Kate Harlow:

My purpose is to continue to peel off those fear

Kate Harlow:

based masks and those layers of who I'm not, and to keep being

Kate Harlow:

who I am in the world, and to keep magnetizing women to me,

Kate Harlow:

who I can help remind them of who they are. Your purpose is so

Kate Harlow:

it's not going to look the same as mine, by any means. But what

Kate Harlow:

sparks your heart. The more you live in alignment with who you

Kate Harlow:

really are, the more the universe, divine matrix life,

Kate Harlow:

can lead you where you're meant to go. So discover your magic.

Kate Harlow:

Number one. Number two, follow your inner nudges. Say yes, even

Kate Harlow:

when it's frickin scary, know that that's exactly the

Kate Harlow:

direction you need to go in. And number three is trust that you

Kate Harlow:

are being guided.

Kate Harlow:

Hello, beautiful. Happy New Year. 2026 Oh, my goodness. Do

Kate Harlow:

you remember being a kid and being like, what will the world

Kate Harlow:

look like in 2026 I bet you didn't guess it would look how

Kate Harlow:

it looks. I think that, I mean, I maybe imagine the Jetsons,

Kate Harlow:

like cars would be flying themselves by now, they're

Kate Harlow:

certainly driving themselves, aren't they, so I'm sure cars

Kate Harlow:

will be flying in no time. That's an interesting thought.

Kate Harlow:

So I hope that you are having a beautiful start to the new year.

Kate Harlow:

I hope you got some rest over the holidays that you took

Kate Harlow:

amazing, exquisite care of yourself and that you brought

Kate Harlow:

your heroine to all the parties and all the events and

Kate Harlow:

everything that you went to and touched and experienced. So

Kate Harlow:

let's have 2026 your year of magic, the year of your heroine,

Kate Harlow:

of becoming fully becoming the heroine of your life. What does

Kate Harlow:

that mean? That means you being the leading lady, not the extra,

Kate Harlow:

right? The leading lady of your story being the co author, the

Kate Harlow:

CO writer, the CO creator, with the universe. Because, of

Kate Harlow:

course, you are always being guided. You are always being

Kate Harlow:

supported. And if you are afraid that you are not if you are

Kate Harlow:

afraid that you are going to fail, if you are afraid that

Kate Harlow:

you're never going to make anything of yourself, that

Kate Harlow:

you're going to be stuck in this job. You hate forever. You are

Kate Harlow:

disconnected from the truth of who you are, which is divine,

Kate Harlow:

because the reality is we are all plugged into the same divine

Kate Harlow:

matrix. And I am using that word very intentionally. There was a

Kate Harlow:

movie, movie produced, I don't know when the matrix came out,

Kate Harlow:

maybe early, 2000s

Kate Harlow:

and people in spiritual, spiritual places use the the

Kate Harlow:

metaphor of the matrix A lot, as the thing that is disconnecting

Kate Harlow:

us from the truth of who we are and from our source. But the

Kate Harlow:

reality is the matrix. In Latin, means the womb. It means the

Kate Harlow:

feminine. It means Mother Earth. So the divine, the matrix is

Kate Harlow:

actually what's divine, and it is the system that we're all

Kate Harlow:

plugged into when, when you experience synchronicity in your

Kate Harlow:

life, when you experience magic in your life, when you have a

Kate Harlow:

thought about someone and then you see them or that thing comes

Kate Harlow:

true. It is the matrix is the unseen quantum field that is

Kate Harlow:

everywhere that birds are connected to, that the bees are

Kate Harlow:

connected to that, the trees are connected to that the animals

Kate Harlow:

are connected to. There is this quantum field of energy that we

Kate Harlow:

can't see that is orchestrating everything that's happening in

Kate Harlow:

our lives. That's the divine matrix. And yet, Hollywood made

Kate Harlow:

us think that the matrix is the thing that's dumbing us down and

Kate Harlow:

disconnecting us from our truth. This happens a lot in Hollywood.

Kate Harlow:

They flip things so that we then get confused about what truth

Kate Harlow:

is. So I certainly believe there are a lot of systems that have

Kate Harlow:

been set up to disconnect us from our magic, to disconnect us

Kate Harlow:

from our power. However, we're not going to go down the

Kate Harlow:

conspiracy theory route today, but even the school system

Kate Harlow:

right? It's the punishment system. It's a system that

Kate Harlow:

teaches us about good and bad and right and wrong, and it

Kate Harlow:

disconnects us from our hearts. It disconnects us from our

Kate Harlow:

individuality, from our souls, from the essence of who we are.

Kate Harlow:

So today, I'm excited to talk about purpose with you, because

Kate Harlow:

this part that I'm talking about right now is everything when it

Kate Harlow:

comes to purpose, your purpose. And this episode has been a long

Kate Harlow:

time coming. There's been so many requests, and it's

Kate Harlow:

sandwiched in between two episodes that are so related

Kate Harlow:

that if you have not heard the New Year's episode with Farhad

Kate Harlow:

100% you need to go back and listen to that episode. It is so

Kate Harlow:

amazing. It's, I mean, we had so much fun recording it. It's like

Kate Harlow:

90 minutes long of pure magic. He shares the most incredible

Kate Harlow:

stories. And this man has been one of my best friends since I

Kate Harlow:

was 19 years old. He's like a soul mate, and he has everything

Kate Harlow:

he touches turns to gold. He's created so much magic in his

Kate Harlow:

life, he couldn't be more on purpose. And His purpose is

Kate Harlow:

never ending. Like often people think of purpose like a like a

Kate Harlow:

career path. It's like you just arrive one day and you're the

Kate Harlow:

CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Your purpose is not a career

Kate Harlow:

path. Your purpose is something that's alive and living and

Kate Harlow:

breathing. Breathing. And as you evolve as a soul, your purpose

Kate Harlow:

will evolve alongside you. And so and so many women have been

Kate Harlow:

asking for an episode on purpose. I'm really excited to

Kate Harlow:

dive in. So this one is sandwiched between your year of

Kate Harlow:

magic with Farhad, and that one is so purpose related. That

Kate Harlow:

whole episode, and it's a next the next episode is about living

Kate Harlow:

your dreams with an amazing woman who I'm really, really

Kate Harlow:

excited to share you with next week that comes out next week.

Kate Harlow:

So right in the middle, I decided to put the truth about

Kate Harlow:

purpose so that we can really get you on purpose. I know that

Kate Harlow:

this is something that so many women are starving for right

Kate Harlow:

now, so many women I'm working with, and that my friends are

Kate Harlow:

working with and that I keep hearing and meeting, are at a

Kate Harlow:

crossroads, are really at that that place in their lives. Are

Kate Harlow:

like, Okay, I'm no longer willing to do this thing that

Kate Harlow:

sucks the life out of me. I'm no longer willing to go to this job

Kate Harlow:

where someone else tells me what's wrong with me and how I

Kate Harlow:

need to be better and how who, who I need to be, and how I need

Kate Harlow:

to show up and how much time I need to work every day, there's

Kate Harlow:

this deep call, and I think it's part of the age of Aquarian I

Kate Harlow:

talk about that a lot, and I'm not an astrologer, but I just

Kate Harlow:

like see so much change happening right now. How do you

Kate Harlow:

deny it? You can't deny it. Old systems are no longer working,

Kate Harlow:

and people are being called to be more entrepreneurial in the

Kate Harlow:

modern world, more innovative, more creative. So this is

Kate Harlow:

happening so organically right now, and the call to to rise

Kate Harlow:

into something greater and to connect with something more

Kate Harlow:

meaningful is inside of every woman I talk to right now, if

Kate Harlow:

they're not already on the path of doing something meaningful,

Kate Harlow:

and even for someone like me, I'm already many years down the

Kate Harlow:

path of doing my aligned purpose, and it keeps evolving.

Kate Harlow:

I have, you know, I'm working on the book, which I'm feeling

Kate Harlow:

really excited about. I'm, I'm at olapenge farm right now as I

Kate Harlow:

record this, and the book is starting to take shape. I'm, I'm

Kate Harlow:

working with a book writing coach coming up in the new year.

Kate Harlow:

You might meet her next week. And I am so inspired right now

Kate Harlow:

to get the book out there into as many hands as of as many

Kate Harlow:

women on planet Earth, learning how to be unscripted and how to

Kate Harlow:

live a life aligned with their souls. So that's something new

Kate Harlow:

that I'm working on. And then I have all these extraordinarily

Kate Harlow:

massive projects that keep dropping into my field of new

Kate Harlow:

possibilities of taking this work out in even more creative

Kate Harlow:

and fun and innovative ways, and getting as impacting as many

Kate Harlow:

women on planet Earth with the unscripted message of you get to

Kate Harlow:

go your own way. You get to follow your own heart, and you

Kate Harlow:

get to live a life that feels good. So this message is so

Kate Harlow:

important. Anyways, that's my purpose. But I feel the change

Kate Harlow:

with everyone, even people I know that are on purpose.

Kate Harlow:

There's so much more coming and so much more that we're here to

Kate Harlow:

do and create. And I really feel like human beings when we're

Kate Harlow:

connected to our creativity and our inspiration and that divine

Kate Harlow:

channel we all have access to when we are connected to this

Kate Harlow:

part of ourselves, we are so much more joyful. We walk

Kate Harlow:

through the world so much more grounded and aligned and in our

Kate Harlow:

power. And, you know, looking for not looking for approval

Kate Harlow:

like your purpose is so connected. You know, I kind of

Kate Harlow:

want to change the narrative. I'm just realizing this as I'm

Kate Harlow:

saying it out loud. It's like I used to be in fantasy for, you

Kate Harlow:

know, my whole life, till I was 30, that some guy was the thing,

Kate Harlow:

right? And I was gonna this grandiose love was the thing.

