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Speaker AToday I'm going to be speaking with you about some dangers, about allowing people who complain or grumble hang out around you, but also hang out with your environments.
Speaker AThese particular behaviors can not only be toxic, but they can cause your environment to lose momentum and can create such a toxic work environment, not just for others, but especially for you, that it can hinder the success of the assignment that you've been given in life.
Speaker AWe're going to talk about that today.
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Speaker AHey, what's up champions?
Speaker AThis is your host, Neal Reyes, and I want to welcome you back to the Executive Perspective.
Speaker AToday I'm going to be speaking with you about a very powerful topic, but it's one that needs addressing within the world, especially within business place.
Speaker AToday, today I want to talk with you about the danger of leading complainers.
Speaker AWhoo, man.
Speaker AThis is Going to be a deep one today.
Speaker AAnd just off of that, I've already got people engaged today.
Speaker AI want to talk with you about the dangers, not the discomfort, the dangers of leading complainers.
Speaker AYou know, I could have called this the discomfort.
Speaker AAnd we just sat here and sympathized with each other and talked about how it's uncomfortable and we don't like it.
Speaker ABut we're here about addressing things.
Speaker AYou know, this podcast focuses on three areas.
Speaker AI say this in every episode.
Speaker AThat focuses on leadership, business strategy, and personal development.
Speaker AAnd on the executive perspective.
Speaker AWe only have one direction that we move.
Speaker AIt is forward and upward.
Speaker AThat means tackling the tough topics and addressing the things that we really need to be speaking about.
Speaker AAnd so today I'm going to be talking with you about the dangers of leading complainers.
Speaker AMan, this is a big one right here.
Speaker ABut I believe I'm going to drop some fresh insight on this that helps you see it from a different way, other than just the discomfort and other than just the not liking it or bad vibes or whatever you want to call it.
Speaker ABut I'm going to actually show you how this is detrimental and how there are dangers associated with this.
Speaker AYou know, you can lead with excellence but still lose the assignment if you don't learn to deal with the spirit of complaining.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AYou can lead with excellence and still lose the assignment if you don't learn to deal with the spirit of complaining.
Speaker AYou know, I'm going to give you an example of someone that this was very prominent with, and I'm going to take you back to a biblical reference.
Speaker AAnd that's out of the book, or out of the book, out of the Bible.
Speaker AAnd it's the example of Moses.
Speaker ANow stay with me for a second because I understand that not all of you are faith people or believers, but you can still learn strong emphasis out of this.
Speaker AAnd I want to share this with you because the story of Moses is a very common one that many people know.
Speaker ABut at the essence of Moses and his assignment, God had assigned Moses to go and speak to Pharaoh and to demand that Pharaoh release the Hebrews out of captivity.
Speaker AAnd then he had a three day journey, a three day journey for Moses to be able to take them from the land of Egypt into what he referred to as the Promised land.
Speaker ABut if you know that story, they ended up wandering in the wilderness going in circles for 40 years.
Speaker AAnd what it all stemmed from was the grumbling, complaining hearts of the people that Moses had to lead.
Speaker ANow, yes, There were mistakes that Moses made along the way as well.
Speaker ABut here's what I want to share with you.
Speaker AThis is a guy that God showed up to in a literal burning bush, okay?
Speaker AThis is a guy that God spoke to and very informed, emphatic and verbal ways.
Speaker AYou know, when God speaks with us, most of the time it's on the inside.
Speaker AWe hear it in our spirit, man, in our heart, or we hear it in our thoughts, in our mind.
Speaker ABut this is someone that God actually spoke verbally to.
Speaker AAnd when God spoke verbally to him, he sent him to talk of Pharaoh and even did signs and wonders on Moses behalf.
Speaker AAnd for the Hebrews, that the Pharaoh could not ignore, even though he hardened his heart against it, he could not ignore.
Speaker AWhen the people of the Hebrews left Egypt, there was no question in their minds that God had divinely intervened and had given them an assignment and had given them a leader to carry out that assignment and Moses to lead them into the promised land.
