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Melissa Deally:Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I
Melissa Deally:am Melissa dealey your host and super excited to bring you yet
Melissa Deally:another amazing guest today. Julie Jones of The Adventures of
Melissa Deally:Julie Jones. Welcome, Julie.
Unknown:Oh my gosh, I am so excited to be here. Thank you so
Unknown:much, Melissa, for having me here today.
Melissa Deally:It is my pleasure. And you're such a
Melissa Deally:perfect person to have on the show during the month of January
Melissa Deally:when you know everybody is thinking about what their goals
Melissa Deally:are for the year, how they're going to get it all done. And
Melissa Deally:you know, trying to set priorities, et cetera, and time
Melissa Deally:management. What is that? Right? So I just want to introduce you
Melissa Deally:to the audience. And then we're going to dive right in with your
Melissa Deally:story. But Julie Jones is an award winning international
Melissa Deally:speaker, International Best Selling Author and intuitive
Melissa Deally:coach of the get shit done platform, and a master connector
Melissa Deally:of people who is passionate about supporting purpose driven
Melissa Deally:entrepreneurs to live the best their best life now without
Melissa Deally:regrets. And as a former police officer and SWAT member, Julie
Melissa Deally:knows that there is no promise of tomorrow. And coaches
Melissa Deally:individuals to face the fear and live in the moment, which I
Melissa Deally:absolutely love. So that's just a tiny, tiny little introduction
Melissa Deally:of who you are Julie and your journey and how you came to
Melissa Deally:being this amazing person today. I love the name of your program,
Melissa Deally:they get shit done program, please just introduce yourself
Melissa Deally:to the audience. How you came to be where you're at today.
Unknown:Oh my gosh, well, how much time do we have? Melissa?
Unknown:Be a long time. So, you know, like, like everybody, you know,
Unknown:you have these these dreams and aspirations. Right. And I have
Unknown:to say, growing up, I was strong in the math and science field.
Unknown:And so I thought I was gonna go into some type of medical field.
Unknown:And about the ninth hour when I was deciding on college and what
Unknown:I wanted to major in, I decided on criminal justice. So I have a
Unknown:Bachelor of Science in Criminal Justice and a minor in
Unknown:psychology. Now knowing what I know about people while I should
Unknown:have done a major key, right. And so I went ahead and
Unknown:initially, I have to say I wanted to be secret service or
Unknown:FBI. And I found out what secret service you have to have almost
Unknown:perfect vision uncorrected. And I didn't. And so I'm like, Okay,
Unknown:what am I going to do, and I really wanted to be on patrol.
Unknown:And you know, as I look back, and I'll share a few things, but
Unknown:from early on, it's always been about serving people like really
Unknown:wanting to help and serve people. So I thought I could do
Unknown:that with law enforcement. And I loved my career. I really did. I
Unknown:mean, I was a police officer for 10 years. SWAT team member for a
Unknown:somewhere between two and three years that I was a SWAT team
Unknown:member. I haven't been a police officer for 21 years. So it's
Unknown:like, it's kind of hard sometimes to remember, that was
Unknown:part of my journey. And it was an exciting part of my journey
Unknown:because it gave me so many skill sets that I applied today. And
Unknown:then from that point, I'm just gonna, you know, like run down
Unknown:the spectrum of everything that I've done, because I'm very
Unknown:passionate about health like you. So I've been a chiropractic
Unknown:assistant taught some lifestyle, you know, classes, that kind of
Unknown:thing. I've been a property manager. I've been a makeup
Unknown:artist, you know, but deep down in my heart again, always
Unknown:serving people but what I love best is I love being an
Unknown:entrepreneur. So in the last 15 years in some capacity, I've
Unknown:always been speaking and coaching individuals and back
Unknown:during the pandemic, I said enough is enough and decided to
Unknown:full bore launch My speaking coaching business and so I
Unknown:started in November of 2020. formed my LLC, I had been
Unknown:branded as the adventures of Julie Jones for a long, long
Unknown:time, but opened up my LLC and then started to get shit done
Unknown:coaching platform, which I just love, I just love what I do. I'm
Unknown:so passionate about helping people to live their best life.
Unknown:Because as a police officer, I just saw how quickly life can
Unknown:change, you know, here today gone tomorrow, and everybody
Unknown:thinks they have forever, I'm here to tell you, they don't.
Melissa Deally:But there's so much that you can do in order to
Melissa Deally:extend what you have to write. Absolutely living your best life
Melissa Deally:now is so important. You don't want to put everything off for
Melissa Deally:the future and then find out there isn't that future. So it
Melissa Deally:is finding that balance and making the most of every day.
Melissa Deally:Right?
Unknown:Absolutely. Because when you wake up in the morning,
Unknown:and I do gratitudes in the morning, so when I wake up and
Unknown:you know, almost every single day is some form of I'm grateful
Unknown:to be alive, I'm grateful to have woken up, I'm grateful to
Unknown:see the sunrise, right. Because of course, this is a podcast and
Unknown:you don't visually see, but I'm six feet tall. So I always say
Unknown:that I'm grateful to be you know, six feet above ground. You
Unknown:know, kind of thing. So, and you know, we can joke around about
Unknown:it. However, again, it's one of those things where I just look
Unknown:at and I say, oh my gosh, you know, if if today is all I have?
Unknown:How am I gonna make the best of it. And you know, like, even
Unknown:when you walk out to your car and you find you have a flat
Unknown:tire, is it like a bad day or a bad moment, right? And it's
Unknown:always, like, I look at it as a bad moment. Because if you turn
Unknown:it as a bad day, every other bad thing is going to come your way,
Unknown:like you will just attract all this negativity that you weren't
Unknown:planning on because you just deem that, oh my gosh, I'm
Unknown:having a bad day. And I'm not a Pollyanna by any, you know,
Unknown:means like, my life is not full of sunshine, rainbows and
Unknown:unicorns. So, you know, sometimes I'm, you know, you
Unknown:look at something like that. And it's like, oh, okay, well, you
Unknown:know, to you know, it's a bad, you know, it's a bad day. Well,
Unknown:it's a bad moment, usually.
