1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:00,560 Foreign. 2 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:12,640 But I'm so thankful for all the pastors, wives and ministers 3 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:14,280 that help hold up this church. 4 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:16,480 But they're not the only people holding up these church. 5 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:21,400 This church, these women are part of a team that hold up this 6 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:21,840 church. 7 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,800 And so if you're a connect group leader, if you serve on a team, 8 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,760 if you're a part of our kids ministry, thank you for doing what 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:28,240 you do. 10 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:32,610 Because, you know, if you, if they went on vacation, you'd feel 11 00:00:32,610 --> 00:00:32,890 it. 12 00:00:33,450 --> 00:00:34,490 You would feel it. 13 00:00:34,970 --> 00:00:38,330 And they do so much to hold up this church. 14 00:00:38,330 --> 00:00:41,850 And when you're in prayer ministry and you hear the intercession 15 00:00:41,850 --> 00:00:44,970 going up, that's a part of her sacrifice. 16 00:00:45,050 --> 00:00:48,650 When you see the kids ministry and all that's going on there, that's 17 00:00:48,650 --> 00:00:49,210 a part of Ms. 18 00:00:49,210 --> 00:00:49,730 Christy. 19 00:00:49,730 --> 00:00:50,970 That's what we call her in our house. 20 00:00:50,970 --> 00:00:51,250 Ms. 21 00:00:51,250 --> 00:00:51,810 Christy. 22 00:00:51,810 --> 00:00:52,810 You don't have to call her Ms. 23 00:00:52,810 --> 00:00:54,410 Christy, but that's what we like to do. 24 00:00:55,130 --> 00:00:58,250 You know, you see that, the kids doing their thing, that's a 25 00:00:58,250 --> 00:00:59,290 part of her leadership. 26 00:00:59,290 --> 00:01:05,440 And Crystal, anytime we got something good to eat, you could 27 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:06,360 thank Crystal. 28 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,040 Cause her hospitality gift serves this church. 29 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:10,400 And we're so grateful for you guys. 30 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,600 But really quick, I know I probably said your name. 31 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:15,840 Just go really briefly, just kind of introduce yourself all the 32 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:17,200 way down the line, and then we're gonna jump in. 33 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:19,000 Are you excited to learn from these women? 34 00:01:19,320 --> 00:01:20,040 Me too. 35 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:21,400 Me too. 36 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:23,960 Well, I'm Pastor Jocelyn. 37 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:27,600 I'm the campus pastor alongside my husband at this church, 38 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:29,160 at this local campus. 39 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,640 And we've been married for 20 years. 40 00:01:33,900 --> 00:01:34,820 I have two children. 41 00:01:34,820 --> 00:01:36,460 I'm a mother of two sons. 42 00:01:36,860 --> 00:01:37,660 Son, Mom. 43 00:01:38,380 --> 00:01:40,460 One is 20 and one is 12. 44 00:01:41,020 --> 00:01:41,820 Do the math. 45 00:01:41,900 --> 00:01:43,980 Yeah, we, you know. 46 00:01:45,820 --> 00:01:46,540 It'S all good. 47 00:01:46,540 --> 00:01:47,420 It's under the blood. 48 00:01:49,020 --> 00:01:50,140 Hi, I'm Christy. 49 00:01:50,140 --> 00:01:52,380 And like Pastor Julie, I was gonna call you Ms. 50 00:01:52,380 --> 00:01:52,940 Julie. 51 00:01:53,980 --> 00:01:55,380 I lead the kids ministry. 52 00:01:55,380 --> 00:01:57,260 I have two boys, nine and seven. 53 00:01:57,260 --> 00:01:58,420 I'm a homeschool mom. 54 00:01:58,420 --> 00:02:00,140 I also have a private practice. 55 00:02:00,810 --> 00:02:03,850 But my favorite thing is to be a daughter amongst all things. 56 00:02:08,170 --> 00:02:10,250 Hi, my name is Lindsay Eversley. 57 00:02:10,410 --> 00:02:17,690 I serve on the prayer team alongside with my husband cj. 58 00:02:18,010 --> 00:02:20,170 We have a blended family of three. 59 00:02:21,290 --> 00:02:27,030 I work in NYU pediatrics unit amongst all children all, all day, 60 00:02:27,030 --> 00:02:27,630 all along. 61 00:02:28,110 --> 00:02:31,350 And I love what I do and I love this church. 62 00:02:31,350 --> 00:02:32,830 I love my church. 63 00:02:32,990 --> 00:02:33,630 Amen. 64 00:02:33,710 --> 00:02:34,270 Amen. 65 00:02:34,270 --> 00:02:35,110 Make me cry. 66 00:02:35,110 --> 00:02:36,430 And your nails look good. 67 00:02:36,670 --> 00:02:38,750 Okay, that needed to be said. 68 00:02:38,750 --> 00:02:39,310 Go ahead. 69 00:02:40,030 --> 00:02:41,350 My name is Crystal. 70 00:02:41,350 --> 00:02:42,190 I'm a mom. 71 00:02:42,270 --> 00:02:46,590 Two, three, and God willing, four through adoption. 72 00:02:47,790 --> 00:02:50,350 I am sorry. 73 00:02:50,910 --> 00:02:53,030 I'm a paraprofessional by trade. 74 00:02:53,030 --> 00:02:54,470 So I'm surrounded by children all day. 75 00:02:54,470 --> 00:02:58,240 And I'm also a teen mom to my daughter's softball team swim. 76 00:02:58,390 --> 00:03:01,550 So mommy life is mommying, and you. 77 00:03:01,550 --> 00:03:02,470 Do it so well. 78 00:03:03,430 --> 00:03:05,110 You got everything in that car. 79 00:03:05,430 --> 00:03:08,710 She's one of those moms when you're like, I need a snack. 80 00:03:08,710 --> 00:03:09,750 She's like, hold on. 81 00:03:10,870 --> 00:03:12,070 I'm like, we need a chair. 82 00:03:12,070 --> 00:03:13,110 She's like, hold on. 83 00:03:14,550 --> 00:03:16,390 Ivan was like, our chairs rock. 84 00:03:16,390 --> 00:03:17,910 I'm like, wow, you're one of those. 85 00:03:18,550 --> 00:03:20,070 You're one of those parents. 86 00:03:20,070 --> 00:03:23,590 Like, you got everything in the car, but we're going to jump 87 00:03:23,590 --> 00:03:24,390 into it today. 88 00:03:24,870 --> 00:03:27,430 And I also wanna recognize. 89 00:03:27,430 --> 00:03:31,070 I know my husband just said, you know, if this is a day that brings, 90 00:03:32,350 --> 00:03:36,110 you know, just some hurt, some pain, maybe you wanna be a mom. 91 00:03:36,110 --> 00:03:39,270 Maybe you're struggling with infertility or maybe you have wounds 92 00:03:39,270 --> 00:03:41,950 from your mom or whatever, just sit tight, lean in. 93 00:03:42,190 --> 00:03:43,510 There's healing for you today. 94 00:03:43,510 --> 00:03:46,830 And I just wanna prophesy that over you, over our online community. 95 00:03:46,990 --> 00:03:48,310 Like, just hang in there. 96 00:03:48,310 --> 00:03:48,950 Like, we're gonna. 97 00:03:48,950 --> 00:03:50,910 God's gonna do something at the end of this service. 