Speaker ABut even with all that evidence right in front of them, they still found a way to grumble and complain in their hearts.
Speaker AAnd out of the abundance of a heart, a man will speak.
Speaker AAnd eventually the grumbling and complaining transformed, not just from their hearts and their thoughts, but it transformed into words and came out of their mind.
Speaker AAnd it created a nasty cycle.
Speaker AAnd it's a cycle that even Moses, this awesome leader that God had ordained and called even he as their leader, was never able to enter the promised Land because he had complainers around him that forfeited his right to the promised land, man.
Speaker AThat's a powerful, powerful thing there.
Speaker ANow, for all my Bible scholars that are out there, this isn't a Bible study day.
Speaker ASo I know there's some intricacies that I'm leaving out, but from the heart of a leader, I want you to understand what happened.
Speaker AThe reason why I share that story with you is because this is how significant having complaining or grumbling spirits operating amongst your teams when you allow these things to fester and go unchecked?
Speaker AThese things are like a cancer.
Speaker AAll they want to do is spread and consume and eat up and devour people and resources, and all it wants to do is to destroy.
Speaker AYou have to learn how to address these things head on.
Speaker AAnd I already know because I can feel it in my spirit.
Speaker AThere are those of you today that are connecting with this podcast no matter where you're at and no matter when this is happening, but you're connecting with this.
Speaker AAnd this is the exact word you needed to hear.
Speaker AThere's some things you needed some encouragement in, and this has given it to you.
Speaker ABut there are other things you'd maybe have been trying to avoid, but you're recognizing now you can't avoid it any longer.
Speaker AYou've got to confront it.
Speaker ABecause the only one it's costing you is you and your business and your teams.
Speaker AThis is a powerful, powerful thing.
Speaker AI want you to understand that.
Speaker AAnd this is a leadership truth.
Speaker ASo please understand this assignment.
Speaker AJust because God may assign something to you or may place an anointing or a calling on your life, that doesn't equate to automatic success.
Speaker AOh, I'm going to say that again, because so many times people have these loud dreams in their hearts or these assignments that they just know God called them to do, or that they just know they're anointed or ordained, so to speak, to do.
Speaker ABut just because you have a strong calling of God on your life, just because you have the hand of God on you and that situation calling you to do that, that does not equate to automatic success.
Speaker AWhy?
Speaker ABecause God can never do for you something he's already instructed you to do.
Speaker AThat's a leader.
Speaker AThat's a knowledge bomb right there.
Speaker AI'm going to say it again.
Speaker AGod can never do for you what he's already called for you to do.
Speaker AHe can support you in it.
Speaker AHe can anoint you to do it.
Speaker AHe can make sure that the resources show up exactly when you need them to.
Speaker ABut the one thing he can't do is he can't do the actions for you.
Speaker AYou have to learn how to do the actions that he's called you to do over and over.
Speaker AIn this show, we talk about just taking the first step.
Speaker AAnd when you take the first step, steps two and three and four and so on are going to light up.
Speaker AAnd eventually, before you know it, you're on step five or beyond because they each show up as you take the next step.
Speaker ANow here's some leadership truth for you in this area.
Speaker AJust because God gave you an assignment doesn't mean success is guaranteed.
Speaker AI said a minute ago, it doesn't mean it's automatic.
Speaker ABut another way of saying it, it doesn't mean it's guaranteed.
Speaker AYou still have to fight for that thing.
Speaker AYou know, in the example I just gave you about Moses in our opening, God anointed Moses and called him to lead the people.
Speaker ABut even then, Moses never entered the promised land because of the complainers that were around him.
Speaker ANow, there were some actions that led from Moses, his own personal actions that led to him not being able to enter the promised land, but they stemmed from his frustrations with the complainers that were around him.
Speaker AHe couldn't blame them for it because his actions are his own.
Speaker ABut his actions stemmed out of frustrations by not dealing with these people the way he should have.
Speaker AAnd it cost him big in the end.
Speaker AIt was an unfulfilled assignment.
Speaker AOh, man, I'm telling you, that resonates right there.
Speaker AYou know, there are so many of you who are listening that maybe even in your current role or the current place where you're at, you just feel like as if you have unchecked potential.
Speaker AIn other words, you have this potential that lives in you that's been untapped.
Speaker AOr you have an opportunity in you to do so much more.
Speaker ABut you have unfulfilled potential because of something simple like grumbling or complaining spirits around you, hindering you from fulfilling what you're supposed to do.
Speaker ANow, it goes much deeper than that, and maybe we'll dedicate a podcast just to that, but this is important to understand.
Speaker AAnother thing is if you don't address toxic behavior, it will corrupt your momentum.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AIf you don't learn to address toxic behaviors, it can and most likely will corrupt your momentum.
Speaker AMan, that's a big deal.
Speaker AYou know, sometimes leading a business, whether if it's your own business or someone else's, or if it's something you're stepping out and doing, sometimes leading a business is like trying to ride a bike uphill.
Speaker AIt's met with resistance, and you'll know that when you're riding the bike uphill.
Speaker ASometimes people try to pick up as much speed as they can and momentum so that they can carry that momentum up the hill because they know eventually the resistance is going to kick in and they want to have as much momentum behind them as they can.
Speaker ABut if you ever have someone that loses their momentum and comes to a stop or a standstill, depending on how steep that hill is, on how steep that incline is, if they try to start pedaling again, sometimes they even lose ground, not gain ground, because it's so much harder to create new momentum after the momentum has already stopped.
Speaker AAs a leader, if you learn how to maintain the momentum you already have, success will come much easier to you no matter what you do.
Speaker ANow here's our first leadership truth bomb of the day.
Speaker AMoses may have had the word of God, but unfortunately, he let the wrong voices get too loud around him.
Speaker AOh, that's A big one right there.
Speaker AMoses had the word of God, but he let the wrong voices get too loud around him.
Speaker AWhoo.
Speaker AAnd what did it do?
Speaker AIt caused him to forfeit his ultimate assignment.
Speaker ANow, did he complete assignments within his assignment?
Speaker ACertainly the man did.
Speaker AAnd I'm not trying to disparage his character in any way.
Speaker AHe is certainly someone to be looked up to.
Speaker ABut even someone like that who had a heart for God and had such a clear connection to be able to hear God.
Speaker AYou know, that happened in Old Testament when people needed a prophet to be able to hear the voice of God or have a connection.
Speaker AThis was the guy who was in such unison with God or such fellowship with God, he had direct connection, and he didn't need a prophet to interpret to him what God had to say.
Speaker AAnd not only that, but God spoke verbally to him on multiple occasions.
Speaker AThat's how strong this connection was.
Speaker AAnd even then, success was not automatic.
Speaker ANow, here's some hidden cost of a complaining culture.
Speaker ANow, there's four of them that I have.
Speaker AIt's not an exhaustive list, but these are four to really be mindful of.
Speaker AHidden costs of a complaining culture include.
Speaker AIt can erode unity.
Speaker AUnity among your team.
Speaker ASometimes I refer to this as healthy synergies, but unity amongst you and your teams or other departments or the company or other divisions as a whole, it's a bad deal right there.
Speaker AIn addition to that, it can also erode unity between your clients or customers as well, whatever is customer facing.
Speaker ABecause if you start to have bad unity inside and you start producing a bad product or bad service, it's only a matter of time before that culture bleeds out to the customers, and then they're also feeling the experience of that as well.
Speaker AAnother thing is, it can kill morale.
Speaker AHidden costs of a complaining culture erodes unity, kills morale.
Speaker AIt can also wear down leaders.
Speaker AYou know, we've all seen leaders that just look worn, tired, and really just worn out.
Speaker AAnd sometimes maybe you've even been that person or you're that person right now.
Speaker AIn previous podcast episodes, we compared the difference between being physically drained versus emotionally drained.
Speaker AAnd we said that while physically draining can really make a person tired, you'll never be as tired as you are.
Speaker AWhen you feel either emotionally drained or mentally drained, that will absolutely wipe you out.
Speaker ABecause it takes a different type of reset, where rest, physical rest, can help someone physically to restore.
Speaker AWhen someone's emotionally or mentally drained, that takes a different type of white space to clear their mind.
Speaker AAnd it's a.
Speaker AAnd it can impact you stronger, you know.
Speaker AWhere the mind goes, the man will follow.
Speaker AThat's a biblical principle.
Speaker AWhere the mind goes, the man will follow.
Speaker AThat's why we got to guard our minds and guard our mindsets, the health of our mindsets.
Speaker AThe other hidden cost of complaining culture is that it can block divine progress, which I've already spoken about.
Speaker AYou can have an assignment from God, but if you allow complaining, hidden complaining, complaining to happen in the secret places or in the in the shadows, complaining, and sometimes in the heart.
Speaker AAnd understand this, because this doesn't just go towards others, this goes towards you as well.
Speaker ABecause here on the Executive Perspective podcast, we start with ourselves always, and then we work outward.
Speaker AIf you have complaining going on in here, even though you may not be, and I say in here, in your heart, and you're not verbalizing that out in your words, well, just because you're not verbalizing it out in your words doesn't mean you're not verbalizing it out in your actions.
Speaker ABecause that thing lives in your heart and it's growing in there.
Speaker AThat's why you got to deal with hidden complaining.
Speaker ANow, oftentimes hidden complaining comes from others, but we always start with ourselves because we look at ourselves first.
Speaker AThat's what good leaders, great leaders, and high performers do.
Speaker ANow, here's another leadership truth bomb for you.
Speaker AComplaining isn't just toxic.
Speaker AIt can also be spiritual sabotage.
Speaker AThat's a deep one right there.
Speaker AComplaining isn't just toxic.
Speaker AIt can also be spiritual sabotage.
Speaker ASpiritual sabotage, the callings you have within your life.
Speaker ANow, here's how you can spot a grumbling or complaining spirit.
Speaker AOftentimes, you'll see that there's constant negativity coming from these people without any solutions being provided.
Speaker AConstant negativity without solutions.
Speaker AIt's just complain, complain, complain, complaining about the decision the leaders made, complaining about this, complaining about that, but they never offer a solution.
Speaker AIt's just complain, complain, complain.
Speaker ABut it's not just complaining, it's negative complaining.
Speaker AThe other thing, too is passive resistance to change or division.
Speaker ANow, we all have those who have worked for us or even work for us now, where sometimes they need some time to adapt.
Speaker AYou introduce something to them that you want them to change.
Speaker AAnd maybe they don't quite take that the way you want them to, but you got to give them a day or two, and then they circle back around and they're back on team leader, whatever leader is leading that team, and they're with it and they're ready to support.
Speaker ABut when there's continual resistance to change or division.
Speaker AOftentimes that's a sign of how to spot a grumbling or complaining spirit that's operating different at work.
Speaker AYou know, sometimes all the right words can come out of their mouth, but what are their actions showing you?
Speaker ARemember, sometimes those actions give you windows into what their true character is.
Speaker AAnother one.
Speaker AOh, this is a really big one right here.
Speaker AAnd this is going to hit hard for some of you because some of you are going to recognize you've been doing this and didn't realize that this is what it's a symptom of.
Speaker AA person who avoids confrontation but is passively aggressive.
Speaker AWhen I was putting these notes together, I almost wrote down is very passive aggressive, but you don't have to be very passive aggressive.
Speaker ABut oftentimes this person is a person who avoids confrontation, whether if it's confronting things with a person, with a group or just confronting challenges.
Speaker ABut it's a person who avoids confrontation but is passively aggressive.
Speaker AIn other words, they say things under their breath, they mention things without really being clear or direct on what it is they really want to say.
Speaker AKnock that nonsense off.
Speaker AIf you've got something to say, then just say it, but do it with love.
