Welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, and I'm very excited to have Dr. Singh with me today, we

will be talking about health and how you can maybe start a

practice and change habits in order to live a more fulfilled

and healthy life. Welcome Dr. Singh to the Borealis

experience, I'm very pleased to introduce you.

First, we would like to know a little bit about your

background. And then we jump into Yeah, the practices and the

habits that you would suggest for people to be more healthy

and happy with their life. Thank you, Aurora, for inviting me to

your program.

My full name is Dr. kirpal Singh.

And I'm retired.

I did go to medical school in India, then five years I spent

in England, became board certified in psychiatry and

family practice then came to the United States in 71. And I've

been here in practice, you know, in the hospital, practice,

clinics, private practice all worked with the prisons and a

wide variety of experience. That's my background. Wow. So

what would you say? Now that you've had such, like, so many

years of experience? What would you say? people's struggle with

most? Because I feel most of the time the physical body becomes

sick, because of the mind because of Yeah, unhealthy

habits. Was there anything that you observed over the years that

maybe every? That's a good question? Yeah. Yeah, my working

hypothesis or working away,

as I understand the disease processes, I call it

biological, psychological, social, and spiritual. These are

different components of it, and they go hand in hand.

One is not separate from the other.

It's like four wheels of a car.

If they are in proper alignment, the car runs properly. If then

disalignment, then it has a rocky

you know, Rocky?

way. So that's same as the good health.

When we approach the good health from those four angles, four

dimensions, I think we can have a pleasant, optimistic and

fruitful life.

But if any of them is disturbed, we need to fix it

politely and encourage people to bring about a change so that

they can have their life, life running smoothly. Mm hmm. Most

of the good health is based on prevention.

and to a lesser degree on the curative aspect, which is

important too. But even when we have them get gotten them

better, with less a with the medication, they still need to

bring about a lifestyle change, paying attention to all those

four components, which I mentioned. Without that change.

There is a no lasting transformation in personal life.

They keep sort of running from one

data strategy to another. Mm hmm. Yeah, I totally understand

that. And it is very hard to change habits.

But it is necessary to know that we are in charge, we are in

power of our health. We're not victims of diseases, we can have

such a healthy and in alignment. lifestyle, like you said, that

we can fight off diseases easier than if we thought that we have

no power over our health. Right?

That is correct. As a matter of fact, I believe our birth is a

blessing at birth. We are not born in sin.

We are given the gift of life.

We have given gift of talents. and we are given the freewill to

make choices

which we can and depending on that how we choose our

lifestyle.

We can have our direction that way. But it's like the

You know,

you cannot.

So

bad crops and then expect the good results.

In other words, this kind of seeds you sow in your life,

that's what they grow. So the good health practices really

start from the childhood. Yes, that we have to raise our

children

with good role models that role models involve, you know,

getting good caring, as far as their personal needs are

concerned, their nutritional needs, and then good things to

play with.

And connecting with their nature by looking at watching how

things are going on, and enjoying them. And also good

Spiritual Education. You know, in which you learn stories, that

you know the Creator, whatever name you want to call it. Or if

you don't, even if you don't believe in it, that's fine too.

But still there is something call it higher power, call it no

power about our there is something which controls our

affairs.

And that control is delegated to us

in the form of freewill,

that is our capacity to choose. So depending on how we choose if

we made a wrong choice, then what we can always make another

choice. So making a mistake is not a sin. making a mistake is

not

a you know, you should not create low self esteem. making a

mistake does not mean we are no good. It simply means another

chance to improve ourselves.

That's very beautiful.

So as we take advantage of those opportunities,

experiment with them,

the better we get it, and it becomes then a joyful life.

Instead of the one feeling that I'm no good.

Because God created everyone good. God didn't put us in this

world to punish us.

Because God does not hate us. God does not threaten us, God

loves us. And if you don't believe whatever it is, your

belief system or no belief system, spell love will love it

by your parents love the society love nature, look, the free gift

of the air, our natural resources, free gift to the

water, food we and the ground on which we live provides all kinds

of amenities for us to live good life. These are the gifts which

are given to us naturally our natural resources the more we

examine them, more we relate to them and only more we use them

the better we get at it and the all becomes an aid to our joyful

life. Yes. So, beautifully said and I totally agree and see and

feel that this is the right path to healing.