Kate Harlow:

And there's gonna be some arrival point, and I was gonna

Kate Harlow:

just go arrive one day and this, meet this guy, and I would feel

Kate Harlow:

amazing forever, and I would feel worthy and lovable and good

Kate Harlow:

enough. And of course, that's the biggest setup, because what

Kate Harlow:

part of you is choosing love is the part that doesn't feel

Kate Harlow:

worthy, lovable and good enough, and then it's a lifelong roller

Kate Harlow:

coaster ride of trying to get love from someone outside of

Kate Harlow:

yourself. But when we become the love, when we deepen into the

Kate Harlow:

love when we reconnect with the truth of who we are. That's when

Kate Harlow:

our purpose becomes like. That's when we get to express our

Kate Harlow:

purpose in the world, whatever that might be. And you know,

Kate Harlow:

when you're fully living on purpose in every sense of the

Kate Harlow:

word, you don't like, I don't feel the need to have a partner

Kate Harlow:

right now, I'm I'm not closed to a partner coming when the time

Kate Harlow:

is right, but I don't need one because I'm so satiated in my

Kate Harlow:

life and my purpose is so deep and so prevalent. And it's not

Kate Harlow:

like, it's not the same as being a workaholic, right? You know,

Kate Harlow:

like, that's the old paradigm is, like, obsessed with like not

Kate Harlow:

most people that are workaholics aren't even obsessed with their

Kate Harlow:

jobs. They don't even like it necessarily. They're just over

Kate Harlow:

functioning trying to prove something. You know, it's it's

Kate Harlow:

coming from that wounded place that not good enough, not

Kate Harlow:

lovable, not worthy, not smart enough. So they're over

Kate Harlow:

functioning to try and prove something. And May. Or they're

Kate Harlow:

over functioning to avoid feeling whatever they're feeling

Kate Harlow:

underneath, and it stops them, or it keeps them in this life

Kate Harlow:

that is, you know, busy and maybe looks important on paper,

Kate Harlow:

but they're usually quite disconnected from themselves in

Kate Harlow:

it. So that's not what I'm talking about. Purpose is being

Kate Harlow:

connected to your magic. And personally, you know, I know

Kate Harlow:

this is up. This is definitely up for debate, because I've

Kate Harlow:

heard other teachers in this in this space, disagree with this

Kate Harlow:

point that I'm about to make, but I personally believe that we

Kate Harlow:

all have a deeper purpose, and that it can be connected to how

Kate Harlow:

you earn, how you I want to find a better word how you create and

Kate Harlow:

attract abundance in your life. I believe we all have

Kate Harlow:

magic to be shared that can be connected to your career and

Kate Harlow:

what you're here to do in the world. And the reason I believe

Kate Harlow:

that is because I just think that most people are so far away

Kate Harlow:

from their their own magic, their own essence, their natural

Kate Harlow:

gifts. Most people are very far away from that because we were

Kate Harlow:

programmed to be right in those systems that I talked about in

Kate Harlow:

the beginning. This is not a conspiracy. We were programmed

Kate Harlow:

as children to like the school system doesn't sit you down and

Kate Harlow:

say like, oh, who are you, and what are your gifts? And what

Kate Harlow:

are we? What do we? What can we cultivate for you? What are you

Kate Harlow:

really naturally gifted at? What does your Soul love? Can you

Kate Harlow:

imagine if that's what the school system did? No, it

Kate Harlow:

doesn't do that. What does it do? It sits us down and says,

Kate Harlow:

Okay, this is what you need to learn. This is who you need to

Kate Harlow:

be. Most people leave the school system feeling stupid. I left

Kate Harlow:

the school system feeling like absolutely the dumbest person on

Kate Harlow:

planet Earth. I did relatively well, like B, like B's. I got

Kate Harlow:

mostly in school, occasionally C is usually in math, but B's. So

Kate Harlow:

I managed to get by with tutors, with help, but it was so fucking

Kate Harlow:

hard for me, and I left school feeling like an idiot. And it

Kate Harlow:

actually wasn't until I met my mentor, who I've talked a lot

Kate Harlow:

about in different episodes. I mean, this woman totally changed

Kate Harlow:

my life. And when I met her, she I went to a few of her events.

Kate Harlow:

This is who I was a business coach for, and I first attended

Kate Harlow:

a few of her events and got to know her audience and connected

Kate Harlow:

with her. I volunteered and like, got to know the the vibe

Kate Harlow:

of it, and I fell in love with this company and these very

Kate Harlow:

personal development based business seminars. They were all

Kate Harlow:

about marketing and sales and stage presence, but they were so

Kate Harlow:

deep and meaningful. And I fell in love with her, and I fell in

Kate Harlow:

love with all of her clients, and she one day on stage, it was

Kate Harlow:

the most meaningful moment to me. Like that moment completely

Kate Harlow:

changed my life. She said, from stage, she was teaching about

Kate Harlow:

multiple intelligences, because she was teaching curriculum

Kate Harlow:

design, and she was teaching our audience, who were business

Kate Harlow:

owners that led retreats, seminars and workshops. She was

Kate Harlow:

teaching them how to actually design program curriculum that

Kate Harlow:

really changes lives, because most people that teach retreats

Kate Harlow:

and seminars and and talks and workshops don't actually know

Kate Harlow:

how to teach. So this was one of her geniuses. So she was

Kate Harlow:

teaching, teaching basically, and I was at the back of the

Kate Harlow:

room as her head coach, and I was coaching all of her clients.

Kate Harlow:

And she said, she said, How many of you have met Kate this

Kate Harlow:

weekend? And at the time, like my loves, if you could only see

Kate Harlow:

me, this was okay, 1515, years ago, at least, probably 18 years

Kate Harlow:

ago, maybe not that long, 15 years ago. This was about 15

Kate Harlow:

years ago. She said, How many of you have met Kate this weekend?

Kate Harlow:

It was like a marketing workshop, and every single

Kate Harlow:

person in the room put up their hand. I think there was maybe 50

Kate Harlow:

people in the room. And she said, how many like, what? What

Kate Harlow:

words would you describe her? And people were like, warm,

Kate Harlow:

connected, loving, present, whatever they would say, really

Kate Harlow:

nice things. And she said, Kate left the school system feeling

Kate Harlow:

stupid and and yet, the first time I met this woman, I My

Kate Harlow:

first thought was this, she isn't this woman is an

Kate Harlow:

interpersonal genius. She said, I've never met someone who is so

Kate Harlow:

good at connecting with people in my life and instantly

Kate Harlow:

connecting in a really meaningful, deep way and staying

Kate Harlow:

connected. And she said this, and I'm sobbing at the back of

Kate Harlow:

the room. Honestly, my friends, until that moment, I felt

Kate Harlow:

stupid. I thought I wasn't good at anything. I had studied

Kate Harlow:

coaching. I had studied counseling. I had immersed

Kate Harlow:

myself in holistic wellness and healing, and I trained in all

Kate Harlow:

these different methodologies, because I was already on the

Kate Harlow:

beginning of my path. At this point, I was a few years into my

Kate Harlow:

path when I met Callan, and I was so insecure still, even

Kate Harlow:

though I was studying coaching, like I was divinely led to study

Kate Harlow:

coaching, even that part of my purpose I literally had never

Kate Harlow:

heard of a coach in my life, other than a basketball coach

Kate Harlow:

and a soccer coach. And the moment that I heard about

Kate Harlow:

coaching was like a dinner party with it was like a office dinner

Kate Harlow:

party, and the owner was in town, and he was like, blah,

Kate Harlow:

blah, blah, my life coach. And I was like, what? What's a life

Kate Harlow:

coach? And something lit up inside me, and I went home that

Kate Harlow:

night and I searched life coaching. I called my parents,

Kate Harlow:

and I was like, I think I want to be a life coach. This is when

Kate Harlow:

I was 25 years old, and this was the beginning of my journey, and

Kate Harlow:

in that decision to become a life coach, even after two years

Kate Harlow:

of life coaching school, that was so or it was a year and a

Kate Harlow:

half, it was so intense. It was like full time self help school,

Kate Harlow:

and it was so deep. And we were working everything. We were

Kate Harlow:

learning. We were working on our we were learning on ourselves.

Kate Harlow:

We were going through our family system, studying our childhood,

Kate Harlow:

studying our traumas, studying everything, and really like it

Kate Harlow:

was ripping our hearts open and putting them back together. That

Kate Harlow:

was the training that I did. It was so experiential, incredibly

Kate Harlow:

profound and really, really deep. And I left that program

Kate Harlow:

still so insecure, like still feeling stupid, still

Kate Harlow:

questioning whether or not I should be a coach. I remember a

Kate Harlow:

moment where I, my friend gave me a psychic reading for my

Kate Harlow:

birthday, and I at the time, I called my parents and I was

Kate Harlow:

like, okay, it'd been, like, couple years since I took

Kate Harlow:

coaching school, tried to start my own business. Was too

Kate Harlow:

insecure. Called my parents and was like, I think I'm going to

Kate Harlow:

be a wine wrap. I think I'd be really good at it. I'm really

Kate Harlow:

good at selling and I love wine. At the time, I was like, and my

Kate Harlow:

parents were like, what? Like, they were devastated, because

Kate Harlow:

they were so happy that I'd finally found my thing. And

Kate Harlow:

everyone that everyone in my life knew the coaching path was

Kate Harlow:

my path. Even though coaching was such a new thing, they all

Kate Harlow:

could see that this was where I was meant to go, and this is

Kate Harlow:

back way before Instagram and Facebook. Like coaching wasn't a

Kate Harlow:

thing when I studied coaching so but I was still so insecure, and

Kate Harlow:

thankfully, the psychic said you're at a crossroads. She

Kate Harlow:

didn't ask me any questions. She said, you're at a crossroads.

