Hello,

and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm so happy to be spending some time with you

today, I hope you're doing well, I hope you're in a comfortable

space, maybe you're going for a walk, maybe you're driving home,

maybe you're taking the bus, or the train. Whatever you're

doing, I hope you are in a good mental, spiritual, emotional

space. Today, I want to talk about your pain and the

importance of sharing our uncomfortable truth. stuff that

we might think was not that bad. But might be very important to

share with another person. And chances are, they will say Holy

shit, that was intense. I'm so sorry that this happened to you,

or whatever they may say, they will show compassion. They are

healthy individual, you will be touching their heart with your

story. And you will be able to come clean with that story

maybe. Because every time we share our story, there's someone

out there who can relate, who can learn who can heal. And it

is not so much about staying stuck in that pain and repeating

that story and living a victim life. This is exactly opposite.

What I want to talk about today, because you are not a victim, he

went through some stuff like any other person too. We all went

through some stuff. And we have to be honest with ourselves, we

have to look at it. And maybe go back and feel that pain again.

And then make peace with it. Because we don't want to run

around and live a victim life. We don't want to run around and

avoid situations close ourselves up. Just because we had that

one, or two or three or more painful experiences. We want to

live a fulfilled life alive where we experience with all our

senses where we can be curious and living from the heart

instead of living from fear. And from a mindset ego driven. level

of Yeah, living, experiencing life. So whenever you tell

someone that you've gone through some stuff, and it can be the

divorce of your parents, it can be an experience that you've

made when you were in high school, maybe bullying. Maybe

you lost your job and the teens and your 20s. Or maybe you went

through an extreme heartbreak. Maybe you overcame addiction or

are still struggling with addiction. Whatever it is, you

have to be aware that this has happened to you. And now the

time has come to heal that wound because you don't want to be a

victim. So how do we do that? How can we own our scars, our

pain without living a life of being a victim? I think the

strongest lesson I have learned is that there's always someone

out there who suffers more, and someone out there who we can

help relate, help feel less alone. So that is step number

one. Try to think about the people outside of you and

believe that we need you out there as a functioning healthy

person. And if you can do the work. If you are ready to heal

and to let go of your pain then you are on Such a beautiful path

because you will meet people that went through similar stuff,

you will meet people who want to support you, you will meet

people that will show compassion.

The second step is to be honest with your protective behavior,

like the stuff that you created in order to prevent yourself to

go through that pain again. So let me give you an example here.

Let's say you went through extreme heartbreak. And now

you're trying to date again. But every time you meet someone, you

see someone that reminds you of that heartbreak a person. And

you're trying to push it away and not think of it. But every

time you meet that new person, you have to think of your old

person, again, the person who have caused you pain in the

past. So there's two ways then you can either contact that

person and ask for perfect closure. or second option, which

is my preferred option, you make peace on your own. With that

person on a distance, you know that you own your part, they own

their part, and you forgive yourself for your part, and you

forgive them for their part. And you meditate on that, and you

reflect on that and know that you deserve a new start. You

don't deserve to be living in the past, you deserve to move on

and to live a juicy, fulfilled life. So now every time you meet

that new person, and those triggers come up, those thoughts

come up, I want you to remember what I just said here, you have

to feel deserving again. And you have to approach every new

person with curiosity and an open heart.

When it is addiction that you've struggled with, and you feel

successful at overcoming it now, you will be tested, you will go

through phases where you want to cave, you want to go back

because you know it's going to make you feel good for a little

bit. And you know, it's something that you can control

and it helps you to cope with life. I then want you to

remember that you deserve to live a life and freedom. You

deserve to be free of those cravings. And you deserve to

know what is best for you outside of these drugs and

whatever you use to keep you Okay, it is okay to feel pain,

it is okay to feel as if you have to ask for help. It is okay

to feel lonely at times, but not for too long. reach out and ask

for help. Instead of going back to your comfort zone and your

substances that you have used. And when you share these

experiences, when you share with people that you're struggling

with something and you're trying to help yourself and you're

doing your best to be a functioning person out there,

people will start helping you people will start listening,

people will have compassion and empathy for you and even look up

to you and see how courageous you are. And you will motivate

other people to do the same. They will feel safe and you and

your environment. If you say that in English, they will feel

safe around you. Let's put it that way. And maybe maybe you

open up more to you and you will have stronger and more beautiful

connections. So whatever it is that you're struggling with, or

that you may be not aware of, but you're still carrying around

with you. Go back and visit and go back and visit with the

intention to heal with the intention to share and with the

intention to move on. right not to victimize yourself, but to

not be a victim but owning your story.

I will stop here and take a breather. We will both take a

breather now. Because there was something else I wanted to say

and I can quite think of it now. Deep inhale and exhale. Deep

inhale

and exhale.

Beautiful. No, that's odd didn't come back. And that's also

totally fine. I think I covered everything that I wanted to get

out today. So, see the value and going back and revisiting stuff

that was uncomfortable, and then share with people. And he'll go

back with the intention to heal, and to forgive. And to not live

in resentment and bitterness, but to live from the heart from

a very warm space inside of yourself. Thank you so much for

listening to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be out there for you tomorrow

again, I might be posting a new interview with john Astin, who

was sentenced to 150 years of jail time. And his incredible

story of freeing himself. He's a true warrior. He's truly

inspiring when it comes to facing a hopeless situation and

making the best out of it. So be excited for this episode, and

spend the good rest of your day now. Take good care.