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And I used to take their pain,

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had them close their eyes and they were really "ow, pain", they couldn't move,

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it just couldn't put any weight on it and everything else. And I would say,

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"Describe the pain.

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What do you perceive?" Because you cannot have a sensation or a feeling without

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content in the mind.

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I've been interested in this topic for a long time.

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When I was in professional school,

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I actually did a presentation on the origins of pain.

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And that led me to studying all different topics.

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John Bonica's work, classical work on the area of pain and neurology,

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from New York, The Yellow Emperor's Classic,

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Chinese acupuncture to you name it. Even back into the great philosophers.

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What exactly is pain? What exactly is pleasure? Why are they there?

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What's it about? So I'm going to start with a quote.

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Well,

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a paraphrased quote of a ancient Greek philosopher

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named Anaxagoras,

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he's the one that really had an influence on my thinking of pain,

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since I was 23.

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He said that pain and pleasure are lopsided perceptions.

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Now,

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most of us when we bang our shin on a table or something

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and go "Ow"

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we create a stimulus on little nerve endings called

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nociceptors, which are pain nerve endings, C fibers they call them,

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that go up into the spinal cord from the dorsal root of the spinal cord.

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Go up the tracks of the spinal cord all the way up to the thalamus.

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And there there's a gating mechanism based on our cortical perceptions

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to allow us to either experience or not.

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And with that cortex, the higher brain systems,

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we have the capacity to take that stimulus and associate it with many

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different things. For instance, if I,

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let's take your thumb,

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put your thumb on a table and I slammed it with a

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sledgehammer and "Ow, ow,

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whoa!" You're just, you feel like you broke your thumb and smashed it.

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If you just take that out of, in that context, you'll probably think, "Wow,

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that's painful." You're angry, you're resentful, et cetera.

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But imagine if I was to take that thumb and put it there and I say, "Well,

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here's the deal. I'm going to give you a billion dollars cash.

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Tax-Free.

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A week traveling with the most admired

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celebrity you could imagine, or supermodel or superstar that you'd want to meet,

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and they would be your escort for a week,

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traveling around the world in private jets and going to all the villas and all

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the luxury places in the world.

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And you also had the opportunity to have a brand new mansion

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or something." I mean,

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I gave you and I stacked up all of the fantasies that you might've wanted in

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your life. I'm just making those up, those aren't really important to me,

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but just imagine all of those. Whatever you imagined and you associate it that

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"When I slam my thumb, I get all that."

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If you perceive more advantage than disadvantage to all those things,

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which may not be real true, but if you imagined it that way,

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you could actually go "Yes,

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slam that sucker!" And if I told you that I would make sure that any damage to

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your thumb would be repaired perfectly,

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and in three weeks you'd never even know it had a bruise,

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and a surgeon would take care of it.

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And you would have just three weeks of a little bit of aggravation from that,

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from that slamming. But you have,

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you got that now freedom to do what you want to do, your own private jets,

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your own this and that. I bet if you would do that,

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I bet your perception of that pain would be different.

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You'd be celebrating that pain instead of "ow".

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When I was in practice years ago, this is nearly 40.

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I had a patient with osteosarcoma,

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which is a eroding clastic disease that basically eats the

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femur heads on the femur,

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which is down in the hips and it eats away the bone and eventually you

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can't stand and it breaks.

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And the pain is pretty enormous according to what most people describe.

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And I used to take their pain, had them close their eyes. They were really "Ow,

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pain". They couldn't move.

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It just couldn't put any weight on it and everything else. And I would say,

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"Describe the pain.

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What do you perceive?" Because you cannot have a sensation or a feeling without

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content in the mind. You can not have fear without content in the mind.

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You can not have pain without content in the mind.

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There's a representation and an association that's

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the moment you're perceiving pain. So I would have them,

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this lady go and describe her pain. Is it throbbing?

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Is it stationary? Is it moving? Is it again, stationary? Is it burning?

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What color is it? What smell does it bring? What sound does it have?

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And I would go in there and have her close her eyes and go and describe every

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detail and modality of sensation and submodality

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distinctions that just broke it down into just components.

