My purpose is to continue to peel off those fear
Kate Harlow:based masks and those layers of who I'm not, and to keep being
Kate Harlow:who I am in the world, and to keep magnetizing women to me,
Kate Harlow:who I can help remind them of who they are. Your purpose is so
Kate Harlow:it's not going to look the same as mine, by any means. But what
Kate Harlow:sparks your heart. The more you live in alignment with who you
Kate Harlow:really are, the more the universe, divine matrix life,
Kate Harlow:can lead you where you're meant to go. So discover your magic.
Kate Harlow:Number one. Number two, follow your inner nudges. Say yes, even
Kate Harlow:when it's frickin scary, know that that's exactly the
Kate Harlow:direction you need to go in. And number three is trust that you
Kate Harlow:are being guided.
Kate Harlow:Hello, beautiful. Happy New Year. 2026 Oh, my goodness. Do
Kate Harlow:you remember being a kid and being like, what will the world
Kate Harlow:look like in 2026 I bet you didn't guess it would look how
Kate Harlow:it looks. I think that, I mean, I maybe imagine the Jetsons,
Kate Harlow:like cars would be flying themselves by now, they're
Kate Harlow:certainly driving themselves, aren't they, so I'm sure cars
Kate Harlow:will be flying in no time. That's an interesting thought.
Kate Harlow:So I hope that you are having a beautiful start to the new year.
Kate Harlow:I hope you got some rest over the holidays that you took
Kate Harlow:amazing, exquisite care of yourself and that you brought
Kate Harlow:your heroine to all the parties and all the events and
Kate Harlow:everything that you went to and touched and experienced. So
Kate Harlow:let's have 2026 your year of magic, the year of your heroine,
Kate Harlow:of becoming fully becoming the heroine of your life. What does
Kate Harlow:that mean? That means you being the leading lady, not the extra,
Kate Harlow:right? The leading lady of your story being the co author, the
Kate Harlow:CO writer, the CO creator, with the universe. Because, of
Kate Harlow:course, you are always being guided. You are always being
Kate Harlow:supported. And if you are afraid that you are not if you are
Kate Harlow:afraid that you are going to fail, if you are afraid that
Kate Harlow:you're never going to make anything of yourself, that
Kate Harlow:you're going to be stuck in this job. You hate forever. You are
Kate Harlow:disconnected from the truth of who you are, which is divine,
Kate Harlow:because the reality is we are all plugged into the same divine
Kate Harlow:matrix. And I am using that word very intentionally. There was a
Kate Harlow:movie, movie produced, I don't know when the matrix came out,
Kate Harlow:maybe early, 2000s
Kate Harlow:and people in spiritual, spiritual places use the the
Kate Harlow:metaphor of the matrix A lot, as the thing that is disconnecting
Kate Harlow:us from the truth of who we are and from our source. But the
Kate Harlow:reality is the matrix. In Latin, means the womb. It means the
Kate Harlow:feminine. It means Mother Earth. So the divine, the matrix is
Kate Harlow:actually what's divine, and it is the system that we're all
Kate Harlow:plugged into when, when you experience synchronicity in your
Kate Harlow:life, when you experience magic in your life, when you have a
Kate Harlow:thought about someone and then you see them or that thing comes
Kate Harlow:true. It is the matrix is the unseen quantum field that is
Kate Harlow:everywhere that birds are connected to, that the bees are
Kate Harlow:connected to that, the trees are connected to that the animals
Kate Harlow:are connected to. There is this quantum field of energy that we
Kate Harlow:can't see that is orchestrating everything that's happening in
Kate Harlow:our lives. That's the divine matrix. And yet, Hollywood made
Kate Harlow:us think that the matrix is the thing that's dumbing us down and
Kate Harlow:disconnecting us from our truth. This happens a lot in Hollywood.
Kate Harlow:They flip things so that we then get confused about what truth
Kate Harlow:is. So I certainly believe there are a lot of systems that have
Kate Harlow:been set up to disconnect us from our magic, to disconnect us
Kate Harlow:from our power. However, we're not going to go down the
Kate Harlow:conspiracy theory route today, but even the school system
Kate Harlow:right? It's the punishment system. It's a system that
Kate Harlow:teaches us about good and bad and right and wrong, and it
Kate Harlow:disconnects us from our hearts. It disconnects us from our
Kate Harlow:individuality, from our souls, from the essence of who we are.
Kate Harlow:So today, I'm excited to talk about purpose with you, because
Kate Harlow:this part that I'm talking about right now is everything when it
Kate Harlow:comes to purpose, your purpose. And this episode has been a long
Kate Harlow:time coming. There's been so many requests, and it's
Kate Harlow:sandwiched in between two episodes that are so related
Kate Harlow:that if you have not heard the New Year's episode with Farhad
Kate Harlow:100% you need to go back and listen to that episode. It is so
Kate Harlow:amazing. It's, I mean, we had so much fun recording it. It's like
Kate Harlow:90 minutes long of pure magic. He shares the most incredible
Kate Harlow:stories. And this man has been one of my best friends since I
Kate Harlow:was 19 years old. He's like a soul mate, and he has everything
Kate Harlow:he touches turns to gold. He's created so much magic in his
Kate Harlow:life, he couldn't be more on purpose. And His purpose is
Kate Harlow:never ending. Like often people think of purpose like a like a
Kate Harlow:career path. It's like you just arrive one day and you're the
Kate Harlow:CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Your purpose is not a career
Kate Harlow:path. Your purpose is something that's alive and living and
Kate Harlow:breathing. Breathing. And as you evolve as a soul, your purpose
Kate Harlow:will evolve alongside you. And so and so many women have been
Kate Harlow:asking for an episode on purpose. I'm really excited to
Kate Harlow:dive in. So this one is sandwiched between your year of
Kate Harlow:magic with Farhad, and that one is so purpose related. That
Kate Harlow:whole episode, and it's a next the next episode is about living
Kate Harlow:your dreams with an amazing woman who I'm really, really
Kate Harlow:excited to share you with next week that comes out next week.
Kate Harlow:So right in the middle, I decided to put the truth about
Kate Harlow:purpose so that we can really get you on purpose. I know that
Kate Harlow:this is something that so many women are starving for right
Kate Harlow:now, so many women I'm working with, and that my friends are
Kate Harlow:working with and that I keep hearing and meeting, are at a
Kate Harlow:crossroads, are really at that that place in their lives. Are
Kate Harlow:like, Okay, I'm no longer willing to do this thing that
Kate Harlow:sucks the life out of me. I'm no longer willing to go to this job
Kate Harlow:where someone else tells me what's wrong with me and how I
Kate Harlow:need to be better and how who, who I need to be, and how I need
Kate Harlow:to show up and how much time I need to work every day, there's
Kate Harlow:this deep call, and I think it's part of the age of Aquarian I
Kate Harlow:talk about that a lot, and I'm not an astrologer, but I just
Kate Harlow:like see so much change happening right now. How do you
Kate Harlow:deny it? You can't deny it. Old systems are no longer working,
Kate Harlow:and people are being called to be more entrepreneurial in the
Kate Harlow:modern world, more innovative, more creative. So this is
Kate Harlow:happening so organically right now, and the call to to rise
Kate Harlow:into something greater and to connect with something more
Kate Harlow:meaningful is inside of every woman I talk to right now, if
Kate Harlow:they're not already on the path of doing something meaningful,
Kate Harlow:and even for someone like me, I'm already many years down the
Kate Harlow:path of doing my aligned purpose, and it keeps evolving.
Kate Harlow:I have, you know, I'm working on the book, which I'm feeling
Kate Harlow:really excited about. I'm, I'm at olapenge farm right now as I
Kate Harlow:record this, and the book is starting to take shape. I'm, I'm
Kate Harlow:working with a book writing coach coming up in the new year.
Kate Harlow:You might meet her next week. And I am so inspired right now
Kate Harlow:to get the book out there into as many hands as of as many
Kate Harlow:women on planet Earth, learning how to be unscripted and how to
Kate Harlow:live a life aligned with their souls. So that's something new
Kate Harlow:that I'm working on. And then I have all these extraordinarily
Kate Harlow:massive projects that keep dropping into my field of new
Kate Harlow:possibilities of taking this work out in even more creative
Kate Harlow:and fun and innovative ways, and getting as impacting as many
Kate Harlow:women on planet Earth with the unscripted message of you get to
Kate Harlow:go your own way. You get to follow your own heart, and you
Kate Harlow:get to live a life that feels good. So this message is so
Kate Harlow:important. Anyways, that's my purpose. But I feel the change
Kate Harlow:with everyone, even people I know that are on purpose.
Kate Harlow:There's so much more coming and so much more that we're here to
Kate Harlow:do and create. And I really feel like human beings when we're
Kate Harlow:connected to our creativity and our inspiration and that divine
Kate Harlow:channel we all have access to when we are connected to this
Kate Harlow:part of ourselves, we are so much more joyful. We walk
Kate Harlow:through the world so much more grounded and aligned and in our
Kate Harlow:power. And, you know, looking for not looking for approval
Kate Harlow:like your purpose is so connected. You know, I kind of
Kate Harlow:want to change the narrative. I'm just realizing this as I'm
Kate Harlow:saying it out loud. It's like I used to be in fantasy for, you
Kate Harlow:know, my whole life, till I was 30, that some guy was the thing,
Kate Harlow:right? And I was gonna this grandiose love was the thing.
Kate Harlow:And there's gonna be some arrival point, and I was gonna
Kate Harlow:just go arrive one day and this, meet this guy, and I would feel
Kate Harlow:amazing forever, and I would feel worthy and lovable and good
Kate Harlow:enough. And of course, that's the biggest setup, because what
Kate Harlow:part of you is choosing love is the part that doesn't feel
Kate Harlow:worthy, lovable and good enough, and then it's a lifelong roller
Kate Harlow:coaster ride of trying to get love from someone outside of
Kate Harlow:yourself. But when we become the love, when we deepen into the
Kate Harlow:love when we reconnect with the truth of who we are. That's when
Kate Harlow:our purpose becomes like. That's when we get to express our
Kate Harlow:purpose in the world, whatever that might be. And you know,
Kate Harlow:when you're fully living on purpose in every sense of the
Kate Harlow:word, you don't like, I don't feel the need to have a partner
Kate Harlow:right now, I'm I'm not closed to a partner coming when the time
Kate Harlow:is right, but I don't need one because I'm so satiated in my
Kate Harlow:life and my purpose is so deep and so prevalent. And it's not
Kate Harlow:like, it's not the same as being a workaholic, right? You know,
Kate Harlow:like, that's the old paradigm is, like, obsessed with like not
Kate Harlow:most people that are workaholics aren't even obsessed with their
Kate Harlow:jobs. They don't even like it necessarily. They're just over
Kate Harlow:functioning trying to prove something. You know, it's it's
Kate Harlow:coming from that wounded place that not good enough, not
Kate Harlow:lovable, not worthy, not smart enough. So they're over
Kate Harlow:functioning to try and prove something. And May. Or they're
Kate Harlow:over functioning to avoid feeling whatever they're feeling
Kate Harlow:underneath, and it stops them, or it keeps them in this life
Kate Harlow:that is, you know, busy and maybe looks important on paper,
Kate Harlow:but they're usually quite disconnected from themselves in
Kate Harlow:it. So that's not what I'm talking about. Purpose is being
Kate Harlow:connected to your magic. And personally, you know, I know
Kate Harlow:this is up. This is definitely up for debate, because I've
Kate Harlow:heard other teachers in this in this space, disagree with this
Kate Harlow:point that I'm about to make, but I personally believe that we
Kate Harlow:all have a deeper purpose, and that it can be connected to how
Kate Harlow:you earn, how you I want to find a better word how you create and
Kate Harlow:attract abundance in your life. I believe we all have
Kate Harlow:magic to be shared that can be connected to your career and
Kate Harlow:what you're here to do in the world. And the reason I believe
Kate Harlow:that is because I just think that most people are so far away
Kate Harlow:from their their own magic, their own essence, their natural
Kate Harlow:gifts. Most people are very far away from that because we were
Kate Harlow:programmed to be right in those systems that I talked about in
Kate Harlow:the beginning. This is not a conspiracy. We were programmed
Kate Harlow:as children to like the school system doesn't sit you down and
Kate Harlow:say like, oh, who are you, and what are your gifts? And what
Kate Harlow:are we? What do we? What can we cultivate for you? What are you
Kate Harlow:really naturally gifted at? What does your Soul love? Can you
Kate Harlow:imagine if that's what the school system did? No, it
Kate Harlow:doesn't do that. What does it do? It sits us down and says,
Kate Harlow:Okay, this is what you need to learn. This is who you need to
Kate Harlow:be. Most people leave the school system feeling stupid. I left
Kate Harlow:the school system feeling like absolutely the dumbest person on
Kate Harlow:planet Earth. I did relatively well, like B, like B's. I got
Kate Harlow:mostly in school, occasionally C is usually in math, but B's. So
Kate Harlow:I managed to get by with tutors, with help, but it was so fucking
Kate Harlow:hard for me, and I left school feeling like an idiot. And it
Kate Harlow:actually wasn't until I met my mentor, who I've talked a lot
Kate Harlow:about in different episodes. I mean, this woman totally changed
Kate Harlow:my life. And when I met her, she I went to a few of her events.
Kate Harlow:This is who I was a business coach for, and I first attended
Kate Harlow:a few of her events and got to know her audience and connected
Kate Harlow:with her. I volunteered and like, got to know the the vibe
Kate Harlow:of it, and I fell in love with this company and these very
Kate Harlow:personal development based business seminars. They were all
Kate Harlow:about marketing and sales and stage presence, but they were so
Kate Harlow:deep and meaningful. And I fell in love with her, and I fell in
Kate Harlow:love with all of her clients, and she one day on stage, it was
Kate Harlow:the most meaningful moment to me. Like that moment completely
Kate Harlow:changed my life. She said, from stage, she was teaching about
Kate Harlow:multiple intelligences, because she was teaching curriculum
Kate Harlow:design, and she was teaching our audience, who were business
Kate Harlow:owners that led retreats, seminars and workshops. She was
Kate Harlow:teaching them how to actually design program curriculum that
Kate Harlow:really changes lives, because most people that teach retreats
Kate Harlow:and seminars and and talks and workshops don't actually know
Kate Harlow:how to teach. So this was one of her geniuses. So she was
Kate Harlow:teaching, teaching basically, and I was at the back of the
Kate Harlow:room as her head coach, and I was coaching all of her clients.
Kate Harlow:And she said, she said, How many of you have met Kate this
Kate Harlow:weekend? And at the time, like my loves, if you could only see
Kate Harlow:me, this was okay, 1515, years ago, at least, probably 18 years
Kate Harlow:ago, maybe not that long, 15 years ago. This was about 15
Kate Harlow:years ago. She said, How many of you have met Kate this weekend?
Kate Harlow:It was like a marketing workshop, and every single
Kate Harlow:person in the room put up their hand. I think there was maybe 50
Kate Harlow:people in the room. And she said, how many like, what? What
Kate Harlow:words would you describe her? And people were like, warm,
Kate Harlow:connected, loving, present, whatever they would say, really
Kate Harlow:nice things. And she said, Kate left the school system feeling
Kate Harlow:stupid and and yet, the first time I met this woman, I My
Kate Harlow:first thought was this, she isn't this woman is an
Kate Harlow:interpersonal genius. She said, I've never met someone who is so
Kate Harlow:good at connecting with people in my life and instantly
Kate Harlow:connecting in a really meaningful, deep way and staying
Kate Harlow:connected. And she said this, and I'm sobbing at the back of
Kate Harlow:the room. Honestly, my friends, until that moment, I felt
Kate Harlow:stupid. I thought I wasn't good at anything. I had studied
Kate Harlow:coaching. I had studied counseling. I had immersed
Kate Harlow:myself in holistic wellness and healing, and I trained in all
Kate Harlow:these different methodologies, because I was already on the
Kate Harlow:beginning of my path. At this point, I was a few years into my
Kate Harlow:path when I met Callan, and I was so insecure still, even
Kate Harlow:though I was studying coaching, like I was divinely led to study
Kate Harlow:coaching, even that part of my purpose I literally had never
Kate Harlow:heard of a coach in my life, other than a basketball coach
Kate Harlow:and a soccer coach. And the moment that I heard about
Kate Harlow:coaching was like a dinner party with it was like a office dinner
Kate Harlow:party, and the owner was in town, and he was like, blah,
Kate Harlow:blah, blah, my life coach. And I was like, what? What's a life
Kate Harlow:coach? And something lit up inside me, and I went home that
Kate Harlow:night and I searched life coaching. I called my parents,
Kate Harlow:and I was like, I think I want to be a life coach. This is when
Kate Harlow:I was 25 years old, and this was the beginning of my journey, and
Kate Harlow:in that decision to become a life coach, even after two years
Kate Harlow:of life coaching school, that was so or it was a year and a
Kate Harlow:half, it was so intense. It was like full time self help school,
Kate Harlow:and it was so deep. And we were working everything. We were
Kate Harlow:learning. We were working on our we were learning on ourselves.
Kate Harlow:We were going through our family system, studying our childhood,
Kate Harlow:studying our traumas, studying everything, and really like it
Kate Harlow:was ripping our hearts open and putting them back together. That
Kate Harlow:was the training that I did. It was so experiential, incredibly
Kate Harlow:profound and really, really deep. And I left that program
Kate Harlow:still so insecure, like still feeling stupid, still
Kate Harlow:questioning whether or not I should be a coach. I remember a
Kate Harlow:moment where I, my friend gave me a psychic reading for my
Kate Harlow:birthday, and I at the time, I called my parents and I was
Kate Harlow:like, okay, it'd been, like, couple years since I took
Kate Harlow:coaching school, tried to start my own business. Was too
Kate Harlow:insecure. Called my parents and was like, I think I'm going to
Kate Harlow:be a wine wrap. I think I'd be really good at it. I'm really
Kate Harlow:good at selling and I love wine. At the time, I was like, and my
Kate Harlow:parents were like, what? Like, they were devastated, because
Kate Harlow:they were so happy that I'd finally found my thing. And
Kate Harlow:everyone that everyone in my life knew the coaching path was
Kate Harlow:my path. Even though coaching was such a new thing, they all
Kate Harlow:could see that this was where I was meant to go, and this is
Kate Harlow:back way before Instagram and Facebook. Like coaching wasn't a
Kate Harlow:thing when I studied coaching so but I was still so insecure, and
Kate Harlow:thankfully, the psychic said you're at a crossroads. She
Kate Harlow:didn't ask me any questions. She said, you're at a crossroads.
