Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I am Aurora. And I'm very happy to be sharing some

time today, some space, you know from previous intros that I am a

life coach, and I offer coaching sessions, one on one. Soon I'll

offer also group sessions. But today, I just want to be a human

being, I don't want to be seen as a podcaster. I don't want to

be seen as a life coach. I just want to be seen as a human

being. I struggled with myself to post an episode today because

I thought, Who am I to take up space? When there's so many

devastating things happening around us? Who am I to teach

about growth and expansion and healing? When there's so much

destruction, hatred, and sad stuff happening, I didn't feel

like showing up not because of self doubt, not because of not

wanting to show up but because I felt I needed to come up with a

damn good reason to show up during those times and to create

something that will serve you the most.

I decided to talk today about admitting admitting to yourself,

of where you're standing at, of where the world is that

I get so tired and irritated seeing people posting selfies

and Smiley's and lovey dovey things and things about

expansion and growth, investing in yourself. I know I do it

myself, but today, I'm tired of it. And that's okay. I want to

admit that humanity is at a point where there is no return.

So much stuff is going on that doesn't really make sense to my

brain, so much pain, so much suffering. And I'm just totally

exhausted. I'm so tired. And I'm most tired of the people who are

living in denial of this who are trying to hustle through who are

trying to distract themselves and put a face on ad. I'm most

attracted and drawn to people who can simply admit that we are

in a devastating situation. Don't you think that this is the

closest to authenticity and integrity it is okay to sit in

misery at times and to not know when is the next straw of hope.

Gonna come? When is the next person gonna come along? Who

lifts me out of this misery. Now it is okay to be sitting in that

misery. Because fighting it, there is no point you're just

going to waste energy. And if you're not go through it, it

will haunt you for a long, long time and you will burn yourself

out at some point. To admit that you are lost to admit that you

are depressed to admit that you are hurt and disappointed as so

much more valuable than trying to fight it. Trying to not feel

these feelings. Because these feelings are going to be there

no matter what. So might as well address them and stop running

away from them. Allowing stillness allowing breaks.

Pauses is so incredibly important. And when when you

stop for a moment and sit there and realize what's going on.

Yes, it will feel uncomfortable as fuck But that's just simply

your reality at that time, our reality all together, we're all

suffering right now. Nobody can tell me that. He's 100% focused

on his stupid self growth. We're all distracted. We're all

hurting. Because we're all connected. Even though I don't

watch the news, I can feel the vibe, the heaviness on my

shoulders, the suffering from other people. It suffocates me

at time. And then I have to sit there and realize, yes, I'm in

this with you.

Take a deep inhale, and then exhale, if it feels right.

I'm also deeply irritated by people who try to

intellectualize what's going on right now. And people are trying

to make sense of everything. And that's also a hassle, trying to

read up on things and studying and trying to make sense of

something that is so extremely complex. That goes back to I

don't know, over 100 years ago, the conflicts that we're dealing

with right now, that didn't start yesterday, they didn't

Start 2014 They started so long ago, and to be so ignorant. And

so ego driven to think that he can make sense of it. Because

you're watching the news or talking to people or reading up

on stuff is just not the way I feel is the right way to deal

with this right now. It is your ego who is longing for facts,

and for explanations, but it is not as easy as you make it

sound. It is deeply chaotic, just like Mother Nature is I'm

really dark today and I'm not intending to draw you into the

stuckness. But I want to give you permission to feel these

deep, dark feelings at times because they're part of

humanity, they're part of life, you can't escape them. And if we

keep putting a Mickey Mouse face to it, and keep pretending that

it is not good to feel these feelings, then my friend we are

on a very difficult path of in authenticity and not living in

integrity, we have to integrate these deeply sorrowing suffering

painful feelings because at some point, we will be able to

transform these feelings and create something that is better

for all of us. But it is only from that place of integrity and

authenticity that we will be able to start and create

something good, something better change for the better.

I hope you can give yourself permission to not be okay. You

do not have to be okay. And our smiley face. When you reach out

to me when you comment on my stuff. You can be real, you can

be raw a hold that space for you. It is part of growth, even

though it doesn't feel like growth. But the constant pushing

for expansion and growth can be so extremely abusive and

counterproductive. Sometimes you got to be still, sometimes you

got to just sit there and breathe and be okay with the

mess that is inside of you and all around you.

It is when we make these statements from a place of true

integrity that we can start healing and start growing again.

Even though it doesn't feel like it if you're in a partnership

and tell your partner you're falling out of love. You're not

feeling it anymore. Have you feel you guys have distanced

yourself and now, you can't really relate to that person

anymore. Yes, it is a painful place to be in. But it is a

necessary place to start a new to start talking, or to deciding

that this is the end. When you admit to yourself that you're

burned out, you give people the opportunity to be there for you

the opportunity to reach out to you. And they will understand

why you might be distancing yourself, and they will not take

it personal. When you admit that this is all too much, this is

too much suffering, that you're witnessing too much pain, you

feel irritated, exhausted, you can sleep. You want to take

sleeping pills, and painkillers at the same time. Please don't

do that, of course. But if you really feel that way, then you

can start to feel okay with that situation, and you will soon

find a way to get out of it. But first you got to admit where

you're standing at. If you look at a map, and you know you want

to go to New York City, but you're not knowing where you're

standing at. How are you going to find your way to New York

City, my favorite city in the world, by the way. So you have

to know yourself like I preach in and out. But you also got to

be so radically honest with where you're standing at. And be

real with it. Feel it. And from that place of integrity, and

permission, you can move forward when the time is right. And only

you will know when the time is right. Don't hustle through it.

Do it at your own time. Thank you so much for being here with

me. Thank you so much for allowing me to be real and I

hope you can do the same for yourself. take really good care

of yourself. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye