Welcome to the Elevated Edit, the weekly reset for ambitious women who are done with chaos and ready to actually follow through.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey, strategist, systems girl and execution coach for entrepreneurs who want structure that sells in a business that feels like peace.

Here, we don't chase hustle.

We edit what matters.

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I seriously cannot believe that I'm saying this, but this is episode one.

100.

100, baby.

I am honestly a little mind blown.

If you had told me last August that I would be a hundred episodes deep into a podcast, I would be like, excuse me, what?

But I will say this.

Starting this podcast has been the absolute best thing that I have ever, ever done for myself.

It has been one of the hardest things, but it has taught me so much about taking action, being consistent, showing up when I don't feel like it, doing things that get me out of my comfort zone.

And it has just completely changed my life 100%.

So today, I'm going to keep it real with you.

It is not going to be super scripted.

Like normally.

I have a very neat outline and I've rehearsed the episode a couple of times.

I usually like to rehearse while I'm walking, so I come up with really good ideas.

But today we're going pretty much off the cuff.

I've got a post it note with three notes on it, and that's all you got.

So if this is your first episode, I apologize.

Might be a little scattered, might be a little squirrely.

I've also had some espresso.

But yeah, I just want to encourage you in this episode because I hear so many women more and more every single day, and they have these big, beautiful ideas and they've got all of these things they want to do, and they've got just the heart and the passion and the drive, and then they never take action.

And it is so heartbreaking because that is the only.

The only difference between them and the person who succeeds is the action or the lack of action.

And I have always, my whole entire life, been someone who is willing to take action, but nowhere near the way that I have in the last year.

And it has completely.

It really has changed my life.

So that was.

Look, we're already getting ready, getting ahead of ourselves.

That was number one on my post it note was to take messy action.

There is no hack.

There's not going to be a blueprint.

There is no strategy that works for everyone.

And even if there is strategy, it does not work without action.

You know, Since I've started the podcast, I have heard so many people say this.

And I've heard the same with, you know, when I was in real estate, people will go, oh, well, I would be the best real estate agent.

Well, I would have such a good podcast.

Well, if I had a podcast, I do it like this.

Well, if I was a real estate agent, this is how I do it.

Oh, okay, then do it.

Like, why aren't you doing it?

And it's like, oh, well, you know, now it's just not the right time.

Or, well, you know, I've got the kids.

Or, well, it's summer, so I'll start in the fall.

Or, oh, I've got to get a new camera girl.

I started this podcast on an iPhone.

Okay, like, now we have a quote unquote podcast studio, which honestly serves a lot of different purposes, but you do not need perfect conditions to take action.

In fact, there's probably not going to be that many people that listen to your first couple of episodes.

Now, I do think I had a fair amount, like, first and second episode of people just being nosy, but it falls off.

You know, people are like, wow, she really doesn't know what she's talking about.

I'm not listening to that anymore because my first, I would say 50 episodes were terrible.

I look back and listen to them and I cringe.

And part of me is very thankful for that.

I think if you don't look back at things that you did a year ago and cringe, you're probably not growing at the rate that you could be.

And I'm thankful that I look back and go, wow, that was really terrible.

Or, wow, why am I so stuffy?

Or did I rehearse that at all?

Or did I do any research?

And I just think that so many people get this complex almost about them that if.

Well, if I did that, I'd do it so much better.

Well, if.

If that was my business, I'd do it so much better.

Or, you know, you hear this a lot, even with, like, social media.

Like, I'll have friends reach out to me.

They'll screenshot.

I use the word friend loosely here.

They'll screenshot one of my posts and be like, hey, you misspelled this.

Or, hey, did you know that your face looks weird right here?

And I'm like, baby girl, where's your post at?

Like, why don't.

Why aren't you posting stuff?

You're.

You obviously have an eye for it and the difference in the people that succeed and the people that don't is literally just action.

It is taking action, period.

Because when you start taking action, the first rep is probably going to be terrible.

If you're like me, the first 50 reps is going to be terrible.

The first post you make, the first course you create, the first podcast episode that you come out with, it's not going to be good, period.

But the cool thing about that is that's the worst rep you will ever do.

You'll learn a little bit about audio, you'll learn about background noise, you'll learn about editing.

You will learn about yourself.

Like I, I've learned and I'm working on it.

I say like an awful lot and you don't hear it until you listen to yourself and you go, goodness almighty.

I just said like 25 times in five minutes.

And that's not necessarily something that I want to, that I'm embarrassed by, but it was just something I had to become aware of because I had no clue that I did that.

And I also do this weird breathing thing that I'm trying to work on.

And it's really, it just brings out so much self awareness in you, but you don't realize it until you take the action yourself.

You know, it's so easy to listen to someone else's content and look at someone else's stuff and judge what they're doing.

And in your mind you go, I could do that so much better than they could.

But you truly don't know how difficult something's going to be and how much you're going to have to grow and how much you're going to have to push yourself until you start taking action.

You don't know how terrifying it is to post that first podcast episode, to get on Instagram stories and talk face to cam, to get on a zoom call and coach someone from across the country that you don't know a lot about their background.

There's so many things that you don't realize until you start taking action.

Action is the catalyst.

You can research all day, you can brainstorm all day, you can play back and forth with ChatGPT all day and let ChatGPT tell you that you're right about everything.

I think that's gonna be an episode coming up soon is there's this trend, I call it a trend.

It might be an epidemic of people thinking that they are having these self realizations.

And really it's just chatgpt validating everything that they say.

And that to me is the scariest part of AI is everybody thinks that they're right now because, well, ChatGPT told me that I was like, I said, that's a whole different, that's a whole different episode.

You know, every, every ide that you give to ChatGPT, ChatGPT is going to go, oh, oh my goodness, you're so self aware.

This is groundbreaking.

This is amazing.

Everyone's going to love this.

And it's like you have to take action on it because it probably stinks.

It's probably going to stink the first 10 times, the first 20 times, the first 50 times, the first hundred times.

But eventually through the action, you're going to learn every single time, every single rep, you're going to learn a little tiny thing.

It's going to feel like you're not making any progress at all.

And then all of a sudden one day you're gonna be like, oh, wow, okay, this is a little easier or this is a little more comfortable, or I did that a little faster or a little bit more efficient, or I was less embarrassed or it resonated more people sent me more DMs or whatever it is that you need to be working on.

Whatever it is that you, in your mind, you're like, I would be the best at this.

Take action on it.

Because you're never gonna get better if you don't start taking action.

You're never going to feel ready.

There is never.

There has not been a single day in the last 100 episodes where I went, man, I feel so prepared and so ready to record this podcast episode, to edit this podcast episode, to hit publish on this podcast episode, to promote this podcast episode.

Not a single day have I felt ready, but I've moved on it every single day.

And like, that is just, that's the difference between people who succeed and people who don't is the action or the lack of action.

Number two thing.

Number two thing I've learned.

Goodness gracious.

See, this is why I need to rehearse beforehand.

The second thing on my post it note, you will have more support than you think.

There is this narrative online of do it for the haters.

Oh, if you don't have haters, you're not doing it right.

Oh, the haters keep me motivated.

And look, don't get me wrong, there are going to be haters.

There are going to be people that make fun of you.

I live in a small town where I went to high school and I've lived here my whole life and I'm sure there's people that are making fun of me.

I don't Care?

Do they have a podcast?

Are they growing a business?

If not, I don't care.

I truly don't.

But this narrative, I think, holds so many people back, especially women, because they're like, oh, I'm going to be judged or somebody's going to be jealous of me, or somebody's going to misunderstand me.

But one thing I have learned is that the exact opposite will often happen.

I have had so many women come out of the woodworks to support me.

They have sent me encouraging messages.

They have left reviews.

They have sent this podcast to their friends.

They have told people about it.

They have sent it to their teens at work.

I have had more support during this journey than I ever could have possibly imagined.

I've had, you know, men support as well.

I obviously don't speak to them, and they'll tell me that they're like, hey, I listened to one episode so I could leave a review.

It's not really my vibe.

My husband has said this.

He's like, it's not really my vibe, but I'm so proud of you, you know, and he'll share a post.

And I've had, you know, guys send it to their girlfriends and wives and their teams, and people will truly come out of the woodworks to support you.

There are more people watching you that are going to support you than people watching you that are going to hate on you.

And the.

The people that are hating on you, they're.

It's like a.

Such a small little handful, and they're likely never going to do anything with their lives.

They're the people that are going to be in the same job forever, which, there's nothing wrong with that, but they likely don't like it.

They probably are miserable at home and they just want somebody to talk about.

And I mean, if you need to talk about me, keep watching my stories and get that view.

Count up, baby.

Like, that's all I got to say about that.

But more often than not, you are going to get way more support than you do hate.

Truly.

Now, this is my.

My caveat to that.

You cannot expect your friends and family to be your number one customer.

You can't expect everyone around you to buy from you to support everything, like, to like every post, to comment on everything.

I do think I had a little bit of an unfair advantage when it came to this because I went through real estate first.

I mean, I'm still in it, but for so long.

And when you get in real estate, you learn very quickly that your friends and family are not Always going to use you.

And it has nothing to do with how good you are as an agent.

People are just people.

And that's just.

That's just how it is.

At the end of the day, they're gonna call the, you know, the agent that is on the sign, or they're gonna be somewhere random at a picnic and talk to an agent and get under contract with them.

Like, I definitely went through a crash course of Blakely.

It's not all about you.

And so I came into the podcast world and the coaching world with that in mind.

And I think so many people get so upset because they launch something and they expect everybody in their life to buy everybody in their life to support them.

And oftentimes those people are going to be the last people to buy from you.

They're going to be the last people to support you in that way because they don't see you like that.

You know, there's people in my life right now that are never going to buy from me as a business coach because they see me as a real estate agent, they see me as a waitress, they see me as a wine and spirits salesman, they see me as the cheerleader that I was at 16 years old.

Like, they're never going to see me as a business coach.

And that's okay.

Like, I don't expect them to.

And I think so often we put these unrealistic expectations on everyone around us when we do something big.

And we expect them to just have all this support and reach out to us and show up and buy.

And it's like, this is for me and it has to be for you as well.

You can't do something and expect things from people, provide value, give things away for free.

Like, I'm.

That's what I did the first round of coaching.

I coached for free because I needed reviews and I needed feedback and I needed to be able to ask people questions and modify how I came across and modify my coaching.

And I didn't expect people to buy from me right away.

I.

To me, that is a very entitled and condescending way.

Way to look at your sphere of influence.

Now, when people share stuff, I love it.

When they do buy from me, I love it.

I appreciate it so much more when it is someone that knows me because I know they don't owe me that.

They don't owe me the.

The purchase or the like or the share or the review.

And so just keep that in mind that, like, you're gonna have so much more support than you think.

But don't Dump your expectations on other people because they do not owe you that.

The world doesn't owe you anything, period.

Okay.

Wow.

Went off on a rant on that one.

Goodness gracious.

I'm thinking about a couple of people that I've met in mind when I think of that.

And you know that they will say verbatim, they'll say, well, you know, I launched this and I sent it to 10 of my friends, and none of them bought.

Can you believe that?

Like, 100%.

You know, why they don't have to buy from you, that they don't owe that to you.

And I just.

I don't know if it is a generational thing or just a mindset thing or the fact that social media has turned us into a group of individuals who expect more from other people than we deserve.

I think that might be the route.

Okay, number three.

The most important thing that I've learned over 100 podcast episodes over the last year is get in the room.

I don't care if you have to scrape and crawl and break in the back door.

Get in the room.

You have got to get in the room with people who are smarter than you, who are doing more than you, who are 10 steps ahead, 50 steps ahead, 100 steps ahead, 200 steps ahead.

It is going to feel uncomfortable.

You are going to feel stupid.

There's not a nicer word than stupid.

There have been so many times this year where I have left a meeting or a Zoom call and just bawled my eyes out because I went into the room thinking, man, like, I am someone who executes.

I take action.

I'm blah, blah, blah.

And I get in the room with these women, and, you know, they're.

They're not even.

It's not even.

They're working more hours.

They are taking messier action.

They are investing even more in coaching.

They are, you know, so intense and so passionate.

And at first, it does make you.

It does.

It makes you feel a little bad about yourself.

You're like, wow, I really.

I've been struggling over here, thinking that I was doing the most, and you are.

You're schooling me.

But once you stop playing the victim, which I pull myself out of that pretty quickly, I usually give myself about 15 minutes to feel bad about myself.

And then I'm like, okay, where can I take accountability in this?

And what I find is the majority of it is usually my fault.

I'm like, well, I'm not posting enough.

I'm not being consistent enough.

I'm not investing enough money.

I'm Actually, you know, whatever it is, I am very quick to take accountability where it is my fault, and 99% of the time, it's me.

I need to improve.

I need to read better books, listen to better podcasts, invest more money in coaching, invest in better mentors, put myself in more rooms, take messier action.

Like, it is so important to get yourself in those rooms.

And I think, especially if you're in a place where you've been trying to, you know, maybe you've been consistent for, you know, a couple months or a year or a couple years, you're trying.

You feel like you are putting in so much effort, and you're just defeated.

You're like, I do not understand why I am not seeing more momentum.

I promise you, I promise you, if you put yourself in a room with five people who are 10 steps ahead of you, you will leave that room and you will go, wow, I have not been doing enough.

Wow.

The reason that I'm not where I want to be is because of me.

I promise you, I don't care how much you think you're doing, you are not doing enough.

And that is just a cold reality that I didn't even realize.

Like, I am speaking from personal experience here.

You don't realize the level of grit and resilience and intensity it takes to accomplish really big goals until you get around people who are accomplishing those goals.

You know, putting myself in the room with people who are making seven figures, eight figures, which.

Eight figures is a number that I didn't even think about before 2025.

You know, that was like.

So that was for, like, the Rothschilds and, like, you know, which obviously they make a lot more than eight figures, but that was just something that I didn't even.

It wasn't even on my radar.

And being in the room with women who are making multiple eight figures, the conversations that they have, the things that they talk about, where they invest their money, the way that they operate their day, the way that they cherish their relationships and cherish their family and their children and their personal energy and the way that they fiercely protect their time and the intensity with which they take action.

And being in those rooms has fundamentally changed me.

Like, I do still feel like I.

My mind is trying to catch up with where my goals are going because I.

I did get in so many rooms this year, and I do feel like my brain kind of like cracked in half for a minute, and it's finally coming back together in a way that makes sense.

But getting in the room with people who are ahead of you in whatever field it is.

Like, if it's social media or business or whatever the case is, wherever you feel like you need to improve, getting in that room will change your life.

I promise you it will.

It might hurt your feelings a little bit, but it will be so powerful.

I actually was on a call yesterday and there were a couple of women on the call that said, I mean, these were almost their exact words.

They said, I am doing everything, I promise you.

I am working so hard.

And I had this thought of, man, I wonder what would happen to them if they sat down with.

Because, you know, they were like, man, I've just, I've been going at this for months and I've been posting consistently and I've, I promise I've been trying.

I've been working so hard and, and it made me wonder like, if they got in the room with five people who were making seven figures, eight figures.

And it's not even about the money.

It's about the mindset.

That's what I'm learning very quickly is that seven figure earners and eight figure earners, they're not, it's not about the money for them.

It's the way that they think about their time and their energy and their business and how they pour into other people and how they take action and they don't play the victim and they don't go, oh, well, this isn't fair.

This is too hard.

Like, there is none of that.

It is.

There's a problem in front of me.

How do I fix it?

There's no.

Well, let me, let me think about it.

Well, I don't know.

I need to brainstorm.

No, let's fix the problem right now.

How can we fix this problem?

Because I don't want it to turn into an infection in my business or in my life or whatever it is.

And it just made me, it made me hurt for them.

Because I know in their mind, those women that were saying, I'm doing everything and nothing's working, they truly think that, like in their heart and in their mind, they believe that they are working so hard and they are doing everything that they can to succeed.

And I felt that because there were, there was a time a couple years ago where I thought that too.

I was like, I'm putting in all this effort and I'm, you know, I'm reading all these books and I'm listening to all these podcasts and I posted on Instagram three times last week and I just don't know why I'm not where I want to be at in life.

And then I started getting in the room with people who were making were at a point in life where I want to be.

And like I said, yes, most of them are at a high level of income.

But it's about the mindset for me.

Like, I love being in the game with people who love being in the game.

Like, I love being in the game.

It's it.

I'm addicted to it.

I love the game.

And if you love the game, you know what I'm talking about.

And if you don't, you're like, what the heck is she talking about?

If you know, you know.

But getting in the room with those people who just have this.

It's like this intensity of grit inside of them.

They don't care how big the problem is.

They don't care how much they're going to be embarrassed.

They don't care how stupid they're going to look.

They ask the questions.

They get in front of the people, they stand on the stage, they look stupid so that they can grow, so that they can learn.

There's no, well, I'm going to brainstorm or, well, I don't know.

Let's talk about it.

Give me two weeks and let's talk about it.

It's like, no, let's do this right now.

Like, let me get my.

My first rep in right now.

I want to try this right now.

I want to get in the room right now.

And I'm learning that the people who are at this level in the game, they are not afraid to look stupid at all, whatsoever.

They will ask the most raw and childlike questions.