Kate Harlow:You're going back to school, and you are not meant to you. She
Kate Harlow:said you were meant to be a healer and a helper of humanity.
Kate Harlow:And so I was like, okay, great, that's so I went back and did
Kate Harlow:more, more studies in the coaching, counseling, healing
Kate Harlow:realm, rather than going down the wine rep path. But it was,
Kate Harlow:you see how every single thing was divided. And then the next
Kate Harlow:program, I signed up for this counselors training program at
Kate Harlow:this beautiful program. It was called the Clear Mind Institute.
Kate Harlow:I met so many amazing, lifelong friends there. And really, the
Kate Harlow:program was deeply life changing. And I'd already done a
Kate Harlow:year and a half program, and this was another one. And I was
Kate Harlow:like, Okay, maybe I'm I'm still insecure. Maybe I just need to
Kate Harlow:go back to school and do more. So I did, and I'm so glad I did,
Kate Harlow:because it was my divine path. That's where I met Callen, who
Kate Harlow:ended up being my mentor for the next 10 years, and she saw me so
Kate Harlow:deeply. So she's the one who said, you're an interpersonal
Kate Harlow:genius, and I've never met someone who's connected with
Kate Harlow:people as deep as you so then she kept inviting me to be her
Kate Harlow:coach, to be her head trainer, to grow with her, and she
Kate Harlow:mentored me and lit I mean, gosh, that woman will always
Kate Harlow:hold the specialist place in my heart, because I would not be
Kate Harlow:who I am today without her. Now, I didn't plan to share any of
Kate Harlow:these stories. It's just coming through right now, but what I'm
Kate Harlow:realizing as I'm sharing them, is that the thing you need to
Kate Harlow:the most important thing you need to know about purpose, is
Kate Harlow:that it is guided. It comes from life, guiding you. The universe,
Kate Harlow:God, the divine, the divine matrix, whatever you want to
Kate Harlow:call it, is guiding you on the path that is designed for you.
Kate Harlow:You do not have to find purpose now, before I discovered
Kate Harlow:coaching, before that dropped in my lap and that divine moment
Kate Harlow:where my body responded so strongly to this man saying my
Kate Harlow:life coach, life coaching wasn't known. So that's why I didn't
Kate Harlow:know what it was when I first heard the term, but my body knew
Kate Harlow:it. My soul knew it. My soul responded in that moment to that
Kate Harlow:statement, but before that time, because I felt stupid, and maybe
Kate Harlow:on a deeper level, because I knew I had a big life purpose,
Kate Harlow:on a soul level, not a mind level, but on some deep level,
Kate Harlow:perhaps I knew that there was a big purpose that was coming. I
Kate Harlow:was on the hunt for my career path and my so called purpose.
Kate Harlow:Maybe I didn't call it that. I don't think I called it purpose
Kate Harlow:back then, because I didn't. I wasn't really familiar with the
Kate Harlow:term, but I was looking for my thing. I remember everyone I
Kate Harlow:went to school with was really good at something, and it felt
Kate Harlow:like everyone knew their path, and I didn't know my path, and I
Kate Harlow:was always searching. I studied youth in film. I consider being
Kate Harlow:a film. I did. I remember going on, what was that show? It was
Kate Harlow:like not Star Trek. Was like Star Trek, though it was filmed
Kate Harlow:in Vancouver, and. I went on set for three days and, like,
Kate Harlow:shadowed the special effects makeup artists and shadowed,
Kate Harlow:maybe it was Star Trek petite, a new version, I don't know
Kate Harlow:something anyways, I thought it was gonna get in the film
Kate Harlow:industry. My friend's brother was like, Oh my gosh, you would
Kate Harlow:be amazing at public relations. You got to get into PR. And I
Kate Harlow:was like, What's PR? And I looked it up, and I took a
Kate Harlow:course. I like studied it at night school for, like, I don't
Kate Harlow:know, two years PR and marketing and all these things that that
Kate Harlow:just because someone else told me I'd be good at it, I was
Kate Harlow:constantly looking for the thing and constantly meeting up
Kate Harlow:against walls, constantly bumping up against, like, just
Kate Harlow:nothing, nothing unfolded and and I
Kate Harlow:just want to speak to the fact that I'm a projector. So for
Kate Harlow:those manifestors out there, typically manifestors go their
Kate Harlow:own way, and they innovate and they create, but projectors and
Kate Harlow:generators and manifesting generators, I'm speaking of
Kate Harlow:human design right now, and I will have a human design
Kate Harlow:practitioner on very soon, but we need guidance. And so I would
Kate Harlow:say for the most part, regardless of your type, the
Kate Harlow:universe is guiding you, and there is a path that is meant
Kate Harlow:for you. So here's your job. If it's guided and it can't be
Kate Harlow:found, you might be asking, Well, Kate, why is it? Why
Kate Harlow:haven't I been guided yet, if you are living in your saboteur
Kate Harlow:okay, if you are living in your survival patterns, if you're
Kate Harlow:following your if you're saying yes to what's a NO and NO to
Kate Harlow:what's a yes, if you're relying to yourself deep down, if you
Kate Harlow:are sacrificing and over functioning and staying in a job
Kate Harlow:you hate just because you think there's no other option, staying
Kate Harlow:in a relationship that's out of alignment, Just because you're
Kate Harlow:afraid. You know, if you are still trapped by the helm of
Kate Harlow:your saboteur, then you my love will not uncover your purpose.
Kate Harlow:The reason my purpose kept unfolding is I because I started
Kate Harlow:to listen. I left a I was going to say 30 year relationship. No,
Kate Harlow:wasn't 30 years I was 30 years old. I left a five year
Kate Harlow:relationship that was so perfect on paper at a time in my life
Kate Harlow:where everybody I was friends with was getting married and
Kate Harlow:having kids, and I had the courage to leave that
Kate Harlow:relationship because there was a feeling so strongly inside of me
Kate Harlow:that there was more for me that I needed to experience. And then
Kate Harlow:I needed to experience it on my own. I needed to be a woman in
Kate Harlow:the world on my own, not forever just, but like for an indefinite
Kate Harlow:period of time. And then I spent three years devoting myself to
Kate Harlow:getting to know my own soul, my own heart, and as I shifted
Kate Harlow:gears, so obviously every new truth episode is supportive of
Kate Harlow:you living this way. But as I shifted gears, and I stopped
Kate Harlow:doing what everyone else thought I should do, and I stopped
Kate Harlow:saying yes to everything that actually didn't feel good in my
Kate Harlow:body, and I started saying no to those things and yes to the
Kate Harlow:things that lit me up like a Christmas tree or expanded my
Kate Harlow:heart, or were so clear that this was something I was meant
Kate Harlow:to do, even though it felt scary when I had the courage and I
Kate Harlow:made choices like that over and over and over again, that was me
Kate Harlow:getting into alignment with my heart and the truth of who I Am,
Kate Harlow:and from that place, the magic started to unfold. That's when I
Kate Harlow:could actually hear and see the guides from the universe. Right
Kate Harlow:prior to that, I couldn't see them. I was missing the signals
Kate Harlow:because I was so far away from the truth of who I am. I
Kate Harlow:remember having astrology readings back in the day. And I
Kate Harlow:was like,
Kate Harlow:none of these things they're saying are true. Like this woman
Kate Harlow:said, You're not going to be able to work for someone else
Kate Harlow:for very long. You are. You are absolutely meant to have your
Kate Harlow:own thing, and you are going to make a huge impact, and your
Kate Harlow:purpose is to be who you are. And I'm like, wow, at the time,
Kate Harlow:it made no sense, but now it's like, literally, my life is
Kate Harlow:being who I am and showing other women how to be who they are,
Kate Harlow:and fully aligning with truth and not buying into any of the
Kate Harlow:bullshit that I'm living my life wrong or I'm doing things wrong.
Kate Harlow:I certainly felt that way in the beginning, when I left that five
Kate Harlow:year relationship with Charlie, my beloved at the time, who was,
Kate Harlow:he's the greatest guy. He's such a love, and he's such a pure
Kate Harlow:heart, amazing human being. We had a nice relationship, we had
Kate Harlow:a sweet relationship, but I had the call so deep that I needed
Kate Harlow:to live. I remember even just like, this craving to have my
Kate Harlow:own space, my own home, my own place that was just mine, and to
Kate Harlow:like it was almost like dating myself. I certainly didn't call
Kate Harlow:it that at the time, but like, I had this desire to date myself,
Kate Harlow:to get to know what was in there, and I listened to it,
Kate Harlow:and. Even though everyone in my life told me not to leave
Kate Harlow:Charlie, everyone in my life was like, You're fucking crazy.