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And whatever she would say, I would then take the opposite sensation,

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so she said, it's red and black, I'd say, okay,

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blue and white and say, it's you know,

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it's awful, it's ugly. I'd say it's beautiful and it's

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pretty. And what I would do is I would put her in her mind,

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the complete complimentary opposite perception and

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the box. And I would imagine her seeing this one,

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that's "ow" pain and this other one that represented the opposite pleasure,

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and whatever the modalities and distinctions she could

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I would come up with the complete opposite. And then I would imagine her,

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or she would have her imagine,

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that these two boxes are being slammed together and exploding each other and

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dissolving each other and birthing light,

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like a particle and antiparticle merging and making light.

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And I have her do this until there was nothing in her association she could find

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associated with the pain side and the other one was gone.

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They're just both just disappear, poof into energy.

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And she would have 75%, sometimes 90% reduction in pain.

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She could actually stand up and she goes, "Where's my pain?" I go,

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"It was in your representation in your brain." Now,

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if you've ever hit your shin, as I said earlier,

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and banged it on a table or something, you immediately went down and rubbed.

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It. "Ah, gosh.".

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And you probably cussed. You probably didn't say, oh, mcgillicuddy,

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you probably said some cuss words, something that you normally wouldn't say,

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that you normally repress in society.

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And the reason being is according to Melzack Wall,

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which is an old gate theory back in the 70s, that if you, mechano receptors,

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which are tactile receptors, that you touch your thing and rub it,

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those are large diameter neurons that go up into the thalamus and close the

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sensory perception of pain and shut it off where you can't perceive the

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pain. And if you then say cuss words or whatever,

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they release endorphins and enkephalins,

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believe it or not cussing serves a biological value because it releases opium

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opioids in the brain, enkephalins, endorphins, et cetera.

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And so what does is it makes you feel pleasure and shuts down the

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pain and modulates the pain. And all of a sudden you feel, "oh,

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that's a lot easier." So you rub it,

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you keep rubbing it like that and you keep going.

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And then what happens is those are changing the ratios of the transmitters.

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See every time you change your ratios of perception,

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you change neurotransmitters, modulators, regulators, and hormones in the body,

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all of the regulators, transmitters, hormones, et cetera,

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are all based on ratios of perceptions, not just pain perception,

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but any perception.

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If I make you associate a pleasure with something in visual,

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if you perceive it very visual, those transmitters of pleasure would go up.

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And if you saw something painful and disgusting it

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you'd have substances like p substance, which is substance P,

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which is a pain polypeptide or a series of transmitters.

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So your ratios of perception have a lot to do with the ratios of the hormones,

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transmitters,

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and regulators in the brain and the ratios of what nerves are activated.

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See when you stimulate some nerve ending, there are nerve endings for pain.

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There are no nerve endings for pleasure that so far they've found.

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Isn't that interesting? We have pain sensitivities,

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but we have modulators from the areas of the brain based on association to

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determine whether or not that pain is going to be pleasure or pain. If say,

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I can turn it in where if all of a sudden you found out that your husband was

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late and he had stains on his collar and you thought,

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"What the heck has he done?" And you immediately jump to the conclusion and

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perceive that he's been having an affair or something.

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And then you find out that the reason he's late, it's not because of affair,

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is that there was a traffic fatality on the highway,

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a crash. And he was trying to save people's lives.

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He got out of his car and he went out and tried to help them. Now he's late.

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And he's got marks holding the person who was nearly dying,

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getting them to a place where he could get to the hospital.

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Then you all of a sudden, you think, "well, this is terrible, this is pain".

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And all of a sudden you find out new information and

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hug the person.

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The same particular stimulus now has a different association with it and now you

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are attracted instead of repelled.

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We have an area of the brain called the amygdala, which is a desire center.

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It has a nucleus accumbens from pleasure, if it's stimulated,

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and has another one, the pallidum for pain.

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And this amygdala is kind of a desire center,

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desire to avoid the pain and desire to seek the pleasure, avoid the predator,

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which could eat you, which could chew you up and make you painful, or the prey,

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which is food and makes you feel good.