98 00:03:51,230 --> 00:03:52,990 So I just want you to have your heart open. 99 00:03:54,110 --> 00:03:56,670 But really quick, we're gonna just jump right in there. 100 00:03:56,750 --> 00:03:57,150 How? 101 00:03:58,330 --> 00:04:02,330 The call to serve your family and others without losing yourself. 102 00:04:02,330 --> 00:04:05,130 Cause you know us moms, we will lose ourselves real quick. 103 00:04:05,370 --> 00:04:05,810 Yeah. 104 00:04:05,810 --> 00:04:06,170 Yeah. 105 00:04:06,170 --> 00:04:06,970 And you know what? 106 00:04:07,210 --> 00:04:14,970 Also, there's boundaries in identity, in Christ versus self care 107 00:04:14,970 --> 00:04:15,650 and stewardship. 108 00:04:15,650 --> 00:04:16,650 So that's really important. 109 00:04:16,970 --> 00:04:18,170 We need self care. 110 00:04:18,890 --> 00:04:19,290 Right? 111 00:04:19,290 --> 00:04:20,330 We need self care. 112 00:04:20,490 --> 00:04:23,850 And so if any of you wanna answer that question, like, what 113 00:04:23,850 --> 00:04:27,850 does self care that look like for you, where it's like your identity 114 00:04:27,850 --> 00:04:30,810 in Christ, but also self care and stewardship. 115 00:04:31,450 --> 00:04:31,930 Yeah. 116 00:04:31,930 --> 00:04:35,050 So I love my mom's house now. 117 00:04:35,130 --> 00:04:35,970 So I go there. 118 00:04:35,970 --> 00:04:37,210 That's my oasis. 119 00:04:37,690 --> 00:04:39,050 And I just sit there. 120 00:04:39,050 --> 00:04:41,770 And she cooks sometimes for me all the time. 121 00:04:41,770 --> 00:04:45,210 Not just sometimes, because I'm always doing it in my house, 122 00:04:45,210 --> 00:04:46,450 so that's my favorite place. 123 00:04:46,450 --> 00:04:50,610 But sometimes I also just sit in silence at night when my husband 124 00:04:50,610 --> 00:04:52,050 and my kids are asleep. 125 00:04:52,210 --> 00:04:54,530 And I'm like, okay, this is my time with the Lord. 126 00:04:54,530 --> 00:04:56,290 Sometimes, like, I just did this recently. 127 00:04:56,290 --> 00:04:58,370 I just sit there in his presence. 128 00:04:58,610 --> 00:04:59,810 I don't say anything. 129 00:04:59,890 --> 00:05:01,890 I just want to be comforted by him. 130 00:05:02,130 --> 00:05:03,890 And it just refreshes me. 131 00:05:03,890 --> 00:05:05,250 But also when I'm just. 132 00:05:08,930 --> 00:05:12,890 When I just want to just be in my car by myself, listening to whatever 133 00:05:12,890 --> 00:05:15,770 I want to listen to, that's also my favorite time. 134 00:05:15,770 --> 00:05:18,690 Because I don't have to be anything for anybody. 135 00:05:18,930 --> 00:05:21,350 And that's my way of refreshing myself. 136 00:05:21,350 --> 00:05:25,110 And my car used to be where I used to cry a lot, and I used to 137 00:05:25,110 --> 00:05:28,830 just cry out to the Lord, and now it's moments that I just praise 138 00:05:28,830 --> 00:05:29,150 him. 139 00:05:29,390 --> 00:05:32,190 So that's also a time that I feel refreshed as well. 140 00:05:34,910 --> 00:05:36,510 Yeah, you could clap for that. 141 00:05:36,670 --> 00:05:37,390 It's okay. 142 00:05:39,470 --> 00:05:40,110 That's good. 143 00:05:40,110 --> 00:05:40,710 I like that. 144 00:05:40,710 --> 00:05:44,190 Turning your place of pain into like an altar. 145 00:05:44,750 --> 00:05:45,390 That's good. 146 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:46,120 Go ahead. 147 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:51,560 So for me, thinking about this question was we're always labeled 148 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:55,760 as women, as like daughter, sister, aunt, niece. 149 00:05:55,760 --> 00:06:00,920 And so being a mother was a big priority for me in serving my 150 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:02,200 family and serving them well. 151 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:06,880 Being adopted, it came with a lot of wounds and, you know, the 152 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:07,960 feeling of rejection. 153 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:11,320 And so I took that and started serving my family. 154 00:06:12,590 --> 00:06:14,990 And serving is a big part of me. 155 00:06:15,070 --> 00:06:18,350 And I realized that it's a gift God gave me. 156 00:06:18,590 --> 00:06:22,030 But I had to come to realize that it's not who he made me. 157 00:06:22,350 --> 00:06:23,870 My identity is not serving. 158 00:06:23,870 --> 00:06:25,790 He made me crystal, just crystal. 159 00:06:26,030 --> 00:06:31,110 And so I really just have to talk to God, like, what is it that 160 00:06:31,110 --> 00:06:32,070 you want me to do today? 161 00:06:32,070 --> 00:06:34,110 Like, it's okay to say no to serving. 162 00:06:34,110 --> 00:06:37,630 It's okay to take care of yourself, time for yourself. 163 00:06:37,870 --> 00:06:41,230 And so really just asking God, okay, God, what do you want me to 164 00:06:41,230 --> 00:06:41,670 do today? 165 00:06:41,670 --> 00:06:45,540 Am I just having a chill day or am I spending the day in your 166 00:06:45,540 --> 00:06:48,260 presence and, you know, looking for you more? 167 00:06:48,580 --> 00:06:50,180 So just talking to God. 168 00:06:50,900 --> 00:06:51,300 Yeah. 169 00:06:51,300 --> 00:06:56,260 Proverbs 31:25 says strength and dignity are her clothing. 170 00:06:56,340 --> 00:06:59,060 And she laughs at the time to come. 171 00:06:59,220 --> 00:07:06,100 And so, moms, you're clothed in strength and dignity and resilience. 172 00:07:06,420 --> 00:07:08,020 And sometimes we need to be. 173 00:07:08,910 --> 00:07:11,950 We need to be everything for everyone in our families. 174 00:07:12,270 --> 00:07:16,590 And just even hearing these women talk about what they do times 175 00:07:16,590 --> 00:07:18,830 in her car, turning her pain into praise. 176 00:07:19,950 --> 00:07:24,150 Not mothering from her wounding of being adopted, but just 177 00:07:24,150 --> 00:07:24,749 being everything. 178 00:07:24,750 --> 00:07:26,830 And we are, we are everything to everyone. 179 00:07:27,950 --> 00:07:29,710 And we get to be. 180 00:07:29,710 --> 00:07:31,630 God says we're clothed in dignity. 181 00:07:31,630 --> 00:07:32,990 We're clothed in strength. 182 00:07:33,150 --> 00:07:38,430 And so as we steward ourselves and our self care, then we get to 183 00:07:38,430 --> 00:07:41,450 have strength, strength from him and just strength from rest. 184 00:07:42,410 --> 00:07:42,770 Yeah. 185 00:07:42,770 --> 00:07:45,450 And I would say like too moms, don't get it twisted. 186 00:07:45,450 --> 00:07:49,330 I know sometimes we can get in the Instagram vortex, we can get 187 00:07:49,330 --> 00:07:52,770 in the social media vortex where self care is like, okay, we 188 00:07:52,770 --> 00:07:56,770 gotta get Botox, we gotta get massages, we gotta get bubble baths 189 00:07:56,770 --> 00:08:00,650 or whatever, you know, and that might have its place, you know, 190 00:08:00,890 --> 00:08:01,610 for some. 191 00:08:01,770 --> 00:08:05,890 But like, I'll tell you what, one moment in the presence of God 192 00:08:05,890 --> 00:08:10,650 can restore years and years and years of trauma and weariness. 