Speaker AAnd if you recognize that you've got a dog in that race.
Speaker AI've had other podcasts we talk about this before.
Speaker AHere's what I mean about a dog in the race.
Speaker AIf you have emotions tied to that thing, then you're not ready to speak about it.
Speaker AYou may need to leave that conversation or exit it and table it for later until you can work through those emotions or resolve them and then come back to the table with a fresh, clean slate and talk about it amicably without your emotions being tied to it.
Speaker ABecause if your emotions are tied to it, you're most likely not going to operate in love.
Speaker AAnd you may even be a little more engaged in that conversation than what you intend to.
Speaker AAnd what I mean by engaged is your words are going to be a bit more emphatic.
Speaker AThey may have a bit more bite, they may even be a little bitter or cruel because you got emotions to that thing.
Speaker AAnd the quickest way to deal with that, we have a podcast that came out on this a few days ago as well, is when you let ego come to the table.
Speaker AAnytime you bring your ego to the table to have a conversation, that's a bad batch brewing right there.
Speaker AYou've got to be able to remove ego from the equation.
Speaker ABecause the moment ego removes itself from the equation, you quit focusing on who's right and who's wrong.
Speaker AAnd you quit worrying about who's winning and who's losing.
Speaker ABecause ego is not there to represent.
Speaker AYou know, when you bring ego to the table, you're fighting from a stance of personal identity.
Speaker ABut when you leave ego out of the equation, well, now you're just talking about facts and what's best for the business.
Speaker AMan, I'm telling you, that's powerful.
Speaker AThat was worth you coming to this podcast today alone, and we got a lot more that's going to make it worthwhile.
Speaker ABut man, I'm telling you, that was a powerful insight.
Speaker AThe other thing on how to spot a grumbling spirit Backbiting becomes a contagious attitude among teams.
Speaker AWhat do I mean by backbiting?
Speaker ABackbiting is when they start to kind of jaw at each other or complain about each other or they start getting a little bitter or really just recognizing people who start to bicker.
Speaker AAnd another one, and this is big.
Speaker ASo I had this one down at the bottom.
Speaker AYou can't see my notes, but I've even got it like highlighted and everything.
Speaker AIs that rebellion masked as honest feedback?
Speaker AWho's a big one right there.
Speaker ARemember, we're talking in this section about how to spot a grumbling spirit rebellion masked as honest feedback, but really it's just someone rebelling against a situation, even though they may be trying to sound genuine and give honest feedback.
Speaker APowerful.
Speaker APowerful one.
Speaker AThe next thing I want to take you to are two leadership responses you can have to complaining.
Speaker ARemember, the topic that we're speaking about today is the danger of leading complainers.
Speaker AThe danger Leading complainers.
Speaker ASo two leadership responses that you can have.
Speaker AThe first one is either to release them, meaning you got to let some go.
Speaker AAnd the second one is you train it out of them.
Speaker AIn other words, you transform the culture.
Speaker AThose are your two options.
Speaker ABut let me break this down just a little bit for you.
Speaker ALet's go to the first one.
Speaker ASo the first one is to release them, meaning sometimes you're just going to have to let some people go.
Speaker ANow what I will tell you is that when you're letting people go as a leader, it should never feel good to have to fire somebody ever.
Speaker AI mean, even if they do something that makes you so mad or angry, or they do something that's a significant mistake and cost a bunch of money or something is firing someone should never feel easy.
Speaker AIt just shouldn't.
Speaker ABecause if you truly care about people, then you should recognize that when you have to let someone go to some degree, you're impacting their life.
Speaker ANow, they may have put you in a situation where you had no other choice.
Speaker AIn fact, that's the only time this should happen.
Speaker ABut even before you get there, true leaders should look at themselves and say that I do everything I can as a leader for this person to ensure their success.
Speaker ADid I set them up for success or did I set them up for failure?
Speaker AAnd if I haven't done everything I possibly can to help them succeed, then may me now is not the right time to fire them.
Speaker ABut if you can say that you've done all those things, you can check all the boxes, then sometimes you just have to cut bait.