Kate Harlow:People said the same thing when I changed my name, like, what
Kate Harlow:are you doing? That's weird. When I talked about that on the
Kate Harlow:last episode, when I left Charlie, people were like, Oh my
Kate Harlow:God, you're never going to find a man as good as this who loves
Kate Harlow:you as much as he does, he's literally perfect. Why would you
Kate Harlow:leave? And everyone else is getting married and, quote,
Kate Harlow:unquote, settling down. But there was a call in my body, in
Kate Harlow:my heart and my soul, that I could not ignore, and thank God
Kate Harlow:I didn't ignore it. We wouldn't even be here, right? So that was
Kate Harlow:such a huge part of my purpose journey, because I had the
Kate Harlow:courage to follow my heart. And every time you have the courage
Kate Harlow:to follow your heart, and remember, there will always be a
Kate Harlow:million fearful stories as to why you shouldn't. And that's
Kate Harlow:your saboteur. You got to get to know your saboteur, and you got
Kate Harlow:to get to know her as your roommate, not as the one in
Kate Harlow:charge. She she needs to be in the backseat with your little
Kate Harlow:Wounded Child, and you and your heroine driving the car, because
Kate Harlow:your Saboteurs job is to keep you small, because she believes,
Kate Harlow:on some level that that is safe, because when you were little,
Kate Harlow:being big and wild and bold and express was not safe, right? So
Kate Harlow:she is working on overtime trying to keep you safe. She has
Kate Harlow:to be in the backseat if you are not inside of the reclamation,
Kate Harlow:and this is something you need support with. Join us in the
Kate Harlow:reclamation. It's a place where you can step into and reclaim
Kate Harlow:your purpose with an amazing group of heroines who have
Kate Harlow:already done it and are doing it and are so devoted to themselves
Kate Harlow:and so devoted to going their own way and living their life
Kate Harlow:differently, from the heart, from the soul. So join me. I'll
Kate Harlow:link it below this episode. I've been talking about a lot in last
Kate Harlow:month. We just started the beginning of January, and it
Kate Harlow:runs till the end of March, and then you have the online modules
Kate Harlow:for life. But that, I mean the reclamation is an amazing place
Kate Harlow:to reclaim all of those parts of your shutdown, but that's the
Kate Harlow:first step. Is you must discover your own magic, and you cannot
Kate Harlow:discover your own magic. If you are going against your inner
Kate Harlow:compass, if you are ignoring those calls that are coming from
Kate Harlow:deep within your heart and soul, if you are letting fear make
Kate Harlow:your decision instead of following your truth, you will
Kate Harlow:not discover your magic, right? So many women are like, Oh, I'm
Kate Harlow:just not good at anything. I don't have gifts. And like, Oh,
Kate Harlow:I'm like, I'm just here to work really hard. You have the most
Kate Harlow:extraordinary gifts you could ever imagine. And here's the
Kate Harlow:thing, when you are living from your magic, it's not, it's not
Kate Harlow:this fantasy. I think a lot of people are like, I just want to
Kate Harlow:spring out of bed every morning and be so passionate about what
Kate Harlow:I do. It's like, I don't feel that way that it that's a
Kate Harlow:fantasy, actually. And I think it's good to talk about it how
Kate Harlow:it feels. And this is when you're in your heroine, period,
Kate Harlow:but especially connected to purpose and love, same thing. It
Kate Harlow:feels neutral. Actually. It's quite grounded. It's just like,
Kate Harlow:maybe not neutral, isn't the word, but it's like, grounded.
Kate Harlow:And it's, it's very like when I'm doing it. So I'm when I'm
Kate Harlow:doing a podcast, I'm expanded to a certain degree. When do a
Kate Harlow:podcast with another person, I'm even more expanded because I'm,
Kate Harlow:like, having a connection when I'm when I'm on stage teaching,
Kate Harlow:like at a live event, I'm even more expanded or don't have to
Kate Harlow:be on stage. It maybe it's just an intimate setting, like the
Kate Harlow:immersion, but I would say that's when I'm the most
Kate Harlow:expanded, because I'm in person and, you know, getting to go
Kate Harlow:deep with women and do what I love in such a playful, fun way,
Kate Harlow:like that is where the greatest magic occurs for me, in my
Kate Harlow:purpose. But all of them, I feel expanded by all of them, but
Kate Harlow:it's not in a fantasy way. I don't jump out of bed like I
Kate Harlow:can't wait to do what I'm gonna do today. It's more just like
Kate Harlow:very say I feel satiated, is the word. There's a contentment,
Kate Harlow:there's a there's a grounded satiation, like I my cup is
Kate Harlow:full, and I feel so grateful for that. So you know, and look
Kate Harlow:where my purpose led me. I had no idea creating all these
Kate Harlow:online things during covid Were going to support me to be able
Kate Harlow:to have a business that I could live from anywhere in the world.
Kate Harlow:I live in Greece. I live in Kenya. Like, how amazing is that
Kate Harlow:that my like because I followed the divine guidance of covid and
Kate Harlow:not being able to do live talks and having to move more online.
Kate Harlow:Because I moved more online, that's when I created the
Kate Harlow:reclamation and the expanded love masterclass, that the
Kate Harlow:podcast was birthed right before covid. So all of these online
Kate Harlow:things then set me up for the next step. So it's all divine,
Kate Harlow:even me being a business coach before, people kept saying to me
Kate Harlow:at the time, Kate, you are so gifted, you need to have your
Kate Harlow:own thing. And I was like, my own thing. What's my own thing?
Kate Harlow:I have nothing to offer. Like, I'm a business coach. And I was
Kate Harlow:teaching their methodologies, which were amazing, and I was so
Kate Harlow:good at teaching their methodologies when I became
Kate Harlow:their head trainer. But I didn't think I had my own thing from my
Kate Harlow:mind, right? Fear based mind. I thought. No, I'm just going to
Kate Harlow:do this for other people. Why would I want the stress of
Kate Harlow:having my own thing? But life led me one moment at a time. I
Kate Harlow:was burnt out. I had to quit working for that company because
Kate Harlow:I was so exhausted I couldn't do it anymore. I was traveling too
Kate Harlow:much and working wild hours, and was just like way too much for a
Kate Harlow:projector. So I ended my relationship, or my business
Kate Harlow:relationship with them, and I shifted gears, and I took a
Kate Harlow:break, and then a friend of mine was like, hey, like, when are
Kate Harlow:you going to start your own thing? And I'm like, What's my
Kate Harlow:own thing? I don't know what it is. And she said, What do you
Kate Harlow:care about? And then I just went on a rant, and she's like,
Kate Harlow:great, do a video. And I got online, and I just spontaneously
Kate Harlow:did a video on Facebook. And this is before Facebook Live
Kate Harlow:even existed. It's so wild. I feel like a dinosaur. I've been
Kate Harlow:doing this a long time, but, but Facebook Live didn't even exist.
Kate Harlow:I just recorded a video on my phone and uploaded it to YouTube
Kate Harlow:and uploaded it to Facebook, live or to not live to Facebook,
Kate Harlow:and it got massive responses. And then I did it. I did a pilot
Kate Harlow:program, and I invited people on Facebook, and I said I was
Kate Harlow:looking for five women and 14 signed up. And it was because I
Kate Harlow:was in alignment. When we're in alignment and doing something
Kate Harlow:for our own pleasure and our own joy and our own passion, we
Kate Harlow:become magnetic. Right? I never had to work hard to fill events
Kate Harlow:or to get clients. I just had to show up. I used to do live talks
Kate Harlow:around Vancouver before covid, or I did them in Toronto. I did
Kate Harlow:them. I did one in Washington, DC. I did one Sydney, Australia.
Kate Harlow:I'd travel around do these live talks or and if I was going
Kate Harlow:farther, I would do a weekend. And I loved them. I love live
Kate Harlow:talks and empowering women around fantasy love. It was
Kate Harlow:really the message of the podcast and in a live format,
Kate Harlow:and that was so fun for me, so satiating for me, so because I
Kate Harlow:was so expanded in that and in my own joy and in my own humor
Kate Harlow:and excitement, I would naturally magnetize the women
Kate Harlow:who are meant to work with me and meant to come to the
Kate Harlow:immersion, and meant to go deeper, right? So it's it's not
Kate Harlow:the thing itself. It's the magnetism, like if your path, if
Kate Harlow:you are meant to do something similar to what I do, when
Kate Harlow:you're doing it, and when you're so rooted in yourself, and
Kate Harlow:you're doing it because you love it, like I chose a podcast
Kate Harlow:because I love to talk and also because the universe guided me,
Kate Harlow:right? I think I've shared this story several times before, but
Kate Harlow:I was doing a talk. It was my last talk ever. Was in Toronto,
Kate Harlow:2019 right before covid happened, and I had a bunch of
Kate Harlow:women come to the back of the room at the end, and they were
Kate Harlow:like, Kate Harlow, we need you to do a podcast. And I was like,
Kate Harlow:what? Okay, what's a podcast? Like? I'd heard it before.