193 00:08:10,810 --> 00:08:13,230 And when you talk about resilience, resilience, when the 194 00:08:13,230 --> 00:08:17,470 word says, when we talk about or just hearing that word, resilience, 195 00:08:17,470 --> 00:08:21,230 I think, you know, some of us focus so hard on how hard things 196 00:08:21,230 --> 00:08:25,590 were when we were young that we forget that we serve a God that 197 00:08:25,590 --> 00:08:28,069 renews, restores, refreshes. 198 00:08:28,069 --> 00:08:31,070 And so if you had a hard childhood and you spent a lot of 199 00:08:31,070 --> 00:08:33,830 time blaming your mom, I wanna say let that go today. 200 00:08:34,230 --> 00:08:35,870 Like leave that at the altar. 201 00:08:35,870 --> 00:08:39,230 Because sometimes the self care you might need is just to get 202 00:08:39,230 --> 00:08:43,610 into the presence of God and say, I forgive, I forgive. 203 00:08:43,610 --> 00:08:47,690 Because that unforgiveness, that will wear you down and it will 204 00:08:47,690 --> 00:08:50,530 give you more eye bags than when that Botox wears off. 205 00:08:52,850 --> 00:08:54,050 If you know, you know. 206 00:08:55,650 --> 00:08:56,930 I may or may not know. 207 00:08:59,330 --> 00:09:00,890 You cannot confirm nor deny. 208 00:09:00,890 --> 00:09:02,210 I cannot confirm nor deny. 209 00:09:05,570 --> 00:09:08,370 But so you know, Pastor Jocelyn, you shared about something 210 00:09:08,450 --> 00:09:09,570 like in the power of. 211 00:09:09,890 --> 00:09:12,330 You were talking about Pastor Mike's sermon last week in first 212 00:09:12,330 --> 00:09:12,690 service. 213 00:09:13,090 --> 00:09:14,510 Yeah, I want you to share that. 214 00:09:14,590 --> 00:09:18,270 Mark 6:31, it says, and he said to them, come away by yourselves 215 00:09:18,670 --> 00:09:21,550 to a desolate place and rest a while. 216 00:09:22,030 --> 00:09:26,430 For many were coming and going and they had no leisure even to eat. 217 00:09:26,430 --> 00:09:30,510 And so even self care as a mom, where it's like, okay, I don't 218 00:09:30,510 --> 00:09:35,230 want to lose myself to momming or just doing all of these tasks 219 00:09:35,230 --> 00:09:38,710 or things for everyone or be everything to everyone, it's like 220 00:09:38,710 --> 00:09:43,660 finding rest, going away for a while and being able to rest and 221 00:09:43,660 --> 00:09:48,380 not like feeling guilty about doing that because we need that moms 222 00:09:48,380 --> 00:09:49,980 like you need to be able to rest. 223 00:09:50,060 --> 00:09:54,300 And so even Apostle Mike talked about that last week, airplane 224 00:09:54,300 --> 00:09:54,700 mode. 225 00:09:54,700 --> 00:09:58,980 And it's not like I'm not talking about ignoring your whole 226 00:09:58,980 --> 00:10:05,900 family and just like leaving destruction and chaos, but like if 227 00:10:06,110 --> 00:10:09,910 we're clothed in strength and dignity and if God says go away for 228 00:10:09,910 --> 00:10:14,590 a while, Jesus went away for a while to pray before the Father where 229 00:10:14,590 --> 00:10:18,030 God was the center of his world. 230 00:10:18,030 --> 00:10:21,350 And we need to be able to do that with prayer and self care, but 231 00:10:21,350 --> 00:10:25,670 just even resting in him, getting rest, taking a nap if you 232 00:10:25,670 --> 00:10:26,190 need to. 233 00:10:27,390 --> 00:10:28,030 And a what? 234 00:10:28,510 --> 00:10:29,390 And a snack. 235 00:10:30,830 --> 00:10:32,030 Rest and a snack. 236 00:10:32,270 --> 00:10:35,590 Or just even unplugging. 237 00:10:35,670 --> 00:10:39,270 Don't do the laundry, don't fold the laundry, Rest. 238 00:10:40,150 --> 00:10:41,270 I hear you, Lord. 239 00:10:42,710 --> 00:10:43,670 Yes Lord. 240 00:10:44,150 --> 00:10:49,550 But also I wanna speak because I think like in the, you know, as 241 00:10:49,550 --> 00:10:52,750 a woman, you know, who's got kids that are in their teenagers, 242 00:10:52,750 --> 00:10:55,670 but I also have small, you know, a smaller child. 243 00:10:55,990 --> 00:10:59,990 I wanna say respecting the. 244 00:11:00,070 --> 00:11:01,910 Your where's my nana's. 245 00:11:01,910 --> 00:11:02,950 Where's my grandma's? 246 00:11:03,270 --> 00:11:04,070 All right, Amen. 247 00:11:04,310 --> 00:11:09,150 Respecting that generation as us moms, knowing that they need that 248 00:11:09,150 --> 00:11:10,070 time as well. 249 00:11:10,470 --> 00:11:13,990 Cause I think sometimes we could tend to use our moms, like, 250 00:11:13,990 --> 00:11:16,230 you know, dropping off our kids, like, I need this. 251 00:11:16,230 --> 00:11:20,550 But it's like, okay, but they also need that and honoring that 252 00:11:20,550 --> 00:11:22,630 next generation by saying, you know what? 253 00:11:22,790 --> 00:11:23,550 They need their. 254 00:11:23,550 --> 00:11:24,790 They served their time. 255 00:11:25,190 --> 00:11:31,070 Not that it was prison, but, you know, they did their thing, you 256 00:11:31,070 --> 00:11:34,670 know, and we, us, as daughters, as adult daughters, we 257 00:11:34,670 --> 00:11:37,270 have to respect that next generation and say, you know what? 258 00:11:37,270 --> 00:11:38,790 This is not their responsibility. 259 00:11:39,270 --> 00:11:43,430 Maybe a day here, a day there, but this is not their burden to carry. 260 00:11:43,430 --> 00:11:43,870 This is. 261 00:11:43,870 --> 00:11:45,670 My kids are my responsibility. 262 00:11:45,990 --> 00:11:50,150 And really honoring that next generation and not making them. 263 00:11:50,230 --> 00:11:54,230 Not making your mom pay the price for the things that you didn't 264 00:11:54,230 --> 00:11:54,870 get growing up. 265 00:11:55,770 --> 00:11:58,330 You gotta pay that healing forward, not backwards. 266 00:11:59,370 --> 00:11:59,770 Okay? 267 00:11:59,770 --> 00:12:00,730 That's all I gotta say. 268 00:12:02,410 --> 00:12:05,050 All right, we'll let that one sit for a second. 269 00:12:07,690 --> 00:12:12,210 What does biblical submission look like in modern marriage? 270 00:12:12,210 --> 00:12:16,090 And how do you walk it out with strength and dignity? 271 00:12:16,490 --> 00:12:20,810 What do you ladies gotta say just before you answer that? 272 00:12:20,810 --> 00:12:21,130 Right? 273 00:12:21,850 --> 00:12:25,570 It's misconceptions in this world. 274 00:12:25,570 --> 00:12:30,850 And, Crystal, I want to kick it to you quickly, but it's mutual 275 00:12:30,850 --> 00:12:31,970 submission, right? 276 00:12:32,210 --> 00:12:33,730 And it's an empowerment. 277 00:12:33,730 --> 00:12:34,770 It's not oppression. 278 00:12:34,770 --> 00:12:36,810 And there's so many misconceptions. 279 00:12:36,810 --> 00:12:40,250 Like, even in the church, where it's like, wives, submit to 280 00:12:40,250 --> 00:12:41,810 your husbands, right? 281 00:12:41,810 --> 00:12:47,570 And so Ephesians 5:21-25 says, submitting to one another out of 282 00:12:47,570 --> 00:12:52,930 reverence for Christ, wives, submit to your own husbands as the 283 00:12:52,930 --> 00:12:57,020 Lord, and for the husband is the head of the wife, even though 284 00:12:57,020 --> 00:13:01,100 Christ is the head of the church, his body, and himself its 285 00:13:01,100 --> 00:13:01,620 savior. 