Speaker AI don't want that to sound coarse or crass, but sometimes you just got to cut that thing and let it loose.
Speaker AIt doesn't matter how much you invested in that thing.
Speaker ASometimes you just got to cut bait.
Speaker ABecause in some cases, not all, but in some, it's easier to start over than to have to keep going down and repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
Speaker AYou know, I know I refer to a lot of our podcasts we've done before, but there's another one I did where I talked about teaching teams how to fail forward.
Speaker AAnd the benefit about failing forward.
Speaker AConsider you're walking down a path or a sidewalk and you stumble or trip.
Speaker AAs you stumble and trip, you move several feet forward, forward before you fall.
Speaker ABut when you get up, if you turn around and look at the point where you stumbled from, even though you fell, you still gained ground while you were stumbling from the point where you first tripped up.
Speaker AThat represents that when you make mistakes, you can make mistakes but still learn from them and end up ahead.
Speaker ABut when you fall backwards, that would be like stumbling over something and falling backwards and landing on your bottom, your butt.
Speaker ABecause when you get back up from that case, you're almost most likely.
Speaker AIn all cases, you're almost most likely to stand up further behind than where you first tripped.
Speaker AThat's why you want to teach your teams how to fail forward, not to fall backwards.
Speaker APeople are going to make mistakes.
Speaker AYou want to give them room to make mistakes.
Speaker AHowever, are they learning from the mistakes?
Speaker AOr more importantly, are they learning from your mistakes and the mistakes of others around them?
Speaker AIf the success of an employee always relates around them making their own mistakes and learning from their own mistakes only, then progress is going to be slow.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AIf their progress is linked to their mistakes and learning from their mistakes, only progress is slow.
Speaker ABut when you can say, hey, I want you learning from your own mistakes, I'm not telling you to go make them.
Speaker AWe want to do things right.
Speaker ABut when you do make them, make sure you're failing forward, not falling backwards, so you can learn from them.
Speaker ABut I want to be transparent with you as a leader and tell you about mistakes that I've already made.
Speaker AAnd if you're concerned about them looking at you as less or thinking down about you, that's foolishness right there.
Speaker ABecause now you brought your ego back into the conversation.
Speaker AYou're not there for personal ego.
Speaker AYou're there helping them understand how to learn from you.
Speaker AAnd when you're transparent with people like that, do you know what people start to call you?
Speaker AThey don't necessarily refer to you so much as boss, as manager, or, you know, executive or whatever.
Speaker AThey start to use a different word for you that's way more potent.
Speaker AAnd that word is mentor.
Speaker AWho.
Speaker AThat's solid right there.
Speaker ABecause whether you're meaning to be a mentor for them or not, when you take the time to teach someone from your own mistakes that you've made, you're now mentoring them or coaching them on a higher level.
Speaker AAnd that is just about above every title you can have compared to everything else.
Speaker ANow, in addition to that, there's other things you can do as well the other thing and understand when you're releasing them, it's not necessarily unloving.
Speaker ASometimes it's just operating in obedience.
Speaker ARemember, you have a high calling on your life from God.
Speaker AAnd if you're going to guard that assignment, sometimes you have to operate in obedience.
Speaker AAnd so it's not unloving to let someone go unless you do it in the wrong demeanor.
Speaker ASometimes it's just being obedient.
Speaker AThe other thing is you can't build momentum with chains tied around your ankles.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again because that's a strong visual picture.
Speaker AYou can't build momentum with chains tied around your ankles.
Speaker AThe next thing I have for you is you have to learn to train it out of them.
Speaker ARemember I said that there were two leadership responses.
Speaker AYou could either release them, meaning let them go, or you could train it out of them, which involves transforming the culture.
Speaker AIf you want to transform the culture or train it out of them, then you may need to set a zero tolerance tone for complaining.
Speaker AIn other words, you're not going to allow complaining at any cost.
Speaker ABut you've also showed them why.
Speaker AYou've taught them what complaining looks like and shows up looking like so that they understand and know that it's not tolerable.