Kate Harlow:

You're going back to school, and you are not meant to you. She

Kate Harlow:

said you were meant to be a healer and a helper of humanity.

Kate Harlow:

And so I was like, okay, great, that's so I went back and did

Kate Harlow:

more, more studies in the coaching, counseling, healing

Kate Harlow:

realm, rather than going down the wine rep path. But it was,

Kate Harlow:

you see how every single thing was divided. And then the next

Kate Harlow:

program, I signed up for this counselors training program at

Kate Harlow:

this beautiful program. It was called the Clear Mind Institute.

Kate Harlow:

I met so many amazing, lifelong friends there. And really, the

Kate Harlow:

program was deeply life changing. And I'd already done a

Kate Harlow:

year and a half program, and this was another one. And I was

Kate Harlow:

like, Okay, maybe I'm I'm still insecure. Maybe I just need to

Kate Harlow:

go back to school and do more. So I did, and I'm so glad I did,

Kate Harlow:

because it was my divine path. That's where I met Callen, who

Kate Harlow:

ended up being my mentor for the next 10 years, and she saw me so

Kate Harlow:

deeply. So she's the one who said, you're an interpersonal

Kate Harlow:

genius, and I've never met someone who's connected with

Kate Harlow:

people as deep as you so then she kept inviting me to be her

Kate Harlow:

coach, to be her head trainer, to grow with her, and she

Kate Harlow:

mentored me and lit I mean, gosh, that woman will always

Kate Harlow:

hold the specialist place in my heart, because I would not be

Kate Harlow:

who I am today without her. Now, I didn't plan to share any of

Kate Harlow:

these stories. It's just coming through right now, but what I'm

Kate Harlow:

realizing as I'm sharing them, is that the thing you need to

Kate Harlow:

the most important thing you need to know about purpose, is

Kate Harlow:

that it is guided. It comes from life, guiding you. The universe,

Kate Harlow:

God, the divine, the divine matrix, whatever you want to

Kate Harlow:

call it, is guiding you on the path that is designed for you.

Kate Harlow:

You do not have to find purpose now, before I discovered

Kate Harlow:

coaching, before that dropped in my lap and that divine moment

Kate Harlow:

where my body responded so strongly to this man saying my

Kate Harlow:

life coach, life coaching wasn't known. So that's why I didn't

Kate Harlow:

know what it was when I first heard the term, but my body knew

Kate Harlow:

it. My soul knew it. My soul responded in that moment to that

Kate Harlow:

statement, but before that time, because I felt stupid, and maybe

Kate Harlow:

on a deeper level, because I knew I had a big life purpose,

Kate Harlow:

on a soul level, not a mind level, but on some deep level,

Kate Harlow:

perhaps I knew that there was a big purpose that was coming. I

Kate Harlow:

was on the hunt for my career path and my so called purpose.

Kate Harlow:

Maybe I didn't call it that. I don't think I called it purpose

Kate Harlow:

back then, because I didn't. I wasn't really familiar with the

Kate Harlow:

term, but I was looking for my thing. I remember everyone I

Kate Harlow:

went to school with was really good at something, and it felt

Kate Harlow:

like everyone knew their path, and I didn't know my path, and I

Kate Harlow:

was always searching. I studied youth in film. I consider being

Kate Harlow:

a film. I did. I remember going on, what was that show? It was

Kate Harlow:

like not Star Trek. Was like Star Trek, though it was filmed

Kate Harlow:

in Vancouver, and. I went on set for three days and, like,

Kate Harlow:

shadowed the special effects makeup artists and shadowed,

Kate Harlow:

maybe it was Star Trek petite, a new version, I don't know

Kate Harlow:

something anyways, I thought it was gonna get in the film

Kate Harlow:

industry. My friend's brother was like, Oh my gosh, you would

Kate Harlow:

be amazing at public relations. You got to get into PR. And I

Kate Harlow:

was like, What's PR? And I looked it up, and I took a

Kate Harlow:

course. I like studied it at night school for, like, I don't

Kate Harlow:

know, two years PR and marketing and all these things that that

Kate Harlow:

just because someone else told me I'd be good at it, I was

Kate Harlow:

constantly looking for the thing and constantly meeting up

Kate Harlow:

against walls, constantly bumping up against, like, just

Kate Harlow:

nothing, nothing unfolded and and I

Kate Harlow:

just want to speak to the fact that I'm a projector. So for

Kate Harlow:

those manifestors out there, typically manifestors go their

Kate Harlow:

own way, and they innovate and they create, but projectors and

Kate Harlow:

generators and manifesting generators, I'm speaking of

Kate Harlow:

human design right now, and I will have a human design

Kate Harlow:

practitioner on very soon, but we need guidance. And so I would

Kate Harlow:

say for the most part, regardless of your type, the

Kate Harlow:

universe is guiding you, and there is a path that is meant

Kate Harlow:

for you. So here's your job. If it's guided and it can't be

Kate Harlow:

found, you might be asking, Well, Kate, why is it? Why

Kate Harlow:

haven't I been guided yet, if you are living in your saboteur

Kate Harlow:

okay, if you are living in your survival patterns, if you're

Kate Harlow:

following your if you're saying yes to what's a NO and NO to

Kate Harlow:

what's a yes, if you're relying to yourself deep down, if you

Kate Harlow:

are sacrificing and over functioning and staying in a job

Kate Harlow:

you hate just because you think there's no other option, staying

Kate Harlow:

in a relationship that's out of alignment, Just because you're

Kate Harlow:

afraid. You know, if you are still trapped by the helm of

Kate Harlow:

your saboteur, then you my love will not uncover your purpose.

Kate Harlow:

The reason my purpose kept unfolding is I because I started

Kate Harlow:

to listen. I left a I was going to say 30 year relationship. No,

Kate Harlow:

wasn't 30 years I was 30 years old. I left a five year

Kate Harlow:

relationship that was so perfect on paper at a time in my life

Kate Harlow:

where everybody I was friends with was getting married and

Kate Harlow:

having kids, and I had the courage to leave that

Kate Harlow:

relationship because there was a feeling so strongly inside of me

Kate Harlow:

that there was more for me that I needed to experience. And then

Kate Harlow:

I needed to experience it on my own. I needed to be a woman in

Kate Harlow:

the world on my own, not forever just, but like for an indefinite

Kate Harlow:

period of time. And then I spent three years devoting myself to

Kate Harlow:

getting to know my own soul, my own heart, and as I shifted

Kate Harlow:

gears, so obviously every new truth episode is supportive of

Kate Harlow:

you living this way. But as I shifted gears, and I stopped

Kate Harlow:

doing what everyone else thought I should do, and I stopped

Kate Harlow:

saying yes to everything that actually didn't feel good in my

Kate Harlow:

body, and I started saying no to those things and yes to the

Kate Harlow:

things that lit me up like a Christmas tree or expanded my

Kate Harlow:

heart, or were so clear that this was something I was meant

Kate Harlow:

to do, even though it felt scary when I had the courage and I

Kate Harlow:

made choices like that over and over and over again, that was me

Kate Harlow:

getting into alignment with my heart and the truth of who I Am,

Kate Harlow:

and from that place, the magic started to unfold. That's when I

Kate Harlow:

could actually hear and see the guides from the universe. Right

Kate Harlow:

prior to that, I couldn't see them. I was missing the signals

Kate Harlow:

because I was so far away from the truth of who I am. I

Kate Harlow:

remember having astrology readings back in the day. And I

Kate Harlow:

was like,

Kate Harlow:

none of these things they're saying are true. Like this woman

Kate Harlow:

said, You're not going to be able to work for someone else

Kate Harlow:

for very long. You are. You are absolutely meant to have your

Kate Harlow:

own thing, and you are going to make a huge impact, and your

Kate Harlow:

purpose is to be who you are. And I'm like, wow, at the time,

Kate Harlow:

it made no sense, but now it's like, literally, my life is

Kate Harlow:

being who I am and showing other women how to be who they are,

Kate Harlow:

and fully aligning with truth and not buying into any of the

Kate Harlow:

bullshit that I'm living my life wrong or I'm doing things wrong.

Kate Harlow:

I certainly felt that way in the beginning, when I left that five

Kate Harlow:

year relationship with Charlie, my beloved at the time, who was,

Kate Harlow:

he's the greatest guy. He's such a love, and he's such a pure

Kate Harlow:

heart, amazing human being. We had a nice relationship, we had

Kate Harlow:

a sweet relationship, but I had the call so deep that I needed

Kate Harlow:

to live. I remember even just like, this craving to have my

Kate Harlow:

own space, my own home, my own place that was just mine, and to

Kate Harlow:

like it was almost like dating myself. I certainly didn't call

Kate Harlow:

it that at the time, but like, I had this desire to date myself,

Kate Harlow:

to get to know what was in there, and I listened to it,

Kate Harlow:

and. Even though everyone in my life told me not to leave

Kate Harlow:

Charlie, everyone in my life was like, You're fucking crazy.