Melissa Deally:Yeah, I really, I really like that attitude.
Melissa Deally:Because you're absolutely right, you know, where you lay your
Melissa Deally:focus, you attract more of. So if you've just got it's a bad
Melissa Deally:day, it's a bad day, it's about day running through your head,
Melissa Deally:of course, you're going to get more of that bad day. But if you
Melissa Deally:accept, okay, I've got a flat tire it sucks is gonna make me
Melissa Deally:late, I got to deal with it. But it's a bad moment. So you can
Melissa Deally:deal with it and move beyond it. And the rest of the day doesn't
Melissa Deally:have to be ruined,
Unknown:right? Because maybe, just maybe, and again, this is
Unknown:probably that Pollyanna thinking, but it's really not.
Unknown:Maybe having that flat tire prevented you from being in that
Unknown:spot where there was a massive accident that just happened. And
Unknown:so you could have been there instead, the flat tire prevented
Unknown:you from being you know, at that moment. So
Melissa Deally:there's 100%. And you might think that, you
Melissa Deally:know, say it's that Pollyanna moment, and some people don't
Melissa Deally:buy into it. But it's so true. I am a big believer that
Melissa Deally:everything happens for a reason. And we don't always understand
Melissa Deally:it in the moment. But often with that 2020 hindsight, we do and
Melissa Deally:is a flat tire really big enough to be you know, researching
Melissa Deally:that, but it's it's so interesting, because, you know,
Melissa Deally:my journey to coming here was through my daughter's
Melissa Deally:concussions. And I remember the day my oldest daughter got her
Melissa Deally:concussion that that happened right in the second half of the
Melissa Deally:game at the beginning of the second half, like five minutes
Melissa Deally:in. We weren't even meant to be there for that second half, I
Melissa Deally:was meant to be taking her out of the game and going to
Melissa Deally:Vancouver. But she didn't want to leave. And so we stayed and
Melissa Deally:then we have the concussion. And so there was that part of me
Melissa Deally:that was like, only I'd left if only I'd made her leave, we
Melissa Deally:wouldn't have had that. And I had a neighbor say to me stop
Melissa Deally:thinking that because you could have driven down the highway and
Melissa Deally:got in an accident. And she could have still had a
Melissa Deally:concussion. Right? Right. So you know, there is a piece of that.
Melissa Deally:And so if you just accept the moment for what it is deal with
Melissa Deally:it and then let it go. That allows us to, you know,
Melissa Deally:obviously release the bad day, but also release the stress that
Melissa Deally:we carry with us through these moments, right, and the
Melissa Deally:overwhelm, and the frustration, etc, etc. And it ties in
Melissa Deally:beautifully to, you know, this whole conversation that I want
Melissa Deally:to be having with the audience in January, and this theme of
Melissa Deally:slowing down and we get more done. When we slow down, right?
Melissa Deally:Because we can get ourselves out of that stress state. So I know
Melissa Deally:that one of the areas that you specialize in and there's many,
Melissa Deally:but one of them is, you know about getting things done, get
Melissa Deally:shit done. Right? And you've got some tips for the audience on
Melissa Deally:how people can do that more effectively.
Unknown:Well, yes, I do. And actually, one of the things that
Unknown:as you were, you were talking that come to mind, is this whole
Unknown:idea of like, you know, when you're reducing your stress
Unknown:levels, is the idea of like a morning routine. And I know
Unknown:you're a big proponent of a morning routine, right? Because
Unknown:we, we've talked about this before. And it really does set
Unknown:the day for, you know, this idea of slowing down, right. Because
Unknown:if you jump out of bed, and you start running like a chicken
Unknown:with your head cut off, like your whole day is like that
Unknown:hectic, frantic, you know, issues are coming up. Like you
Unknown:just feel like you're always behind the eight ball that
Unknown:you're not getting anything done.
Melissa Deally:You can earth the day and reactionary mode.
Melissa Deally:Right,
Unknown:right. And so but like, even if it's just a simple 15
Unknown:minutes that you take for yourself first thing in the
Unknown:morning, to really set the pace of how your day is going to be.
Unknown:Because like, here's one of my tips that kind of goes along
Unknown:with this idea of slowing down. Is Believe it or not people we
Unknown:are not designed to be multitaskers Whoa, tip number
Unknown:one multitasking, right? Because here's the the truth about it.
Unknown:And sometimes it's even been like a badge of honor. You know,
Unknown:like, especially for women, oh, my gosh, I got so much done. And
Unknown:I was doing this and doing that and multitasking all day long,
Unknown:right? The brain can only focus in on one thing. So as much as
Unknown:you think that you're getting done, you're really not. It's in
Unknown:the slowing down that you find that you're more productive.
Unknown:See, we can be Whoo, busy as I call it, I love Ooh, busy,
Unknown:right? We're we're busy doing this and doing that. And we're
Unknown:running around all over the place. And again, we get to the
Unknown:end of our day, and we look back and we think oh my God, what did
Unknown:I really get done. And so productive time productive
Unknown:moments, is so much more important. So really taking that
Unknown:time to be focused in on one thing. And that's going to be
Unknown:like leading into my tip. So a lot of times we have this idea
Unknown:when we if we do calendar blocking. I know I know, not
Unknown:everybody does it. That's like a whole separate topic that we
Unknown:could talk about for hours. But if you are doing calendar
Unknown:blocking, a lot of times people will set two, three hours aside
Unknown:for, you know, some kind of like task or project or during these
Unknown:next three hours, this is what I'm going to get done. And we
Unknown:find that we have a million distractions that come at us.