Speaker AYou can even put this in your core values, you can put it in your code of conduct, but it's about showing them complaining is non tolerable.
Speaker AWe're going to have a zero tolerance policy against this.
Speaker AThe other thing is learn to reward solutions, not complaints.
Speaker AWhen people provide solutions, learn to reward that some way.
Speaker ASometimes it doesn't always have to be monetarily, but sometimes it's the pat on the back, it's the acknowledging them in front of their peers, giving them public credit for things instead of taking it for yourself, telling them how much you appreciate them.
Speaker ASometimes it's simple.
Speaker ASometimes it's letting them go a couple hours early on a Friday so they can go home and start their weekend a little bit earlier or a half day off.
Speaker ANow, you don't want to create an environment of entitlement, so you don't want to have to always do that or them think they're owed it.
Speaker ABut when you do these things, occasionally it really improves the culture of an environment.
Speaker AOther times it can be like Mamie, you take them to lunch or you buy them lunch, or you simply bring them a gift card to their favorite coffee shop or the local restaurant that them and their families can go enjoy.
Speaker ABut just something that lets them know you're thinking of them.
Speaker AMaybe sometimes it's, you know, whatever it is, but it's just something that says it's a card.
Speaker AIt's a simple note, a card that tells them, my boss took time to go by the store and buy a card and they took time to actually write me a note in there.
Speaker AEven if what it says is just, thank you, I appreciate you.
Speaker ABut they took time to do that.
Speaker AThat's something tangible that they can hold on to.
Speaker ANow I've got another leadership truth bomb for you.
Speaker AThis one is you can't weed out what you tolerate at the top.
Speaker AWhoa, that's fire right there, man.
Speaker AThat's a strong one.
Speaker AYou can't weed out what you're willing to tolerate at the top.
Speaker AThis is a massive, massive unlock.
Speaker AThat brings us to some final thoughts that I have for you today.
Speaker AAnd I have a few of them.
Speaker AThe first one I want you to do is I want you to take a moment and reflect because we went pretty deep today and we hit some strong topics and we hit a strong topic today in regarding to the dangers of leading complainers.
Speaker AWe did some internal reflection as well as external reflection and we also talked about ways to spot these things, the dangers of how that manifests and pops up.
Speaker ABut we Also talked about our responsibilities with that as well.
Speaker ABut here's some final thoughts I have for you as we start to wind today's teaching down or today's episode down.
Speaker AIs there anyone you're leading right now that's just absolutely draining your calling?
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AIs there anyone you're leading right now that's just absolutely draining your calling?
Speaker AIn other words, you have this thing that you know you're supposed to do, but by tolerating this person, it's just draining that to where now you're not even really enjoying that calling anymore.
Speaker AOr maybe you're distracted and don't see it as a calling, you're just tolerating it.
Speaker AIf so, are you tolerating something you should be confronting?
Speaker AOh, man, I'm telling you, that hits deep.
Speaker AI felt that so strong in my spirit when I said that.
Speaker ARight now, I just want to let you know my compassion goes out to you.
Speaker ABecause when I said that, I know that there are those who are watching this, that the answer is an emphatic yes.
Speaker AMy compassion goes out to you.
Speaker AI want you to know.
Speaker AAnd I may not do it on camera here, but I'm telling you, the moment I get off camera, I'm going to lift you up in prayer.
Speaker ABecause I know how challenging that can be.
Speaker AI know how draining that can be.
Speaker AAnd I know that at times it can even call you to question whether or not if you're still doing what you're supposed to be doing or if it's time for you to move on.
Speaker ABut I want you to understand that if God is calling you to move on, fantastic.
Speaker ABut if God has called you to that place and he has not released you from it, if he has not released you from that assignment or given you a word, it's time to move on, then understand, he's anointed you to be there.
Speaker AHis hand is upon you.
Speaker ABut while his hand upon you doesn't guarantee automatic success, it does guarantee automatic support.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AGod's hand or calling on your life doesn't always equate to automatic success, but it always, always, always, always equates to automatic support, meaning he's there for you and he's on your side.
