Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you're doing well.

I hope you feel good, I hope you feel loved and understood,

inspired and expansive. And if that's not the case, if you're

walking through a dark phase in your life, or if you're having

a, an off day, I hope I can bring you some value, I hope I

can make you feel less alone and support it. If ever you want to

meet in person and engage in a coaching journey, I have a

physical location now where we can meet in a yard and a forest,

where I'd love to learn more about your history, your story,

and then help you out with all the tools I have for you to live

the most juiciest, courageous, expansive life that you would

want to imagine for yourself. I'm also happy to connect over

zoom, if you cannot make it out to the year if you live a little

bit farther away or abroad. That's always a way to connect

as well. So and last episodes, I have talked about your mind and

its addiction to negative thinking anxious thinking

because it wants to protect you. I also provided a tool on how to

start out your journey when it comes to becoming a detective.

Have your thoughts where do they come from? What triggers your

mind? Or your ego? And how can you become more aware of what's

true and what is not. So I used words like never, and always

thoughts that are very radical and one sided. I usually coming

from a place of anxiety and wanting to protect, but they're

not always serving us. Yes, they can protect us from potential

pain, but they can also keep us locked in and small and make us

feel inadequate and not enough. Even more than we might be

feeling already. So today I want to keep on going when it comes

to the tools when it comes to stuff that you can do in order

to get behind the scenes of your anxious thoughts. And your

addiction to negative thoughts. So as I just mentioned, the

first thing is to dis tense yourself from your thoughts and

to see them as a separate entity. And to ask this entity,

right really imagining a person sitting on a chair in front of

you with these thoughts. Hey, where are these thoughts coming

from? What do you want me to be aware of? What do you want me to

feel protected? Of? What do you want to protect me? From what is

threatening? And where's this coming from this so go back to

your childhood to your teenage years, or maybe to your

kindergarten days. become curious about where your

thoughts have first evolved from it's usually an event that was

painful, disappointing, a wound that hasn't healed yet. And to

really ask it Hey, what do you want? And what is the opposite

true? What What if the opposite was true? And it's an

interesting journey to engage on like I'm I'm still going through

that right? I'm not fully healed and enlightened and far from

that. I get in behind my thoughts and my feelings and my

triggers. And I just wonder Hey, what is this? Did I not take

enough care of myself today? And I'm just anxious because I'm

actually thirsty and eager to move my body? Is there really a

problem and it needs solving? Or what if the opposite was true?