You said you worked with people also in prison and people who

yeah went on the wrong path. So to say and maybe people even who

struggle with addiction, if we can share with them that this is

where you have to come back to you have to come back to

nurturing food to the source of water, fresh air appreciating

nature, then you can go back onto your your right path and

how do you address

because you you talked about forgiveness. How do you help

people to forgive themselves and to to help train their mind

to work for them instead of against them?

worldwide. I think forgiveness is the key.

If we really believe that we love another person. We

believe that you know we are all gets in gains by virtue of being

members of the same species.

And if we really believe that we are all children are the same

God or no God, if you want to call it, that we all have the

Equal Rights,

then I think we have also to understand, we have the equal

rights to make mistakes too. Like we have the equal rights to

be able to

say.

So all that processes by hidden trial,

and we need not keep the venue and sinners. But on the other

hand, remember,

anyone trying to do things honestly and properly and

appropriately can do mistakes.

And if they have done, they deserve to be forgiven, like, if

I was to do a mistake, I want to be forgiven, too, so that we can

move on the loss of energy and not forgiving. Yeah, thank you

brooding about in anger are that simply leads to more hurt to

ourselves? Or to the other person? Yes. And that's like,

that's like, more we brewed?

The more we become anxious, more muqaam negative. And we may

become more paranoid about this is happening that play No. But

on the other hand, we express in a bra appropriate manner, our

display here about the thing, and then saying, Well, I'm

sorry, this happened, I forgive you. And let's go.

The sooner said that, the better life for both people involved in

it. Yes, yes. And so I cannot move on. I cannot move on

without reconciliation. Yeah, reconciliation takes place on

the process of forgiveness. And forgiveness comes from based in

that we all love each other.

Yeah. And sometimes you cannot speak to the person anymore.

To ask for forgiveness. Can we talk about how? Yeah, how can

you deal with that? When you when you have to forgive

yourself? And there's nobody out there who can do the job for

you? There's nobody out there who can you know, forgive you?

Is it possible through meditation for example, to to

learn to forgive yourself without? Yeah, like I said,

without being able to see the other person?

Yes, yes, it is.

You know, I personally believe in prayer. You know, I believe

in prayer,

that there is a power greater than me.

You know, I can seek forgiveness from that power and guidance

from that power. So I pray for, for example, my personal

background is a Sikh, you know, follow this

sick faith, which is based on the teachings of Guru Nanak.

Like we have other faiths based on different groups.

So, the prayer is emphasized a lot to the Creator, that even if

I don't have to go to anyone to seek forgiveness, I can just

say, oh, Lord, you know, I'm your child, I have made a

mistake, please forgive me and give me the guidance to move on.

And also, please forgive the person who I have or may have

offended, and heal them to at the same time, so that these

prevail

in both our lives, yes.

The more we do that, the more it becomes part of our thinking.

Instead of negative thinking, that kind of automatic thinking,

starts

appearing in our mind and provides us the energy

motivation to move on. Rather than be stuck. You know, the car

is stuck in the

ice or in the snow.

Wheels like that. Mm hmm. Can I move? So we have some kind of

support. Here, some breaks or some sandbags and all or some

people's push to get it out? Right?

So that we can be back to normal. So that's how I use

prayer for that. And prayer is simple. There are very different

ways of praying. You know, you can pray doing out in the nature

looking at the tree.

And others you know and saying the whoever made these all these

beautiful things and I pray to that person

make me beautiful like that too, by for forgiving me, and also

other people who in my life I may have offended.

So that's one way that's one way of playing. And another way of

praying well ways. Some person, you know, meditation like for

example, we talk about mantra, insect predation, we have the

word Waheguru. Like for example, we say that four letters we say

we're a law a spa means wonderful, awesome. And guru.

That means the one who takes knew from darkness to light

Yeah, so we say and that helps us to come now and also

generates energy we're a go through

a through

a new roof. And you can have use other words, you can say Hosanna

Hosanna. Or you can say

or you can say something else what pleases you? I remember I

just you, Rama Sasa say so whom?

Yeah, that's that Kundalini Yoga people use it. And I really more

simpler than that, there they used to nessa na sa is one of

our sub now. Yeah.

