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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I

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am Melissa dealey your host and super excited to bring you yet

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another amazing guest today. Julie Jones of The Adventures of

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Julie Jones. Welcome, Julie.

Unknown:

Oh my gosh, I am so excited to be here. Thank you so

Unknown:

much, Melissa, for having me here today.

Melissa Deally:

It is my pleasure. And you're such a

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perfect person to have on the show during the month of January

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when you know everybody is thinking about what their goals

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are for the year, how they're going to get it all done. And

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you know, trying to set priorities, et cetera, and time

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management. What is that? Right? So I just want to introduce you

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to the audience. And then we're going to dive right in with your

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story. But Julie Jones is an award winning international

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speaker, International Best Selling Author and intuitive

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coach of the get shit done platform, and a master connector

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of people who is passionate about supporting purpose driven

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entrepreneurs to live the best their best life now without

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regrets. And as a former police officer and SWAT member, Julie

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knows that there is no promise of tomorrow. And coaches

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individuals to face the fear and live in the moment, which I

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absolutely love. So that's just a tiny, tiny little introduction

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of who you are Julie and your journey and how you came to

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being this amazing person today. I love the name of your program,

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they get shit done program, please just introduce yourself

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to the audience. How you came to be where you're at today.

Unknown:

Oh my gosh, well, how much time do we have? Melissa?

Unknown:

Be a long time. So, you know, like, like everybody, you know,

Unknown:

you have these these dreams and aspirations. Right. And I have

Unknown:

to say, growing up, I was strong in the math and science field.

Unknown:

And so I thought I was gonna go into some type of medical field.

Unknown:

And about the ninth hour when I was deciding on college and what

Unknown:

I wanted to major in, I decided on criminal justice. So I have a

Unknown:

Bachelor of Science in Criminal Justice and a minor in

Unknown:

psychology. Now knowing what I know about people while I should

Unknown:

have done a major key, right. And so I went ahead and

Unknown:

initially, I have to say I wanted to be secret service or

Unknown:

FBI. And I found out what secret service you have to have almost

Unknown:

perfect vision uncorrected. And I didn't. And so I'm like, Okay,

Unknown:

what am I going to do, and I really wanted to be on patrol.

Unknown:

And you know, as I look back, and I'll share a few things, but

Unknown:

from early on, it's always been about serving people like really

Unknown:

wanting to help and serve people. So I thought I could do

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that with law enforcement. And I loved my career. I really did. I

Unknown:

mean, I was a police officer for 10 years. SWAT team member for a

Unknown:

somewhere between two and three years that I was a SWAT team

Unknown:

member. I haven't been a police officer for 21 years. So it's

Unknown:

like, it's kind of hard sometimes to remember, that was

Unknown:

part of my journey. And it was an exciting part of my journey

Unknown:

because it gave me so many skill sets that I applied today. And

Unknown:

then from that point, I'm just gonna, you know, like run down

Unknown:

the spectrum of everything that I've done, because I'm very

Unknown:

passionate about health like you. So I've been a chiropractic

Unknown:

assistant taught some lifestyle, you know, classes, that kind of

Unknown:

thing. I've been a property manager. I've been a makeup

Unknown:

artist, you know, but deep down in my heart again, always

Unknown:

serving people but what I love best is I love being an

Unknown:

entrepreneur. So in the last 15 years in some capacity, I've

Unknown:

always been speaking and coaching individuals and back

Unknown:

during the pandemic, I said enough is enough and decided to

Unknown:

full bore launch My speaking coaching business and so I

Unknown:

started in November of 2020. formed my LLC, I had been

Unknown:

branded as the adventures of Julie Jones for a long, long

Unknown:

time, but opened up my LLC and then started to get shit done

Unknown:

coaching platform, which I just love, I just love what I do. I'm

Unknown:

so passionate about helping people to live their best life.

Unknown:

Because as a police officer, I just saw how quickly life can

Unknown:

change, you know, here today gone tomorrow, and everybody

Unknown:

thinks they have forever, I'm here to tell you, they don't.

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But there's so much that you can do in order to

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extend what you have to write. Absolutely living your best life

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now is so important. You don't want to put everything off for

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the future and then find out there isn't that future. So it

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is finding that balance and making the most of every day.

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Right?

Unknown:

Absolutely. Because when you wake up in the morning,

Unknown:

and I do gratitudes in the morning, so when I wake up and

Unknown:

you know, almost every single day is some form of I'm grateful

Unknown:

to be alive, I'm grateful to have woken up, I'm grateful to

Unknown:

see the sunrise, right. Because of course, this is a podcast and

Unknown:

you don't visually see, but I'm six feet tall. So I always say

Unknown:

that I'm grateful to be you know, six feet above ground. You

Unknown:

know, kind of thing. So, and you know, we can joke around about

Unknown:

it. However, again, it's one of those things where I just look

Unknown:

at and I say, oh my gosh, you know, if if today is all I have?

Unknown:

How am I gonna make the best of it. And you know, like, even

Unknown:

when you walk out to your car and you find you have a flat

Unknown:

tire, is it like a bad day or a bad moment, right? And it's

Unknown:

always, like, I look at it as a bad moment. Because if you turn

Unknown:

it as a bad day, every other bad thing is going to come your way,

Unknown:

like you will just attract all this negativity that you weren't

Unknown:

planning on because you just deem that, oh my gosh, I'm

Unknown:

having a bad day. And I'm not a Pollyanna by any, you know,

Unknown:

means like, my life is not full of sunshine, rainbows and

Unknown:

unicorns. So, you know, sometimes I'm, you know, you

Unknown:

look at something like that. And it's like, oh, okay, well, you

Unknown:

know, to you know, it's a bad, you know, it's a bad day. Well,

Unknown:

it's a bad moment, usually.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah, I really, I really like that attitude.