Unknown:And then all of a sudden, you got nothing done during those
Unknown:three hours, right? So if you really just set a timer, or you
Unknown:know, some and don't use a timer on your phone, because your
Unknown:phone is one of your biggest distractions. I'm just here to
Unknown:tell you very good point. Yes, yes. So because we can get lost
Unknown:in all those apps and social media and like scrolling
Unknown:through, and then all of a sudden it's like, well, how did
Unknown:five hours pass?
Melissa Deally:Okay, because, and all of which are
Melissa Deally:deliberately designed to addict you and keep you on them?
Unknown:Yes, yes, it's an addiction of people. So yeah,
Unknown:because just as a side note, I just recently discovered that
Unknown:one of the new addictions that are out there, we think of
Unknown:alcohol, we think of drugs, we think of all this stuff, it's
Unknown:social media, that's a new, that's a new addiction that is
Unknown:out there that they are now having to address is, you know,
Unknown:being so tied to our technology and our phone. Anyway, I
Unknown:digress. So the the the 15 minute increments. So what that
Unknown:looks like is that you eliminate all distractions, you you know,
Unknown:shut off your phone, put it on, do not disturb. If your computer
Unknown:dings at you, make sure it's not dinging at you or be in a place
Unknown:where your computer is not going to distract you. And the
Unknown:subconscious is so unique and like when it knows you're going
Unknown:to get serious about something, all of a sudden you feel like
Unknown:it's time to clean the refrigerator. I don't know why
Unknown:but you do. And so then or like you have to go to the bathroom,
Unknown:all of a sudden you're extremely thirsty. Okay, whatever it
Unknown:takes, just eliminate the distractions and all I'm saying
Unknown:is do 15 minutes. Ideally, if you can do it first thing in the
Unknown:morning because that's when a lot of people are most
Unknown:productive. And put your head down and work for 15 minutes.
Unknown:When the timer goes off. I want you to celebrate like I'm
Unknown:serious, like do a little dance, celebrate Whatever it looks like
Unknown:and don't cooperate To find or qualify what you got done, you
Unknown:showed up for yourself, you took action. And if that's all you
Unknown:get done, but you worked on, like, for 15 minutes, whatever
Unknown:it was it, maybe you normally set two or three hours for you
Unknown:do this five, six days a week, you're so much further ahead and
Unknown:setting up those huge chunks of time. Trust me, it works.
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Melissa Deally:Well, I love that. And, you know, it sounds I'm listening to
Melissa Deally:you talk and I did my workout this morning. And it actually
Melissa Deally:sounds really similar to you know, I did it at home, I got
Melissa Deally:the mirror, the Lululemon mirror, which is very cool at
Melissa Deally:Christmas time, my daughter's work there. And the trainer is
Melissa Deally:saying, you know, you showed up for yourself, whatever you do
Melissa Deally:here, you're winner, because you're here and you've done
Melissa Deally:this, right. And so I love the idea of not quantifying it. Just
Melissa Deally:give yourself that 15 minutes and focus and get it done. And
Melissa Deally:over the course of time, you will find you're just getting so
Melissa Deally:much more done, than if you allow all of those intrusions on
Melissa Deally:your time. And then that creates more time in your day for other
Melissa Deally:things. And one of those might be self care, because so often I
Melissa Deally:hear people go, I don't have time to exercise. But guess
Melissa Deally:what, what if we were able to focus on getting those, you
Melissa Deally:know, three tasks that we need to get done during the day done
Melissa Deally:at work first thing in the morning, and it's taking us 15
Melissa Deally:minutes, as opposed to three hours, we've just bought all of
Melissa Deally:this extra time in our day.
Unknown:Right? Because here's the thing, like when when you're
Unknown:so focused in, you're focused in your being Uber productive. See,
Unknown:because when you are working on a task, and let's say you've
Unknown:been in it in it for five minutes, and then you allow like
Unknown:that text message that you look at, or you look at that email
Unknown:that just flashed across your computer right? Now you just got
Unknown:distracted, you may or may not look at that. But even if you
Unknown:don't respond to it, the brain has gone off in that direction
Unknown:and starts this whole like spin cycle of thinking about what
Unknown:what was that about? What do I do, I need to do that right now.
Unknown:And yada yada yada, and it takes you a good 10 minutes to refocus
Unknown:back in on what your you know, your original priority was. And
Unknown:so think about how much you do that during the day. You know,
Unknown:we are we are constantly distracted, you know, with a
Unknown:million different things at any given time. And so if the brain
Unknown:has to continue to refocus, that's why it's such a
Unknown:challenge. And you find like, sometimes you just don't get as
Unknown:much done, because you didn't set up that you know that that
Unknown:increment of time. And people don't think that 15 minutes as
Unknown:possible, I do the 15 minutes, because it's a it's a short
Unknown:time, but you really can be productive. And again, like if
Unknown:after the first 15 minutes, like you're ready to set up another
Unknown:15 minutes and set up another 15 minutes and maybe do an hour's
Unknown:worth of increments, you know, for 15 minutes, whatever works
Unknown:for you. It's you know, it's it's figuring it out, but then
Unknown:being consistent with it. because consistency is the key
Unknown:in order to then to make it a new habit. Because 95% of all we
Unknown:operate our habits. And so like if you don't like a habit, you
Unknown:think it's a bad habit, and you want to incorporate something
Unknown:else. Well now you've got to still spend that amount of time
Unknown:to you know, to implement a new habit.