Kate Harlow:

People said the same thing when I changed my name, like, what

Kate Harlow:

are you doing? That's weird. When I talked about that on the

Kate Harlow:

last episode, when I left Charlie, people were like, Oh my

Kate Harlow:

God, you're never going to find a man as good as this who loves

Kate Harlow:

you as much as he does, he's literally perfect. Why would you

Kate Harlow:

leave? And everyone else is getting married and, quote,

Kate Harlow:

unquote, settling down. But there was a call in my body, in

Kate Harlow:

my heart and my soul, that I could not ignore, and thank God

Kate Harlow:

I didn't ignore it. We wouldn't even be here, right? So that was

Kate Harlow:

such a huge part of my purpose journey, because I had the

Kate Harlow:

courage to follow my heart. And every time you have the courage

Kate Harlow:

to follow your heart, and remember, there will always be a

Kate Harlow:

million fearful stories as to why you shouldn't. And that's

Kate Harlow:

your saboteur. You got to get to know your saboteur, and you got

Kate Harlow:

to get to know her as your roommate, not as the one in

Kate Harlow:

charge. She she needs to be in the backseat with your little

Kate Harlow:

Wounded Child, and you and your heroine driving the car, because

Kate Harlow:

your Saboteurs job is to keep you small, because she believes,

Kate Harlow:

on some level that that is safe, because when you were little,

Kate Harlow:

being big and wild and bold and express was not safe, right? So

Kate Harlow:

she is working on overtime trying to keep you safe. She has

Kate Harlow:

to be in the backseat if you are not inside of the reclamation,

Kate Harlow:

and this is something you need support with. Join us in the

Kate Harlow:

reclamation. It's a place where you can step into and reclaim

Kate Harlow:

your purpose with an amazing group of heroines who have

Kate Harlow:

already done it and are doing it and are so devoted to themselves

Kate Harlow:

and so devoted to going their own way and living their life

Kate Harlow:

differently, from the heart, from the soul. So join me. I'll

Kate Harlow:

link it below this episode. I've been talking about a lot in last

Kate Harlow:

month. We just started the beginning of January, and it

Kate Harlow:

runs till the end of March, and then you have the online modules

Kate Harlow:

for life. But that, I mean the reclamation is an amazing place

Kate Harlow:

to reclaim all of those parts of your shutdown, but that's the

Kate Harlow:

first step. Is you must discover your own magic, and you cannot

Kate Harlow:

discover your own magic. If you are going against your inner

Kate Harlow:

compass, if you are ignoring those calls that are coming from

Kate Harlow:

deep within your heart and soul, if you are letting fear make

Kate Harlow:

your decision instead of following your truth, you will

Kate Harlow:

not discover your magic, right? So many women are like, Oh, I'm

Kate Harlow:

just not good at anything. I don't have gifts. And like, Oh,

Kate Harlow:

I'm like, I'm just here to work really hard. You have the most

Kate Harlow:

extraordinary gifts you could ever imagine. And here's the

Kate Harlow:

thing, when you are living from your magic, it's not, it's not

Kate Harlow:

this fantasy. I think a lot of people are like, I just want to

Kate Harlow:

spring out of bed every morning and be so passionate about what

Kate Harlow:

I do. It's like, I don't feel that way that it that's a

Kate Harlow:

fantasy, actually. And I think it's good to talk about it how

Kate Harlow:

it feels. And this is when you're in your heroine, period,

Kate Harlow:

but especially connected to purpose and love, same thing. It

Kate Harlow:

feels neutral. Actually. It's quite grounded. It's just like,

Kate Harlow:

maybe not neutral, isn't the word, but it's like, grounded.

Kate Harlow:

And it's, it's very like when I'm doing it. So I'm when I'm

Kate Harlow:

doing a podcast, I'm expanded to a certain degree. When do a

Kate Harlow:

podcast with another person, I'm even more expanded because I'm,

Kate Harlow:

like, having a connection when I'm when I'm on stage teaching,

Kate Harlow:

like at a live event, I'm even more expanded or don't have to

Kate Harlow:

be on stage. It maybe it's just an intimate setting, like the

Kate Harlow:

immersion, but I would say that's when I'm the most

Kate Harlow:

expanded, because I'm in person and, you know, getting to go

Kate Harlow:

deep with women and do what I love in such a playful, fun way,

Kate Harlow:

like that is where the greatest magic occurs for me, in my

Kate Harlow:

purpose. But all of them, I feel expanded by all of them, but

Kate Harlow:

it's not in a fantasy way. I don't jump out of bed like I

Kate Harlow:

can't wait to do what I'm gonna do today. It's more just like

Kate Harlow:

very say I feel satiated, is the word. There's a contentment,

Kate Harlow:

there's a there's a grounded satiation, like I my cup is

Kate Harlow:

full, and I feel so grateful for that. So you know, and look

Kate Harlow:

where my purpose led me. I had no idea creating all these

Kate Harlow:

online things during covid Were going to support me to be able

Kate Harlow:

to have a business that I could live from anywhere in the world.

Kate Harlow:

I live in Greece. I live in Kenya. Like, how amazing is that

Kate Harlow:

that my like because I followed the divine guidance of covid and

Kate Harlow:

not being able to do live talks and having to move more online.

Kate Harlow:

Because I moved more online, that's when I created the

Kate Harlow:

reclamation and the expanded love masterclass, that the

Kate Harlow:

podcast was birthed right before covid. So all of these online

Kate Harlow:

things then set me up for the next step. So it's all divine,

Kate Harlow:

even me being a business coach before, people kept saying to me

Kate Harlow:

at the time, Kate, you are so gifted, you need to have your

Kate Harlow:

own thing. And I was like, my own thing. What's my own thing?

Kate Harlow:

I have nothing to offer. Like, I'm a business coach. And I was

Kate Harlow:

teaching their methodologies, which were amazing, and I was so

Kate Harlow:

good at teaching their methodologies when I became

Kate Harlow:

their head trainer. But I didn't think I had my own thing from my

Kate Harlow:

mind, right? Fear based mind. I thought. No, I'm just going to

Kate Harlow:

do this for other people. Why would I want the stress of

Kate Harlow:

having my own thing? But life led me one moment at a time. I

Kate Harlow:

was burnt out. I had to quit working for that company because

Kate Harlow:

I was so exhausted I couldn't do it anymore. I was traveling too

Kate Harlow:

much and working wild hours, and was just like way too much for a

Kate Harlow:

projector. So I ended my relationship, or my business

Kate Harlow:

relationship with them, and I shifted gears, and I took a

Kate Harlow:

break, and then a friend of mine was like, hey, like, when are

Kate Harlow:

you going to start your own thing? And I'm like, What's my

Kate Harlow:

own thing? I don't know what it is. And she said, What do you

Kate Harlow:

care about? And then I just went on a rant, and she's like,

Kate Harlow:

great, do a video. And I got online, and I just spontaneously

Kate Harlow:

did a video on Facebook. And this is before Facebook Live

Kate Harlow:

even existed. It's so wild. I feel like a dinosaur. I've been

Kate Harlow:

doing this a long time, but, but Facebook Live didn't even exist.

Kate Harlow:

I just recorded a video on my phone and uploaded it to YouTube

Kate Harlow:

and uploaded it to Facebook, live or to not live to Facebook,

Kate Harlow:

and it got massive responses. And then I did it. I did a pilot

Kate Harlow:

program, and I invited people on Facebook, and I said I was

Kate Harlow:

looking for five women and 14 signed up. And it was because I

Kate Harlow:

was in alignment. When we're in alignment and doing something

Kate Harlow:

for our own pleasure and our own joy and our own passion, we

Kate Harlow:

become magnetic. Right? I never had to work hard to fill events

Kate Harlow:

or to get clients. I just had to show up. I used to do live talks

Kate Harlow:

around Vancouver before covid, or I did them in Toronto. I did

Kate Harlow:

them. I did one in Washington, DC. I did one Sydney, Australia.

Kate Harlow:

I'd travel around do these live talks or and if I was going

Kate Harlow:

farther, I would do a weekend. And I loved them. I love live

Kate Harlow:

talks and empowering women around fantasy love. It was

Kate Harlow:

really the message of the podcast and in a live format,

Kate Harlow:

and that was so fun for me, so satiating for me, so because I

Kate Harlow:

was so expanded in that and in my own joy and in my own humor

Kate Harlow:

and excitement, I would naturally magnetize the women

Kate Harlow:

who are meant to work with me and meant to come to the

Kate Harlow:

immersion, and meant to go deeper, right? So it's it's not

Kate Harlow:

the thing itself. It's the magnetism, like if your path, if

Kate Harlow:

you are meant to do something similar to what I do, when

Kate Harlow:

you're doing it, and when you're so rooted in yourself, and

Kate Harlow:

you're doing it because you love it, like I chose a podcast

Kate Harlow:

because I love to talk and also because the universe guided me,

Kate Harlow:

right? I think I've shared this story several times before, but

Kate Harlow:

I was doing a talk. It was my last talk ever. Was in Toronto,

Kate Harlow:

2019 right before covid happened, and I had a bunch of

Kate Harlow:

women come to the back of the room at the end, and they were

Kate Harlow:

like, Kate Harlow, we need you to do a podcast. And I was like,

Kate Harlow:

what? Okay, what's a podcast? Like? I'd heard it before.