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Because you're absolutely right, you know, where you lay your

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focus, you attract more of. So if you've just got it's a bad

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day, it's a bad day, it's about day running through your head,

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of course, you're going to get more of that bad day. But if you

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accept, okay, I've got a flat tire it sucks is gonna make me

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late, I got to deal with it. But it's a bad moment. So you can

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deal with it and move beyond it. And the rest of the day doesn't

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have to be ruined,

Unknown:

right? Because maybe, just maybe, and again, this is

Unknown:

probably that Pollyanna thinking, but it's really not.

Unknown:

Maybe having that flat tire prevented you from being in that

Unknown:

spot where there was a massive accident that just happened. And

Unknown:

so you could have been there instead, the flat tire prevented

Unknown:

you from being you know, at that moment. So

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there's 100%. And you might think that, you

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know, say it's that Pollyanna moment, and some people don't

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buy into it. But it's so true. I am a big believer that

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everything happens for a reason. And we don't always understand

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it in the moment. But often with that 2020 hindsight, we do and

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is a flat tire really big enough to be you know, researching

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that, but it's it's so interesting, because, you know,

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my journey to coming here was through my daughter's

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concussions. And I remember the day my oldest daughter got her

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concussion that that happened right in the second half of the

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game at the beginning of the second half, like five minutes

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in. We weren't even meant to be there for that second half, I

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was meant to be taking her out of the game and going to

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Vancouver. But she didn't want to leave. And so we stayed and

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then we have the concussion. And so there was that part of me

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that was like, only I'd left if only I'd made her leave, we

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wouldn't have had that. And I had a neighbor say to me stop

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thinking that because you could have driven down the highway and

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got in an accident. And she could have still had a

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concussion. Right? Right. So you know, there is a piece of that.

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And so if you just accept the moment for what it is deal with

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it and then let it go. That allows us to, you know,

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obviously release the bad day, but also release the stress that

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we carry with us through these moments, right, and the

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overwhelm, and the frustration, etc, etc. And it ties in

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beautifully to, you know, this whole conversation that I want

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to be having with the audience in January, and this theme of

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slowing down and we get more done. When we slow down, right?

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Because we can get ourselves out of that stress state. So I know

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that one of the areas that you specialize in and there's many,

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but one of them is, you know about getting things done, get

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shit done. Right? And you've got some tips for the audience on

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how people can do that more effectively.

Unknown:

Well, yes, I do. And actually, one of the things that

Unknown:

as you were, you were talking that come to mind, is this whole

Unknown:

idea of like, you know, when you're reducing your stress

Unknown:

levels, is the idea of like a morning routine. And I know

Unknown:

you're a big proponent of a morning routine, right? Because

Unknown:

we, we've talked about this before. And it really does set

Unknown:

the day for, you know, this idea of slowing down, right. Because

Unknown:

if you jump out of bed, and you start running like a chicken

Unknown:

with your head cut off, like your whole day is like that

Unknown:

hectic, frantic, you know, issues are coming up. Like you

Unknown:

just feel like you're always behind the eight ball that

Unknown:

you're not getting anything done.

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You can earth the day and reactionary mode.

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Right,

Unknown:

right. And so but like, even if it's just a simple 15

Unknown:

minutes that you take for yourself first thing in the

Unknown:

morning, to really set the pace of how your day is going to be.

Unknown:

Because like, here's one of my tips that kind of goes along

Unknown:

with this idea of slowing down. Is Believe it or not people we

Unknown:

are not designed to be multitaskers Whoa, tip number

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one multitasking, right? Because here's the the truth about it.

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And sometimes it's even been like a badge of honor. You know,

Unknown:

like, especially for women, oh, my gosh, I got so much done. And

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I was doing this and doing that and multitasking all day long,

Unknown:

right? The brain can only focus in on one thing. So as much as

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you think that you're getting done, you're really not. It's in

Unknown:

the slowing down that you find that you're more productive.

Unknown:

See, we can be Whoo, busy as I call it, I love Ooh, busy,

Unknown:

right? We're we're busy doing this and doing that. And we're

Unknown:

running around all over the place. And again, we get to the

Unknown:

end of our day, and we look back and we think oh my God, what did

Unknown:

I really get done. And so productive time productive

Unknown:

moments, is so much more important. So really taking that

Unknown:

time to be focused in on one thing. And that's going to be

Unknown:

like leading into my tip. So a lot of times we have this idea

Unknown:

when we if we do calendar blocking. I know I know, not

Unknown:

everybody does it. That's like a whole separate topic that we

Unknown:

could talk about for hours. But if you are doing calendar

Unknown:

blocking, a lot of times people will set two, three hours aside

Unknown:

for, you know, some kind of like task or project or during these

Unknown:

next three hours, this is what I'm going to get done. And we

Unknown:

find that we have a million distractions that come at us.

Unknown:

And then all of a sudden, you got nothing done during those

Unknown:

three hours, right? So if you really just set a timer, or you

Unknown:

know, some and don't use a timer on your phone, because your

Unknown:

phone is one of your biggest distractions. I'm just here to

Unknown:

tell you very good point. Yes, yes. So because we can get lost

Unknown:

in all those apps and social media and like scrolling

Unknown:

through, and then all of a sudden it's like, well, how did

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five hours pass?

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Okay, because, and all of which are

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deliberately designed to addict you and keep you on them?

