliefs. And this is where the word resolution is so powerful, because a resolution isn't a list of things that you want to create or achieve. That's what we usually treat resolutions as you sit down and it's like your Santa's wish, your wish list to the new year. But a resolution is a resolving of an old belief. It's about identifying what you need to leave behind in the previous year and not bring into the new year. In terms of who you are and who you're being. It is an old part of you that's actually in conflict. The results with the results that you want. If you can get rid of that old part, if you can let it go, then you can produce the result. I've told this story before, many times. Seems like you love it or hate it, but I was single for 10 years. When I was going through my spiritual transition, my drug, alcohol and sex addiction recovery, I started to date. I went out on some dates. They weren't the types of people that I wanted to be with. So I started giving a meaning, which was there's no good ones left out there and there's something wrong with me. And I was that I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. And as I got into this work, I realized, well, I'm not going to be able to achieve a new relationship goal this year if I've got all of these beliefs around relationships, around people around myself that aren't congruent with producing the results. So I actually sat down and did exactly the process that I'm going to teach you in this episode. Cleared out the resistance. And two weeks later, through a series of crazy synchronicities, I met my wife, who happens to be a beautiful, intelligent, spiritually developed Colombian woman. Exactly the type of person that I wanted to meet. But I didn't meet her because I felt figured out how to meet her. I met her or attracted her because I was congruent vibrationally, psychologically, emotionally with the receiving of her, with the achievement of that goal or the fulfillment of that wish. But to do that, I had to resolve my beliefs about relationships. So I want to walk you through this goal setting exercise. I'm telling you, this is going to absolutely change your year. If you're listening, you can come back and do this exercise when you can write it down and have a piece of paper in front of you. But what I want you to do is I want you to think about, for the purpose of this exercise, one goal that you have. If you were going to kind of write it all out and do it the way I'm recommending you come up with five to 10 goals. But I just want you to think about one thing that you want and I'm, as a. As an example, I'm going to use money. But it could be a change in your relationship, it could be a change in your health. It could be a change in your experience of life, your spiritual connection, a change in your career or your business situation. What we're really looking for with resolutions and goal setting is a change, right? So you want to change in something. So let's say, you know, you have a goal. You want to make a hundred thousand dollars this year, you want to make $250,000 this year, you want to make a million dollars this year, that's fine. I want you to take out a piece of paper. And what we're going to do here is we're going to. You're going to list your goal at the top of the page. So for the purpose of this, I want to make $250,000 over the next 12 months. And then what you're going to do is you're going to create three columns below that goal on this piece of paper. So if you have five to seven goals, five to seven pieces of paper, three columns. So you're going to draw two vertical lines. What I want you to do now is I want you to just look for a moment, just be present, bring this goal into your awareness. I'm going to make $250,000 in the next 12 months. And I want you to look at the resistance you have to that goal. So it might be something like. But money is scarce. It might be something like, money is hard to make. It might be like, that's too big of a number to achieve. It might be. I've set financial goals before, and I've never hit them. Right. Whatever, whatever it is, the resistance, I want you to just get present to it. I know you want to achieve this goal, but we want to feel into and look into your mind at what the resistance sounds like, and you're going to write that down in column one. What we're going to do here is we're going to work a decision matrix. It's one of the tools that we teach from other episodes. I understand you guys absolutely love this tool. And it's the same tool that I use for goal setting. So you want to make $250,000. That goal is at the top. Now we're looking at your resistance. That's all listed in column one. Those are your limiting beliefs. In column two, for each of the limiting beliefs, you're going to make a new decision. So one of the powerful distinctions that we teach, something That I realized years ago is that beliefs are decisions. I thought beliefs were some like, complex thing that I needed to find some shaman to help extract from my body or some trauma expert to resolve. And there's a time and a place for that type of work. But really beliefs are just decisions. When you were a kid, you came to an unconscious decision, watching your parents, that money was scarce, or that there was something wrong with you, or that relationships don't work out. It was an unconscious decision. But what's happening throughout the rest of your life now is without you being aware of it, you're making the decision over and over and over again. When you realize that beliefs are just decisions. That when you were in first grade and you were supposed to meet your little buddy at the drinking fountain and they didn't show up and you unconsciously decided that you can't trust people. When you realize that beliefs are decisions, you can do something, you can be responsible, you have an ability to respond to the limiting belief and that is to make a new decision. And it is always some equal form and opposite of the limiting belief. So if I were doing this exercise in column one, I would say, okay, money is scarce. And then in column two, I'd come up with a new decision. Money is abundant. Okay, something really simple. As you start to master this tool, you can use it with more complexity. But right now, just orthodox, very simple. What is some form of the opposite? What is a new decision that if you could believe it, if we could install it would be congruent with you producing the goal. And one of the interesting things that you'll notice is that when you're thinking about the limiting belief, you don't feel good. When you're thinking about the new decision. It feels good that your nervous system is an emotional guidance system. It's like a compass to help guide you back to what's true. And what's happened is you've enrolled yourself into this perception that's not necessarily true, that money is scarce or hard to make, but that's becoming your reality. Because the brain is a goal achieving machine. Now we align ourselves with a new decision, like money is abundant. So the third part of this process is column three, which is what evidence do you have for the fact that the new decision is true? Say, you know, but Dave, my experience has been that money is scarce. I can look at my bank account, there's not that much. I always feel like I'm struggling at the end of the month, I've got a bunch of credit card debt, I'm making this new decision, which is money is abundant. There's lots of it, you know, but I don't have any evidence. And so this is where we want to take a step back and we really want to sit with this question, what evidence do I have for the fact that this new decision that money is abundant is true? And you got to give your brain a little bit of time to recalibrate because it's looking for evidence from your own life. It's like a search engine. But what's happened is the evidence has been