Kate Harlow:

Chris, my soul healer, who I had on recently, was the first

Kate Harlow:

person to plant that seed. Maybe Jeff, my ex boyfriend, was the

Kate Harlow:

first, first person, my former partner, and then that. But I

Kate Harlow:

couldn't hear it. I wasn't ready at the time with them. But then

Kate Harlow:

these women said that to me, and they were like, this information

Kate Harlow:

is so important, and women need to hear it all over the world,

Kate Harlow:

and we need to hear it. To hear it over and over again. So

Kate Harlow:

please do a podcast and that, for some reason, it's stuck.

Kate Harlow:

Next thing you know, I called Catherine, and I was like, we we

Kate Harlow:

booked a zoom. We didn't really know each other. We'd, we'd

Kate Harlow:

collaborated a couple times on little things because we'd seen

Kate Harlow:

each other's work. We met for 10 minutes at a rooftop party.

Kate Harlow:

Catherine, if you don't know, she's my old podcast partner, if

Kate Harlow:

you go back,

Kate Harlow:

if you if you're new to the new truth, but that's how I met

Kate Harlow:

Katherine and at a rooftop party. And, like, we really

Kate Harlow:

didn't know each other, but I intuitively, in one conversation

Kate Harlow:

with Jeff, I was like, I'm meant to do a podcast. And he said,

Kate Harlow:

Well, I've been telling you that for a long time. Why don't you

Kate Harlow:

start? And I was like, Well, I don't want to do it alone. And

Kate Harlow:

he's like, great. Who would you do it with? And Catherine

Kate Harlow:

Danieli was the first person that popped to mind, so I

Kate Harlow:

reached out to her. She cried on the spot when I asked her to do

Kate Harlow:

a podcast with me, and that's how the new truth was born. So

Kate Harlow:

you see how the universe sends angels to ask to guide us,

Kate Harlow:

right? We get told, I've had so many women say this, you need a

Kate Harlow:

book. You need a book. I just want a manual. I want something

Kate Harlow:

I can read over and over again. And so that's what led me to

Kate Harlow:

doing the book now. And you know, even Elizabeth invited me

Kate Harlow:

to come do the artist in residence. She's the owner of

Kate Harlow:

Ola pangi farm, where I am right now doing the artist in

Kate Harlow:

residence program. So life is guiding you, but if you're

Kate Harlow:

living a lie, and if you're in your saboteur all the time, and

Kate Harlow:

you're disconnected from the heroine inside, from the

Kate Harlow:

sovereign woman, you're disconnected from your divinity

Kate Harlow:

and the divine matrix that is always guiding us to where we're

Kate Harlow:

meant to go, you will miss all of the nudges, like I my loves.

Kate Harlow:

I honestly, I could. I don't even know how long I've been

Kate Harlow:

talking right now, but I could. I could do 10 I could share 10

Kate Harlow:

million stories of my purpose unfolding. There's so many tiny

Kate Harlow:

moments from my journey that were divinely guided, and my

Kate Harlow:

only job was to keep feeding my heart, feeding my soul, caring

Kate Harlow:

for. Myself getting into energetic alignment with who I

Kate Harlow:

am, and listening to the invitations, listening to the

Kate Harlow:

responses from the universe. When the universe sends the

Kate Harlow:

nudge. Do I listen? Do I say yes? If something is a yes, and

Kate Harlow:

that is your practice. So number one is discover your magic.

Kate Harlow:

You've got to be on the journey of your heroine if you in order

Kate Harlow:

to discover your magic. So, and I don't just mean with me the

Kate Harlow:

hair becoming the heroine of your life, becoming the

Kate Harlow:

sovereign woman. So you have to be on a devoted journey in order

Kate Harlow:

to even discover your magic. And then life will share your magic

Kate Harlow:

with you. We are all magical, and then we forget. It's like

Kate Harlow:

everyone has amnesia. And we think we are, oh, I'm a

Kate Harlow:

perfectionist. Oh, I'm a, you know, I'm a workaholic. It's

Kate Harlow:

like, you are none of those things you I'm a people pleaser.

Kate Harlow:

It's like, No, those are your patterns. That's how you learn

Kate Harlow:

to be to survive your life. You are not that. You are not that

Kate Harlow:

there's something so magical in your soul you just haven't

Kate Harlow:

uncovered it yet. So that's number one. Number two is follow

Kate Harlow:

the inner nudges, which I've said, like, it's a combination

Kate Harlow:

of life leading you like Kate, do a podcast. Kate, I wasn't

Kate Harlow:

ready to follow the inner nudges the first couple times, but then

Kate Harlow:

that third time it was like, All right, I get it. The memo is

Kate Harlow:

clear doing a podcast, so follow the inner nudges and and have

Kate Harlow:

the willingness in 2026 to say yes to those things that feel

Kate Harlow:

scary, because they're supposed to. If they feel scary, that is

Kate Harlow:

a good thing if you feel terrified. Ding, ding, ding,

Kate Harlow:

that is exactly the direction you're meant to go in. It's so

Kate Harlow:

funny. I've literally lived in this tent at Ola pangi for like,

Kate Harlow:

I mean, if I add up, last year I lived in the tent for four

Kate Harlow:

months, and this year, I'm, I mean, it's gonna be like five,

Kate Harlow:

six months in a tent in Kenya. I mean, it's a glamping tent. It's

Kate Harlow:

not fancy, but it's like king size bed. It has electricity

Kate Harlow:

bedside tables. There's a, you know, shower and toilet on the

Kate Harlow:

platform. But I was so freaking terrified, if you go back and

Kate Harlow:

listen to my app, my episodes from last year, before I did the

Kate Harlow:

artist program, I was so terrified of this experience,

Kate Harlow:

like as if I was going to get eaten by a lion, which is so

Kate Harlow:

funny. Now there's no lions walking around my tent. I hear

Kate Harlow:

them in the night. It's just amazing. Like I could honestly

Kate Harlow:

think live out my days in this tent. I love living in the tent.

Kate Harlow:

I find I sleep way deeper, and I love waking up at five to the

Kate Harlow:

birds, and then I meditate and I go for a walk, and it's just

Kate Harlow:

like the most beautiful circadian rhythm reset being in

Kate Harlow:

the tent here. But it's so funny to think how scared I was before

Kate Harlow:

that I was only the and it's really always a young part of us

Kate Harlow:

that's afraid and the saboteur that's feeding the stories to

Kate Harlow:

the young girl, like, don't do this thing. It's scary, right?

Kate Harlow:

The saboteur is like scaring that little girl inside. If you

Kate Harlow:

ever feel scared, know that there is a young version of

Kate Harlow:

yourself in that moment. Tune in. Feel your feet. Put your

Kate Harlow:

hands on your heart. Sit a little bit taller, take a breath

Kate Harlow:

and and speak from your heroine to the little girl. You are

Kate Harlow:

safe. I've got you. You don't have to be in charge of this. I

Kate Harlow:

have got you. I will protect you. I've got you, and that's

Kate Harlow:

part of the trusting life, right? But, but building that

Kate Harlow:

relationship with the little girl, rather than letting the

Kate Harlow:

little girl in your saboteur make your decisions, you are not

Kate Harlow:

going to have an expanded life if your saboteur or an aligned

Kate Harlow:

life that is meant for you, if your saboteur and the little

Kate Harlow:

girl are making your decisions rooted in fear, so what have you

Kate Harlow:

been afraid? What decision Have you been afraid to make that

Kate Harlow:

you've been staying stuck in forever like call on that

Kate Harlow:

heroine to mentor and guide that little girl and let her know

Kate Harlow:

that she is safe and there is a sovereign woman inside who's

Kate Harlow:

going to take charge now and let that part make the decision.

Kate Harlow:

That's the part that even though the fear is there, she feels it,

Kate Harlow:

she breathes into it, she maybe creates with it, she writes

Kate Harlow:

about it, she makes art with it, and then she walks through the

Kate Harlow:

door anyways, because that door is the door to your purpose, and

Kate Harlow:

your purpose is not an arrival point. Like, I've said, mine has

Kate Harlow:

evolved so much since I started. Like, I can't even believe how

Kate Harlow:

much mine has evolved since I started, and it's going to

Kate Harlow:

continue to evolve. I have no idea what the future holds. And

Kate Harlow:

every time my mind gets attached to it being a certain way, or me

Kate Harlow:

doing something particular in my purpose. I give it to the

Kate Harlow:

universe and the angels, and I'm like, I know that there's a

Kate Harlow:

divine plan where this is meant to go. And my mind might think

Kate Harlow:

it knows the best way, but actually I know it doesn't, so I

Kate Harlow:

surrender this to you. Keep showing me the way. Keep guiding

Kate Harlow:

me. So when you get in fear, talk to the universe, talk to

Kate Harlow:

your angels. Keep guiding me. This is the sage aspect of the

Kate Harlow:

heroine. So in the reclamation, we unlock all of the aspects of

Kate Harlow:

the heroine that help you feel fully rooted in yourself. And

Kate Harlow:

the sage is about living from your inner compass, not anyone

Kate Harlow:

else's, but yours, listening to the nudges for. Following your

Kate Harlow:

heart expansions, saying yes to your yeses and no to your nose

Kate Harlow:

no matter what. And the sage is also being interconnected to

Kate Harlow:

that divine matrix, to the divine intelligence of this

Kate Harlow:

planet that all of the animals and all of the other ecosystems

Kate Harlow:

are so effortlessly connected to, we just forgot, because

Kate Harlow:

we're the only species on planet Earth with an ego, right? Nobody

Kate Harlow:

else has a saboteur. So everyone they're all connected to the

Kate Harlow:

