Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today. I hope you're doing well

know if your heart is in a warm place, your mind is in a

peaceful place, and your soul feels free and good to expand.

Yes, today I want to talk about meditation and why it is so

freakin hard to start meditating. Or maybe you did

meditation, or were sitting in meditation before and it went

well. And now it doesn't go as smoothly anymore.

I think we all have traveled to fully relax and spend time with

ourselves at times. We're all very conditioned to be active to

get things done.

To have a role in society and our family. And

maybe some of us, not all of us are being taught that spending

time by yourself, spoiling yourself, doing yourself good as

selfish. And maybe it goes even deeper. Maybe when you were a

child, you were sent into a timeout, when you were doing

something that annoyed your parents. So you associate being

alone with punishment and something negative. A good

friend of mine, her son is

five years old now. But when he was two or three years old, he

was able to communicate already that he needed time off from

people from time to time, and he started calling it positive

timeout. This is how I labeled one of my episodes here and

season two, because I found this so adorable and so admire bubble

that this little human knew already that it is very

important for him to spend time by himself and to just do

whatever he pleases behind closed doors. And afterwards,

he's good to socialize again. So maybe if you dig deeper and look

at your childhood, you can see that alone time was never really

something that you wanted, or that was possible. Maybe you had

siblings and they were always around, which is super awesome

too.

But maybe it's just something that doesn't come natural to

you. But I can tell you if you feel you're running into a

burnout if you feel exhausted if you feel irritated. If you feel

life is too much. alone time can really help you further and

feeling better. You can come back to yourself and be

creative. You can empty your mind you can

just get rid of stuff that you've been carrying around

maybe for too long, and it is holding you back and expanding

and developing as a human being.

So chances are if you're listening to my podcast here, it

is something maybe you want to learn.

But maybe you're very good at it already. Now, why is it so

incredibly hard to meditate for some of us, me included?

My mind is very, very active, especially when I crave silence

and alone time. It wants to get things done. It wants to solve

problems wants to resolve conflict between people. And I

learned to don't identify with those feelings and thoughts

anymore and just know that this is my mind's nature and it

always wants to be active. But it needs to be quiet at times

and my body has to overtake a little bit. What I mean by that

is tuning into my breath. Putting one hand onto my heart

and feeling my heartbeat.

On sometimes I go for a walk in nature and just deeply tune in

To what is around me,

I love tracking like looking for animal tracks in the mud or in

the snow. I love all kinds of smells, and all kinds of noises

that are here in the forest. So if you have a park, or maybe a

body of water close by, I totally encourage you to go out

and to explore Mother Nature that is right around you.

Because if we switch on our senses, physical touch, smell,

things that you can hear things that you can taste and things

that you can see, then you kind of get out of your problem

solving mode, accomplishing mode, and back into experiencing

life mode. And this is deeply nourishing and good for your

soul and your heart. And your mind can just wait in the

backseat, and be okay observing and taking in new information.

Because what happens when we don't take these time outs,

these positive time outs?

Our brain gets into a loop of thinking, I don't know if you

observed your thoughts before, but notice how repetitive your

thoughts are. When you look into your mirror, you probably always

have the same criticism to offer. And I want you to change

that. Change the thoughts you have when you look into the

mirror. Start with yourself with what you see in the mirror and

you will see how critical your mind is. Does it see beautiful

kind eyes and soft hands and

beautiful skin? Or does it see?

I don't know how to say that in English cellulitis,

and molds and hair and whatever you don't want. And then you go

further you step into your day and observe the chatter of your

mind in the background when you do things. Is it positive? Is it

neutral as it negative? Is it always there? I'm sure it's

always there, because there's always something to comment on.

And this is why meditation is so hard because all of a sudden you

shut down all your senses, you close your eyes maybe. And you

have no big distractions like computers, other people or

television in front of you. And now your monkey mind is trying

to find something to be busy with. And that's the time where

you need to rein it in. And just put it in a corner for a second.

And come back to your breath. or visualize your breath. or

visualize a field where you walk barefoot through and you could

feel the grass,

like crawling around your toes, maybe it's a little bit wet,

maybe it's warm from the sun. And you can do all kinds of

guided meditation here that I offer to help you stay with

yourself with your breath, or something you want to visualize

or even manifest. So when you sit down and meditate and think

about other people who are peaceful, they look and relax,

while know that the exact same as going on inside of them. But

they learned to put their monkey mind their busy mind into the

corner and to focus on their breath. And when you do that on

a regular basis, you will have better sleep and better focus.

Whenever you start something new. You remember how it felt

when you sit in meditation? how awesome it feels to have single

focus on something and no distraction and full

devotion to the self.

So what I recommend you do is this afternoon this morning this

evening. Look at how you what you associate I mean, with alone

time is it comfortable for you

to just sit there and be with yourself. Maybe lay down on your

bed and don't watch Netflix don't eat be binge eat something

And second of all, when you look into a mirror, what are the

thoughts that come up? How do you feel? And when you try to

meditate, how does it go for you? Do you become restless? Do

you feel like you need to edge? Is it uncomfortable to sit

still? Or is it your mind that tries to keep you busy?

And then observe your thoughts, your looping thoughts during the

day? Do you always have the same thoughts when you go about your

rituals and your daily routine? Or do they change and if they

don't change, if at all, if it is always the same? Then go out

in nature and train how to use your senses again, and then you

apply that at home, the smell, touch, the audio, and the visual

stuff that you consume on a daily basis. Those are all

things that we can switch up in order to stimulate the brain,

the rate the right way, and to then have thoughts that make us

feel good about ourselves and our environment.

Thank you so much for listening to this episode here. I'm so

happy to have you on board. Wherever you are on this

beautiful planet. Take good care of yourself. Drink a huge glass

of fresh milk.

And I will be out there for you tomorrow again