Melissa Deally:Exactly, and then implementing that new habit
Melissa Deally:anytime we want to get rid of a bad habit, we have to replace it
Melissa Deally:with a good habit. Right. And that's where habit stacking
Melissa Deally:comes in and triggers that remind us of the new habit. So
Melissa Deally:is that an area that you work on as well?
Unknown:While I work on a lot and you know, it's it's about
Unknown:productivity, because if we want to live our best life now, you
Unknown:know, we really need to know how to maximize our time without
Unknown:losing our sanity. And you know, like a lot of times people talk
Unknown:about this whole like work life balance well, again, hate to be
Unknown:you know, like the party crasher. Our there is no such
Unknown:thing as a balanced I like to call it like balance, sometimes
Unknown:counterbalance because sometimes we're going to be really focused
Unknown:in on work. And then you know, and then we still want to have a
Unknown:life, right? Well, the key around that is like boundaries.
Unknown:So like, what are your working hours going to be our, you know,
Unknown:our, like Saturdays, Sundays, non negotiables? Like maybe
Unknown:you'll work Saturday don't want to work Sunday, what does it
Unknown:what does it look like, but really sticking with your your
Unknown:boundaries and you know your commitments around those kinds
Unknown:of things. And again, that focus comes into play when you're when
Unknown:you're with your family, be with your family, or whatever you're
Unknown:doing at that moment, give it 100% Put away the technology,
Unknown:you know, don't be like you know, because it's not fair to
Unknown:the other, the other person if you're with them, but you're
Unknown:really not, because you're focusing on what's happening on
Unknown:your phone and your work and everything else. Work, work,
Unknown:family, or personal life or self care. It's, you know, you're in
Unknown:that moment, as well. And then everything goes hand in hand.
Unknown:And I believe how you do one thing is how you do everything.
Unknown:So that's where, you know, I do coaching around life and
Unknown:business and blowing up the box, like, let's like, like, not even
Unknown:think about the box, like, let's just blow up the box and get
Unknown:right
Melissa Deally:outside. Right. That's, I love that. And it's
Melissa Deally:definitely something that I practice and I'm more productive
Melissa Deally:in the morning. And what I find that, you know, I need to do is
Melissa Deally:I really do shut off all those notifications. And if I can, and
Melissa Deally:I'm not working in email, I just close it. Because then I'm not
Melissa Deally:getting those notifications. And you're right, if they're, if
Melissa Deally:it's open, it does pull you just that little bit, even if you
Melissa Deally:don't act on replying to that email, the brain is alerted to
Melissa Deally:something else, and it pulls you out of that zone of focus. And
Melissa Deally:so I love how productive I can be when I set myself up to not
Melissa Deally:have any notifications come in. And then yeah, the celebration
Melissa Deally:at the end of that is important to right. It's we have to, as
Melissa Deally:part of creating the habit take that time to celebrate,
Unknown:right, because as human beings, we have a tendency to go
Unknown:to, if you want to say the negative. I really heard this
Unknown:very interesting. Presentation not too long ago by a friend of
Unknown:mine, who's a hypnotherapist, and she talks about the
Unknown:subconscious. And you know, we're talking to ourselves and
Unknown:giving ourselves like messages all day long, right? And she
Unknown:said that for most people. Now I say most because like I know,
Unknown:I've worked on this and have that positive attitude. But for
Unknown:most people in the subconscious 70% of the messages that we're
Unknown:telling ourselves are negative. And so that is I like I thought
Unknown:about that. And I was like, wow, you know, so no wonder sometimes
Unknown:it's like, oh, my gosh, I didn't, you know, I didn't get
Unknown:anything done. Because we look at we go to the negative, we
Unknown:look at what didn't get done, instead of celebrating what did.
Unknown:Because I've been and I know you're doing this in the month
Unknown:of January. And we I've been really talking to people about
Unknown:doing their urine review. And you know, and I, you know, of
Unknown:course, what I what I what I preach, I'm practicing and like
Unknown:I started going through, you know, my 2021 and seeing
Unknown:everything and I have a huge list of things that I have
Unknown:accomplished and that I was able to do in 2021. And I think that
Unknown:that's really key, again, to celebrate and look at what we
Unknown:did get done, because sometimes we're so quick to be like, okay,
Unknown:yeah, that's done, you know, Next, Next Next, instead of just
Unknown:being, I always say we're human beings, not human doings. I
Melissa Deally:love that. I absolutely love that. And you're
Melissa Deally:so right, you know, we finish something and move on to the
Melissa Deally:next but then, you know, maybe we haven't reached that big
Melissa Deally:lofty goal. And then we beat ourselves up because we didn't
Melissa Deally:achieve that without taking the time to recognize everything
Melissa Deally:that we did do along the way. Right. So that was talking about
Melissa Deally:the your year in review, which I love the idea of doing that. But
Melissa Deally:I know you're also a proponent of success lists.
Unknown:Yeah.
Melissa Deally:Let's talk about success lists.
Unknown:Well, this is this will probably be the topic that like
Unknown:throws everybody off and they're like, What the heck is that?