Great.

So that's one way the word sa

ma. These are examples. You can devise your own method. Yeah,

the idea is, this is how it can work. Yeah, this is this is a

meditation technique. And then another day, get a de Bresse out

in the fresh air. You breath. Yes. Another stretch yourself.

You know,

take some day breathing Mamou yourself and all or yawn

yourself, or some people use laughing as a technique, laugh,

laugh, laugh, laugh so that everything shakes and energies,

when they call you release endorphins in your body like

so those improve your mood state. So there are numerous

ways of doing things. They start just one way. And one thing they

work one time and other time it may not seem to be working try

and plan a trial, you find something that works. Yeah,

yeah. Did I understand right? That in praying and using

meditation, in stretching and moving your body, you

you use your mind as a tool to guide you wherever you want to

go. Instead of your mind using you and Miss guiding you maybe

like you are dragging your mind, like a muscle you're training

your mind with new thoughts with I feel like when we do the

Waheguru it's a I don't necessarily have to understand

what it means. But the sound is very healing already.

Right?

That's right. So the whole idea is

programming yourself more positively. Exactly. Exactly.

And that's the whole idea. Yeah. Because Because it's, you know,

like, for example, when I was in the hospitals or outpatient when

I created with a team with a depression, or anxiety disorder

or some other serious disorder, I have them they do their

assessments like nurse to do the same assessment psychologists do

psychological assessment, vocational rehab, to do the

vocational assessment, and I will do the psychiatric

assessment, and then family

social work into family assessment. Then I will ask

them, you know, during your process, I not only need

information on their background in your, you know, their

assessment along with that, I also need the list of assets,

what they see in the particular patient, not liabilities,

liabilities, I say they're everywhere. And now all the

time, assets plus our time, people can come in many assets.

And they will come with the liabilities Oh, this

dysfunctional family. This doesn't know they already gave

this. I said Look, I didn't ask your liabilities. I asked you

assets.

their seats. Yes. I said Well,

I don't know. They're no essence over here. I see. Yes, there

are. As I look, his eyes or her eyes are working you

Yours

can smell, can feel,

you know, the high school graduate education, they can

read and write.

There's some hobbies they can learn.

While those are assets, right, let's try to make use of those

assets.

help encourage them to learn some cooking something

to cook so that they can have independent exists, and they can

feed themselves.

Teach them how to pray. don't pray for them, but teach them

how to pray constructively, where they can learn, they can

read and write.

And give them a book like chicken soup or soul or positive

thinking or some other we can read an article. We can discuss

with them, feed them some exercise, which will make them

feel better improve their circulation, yes. And help them

encourage a breathing. So all those things they can learn.

Yes, they're all provide them the spiritual, physical mental

tools

to conduct themselves better, feel better, and move on in

life. So all these registers? Yeah, they will be surprised

people will be surprised where I am coming from all those things.

Yeah, otherwise, that dysfunctional family they know

much you can do that's the way it is. I said, No, that's not

why that person is here with us. The person is here with us for a

purpose. And our job is to try to dig

to create positivity. Yeah. And that is based on our proper

assessment of the situation. Ah, this is so critical. And then

you can truly empower a person and, and show them that they

have so many tools to help themselves and you just yeah,

put the awareness back onto them. And the mindfulness, and

then they can heal themselves, improve your posture, so that

you can

be in a less painful situation, that even if you undergo

surgery, in some cases, which is absolutely necessary, you

undergo surgery, you're still going to need a rehabilitation

process. And that rehabilitation process is going to require

motivation, and cooperation and collaboration so that you follow

those exercises

and follow those new health needs, you know, take your

medications properly, your vitamins, and also. So it cannot

be just surgery can fix everything, and medication

cannot fix everything. There has to be a complete lifestyle

change, depending on what we're dealing with. Yes.

Sometimes I feel when trauma happened. So let's say someone

that you really love passes away, or you have a car accident

and your body is fine, but you are still very, very scared from

the from the collision. Sometimes shock and emotional

shock can result in physical pain.

And

how can we work with that? How can we make people aware that

yes, your body is aching, but it is up here that we have to start

releasing pain and releasing the story and move on is Is there

any, like more techniques than meditation and prayer?