Divine interconnectedness. And here we are suffering and

Kate Harlow:

struggling and arguing with reality and trying to control

Kate Harlow:

our futures and trying to create a life that somebody else told

Kate Harlow:

us we were supposed to have, rather than connect with the

Kate Harlow:

magic of the life that you are meant to have that is only

Kate Harlow:

unique to your soul. My path is so unique, and, you know, it's

Kate Harlow:

interesting too. What I do for a living, like so many people, are

Kate Harlow:

coaches and teachers and and mentors and have podcasts, but I

Kate Harlow:

didn't do this because I was like, oh, everyone else's

Kate Harlow:

account, I want to be a coach. Like, look, everyone on

Kate Harlow:

Instagram is a coach. Maybe I should be a coach. Like, wasn't

Kate Harlow:

my mind choosing this? I didn't even know what freaking coaching

Kate Harlow:

was. It wasn't even a thing, right? Wasn't my mind choosing

Kate Harlow:

the podcast again. I didn't know what it was. Life led me here,

Kate Harlow:

and that's why it's been magnetic. That's why I've had

Kate Harlow:

relative success and ease in my from the very beginning of my

Kate Harlow:

work in the world, because it was divinely LED. It wasn't my

Kate Harlow:

ego being like, oh, I need to be known. I gotta go, you know, get

Kate Harlow:

a bunch of followers. I don't care about followers. I don't

Kate Harlow:

care about Instagram. I care about you. I care about

Kate Harlow:

awakening women to the magic of who they are. So when you're

Kate Harlow:

leading from that place, when you're choosing what your

Kate Harlow:

purpose, like I have right now, actually, it's extraordinary. So

Kate Harlow:

many of the women I'm working with have a deep, deep

Kate Harlow:

connection and love for animals. And I keep saying like, I feel

Kate Harlow:

like there's going to be a heroin business coming out of

Kate Harlow:

this immersion, because the next immersion in April 2026, is sold

Kate Harlow:

out. If you want to get on the waiting list for next year, I

Kate Harlow:

highly encourage it. But so many of them are deeply in love with

Kate Harlow:

animals, and I believe have a deeper purpose connected to

Kate Harlow:

animals in some way, some sacred you know, animal, animal Animal

Kate Harlow:

Rescue, animal love place. It's so interesting. So and it

Kate Harlow:

they're all being brought together at the immersion,

Kate Harlow:

right? They haven't even been on the journey yet, but it's like,

Kate Harlow:

so beautiful to see. That's what happens. So it's, it's your

Kate Harlow:

like, your purpose is where your heart intersects with what the

Kate Harlow:

universe is calling you to be, and it is calling you, and if

Kate Harlow:

you can't hear or feel or experience, don't experience the

Kate Harlow:

call. It's because you're far away from yourself. You're in

Kate Harlow:

your mind, you're in your idea of who you think you are, and

Kate Harlow:

you're disconnected from who you really are, because your heart

Kate Harlow:

intersects with the the divine guidance and with the expression

Kate Harlow:

of the magic of you, that's your purpose. Your purpose is like

Kate Harlow:

breathing. Like this, for me, is like breathing. Now, was it

Kate Harlow:

always like breathing?

Kate Harlow:

No, I developed a huge fear of public speaking. So again,

Kate Harlow:

before, like before, I met my mentor, Callen. I was terrified

Kate Harlow:

of being on stage. In fact, when I met her, she was like, You are

Kate Harlow:

meant to be on stage. I see it so clearly. And she she's a soul

Kate Harlow:

seer. And I was like, No way. I hate public speaking, even in

Kate Harlow:

front of five people. Like, no, that's like death to me. And she

Kate Harlow:

was like, No, you're meant to be on stage. I want you to do my

Kate Harlow:

intro tonight. We would do these live talks, which is where I

Kate Harlow:

learned to do live talks, and she asked me to do her intro,

Kate Harlow:

and I did it maybe four times, and I was so bad, I can't even

Kate Harlow:

tell you, I couldn't even make eye contact with the audience.

Kate Harlow:

It was like a wall went up, and I just, like, recited the thing

Kate Harlow:

the paper in my head of what I was supposed to say about her.

Kate Harlow:

And I like, didn't breathe the whole time, like it was

Kate Harlow:

horrible, and I would be sick before and after. I would

Kate Harlow:

literally be running to the bathroom after so sick, like, Oh

Kate Harlow:

my God. And then I would be in a shame spiral after doing it. And

Kate Harlow:

so that I'm sharing this story, because if your mind is like,

Kate Harlow:

Well, I'm not meant to do that thing because I'm terrified of

Kate Harlow:

it, it's like, probably that's exactly what you're meant to do.

Kate Harlow:

I don't meant to do. I don't think we have that level of

Kate Harlow:

fear. So if, like yours is public speaking, dig into it,

Kate Harlow:

because I don't think that I would have had that level of

Kate Harlow:

fear if it wasn't exactly where I was meant to go. The stronger

Kate Harlow:

the fear, in fact, the more usually it's the more that's

Kate Harlow:

your path, and your saboteur feels like it's going to die.

Kate Harlow:

Because for me, I was shut down from being in the spotlight,

Kate Harlow:

from taking up too much attention. I was I was because I

Kate Harlow:

naturally have a Leo rising. So I'm naturally very bubbly and

Kate Harlow:

very charismatic, and I would, you know, love to talk. I have a

Kate Harlow:

defined throat in human design, so that was really easy for me

Kate Harlow:

to express. And yet I was shut down from from it so many times

Kate Harlow:

when I was young. So I developed a fear of public speaking and of

Kate Harlow:

attention. Now it fear led my life. I we would not be here,

Kate Harlow:

right? None of this work would have been created because I

Kate Harlow:

would be too afraid, because I wouldn't have become the head

Kate Harlow:

trainer, like none of this would be here. So that's the thing.

Kate Harlow:

It's like, Don't the fear is the indicator. The fear isn't the

Kate Harlow:

barrier. The fear isn't the thing that is like, you're not

Kate Harlow:

supposed to go in that direction because you're afraid, if you're

Kate Harlow:

afraid to have your own business. Oh, my God, if I can

Kate Harlow:

have my own business, you can say that to my brother. I'm

Kate Harlow:

like, seriously. I'm like, not good at detail, not good at that

Kate Harlow:

kind of stuff, business stuff. So I thought like, there was no

Kate Harlow:

way in hell I could have a business. But again, saga, saga

Kate Harlow:

po le poli, one day at a time, one moment at a time, it

Kate Harlow:

unfolds. Purpose doesn't happen overnight. It's a lifelong

Kate Harlow:

unfolding, and mine's still unfolding, because it's a life

Kate Harlow:

long unfolding. So that fear of public speaking, okay, here's

Kate Harlow:

another I told you I have endless stories, so I told my

Kate Harlow:

mentor, like, No, do not put me on stage again. I hate it. I

Kate Harlow:

meant to be at the back of the room. I'm the support person.

Kate Harlow:

She was like, Fine, okay, and she let me have it. About a

Kate Harlow:

month later, I was at a meetup group, and I had a woman

Kate Harlow:

approach me who had never met in my life. She comes up to me and

Kate Harlow:

she says, I've been guided to work with you, and I want to

Kate Harlow:

gift you with three sessions of EFT, Emotional Freedom

Kate Harlow:

Technique, which is a thing that helps the subconscious heal

Kate Harlow:

patterns and beliefs that are not serving us anymore. And I

Kate Harlow:

said, Well, what do you do? And she said, I do EFT, and I

Kate Harlow:

specifically work with people who have a fear of public

Kate Harlow:

speaking. And I'm, I've been called by My angels and your

Kate Harlow:

angels that I meant to help you. And I was like, What the How

Kate Harlow:

does she know? Like, oh, my God, this is crazy. So I went home,

Kate Harlow:

and of course, I signed up for those three sessions, and then

Kate Harlow:

we worked together beyond that, but she helped me heal the fear

Kate Harlow:

of public speaking. And then all of a sudden, Callen, like, think

Kate Harlow:

she got sick or something. She couldn't come to event. There

Kate Harlow:

was, like, all these, the occurrences that happened that

Kate Harlow:

had me have to rise. There was no other option. I had to. I

Kate Harlow:

remember I had to teach a Pilates class. Like, I'm not a

Kate Harlow:

Pilates teacher, but one of our retreats, the Pilates teacher

Kate Harlow:

didn't show up. And I, at the time, was doing a lot of

Kate Harlow:

Pilates. I still am, and so she asked me to teach a Pilates

Kate Harlow:

class. So I did, and I wasn't afraid at all. And then she

Kate Harlow:

asked me to do this thing, and then to do that thing, and I

Kate Harlow:

just kept getting all these invitations again, once I had

Kate Harlow:

healed that fear and I started to step into my purpose, right?