286 00:13:02,100 --> 00:13:07,220 Now, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit 287 00:13:07,220 --> 00:13:08,900 in everything to their husbands. 288 00:13:08,980 --> 00:13:13,780 And husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave 289 00:13:14,020 --> 00:13:16,420 himself up for her. 290 00:13:17,140 --> 00:13:18,340 So, Crystal, go ahead. 291 00:13:20,590 --> 00:13:25,790 So when the word submission came to mind, automatically the worldly 292 00:13:25,790 --> 00:13:30,430 definition of submission came to mind, I was thinking, all right, 293 00:13:30,430 --> 00:13:33,470 like, when you think the word submission, you feel like, oh, I 294 00:13:33,470 --> 00:13:34,470 need to listen to him. 295 00:13:34,470 --> 00:13:35,950 Why do I need to listen to him? 296 00:13:36,030 --> 00:13:38,590 Like, things of that nature. 297 00:13:38,670 --> 00:13:41,830 But really walking my life with Christ this last year, I've 298 00:13:41,830 --> 00:13:44,350 learned the biblical definition of submission. 299 00:13:44,670 --> 00:13:48,440 And that sort of to love your husband and respect your husband 300 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:53,000 the way you would love and show respect to the Lord. 301 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:54,040 And so. 302 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:55,200 And we're not perfect. 303 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:56,040 I'm not perfect. 304 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,600 Literally, two weeks ago, my husband told me to do something I 305 00:13:58,600 --> 00:13:59,560 was like, yeah, okay. 306 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:02,920 And then I was like, oh, gosh, I need to go find him and repent. 307 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:03,720 But. 308 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:08,120 So no one's perfect by any means, but really remembering, like, 309 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:11,080 okay, God, I want to show you my love. 310 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:12,480 I want to show that I love you. 311 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:13,480 And how do I do that? 312 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:15,980 By showing my husband I love and repent, respect him. 313 00:14:16,620 --> 00:14:20,100 And even if you're in a rocky marriage and things aren't great 314 00:14:20,100 --> 00:14:23,900 right now, showing your spouse the love that you would show Christ, 315 00:14:25,020 --> 00:14:28,300 that does something in them, they'll see, like, God will start 316 00:14:28,300 --> 00:14:32,340 to work in their heart and just respecting your spouse. 317 00:14:32,340 --> 00:14:36,700 And so my challenge to everyone here is put down your pride 318 00:14:36,940 --> 00:14:42,300 and just show your spouse that respect, because that's all God wants, 319 00:14:42,690 --> 00:14:44,130 is your respect and your love. 320 00:14:44,370 --> 00:14:48,330 So in order to show God your respect, respect your spouse. 321 00:14:48,330 --> 00:14:48,850 That's good. 322 00:14:48,850 --> 00:14:49,330 I like. 323 00:14:49,410 --> 00:14:50,050 That's good. 324 00:14:50,050 --> 00:14:50,770 That's good. 325 00:14:53,170 --> 00:14:54,530 You had such a good word. 326 00:14:54,530 --> 00:14:55,410 Yeah, that was good. 327 00:14:55,730 --> 00:14:56,370 That was good. 328 00:14:56,370 --> 00:14:57,010 Amen. 329 00:14:57,570 --> 00:15:02,850 So when I heard about submission, it reminded me of my 330 00:15:02,930 --> 00:15:04,370 first year of marriage. 331 00:15:05,330 --> 00:15:09,250 It was hard because CJ was still battling alcoholism. 332 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:10,560 And this is what I. 333 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:14,080 I want to talk about godly counsel, okay? 334 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:16,560 From a woman with wisdom, a woman with. 335 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:18,760 That had children that went through it. 336 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,760 And I went to his mom, and she didn't take his side. 337 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:26,760 She was counsel, and she was like, you better pray for him. 338 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:28,040 You better anoint his pillow. 339 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:29,280 You better anoint his shoes. 340 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:30,040 Keep praying. 341 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:31,040 Pray without ceasing. 342 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:32,120 Let me pray for you now. 343 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,960 And I'll be like, oh, my God, I didn't sign up for this. 344 00:15:35,630 --> 00:15:38,590 And, you know, but it taught me how to tarry. 345 00:15:38,910 --> 00:15:44,270 Because as wives, as a mom, you are the helpmate of the house. 346 00:15:44,750 --> 00:15:47,550 You are destined to be the helpmate of the house. 347 00:15:47,950 --> 00:15:51,310 So you have to understand the weight that your prayers carry. 348 00:15:51,790 --> 00:15:53,790 And I see the fruit of it. 349 00:15:54,110 --> 00:15:55,950 It is the him right there. 350 00:15:55,950 --> 00:15:57,150 You see him right there. 351 00:15:57,310 --> 00:15:59,510 You be like, wow, he's a powerful man of God. 352 00:15:59,510 --> 00:16:03,790 But you don't know the tarrying of prayers, of submitting 353 00:16:03,950 --> 00:16:06,030 that the covenant of marriages. 354 00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:07,680 Submitting as a. 355 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:08,880 Proverbs 31. 356 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:13,600 Woman not giving up, praying without seizing day and night. 357 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:15,680 And get you a godly counsel. 358 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:16,560 No gossip. 359 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,640 Get you godly counsel. 360 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:20,640 A woman that's been through it. 361 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:22,400 Yeah, we need to pray more. 362 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:23,600 Amen. 363 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:29,920 You know, Proverbs 31 says, the husband is praised at the gates 364 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:31,840 for the work of his wife. 365 00:16:32,650 --> 00:16:33,850 Come on, Come on. 366 00:16:33,850 --> 00:16:34,450 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 367 00:16:34,450 --> 00:16:36,970 Your husband is praised at the gates because of what the wife is 368 00:16:36,970 --> 00:16:37,290 doing. 369 00:16:37,450 --> 00:16:38,170 That's good. 370 00:16:39,850 --> 00:16:40,490 That's Good. 371 00:16:41,050 --> 00:16:42,410 I was ready to go ahead. 