Yes, first of all, you know you need a leader in those kinds of

situations, especially when they're severe, you need a

therapist.

You can develop confidence and listen who will sort of

guide you through that traumatic process, you know, healing

process. Like for example, most important

to start with is ventilation of the feeling pain and talking

about what happened and how you know threatening it was and how

you miss it person who disappeared from your life or

the accident.

After you had done that for a little while, then you come to

grips with the situation now it is going to be there you notice

painful we have to move on to change their life.

And that movement is going to need learning how to prevent an

accident again.

Like let's say someone was let's say someone was looking at their

cell phone while going through the guard when it became into an

accident. So let's send in the cell phone

Any more that way.

Stop the car before you do the cell phone.

The same way that in other kind of situation where a person has

another last let's say they lost a job, that they have to look at

the what could possibly the reasons for losing the job?

Can we make a change so that those kinds of things won't

happen again in the next job when you get it?

Otherwise fatal? There you repeat the same history? Yes.

So one has to look at not Yes, just hop from one situation to

another another thinking that there will be

some sort of

quick healing take place, it just doesn't take place that

way.

You have to figure it out. You have to spend some time honestly

looking at what went wrong, and know how to prevent it not for

them to happening again.

Yes, sometimes you need an assistance of a initially a

friend who may be able to help you. If that's not enough,

because not everyone has all the time. They need you need a

therapist. You can also use a self help book. You can go to

the Barnes and Nobles in our stores and find a book which

will resonate with you use those things, or you do an internet

search for those are the right internet groups are are right on

they're available dealing with these kinds of issues, too. So

there are many things available, but one has to look first has to

figure out what they need.

Before they can go on to actually identifying.

Yeah, they can trust that they can help themselves. Like

sometimes people are searching for external help and crutches

you know, and sometimes you need to ask for help. But you at the

same time you have to trust that you can help yourself as well.

And you mentioned cell phone.

Technology is the last point I want to address with you because

I watched a beautiful video the other day about

a man talking about technology is not a bad thing. It is

awesome. It is such a tool. It is the way we use it the

compulsiveness that

really, yeah makes us sick in our mind because we become so

addicted to these things here.

If somebody who's listening now feels like yeah, there's lots of

compulsion when it comes to their phone and social media.

How would you What would you advise them to to do to free

themselves again from that addiction?

Well, there's several things you can do. You know, first thing is

that they have to be aware that this is their problem. Yes.

Okay. Now, once they know that is their problem, they can do

leave the cell phone in the room and go out on the beach. That's

just an example. Walk around without it. Yeah.

Go Live was going on even before the cell phone came that came

into existence?

Yeah. And then after they are home, then now they can go to

the cell phone. And now this is self discipline, these are calls

self discipline techniques. Yeah. And then then the other

thing they can do is they can give their spouse for example, a

friend cell phone here, you know, you take care of it, I

will don't give it to me, I unless absolutely necessary.

Those again, part of the self discipline. Another thing is,

they have to develop some hobbies they like, you know,

drawn, the reason why they're sticking to cell phone is

because their life is empty, the time is empty, and they don't

know really where to go. So one cell phone is away. There is a

panic, because they lost the support. They lost the support.

Yes.

So, so to experience that sort of situation and trying to

divert your energy into different areas. So you create a

more wholesome and pleasant lie, and less dependent on one thing.

Yes, yeah. And this is how you also create resilience, right?

Like I feel.

A lot of people use their cell phone because they feel a

connection with their people. They see people approve of their

pictures and then

Various staples. But you, you also can find that out in nature

and you can find it when you meet people, one on one and to

just have that balance again. And not that intense addiction

from one from one little tool, right? That's exactly the

happiness lies in moderation. Hmm, middle way, middle way, it

doesn't lie in extremes. Yes, you are needing a very good food

in large amount can make you sick. Look into the steering

when we dry the car, if you go like this, and that you can get

into accident, but you keep on going like this. Maintaining the

balance and move on. Yes.

That is such a nice metaphor. That's Yeah, everybody will

understand that one.

Think of the steering wheel.

This is very, yeah.

So the road is uneven and road is you know, some time bumps.