Kate Harlow:Chris, my soul healer, who I had on recently, was the first
Kate Harlow:person to plant that seed. Maybe Jeff, my ex boyfriend, was the
Kate Harlow:first, first person, my former partner, and then that. But I
Kate Harlow:couldn't hear it. I wasn't ready at the time with them. But then
Kate Harlow:these women said that to me, and they were like, this information
Kate Harlow:is so important, and women need to hear it all over the world,
Kate Harlow:and we need to hear it. To hear it over and over again. So
Kate Harlow:please do a podcast and that, for some reason, it's stuck.
Kate Harlow:Next thing you know, I called Catherine, and I was like, we we
Kate Harlow:booked a zoom. We didn't really know each other. We'd, we'd
Kate Harlow:collaborated a couple times on little things because we'd seen
Kate Harlow:each other's work. We met for 10 minutes at a rooftop party.
Kate Harlow:Catherine, if you don't know, she's my old podcast partner, if
Kate Harlow:you go back,
Kate Harlow:if you if you're new to the new truth, but that's how I met
Kate Harlow:Katherine and at a rooftop party. And, like, we really
Kate Harlow:didn't know each other, but I intuitively, in one conversation
Kate Harlow:with Jeff, I was like, I'm meant to do a podcast. And he said,
Kate Harlow:Well, I've been telling you that for a long time. Why don't you
Kate Harlow:start? And I was like, Well, I don't want to do it alone. And
Kate Harlow:he's like, great. Who would you do it with? And Catherine
Kate Harlow:Danieli was the first person that popped to mind, so I
Kate Harlow:reached out to her. She cried on the spot when I asked her to do
Kate Harlow:a podcast with me, and that's how the new truth was born. So
Kate Harlow:you see how the universe sends angels to ask to guide us,
Kate Harlow:right? We get told, I've had so many women say this, you need a
Kate Harlow:book. You need a book. I just want a manual. I want something
Kate Harlow:I can read over and over again. And so that's what led me to
Kate Harlow:doing the book now. And you know, even Elizabeth invited me
Kate Harlow:to come do the artist in residence. She's the owner of
Kate Harlow:Ola pangi farm, where I am right now doing the artist in
Kate Harlow:residence program. So life is guiding you, but if you're
Kate Harlow:living a lie, and if you're in your saboteur all the time, and
Kate Harlow:you're disconnected from the heroine inside, from the
Kate Harlow:sovereign woman, you're disconnected from your divinity
Kate Harlow:and the divine matrix that is always guiding us to where we're
Kate Harlow:meant to go, you will miss all of the nudges, like I my loves.
Kate Harlow:I honestly, I could. I don't even know how long I've been
Kate Harlow:talking right now, but I could. I could do 10 I could share 10
Kate Harlow:million stories of my purpose unfolding. There's so many tiny
Kate Harlow:moments from my journey that were divinely guided, and my
Kate Harlow:only job was to keep feeding my heart, feeding my soul, caring
Kate Harlow:for. Myself getting into energetic alignment with who I
Kate Harlow:am, and listening to the invitations, listening to the
Kate Harlow:responses from the universe. When the universe sends the
Kate Harlow:nudge. Do I listen? Do I say yes? If something is a yes, and
Kate Harlow:that is your practice. So number one is discover your magic.
Kate Harlow:You've got to be on the journey of your heroine if you in order
Kate Harlow:to discover your magic. So, and I don't just mean with me the
Kate Harlow:hair becoming the heroine of your life, becoming the
Kate Harlow:sovereign woman. So you have to be on a devoted journey in order
Kate Harlow:to even discover your magic. And then life will share your magic
Kate Harlow:with you. We are all magical, and then we forget. It's like
Kate Harlow:everyone has amnesia. And we think we are, oh, I'm a
Kate Harlow:perfectionist. Oh, I'm a, you know, I'm a workaholic. It's
Kate Harlow:like, you are none of those things you I'm a people pleaser.
Kate Harlow:It's like, No, those are your patterns. That's how you learn
Kate Harlow:to be to survive your life. You are not that. You are not that
Kate Harlow:there's something so magical in your soul you just haven't
Kate Harlow:uncovered it yet. So that's number one. Number two is follow
Kate Harlow:the inner nudges, which I've said, like, it's a combination
Kate Harlow:of life leading you like Kate, do a podcast. Kate, I wasn't
Kate Harlow:ready to follow the inner nudges the first couple times, but then
Kate Harlow:that third time it was like, All right, I get it. The memo is
Kate Harlow:clear doing a podcast, so follow the inner nudges and and have
Kate Harlow:the willingness in 2026 to say yes to those things that feel
Kate Harlow:scary, because they're supposed to. If they feel scary, that is
Kate Harlow:a good thing if you feel terrified. Ding, ding, ding,
Kate Harlow:that is exactly the direction you're meant to go in. It's so
Kate Harlow:funny. I've literally lived in this tent at Ola pangi for like,
Kate Harlow:I mean, if I add up, last year I lived in the tent for four
Kate Harlow:months, and this year, I'm, I mean, it's gonna be like five,
Kate Harlow:six months in a tent in Kenya. I mean, it's a glamping tent. It's
Kate Harlow:not fancy, but it's like king size bed. It has electricity
Kate Harlow:bedside tables. There's a, you know, shower and toilet on the
Kate Harlow:platform. But I was so freaking terrified, if you go back and
Kate Harlow:listen to my app, my episodes from last year, before I did the
Kate Harlow:artist program, I was so terrified of this experience,
Kate Harlow:like as if I was going to get eaten by a lion, which is so
Kate Harlow:funny. Now there's no lions walking around my tent. I hear
Kate Harlow:them in the night. It's just amazing. Like I could honestly
Kate Harlow:think live out my days in this tent. I love living in the tent.
Kate Harlow:I find I sleep way deeper, and I love waking up at five to the
Kate Harlow:birds, and then I meditate and I go for a walk, and it's just
Kate Harlow:like the most beautiful circadian rhythm reset being in
Kate Harlow:the tent here. But it's so funny to think how scared I was before
Kate Harlow:that I was only the and it's really always a young part of us
Kate Harlow:that's afraid and the saboteur that's feeding the stories to
Kate Harlow:the young girl, like, don't do this thing. It's scary, right?
Kate Harlow:The saboteur is like scaring that little girl inside. If you
Kate Harlow:ever feel scared, know that there is a young version of
Kate Harlow:yourself in that moment. Tune in. Feel your feet. Put your
Kate Harlow:hands on your heart. Sit a little bit taller, take a breath
Kate Harlow:and and speak from your heroine to the little girl. You are
Kate Harlow:safe. I've got you. You don't have to be in charge of this. I
Kate Harlow:have got you. I will protect you. I've got you, and that's
Kate Harlow:part of the trusting life, right? But, but building that
Kate Harlow:relationship with the little girl, rather than letting the
Kate Harlow:little girl in your saboteur make your decisions, you are not
Kate Harlow:going to have an expanded life if your saboteur or an aligned
Kate Harlow:life that is meant for you, if your saboteur and the little
Kate Harlow:girl are making your decisions rooted in fear, so what have you
Kate Harlow:been afraid? What decision Have you been afraid to make that
Kate Harlow:you've been staying stuck in forever like call on that
Kate Harlow:heroine to mentor and guide that little girl and let her know
Kate Harlow:that she is safe and there is a sovereign woman inside who's
Kate Harlow:going to take charge now and let that part make the decision.