Unknown:Julie Jones talking about? Right? So we've all heard about
Unknown:the to do list. Okay. And so, let me just tell you what a to
Unknown:do list is it's, you know, it's a scattery category. Okay,
Unknown:that's what I'm going to talk about. So What it looks like is
Unknown:that on a to do list goes everything. Like everything that
Unknown:pops into your brain, there's no priority behind it. The list is
Unknown:usually like, you know, 500 things long, because it's all
Unknown:these things that just popped into the brain. So the
Unknown:difference between that and a success list is really taking a
Unknown:look at kind of like, what is it that most people have an
Unknown:overriding target overriding goal, if you want to say, of
Unknown:what they want to accomplish in any given year, or maybe in the
Unknown:next quarter. Sometimes for people, that's another thing
Unknown:like shortening up how we look at stuff, SAP looking at the
Unknown:whole year, and maybe just break it down into quarters, like 12
Unknown:weeks. Okay, what is it that I really want to get done in the
Unknown:next 12 weeks? And so what the success list, you're going to
Unknown:put things on the success lists that are going to bring you
Unknown:closer towards that. And so like every time you're doing
Unknown:something, it's important to ask yourself, is this taking me
Unknown:towards what I'm working for? Or is it taking me away from what
Unknown:I'm working towards? And so the success list is very short. It's
Unknown:a priority list of like, this is taking me closer to what I'm
Unknown:looking to achieve. And again, I know for a lot of people, it's
Unknown:hard to get away from the to do list and there are so many
Unknown:people who I tell this to and they love making the lists and
Unknown:they love making the checkoff, right. It's it's a visual type
Unknown:of thing, because so many people will add stuff to their to do
Unknown:list and then be able to check it off because it was something
Unknown:that they got done, right? Like no, no, no, no, no. So I get it.
Unknown:So like I tell people take a very small post it note not like
Unknown:not something huge, take a small post it note if that's going to
Unknown:help you and write down like three or four things for your to
Unknown:do list. Or put them if you do electronic calendaring, you
Unknown:know, put them on like, you know, maybe you've got an hour
Unknown:blocked off that you're going to do to do things, put it in
Unknown:there. Because then and then crumble it up, especially a post
Unknown:it note, throw it away. Because basically, when you look at that
Unknown:to do list to me, when you see all the things, again, that you
Unknown:didn't get done, it chips away at your self esteem. And again,
Unknown:it's so easy for the brain to go to oh my gosh, look at what I
Unknown:didn't get done, versus what I did get done success list. But
Unknown:no, you're being successful, because you're working on that
Unknown:priority activity, that's going to be result producing, that's
Unknown:really what it is, what do you want to you know, accomplish?
Unknown:With, you know, your success list?
Melissa Deally:So I have a question for you there. Can you
Melissa Deally:have a to do list and a success list, because the to do list is
Melissa Deally:kind of the things that you're just writing down because you
Melissa Deally:don't want to forget to do them. Right, they're gonna get done at
Melissa Deally:some point. And the success list are the things that that's
Melissa Deally:what's moving you forward, that's what you need to focus
Melissa Deally:on. And potentially, those are the things that you're doing in
Melissa Deally:15 minute increments of Uber focus,
Unknown:right? Does that say Use caution, like, cuz like I
Unknown:hear and I see where you're going, you know, with that. It's
Unknown:just that you're like you don't want to mix up. So let's just
Unknown:say that the to do list could be chores, errands and things you
Unknown:don't want to forget, that are not like maybe such a big
Unknown:priority. So like your success list is what is my priority. The
Unknown:To Do List is I got to pick up dog food, dry cleaning, you
Unknown:know, those kinds of right like tasking things that may not be
Unknown:necessarily driving you towards? What are some of the things that
Unknown:you're looking to achieve? And you know, we'll just say 2022,
Unknown:right? Because it's, again, like to do lists usually combine the
Unknown:two, like, you've got some priority things, you've got some
Unknown:non priority things. And then because you're staring at that,
Unknown:chances are that you're going to be going through that list and
Unknown:be focused possibly on the non priority because they're easy to
Unknown:do. It's, you know, again, because you have to be self
Unknown:disciplined to be working on those things that are on your
Unknown:success list. Right.
Melissa Deally:So it's interesting, because part of
Melissa Deally:that is also the habit change, right? Because I have a notebook
Melissa Deally:where I just write everything down to your point. But then I
Melissa Deally:will go through and be like, Okay, what are the three things
Melissa Deally:I have to get done today? And so that's my success list.
Unknown:Yes. Are the three things I get to do? I get
Melissa Deally:to do I got to the three things I get to do
Melissa Deally:today, right because and I have my sticky notes here. So see my
Melissa Deally:sticky notes and have them right here. and celebrate the faith
Melissa Deally:three things I get to do today.
Unknown:And really, and that is that, you know, people are like,
Unknown:Oh my gosh, what do you mean? Celebrate? I'm like, I'm
Unknown:serious. And celebrate doesn't mean like you're throwing a big
Unknown:party, I'm like, just celebrate, and what is it then that you
Unknown:like to do? So then take 15 minutes as you wrap up the end
Unknown:of your day on something that really fuels your fire for the
Unknown:next day? You know, like, I mean, we're all so a lot of us
Unknown:are, you know, reward driven. And it should be more pleasure
Unknown:than pain, you know, kind of things. So, I think that that's
Unknown:really important and key to, you know, to take a look at.
Melissa Deally:Definitely, and I know, I am personally, one who
Melissa Deally:is learning to celebrate the things along the way and
Melissa Deally:recognize that journey, as opposed to just keep pushing,
Melissa Deally:keep pushing, keep pushing. So we were talking about
Melissa Deally:boundaries. Earlier, we've been talking about the to the success
Melissa Deally:list, somewhere in there is setting priorities. Do you have
Melissa Deally:suggestions on how people can set the priority to get that
Melissa Deally:success was done to have their focus time and work within
Melissa Deally:boundaries? How do we pull it all together?
Unknown:Well, it's a lot, and then this isn't going to happen
Unknown:overnight. So for people who are listening, again, my suggestion
Unknown:is to take one thing that really resonates with you, and
Unknown:implement it, some people say, you know, there's books on 21,
Unknown:you know, 21 days, 30 days to a new habit. Average is 66 days.