Kate Harlow:

And it's not one thing. It's not public speaking, it's not a

Kate Harlow:

podcast, it's not a it's not a thing like my purpose is to

Kate Harlow:

continue to peel off those fear based masks and those layers of

Kate Harlow:

who I'm not and to keep being who I am in the world, and to

Kate Harlow:

keep magnetizing women to me who I can help remind them of who

Kate Harlow:

they are. Your purpose is. So it's not going to look the same

Kate Harlow:

as mine, by any means. But what sparks your heart the more you

Kate Harlow:

live in alignment with who you really are, the more the

Kate Harlow:

universe, divine matrix, life, can lead you where you're meant

Kate Harlow:

to go. So discover your magic. Number one, number two, follow

Kate Harlow:

your inner nudges. Say yes, even when it's freaking scary, know

Kate Harlow:

that that's exactly the direction you need to go in. And

Kate Harlow:

number three is trust your guidance. Trust that you are

Kate Harlow:

being guided. If you do not believe in in the divine

Kate Harlow:

orchestration of this planet. If you don't believe in the

Kate Harlow:

universe, in gut, you can call it whatever you want. Source

Kate Harlow:

Energy, God, the quantum field, whatever. Go study Joe Dispenza

Kate Harlow:

and Dr Bruce Lipton. If you're scientific and you don't believe

Kate Harlow:

in spirituality, because you were traumatized by a religion

Kate Harlow:

as a child that was forced down your throat and you, or you're

Kate Harlow:

just you, or you grew up in an atheist home, and you just don't

Kate Harlow:

believe in anything. You cannot live a life of purpose if you

Kate Harlow:

don't believe. But once you believe, and once you get into

Kate Harlow:

alignment, you can't not believe. I mean, we're at the

Kate Harlow:

immersion, and literally, magic is happening every five seconds.

Kate Harlow:

And every single five seconds, everyone's like, I can't believe

Kate Harlow:

that just happened. I can't believe that, like, it's so

Kate Harlow:

magical. That is my life all the time, like this synchronicity,

Kate Harlow:

that synchronicity, this, that is what the world is. We've just

Kate Harlow:

been brainwashed to believe it's something else. And the more you

Kate Harlow:

watch the news and the media and all the horrible things that

Kate Harlow:

happen in the world, the more you watch and consume and spend

Kate Harlow:

all your time watching scary movies and watching like

Kate Harlow:

programming your mind to believe that the world is a horrible

Kate Harlow:

place and that we are not divine, like we just forget, and

Kate Harlow:

we're being programmed every single day to forget and to

Kate Harlow:

forget and to forget. Why? Because then we're in fear, and

Kate Harlow:

then we're easily controllable, but you're. Path that is meant

Kate Harlow:

for you. You are not meant to live here and just work a job

Kate Harlow:

you hate. That's why I believe we all have a purpose, you know,

Kate Harlow:

and it might not be your own business. It might be working

Kate Harlow:

for someone else, or for an organization that's deeply

Kate Harlow:

meaningful to you or collaborating with friends. It

Kate Harlow:

could, it could be. It could look many different ways. But I

Kate Harlow:

do believe that every single one of us has something that will

Kate Harlow:

light up our soul and that we're not meant to just do a job, we

Kate Harlow:

hate to pay bills, to survive, and then we die like what that's

Kate Harlow:

not why we're here. There's so much available and possible for

Kate Harlow:

you, and every single one of us has magic inside, if you, if you

Kate Harlow:

have not touched the magic inside, join me in the

Kate Harlow:

reclamation. Join another program this year. Invest in

Kate Harlow:

yourself. Start investing in having someone see your magic

Kate Harlow:

and reflect your magic if you don't know your magic, and the

Kate Harlow:

more you live from your aligned magic, the easier it is to

Kate Harlow:

believe how supported you are. And we remember and forget,

Kate Harlow:

right? I still say, oh my god, that's so crazy. I can't believe

Kate Harlow:

that synchronicity just happened. And it's like, what's

Kate Harlow:

not crazy at all. Synchronicities happen

Kate Harlow:

constantly. But a part of me is still in awe and still shocked

Kate Harlow:

by the synchronicities, even though they're happening

Kate Harlow:

constantly. So there is a magical, divine matrix that we

Kate Harlow:

all can plug into, that will lead you to the purpose that's

Kate Harlow:

meaningful to you a life. Imagine that's why I feel so

Kate Harlow:

satiated, because everything I do is so meaningful to me, and

Kate Harlow:

it's so aligned with who I am. So learn about your astrology,

Kate Harlow:

learn about your your human design, even if at the time you

Kate Harlow:

don't believe what they say, like, when that woman told me I

Kate Harlow:

was going to have a business one day, I didn't believe her. I was

Kate Harlow:

like, yeah, right, clearly she doesn't know me. Like, have my

Kate Harlow:

own business, no way. Like, I just absolutely my mind was

Kate Harlow:

like, that's not remotely a possibility, but my soul knew,

Kate Harlow:

and so she got to plug that for my subconscious mind. So even if

Kate Harlow:

you don't believe what the astrologers or human design

Kate Harlow:

practitioners say at the time, just know they're planting seeds

Kate Harlow:

for the future, and it's all written in there. And I mean,

Kate Harlow:

your purpose is in there. You have, like, a whole go down the

Kate Harlow:

rabbit hole, and your purpose is in there. But the last thing in

Kate Harlow:

the world you want to do is try and control it, right? You don't

Kate Harlow:

want to. So if had I had that reading and then been like,

Kate Harlow:

Okay, I got to work for myself now. I got to start my own

Kate Harlow:

business, that would be my mind trying to control this magical

Kate Harlow:

thing, versus her just planting a seed and me being like, maybe,

Kate Harlow:

oh yeah, another moment of my purpose. I feel like I shared

Kate Harlow:

this story,

Kate Harlow:

at least in the last year about I was in went to a retreat in

Kate Harlow:

the south of France, and it was a little journey into Mary

Kate Harlow:

magdalene's world. In the south of France, they revere Mary

Kate Harlow:

Magdalene, and she was a teacher of love. And it's these

Kate Harlow:

beautiful, beautiful teachings and sacred, sacred places that

Kate Harlow:

apparently Mary Magdalene was. And so I got divinely led there.

Kate Harlow:

I mean, how I signed up for that? It was like two weeks

Kate Harlow:

before it started, and I was doing a business sales call for

Kate Harlow:

a woman who was applying for a program with my mentor, and I

Kate Harlow:

was interviewing her to see if she was a fit for his program.

Kate Harlow:

And on that call, she told me about her business model and

Kate Harlow:

told me about this retreat in the south of France. And this is

Kate Harlow:

a woman I knew already, I already had a relationship with,

Kate Harlow:

because she'd been in our other business programs. And I was

Kate Harlow:

like, Oh, my God, can I come on on the call when she was telling

Kate Harlow:

me about this retreat in the south of France, it was in Paris

Kate Harlow:

and the south of France. And she was like, Yeah, of course. And I

Kate Harlow:

went on this retreat. Like the perfect. I didn't have the

Kate Harlow:

money, but like, all my commissions from this thing I

Kate Harlow:

had just done showed up the exact literally, like, right? As

Kate Harlow:

I said, Yes, then I found out how much I was making in

Kate Harlow:

commissions for selling this really high ticket business

Kate Harlow:

course for my mentor. And that paid for my trip. The entire

Kate Harlow:

thing. It was so perfect. It was so divine. And I go on this

Kate Harlow:

journey I know nothing about Mary Magdalene, like I grew up

Kate Harlow:

in a Christian united, so liberal Christian, but Christian

Kate Harlow:

home. And I only heard that Mary Magdalene was a prostitute. I

Kate Harlow:

didn't know the true story of her. And so I wasn't even going

Kate Harlow:

for that reason. It was just a yes in my body. So I went on

Kate Harlow:

this journey, and it I tell you this, I mean, I'm still very

Kate Harlow:

connected to the five women who are on this trip. There was a

Kate Harlow:

woman from every decade, 40s, third, no 30s. I was in my 30s,

Kate Harlow:

30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s, or five of us. It was the perfect

Kate Harlow:

group. We're still really deeply connected. And it was like

Kate Harlow:

almost at the end of the trip, we went to these Mary Magdalene

Kate Harlow:

caves, and we couldn't find them at first. And the very first

Kate Harlow:

trail we walked down, I saw these heart rocks. And I thought

Kate Harlow:

to myself, like, this has got to be the Mary Magdalene caves.

Kate Harlow:

There's heart rocks everywhere. And it's like they were not

Kate Harlow:

placed there. They were nature, just nature, heart rocks. But I

Kate Harlow:

kept seeing rocks in the shapes of heart hearts. And then we

Kate Harlow:

spent the whole day looking for these caves. We went down this

Kate Harlow:

trail and that trail, and it was so hot out. I was like. 38

Kate Harlow:

degrees or something Celsius. It was very, very hot. And we

Kate Harlow:

finally, at the end of the day, the woman who was the oldest,

Kate Harlow:

said, You know, I feel like we should go back to the first one.

Kate Harlow:

I feel like that was the first trail. And I didn't have the

Kate Harlow:

courage at the time to speak up. I was 33 and I agreed with her.

Kate Harlow:

I was like, Yeah, I think so too. I kept seeing heart rocks

Kate Harlow:

on that trail. Sure enough, we go down that trail, and we go a

Kate Harlow:

little bit further than we did the time before, and we found

Kate Harlow:

the caves, and they were so beautiful. They were like

Kate Harlow:

limestone, green and pink, and all nature just so beautiful.