Kate Harlow:That's the part that even though the fear is there, she feels it,
Kate Harlow:she breathes into it, she maybe creates with it, she writes
Kate Harlow:about it, she makes art with it, and then she walks through the
Kate Harlow:door anyways, because that door is the door to your purpose, and
Kate Harlow:your purpose is not an arrival point. Like, I've said, mine has
Kate Harlow:evolved so much since I started. Like, I can't even believe how
Kate Harlow:much mine has evolved since I started, and it's going to
Kate Harlow:continue to evolve. I have no idea what the future holds. And
Kate Harlow:every time my mind gets attached to it being a certain way, or me
Kate Harlow:doing something particular in my purpose. I give it to the
Kate Harlow:universe and the angels, and I'm like, I know that there's a
Kate Harlow:divine plan where this is meant to go. And my mind might think
Kate Harlow:it knows the best way, but actually I know it doesn't, so I
Kate Harlow:surrender this to you. Keep showing me the way. Keep guiding
Kate Harlow:me. So when you get in fear, talk to the universe, talk to
Kate Harlow:your angels. Keep guiding me. This is the sage aspect of the
Kate Harlow:heroine. So in the reclamation, we unlock all of the aspects of
Kate Harlow:the heroine that help you feel fully rooted in yourself. And
Kate Harlow:the sage is about living from your inner compass, not anyone
Kate Harlow:else's, but yours, listening to the nudges for. Following your
Kate Harlow:heart expansions, saying yes to your yeses and no to your nose
Kate Harlow:no matter what. And the sage is also being interconnected to
Kate Harlow:that divine matrix, to the divine intelligence of this
Kate Harlow:planet that all of the animals and all of the other ecosystems
Kate Harlow:are so effortlessly connected to, we just forgot, because
Kate Harlow:we're the only species on planet Earth with an ego, right? Nobody
Kate Harlow:else has a saboteur. So everyone they're all connected to the
Kate Harlow:Divine interconnectedness. And here we are suffering and
Kate Harlow:struggling and arguing with reality and trying to control
Kate Harlow:our futures and trying to create a life that somebody else told
Kate Harlow:us we were supposed to have, rather than connect with the
Kate Harlow:magic of the life that you are meant to have that is only
Kate Harlow:unique to your soul. My path is so unique, and, you know, it's
Kate Harlow:interesting too. What I do for a living, like so many people, are
Kate Harlow:coaches and teachers and and mentors and have podcasts, but I
Kate Harlow:didn't do this because I was like, oh, everyone else's
Kate Harlow:account, I want to be a coach. Like, look, everyone on
Kate Harlow:Instagram is a coach. Maybe I should be a coach. Like, wasn't
Kate Harlow:my mind choosing this? I didn't even know what freaking coaching
Kate Harlow:was. It wasn't even a thing, right? Wasn't my mind choosing
Kate Harlow:the podcast again. I didn't know what it was. Life led me here,
Kate Harlow:and that's why it's been magnetic. That's why I've had
Kate Harlow:relative success and ease in my from the very beginning of my
Kate Harlow:work in the world, because it was divinely LED. It wasn't my
Kate Harlow:ego being like, oh, I need to be known. I gotta go, you know, get
Kate Harlow:a bunch of followers. I don't care about followers. I don't
Kate Harlow:care about Instagram. I care about you. I care about
Kate Harlow:awakening women to the magic of who they are. So when you're
Kate Harlow:leading from that place, when you're choosing what your
Kate Harlow:purpose, like I have right now, actually, it's extraordinary. So
Kate Harlow:many of the women I'm working with have a deep, deep
Kate Harlow:connection and love for animals. And I keep saying like, I feel
Kate Harlow:like there's going to be a heroin business coming out of
Kate Harlow:this immersion, because the next immersion in April 2026, is sold
Kate Harlow:out. If you want to get on the waiting list for next year, I
Kate Harlow:highly encourage it. But so many of them are deeply in love with
Kate Harlow:animals, and I believe have a deeper purpose connected to
Kate Harlow:animals in some way, some sacred you know, animal, animal Animal
Kate Harlow:Rescue, animal love place. It's so interesting. So and it
Kate Harlow:they're all being brought together at the immersion,
Kate Harlow:right? They haven't even been on the journey yet, but it's like,
Kate Harlow:so beautiful to see. That's what happens. So it's, it's your
Kate Harlow:like, your purpose is where your heart intersects with what the
Kate Harlow:universe is calling you to be, and it is calling you, and if
Kate Harlow:you can't hear or feel or experience, don't experience the
Kate Harlow:call. It's because you're far away from yourself. You're in
Kate Harlow:your mind, you're in your idea of who you think you are, and
Kate Harlow:you're disconnected from who you really are, because your heart
Kate Harlow:intersects with the the divine guidance and with the expression
Kate Harlow:of the magic of you, that's your purpose. Your purpose is like
Kate Harlow:breathing. Like this, for me, is like breathing. Now, was it
Kate Harlow:always like breathing?
Kate Harlow:No, I developed a huge fear of public speaking. So again,
Kate Harlow:before, like before, I met my mentor, Callen. I was terrified
Kate Harlow:of being on stage. In fact, when I met her, she was like, You are
Kate Harlow:meant to be on stage. I see it so clearly. And she she's a soul
Kate Harlow:seer. And I was like, No way. I hate public speaking, even in
Kate Harlow:front of five people. Like, no, that's like death to me. And she
Kate Harlow:was like, No, you're meant to be on stage. I want you to do my
Kate Harlow:intro tonight. We would do these live talks, which is where I
Kate Harlow:learned to do live talks, and she asked me to do her intro,
Kate Harlow:and I did it maybe four times, and I was so bad, I can't even
Kate Harlow:tell you, I couldn't even make eye contact with the audience.
Kate Harlow:It was like a wall went up, and I just, like, recited the thing
Kate Harlow:the paper in my head of what I was supposed to say about her.
Kate Harlow:And I like, didn't breathe the whole time, like it was
Kate Harlow:horrible, and I would be sick before and after. I would
Kate Harlow:literally be running to the bathroom after so sick, like, Oh
Kate Harlow:my God. And then I would be in a shame spiral after doing it. And
Kate Harlow:so that I'm sharing this story, because if your mind is like,
Kate Harlow:Well, I'm not meant to do that thing because I'm terrified of
Kate Harlow:it, it's like, probably that's exactly what you're meant to do.
Kate Harlow:I don't meant to do. I don't think we have that level of
Kate Harlow:fear. So if, like yours is public speaking, dig into it,
Kate Harlow:because I don't think that I would have had that level of
Kate Harlow:fear if it wasn't exactly where I was meant to go. The stronger
Kate Harlow:the fear, in fact, the more usually it's the more that's
Kate Harlow:your path, and your saboteur feels like it's going to die.
Kate Harlow:Because for me, I was shut down from being in the spotlight,
Kate Harlow:from taking up too much attention. I was I was because I
Kate Harlow:naturally have a Leo rising. So I'm naturally very bubbly and
Kate Harlow:very charismatic, and I would, you know, love to talk. I have a
Kate Harlow:defined throat in human design, so that was really easy for me
Kate Harlow:to express. And yet I was shut down from from it so many times
Kate Harlow:when I was young. So I developed a fear of public speaking and of
Kate Harlow:attention. Now it fear led my life. I we would not be here,
Kate Harlow:right? None of this work would have been created because I
Kate Harlow:would be too afraid, because I wouldn't have become the head
Kate Harlow:trainer, like none of this would be here. So that's the thing.
Kate Harlow:It's like, Don't the fear is the indicator. The fear isn't the
Kate Harlow:barrier. The fear isn't the thing that is like, you're not
Kate Harlow:supposed to go in that direction because you're afraid, if you're
Kate Harlow:afraid to have your own business. Oh, my God, if I can
Kate Harlow:have my own business, you can say that to my brother. I'm
Kate Harlow:like, seriously. I'm like, not good at detail, not good at that
Kate Harlow:kind of stuff, business stuff. So I thought like, there was no
Kate Harlow:way in hell I could have a business. But again, saga, saga
Kate Harlow:po le poli, one day at a time, one moment at a time, it
Kate Harlow:unfolds. Purpose doesn't happen overnight. It's a lifelong
Kate Harlow:unfolding, and mine's still unfolding, because it's a life
Kate Harlow:long unfolding. So that fear of public speaking, okay, here's
Kate Harlow:another I told you I have endless stories, so I told my
Kate Harlow:mentor, like, No, do not put me on stage again. I hate it. I
Kate Harlow:meant to be at the back of the room. I'm the support person.
Kate Harlow:She was like, Fine, okay, and she let me have it. About a
Kate Harlow:month later, I was at a meetup group, and I had a woman
Kate Harlow:approach me who had never met in my life. She comes up to me and
Kate Harlow:she says, I've been guided to work with you, and I want to
Kate Harlow:gift you with three sessions of EFT, Emotional Freedom
Kate Harlow:Technique, which is a thing that helps the subconscious heal
Kate Harlow:patterns and beliefs that are not serving us anymore. And I
Kate Harlow:said, Well, what do you do? And she said, I do EFT, and I
Kate Harlow:specifically work with people who have a fear of public
Kate Harlow:speaking. And I'm, I've been called by My angels and your
Kate Harlow:angels that I meant to help you. And I was like, What the How
Kate Harlow:does she know? Like, oh, my God, this is crazy. So I went home,
Kate Harlow:and of course, I signed up for those three sessions, and then
Kate Harlow:we worked together beyond that, but she helped me heal the fear
Kate Harlow:of public speaking. And then all of a sudden, Callen, like, think
Kate Harlow:she got sick or something. She couldn't come to event. There
Kate Harlow:was, like, all these, the occurrences that happened that
Kate Harlow:had me have to rise. There was no other option. I had to. I
Kate Harlow:remember I had to teach a Pilates class. Like, I'm not a
Kate Harlow:Pilates teacher, but one of our retreats, the Pilates teacher
Kate Harlow:didn't show up. And I, at the time, was doing a lot of
Kate Harlow:Pilates. I still am, and so she asked me to teach a Pilates
Kate Harlow:class. So I did, and I wasn't afraid at all. And then she
Kate Harlow:asked me to do this thing, and then to do that thing, and I
Kate Harlow:just kept getting all these invitations again, once I had
Kate Harlow:healed that fear and I started to step into my purpose, right?
