Welcome to episode 33 of the Quit Vaping Podcast. You guys, I'm so stupid. Do you ever make a joke and then you realize absolutely how funny that joke was and you're laughing yourself? I'm sitting in my apartment laughing by myself. And yeah, I do that all the time. Like I'll say something like tongue in cheek and then I think about it.

I'm like, God, that was really funny. And then I'll start laughing. And like, I can literally just stare at a wall and make myself laugh, uh, pretty much indefinitely. So if you have not quit vaping yet, and you like the information and you like me and we're building a relationship and like, you have a good time in this podcast and you're learning a lot.

Uh, consider buying the vape course, listen, it's 97. It's going to help you apply what you learned in this podcast. If it helps you quit vaping forever, I cannot see how that ever wouldn't be worth 97 and I really want this to work for you. So if you buy it and you're like, there's something you're not happy about, please reach out to me.

Like this is going to be a loving relationship and I really do want this material to work for everybody in this podcast. I talk about the concepts in the course. I actually teach you how to apply them so that you can quit. Without shaving yourself without beating yourself up permanently and actually remove your desire to vape.

Remember if you change your thoughts, learn how to process your emotions, quitting vaping actually happens permanently and eventually. It may be quicker than you think you won't even have desire to vape anymore. So that's awesome. I think that people are scared to go look at the course sales page and actually get into it because they're thinking like, Oh no, I have to quit right now if I get the course.

And that isn't the case. You'll have the course forever and it's just two and a half hours. You take it. You can take it once. You can take it five times. You can take it over a course of a month or a year. Like take it as slowly as you want. And here's the news. Like even if you take the course, you don't have to quit after you can just take the course, have the information, be practicing the tools inside.

And then when you're ready to quit. Which remember readiness is a decision, not a feeling, then you can quit way easier than you would if you wouldn't have taken the course. I promise you that is the goal. That's the material that's information and we're here for it. All right. So today we are talking about something called a yo yo vaping, and I just came up with this term this morning.

I don't know if you guys have heard of like yo yo dating or yo yo dieting, but pretty much the term means that you're like constantly on and then off and then on and then off. So I was talking to my brother this morning and remember guys, I don't do this stuff and force it on people's throats. There's a lot of people in my life still who use nicotine, who it's totally okay.

Like I don't judge. I don't shame. I don't care if you're vaping. If you want to quit, I absolutely will help you. And I think that my tools are the best in the world to do that, but I'm not going to judge you for vaping, you know, when it's right for you, if it's ever right for you, then you can quit. But my brother's both vapes.

So it's been about two years since I really quit and they are still vaping. And my brother has this thing where he's constantly yo yo. Quitting. I love him to death. Um, but yeah, he's never made a serious commitment to want to. And really he's never like my brothers are never, ever going to listen to this podcast and no one in my family is actually going to listen to this.

I know my dad, like a while ago was telling people I helped him quit smoking, but I have not helped him. He has not done my material. He has not actually done this work, so he's never, I don't think going to quit permanently and he's smoking again. So. There's a lot of people in my life who are still smoking and vaping and that's okay.

It's not a big deal, but I talk to my brothers all the time and I will say it's very tempting for me when they're playing their world's smallest violin about vaping and like, Oh, I want to quit, but it's just like all this stuff. And it's so hard. Like it is tempting for me to be like, you know what, I don't want to hear it, but I'm not going to do that.

Cause I love them. And also they teach me so much about what it's like to currently be a vapor because I am two years out. And although I know exactly what it's like to be a nicotine addict and all this, it's nice to have that. That fresh reminder of all the little struggles and drama. So they're my best teachers.

I love them so much. And they're just the best. My brother has this idea that you can have a casual relationship with nicotine. And I was talking to him on the phone last week. And what he said was, I don't ever see myself truly giving up. Nicotine, I just want to use it for special occasions like weddings or when I go on vacation.

And if you guys have been listening for a while, you will know that that thought, just the actual idea of giving it up, giving up nicotine means that he must be thinking he's going to have. Not as much fun or not as good of a life without nicotine. So I can tell you exactly why he doesn't want to quit because he's thinking his life's better with it.

So that's a huge thinking error right there. Obviously I'm not going to coach my brother, you know, no matter how tempted I am, but he doesn't want to quit. So he didn't come to me to want to quit. He came to me just, you know, and we talk about it all the time because I talked about my life and tell him about the podcast and how much it's helping people and all this stuff.

And I'm not saying that to make him quit. I just am genuinely excited about the work I'm putting into the world. So. I didn't tell him this, but I don't personally believe you can have a casual relationship with nicotine. And I don't believe that with every substance. Like, there are certain substances, like food, like sugary foods, like donuts.