Unknown:And I really believe that's why I like the 12 weeks the
Unknown:quarterly, because I really believe it's about 90 days to
Unknown:implement something new. So take one thing and decide what it is.
Unknown:And so when it comes to priorities, again, that goes to
Unknown:the idea of the success list, what is taking you towards what
Unknown:you're working towards, you know, for, versus what you know,
Unknown:what is going to D track you from, you know, what it is that
Unknown:your end result, called, like life goals, dreams, designing
Unknown:the life that you know, you desire. And when it comes to
Unknown:priorities, this is always something that I say, and you
Unknown:kind of alluded to it before self care is not selfish. So you
Unknown:really want to take a look at your life. And for everybody
Unknown:this is, you know, unique and individual put into your
Unknown:calendar, what are your non negotiables? Like, you know, you
Unknown:don't work Sundays, you go to church on Sundays, you know,
Unknown:what is it that for some people it's working out, you know, that
Unknown:those kinds of things go in, because you know, that if you're
Unknown:not working out, or you know, your whatever, like, you're
Unknown:going to be a basket case, and you're going to be angry all
Unknown:day, whatever it is. And then whether you do paper, that stuff
Unknown:goes in and pattern. Like there, there is no changing and it's an
Unknown:appointment with yourself. If it's in your calendar, there's
Unknown:no like negotiating. Well, I'll, you know, take this out, because
Unknown:here's what happens, you take it out once, and all of a sudden,
Unknown:before you know it, it's like two weeks. And gosh, I haven't
Unknown:been to the gym in two weeks. Right? It's a it's a priority
Unknown:for you. And like the biggest way that I look at priorities,
Unknown:and how I'm going to do things, is the order of importance, you
Unknown:know, for what's taking me towards my big picture, my big
Unknown:picture dreams, you know, for for 2022. So, again, best
Unknown:question to ask yourself, I love this question, taking me towards
Unknown:taking me away, you know, it's it is that will help you a lot
Unknown:of times to decide, is this a priority at this moment or not?
Unknown:And priorities can change in the given moment. You know, but
Unknown:again, here's another tip, somebody else's, you know,
Unknown:emergency is not your crisis. So like, there is no point in
Unknown:dropping everything, you know, for somebody else, you know,
Unknown:it's like, really, again, just take a look at can this be
Unknown:addressed? At a later point, of course, we're all going to have
Unknown:things that happened, like when your daughter got the
Unknown:concussion? Well, that took priority over everything else
Unknown:that was happening. But for sometimes we just have to look
Unknown:at it like, well, you know, you didn't, you know, plan or
Unknown:prepare, you know, like somebody else, that doesn't mean that I
Unknown:have to drop everything to you know, help or support you.
Melissa Deally:Exactly. So when one of my daughter's suddenly
Melissa Deally:decides that, oh, can I drive them somewhere right now?
Melissa Deally:Because that's when that's their emergency. It's not my crisis,
Melissa Deally:right?
Unknown:Absolutely. Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:That's what I'm trying to teach them if they
Melissa Deally:want me to drive them anywhere I need 24 hours advance notice.
Melissa Deally:And it has to fit in my schedule that I've already prioritized,
Melissa Deally:right? Right. So yeah. So coming back to weight. Well, first of
Melissa Deally:all, I was there I totally agree with, you know, all that you've
Melissa Deally:said, I love it and that self care is not selfish. And I just
Melissa Deally:want to highlight that when you're creating that success
Melissa Deally:list to build that self care in, that's not something for later,
Melissa Deally:you can only be your best self, if you're first looking after
Melissa Deally:yourself. Right? Right. listeners that have been
Melissa Deally:listening to the podcast for a while will have heard my one of
Melissa Deally:my favorite quotes, which is that self care is the most
Melissa Deally:selfless act because it allows you to show up and give the
Melissa Deally:world the best of you instead of what's left of you. So that's on
Melissa Deally:my success list. And I really think that should be on
Melissa Deally:everybody's success list in some way, shape, or form, because it
Melissa Deally:is very individual. And once you've looked after you, then
Melissa Deally:what else is on your success list for the rest of that day.
Melissa Deally:But I just want to loop back to what you had talked about
Melissa Deally:earlier. And that was the morning routine. And I know that
Melissa Deally:we've been working together and you let me know today that
Melissa Deally:you've got your morning routine in place, which is awesome. So I
Melissa Deally:would love for you to share what that is, if you would like to
Melissa Deally:and then how that's been benefiting you over the last
Melissa Deally:month or so.
Unknown:Yeah, so thank you, because it's, um, if anybody has
Unknown:ever read the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, and I have
Unknown:taken, you know, taking a guess a page out of his book to
Unknown:establish my morning routine. So right now my morning routine is,
Unknown:you know, getting up and one of the first things I always have
Unknown:to do, which is not part of my morning routine is feed my dogs,
Unknown:because if I don't see myself away, they're like, what, what
Unknown:you're up and you know, it's like five minutes in and we
Unknown:haven't eaten yet, right? But I'm serious. No. So it looks
Unknown:like I'm in the process of reading the book to think
Unknown:thinking grow rich. And so there's like a desired
Unknown:statement. So it's basically my desired plan, what I'm working
Unknown:on this year, so I read that out loud, you know, it's almost like
Unknown:an affirmation that I'm reading out loud, and that I'm doing
Unknown:that I do a little bit of reading, either thinking grow
Unknown:rich, I'm also in the process of some other things. And I do the
Unknown:reading, the big thing for me is some journaling. So I do my list
Unknown:of gratitudes, I have a list of like 10 gratitudes, that I do
Unknown:every morning, as well as a little visualization around
Unknown:that. I also have another journal that has these
Unknown:questions. And so like, I just randomly open it to a page and I
Unknown:journal and I answer, you know, I answer my questions. And then
Unknown:I also, I do a little exercise right away. Okay, so I have one
Unknown:of these. I don't know exactly the appropriate like, like the
Unknown:term to use, but it's like a vibrating machine. So you stand
Unknown:on it for 10 minutes, and you edit vibrates your entire body.