Kate Harlow:

And we were meditating inside of the Mary Magdalene cave, and I

Kate Harlow:

was deep in meditation, and all of a sudden my arms went up like

Kate Harlow:

wings, and I couldn't put them down. I literally, my arms were

Kate Harlow:

out. You can't see me right now, but my arms are out, as I'm

Kate Harlow:

telling this. I couldn't put them down. It was like someone

Kate Harlow:

put fish hooks in my wrists, and they were they were holding them

Kate Harlow:

up. And I started laughing. And I was just like, what the can't

Kate Harlow:

put my arms down. And there's a woman in the group who is a is a

Kate Harlow:

really extraordinary healer. Actually, I'll have her on the

Kate Harlow:

podcast at some point. She's amazing. And she was doing

Kate Harlow:

healing on all of us while we were meditating inside of these

Kate Harlow:

caves, and she saw me and knew what was happening, and she had

Kate Harlow:

this big smile on her face. And I closed my eyes again, and I

Kate Harlow:

was like, what is happening? And then I heard a voice that said,

Kate Harlow:

it's time to spread your wings. It was actually a man's voice.

Kate Harlow:

So in my mind, I was like, Okay, maybe it's Jesus, but he said,

Kate Harlow:

It's time to spread your wings. You are. You are a teacher of

Kate Harlow:

love. And at the time, I was a business coach, and I was like,

Kate Harlow:

a teacher of love. Like, what do I know about love? I don't know

Kate Harlow:

anything about love. What? And then again, like, it was a

Kate Harlow:

beautiful, magical moment, and I let it go. If I had gone home

Kate Harlow:

and started studying love and relationships, that would be my

Kate Harlow:

saboteur. So you see these nudges come, and we don't need

Kate Harlow:

to react instantly to them, that they're seeds that are planted,

Kate Harlow:

and you will know the moment they're meant to unfold. So that

Kate Harlow:

happened when I was 33 so 43 I'm 44 business, nine years. So two

Kate Harlow:

years before I started my business,

Kate Harlow:

and I forgot that that happened. I only remembered that happened

Kate Harlow:

later. I only remembered that that happened way later on my

Kate Harlow:

journey where I was like, Oh, my God, I am a teacher of love. But

Kate Harlow:

at the time, it made no sense. I was a business coach, and I had

Kate Harlow:

I, but I am love, right? In my mind, it was like, What do I

Kate Harlow:

know about relationships? Like, I'm not an expert. Who am I? You

Kate Harlow:

know, all my small self responded to that, but I was

Kate Harlow:

just like, okay, that just went in and out like it, but, but

Kate Harlow:

again, planted seeds in the garden, right? The garden

Kate Harlow:

doesn't bloom right away. You plant seeds, and you take care

Kate Harlow:

of the soil, and you nurture the soil and tend to it, make sure

Kate Harlow:

it has the right conditions. And then one day, what happens? One

Kate Harlow:

day you look outside and you're like, holy shit, the garden's

Kate Harlow:

bloomed. That's where I am. Now, my garden is bloomed, and it's

Kate Harlow:

going to keep blooming even more and more and more. But that

Kate Harlow:

moment, I didn't know what that meant, but that was the divine

Kate Harlow:

guiding me. So, I mean, I didn't used to believe in any of this.

Kate Harlow:

So if you are like, well, I don't believe it's like, you

Kate Harlow:

just have to get into alignment. I promise you, my the women I

Kate Harlow:

work with on this journey, most women I work with on this

Kate Harlow:

journey are super logical, very in their heads, very

Kate Harlow:

disconnected from their divinity and from their sensuality and

Kate Harlow:

from their power and from all the all the things inside and

Kate Harlow:

just living from logic and practicality. And most of them

Kate Harlow:

are numb when they meet me or like repressed or shut down and

Kate Harlow:

hurting, hurting deeply underneath that those masks, and

Kate Harlow:

they come to me because their soul feels something, even in

Kate Harlow:

listening to this podcast, their soul feels a resonance. Their

Kate Harlow:

heart feels something and is like there is something here for

Kate Harlow:

me. I don't know what it is. I mean, if that's you, get on the

Kate Harlow:

phone with me and let's explore. Maybe it's the reclamation,

Kate Harlow:

maybe it's going deeper, or maybe it's even just connecting.

Kate Harlow:

And I have a resource that I can provide you with, but basically,

Kate Harlow:

life is always leading you, and if you don't tend to your heart,

Kate Harlow:

if you don't care for yourself, if you don't make time and space

Kate Harlow:

for yourself, if you keep lying to yourself and contorting

Kate Harlow:

yourself and hurting yourself and living in a fantasy world

Kate Harlow:

rather than really connecting with your own heart and your own

Kate Harlow:

being and your own soul, you will miss the nudges right. The

Kate Harlow:

nudges will come. I know so many people who've had nudges and

Kate Harlow:

done nothing with them, and I've done something over and over and

Kate Harlow:

over and over again, and I meet people that I knew 15 years ago,

Kate Harlow:

and they're like, Wow, it's amazing how you what you've

Kate Harlow:

done, and how much you kept going. But it's only because I

Kate Harlow:

can't not now. Like, the more, the more you live from the

Kate Harlow:

heroine, the more harder it becomes to not right? It's like,

Kate Harlow:

that's the. Part of me that I'm in devotion to now that's a part

Kate Harlow:

of me that's leading my life and every choice I make, and there

Kate Harlow:

is a little girl inside of me still, and I do still get

Kate Harlow:

afraid, and my saboteur does still tell me stories like

Kate Harlow:

you're not a writer. Why are you writing a book or whatever? But

Kate Harlow:

it's like she's not in charge. Too bad. AC ain't in charge no

Kate Harlow:

more. It's my favorite line from home alone. Actually, I have

Kate Harlow:

many lines. I watched home alone the other night, and realized I

Kate Harlow:

know almost every word to that whole movie. I had two brothers

Kate Harlow:

growing up, so we watched it a lot. Anyways, your saboteur is

Kate Harlow:

not in charge anymore. If you don't know home alone, you

Kate Harlow:

didn't get the reference, but if you know it really well, you

Kate Harlow:

probably got it. But your saboteur is not in charge. No

Kate Harlow:

more. Too bad. Too bad. Regina ain't in charge. No more. She is

Kate Harlow:

not in charge of my life, and that's why my life is so full,

Kate Harlow:

and my heart is so full and my work is so meaningful to me, and

Kate Harlow:

I love what I do, and I love who I work with. And, you know,

Kate Harlow:

it's, it's pretty profound living a life of purpose. I

Kate Harlow:

think purpose is the antidote. And when women are on purpose,

Kate Harlow:

they stop being in fantasy about love. We stop being so addicted

Kate Harlow:

to getting a hit from some guy or some person, some woman, that

Kate Harlow:

you, that you're that you're obsessed with those obsessions

Kate Harlow:

only come when we're disconnected from ourselves, but

Kate Harlow:

when you're on purpose, a life of purpose is so full and again,

Kate Harlow:

it's it's not one thing, and it's only going to be ever

Kate Harlow:

unfolding and ever unfolding, but it starts with you. Discover

Kate Harlow:

your magic, follow your inner nudges, and trust the divine

Kate Harlow:

guidance that is always leading you. So again, if this is

Kate Harlow:

foreign to you and you're like, What the heck, Kate, I don't

Kate Harlow:

know how join me in the reclamation. I would love to

Kate Harlow:

meet you. I would love to go deeper with you. Again, I don't

Kate Harlow:

usually the reclamation live doesn't happen anymore. It's now

Kate Harlow:

a self study program that you can invest in on my website, but

Kate Harlow:

we're doing it live this year, at the beginning of the year, to

Kate Harlow:

get all the women who are coming to the immersion ready to go,

Kate Harlow:

and all the women in the community love to do it over and

Kate Harlow:

over again. So might happen again live next year, I don't

Kate Harlow:

know, but this year, it's live, and it's going to be amazing,

Kate Harlow:

off the charts. So much purpose. This is so up for so many people

Kate Harlow:

right now. We can no longer lie to ourselves. So join the

Kate Harlow:

community, join the sisterhood, join the reclamation, and let's

Kate Harlow:

go. Let's change your life. Let's create the most expansive

Kate Harlow:

2026, you can imagine this is time. 2025 was all about

Kate Harlow:

shedding old skin, shedding old layers, letting go. 2026 is

Kate Harlow:

about new beginnings and creativity and expansion and

Kate Harlow:

expression. This is your opportunity to do it

Kate Harlow:

differently. So we'd love to see you there. Send me a message if

Kate Harlow:

you have any questions. Share this episode with every woman

Kate Harlow:

you need you know who is ready to unlock her purpose. And

Kate Harlow:

again, I'll say, I know I shared so many stories today, but your

Kate Harlow:

purpose isn't going to look like mine, or is it supposed to? Just

Kate Harlow:

because you listen to the new truth you're not meant doesn't

Kate Harlow:

mean you're meant to be a healer or a coach or anything. Even in

Kate Harlow:

my industry, there's infinite possibilities to purpose. But if

Kate Harlow:

you don't know your own soul, if you don't know your own magic,

Kate Harlow:

if you don't know what lights you up, and you haven't

Kate Harlow:

uncovered your gifts and the gift of who you are, you will

Kate Harlow:

miss the guidance. You will miss the divine matrix that is

Kate Harlow:

leading you to the purpose that is meant for you. But you get to

Kate Harlow:

have a life you love, and that's what purpose has done for me, so

Kate Harlow:

I wish that for you too, in 2026 creating a life that you love.

Kate Harlow:

Would love to do it alongside you. Share this episode with

Kate Harlow:

every woman you know who needs to be a little more on purpose

Kate Harlow:

this year, I love you, and I'll see you next week. You.