There's a donut cake that is by my house in Oxford, Michigan. Um, they make the donut cake and it's like literally a giant deep fried donut that they just, like, it's so good. It's got glaze on it. Oh my god. And I don't ever want to stop eating sugar permanently. I don't eat it most of the time, but I think that I can have a casual relationship with sugar.

I think I can also have a casual relationship with alcohol. Like I can drink on special occasions. So that's one that I think can fit in. Now the reason why I don't think you can have a casual relationship with nicotine is because nicotine is very addictive on my 25th birthday. Two weeks before I quit vaping with my twin brother, not the one I'm referring to the other brother.

I have two and we quit vaping. And then two weeks later, we decided to buy each other at the time it was, um, Mr. Vapor, I think made these little tiny sticks vapes. They're like, they lasted for like a day. So we both decided we're just going to do this one day on our birthday. We'll vape again as a treat.

That's my mindset. So obviously back then I thought I was giving something up to quit vaping. Well, no wonder why it was so hard for me to quit. So we got ourselves vapes for our birthday and I would say we opened them at 8 AM. We were all excited. This was during quarantine. So of course, great time to start vaping when COVID is going around.

And, um, We were by 1130. I remember vividly, I remember sitting down at the kitchen table downstairs three and a half hours after I opened the vape and I was like fully in addict mode again. It was shocking how fast I got addicted. And then by the end of the day, I was completely hooked. But I can tell you from a personal experience that it took about three and a half hours for me to get pretty much addicted to nicotine again after not touching it for two weeks when remember about two to three weeks after all the nicotine is gone.

So I, I really wasn't chemically addicted the morning, but by 1130 am I sure was. So this is why I don't think you can have a casual relationship with nicotine because imagine and this is, this is funny cause I watch you guys, I watch you, I see you. The podcast numbers drop from Friday to Sunday. It's so funny.

Sunday night they pick up again. It's like. I know that people are like, Ooh, I'm not going to quit. Like I'm going to grab a vape on Friday and then I'll quit on Monday. But the problem with doing this over and over again is that you're re addicting yourself to nicotine. So you're literally quitting.

You're going through the three to four days of irritability that does indeed happen. Like, I'm not, I'm not going to say that it's the easiest thing ever. Like there is a time for like three days to two weeks ish, depending on how. Um, you know, your body and how long it takes for you specifically where you are chemically addicted to nicotine.

So, yes, the emotional tools I teach you are amazing. They're going to help you understand that the difference between a emotional urge and just a urge to use nicotine or a craving. They're going to help you actually sit through those cravings. But for you to put yourself... into a situation every week or where you're casually re addicting yourself to a drug to get un addicted.

I don't see that as a casual relationship. I see that as creating so much unnecessary suffering in your life. So when it comes to having like a casual addiction with vaping or yo yo vaping where you're on and then you're off and then you're on and then you're off. I don't think that that's a reasonable way to live your life.

I just don't see it that way. So when my brother told me last week that he wants to have a casual relationship with nicotine, I'm like, ah, I just, it felt very wrong to me. And again, there are things that I think you can have a casual relationship with, but when it comes to nicotine, you know, I've heard this, I don't know how true this is, so please don't quote me in like a scientific journal, but I've heard that quitting nicotine.

Is the same addiction level as heroin. I don't wanna put that thought in your head. I'm sure you've heard that before. I don't want to like have you believe that and make it more difficult to quit. That's an optional thought to think, but it's an addictive substance. The whole point is like, it's addictive.

So why would you keep getting addicted? To get unaddicted? To get addicted, to get unaddicted? That's just a never ending cycle of suffering and misery. And remember when you're going through this addiction and this unaddiction phase, like so much energy and thoughts and emotion and desire is going into that process.

So it's not just about like you having to sit through quitting and be irritable and then start again and then re fortify all the belief work that you've done. And just go back and forth and make no progress. It's about who you're not becoming when all of your attention is being focused on that process.

Like, what if you didn't have any of that drama? I promise you, if you didn't have any of that drama and you were feeling your emotions, you'd be going after big goals for yourself that you aren't going after when you're raping. I just promise you that's just a fact of how desire works in your body. So When it comes to being a casual relationship with nicotine, I simply choose that that's not a possibility.

And that belief I want you to consider for yourself. I never want to, with this work, tell you what to believe. I want to tell you what I believe. I want to tell you why I believe it. And then I want you to critically think about how that belief affects your life. And if it's a belief that you want to believe for yourself.