Speaker AIf you're facing a situation like that today, I want you to get quiet before Him.
Speaker AI want you to ask him for wisdom because the word tells you that he would not withhold wisdom from you if you ask him for it.
Speaker AI want you to ask him for wisdom to See the end from the beginning and for strength and guidance to know exactly what you're supposed to do to confront that situation correctly.
Speaker AAnd remember, when you confront always do it with love.
Speaker ANow, you can be bold, you can be direct, and you can be clear and concise.
Speaker AThere's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker AThat doesn't mean you have to do it passively, but do it with love.
Speaker ALeave your ego out of that equation.
Speaker ATake your dog out of that race.
Speaker AShow up with facts, do it in love, but also be bold.
Speaker AAnd what I mean by bold is just knowing.
Speaker AThat doesn't mean be aggressive.
Speaker ABeing bold simply means be confident in why you're having that conversation and why it needs to be had.
Speaker AAnd as long as you show up with those things, you're gonna be successful.
Speaker AIn addition to that, understand you can be called, you can be anointed, you can even be assigned and still miss your destiny if you allow complaining, grumbling and strife to take root in the people you lead.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again, and there is our alarm.
Speaker ASo we're almost ready to be done.
Speaker AYou can be called, anointed and assigned and still miss your destiny if you allow complaining, grumbling and strife to take root in the people you lead.
Speaker AIf you really care about what you do and if you really care about where you're doing it and you really care about others, then I'm going to tell you, you'll address this the way you need to.
Speaker ABecause when you address the complaining and the grumbling and the strife, that is one of the main ways you can show love towards the people who you work with and work for, and especially for the people who work for you.
Speaker AAddress it and don't be slow to act.
Speaker AWeed it out.
Speaker AThe complaining, the grumbling and the strife.
Speaker AAddress that, because that's actually showing love towards the things that you need to be showing love towards.
Speaker AAnd I want to end with a quick word of encouragement.
Speaker AI want you to remember that you have been called into the promised land.
Speaker ADon't let grumbling voices keep you circling out in the wilderness.
Speaker AI'm going to say that again.
Speaker AYou have been called into the promised land.
Speaker AWe all have different promised lands, but you have been called into the promised land.
Speaker ADon't let grumbling and complaining voices keep you out circling in the wilderness.
Speaker AGuys, that being said, that brings us to the end of today's podcast.
Speaker AI hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.
Speaker ARemember, here in the executive perspective, we have one direction we move and that is forward and upwards.
Speaker AAnd sometimes that means we have to address hard subjects, but in ways that we can do it, it's constructive, it's beneficial, and it can help us.
Speaker AAnd I believe that this episode today is going to help you tremendously.
Speaker AEither in a current situation you're dealing with, it's either going to help you kind of mentally put into place some things that you've addressed in the past or had to confront in the the past, or it's going to prepare you for your future.
Speaker AAnd remember, it's always better to be proactive rather than reactive.
Speaker ASo if you get this in your heart and you learn it and you've got it in your mind, as these things start to pop up, you'll be able to be proactive in addressing it so it never has to occur.
Speaker AYou can be proactive and address it before it even begins to arise, rather than having to do it on the back end.
Speaker ABut if you've got to take care of this on the back end, I want you to know, as always, I believe in you, Champion.
Speaker AI believe you have greatness inside of you and everything you need to be successful is already there.
Speaker AYou just need to tap into it and cultivate it.
Speaker AI'm encouraging you to tap into it and cultivate it.
Speaker AI believe in you, Champion.
Speaker AI believe you're built for greatness.
Speaker AAnd I want to encourage you to go out and smash it today.
Speaker AGuys, as always, I want to invite you to swing by our website@neil Reyes.com where you can find all of our teaching resources.
Speaker AIn addition to that, I want to remind you one more time, I believe in you.
Speaker AGo out and smash it.
Speaker AThank you and have a blessed day.