Kate Harlow:And it's not one thing. It's not public speaking, it's not a
Kate Harlow:podcast, it's not a it's not a thing like my purpose is to
Kate Harlow:continue to peel off those fear based masks and those layers of
Kate Harlow:who I'm not and to keep being who I am in the world, and to
Kate Harlow:keep magnetizing women to me who I can help remind them of who
Kate Harlow:they are. Your purpose is. So it's not going to look the same
Kate Harlow:as mine, by any means. But what sparks your heart the more you
Kate Harlow:live in alignment with who you really are, the more the
Kate Harlow:universe, divine matrix, life, can lead you where you're meant
Kate Harlow:to go. So discover your magic. Number one, number two, follow
Kate Harlow:your inner nudges. Say yes, even when it's freaking scary, know
Kate Harlow:that that's exactly the direction you need to go in. And
Kate Harlow:number three is trust your guidance. Trust that you are
Kate Harlow:being guided. If you do not believe in in the divine
Kate Harlow:orchestration of this planet. If you don't believe in the
Kate Harlow:universe, in gut, you can call it whatever you want. Source
Kate Harlow:Energy, God, the quantum field, whatever. Go study Joe Dispenza
Kate Harlow:and Dr Bruce Lipton. If you're scientific and you don't believe
Kate Harlow:in spirituality, because you were traumatized by a religion
Kate Harlow:as a child that was forced down your throat and you, or you're
Kate Harlow:just you, or you grew up in an atheist home, and you just don't
Kate Harlow:believe in anything. You cannot live a life of purpose if you
Kate Harlow:don't believe. But once you believe, and once you get into
Kate Harlow:alignment, you can't not believe. I mean, we're at the
Kate Harlow:immersion, and literally, magic is happening every five seconds.
Kate Harlow:And every single five seconds, everyone's like, I can't believe
Kate Harlow:that just happened. I can't believe that, like, it's so
Kate Harlow:magical. That is my life all the time, like this synchronicity,
Kate Harlow:that synchronicity, this, that is what the world is. We've just
Kate Harlow:been brainwashed to believe it's something else. And the more you
Kate Harlow:watch the news and the media and all the horrible things that
Kate Harlow:happen in the world, the more you watch and consume and spend
Kate Harlow:all your time watching scary movies and watching like
Kate Harlow:programming your mind to believe that the world is a horrible
Kate Harlow:place and that we are not divine, like we just forget, and
Kate Harlow:we're being programmed every single day to forget and to
Kate Harlow:forget and to forget. Why? Because then we're in fear, and
Kate Harlow:then we're easily controllable, but you're. Path that is meant
Kate Harlow:for you. You are not meant to live here and just work a job
Kate Harlow:you hate. That's why I believe we all have a purpose, you know,
Kate Harlow:and it might not be your own business. It might be working
Kate Harlow:for someone else, or for an organization that's deeply
Kate Harlow:meaningful to you or collaborating with friends. It
Kate Harlow:could, it could be. It could look many different ways. But I
Kate Harlow:do believe that every single one of us has something that will
Kate Harlow:light up our soul and that we're not meant to just do a job, we
Kate Harlow:hate to pay bills, to survive, and then we die like what that's
Kate Harlow:not why we're here. There's so much available and possible for
Kate Harlow:you, and every single one of us has magic inside, if you, if you
Kate Harlow:have not touched the magic inside, join me in the
Kate Harlow:reclamation. Join another program this year. Invest in
Kate Harlow:yourself. Start investing in having someone see your magic
Kate Harlow:and reflect your magic if you don't know your magic, and the
Kate Harlow:more you live from your aligned magic, the easier it is to
Kate Harlow:believe how supported you are. And we remember and forget,
Kate Harlow:right? I still say, oh my god, that's so crazy. I can't believe
Kate Harlow:that synchronicity just happened. And it's like, what's
Kate Harlow:not crazy at all. Synchronicities happen
Kate Harlow:constantly. But a part of me is still in awe and still shocked
Kate Harlow:by the synchronicities, even though they're happening
Kate Harlow:constantly. So there is a magical, divine matrix that we
Kate Harlow:all can plug into, that will lead you to the purpose that's
Kate Harlow:meaningful to you a life. Imagine that's why I feel so
Kate Harlow:satiated, because everything I do is so meaningful to me, and
Kate Harlow:it's so aligned with who I am. So learn about your astrology,
Kate Harlow:learn about your your human design, even if at the time you
Kate Harlow:don't believe what they say, like, when that woman told me I
Kate Harlow:was going to have a business one day, I didn't believe her. I was
Kate Harlow:like, yeah, right, clearly she doesn't know me. Like, have my
Kate Harlow:own business, no way. Like, I just absolutely my mind was
Kate Harlow:like, that's not remotely a possibility, but my soul knew,
Kate Harlow:and so she got to plug that for my subconscious mind. So even if
Kate Harlow:you don't believe what the astrologers or human design
Kate Harlow:practitioners say at the time, just know they're planting seeds
Kate Harlow:for the future, and it's all written in there. And I mean,
Kate Harlow:your purpose is in there. You have, like, a whole go down the
Kate Harlow:rabbit hole, and your purpose is in there. But the last thing in
Kate Harlow:the world you want to do is try and control it, right? You don't
Kate Harlow:want to. So if had I had that reading and then been like,
Kate Harlow:Okay, I got to work for myself now. I got to start my own
Kate Harlow:business, that would be my mind trying to control this magical
Kate Harlow:thing, versus her just planting a seed and me being like, maybe,
Kate Harlow:oh yeah, another moment of my purpose. I feel like I shared
Kate Harlow:this story,
Kate Harlow:at least in the last year about I was in went to a retreat in
Kate Harlow:the south of France, and it was a little journey into Mary
Kate Harlow:magdalene's world. In the south of France, they revere Mary
Kate Harlow:Magdalene, and she was a teacher of love. And it's these
Kate Harlow:beautiful, beautiful teachings and sacred, sacred places that
Kate Harlow:apparently Mary Magdalene was. And so I got divinely led there.
Kate Harlow:I mean, how I signed up for that? It was like two weeks
Kate Harlow:before it started, and I was doing a business sales call for
Kate Harlow:a woman who was applying for a program with my mentor, and I
Kate Harlow:was interviewing her to see if she was a fit for his program.
Kate Harlow:And on that call, she told me about her business model and
Kate Harlow:told me about this retreat in the south of France. And this is
Kate Harlow:a woman I knew already, I already had a relationship with,
Kate Harlow:because she'd been in our other business programs. And I was
Kate Harlow:like, Oh, my God, can I come on on the call when she was telling
Kate Harlow:me about this retreat in the south of France, it was in Paris
Kate Harlow:and the south of France. And she was like, Yeah, of course. And I
Kate Harlow:went on this retreat. Like the perfect. I didn't have the
Kate Harlow:money, but like, all my commissions from this thing I
Kate Harlow:had just done showed up the exact literally, like, right? As
Kate Harlow:I said, Yes, then I found out how much I was making in
Kate Harlow:commissions for selling this really high ticket business
Kate Harlow:course for my mentor. And that paid for my trip. The entire
Kate Harlow:thing. It was so perfect. It was so divine. And I go on this
Kate Harlow:journey I know nothing about Mary Magdalene, like I grew up
Kate Harlow:in a Christian united, so liberal Christian, but Christian
Kate Harlow:home. And I only heard that Mary Magdalene was a prostitute. I
Kate Harlow:didn't know the true story of her. And so I wasn't even going
Kate Harlow:for that reason. It was just a yes in my body. So I went on
Kate Harlow:this journey, and it I tell you this, I mean, I'm still very
Kate Harlow:connected to the five women who are on this trip. There was a
Kate Harlow:woman from every decade, 40s, third, no 30s. I was in my 30s,
Kate Harlow:30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s, or five of us. It was the perfect
Kate Harlow:group. We're still really deeply connected. And it was like
Kate Harlow:almost at the end of the trip, we went to these Mary Magdalene
Kate Harlow:caves, and we couldn't find them at first. And the very first
Kate Harlow:trail we walked down, I saw these heart rocks. And I thought
Kate Harlow:to myself, like, this has got to be the Mary Magdalene caves.
Kate Harlow:There's heart rocks everywhere. And it's like they were not
Kate Harlow:placed there. They were nature, just nature, heart rocks. But I
Kate Harlow:kept seeing rocks in the shapes of heart hearts. And then we
Kate Harlow:spent the whole day looking for these caves. We went down this
Kate Harlow:trail and that trail, and it was so hot out. I was like. 38
Kate Harlow:degrees or something Celsius. It was very, very hot. And we
Kate Harlow:finally, at the end of the day, the woman who was the oldest,
Kate Harlow:said, You know, I feel like we should go back to the first one.
Kate Harlow:I feel like that was the first trail. And I didn't have the
Kate Harlow:courage at the time to speak up. I was 33 and I agreed with her.
Kate Harlow:I was like, Yeah, I think so too. I kept seeing heart rocks
Kate Harlow:on that trail. Sure enough, we go down that trail, and we go a
Kate Harlow:little bit further than we did the time before, and we found
Kate Harlow:the caves, and they were so beautiful. They were like
Kate Harlow:limestone, green and pink, and all nature just so beautiful.