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That's why people get consumption and eat a lot, to feel good.

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A lot of people who are in pain eat to try to feel better because it stimulates

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the nucleus accumbens.

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What's interesting is if you have perceptions of things that support your

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values,

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you can actually take the pain threshold and change it.

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If you have perceptions that see more challenges that represent predator,

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that pain can be heightened. You can take any stimulus and heighten it.

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You've probably had little ulcers in your mouth, and

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if all of a sudden you find something else that's stressing you,

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aggravating you, the pain even more aggravated, like

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if all of a sudden you get focused on something that's not even bothering you

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and it's actually invigorating, inspiring you and supporting you,

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the pain levels can change.

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Your pain and pleasure as Anaxagoras said are based on lopsided perceptions or

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ratios of perception, better put. So you can change your perceptions.

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When a pain stimulus comes in from the dorsal root of the spinal cord from some

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injury, what's interesting is,

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it has fibers that go immediately over to the other side of the body to avoid

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and get your arms and legs on the opposite side of the body of the contralateral

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side of the body to respond, to go out.

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But it also sends fibers up into the middle of the brain, or into the,

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up the spinal cord,

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into the brain stem and different levels of the brain all the way up to the

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cortex, all the way up to the thalamus and then the cortex, and also has,

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so it has, because sometimes it has to turn your head, from the pain,

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sometimes to blink, sometimes it has to respond and speak.

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So various levels of the brain are activated to get

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that you're perceiving.

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And you also have all kinds of different layers of the brain that are actually

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modulating and governing that response.

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And so depending on the associations in the brain,

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you can modulate that response and calm it down or accentuate it.

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You can dramatize it if you polarize it further and you can completely

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neutralize it and turn it into pleasure, if you stack up enough associations,

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like I said, the billionaire and the private jet, everything else,

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the slumber slamming of the thumb. And when I've asked people in seminars,

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if I slammed their thumb,

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but I gave him a billion dollars plus a private jet and a big home and

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everything else, they'd say "slam it baby, slam it",

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because the associations were more benefit than drawback and they'd endure it

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and not even think about the pain as much because they think, "wow,

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I've got these opportunities,

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amount of the work I would have to do to have that lifestyle,

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now I got I just to have a slam on the thing for a few weeks of discomfort."

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And that wouldn't even be discomfort possibly because the brain would represent

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it differently.

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We have the capacity to transform our perceptions of pain and pleasure. And,

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this is interesting. You have a thing called acute pain,

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which is usually from some sort of destruction of a nerve ending,

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or destruction of a cell that's causing, you know,

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release of inflammatory responses and we cause pain,

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but that's acute pain.

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That's a real biological thing that we can trace it down a nerve to a place

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where there's some sort of inflammatory response, heat, swelling, and pain,

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et cetera. But you also have chronic pain,

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there's no biological reason for the pain,

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but we have pain that is because we have more associations and

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advantages than disadvantages. It's called glial pain.

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And glial pain are ten to one times the number of neurons in the brain,

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they're there to modulate and regulate the nerves.

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And they respond to our intentions and attentions.

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And if we have an intention to actually get advantages over

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disadvantage that prolong the pain, we will keep the pain going.

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I had a lady in at the Miriam Hotel in Dublin, and this is so cool.

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So she had, was referred to me by another doctor there and

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she said that she's claimed that she's had pain her whole life. I'm went,

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"Okay." Ever since she can remember. And I go,

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"Okay." And all her life she's had pain. I said, "Okay.

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So what's the benefit of your pain?" She goes, "Well,

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there's no benefit to the pain." I go, "I know,

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I know that's what your perception is, but let's,

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what's the benefit of the pain? Cause nobody's going to chronically keep pain.

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Nobody's going to do anything without an advantage, without over disadvantage.

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So if there's no biologic, she'd been to specialists,

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no biological reason for the pain, they've ruled it out.