Sometimes they send that but you keep your steering wheel and

adjusting going on. Those bumps are normal in life. And downs

are normal in life. But we don't get stuck in them. We keep

making our way through. Yes, yes. And knowing that you have

several anchors in your life, like your friends, your family,

but also yourself to help you in a stressful situation to have a

strong coordinate, right?

Why you know,

good meal, for example, a simple meal, people may say, Oh, I want

a steak. Steak doesn't mean just a piece of steak. Here are some

potatoes, you have some veggie tables, you know, you may have

summarize, you may have something else you miss some

condiments and all those things together make a meal. Yes, not

just a piece of steak, right say aways life is supported by many

things. And we have to be aware of them and use them and as we

go along. Yeah, and not just me overly dependent on one thing

and forget about everything else. Mm hmm. then that becomes

a lopsided development. Yeah, the whole so whole, some

are harmonious development requires using all those

resources as needed. Our goal is to move on, keep driving on and

we use whatever is necessary as a tool in our life. But we have

to learn and provide those tools are temporary,

that we know don't know when when we need them. Mm hmm. That

is so beautiful, very, very good.

If there was three things that you would recommend, a person

that is struggling with anxiety or depression, before we we end

this episode, I would like you to yet give us three tools

that a person can start from today on to to make them feel

better.

Good point first,

have them make a list of things which make them anxious

at random, whatever, you know, maybe they come and knock out on

them choose three

and see which they can manage some

then start doing the one if that is completed, then they can go

to the second and then third.

Or if they cannot complete achieve one then go to the you

know one next which is possible. The whole idea in controlling

anxiety is to remember the serenity meditation. God grant

me the serenity to accept things I cannot change.

courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the

difference. A

lot of time people are focusing on things they cannot change,

brooding, worrying panic because they can change. But that's not

how we end a life.

Put our emphasis on things we can change as we change those

things which are changeable and better.

that generates your

generates confidence.

And that confidence is able to

overpower and swallow those negative things and many of them

take care of themselves.

So this differentiation, what began change and what we can

achieve it makes a major difference, or you will handle

the anxiety or depression or any other situation in life. Yes.

Once you make the

identify those things that you can change and work towards

bringing about a change in those areas.

Your capacity to handle and restructure your life

will be substantially improved. Leading to

calmness. Jove, presidents, huh? This is so beautiful. I feel so

calm and content right now. Because

I feel Yeah, it all resonates what you do. And it is very

simple. We just have to, yeah, take baby steps, very small

steps. And do what you said in writing out a list and

differentiate between things we can control and things that are

out of our control. And then we can, yeah,

live. Another thing. Another thing I'll suggest is, in

addition to that, find a buddy.

You know, who you can discuss?

And who can help you? Like, let's say you need to go out to

work. But you don't feel like call your buddy and say, Hey, I

should be working in lead buddies. support that time in

Alcoholics Anonymous, and all those kinds of things. Yeah,

have somebody some person who can you and your spirits a bit

down? You don't want to do it. But you know, you need to do it.

Yes. Yeah. To be accountable. Yeah. To have the social support

and accountability. And yeah, that makes lots of sense too.

And third thing is third thing, yes.

keep a journal of your positive accomplishments.

And then go over it every now and then to reinforce that

positive healing as possible.

positive changes are possible, because when people are really

anxious, or depressed or otherwise out of source, they

develop what they call memory loss.

You know, they can not everything seen they develop it.

The only way to come out of the tunnel vision is to reconnect

things that you have done in the past and when successful,

reviewing them

give you a positive reinforcement and renewed

strength, people.

Those are the three things I suggest. Yes, like very, very

powerful. I will make sure to write them down and put them in

the show notes.

And then yeah, maybe also your contact info if there's people

out there who want to reach out to you.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to to making the time and

to sharing your wisdom here today with us. It was so very

precious. And yeah, thank you so much. You're most welcome. My

You're most welcome. My suggestion as for contacting me

will be they'll need to come through you. You can contact

because I am involved in so many things that I do not have to

make individual calls. I will make sure that they contact me

first and then I forward.

Yeah, then I will be glad to answer your questions as needed.

Wonderful. Thank you so much. If I say welcome. Thank you for

asking me to come on your program. And anything else in

the future I may help to facilitate please let me know.

So much. Bye. Bye. Have a blessed day. You too.

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