372 00:16:42,410 --> 00:16:43,850 TD Jakes, go ahead. 373 00:16:45,050 --> 00:16:46,170 It's like, yes. 374 00:16:51,210 --> 00:16:54,010 So in prayer, like, in worship, I just. 375 00:16:54,090 --> 00:16:57,610 The Lord just quickened, like, corrected me so much. 376 00:16:58,150 --> 00:17:01,710 And I just want to honor you, Pastor Julie and Pastor Jocelyn and 377 00:17:01,710 --> 00:17:04,190 just the women that you've raised, because it's taught me so 378 00:17:04,190 --> 00:17:04,470 much. 379 00:17:04,950 --> 00:17:08,350 And he was just, like, reminding me that the way he created 380 00:17:08,350 --> 00:17:12,390 Jose was intentional, and it's very different than me. 381 00:17:12,390 --> 00:17:16,750 And I'm a strong woman, and it's been a process of, like, how 382 00:17:16,750 --> 00:17:20,070 can I be strong but be submitted and respect him and love 383 00:17:20,070 --> 00:17:21,110 him and honor him? 384 00:17:21,510 --> 00:17:24,670 And we had a conversation where, you know, I was telling him. 385 00:17:24,670 --> 00:17:26,470 I was like, I don't want this to be performative. 386 00:17:26,710 --> 00:17:27,510 This is real. 387 00:17:27,510 --> 00:17:28,470 This is challenging. 388 00:17:28,470 --> 00:17:29,150 This is hard. 389 00:17:29,150 --> 00:17:29,820 We need the Lord. 390 00:17:30,610 --> 00:17:32,210 And I said, I feel like I'm failing. 391 00:17:32,210 --> 00:17:34,130 And he's like, well, I feel like I'm failing. 392 00:17:34,370 --> 00:17:36,850 And I was just, like, waking up our second son, and I started 393 00:17:36,850 --> 00:17:40,210 to cry because I'm like, lord, we just agreed that we need you, 394 00:17:40,610 --> 00:17:40,970 right? 395 00:17:40,970 --> 00:17:44,610 We just realized and just confessed to each other how much 396 00:17:44,610 --> 00:17:49,530 more we need you so you can do that work in us, so we can love each 397 00:17:49,530 --> 00:17:51,090 other the way you've called us to. 398 00:17:51,490 --> 00:17:54,130 And he just reminded me that in worship today. 399 00:17:54,290 --> 00:17:57,530 So I'm just so thankful because this panel just broke something 400 00:17:57,530 --> 00:17:58,470 off of me and. 401 00:17:58,620 --> 00:18:01,100 And is just bringing healing, even just right now. 402 00:18:01,180 --> 00:18:02,540 So I'm just so thankful. 403 00:18:04,220 --> 00:18:06,740 I just feel like you opened the door just right to. 404 00:18:06,740 --> 00:18:08,820 The next thing I wanted to talk about was, like, how do you 405 00:18:08,820 --> 00:18:11,980 handle guilt and shame when you feel like you're not enough? 406 00:18:12,380 --> 00:18:16,660 So how did you navigate, like, what did that look like for you guys? 407 00:18:16,660 --> 00:18:19,140 Like, in that moment, like, I'm not enough, and then now you 408 00:18:19,140 --> 00:18:19,900 have freedom. 409 00:18:20,060 --> 00:18:21,180 What was the bridge? 410 00:18:21,900 --> 00:18:25,100 Where's the door that we walk through to get to that next level? 411 00:18:25,860 --> 00:18:30,140 So I've been meditating on Psalm 44, which is, be angry, but 412 00:18:30,140 --> 00:18:31,700 do not sin, right? 413 00:18:32,020 --> 00:18:35,380 And, okay, I can be angry because I was suppressing my feelings. 414 00:18:35,380 --> 00:18:36,660 Again, I'm a strong woman, right? 415 00:18:36,660 --> 00:18:40,740 And I have my thoughts and my opinions, and Jose's never made me 416 00:18:40,740 --> 00:18:41,820 feel less than right. 417 00:18:41,820 --> 00:18:44,740 He's never been the kind of man that's like, no, you can't. 418 00:18:44,740 --> 00:18:46,660 He actually has always championed me. 419 00:18:46,900 --> 00:18:51,940 And then the Lord is just showing me that it's not even like 420 00:18:51,940 --> 00:18:53,500 that he necessarily has to change. 421 00:18:53,500 --> 00:18:54,260 It's my heart. 422 00:18:54,940 --> 00:18:58,020 And even last night, I just was in my room, and I was like, God, 423 00:18:58,020 --> 00:18:58,260 just. 424 00:18:58,260 --> 00:19:00,540 I don't want my heart to harden. 425 00:19:01,820 --> 00:19:02,820 Soften my heart. 426 00:19:02,820 --> 00:19:04,140 And I forgive him, right? 427 00:19:04,140 --> 00:19:04,940 Because something happened. 428 00:19:04,940 --> 00:19:06,060 I was like, I forgive him. 429 00:19:06,220 --> 00:19:10,020 And it wasn't that I had to tell him for him to, okay, great. 430 00:19:10,020 --> 00:19:10,780 That's amazing. 431 00:19:10,780 --> 00:19:14,540 It was like, lord, I forgive him and do the work in me. 432 00:19:14,940 --> 00:19:17,900 And then I prayed for him to soften his heart. 433 00:19:17,900 --> 00:19:22,060 And then we were able to come together and just mutually say, like, 434 00:19:22,060 --> 00:19:22,620 we feel. 435 00:19:22,770 --> 00:19:25,170 Feel like we're failing, but it's actually that we fall short, 436 00:19:25,410 --> 00:19:25,730 right? 437 00:19:25,730 --> 00:19:29,250 We all fall short of God's glory, which is why we need him. 438 00:19:29,570 --> 00:19:33,050 So for us to just come to that, it just brought that mutual 439 00:19:33,050 --> 00:19:37,370 submission, just even now, of just like, okay, we both agree we 440 00:19:37,370 --> 00:19:37,890 need Him. 441 00:19:37,970 --> 00:19:40,770 Now we just have to rely even more on him. 442 00:19:40,770 --> 00:19:43,450 And it releases the shame and the guilt, right? 443 00:19:43,450 --> 00:19:45,570 Because you both confess one to another. 444 00:19:46,050 --> 00:19:48,820 And so it's grace over perfection, right? 445 00:19:48,820 --> 00:19:53,180 And so 2 Corinthians 12, 9 says, but he said to me, my grace 446 00:19:53,180 --> 00:19:57,660 is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. 447 00:19:58,380 --> 00:19:59,980 In our weakness. 448 00:19:59,980 --> 00:20:02,620 His power is made perfect in us. 449 00:20:02,620 --> 00:20:06,860 And one thing I just want to say, Pastor Julie, man, I remember 450 00:20:06,860 --> 00:20:09,300 there's times where you've admitted to me, like, oh, it's in 451 00:20:09,300 --> 00:20:10,060 my weakness. 452 00:20:10,380 --> 00:20:12,700 Where I'm like, girl, that was the best message you preached. 453 00:20:12,700 --> 00:20:14,540 And you were like, it is in my weakness. 454 00:20:15,380 --> 00:20:18,340 And I remember just like, even, like, kind of going through 455 00:20:18,340 --> 00:20:20,620 that of like, oh, my gosh, I gotta do this. 456 00:20:20,620 --> 00:20:21,380 I gotta do this. 457 00:20:21,380 --> 00:20:23,460 And she's like, it's in your weakness, Joss. 458 00:20:23,620 --> 00:20:25,940 It's in your weakness that, you know, they call me Joss. 459 00:20:26,180 --> 00:20:30,020 It's in your weakness that he's made perfect and he's made powerful 460 00:20:30,260 --> 00:20:31,420 in our weaknesses. 461 00:20:31,420 --> 00:20:34,660 And so we sometimes fall into a comparison trap. 462 00:20:35,060 --> 00:20:40,740 As moms, we have mom, guilt and shame, society, what it's done 463 00:20:41,140 --> 00:20:45,130 as mothers and women, what it's feeding us, right? 464 00:20:45,290 --> 00:20:49,690 And so what are some of the shame and, like, even comparison 465 00:20:49,690 --> 00:20:51,770 traps that it's like, his grace is sufficient. 