And for the longest time, I think I felt like I had to carry myself in a certain way in order to get to that level.

But I'm learning, the more humble and the more you have this, like, childlike curiosity, that is what is going to get you to that next level.

Getting in the room with people who are ahead of you and saying, hey, can you help me with this?

Hey, how did you do that?

Hey, this is confusing to me.

Do you mind explaining how you did this?

Hey, what is your, you know, strategy when it comes to stories?

What is your strategy when it comes to email?

Like, people at that level are so generous with their information and being humble enough to ask, being humble enough to show somebody.

Like, last week I sent.

I've got a sales page coming out, and I sent my sales page to one of my coaches and I said, I want you to give me critical feedback on this because I want.

I know that this is going to be amazing, and I know the product is there, but I am not great at creating a sales page that converts.

And she went over it and she sent me a list of feedback, and she sent me a list of things that I needed to work on.

I worked on them, sent it back to her, she gave me even more critique, and now it is so amazing.

But I would have never known that if I had not got, first off, gotten in the room, second off, been open to asking questions and feeling stupid.

Like, I didn't feel super great asking her those questions.

It is a little embarrassing sometimes to feel like you don't know what you're talking about, especially when you are, quote, unquote, the business owner.

But because of that feedback, this is like when I tell you I'm so proud of the sales page.

And it was because I was open enough to ask those questions because I'm trying to get to eight figures.

Like I said before this year, that was something that was such a foreign concept to me.

And now it's not even necessarily about, oh, I want to buy fancy cars, or I want to buy a big house, or I want to go on these, like, exuberant vacations, but I want to be in the game at the point where I am at that level.

Because the conversations telling you, when you get in the room with those people, the conversations are fire.

People are talking about personal development and books and business and funnels and coaching.

They're not like, oh, well, the economy, oh, well, the tariffs, oh, no, there's none of that.

Like, it is just, here's my problem, how can I fix it?

And it is just, oh, my gosh, when I tell you it's rewired my brain.

Getting in the right rooms is the single best thing that I've done this year.

I was terrified to do it.

I was terrified to spend the money.

It's been the best investment I've ever made in myself.

Truly, truly, truly.

It's changed my life.

Okay?

That's all I've got.

Literally, that's the end of the post it note.

Whatever it is that you're wanting to do, do it.

If you want to start a podcast, if you want to start a YouTube channel, if you want to start an online business, if you want to start an in person business, a restaurant, a boutique, a financial advisory company, whatever it is, if you want to quit your job and travel, if you want to have 10 kids and stay at home and be ballerina farms, whatever it is that you want to do.

Just do it.

I promise if you start today, you will be successful in 100 reps from now, you'll be successful 200 reps from now.

I was going to say a year, but some people could brainstorm for a year, so I'm going to take that back.

But if you.

Whatever it is that you want to do, if you get in 100 reps, you're going to be better.

If you get in 100 reps, you're going to have at least one person say yes.

If you just take the action.

Like, I wish I could go back to myself three years ago and shake her and say, stop talking about it and just do it.

Shut up and just take action.

Take action.

Take action.

Take action.

Because most people aren't.

They're not paying attention to you.

They might laugh at you.

Who cares?

They're probably laughing at you because they want to do what you're doing, and they're too scared to do it, too.

So just do it.

Whatever it is.

Whatever it is that's on your heart.

Especially if it's on your heart.

Like, if it's a God thing.

If God is constantly like, hey, I need you to do this.

Hey, I need you to do this.

Hey, I need you to do this.

You need to do it if you're like me.

He kept telling me to do this, and I kept pushing it away, and he finally made my life so painful to the point where I was like, you know what?

Okay, I'm gonna do it.

Here I go.

I'm doing it.

And I just.

I just wish I could go wake everyone up and shake them and say, take action today.

It's probably gonna suck.

You're gonna look.

Feel stupid.

You're gonna look like you don't know what you're doing, because you don't.

But you will learn if you take action.

Go take action today.

Go take action.

Okay.

Thank you for listening to me Ramble for 100 episodes.

This is so wild to me.

I'm so excited for the next 100 episodes.

The direction that the podcast and the business is going, I feel like 0 to 100 was, what am I doing?

What direction am I going?

How can I get my wheels turning?

100 to 200 is about to be.

How big can we take this thing seriously?

Okay.

Thank you for listening to me ramble 100 episodes.

It means the world to me.

You are wonderful.

You are fabulous.

Have a great rest of your day.

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