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They can't find any source of pain, but she's got pain. And I said,

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"So no one is going to continue to do something unless they perceive more

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advantage than disadvantage. Everything is strategic." So I said,

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"So what's the advantage you're getting out of the pain?" She goes,

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"I can't think of any." I said,

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"Look again." "I don't know." "Look again." And after

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prodding her for about probably 7, 8 minutes,

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all of a sudden she came to a realization. She said, "Well, people listen to me.

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They do things for me." "Okay, great. What else?"

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"They feel sorry for me." "Good.

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What else?" So if you tell people about your pain,

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they're attentive to it? At least some of them,

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some people are." "Yeah." And we just kept asking,

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"What's another benefit of the pain?"

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And all of a sudden she just got tears in her eyes. And she said, "Wow. I

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just, all of a sudden thought about when I first had it,

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I just remembered a moment when I first noticed the pain." She had a sister

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who was really good-looking, very active in school and academic,

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and sports wise, an exceptional girl.

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And the parents gave her a lot of attention because

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getting good grades and, you know,

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winning things in sports and Ms. Popular, and she was like,

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you can't do anything wrong kind of thing. Well, the girl, her sister,

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person with pain, could never compete with that.

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So the way she got attention was injury, pain,

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stomach ache. And that way she would get the attention from the parents,

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and she found out that she was doing,

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and all of a sudden she remembered that and she looked at me and she said,

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"Do you think it's really possible that I've been doing that all my life?"

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And I go, "Yep. So what's the benefit of the pain?"

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Huh, and all of a sudden she started crying and she goes,

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"Wow, could I have actually done this?" I said, "Yeah." She says,

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"Nobody's ever asked me this question, what's the benefit of my pain." I said,

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"I know.

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And what would be the drawback if you got out of pain?" I asked her that one

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too. I said, if you got rid of all your pain, what's the, you'll have a fantasy.

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People have a fantasy.

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We've got to realize that many philosophers have

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are like on a spectrum. Others believe they're isolated.

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My observation is that they're pairs of opposites, kinda like Heraclitus said.

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And these pairs of opposites, if you, the more, let's just imagine this.

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Let's say you meet somebody that you're highly infatuated with.

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And you've got this fantasy about who they're going to be.

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You're conscious of the upside. You're unconscious of the downside.

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And the pleasure of being with them,

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imagine if all of a sudden they disappeared and

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right? Some other male or female, took them away from you. The pain of,

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you would feel pain of the loss.

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You'd have grief and sensations of grief because of the infatuation.

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But if you resented them and somebody took them away, you'd be relieved.

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So when you resent somebody and you stack up associations that are more pain

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than pleasure, and you see more drawbacks and benefits, if they leave you,

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there's a relief. If they come near you, it's a pain.

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Being around them is a pain.

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But if all of a sudden you're infatuated with somebody,

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if they leave you there's pain. And if they get around you, there's pleasure.

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Because of associations you make in your brain.

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And I've been teaching in the Breakthrough Experience, my signature program,

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I've taught for 32 years plus,

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that I can change any form, you can associate anything with anything.

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You can change a heaven into a hell or a hell into heaven as John Milton said,

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by asking quality questions to make you conscious of the unconscious

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information that you're not aware of.

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And when you actually bring it into balance, you transcend pain and pleasure.

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You actually experience love. I know that sounds crazy,

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but I've been doing it for years.

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The second you bring your perceptions into perfect balance there's a feeling of

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order, there's a feeling of appreciation and love there.

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So I think what the brain does is actually tries to modulate and homeostate

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the perceptions that are pain or pleasure,

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and to try to bring it back into balance so you can be authentic because

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otherwise when you're in pain, you can justify your aggression,

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and if you're in pleasure, you can justify your passiveness.

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And these are two expression repression.

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Some philosophers thought that pain and pleasure are just expressions and

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repressions of perception. And I really believe that's true.

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So if I take and ask you,

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what's the drawback to somebody you're infatuated with and calm it down,

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the fear of loss of them goes down.

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I've been doing that on 4,000 cases of death with grief,

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with my Demartini Method, it's amazing watching it.

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And if I take the thing that you resent and I showed you the upsides,

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all of a sudden, the fear of them coming in your life is gone.

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So the pain of them coming near you has disappeared.