466 00:20:54,890 --> 00:20:57,290 Feeling, like, you don't have enough time in the day. 467 00:20:58,250 --> 00:21:01,530 Like, you fell short because of lack of time management. 468 00:21:02,330 --> 00:21:04,010 And so for me, God is still. 469 00:21:04,330 --> 00:21:06,050 He's literally working on that with me. 470 00:21:06,050 --> 00:21:09,610 Like, I'm realizing that can't say yes to everything. 471 00:21:10,170 --> 00:21:12,690 And because if you say yes to everything and then you don't, you 472 00:21:12,690 --> 00:21:14,730 fall short, you start to condemn yourself. 473 00:21:15,750 --> 00:21:19,190 But then, like, also, the enemy wants you to say yes to everything 474 00:21:19,190 --> 00:21:22,550 so you could fall short of his snare because he's always set in 475 00:21:22,550 --> 00:21:23,430 snares, right? 476 00:21:23,830 --> 00:21:26,870 So then, like, when you realize the tactics of the Enemy. 477 00:21:26,870 --> 00:21:28,710 And that's the major thing. 478 00:21:28,950 --> 00:21:29,270 Now. 479 00:21:29,270 --> 00:21:31,670 You could go and confess to another. 480 00:21:32,630 --> 00:21:35,590 James 5:16 says, Confess to another and be healed. 481 00:21:35,670 --> 00:21:38,070 You have to have an accountability partner. 482 00:21:38,070 --> 00:21:41,990 It is important not only as mothers, wives, men too. 483 00:21:42,310 --> 00:21:44,670 Accountability is everything because you can't. 484 00:21:44,670 --> 00:21:46,870 The enemy can't set up an open door for you. 485 00:21:47,890 --> 00:21:50,130 You like, I confess, so what do you have on me? 486 00:21:50,130 --> 00:21:53,970 And then after that, you start to declare what God says. 487 00:21:54,130 --> 00:21:55,810 Replace the lies with truth. 488 00:21:55,890 --> 00:21:57,490 I had to do that Tuesday. 489 00:21:57,890 --> 00:21:59,690 I was like, I am the head and not the tail. 490 00:21:59,690 --> 00:22:00,770 I am a beneath not. 491 00:22:00,770 --> 00:22:02,050 I have a sound mind. 492 00:22:02,050 --> 00:22:02,850 You liar. 493 00:22:02,850 --> 00:22:05,770 I was, like, going in hard because I was like, no, the devil's 494 00:22:05,770 --> 00:22:06,370 a liar. 495 00:22:06,530 --> 00:22:07,250 And we already. 496 00:22:07,250 --> 00:22:08,450 He's already defeated. 497 00:22:08,770 --> 00:22:12,370 Like, why do we let him win when it says he is defeated? 498 00:22:12,690 --> 00:22:14,450 So we have to know who we are. 499 00:22:15,020 --> 00:22:16,060 We have to know who we are. 500 00:22:16,060 --> 00:22:17,980 The power that we hold in Jesus Christ. 501 00:22:18,220 --> 00:22:18,940 We have to. 502 00:22:18,940 --> 00:22:20,820 We serve the one true living God. 503 00:22:20,820 --> 00:22:22,060 There is no other. 504 00:22:22,300 --> 00:22:25,540 So we have all this authority and we've given it to the enemy. 505 00:22:25,540 --> 00:22:25,780 No. 506 00:22:25,780 --> 00:22:26,620 He's a liar. 507 00:22:26,940 --> 00:22:27,500 Amen. 508 00:22:27,740 --> 00:22:28,380 That's good. 509 00:22:28,460 --> 00:22:31,099 You know, I was thinking when we were talking about shame. 510 00:22:31,500 --> 00:22:32,860 Shame, shackles. 511 00:22:33,260 --> 00:22:35,500 But the power of Christ rests. 512 00:22:37,820 --> 00:22:42,240 So if you're constantly feeling like, I'm not enough, that 513 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:44,200 is not the Holy Spirit. 514 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:49,080 That is not God trying to tell you, you need to read your Bible 515 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:49,360 more. 516 00:22:49,360 --> 00:22:50,880 Of course we need to do all those things. 517 00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:51,640 We know that. 518 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,360 But when it's shame, that is. 519 00:22:56,360 --> 00:22:57,400 That is how you know. 520 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:58,920 That is the voice of the enemy. 521 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:03,360 And I, for years, if I could tell my younger self anything, it 522 00:23:03,360 --> 00:23:06,200 would be like, that is not God's voice. 523 00:23:07,410 --> 00:23:10,010 That is not God's voice trying to make you better. 524 00:23:10,010 --> 00:23:14,370 That is the shackle of shame from the enemy trying to get you. 525 00:23:14,370 --> 00:23:16,010 Because of course we're weak. 526 00:23:16,010 --> 00:23:18,610 Why would we need Jesus if we were strong? 527 00:23:19,170 --> 00:23:21,490 Like, our weakness is a no duh. 528 00:23:22,450 --> 00:23:28,250 And so anytime, like you said, like, oh, you know, I need a savior. 529 00:23:28,250 --> 00:23:30,530 It's like, we all need a savior. 530 00:23:32,290 --> 00:23:36,010 And so the way to silence shame is to acknowledge you need 531 00:23:36,010 --> 00:23:36,290 a. 532 00:23:36,370 --> 00:23:37,650 You need a savior. 533 00:23:38,210 --> 00:23:39,250 I need Jesus. 534 00:23:39,570 --> 00:23:42,410 If you've been feeling lost in your motherhood, maybe you just came 535 00:23:42,410 --> 00:23:44,130 with your mom and you're honoring her. 536 00:23:44,290 --> 00:23:44,690 Her. 537 00:23:44,770 --> 00:23:46,650 Her request for you to be in church. 538 00:23:46,650 --> 00:23:49,850 I want to tell you that God has a plan for you and that you don't 539 00:23:49,850 --> 00:23:54,330 have to suffer in shame, that you can just be in your weakness 540 00:23:54,330 --> 00:23:57,090 and let the power of Christ just rest on you today. 541 00:23:58,050 --> 00:23:59,010 It is possible. 542 00:23:59,570 --> 00:24:03,010 So if you're a mom and you've just been drowning in motherhood, 543 00:24:03,010 --> 00:24:06,510 or maybe you've been drowning in grandmotherhood or trying to find 544 00:24:06,510 --> 00:24:07,630 your identity as a. 545 00:24:07,630 --> 00:24:10,910 As an empty nester who's raised her children, or you're. 546 00:24:10,910 --> 00:24:12,670 You're somebody who's sitting in. 547 00:24:12,910 --> 00:24:16,190 In the loss of miscarriage and infertility. 548 00:24:16,430 --> 00:24:20,470 I want to tell you that there is individualized care from Jesus 549 00:24:20,470 --> 00:24:25,990 at every single level that you came today, and that at every level, 550 00:24:25,990 --> 00:24:31,490 it is the power of Christ that rests on you and in your weakness. 551 00:24:33,890 --> 00:24:38,570 Pastor Jocelyn, would you just speak to that lie of shame that is 552 00:24:38,570 --> 00:24:42,290 creeping into the minds of the women that are here today? 553 00:24:44,770 --> 00:24:52,490 I just want to speak into you moms online in the room, the negative 554 00:24:52,490 --> 00:24:53,170 self talk. 555 00:24:54,130 --> 00:24:56,450 When you're like, you should have done this. 556 00:24:56,780 --> 00:24:58,620 You should have done that. 557 00:24:58,620 --> 00:25:00,140 I should have done this. 558 00:25:00,780 --> 00:25:02,380 Should is shaming. 