Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And I'm going to share with you one of the phrases that I hate to hear the most.

It is, I know.

No, I know that.

I know that I. I know.

No, as I say to my clients, no, you don't.

Because if you have to say to me, I know, I know that.

Yeah, I know, Rhonda, I know, I know.

That actually lets me know that you don't know.

Because if you do know, you'd be listening to something deeper when I'm sharing with you, when I'm saying something to you instead of focused on, I know, I know, I know that already.

No, you don't know that.

So think about where in your life you say, I know, I know, and you actually believe you do, because I know.

Like me, when I used to say, I know, I know, I know, I actually thought I knew, too.

But what I've learned over my last two plus decades, teaching others on how to be fearless is whenever I say, I know, I'm really advertising how little I know.

Or more precisely, how little I've embodied it.

Because if I have embodied it, I don't have to say, I know.

It already shows up that I know.

And more importantly, I'm living it.

And I never have to get defensive and say, I know, I know, I know.

Now, if you've ever asked me a question or I've ever coached you, you know that I say, yeah, don't know.

So pay attention to this today.

How often you want to say, I know, or even it's silently in your head, yeah, I know that already.

I know that already.

I know that already.

Because the next question I want you to ask you is, yes, but am I living it?

Am I living it?

Am I living it?

Because if you say, I know, and the answer to am I living it?

Is no, no, then you know the answer, right?

You actually don't know.

So are you willing to give up?

I know.

No, I know.

Yeah, I know that.

I know that.

I know that.

Yeah.

Yeah, I know that already.

I don't mind the other type of I know, which is, yeah, there's a knowingness of there.

I'm knowing something here.

There's something that I'm knowing that's a very different.

That's from a centered, spiritual place, a deep, grounded place, but I know.

I know, I know, I know, I know.

Yeah, I know, I know, I know.

Always cuts off communication, cuts off creativity, cuts off connection, cuts off connection.

It's very hard to communicate, to connect with someone who's constantly saying, I know.

Because you can never contribute.

You can never connect.

You can never contribute to that person.

Because basically they're saying, yeah, I know that.

Yep, I know that.

Yeah, I know.

So anything I say or you say to that person, they're just gonna say.

I know, I know, I know.

Because you contributing and you connecting actually makes them feel stupid or ignorant or lazy or inadequate or you could go on and on.

So by all means, I hope that you grow into I know that I E. From the sense of there's a knowingness otherwise any other time you say.

I know, I know, I know, I.

Know, give that one up instead.

Have the humility, the grace and the open heartedness and the open ears to actually ask yourself, hmm, what is it they're saying besides what I think I already know?

What else is there here to learn?

What else can I gain?

And maybe this isn't about me.

Maybe they need to say it for their sake.

Maybe my job is just to listen.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you, Sa.