And to become more playful with this ride to you know we do that

and exercising? As a physiotherapist I trained

athlete eats. And you don't only exercise walking forwards and

sprinting, but also going backwards and crawling on the

floor. Because you want to keep as agile as possible. So it's

not only one side at that you train your mind and your body,

but from all angles from from very diverse places. And so to

allow your mind to be a little bit more open again, by asking

questions, is this true? What if the opposite was true? And

especially when it comes to people, and we have very, you

know, strong opinions about a certain person in our life that

is difficult to handle? To also they're like, question, really,

are they really that annoying? Are they really always this way,

never that way. That way, you can totally hear relationships

in your life as well in questioning your assumptions and

your conclusions that you make about certain people. And and

can open up conversations that can be very healing. And maybe

you want that person in your life, but maybe in a different

way than they used to be in your life. Another thing that you can

do in order to tackle your negative and anxious thoughts is

guided meditation, meditation, allowing silence, and being

mindful. And the first tool that I provided you here is the

reframing, looking at a situation or a person from a

different angle. And mindfulness is basically the umbrella of

reframing. So becoming mindful of your thoughts, becoming

mindful of your surroundings, really engaging with what is

going on, right around you. I'm never against cell phones on the

use of social media or anything. But we need a balance, we need

to sometimes take a break from our screen, and really deeply

engage with the environment right around us, be it the

people becoming more curious about the people around us,

again, the animals that we take care of, or the animals in our

environment, if you have plans to spend time with plants, and

I'm not going to get too esoteric here, but every living

being deserves your unconditional attention,

presence and love. And to really engage in that. And to become

curious about it. curious and open and approaching all living

beings with an open heart and wanting to know more wanting to

learn. So mindfulness is an extremely valuable tool on your

journey to understand your mind, understand your anxiety, or even

depression, if you struggle with that. And knowing where it's

coming from and finding out if you can heal that part inside of

yourself. And being mindful and how you interact with people,

and how you go about your little habits, how you get out of bed

in the morning, how you brush your teeth, how you eat, how you

drink, how you drive, how you speak, and just becoming an

observant without judgment, because that is you, you are the

entity that observes you are not your thoughts, you are not the

activities that you do and all the accomplishments that you you

know, engage in long form, goals you set yourself to, you are the

entity that observes all these thoughts, all these behaviors

are these relationships. And by discerning by going through the

mind clutter and and really becoming like a little bit more

radical, a little bit more clear about what you want to allow in

your mind and what not. And by becoming more aware of yourself

and your patterns without judgment without harsh judgment.

You can then change in a way that feels good for you and is

authentic, but the important thing is when you become more

and more self aware, to not judge yourself because what we

tend to do when we start observing ourselves and seeing

stuff that we don't really like, and we judge it as bad as, you

know, sociopath as stupid as totally behind times, and

backwards, I meant sorry. We beat ourselves up to a point

where we throw everything. We throw everything off the table

and then quit. This is by the way, what happens with awesome

new year's resolutions, we are so unrealistic. We are so

radical and harsh with our new year's resolutions that probably

by March or latest by now, people have totally given up

with their New Year's resolution, and maybe even

gotten worse when it comes to mental health, emotional agility

and intelligence and physical health. If your goals are too

unrealistic, or if they are realistic, but you cannot handle

setbacks and little failures along the way, you will be worse

off than if you never had new year's resolutions. And same

goes with you becoming more aware of your thoughts and your

anxiety and maybe your depression, to ask, Hey, what is

it that needs to be expressed and and shown to the world? What

needs to be put on the table? What needs to be said? What

needs to be experienced? What is it that makes me sad? What is it

that makes me feel unworthy, unseen and small? And what part

of my life? In what part of my life did that start? And how can

we heal this? So reframing questioning your thoughts,

especially the negative ones, especially the anxious ones and

detaching from them, knowing that you are not your thoughts,

your thoughts might be an old software that hasn't gotten

updated yet. And you're still dragging on and think that it is

you you identify with your thoughts. Try to observe your

thoughts without judgment and become more and more aware of

yourself. And mindfulness. become mindful with everything

you consume, be it mental content, or physical like food,

or activities you engage in and become very interested in

yourself. I was looking for the right word to word here. But

yeah, become curious and interested about yourself and

see how that changes your relationship to yourself. And

then a third thing I want to share with you is self care. The

better you take care of yourself. And we can start with

nutrition, adequate water and take vitamins, minerals, micro

new nutrients and go further into clothing. Are you wearing

clothing that makes you feel comfortable? Or are you wearing

clothing that just looks a certain way but actually doesn't

make you feel good? Your workplace? Is it a space that

makes you feel good, inspired and creative, expansive and

loved and appreciated? When it comes to your family or the

people that you spend time with? Are these people encouraging

loving, challenging you in the right areas of your life? How do

you feel overall and then learning to find out what self

care practices could benefit you? It can be journaling. It

can be guided meditation. It can be relaxation classes, it can be

walks in the forest, it can be reading a book, it can be you

know setting like dates in your calendar where you want to talk

to loved ones and connect with people around you that you love

and respect. There's all kinds of self care practices that you

can engage in. The better you take care of yourself. The more

positive and pleasant your thoughts and emotions will be

because overall you feel good and a person that feels good and

content and enough and seen and heard. Will less likely Do you

feel inadequate and not enough? And that in turn will positively

affect their mind and how they perceive the world. All right,

my dear friend, I think that was a lot for today. I'm going to

leave you with that. With so much love and always there for

you if you want to reach out and ask questions if you want to hop

on a on you know sync up call to see if we want to work together

in the near future, or for you to request an episode. If there

is something that you want to learn more about. I'm always

there for you and happy to serve you in the best way I can. Take

care. Until next time, bye bye