559 00:25:03,660 --> 00:25:06,900 And so stepping away from the negative self talk because the Holy 560 00:25:06,900 --> 00:25:09,500 Spirit is like, daughter, I have a better way. 561 00:25:09,500 --> 00:25:10,780 He's not like, you should have. 562 00:25:11,740 --> 00:25:13,420 The Holy Spirit doesn't talk that way. 563 00:25:13,420 --> 00:25:15,340 He's like, I have a better way. 564 00:25:15,340 --> 00:25:19,100 Daughter, you can and you will. 565 00:25:20,380 --> 00:25:23,220 And so we've got to get away from the negative self talk of the 566 00:25:23,220 --> 00:25:26,100 shoulds and says, should is shaming. 567 00:25:26,660 --> 00:25:29,460 So if there's anything you could walk away from today. 568 00:25:29,460 --> 00:25:29,820 No. 569 00:25:29,820 --> 00:25:31,060 Should is shaming. 570 00:25:31,140 --> 00:25:33,460 And I'm gonna say I can and I will. 571 00:25:33,780 --> 00:25:35,460 It's through my weakness. 572 00:25:35,780 --> 00:25:38,420 It's his strength that's gonna strengthen me. 573 00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:40,500 I'm clothed in dignity. 574 00:25:40,740 --> 00:25:42,420 I'm clothed in strength. 575 00:25:42,740 --> 00:25:45,940 And I am no longer gonna walk in my should haves. 576 00:25:47,060 --> 00:25:50,970 And I'm gonna walk forward, and I can and I will, because he 577 00:25:50,970 --> 00:25:53,330 is the I am in your life. 578 00:25:55,410 --> 00:25:55,810 Man. 579 00:25:56,850 --> 00:25:58,450 I received healing in that. 580 00:25:58,690 --> 00:26:00,930 I had a daughter that just graduated on Saturday. 581 00:26:00,930 --> 00:26:01,810 And you know what? 582 00:26:02,370 --> 00:26:02,890 I know. 583 00:26:02,890 --> 00:26:04,210 Yeah, we're proud of her. 584 00:26:06,130 --> 00:26:09,890 But I would say, like, most of that morning was spent shame. 585 00:26:10,610 --> 00:26:11,730 I should have done more. 586 00:26:11,730 --> 00:26:13,010 I wish I would have done this. 587 00:26:13,010 --> 00:26:14,610 I should have done this differently. 588 00:26:14,930 --> 00:26:16,690 And when we walked in and we started. 589 00:26:16,850 --> 00:26:21,060 She was a Christian school, whatever, we started worshiping. 590 00:26:21,060 --> 00:26:24,580 And the Lord just was like, jules, it's all good. 591 00:26:24,580 --> 00:26:25,180 I got her. 592 00:26:25,180 --> 00:26:26,340 I had her the whole time. 593 00:26:27,540 --> 00:26:30,380 And some of you are just caught in these mistakes that you 594 00:26:30,380 --> 00:26:33,540 made as a young mother or maybe before you had kids and. 595 00:26:33,780 --> 00:26:35,780 Or maybe it was the way that you grew up. 596 00:26:35,780 --> 00:26:37,980 And some of those behaviors have projected there. 597 00:26:37,980 --> 00:26:40,500 I yelled at my kids twice this morning on Mother's Day. 598 00:26:41,700 --> 00:26:42,420 Get up. 599 00:26:44,430 --> 00:26:44,750 Shame. 600 00:26:45,790 --> 00:26:46,110 I. 601 00:26:46,110 --> 00:26:47,790 I could let that sit with me all day. 602 00:26:47,790 --> 00:26:48,950 I'm not worthy to get up here. 603 00:26:48,950 --> 00:26:49,550 I'm not that. 604 00:26:49,550 --> 00:26:55,310 Listen, it is in my weakness that his power rests on me. 605 00:26:57,470 --> 00:27:00,030 And I want to tell you there's a miracle for you today. 606 00:27:00,030 --> 00:27:03,510 If you've been stuck in that cycle of shame, we're gonna get released 607 00:27:03,510 --> 00:27:03,830 from that. 608 00:27:03,830 --> 00:27:08,110 Men and women alike, we all deal with that as a dad, as a hu. 609 00:27:08,110 --> 00:27:10,110 If you go to Walmart, you deal with shame. 610 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:12,600 I love Walmart, by the way. 611 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:13,560 There's no shame. 612 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:15,240 But let's stand. 613 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,520 If you're online with us and you've been struggling with this, 614 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:22,720 we're just gonna have a moment of freedom and we're getting ready 615 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:23,120 to pray. 616 00:27:23,120 --> 00:27:27,200 And as I pray, Pastor Eddie's gonna come, and we're so thankful. 617 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:28,400 Aren't y' all thankful for the. 618 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,720 The just the wisdom that flowed from these women today? 619 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:33,720 This is our home team. 620 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:36,840 These are our all stars up here. 621 00:27:38,890 --> 00:27:39,130 And. 622 00:27:39,770 --> 00:27:43,530 But we're gonna get released from that shame, and we're getting 623 00:27:43,530 --> 00:27:44,250 ready to pray. 624 00:27:44,250 --> 00:27:47,690 But also, if you have been struggling with infertility, every 625 00:27:47,690 --> 00:27:50,290 time we've done a baby dedication, I've prayed for wombs 626 00:27:50,290 --> 00:27:53,050 to open, and we have seen miracles. 627 00:27:53,610 --> 00:27:56,890 We have had miracle babies that we've dedicated a year later. 628 00:27:57,450 --> 00:27:59,690 So I wanna leave room for a miracle. 629 00:28:00,090 --> 00:28:03,290 And if that's you, I encourage you to tell someone and. 630 00:28:03,690 --> 00:28:07,210 And go to Connect Central and have them pray and agree for healing 631 00:28:07,210 --> 00:28:08,090 over your womb. 632 00:28:08,330 --> 00:28:12,250 But we're going to pray for healing over our wounds today. 633 00:28:13,130 --> 00:28:15,130 How many want to get free from shame? 634 00:28:15,370 --> 00:28:18,810 How many want to get healed of that mother wound, that rejection 635 00:28:18,970 --> 00:28:22,810 maybe that you experienced, or maybe those behaviors that you just 636 00:28:22,810 --> 00:28:23,810 haven't seemed to. 637 00:28:23,810 --> 00:28:26,490 Or maybe you're a grandmother that's carried shame that. 638 00:28:26,490 --> 00:28:28,930 That you haven't done enough, that you wish you could do more. 639 00:28:28,930 --> 00:28:30,810 I want to tell you, woman of God, you've done enough. 640 00:28:32,360 --> 00:28:32,840 You're here. 641 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,360 You're bringing your kids into the house of God. 642 00:28:35,360 --> 00:28:37,560 You've done enough be released from that shame. 643 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,160 So we're gonna pray right now. 644 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:41,840 I'm gonna pray for wombs to open. 645 00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:44,520 And Pastor Jocelyn, I want you to pray against shame. 646 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,119 You had such an anointing speaking to that. 647 00:28:47,119 --> 00:28:48,640 But right now, we're gonna pray for wounds. 