archived because it hasn't been relevant to the belief that you've been holding, that money is scarce or money is hard to make. So you have to be willing to sit with this for a little bit. Your brain will start to recalibrate, and it'll search for memories and evidence in your life, evidence that you've seen externally in other people's lives, and it'll surface it up. The brain is like a search engine. If you ask it a question, it will give you an answer. You just have to be willing to be a little bit patient with it. What'll happen is you'll get a small little piece of evidence, like, well, there was a time in my life where money was more abundant, say, okay, cool, now ask the same question again. What evidence do I have for the fact that this new decision is true, that money is abundant? What's happening is you're starting to activate these clusters of neural networks in your brain, these memories that you have that money is abundant, that money is prosperous, that you're worthy of money, that money can be easy to accumulate. And this is actually what's called neural pruning. So you're taking the old memories and you're starting to dismantle them while building and activating the evidence that's always been there, but hasn't really been relevant to the predominant belief that you've had the lens that you've created. This is the brain change. This is the identity shift. And so I might get to a point where I'd say, okay, I'm on the fifth, fourth or fifth thing, which is the evidence for the fact that the new decision is true, that money is abundant. And I might say there's more money in circulation than ever before before. Just in the US there's $37 trillion in money that's been printed. There's more types of abundance and prosperity than ever before, from Bitcoin to Ethereum to all different types of cryptocurrencies. There's new emerging investment Opportunities. I want to be a part of that. Right. There's real estate, equity. There's real estate investing. Wow. There's more money than ever before in circulation right now. Money is abundant and prosperous. Now, you might then come up with another form of resistance that you identify. Right, But I'm not worthy of money. So we would drop that into the first column. Again, a limiting belief. We found one. This is great. We're looking for weeds in the garden of your mind. And as we use this simple process, what we call the decision matrix, to pull the weeds, we start to free ourselves, to create change in the new year. So we want to look at each limiting belief, realize beliefs are just decisions, come up with a new decision for each limiting belief, and then start to stack evidence for how this new decision is true. Right. This is a simple process, but it's a neurological shift. It is a neural pruning. It's a shift in your perception. It's a shift in your identity. And this is you actually becoming the person who's already produced the result. In other words, you're saying money is abundant. Now, if you had actually made $250,000, that's what your belief would be. But what most people make the mistake of thinking is they achieve the outcome and give themselves permission to believe something. But. But that's putting the cart before the horse. You have to establish the belief, and then the result must follow. So this is what we do to prepare ourselves in terms of how we need to think, what we need to believe, how we need to feel, and who we need to become in the new year to produce the results. This is aligning ourselves with the results. In other episodes, I've talked about becoming your future self. And this is really part of that process as you start to re establish all these beliefs that I am worthy of, that life does work for me, that money is prosperous and abundant, that I do achieve most of my goals, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. You literally start to embody the person who has produced the result. The great mystic Neville Goddard talked about this. He says, act as if the wish were fulfilled. And most people don't understand what that means, but it means set some goals, look at the resistance, drop the resistance, and now you'll be thinking and feeling just like the person who has already achieved the goal. And this is talked about in the Bible as well. In Ephesians 4. 22, they said you were taught with regard to your former way of life to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its Deceitful desires. See, those deceitful desires are your limiting beliefs to be made new in the attitude of your minds and to put on the new self created to be like God and true righteousness and holiness. Well, what is the wholeness and. And the rightness of God? It is the ability to intentionally create right. We are made in the image of the Creator. We have the capacity to create our own reality, but we can only intentionally do that as we set aside the old self, the old limiting beliefs, and we put on the new self created to be like God. In Isaiah 43:18. Forget the former things. Do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing. Like, yes, that's what it was like before, because that's what we were thinking before. But if we can put on a new thinking, we can produce different results. So scripture does not teach goal achievement through effort. It teaches transformation through, as it's described, death and rebirth. So the old self must be resolved or laid down or released into the previous year before the new self or new life can emerge. I had a similar financial situation when I realized this, where in the beginning of the year, I made a decision that I didn't know how, I didn't know when, but I would. Well, I didn't know how, but I was going to make $60,000 by the end of the year. This was back in 2013. I had a job, so there was nothing on my radar that would have helped me produce $60,000. And I had done the work to look at my beliefs around money. I resolved them into the previous year. I set this goal. Couple months later, I meet this guy. I was able to help him out with some recovery stuff. He was drinking a lot, and he liked my story. And he got into recovery. And he called me a couple months later, invited me to his office. I went down to his offices, and at that time, there were some young investors pitching him on a business idea. It was in an area that I had a really strong expertise. He asked me what I thought. I gave him my opinion. Then he called me that night and said, hey, if you want to have a significant stake in this company, I've negotiated it for you for very little money at that time, I had very little money, but I made the investment. And then at the end of the year, I got my investment back plus $60,000. Right. But my old money consciousness needed to die in order to achieve that goal. So you don't create a new year by trying harder. You create it by deciding who no longer gets to run Your life this year doesn't need better goals. It needs deeper resolution. So you don't need to become a better version of yourself through force. It's about settling the internal argument about who you are. And when that inner conflict is resolved, behavior follows naturally. Discipline becomes easier, action becomes clear, momentum becomes inevitable, and synchronicities and coincidences show up like it's nothing. So as you move into this new year, don't just ask, what do I want? What I'm inviting you to do is ask, who do I need to be? Who am I deciding to be? Because when your identity shifts, reality has no choice but to follow. So I hope you love this episode as much as I love sharing it with you. If this resonated with you, there's some amazing resources in the show notes. Uh, we've got my event coming up. If you want to go deeper with me, we've got my course, which will take you step by step through my entire framework, my book, which is on Amazon right now. 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