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And the pain of them leaving you has disappeared.

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Which means that you can take and ask quality questions and ask these questions,

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answer, make new associations in the brain, and change the transmitters,

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because the ratios affect the transmitters, the

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the physiology, and the response,

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and literally fill in gaps where the normal stimuli

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sets up reflexes and synaptic reflexes, and transmitters.

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You fill in those gaps so that you can't sensate that pain.

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It's really amazing.

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So the reception of the pain in the brain itself can be overruled,

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just like mechanoreceptors and saying cuss words can fill in with transmitters

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or make that other transmitter from the stimulus not there and you can actually

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neutralize the pain. So what I'm really leading to here,

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is what Anaxagoras said, and even John Bonica from New York,

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he said that pain is a private sensation of hurt, it has no, you might say,

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objective data to support it other than you have nociceptors that show

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inflammation. That doesn't mean that you have pain. Cause you've,

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they have done studies where people have the same amount of inflammatory

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response and tremendous differences in the gradation of pain.

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Some don't even respond. I had a guy named Buddy,

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Buddy Westinghouse, magnificent gentlemen. He was an ex rodeo star.

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He had no fingers left, cause he yanked his fingers off.

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He had a little bit of a thumb, that's about it.

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He yanked all his fingers off from rodeo.

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And he had broken ribs and he had skull fractures and he had, gosh,

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all kinds of things. His wife, Lily,

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was what they call a pusillanimous, and he was a stoic.

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You could hit him with a sledgehammer and he wouldn't feel the pain.

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He had minimized it. And you touch her, just touch her she goes, "Ooh",

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she was exaggerating the pain. Very common people in marriage,

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you'll find there's some people that are more exaggerated and more minimized in

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pain. The stoic that minimize it. And the pusillanimous that bring it on,

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the wussy's as they call them. And so it's,

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what is we have different set points for these pains and thresholds based on

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ratios of perceptions based on how we've seen life.

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If we have a fantasy about how life is, and life's not matching it,

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we can be depressed and in pain. And by the way, the same depression,

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reflexes and pathways are similar to being injured.

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So we're literally registering pain in our life because we're comparing our

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current reality to a fantasy.

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If we have a fantasy about how life's supposed to be and life doesn't match it,

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that's pain. If we have a nightmare and we've exceeded it, that's pleasure.

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Our thresholds are altered that way.

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We have a hedonic pathway and anhedonic pathway,

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pleasure and a pain pathway you might say,

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and they're all based on ratios of perceptions.

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So if I could take somebody that's got a chronic pain,

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like an osteosarcoma and knock it down 70 plus percent,

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90%, some cases.

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And I trained her on how to do that so when she was in a situation cause pain

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medications wasn't doing it.

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Pain medications were not really getting the whole picture because sometimes we

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have strategies.

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I had two people that both had cancer,

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and I worked with them in my office one time. And they were having,

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one had osteosarcoma and one had lung cancer and the one could barely breathe

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and the other one is in incredible pain, the other one's pain from breathing.

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And we had a major blowout communication system because they hadn't been,

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they'd been resenting each other for 52

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years, 53 years, almost.

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They hadn't made love in 53 years. Can you imagine that, being married?

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They were together because of religious beliefs.

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They didn't want to get divorced because they thought they're going to go to

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eternal damnation or something, some crazy thing like that.

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And they were still together,

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but they were resenting each other and they're both in pain,

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they both had cancer.

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And we sat down and got all the stuff out and had a big hash out in my office.

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Took few, took a while, and boy,

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and their pain threshold and their symptoms just subsided right on the spot.

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It was amazing.

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And they were told they had about two to three weeks to live both of them.

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And then they made it six more months. They did die,

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but they had six more months of communication.

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So our perceptions have an impact on, we have the capacity to alter it.

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Remember, you can't have fear of the unknown,

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you have fear of the content of your mind.

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You can't have resentment of the unknown,

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you have resentment of the perceptions and content of your mind.

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And you're not going to have pain without representation in the brain.

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And if you identify what that representation is and

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perception associated with it, you change your threshold.