Unknown:And it's like supposed to be equivalent to working out for
Unknown:about 45 minutes, it's really good for the joints. I'm not
Unknown:saying that like replaces cardio or anything like that. But it
Unknown:really is, like I like it, because I noticed a difference.
Unknown:Like I have a little knee issue and stuff like that. So I always
Unknown:feel better. And I can feel it. Like you can actually do like
Unknown:squats on it and, you know, lunges and all those kinds of
Unknown:things. But I usually just stand there, you know, for 10 minutes
Unknown:and let it vibrate? Well, I think I
Melissa Deally:really I haven't heard of that before. But I'm
Melissa Deally:thinking that is really cool in the morning. Because of course
Melissa Deally:the body's detoxing overnight, and then that vibration is
Melissa Deally:getting your lymphatic tissue moving first thing in the
Melissa Deally:morning to help you know, get those toxins that the body's
Melissa Deally:tried to clean up overnight, flushed down to be removed from
Melissa Deally:the body.
Unknown:Absolutely. That's it, you know, and if you want
Unknown:because if you do show notes or something, I can get the name of
Unknown:it, like, you know, and put it in there because it's actually
Unknown:it's actually, you know, it's a pretty cool machine. So all in
Unknown:all, like right now because, you know, people are like, Why don't
Unknown:have any extra time in the morning. Right? Like, all in
Unknown:all, like everything that I'm doing right now for myself is
Unknown:taking about 30 minutes. 30 minutes. Yeah, you know, to to
Unknown:set myself up for the day. And, and I just because it doesn't
Unknown:always have to, like Hal Elrod talks about it being like an
Unknown:hour 10 minutes on like six different things, right. But
Unknown:then he also has like the abbreviated version, which is
Unknown:like 10 minutes, you know, like a minute and a half on like
Unknown:certain things and then a minute on one thing, right just as long
Unknown:as you're getting yourself into your routine. Whatever your
Unknown:routine looks like for you is the importance and the key that
Unknown:you know you're not right away again, going into that frantic
Unknown:hectic state. Like you said reacting instead of okay, this
Unknown:is how I'm going to set you know My day up, usually, like, you
Unknown:know, closing my eyes and a little meditation, you know,
Unknown:that kind of thing. You know, imagining how I want my day to
Unknown:unfold and look is really important as well, too. So,
Melissa Deally:yeah, and I love all of that. And when I, what I
Melissa Deally:hear from so many people is that they use their phone as their
Melissa Deally:alarm clock. So a the phone is in the bedroom. And which I
Melissa Deally:don't love from the EMF perspective, and Bluetooth and
Melissa Deally:Wi Fi, and all of that, that we know that can cause harm to the
Melissa Deally:body. And some people are quite sensitive to it, and I'm one of
Melissa Deally:them. But because it's your alarm clock, that's what's
Melissa Deally:waking you up, and then you pick it up, to turn off the alarm,
Melissa Deally:right. And then boom, you can see all your notifications that
Melissa Deally:have come in overnight. And now all of a sudden, you're looking
Melissa Deally:at those emails, and you're starting to scroll Facebook, and
Melissa Deally:you just end up in that, you know, overwhelmed state, and
Melissa Deally:you've the alarm went off 30 seconds ago,
Unknown:right. And so
Melissa Deally:many people are doing that. And it's just the
Melissa Deally:way we've been programmed is well, the phone does everything.
Melissa Deally:So I'm going to have it with me 24/7, right. And I really
Melissa Deally:encourage people to go and buy like that $10 alarm clock that's
Melissa Deally:either battery run or plugs into the wall. And you know, when I
Melissa Deally:do my sleep course, I go into a lot more on that. But use that
Melissa Deally:to get the phone out of the room. Because the alarm wakes
Melissa Deally:you up, maybe you can choose you know, wake up to the radio or
Melissa Deally:whatever, you can turn it off, and then start your morning
Melissa Deally:routine. Or if you don't mind the music in the background
Melissa Deally:during your morning routine, you can you know, continue listening
Melissa Deally:to that. But that right away is a huge shift in habit for people
Melissa Deally:that allows them to not immediately go into that
Melissa Deally:reactionary state. It's just right.
Unknown:And I will say I'm a work in progress. And so like
Unknown:here has what I've been doing because I I am I'm a bad girl,
Unknown:Melissa like I that bad habit, bad habit, I do use my phone as
Unknown:an alarm clock. But here's what I do when I shut it off. It's in
Unknown:like a Do Not Disturb mode. So show me all my notifications.
Unknown:And so what I do is I leave the bedroom, and I leave the phone
Unknown:in the bedroom, because I do my morning routine outside of the
Unknown:bedroom. So right, like I'm in my living room, that kind of
Unknown:thing. So then the phone isn't even anywhere near me to
Unknown:distract me with anything with anything else. And so that's
Unknown:worked really well. And honestly, like that I've been
Unknown:getting into this morning routine, I haven't really had
Unknown:the need to like be checking my phone because I'm so into what
Unknown:I'm doing that that's become my new skill. Right? Right, right
Unknown:social media for myself. Right?