Unknown:

Yes, yes, it's an addiction of people. So yeah,

Unknown:

because just as a side note, I just recently discovered that

Unknown:

one of the new addictions that are out there, we think of

Unknown:

alcohol, we think of drugs, we think of all this stuff, it's

Unknown:

social media, that's a new, that's a new addiction that is

Unknown:

out there that they are now having to address is, you know,

Unknown:

being so tied to our technology and our phone. Anyway, I

Unknown:

digress. So the the the 15 minute increments. So what that

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looks like is that you eliminate all distractions, you you know,

Unknown:

shut off your phone, put it on, do not disturb. If your computer

Unknown:

dings at you, make sure it's not dinging at you or be in a place

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where your computer is not going to distract you. And the

Unknown:

subconscious is so unique and like when it knows you're going

Unknown:

to get serious about something, all of a sudden you feel like

Unknown:

it's time to clean the refrigerator. I don't know why

Unknown:

but you do. And so then or like you have to go to the bathroom,

Unknown:

all of a sudden you're extremely thirsty. Okay, whatever it

Unknown:

takes, just eliminate the distractions and all I'm saying

Unknown:

is do 15 minutes. Ideally, if you can do it first thing in the

Unknown:

morning because that's when a lot of people are most

Unknown:

productive. And put your head down and work for 15 minutes.

Unknown:

When the timer goes off. I want you to celebrate like I'm

Unknown:

serious, like do a little dance, celebrate Whatever it looks like

Unknown:

and don't cooperate To find or qualify what you got done, you

Unknown:

showed up for yourself, you took action. And if that's all you

Unknown:

get done, but you worked on, like, for 15 minutes, whatever

Unknown:

it was it, maybe you normally set two or three hours for you

Unknown:

do this five, six days a week, you're so much further ahead and

Unknown:

setting up those huge chunks of time. Trust me, it works.

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that wants to step into being proactive in your health and

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Well, I love that. And, you know, it sounds I'm listening to

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you talk and I did my workout this morning. And it actually

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sounds really similar to you know, I did it at home, I got

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the mirror, the Lululemon mirror, which is very cool at

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Christmas time, my daughter's work there. And the trainer is

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saying, you know, you showed up for yourself, whatever you do

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here, you're winner, because you're here and you've done

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this, right. And so I love the idea of not quantifying it. Just

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give yourself that 15 minutes and focus and get it done. And

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over the course of time, you will find you're just getting so

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much more done, than if you allow all of those intrusions on

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your time. And then that creates more time in your day for other

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things. And one of those might be self care, because so often I

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hear people go, I don't have time to exercise. But guess

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what, what if we were able to focus on getting those, you

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know, three tasks that we need to get done during the day done

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at work first thing in the morning, and it's taking us 15

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minutes, as opposed to three hours, we've just bought all of

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this extra time in our day.

Unknown:

Right? Because here's the thing, like when when you're

Unknown:

so focused in, you're focused in your being Uber productive. See,

Unknown:

because when you are working on a task, and let's say you've

Unknown:

been in it in it for five minutes, and then you allow like

Unknown:

that text message that you look at, or you look at that email

Unknown:

that just flashed across your computer right? Now you just got

Unknown:

distracted, you may or may not look at that. But even if you

Unknown:

don't respond to it, the brain has gone off in that direction

Unknown:

and starts this whole like spin cycle of thinking about what

Unknown:

what was that about? What do I do, I need to do that right now.

Unknown:

And yada yada yada, and it takes you a good 10 minutes to refocus

Unknown:

back in on what your you know, your original priority was. And

Unknown:

so think about how much you do that during the day. You know,

Unknown:

we are we are constantly distracted, you know, with a

Unknown:

million different things at any given time. And so if the brain

Unknown:

has to continue to refocus, that's why it's such a

Unknown:

challenge. And you find like, sometimes you just don't get as

Unknown:

much done, because you didn't set up that you know that that

Unknown:

increment of time. And people don't think that 15 minutes as

Unknown:

possible, I do the 15 minutes, because it's a it's a short

Unknown:

time, but you really can be productive. And again, like if

Unknown:

after the first 15 minutes, like you're ready to set up another

Unknown:

15 minutes and set up another 15 minutes and maybe do an hour's

Unknown:

worth of increments, you know, for 15 minutes, whatever works

Unknown:

for you. It's you know, it's it's figuring it out, but then

Unknown:

being consistent with it. because consistency is the key

Unknown:

in order to then to make it a new habit. Because 95% of all we

Unknown:

operate our habits. And so like if you don't like a habit, you

Unknown:

think it's a bad habit, and you want to incorporate something

Unknown:

else. Well now you've got to still spend that amount of time

Unknown:

to you know, to implement a new habit.

Melissa Deally:

Exactly, and then implementing that new habit

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anytime we want to get rid of a bad habit, we have to replace it

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with a good habit. Right. And that's where habit stacking

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comes in and triggers that remind us of the new habit. So

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is that an area that you work on as well?

Unknown:

While I work on a lot and you know, it's it's about

Unknown:

productivity, because if we want to live our best life now, you

Unknown:

know, we really need to know how to maximize our time without

Unknown:

losing our sanity. And you know, like a lot of times people talk

Unknown:

about this whole like work life balance well, again, hate to be

Unknown:

you know, like the party crasher. Our there is no such

Unknown:

thing as a balanced I like to call it like balance, sometimes

Unknown:

counterbalance because sometimes we're going to be really focused

Unknown:

in on work. And then you know, and then we still want to have a

Unknown:

life, right? Well, the key around that is like boundaries.