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You may not completely eliminate the pain, of a physical, active pain,

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a crushing bone, for instance, but you can absolutely make a change in it.

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And that's been shown and demonstrated. I mean,

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people used hypnosis for decades,

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century where they go in there and change the representation of the brain and

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all of a sudden they don't feel certain things or they do feel something.

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So I just want you to know that you have the capacity. Now somebody might say,

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well, what, okay, so what's the purpose of pain and pleasure?

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This is a great question. I believe that pain and pleasure,

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support and challenge, ease and difficulty, you know, cooperation,

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competition, are both necessary for growth.

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Imagine you had nothing but a prey, food, that was pleasurable to eat,

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and there was no such thing as a predator,

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you would have a hedonic path that would be excessive.

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You could go into gluttony and fatness and gain weight and get obese,

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and then have certain symptoms in the body that would eventually wake you up and

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realize that's not the path, that's too much pleasure.

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You could also have something that's predator without prey,

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and you would end up having, you know,

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emaciation starvation because you'd never get to eat.

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But what's been shown in the food chain of biology is that you need pleasure and

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pain. You need support and challenge. You need the hedonistic and anhedonistic,

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you need to prey and the predator to keep you fit.

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Maximum fitness, maximum productivity, maximum fulfillment,

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the meaning,

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the mean between the pairs of opposites is the center.

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And I've defined love as being the synthesis and synchronicity of all

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complimentary opposites,

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because I've been doing the Breakthrough Experience for 32 years,

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and I've shown people how to balance out their perception with my Demartini

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Method. And the moment they balance it,

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they come to a point where there's tears of gratitude and they feel, thank you,

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I love you.

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So I'm gonna make a statement here that I believe that the purpose of pain and

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pleasure is to train us to be authentic and to

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appreciate and to love and to make sure that we're moderated in our

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behavior and have wisdom, the old Cardinal virtues of the Greeks,

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to allow us to see things as they are, not as we subjectively biased them to be.

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You know,

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when we're out in the wild and we are seeing prey and we've got to eat it like

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an animal, we accelerate with a subjective bias,

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the adrenaline stimulation to run after that animal and catch it.

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And if we see predator, we accelerate the adrenaline again to run away from it.

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So in survival modes, in our amygdala,

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we automatically skew things into pleasures and pains

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and to avoid being eaten, pleasure and pain.

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So we have the capacity with our executive function,

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the medial prefrontal cortex,

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that area sends fibers down and glutamate and GABA transmitters,

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and goes down and moderates those and calms down those distractions,

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cause the thing you infatuate with and seek, or the thing you avoid and resent,

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occupy your mind as a survival mechanism.

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But the second you're living by your highest values,

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doing what's really meaningful doing what's inspiring to you,

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those calm down and the degree of pleasure and pain,

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calm down and center themselves. And what's interesting, the very center,

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the amygdala, the very centers for pleasure and pain,

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the pain center and the pleasure stimulus

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they're there moderating the pain so we can literally neutralize it.

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So if we're living by our highest values, doing what is most meaningful,

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doing something, we love doing something that inspires us naturally,

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something we can't wait to get up in the morning and do,

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we will reduce the extremes of pleasure and pain,

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the fantasies and nightmares of life. And remember the more the fantasy of life,

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the more life compared to it, is miserable. So that's a pain.

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So anytime you separate that, that's what Anaxagoras said,

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it's the separation of the distinction of pain and pleasure that gives these

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responses and the lopsided perceptions.

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So if we moderate those and neutralize that, the executive center,

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the forebrain,

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the most advanced part of the brain modulates and moderates the polarities of

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perception. That's why if you see, when you have pain and ask,

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how specifically is this pain helping me fulfill what's most meaningful to me

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and answer that question,

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I guarantee you that pain will drop as you're sitting there answering that

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question. And if you have pleasure, ask,

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what's the downside of the pleasure? You can neutralize the pleasure.

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Your intuition is constantly trying to make you conscious of the unconscious

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information

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that's trying to moderate and neutralize things so you can maximize your

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fitness, maximize your fulfillment.