I yo yo vaped for yo yo ma. Sorry, I can't help myself. That just like, I don't know if that just popped in my mind. It's like, I couldn't not say it. So I yo yo vaped for literally seven years. And before that I yo yo smoked cigarettes and yo yo smoked hookah and yo yo ate nicotine lozenges. And the reason that I was doing all that genuinely is because I never really wanted to.

Do this work and look at how vaping wasn't actually positively affected by life. So when you think that you need it for special occasions, what that tells me as someone who understands the mind as a life coach who understands thought work is that you believe that your life won't be as good without nicotine.

That's the belief that we need to change. If you want to quit without desire and if you want to stop yo yoing back and forth. And I promise you that belief is changeable and we don't need to force you to believe something new. We can just logically work our way into new beliefs. That's exactly what the Quit Vaping course is going to help you do.

So when it comes to yo yo vaping, I really want to question like, is, you sit down and you can do this work. Like, is your life actually better when you think you need to casually addict yourself to drugs in order to have a good time? And then this brings me to my next point. If you need to use nicotine and you need to be literally on a drug all day long at an event like a wedding, Why would you even go to that wedding?

I was sitting at my friend's house the other day. I went to a friend's birthday party and I have this habit, you guys, because I am a human being and I do this work and I still have the habit of wanting to overeat when I'm bored. And I was at a house party and I was just in like some boring ass non stimulating conversation.

I love my friends so much, but it was just like the same old shit. You know what I mean? I've been friends with them forever. It's like, Oh, what's the next. Event or party or like what? Just boring surface level shit. And I like having very stimulating conversation at parties. I don't have to, I can go into a party and be the life of the party, but I get bored if it's just not stimulating the whole time.

So I noticed that I overeat when I'm bored. That's always been a thing for me. I've. Over the last three years starting doing this work, and I know now when I'm bored or anxious, I have a tendency to want to overeat to get away from those emotions. And I was at the party and I was just snacking on chips and I caught myself and I left the house that day.

It was great. Like we finished the party. It was all nice and wonderful and I haven't been drinking either. So I find myself that obviously, you know, I've been using alcohol my whole life to get away from boredom and anxiety as well. Um, go figure. So I haven't been drinking this month cause I'm doing this meditation challenge and I was at that party, not doing anything.

All that, all that was there to distract me. Since there was no good conversation that people wanted to have was food. So, I left that house and I'm like, Oh my gosh, if I am so bored at a party that I feel the need to sit there and just want to snack food, and I have to try to coach myself out of wanting to eat over boredom, what if I just didn't put myself in a situation where I was so bored to begin with?

So I want to offer this to you. If you are so not happy with the life you're in, that you need to vape to tolerate it, Maybe when you cut out vaping, you could just find something better to do with your time. And it sounds so simple. Like, you guys, I've been doing this work for so long. I had this revelation, like, oh my god, maybe I just shouldn't go to parties I'm bored at anymore.

Maybe I should find more stimulating things to do with my time. But it's just so funny, I had that revelation, I'm like, and I was tempted to want to beat myself up for like, I'm a life coach, how is it so obvious that if I'm bored I should just not go to places I'm bored, and I just shouldn't have to coach myself out of being bored at places I can just not go.

So any kind of time that we're avoiding our emotions with things like nicotine, alcohol, overeating, the reason that we're doing that is because it's allowing us to tolerate a life that we're not happy in. So you can do two things. You can either coach yourself into just not getting out of emotions, which I recommend, but sometimes the best move.

It's just to not put yourself in situations where you need to coach yourself out of getting out of negative emotions. Do something that's actually meaningful and stimulating, and maybe you won't have so much boredom and anxiety at a party on a Saturday night. So this has been a really good episode. Um, if you want to decide to yo yo quit and yo yo vape your whole life and you want to re addict yourself and un addict yourself and you think that's not going to harm you or stop you from becoming the best version of yourself.

I disagree, but you decide that for yourself. If you want to quit for good, the course is going to help you. It's amazing. I consider it the best course in the world for quitting vaping because it's going to teach you how to love yourself enough to quit without shame or guilt. It's also going to teach you the foundational tools that's going to help you build the rest of your life.

And I have seen no other vaping course or information do that. So this is just a banging course and it's great and you will not regret signing up for it. And if for any reason, again, like you guys. If for any reason, somebody is freaking out and then they spend the 97. They're not happy. Reach out to me.

My shit, my contact shits all over the page. I want you to quit. I want to help you. I want you to be so blown away with the 97 you spent that you're like, holy God, this is amazing. So yes. When you, when you win, I win. That's how business works, baby. It is that simple. So if you spend money with me, I want you to be blown away with the money you spent in such a positive way.

Have a fantastic day. You guys, thank you for being here. I will see you on the next episode next week.