Unknown:

So like, what are your working hours going to be our, you know,

Unknown:

our, like Saturdays, Sundays, non negotiables? Like maybe

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you'll work Saturday don't want to work Sunday, what does it

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what does it look like, but really sticking with your your

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boundaries and you know your commitments around those kinds

Unknown:

of things. And again, that focus comes into play when you're when

Unknown:

you're with your family, be with your family, or whatever you're

Unknown:

doing at that moment, give it 100% Put away the technology,

Unknown:

you know, don't be like you know, because it's not fair to

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the other, the other person if you're with them, but you're

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really not, because you're focusing on what's happening on

Unknown:

your phone and your work and everything else. Work, work,

Unknown:

family, or personal life or self care. It's, you know, you're in

Unknown:

that moment, as well. And then everything goes hand in hand.

Unknown:

And I believe how you do one thing is how you do everything.

Unknown:

So that's where, you know, I do coaching around life and

Unknown:

business and blowing up the box, like, let's like, like, not even

Unknown:

think about the box, like, let's just blow up the box and get

Unknown:

right

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outside. Right. That's, I love that. And it's

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definitely something that I practice and I'm more productive

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in the morning. And what I find that, you know, I need to do is

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I really do shut off all those notifications. And if I can, and

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I'm not working in email, I just close it. Because then I'm not

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getting those notifications. And you're right, if they're, if

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it's open, it does pull you just that little bit, even if you

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don't act on replying to that email, the brain is alerted to

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something else, and it pulls you out of that zone of focus. And

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so I love how productive I can be when I set myself up to not

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have any notifications come in. And then yeah, the celebration

Melissa Deally:

at the end of that is important to right. It's we have to, as

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part of creating the habit take that time to celebrate,

Unknown:

right, because as human beings, we have a tendency to go

Unknown:

to, if you want to say the negative. I really heard this

Unknown:

very interesting. Presentation not too long ago by a friend of

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mine, who's a hypnotherapist, and she talks about the

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subconscious. And you know, we're talking to ourselves and

Unknown:

giving ourselves like messages all day long, right? And she

Unknown:

said that for most people. Now I say most because like I know,

Unknown:

I've worked on this and have that positive attitude. But for

Unknown:

most people in the subconscious 70% of the messages that we're

Unknown:

telling ourselves are negative. And so that is I like I thought

Unknown:

about that. And I was like, wow, you know, so no wonder sometimes

Unknown:

it's like, oh, my gosh, I didn't, you know, I didn't get

Unknown:

anything done. Because we look at we go to the negative, we

Unknown:

look at what didn't get done, instead of celebrating what did.

Unknown:

Because I've been and I know you're doing this in the month

Unknown:

of January. And we I've been really talking to people about

Unknown:

doing their urine review. And you know, and I, you know, of

Unknown:

course, what I what I what I preach, I'm practicing and like

Unknown:

I started going through, you know, my 2021 and seeing

Unknown:

everything and I have a huge list of things that I have

Unknown:

accomplished and that I was able to do in 2021. And I think that

Unknown:

that's really key, again, to celebrate and look at what we

Unknown:

did get done, because sometimes we're so quick to be like, okay,

Unknown:

yeah, that's done, you know, Next, Next Next, instead of just

Unknown:

being, I always say we're human beings, not human doings. I

Melissa Deally:

love that. I absolutely love that. And you're

Melissa Deally:

so right, you know, we finish something and move on to the

Melissa Deally:

next but then, you know, maybe we haven't reached that big

Melissa Deally:

lofty goal. And then we beat ourselves up because we didn't

Melissa Deally:

achieve that without taking the time to recognize everything

Melissa Deally:

that we did do along the way. Right. So that was talking about

Melissa Deally:

the your year in review, which I love the idea of doing that. But

Melissa Deally:

I know you're also a proponent of success lists.

Unknown:

Yeah.

Melissa Deally:

Let's talk about success lists.

Unknown:

Well, this is this will probably be the topic that like

Unknown:

throws everybody off and they're like, What the heck is that?

Unknown:

Julie Jones talking about? Right? So we've all heard about

Unknown:

the to do list. Okay. And so, let me just tell you what a to

Unknown:

do list is it's, you know, it's a scattery category. Okay,

Unknown:

that's what I'm going to talk about. So What it looks like is

Unknown:

that on a to do list goes everything. Like everything that

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pops into your brain, there's no priority behind it. The list is

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usually like, you know, 500 things long, because it's all

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these things that just popped into the brain. So the

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difference between that and a success list is really taking a

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look at kind of like, what is it that most people have an

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overriding target overriding goal, if you want to say, of

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what they want to accomplish in any given year, or maybe in the

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next quarter. Sometimes for people, that's another thing

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like shortening up how we look at stuff, SAP looking at the

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whole year, and maybe just break it down into quarters, like 12

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weeks. Okay, what is it that I really want to get done in the

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next 12 weeks? And so what the success list, you're going to

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put things on the success lists that are going to bring you

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closer towards that. And so like every time you're doing

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something, it's important to ask yourself, is this taking me

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towards what I'm working for? Or is it taking me away from what

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I'm working towards? And so the success list is very short. It's

Unknown:

a priority list of like, this is taking me closer to what I'm

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looking to achieve. And again, I know for a lot of people, it's

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hard to get away from the to do list and there are so many

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people who I tell this to and they love making the lists and

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they love making the checkoff, right. It's it's a visual type

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of thing, because so many people will add stuff to their to do

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list and then be able to check it off because it was something

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that they got done, right? Like no, no, no, no, no. So I get it.