Melissa Deally:And that sounds like you're in that zone of
Melissa Deally:focus. Right? Right. As you're doing something for yourself,
Melissa Deally:that's bringing you joy, that, you know, makes you feel better
Melissa Deally:as you go into the rest of your day. So I love it, you're
Melissa Deally:starting your day out slowing down in order to be more
Melissa Deally:productive, right? And I know that so counterintuitive to
Melissa Deally:people, right? We're just trained, do more, do more, do
Melissa Deally:more, work harder, get more done. But the reality is, is we
Melissa Deally:have a plan and we slow down. So the tortoise and the hare,
Melissa Deally:right? Instead, he gets the job done. So awesome, awesome. So I
Melissa Deally:love your morning routine that you've set up and that you're
Melissa Deally:working on that. And I've really enjoyed working with you through
Melissa Deally:our program that we've done together. And you're someone as
Melissa Deally:you said that you've been focused on your health for a
Melissa Deally:long time you prioritize it. And I love that. As someone who's
Melissa Deally:prioritize it for a long time, you still want to do more in
Melissa Deally:order to be ensuring that you stay healthy. And because you're
Melissa Deally:an entrepreneur, and how do you build your business if you don't
Melissa Deally:have your health. So I really appreciate that about you. And
Melissa Deally:that's part of my message that I want to be sharing with the
Melissa Deally:world is that if you have your health, everything else else can
Melissa Deally:flow. And if you don't have your health, then you're struggling
Melissa Deally:to get it all done. So between slowing down, creating your
Melissa Deally:morning routine, focusing on self care, focusing on health,
Melissa Deally:that's how people can have an amazing 2022 And if they need
Melissa Deally:help with time management, time blocking success lists getting
Melissa Deally:shit done, then they need to reach out to you. So has someone
Melissa Deally:how would someone do that?
Unknown:Well, the probably the easiest way that you can go to
Unknown:my website, which is simply Julie Jones dot biz. So you can,
Unknown:you know, find out all the information about me and email
Unknown:me connect with me. And you know, I'd love, love, love, love
Unknown:making new friends and having conversations.
Melissa Deally:And I love that. And I know that there are, you
Melissa Deally:know, some people that this comes really naturally to. And
Melissa Deally:there's so many people that struggle with this. And so
Melissa Deally:though for those people that struggle with this, don't beat
Melissa Deally:yourself up, don't think that you can never do it. Truly reach
Melissa Deally:out to Julie because she will give you the tools and the
Melissa Deally:support to for you to be able to implement so that you can turn a
Melissa Deally:new leaf and be really productive and get shipped.
Unknown:Absolutely. And so yes. So please come to the website.
Unknown:You can book a 30 minute complimentary call with me, I
Unknown:promise you I'm a lot of fun. And you know,
Melissa Deally:maybe even wear a costume or googly eyes. No, I.
Unknown:Yes. So 30 minutes with me. And then as a special offer.
Unknown:I just recently wrote a book. And so if you come on and you
Unknown:know, you say during our call that you heard about me through
Unknown:Melissa, I will send you a free copy of my book. Oh,
Melissa Deally:thank you that's so generous of you. And I know,
Melissa Deally:I know that you sent also a free download on productivity that
Melissa Deally:I've put into the show notes as well.
Unknown:Yes, yes. So that is an offer there as well. So I'm just
Unknown:not feeling all kinds of generous today. Because I just
Unknown:love Melissa. And I've loved working with her. You know, I
Unknown:mean, she's helped me with some of my health. And one of the
Unknown:reasons why I have a morning routine is because I did work
Unknown:with her and realize the importance because of some of my
Unknown:cortisol levels being off kilter first thing in the morning. So
Unknown:that was really key to helping me, you know, get my mind
Unknown:wrapped around my health. And thanks to Melissa, I'm right on
Unknown:track.
Melissa Deally:Well, thank you, it's been awesome working with
Melissa Deally:you. And just you know, the different skill sets that we all
Melissa Deally:have that we can bring to the table to support other people
Melissa Deally:is, is really powerful. So thank you. Thank you. So before I let
Melissa Deally:you go, though, I have two questions. I love to ask my
Melissa Deally:guests before we wrap up. And that first one is what is don't
Melissa Deally:wait for your wake up call mean to you.
Unknown:Oh my gosh, again, life happens. And so it can turn on a
Unknown:dime, like, don't wait until you're 95. And you're on your
Unknown:deathbed. And you're you have these regrets of what you didn't
Unknown:do, versus what you did do. And so that's what it means to me.
Unknown:It's like live each and every moment. But live in gratitude
Unknown:and live in health and live your best life. That's really what it
Unknown:means to me.
Melissa Deally:I love that and living in that higher vibration
Melissa Deally:to that vibration of joy, love happiness. Right? Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:And that comes when you're living in gratitude. So and then
Melissa Deally:my other question is, what message would you like to leave
Melissa Deally:with the audience to inspire them to take action today? After
Melissa Deally:all, we've talked about how do we inspire them to slow down so
Melissa Deally:they can get more done?
Unknown:You know, it's, I see it in the background for you in
Unknown:the background for me. And I just love to tell people that
Unknown:you are enough, you know, it's really not about going to a
Unknown:point of beat up mode. Like, again, we always talk about
Unknown:Hindsight is 2020 Because now all of a sudden, we have all
Unknown:this information that we didn't have before when we made a
Unknown:decision, right. And so just knowing that you have all the
Unknown:tools that you need to be anything that you want. And so
Unknown:just remember like that is like that is such a big message is
Unknown:step going to beat up mode and know that everything that you
Unknown:offer this world that you are enough and sometimes it just
Unknown:takes a little tweaking and a couple of little things to make
Unknown:all the difference in the world.
Melissa Deally:I love them. Thank you so so much. So thanks
Melissa Deally:for being here. Julie Jones. This was a powerful episode. I
Melissa Deally:look forward to coming out and to all of my listeners thank you
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Melissa Deally:they need some help in slowing down to get more done. get shit
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