Kate Harlow:And we were meditating inside of the Mary Magdalene cave, and I
Kate Harlow:was deep in meditation, and all of a sudden my arms went up like
Kate Harlow:wings, and I couldn't put them down. I literally, my arms were
Kate Harlow:out. You can't see me right now, but my arms are out, as I'm
Kate Harlow:telling this. I couldn't put them down. It was like someone
Kate Harlow:put fish hooks in my wrists, and they were they were holding them
Kate Harlow:up. And I started laughing. And I was just like, what the can't
Kate Harlow:put my arms down. And there's a woman in the group who is a is a
Kate Harlow:really extraordinary healer. Actually, I'll have her on the
Kate Harlow:podcast at some point. She's amazing. And she was doing
Kate Harlow:healing on all of us while we were meditating inside of these
Kate Harlow:caves, and she saw me and knew what was happening, and she had
Kate Harlow:this big smile on her face. And I closed my eyes again, and I
Kate Harlow:was like, what is happening? And then I heard a voice that said,
Kate Harlow:it's time to spread your wings. It was actually a man's voice.
Kate Harlow:So in my mind, I was like, Okay, maybe it's Jesus, but he said,
Kate Harlow:It's time to spread your wings. You are. You are a teacher of
Kate Harlow:love. And at the time, I was a business coach, and I was like,
Kate Harlow:a teacher of love. Like, what do I know about love? I don't know
Kate Harlow:anything about love. What? And then again, like, it was a
Kate Harlow:beautiful, magical moment, and I let it go. If I had gone home
Kate Harlow:and started studying love and relationships, that would be my
Kate Harlow:saboteur. So you see these nudges come, and we don't need
Kate Harlow:to react instantly to them, that they're seeds that are planted,
Kate Harlow:and you will know the moment they're meant to unfold. So that
Kate Harlow:happened when I was 33 so 43 I'm 44 business, nine years. So two
Kate Harlow:years before I started my business,
Kate Harlow:and I forgot that that happened. I only remembered that happened
Kate Harlow:later. I only remembered that that happened way later on my
Kate Harlow:journey where I was like, Oh, my God, I am a teacher of love. But
Kate Harlow:at the time, it made no sense. I was a business coach, and I had
Kate Harlow:I, but I am love, right? In my mind, it was like, What do I
Kate Harlow:know about relationships? Like, I'm not an expert. Who am I? You
Kate Harlow:know, all my small self responded to that, but I was
Kate Harlow:just like, okay, that just went in and out like it, but, but
Kate Harlow:again, planted seeds in the garden, right? The garden
Kate Harlow:doesn't bloom right away. You plant seeds, and you take care
Kate Harlow:of the soil, and you nurture the soil and tend to it, make sure
Kate Harlow:it has the right conditions. And then one day, what happens? One
Kate Harlow:day you look outside and you're like, holy shit, the garden's
Kate Harlow:bloomed. That's where I am. Now, my garden is bloomed, and it's
Kate Harlow:going to keep blooming even more and more and more. But that
Kate Harlow:moment, I didn't know what that meant, but that was the divine
Kate Harlow:guiding me. So, I mean, I didn't used to believe in any of this.
Kate Harlow:So if you are like, well, I don't believe it's like, you
Kate Harlow:just have to get into alignment. I promise you, my the women I
Kate Harlow:work with on this journey, most women I work with on this
Kate Harlow:journey are super logical, very in their heads, very
Kate Harlow:disconnected from their divinity and from their sensuality and
Kate Harlow:from their power and from all the all the things inside and
Kate Harlow:just living from logic and practicality. And most of them
Kate Harlow:are numb when they meet me or like repressed or shut down and
Kate Harlow:hurting, hurting deeply underneath that those masks, and
Kate Harlow:they come to me because their soul feels something, even in
Kate Harlow:listening to this podcast, their soul feels a resonance. Their
Kate Harlow:heart feels something and is like there is something here for
Kate Harlow:me. I don't know what it is. I mean, if that's you, get on the
Kate Harlow:phone with me and let's explore. Maybe it's the reclamation,
Kate Harlow:maybe it's going deeper, or maybe it's even just connecting.
Kate Harlow:And I have a resource that I can provide you with, but basically,
Kate Harlow:life is always leading you, and if you don't tend to your heart,
Kate Harlow:if you don't care for yourself, if you don't make time and space
Kate Harlow:for yourself, if you keep lying to yourself and contorting
Kate Harlow:yourself and hurting yourself and living in a fantasy world
Kate Harlow:rather than really connecting with your own heart and your own
Kate Harlow:being and your own soul, you will miss the nudges right. The
Kate Harlow:nudges will come. I know so many people who've had nudges and
Kate Harlow:done nothing with them, and I've done something over and over and
Kate Harlow:over and over again, and I meet people that I knew 15 years ago,
Kate Harlow:and they're like, Wow, it's amazing how you what you've
Kate Harlow:done, and how much you kept going. But it's only because I
Kate Harlow:can't not now. Like, the more, the more you live from the
Kate Harlow:heroine, the more harder it becomes to not right? It's like,
Kate Harlow:that's the. Part of me that I'm in devotion to now that's a part
Kate Harlow:of me that's leading my life and every choice I make, and there
Kate Harlow:is a little girl inside of me still, and I do still get
Kate Harlow:afraid, and my saboteur does still tell me stories like
Kate Harlow:you're not a writer. Why are you writing a book or whatever? But
Kate Harlow:it's like she's not in charge. Too bad. AC ain't in charge no
Kate Harlow:more. It's my favorite line from home alone. Actually, I have
Kate Harlow:many lines. I watched home alone the other night, and realized I
Kate Harlow:know almost every word to that whole movie. I had two brothers
Kate Harlow:growing up, so we watched it a lot. Anyways, your saboteur is
Kate Harlow:not in charge anymore. If you don't know home alone, you
Kate Harlow:didn't get the reference, but if you know it really well, you
Kate Harlow:probably got it. But your saboteur is not in charge. No
Kate Harlow:more. Too bad. Too bad. Regina ain't in charge. No more. She is
Kate Harlow:not in charge of my life, and that's why my life is so full,
Kate Harlow:and my heart is so full and my work is so meaningful to me, and
Kate Harlow:I love what I do, and I love who I work with. And, you know,
Kate Harlow:it's, it's pretty profound living a life of purpose. I
Kate Harlow:think purpose is the antidote. And when women are on purpose,
Kate Harlow:they stop being in fantasy about love. We stop being so addicted
Kate Harlow:to getting a hit from some guy or some person, some woman, that
Kate Harlow:you, that you're that you're obsessed with those obsessions
Kate Harlow:only come when we're disconnected from ourselves, but
Kate Harlow:when you're on purpose, a life of purpose is so full and again,
Kate Harlow:it's it's not one thing, and it's only going to be ever
Kate Harlow:unfolding and ever unfolding, but it starts with you. Discover
Kate Harlow:your magic, follow your inner nudges, and trust the divine
Kate Harlow:guidance that is always leading you. So again, if this is
Kate Harlow:foreign to you and you're like, What the heck, Kate, I don't
Kate Harlow:know how join me in the reclamation. I would love to
Kate Harlow:meet you. I would love to go deeper with you. Again, I don't
Kate Harlow:usually the reclamation live doesn't happen anymore. It's now
Kate Harlow:a self study program that you can invest in on my website, but
Kate Harlow:we're doing it live this year, at the beginning of the year, to
Kate Harlow:get all the women who are coming to the immersion ready to go,
Kate Harlow:and all the women in the community love to do it over and
Kate Harlow:over again. So might happen again live next year, I don't
Kate Harlow:know, but this year, it's live, and it's going to be amazing,
Kate Harlow:off the charts. So much purpose. This is so up for so many people
Kate Harlow:right now. We can no longer lie to ourselves. So join the
Kate Harlow:community, join the sisterhood, join the reclamation, and let's
Kate Harlow:go. Let's change your life. Let's create the most expansive
Kate Harlow:2026, you can imagine this is time. 2025 was all about
Kate Harlow:shedding old skin, shedding old layers, letting go. 2026 is
Kate Harlow:about new beginnings and creativity and expansion and
Kate Harlow:expression. This is your opportunity to do it
Kate Harlow:differently. So we'd love to see you there. Send me a message if
Kate Harlow:you have any questions. Share this episode with every woman
Kate Harlow:you need you know who is ready to unlock her purpose. And
Kate Harlow:again, I'll say, I know I shared so many stories today, but your
Kate Harlow:purpose isn't going to look like mine, or is it supposed to? Just
Kate Harlow:because you listen to the new truth you're not meant doesn't
Kate Harlow:mean you're meant to be a healer or a coach or anything. Even in
Kate Harlow:my industry, there's infinite possibilities to purpose. But if
Kate Harlow:you don't know your own soul, if you don't know your own magic,
Kate Harlow:if you don't know what lights you up, and you haven't
Kate Harlow:uncovered your gifts and the gift of who you are, you will
Kate Harlow:miss the guidance. You will miss the divine matrix that is
Kate Harlow:leading you to the purpose that is meant for you. But you get to
Kate Harlow:have a life you love, and that's what purpose has done for me, so
Kate Harlow:I wish that for you too, in 2026 creating a life that you love.
Kate Harlow:Would love to do it alongside you. Share this episode with
Kate Harlow:every woman you know who needs to be a little more on purpose
Kate Harlow:this year, I love you, and I'll see you next week. You.