Unknown:

So like I tell people take a very small post it note not like

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not something huge, take a small post it note if that's going to

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help you and write down like three or four things for your to

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do list. Or put them if you do electronic calendaring, you

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know, put them on like, you know, maybe you've got an hour

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blocked off that you're going to do to do things, put it in

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there. Because then and then crumble it up, especially a post

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it note, throw it away. Because basically, when you look at that

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to do list to me, when you see all the things, again, that you

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didn't get done, it chips away at your self esteem. And again,

Unknown:

it's so easy for the brain to go to oh my gosh, look at what I

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didn't get done, versus what I did get done success list. But

Unknown:

no, you're being successful, because you're working on that

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priority activity, that's going to be result producing, that's

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really what it is, what do you want to you know, accomplish?

Unknown:

With, you know, your success list?

Melissa Deally:

So I have a question for you there. Can you

Melissa Deally:

have a to do list and a success list, because the to do list is

Melissa Deally:

kind of the things that you're just writing down because you

Melissa Deally:

don't want to forget to do them. Right, they're gonna get done at

Melissa Deally:

some point. And the success list are the things that that's

Melissa Deally:

what's moving you forward, that's what you need to focus

Melissa Deally:

on. And potentially, those are the things that you're doing in

Melissa Deally:

15 minute increments of Uber focus,

Unknown:

right? Does that say Use caution, like, cuz like I

Unknown:

hear and I see where you're going, you know, with that. It's

Unknown:

just that you're like you don't want to mix up. So let's just

Unknown:

say that the to do list could be chores, errands and things you

Unknown:

don't want to forget, that are not like maybe such a big

Unknown:

priority. So like your success list is what is my priority. The

Unknown:

To Do List is I got to pick up dog food, dry cleaning, you

Unknown:

know, those kinds of right like tasking things that may not be

Unknown:

necessarily driving you towards? What are some of the things that

Unknown:

you're looking to achieve? And you know, we'll just say 2022,

Unknown:

right? Because it's, again, like to do lists usually combine the

Unknown:

two, like, you've got some priority things, you've got some

Unknown:

non priority things. And then because you're staring at that,

Unknown:

chances are that you're going to be going through that list and

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be focused possibly on the non priority because they're easy to

Unknown:

do. It's, you know, again, because you have to be self

Unknown:

disciplined to be working on those things that are on your

Unknown:

success list. Right.

Melissa Deally:

So it's interesting, because part of

Melissa Deally:

that is also the habit change, right? Because I have a notebook

Melissa Deally:

where I just write everything down to your point. But then I

Melissa Deally:

will go through and be like, Okay, what are the three things

Melissa Deally:

I have to get done today? And so that's my success list.

Unknown:

Yes. Are the three things I get to do? I get

Melissa Deally:

to do I got to the three things I get to do

Melissa Deally:

today, right because and I have my sticky notes here. So see my

Melissa Deally:

sticky notes and have them right here. and celebrate the faith

Melissa Deally:

three things I get to do today.

Unknown:

And really, and that is that, you know, people are like,

Unknown:

Oh my gosh, what do you mean? Celebrate? I'm like, I'm

Unknown:

serious. And celebrate doesn't mean like you're throwing a big

Unknown:

party, I'm like, just celebrate, and what is it then that you

Unknown:

like to do? So then take 15 minutes as you wrap up the end

Unknown:

of your day on something that really fuels your fire for the

Unknown:

next day? You know, like, I mean, we're all so a lot of us

Unknown:

are, you know, reward driven. And it should be more pleasure

Unknown:

than pain, you know, kind of things. So, I think that that's

Unknown:

really important and key to, you know, to take a look at.

Melissa Deally:

Definitely, and I know, I am personally, one who

Melissa Deally:

is learning to celebrate the things along the way and

Melissa Deally:

recognize that journey, as opposed to just keep pushing,

Melissa Deally:

keep pushing, keep pushing. So we were talking about

Melissa Deally:

boundaries. Earlier, we've been talking about the to the success

Melissa Deally:

list, somewhere in there is setting priorities. Do you have

Melissa Deally:

suggestions on how people can set the priority to get that

Melissa Deally:

success was done to have their focus time and work within

Melissa Deally:

boundaries? How do we pull it all together?

Unknown:

Well, it's a lot, and then this isn't going to happen

Unknown:

overnight. So for people who are listening, again, my suggestion

Unknown:

is to take one thing that really resonates with you, and

Unknown:

implement it, some people say, you know, there's books on 21,

Unknown:

you know, 21 days, 30 days to a new habit. Average is 66 days.

Unknown:

And I really believe that's why I like the 12 weeks the

Unknown:

quarterly, because I really believe it's about 90 days to

Unknown:

implement something new. So take one thing and decide what it is.

Unknown:

And so when it comes to priorities, again, that goes to

Unknown:

the idea of the success list, what is taking you towards what

Unknown:

you're working towards, you know, for, versus what you know,

Unknown:

what is going to D track you from, you know, what it is that

Unknown:

your end result, called, like life goals, dreams, designing

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the life that you know, you desire. And when it comes to

Unknown:

priorities, this is always something that I say, and you

Unknown:

kind of alluded to it before self care is not selfish. So you

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really want to take a look at your life. And for everybody

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this is, you know, unique and individual put into your

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calendar, what are your non negotiables? Like, you know, you

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don't work Sundays, you go to church on Sundays, you know,

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what is it that for some people it's working out, you know, that

Unknown:

those kinds of things go in, because you know, that if you're

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not working out, or you know, your whatever, like, you're

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going to be a basket case, and you're going to be angry all

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day, whatever it is. And then whether you do paper, that stuff

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goes in and pattern. Like there, there is no changing and it's an

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appointment with yourself. If it's in your calendar, there's

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no like negotiating. Well, I'll, you know, take this out, because

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here's what happens, you take it out once, and all of a sudden,

Unknown:

before you know it, it's like two weeks. And gosh, I haven't

Unknown:

been to the gym in two weeks. Right? It's a it's a priority

Unknown:

for you. And like the biggest way that I look at priorities,

Unknown:

and how I'm going to do things, is the order of importance, you

Unknown:

know, for what's taking me towards my big picture, my big

Unknown:

picture dreams, you know, for for 2022. So, again, best

Unknown:

question to ask yourself, I love this question, taking me towards

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taking me away, you know, it's it is that will help you a lot

Unknown:

of times to decide, is this a priority at this moment or not?