648 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:48,880 If. 649 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,240 If you're online and you've been struggling with infertility, 650 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,920 or you're in the room and you've been struggling with infertility 651 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:54,840 or infant loss. 652 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,400 I just want you to raise your hand. 653 00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,600 We're just gonna pray and believe God. 654 00:28:58,600 --> 00:28:58,960 Come on. 655 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:00,220 I see hands, Lord. 656 00:29:00,220 --> 00:29:00,580 We just. 657 00:29:00,580 --> 00:29:01,260 Thank you, God. 658 00:29:01,260 --> 00:29:05,180 I pray that these wombs would open up now in Jesus Mighty name. 659 00:29:05,260 --> 00:29:08,460 Lord, if you're around some of these women, just stretch your hand 660 00:29:08,460 --> 00:29:12,340 over, just lay your hand on their back or touch their hand just 661 00:29:12,340 --> 00:29:13,500 as a point of agreement. 662 00:29:13,500 --> 00:29:18,380 God, we come into agreement for our sisters that they will have 663 00:29:18,540 --> 00:29:18,940 children. 664 00:29:19,020 --> 00:29:23,340 We do not buy the lie that this womb will not produce fruit. 665 00:29:23,420 --> 00:29:27,780 And so right now we come against just incomplete blood work. 666 00:29:27,780 --> 00:29:29,760 We come against Holy Spirit hormones. 667 00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:33,120 We come against disorders in the female organs. 668 00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:33,600 God. 669 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:37,680 We come against irregular bleeding and inflammation and pcos 670 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,320 and endometriosis. 671 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,360 And we cast that out in the name of Jesus. 672 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,800 And we decree healing now in Jesus mighty name. 673 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:48,520 We decree healing now over their womb and God that it would 674 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:52,720 begin to work into divine order and that there would be miracle 675 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:55,280 children that we would dedicate this time next year. 676 00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:56,050 In Jesus name. 677 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:56,920 Mighty name. 678 00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:58,520 Pastor Jocelyn, go ahead and pray. 679 00:29:58,680 --> 00:29:59,400 Father, we. 680 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:04,440 We come against shame right now in the name of Jesus, Lord we 681 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:07,720 pray that you would come right now. 682 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:12,560 And each and every mind that starts to come into agreement with 683 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:12,920 shame. 684 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,880 We break agreement with shame even right now. 685 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:17,560 Oh God. 686 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,040 In the name of Jesus Lord that. 687 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:23,790 The negative self talk that we that we speak speak to ourselves 688 00:30:24,110 --> 00:30:26,190 where we're feeling like we're not good enough. 689 00:30:26,190 --> 00:30:30,830 Holy Spirit, that we would hear your voice louder than the voice 690 00:30:30,830 --> 00:30:34,750 the the father of lies that wants to come and bring destruction 691 00:30:34,750 --> 00:30:38,350 and come against our identity and come against our destiny. 692 00:30:38,350 --> 00:30:40,150 And so Father, we pray now in. 693 00:30:40,150 --> 00:30:42,670 The name of Jesus that shame would. 694 00:30:42,670 --> 00:30:44,230 No longer be our portion. 695 00:30:44,230 --> 00:30:46,310 God but Lord that we win because. 696 00:30:46,310 --> 00:30:47,550 You won on the cross. 697 00:30:47,710 --> 00:30:49,110 That your blood shed. 698 00:30:49,110 --> 00:30:53,830 God we one it's more powerful than any lie that the enemy can feed 699 00:30:53,830 --> 00:30:54,590 our minds. 700 00:30:54,590 --> 00:30:58,470 In the name of Jesus Lord that you would heal wounds of shame that 701 00:30:58,470 --> 00:31:00,790 has been spoken over Lord Every word. 702 00:31:00,790 --> 00:31:02,670 Curse has been spoken into each and. 703 00:31:02,670 --> 00:31:06,470 Every life right now in the name of Jesus we pray a blessing. 704 00:31:06,550 --> 00:31:08,750 A blessing over each son and daughter. 705 00:31:08,750 --> 00:31:12,550 We pray a blessing over the house, over your people, over your 706 00:31:12,550 --> 00:31:15,350 local church, over each and every one in online. 707 00:31:15,430 --> 00:31:15,990 Oh God. 708 00:31:15,990 --> 00:31:18,470 And even in the room, Father that you would come. 709 00:31:18,550 --> 00:31:20,990 That you they would find rest in you, oh God. 710 00:31:20,990 --> 00:31:22,690 That they would believe in the good report. 711 00:31:22,850 --> 00:31:26,090 God that they would believe that they are the head and not the 712 00:31:26,090 --> 00:31:26,450 tail. 713 00:31:26,530 --> 00:31:27,810 In the name of Jesus. 714 00:31:27,810 --> 00:31:29,450 That they are overcomers. 715 00:31:29,450 --> 00:31:32,210 That they are going to be walking in freedom because of what 716 00:31:32,210 --> 00:31:33,490 you did for them. 717 00:31:33,490 --> 00:31:36,850 That they are adopted under the with the blood of Christ. 718 00:31:36,850 --> 00:31:38,050 In the name of Jesus. 719 00:31:38,290 --> 00:31:41,250 No longer abandoned, no longer orphaned. 720 00:31:41,250 --> 00:31:45,050 God Lord that we would be a people, oh God that believe in your 721 00:31:45,050 --> 00:31:46,330 in your blood, oh God. 722 00:31:46,330 --> 00:31:49,850 And what you did on Calvary for us, oh God and Lord, that you 723 00:31:49,850 --> 00:31:52,930 would do a mighty work in hearts and minds today. 724 00:31:53,090 --> 00:31:55,710 That shame will no longer be our portion. 725 00:31:55,790 --> 00:31:58,270 In the name of Jesus, that we would move forward. 726 00:31:58,270 --> 00:32:02,190 We rebuke the Devourer over each and every life in the name of 727 00:32:02,190 --> 00:32:02,670 Jesus. 728 00:32:02,830 --> 00:32:04,350 And we believe in you. 729 00:32:04,350 --> 00:32:08,790 And we come agreement into faith, oh God, in you, in Jesus mighty 730 00:32:08,790 --> 00:32:09,070 name. 731 00:32:09,390 --> 00:32:10,990 Amen and Amen. 732 00:32:11,950 --> 00:32:16,070 Can we lift up a shout of praise for what God did, man? 733 00:32:16,070 --> 00:32:17,470 Lord, we thank you, God. 734 00:32:17,470 --> 00:32:19,390 Lord, we thank you for open wounds. 735 00:32:19,390 --> 00:32:20,830 We thank you for restoration. 736 00:32:20,910 --> 00:32:22,830 In Jesus name, Amen. 737 00:32:22,830 --> 00:32:23,310 Amen. 738 00:32:23,310 --> 00:32:23,710 Amen. 739 00:32:23,710 --> 00:32:24,120 Amen. 740 00:32:24,270 --> 00:32:24,510 It.