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So I believe that pain and pleasure are feedback mechanisms guiding us to the

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most authentic, inspired, purposeful life,

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to do something we really love with the people we love.

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It's acting as a mechanism to help us fulfill that.

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It's not just survival oriented.

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It's also survival scaled up to thrival. If we're living in survival,

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we're going to be sitting there and having probably the pain and pleasure's run

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us and be run by the outside world.

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If we actually moderate it by doing something that's deeply meaningful and

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connecting both pain and pleasure to meaning, that's the key,

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the Stoics did that, they premeditated on the so-called evils,

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the pains that could go wrong with an objective to prepare for and mitigate the

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risks, to balance out the rewards, the rewards of pleasure, the risks for pain.

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They brought them into balance,

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and then they pursued their action and they got greater results.

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People that are only looking at fantasies and then unprepared for the

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nightmares,

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get distressed and people that are prepared for both sides get eustress.

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And eustress is wellness promoting and moderates the so-called pains and

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pleasures. So our brain, our physiology,

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our nervous system,

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is set up in such a way that we have the capacity to transform our life.

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And that's the beauty of this whole thing,

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it's not what happens to us on the outside, it's how we perceive,

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what we decide to do with it, and how we act upon it.

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So if we go in there and take advantage of this information,

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it just might transform your awareness of the pains and pleasures in your life.

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The next time you're in pain, play with this, maybe watch this video a few times

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so some of that sinks in and inculcate and experiment with it,

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because I've seen people that have been,

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I had a lady that was live at a seminar in my to 7 day program,

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the Prophecy 1 Experience, where

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I'm helping people become prophets of their destiny instead of victims of their

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history. And in that program,

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a lady literally started to get up from under a table,

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she lifted her foot under a table and ripped the top of it,

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about two and a half inches, about literally about three

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It was a bloody mess and she screamed and they ran and got

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ice and they got, you know, towels and all kinds of stuff.

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And while she was doing that, they held the skin,

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put the skin back on it and just kind of held it down and put pressure on it

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because she didn't want to run and walk. Somebody else did it for her.

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And we did I said,

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this is the perfect opportunity right now to demonstrate this.

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And at first people thought that was kind of cruel, but I actually took that,

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identified what the pains were right there on the spot, found out the opposites,

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did the exercise right there and calmed it down 35%,

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literally in a matter of minutes.

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And the lady was blown away and her husband was just blown away. She says,

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I can't believe the pain's down.

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And so by the time people got back with everything else we were already starting

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to reduce the pain perceptions, because we stacked up new associations.

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So don't let the outer world run your life,

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let the voice and the vision on the inside.

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Let the wisdom that you gain on the inside,

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moderate the extremes on the outside, and then you're in command.

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Otherwise the world around you is going to run you. And know this,

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my observation is people that get cocky and manic and get elated and

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get addicted to fantasies and get really elated,

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'pride before the fall' is the old saying,

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are more likely to injure themselves and have that.

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And the pain is there to bring into their life,

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to calm down their addiction to fantasies and pleasures.

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Pain is actually your friend, it's not your enemy if you put it into context.

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And so,

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just wanted to give that feedback today and give you some insight on what pain

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and pleasure is and the purpose of it.

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I think it's trying to help you be authentic.

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It's helping you do something you really love to do.

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And if you want to get a book,

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get a book called The Brilliant Function of Pain by Milton Ward.

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He shows that without pain, your life isn't going to do too well.

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Might read that.

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I used to give all my patients that little book and give them a summary of it to

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make sure they understood the importance of pain. Pain,

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and pleasure are both necessary. That's why they're there,

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to help you fulfill your mission in life. Now, just a little reminder here,

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I have an upcoming program,

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Experience programs and other programs is showing people how things are that go

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on in their life that they think are mistakes, how they're not,

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and what's the hidden order of why they're manifesting their life. You know,

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disorder is simply missing information, unconscious information.

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If you answer the question and take the entropy and turn it back into negentropy

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and find the hidden order of it, and the reasons why,

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you transform your life from mystery to something even more

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profoundly, where you're taking command of your life and living by design.

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