Unknown:

And priorities can change in the given moment. You know, but

Unknown:

again, here's another tip, somebody else's, you know,

Unknown:

emergency is not your crisis. So like, there is no point in

Unknown:

dropping everything, you know, for somebody else, you know,

Unknown:

it's like, really, again, just take a look at can this be

Unknown:

addressed? At a later point, of course, we're all going to have

Unknown:

things that happened, like when your daughter got the

Unknown:

concussion? Well, that took priority over everything else

Unknown:

that was happening. But for sometimes we just have to look

Unknown:

at it like, well, you know, you didn't, you know, plan or

Unknown:

prepare, you know, like somebody else, that doesn't mean that I

Unknown:

have to drop everything to you know, help or support you.

Melissa Deally:

Exactly. So when one of my daughter's suddenly

Melissa Deally:

decides that, oh, can I drive them somewhere right now?

Melissa Deally:

Because that's when that's their emergency. It's not my crisis,

Melissa Deally:

right?

Unknown:

Absolutely. Absolutely.

Melissa Deally:

That's what I'm trying to teach them if they

Melissa Deally:

want me to drive them anywhere I need 24 hours advance notice.

Melissa Deally:

And it has to fit in my schedule that I've already prioritized,

Melissa Deally:

right? Right. So yeah. So coming back to weight. Well, first of

Melissa Deally:

all, I was there I totally agree with, you know, all that you've

Melissa Deally:

said, I love it and that self care is not selfish. And I just

Melissa Deally:

want to highlight that when you're creating that success

Melissa Deally:

list to build that self care in, that's not something for later,

Melissa Deally:

you can only be your best self, if you're first looking after

Melissa Deally:

yourself. Right? Right. listeners that have been

Melissa Deally:

listening to the podcast for a while will have heard my one of

Melissa Deally:

my favorite quotes, which is that self care is the most

Melissa Deally:

selfless act because it allows you to show up and give the

Melissa Deally:

world the best of you instead of what's left of you. So that's on

Melissa Deally:

my success list. And I really think that should be on

Melissa Deally:

everybody's success list in some way, shape, or form, because it

Melissa Deally:

is very individual. And once you've looked after you, then

Melissa Deally:

what else is on your success list for the rest of that day.

Melissa Deally:

But I just want to loop back to what you had talked about

Melissa Deally:

earlier. And that was the morning routine. And I know that

Melissa Deally:

we've been working together and you let me know today that

Melissa Deally:

you've got your morning routine in place, which is awesome. So I

Melissa Deally:

would love for you to share what that is, if you would like to

Melissa Deally:

and then how that's been benefiting you over the last

Melissa Deally:

month or so.

Unknown:

Yeah, so thank you, because it's, um, if anybody has

Unknown:

ever read the book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, and I have

Unknown:

taken, you know, taking a guess a page out of his book to

Unknown:

establish my morning routine. So right now my morning routine is,

Unknown:

you know, getting up and one of the first things I always have

Unknown:

to do, which is not part of my morning routine is feed my dogs,

Unknown:

because if I don't see myself away, they're like, what, what

Unknown:

you're up and you know, it's like five minutes in and we

Unknown:

haven't eaten yet, right? But I'm serious. No. So it looks

Unknown:

like I'm in the process of reading the book to think

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thinking grow rich. And so there's like a desired

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statement. So it's basically my desired plan, what I'm working

Unknown:

on this year, so I read that out loud, you know, it's almost like

Unknown:

an affirmation that I'm reading out loud, and that I'm doing

Unknown:

that I do a little bit of reading, either thinking grow

Unknown:

rich, I'm also in the process of some other things. And I do the

Unknown:

reading, the big thing for me is some journaling. So I do my list

Unknown:

of gratitudes, I have a list of like 10 gratitudes, that I do

Unknown:

every morning, as well as a little visualization around

Unknown:

that. I also have another journal that has these

Unknown:

questions. And so like, I just randomly open it to a page and I

Unknown:

journal and I answer, you know, I answer my questions. And then

Unknown:

I also, I do a little exercise right away. Okay, so I have one

Unknown:

of these. I don't know exactly the appropriate like, like the

Unknown:

term to use, but it's like a vibrating machine. So you stand

Unknown:

on it for 10 minutes, and you edit vibrates your entire body.

Unknown:

And it's like supposed to be equivalent to working out for

Unknown:

about 45 minutes, it's really good for the joints. I'm not

Unknown:

saying that like replaces cardio or anything like that. But it

Unknown:

really is, like I like it, because I noticed a difference.

Unknown:

Like I have a little knee issue and stuff like that. So I always

Unknown:

feel better. And I can feel it. Like you can actually do like

Unknown:

squats on it and, you know, lunges and all those kinds of

Unknown:

things. But I usually just stand there, you know, for 10 minutes

Unknown:

and let it vibrate? Well, I think I

Melissa Deally:

really I haven't heard of that before. But I'm

Melissa Deally:

thinking that is really cool in the morning. Because of course

Melissa Deally:

the body's detoxing overnight, and then that vibration is

Melissa Deally:

getting your lymphatic tissue moving first thing in the

Melissa Deally:

morning to help you know, get those toxins that the body's

Melissa Deally:

tried to clean up overnight, flushed down to be removed from

Melissa Deally:

the body.

