Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

journey called life. I hope you're doing well. I hope you

feel good, you feel safe, you feel light and uplifted. And if

you do not feel that way today, I hope I can brighten up your

day and inspire you empower you. I'm so very grateful to be

spending a couple minutes with you. And thank you so much for

choosing my podcast here. Today, I want to talk about your mind

and how your mind can be your worst enemy and trickster. All

too often we think that our circumstances, other people,

just the world outside of us is making our life miserable and

difficult. And yes, sometimes it's the case. But what I want

to say today is that most of the time, it is our mind, it is our

ego, it is our old self that is trying to hold us back that is

trying to hold us in the well known. And it is very difficult

to point it out and to call yourself out on this. Let's call

it BS. Because we feel that our thoughts are so true. We feel

that our situation is so hopeless, we feel that we really

are not resourceful enough to conquer certain situations. And

it is really, yeah, tough to be in a position where you feel

hopeless and unsupported. And then you're being made aware of

your mind and how it is playing games and how you are supported,

you are loved, you have all the resources you need to be

successful to be content to live a fulfilled life. Yet your own

mind is putting stones in your way. And it is a coping

mechanism I want to say it is a way of our mind to trying to

protect us from potential future pain, we must have gone through

some kind of trauma in the past that our mind that our brain is

trying to prevent us from making mistakes again. But what it does

when we believe in these thoughts in these limiting

beliefs is that we close ourselves up to new paths to new

ways of seeing the world to a new attitude. Sometimes, yeah,

it feels very uncomfortable to be on a new path. And we don't

really know what's going to happen, it's uncertain. We feel

we are a pioneer. And at times we feel very courageous and

brave. But then there will be days where doubt, especially

self doubt, will creep up on us and where a little comment from

a person in our life can just totally throw us off off or no

comment from our people around us and no approval. That can

also throw us off when we feel insecure and uncertain. So I

think what I want to share with you is that the tricky part

about becoming your strongest version, your best version is to

keep believing in yourself and to keep pushing for novelty and

expansion. And of course to allow breaks as well and to know

that

growth is not a linear process. as they can be little detours,

they can be breaks and rest of which are incredibly important.

You have to take breaks, and look at how far you came and be

proud of yourself and, and then continue, you can just push for

progress and growth all the time. But let's look at someone

like me, for instance, who is on the path of becoming an

entrepreneur. I'm a life coach, and I'm growing my business. And

of course, there's days at times where I feel overwhelmed, where

I'm so uncertain about how my path is gonna look like. But I

have to keep going, I can't go back. I don't want to go back. I

know exactly what I want. But still, there's days where I feel

unsupported, where I feel uncertain where I wish I was

employed and had a regular paycheck. But it is okay to be

uncertain. And I have to tell my ego and my mind that it is okay.

to not feel supported at times, to feel supported, and to have

support from the outside world is a bonus. But you got to

believe in yourself. First, I have to believe in myself first.

Because no one else can do this. They will know how to support

you, if they don't know, if you really want what you're pushing

for. And sometimes we do the people around us wrong in

thinking that they are not supporting us. Maybe they just

don't know. Maybe you just don't express yourself enough with

what your dreams will look like or are looking like. And

sometimes we are so caught up in pain from the past, that we

project the pain from the past, onto the present moment. And

even into the future. Right? If you grew up with a sibling, and

your sibling, you know was maybe successful at a sport or found

their purpose or found a good job that they're really

passionate about. And you to this day don't really know what

life is about and what the purpose is here. So you feel

that your parents prefer your sibling, you feel insecure, you

feel inferior. But you're actually doing your parents

wrong, because they probably love you just as much as your

sibling. But it is you who's insecure and frustrated that you

don't have found that you didn't find sorry, your purpose yet. So

it is incredibly important to work on your stuff and to know

that you can count on yourself. And the only way to do this is

to get to know your Self best. And to know that you have flaws,

you have weaknesses, you have strength, you have moods, you

have a past, you have made mistakes, you failed maybe

already. But this is all not an excuse to go and read for your

dreams and to aim high to dream really big. It is so important

to also have that one person that you can go and talk to when

you feel self doubt creeping up. I'm just thinking about this now

because

it is wrong to think that we can all do it by ourselves, we need

that one person that knows us that asked the right questions.

And that reminds of us of who we are. Because sometimes we are so

lost in our mind, in our self doubts and our confusion in our

uncertainty, that we forget who we are. And you have that one

person who is always cheering for you, and they might not be,

you know, their day in day out, or maybe on a weekly basis, they

might be very far. Yet when you decide to meet up with them,

then, you know, they're going to remind you of who you are. And

that's the utmost important thing to never forget. Because

who you are is going to make you see what you're made of, and

will make you see what your purpose is. And then you will

listen to your thoughts and to your mind when it comes up with

overly protective systems. And you will be just able to turn

the volume down. And to put that little beast into a corner and

to tell it, hey, I got everything under control. You

are part of me. But I'm not going to let you steer the

wheel. I can feel in my heart that I'm on the right path. And

I'm approaching this project, the stream the school, whatever

it is, with a new fresh attitude, and approach. And yes,

it is scary. But I want to try it out this way. And everything

is going to be okay. I will be okay. So yeah, you can even name

let that little monkey mind of yours, and know that it is going

to come up. And sometimes you will think that it is the people

around you who make you feel insecure and amplify a self

doubt. But they can only have a say in your life, if you believe

what you're saying. Right? If they were gonna say something

that is totally ridiculous, and that you don't believe, then you

don't feel affected by it. But as soon as we have a part in

ourselves that believe what the other person is saying to us.

Mess is hard. If you say that in English, so you got to learn to

distinguish between your core soul calling, and between your

monkey mind that is trying to keep you safe and make us play

small and be jealous and competitive and insecure and

look right and left at all times. Because who knows where

the next dramas gonna come from. You can put that little devil

into a corner. And know that you can reconnect to your soul to

your core values to who you truly are, whenever you allow

peace and silence. And we're all capable of doing that. Even

though we live in a crazy busy world today. And again, a coach

or a friend, a family member who truly knows you who knows how to

speak to you is incredibly valuable on this path of growth

and healing. All right. I think that was my message of the day

and I wish you a good rest of your day or good evening or good

morning wherever you're at right now. Thank you so much for being

here. Thank you so much for subscribing to my podcast. And

soon I'll be launching my website where you can read about

the offers I'm making to the world and you can learn a bit

more about myself too and my background and how I approach

coaching and yeah, I'm just very excited to engage on that path.

Sending my love out to you. And let's connect on Facebook if you

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