Unknown:

Absolutely. That's it, you know, and if you want

Unknown:

because if you do show notes or something, I can get the name of

Unknown:

it, like, you know, and put it in there because it's actually

Unknown:

it's actually, you know, it's a pretty cool machine. So all in

Unknown:

all, like right now because, you know, people are like, Why don't

Unknown:

have any extra time in the morning. Right? Like, all in

Unknown:

all, like everything that I'm doing right now for myself is

Unknown:

taking about 30 minutes. 30 minutes. Yeah, you know, to to

Unknown:

set myself up for the day. And, and I just because it doesn't

Unknown:

always have to, like Hal Elrod talks about it being like an

Unknown:

hour 10 minutes on like six different things, right. But

Unknown:

then he also has like the abbreviated version, which is

Unknown:

like 10 minutes, you know, like a minute and a half on like

Unknown:

certain things and then a minute on one thing, right just as long

Unknown:

as you're getting yourself into your routine. Whatever your

Unknown:

routine looks like for you is the importance and the key that

Unknown:

you know you're not right away again, going into that frantic

Unknown:

hectic state. Like you said reacting instead of okay, this

Unknown:

is how I'm going to set you know My day up, usually, like, you

Unknown:

know, closing my eyes and a little meditation, you know,

Unknown:

that kind of thing. You know, imagining how I want my day to

Unknown:

unfold and look is really important as well, too. So,

Melissa Deally:

yeah, and I love all of that. And when I, what I

Melissa Deally:

hear from so many people is that they use their phone as their

Melissa Deally:

alarm clock. So a the phone is in the bedroom. And which I

Melissa Deally:

don't love from the EMF perspective, and Bluetooth and

Melissa Deally:

Wi Fi, and all of that, that we know that can cause harm to the

Melissa Deally:

body. And some people are quite sensitive to it, and I'm one of

Melissa Deally:

them. But because it's your alarm clock, that's what's

Melissa Deally:

waking you up, and then you pick it up, to turn off the alarm,

Melissa Deally:

right. And then boom, you can see all your notifications that

Melissa Deally:

have come in overnight. And now all of a sudden, you're looking

Melissa Deally:

at those emails, and you're starting to scroll Facebook, and

Melissa Deally:

you just end up in that, you know, overwhelmed state, and

Melissa Deally:

you've the alarm went off 30 seconds ago,

Unknown:

right. And so

Melissa Deally:

many people are doing that. And it's just the

Melissa Deally:

way we've been programmed is well, the phone does everything.

Melissa Deally:

So I'm going to have it with me 24/7, right. And I really

Melissa Deally:

encourage people to go and buy like that $10 alarm clock that's

Melissa Deally:

either battery run or plugs into the wall. And you know, when I

Melissa Deally:

do my sleep course, I go into a lot more on that. But use that

Melissa Deally:

to get the phone out of the room. Because the alarm wakes

Melissa Deally:

you up, maybe you can choose you know, wake up to the radio or

Melissa Deally:

whatever, you can turn it off, and then start your morning

Melissa Deally:

routine. Or if you don't mind the music in the background

Melissa Deally:

during your morning routine, you can you know, continue listening

Melissa Deally:

to that. But that right away is a huge shift in habit for people

Melissa Deally:

that allows them to not immediately go into that

Melissa Deally:

reactionary state. It's just right.

Unknown:

And I will say I'm a work in progress. And so like

Unknown:

here has what I've been doing because I I am I'm a bad girl,

Unknown:

Melissa like I that bad habit, bad habit, I do use my phone as

Unknown:

an alarm clock. But here's what I do when I shut it off. It's in

Unknown:

like a Do Not Disturb mode. So show me all my notifications.

Unknown:

And so what I do is I leave the bedroom, and I leave the phone

Unknown:

in the bedroom, because I do my morning routine outside of the

Unknown:

bedroom. So right, like I'm in my living room, that kind of

Unknown:

thing. So then the phone isn't even anywhere near me to

Unknown:

distract me with anything with anything else. And so that's

Unknown:

worked really well. And honestly, like that I've been

Unknown:

getting into this morning routine, I haven't really had

Unknown:

the need to like be checking my phone because I'm so into what

Unknown:

I'm doing that that's become my new skill. Right? Right, right

Unknown:

social media for myself. Right?

Melissa Deally:

And that sounds like you're in that zone of

Melissa Deally:

focus. Right? Right. As you're doing something for yourself,

Melissa Deally:

that's bringing you joy, that, you know, makes you feel better

Melissa Deally:

as you go into the rest of your day. So I love it, you're

Melissa Deally:

starting your day out slowing down in order to be more

Melissa Deally:

productive, right? And I know that so counterintuitive to

Melissa Deally:

people, right? We're just trained, do more, do more, do

Melissa Deally:

more, work harder, get more done. But the reality is, is we

Melissa Deally:

have a plan and we slow down. So the tortoise and the hare,

Melissa Deally:

right? Instead, he gets the job done. So awesome, awesome. So I

Melissa Deally:

love your morning routine that you've set up and that you're

Melissa Deally:

working on that. And I've really enjoyed working with you through

Melissa Deally:

our program that we've done together. And you're someone as

Melissa Deally:

you said that you've been focused on your health for a

Melissa Deally:

long time you prioritize it. And I love that. As someone who's

Melissa Deally:

prioritize it for a long time, you still want to do more in

Melissa Deally:

order to be ensuring that you stay healthy. And because you're

Melissa Deally:

an entrepreneur, and how do you build your business if you don't

Melissa Deally:

have your health. So I really appreciate that about you. And

Melissa Deally:

that's part of my message that I want to be sharing with the

Melissa Deally:

world is that if you have your health, everything else else can

Melissa Deally:

flow. And if you don't have your health, then you're struggling

Melissa Deally:

to get it all done. So between slowing down, creating your

Melissa Deally:

morning routine, focusing on self care, focusing on health,

Melissa Deally:

that's how people can have an amazing 2022 And if they need

Melissa Deally:

help with time management, time blocking success lists getting

Melissa Deally:

shit done, then they need to reach out to you. So has someone

Melissa Deally:

how would someone do that?

Unknown:

Well, the probably the easiest way that you can go to

Unknown:

my website, which is simply Julie Jones dot biz. So you can,

Unknown:

you know, find out all the information about me and email

Unknown:

me connect with me. And you know, I'd love, love, love, love

Unknown:

making new friends and having conversations.

Melissa Deally:

And I love that. And I know that there are, you

Melissa Deally:

know, some people that this comes really naturally to. And

Melissa Deally:

there's so many people that struggle with this. And so

Melissa Deally:

though for those people that struggle with this, don't beat

Melissa Deally:

yourself up, don't think that you can never do it. Truly reach

Melissa Deally:

out to Julie because she will give you the tools and the

Melissa Deally:

support to for you to be able to implement so that you can turn a

Melissa Deally:

new leaf and be really productive and get shipped.

Unknown:

Absolutely. And so yes. So please come to the website.

Unknown:

You can book a 30 minute complimentary call with me, I

Unknown:

promise you I'm a lot of fun. And you know,

Melissa Deally:

maybe even wear a costume or googly eyes. No, I.

Unknown:

Yes. So 30 minutes with me. And then as a special offer.

Unknown:

I just recently wrote a book. And so if you come on and you

Unknown:

know, you say during our call that you heard about me through

Unknown:

Melissa, I will send you a free copy of my book. Oh,

Melissa Deally:

thank you that's so generous of you. And I know,

Melissa Deally:

I know that you sent also a free download on productivity that

Melissa Deally:

I've put into the show notes as well.

Unknown:

Yes, yes. So that is an offer there as well. So I'm just

Unknown:

not feeling all kinds of generous today. Because I just

Unknown:

love Melissa. And I've loved working with her. You know, I

Unknown:

mean, she's helped me with some of my health. And one of the

Unknown:

reasons why I have a morning routine is because I did work

Unknown:

with her and realize the importance because of some of my

Unknown:

cortisol levels being off kilter first thing in the morning. So

Unknown:

that was really key to helping me, you know, get my mind

Unknown:

wrapped around my health. And thanks to Melissa, I'm right on

Unknown:

track.

Melissa Deally:

Well, thank you, it's been awesome working with

Melissa Deally:

you. And just you know, the different skill sets that we all

Melissa Deally:

have that we can bring to the table to support other people

Melissa Deally:

is, is really powerful. So thank you. Thank you. So before I let

Melissa Deally:

you go, though, I have two questions. I love to ask my

Melissa Deally:

guests before we wrap up. And that first one is what is don't

Melissa Deally:

wait for your wake up call mean to you.

Unknown:

Oh my gosh, again, life happens. And so it can turn on a

Unknown:

dime, like, don't wait until you're 95. And you're on your

Unknown:

deathbed. And you're you have these regrets of what you didn't

Unknown:

do, versus what you did do. And so that's what it means to me.

Unknown:

It's like live each and every moment. But live in gratitude

Unknown:

and live in health and live your best life. That's really what it

Unknown:

means to me.

Melissa Deally:

I love that and living in that higher vibration

Melissa Deally:

to that vibration of joy, love happiness. Right? Absolutely.

Melissa Deally:

And that comes when you're living in gratitude. So and then

Melissa Deally:

my other question is, what message would you like to leave

Melissa Deally:

with the audience to inspire them to take action today? After

Melissa Deally:

all, we've talked about how do we inspire them to slow down so

Melissa Deally:

they can get more done?

Unknown:

You know, it's, I see it in the background for you in

Unknown:

the background for me. And I just love to tell people that

Unknown:

you are enough, you know, it's really not about going to a

Unknown:

point of beat up mode. Like, again, we always talk about

Unknown:

Hindsight is 2020 Because now all of a sudden, we have all

Unknown:

this information that we didn't have before when we made a

Unknown:

decision, right. And so just knowing that you have all the

Unknown:

tools that you need to be anything that you want. And so

Unknown:

just remember like that is like that is such a big message is

Unknown:

step going to beat up mode and know that everything that you

Unknown:

offer this world that you are enough and sometimes it just

Unknown:

takes a little tweaking and a couple of little things to make

Unknown:

all the difference in the world.

Melissa Deally:

I love them. Thank you so so much. So thanks

Melissa Deally:

for being here. Julie Jones. This was a powerful episode. I

Melissa Deally:

look forward to coming out and to all of my listeners thank you

Melissa Deally:

so much. And please share this episode with others that you

Melissa Deally:

think might benefit from hearing from Julie all of her wisdom,

Melissa Deally:

all of her expertise and potentially working with her if

Melissa Deally:

they need some help in slowing down to get more done. get shit

Melissa Deally:

done. Thank you Julie Jones. Thank you. Until next time

Melissa Deally:

thank you for investing this time with me on the don't wait

Melissa Deally:

for your wake up call Podcast. I'm so glad you joined in. If

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