1 00:00:08,016 --> 00:00:11,406 Well, hello there, my friend welcome aboard to the daily podcast. 2 00:00:11,556 --> 00:00:12,966 Have you listened in before? 3 00:00:13,416 --> 00:00:14,196 Are we all friends? 4 00:00:14,196 --> 00:00:17,196 You and I, but if you, if you're brand new listener, welcome aboard of your Regulus 5 00:00:17,226 --> 00:00:18,336 night, it is good to have you back. 6 00:00:18,336 --> 00:00:20,556 My name is Jonathan Doyle, this my friend. 7 00:00:21,156 --> 00:00:22,206 It's the daily podcast. 8 00:00:22,416 --> 00:00:24,786 It is called the daily podcast because yes, you guessed it. 9 00:00:24,786 --> 00:00:27,606 I try to do it every single day, 365 days a year. 10 00:00:28,056 --> 00:00:28,716 Often people go. 11 00:00:28,716 --> 00:00:29,526 Why do you do it every day? 12 00:00:29,526 --> 00:00:30,666 People are going to listen to it every day. 13 00:00:30,696 --> 00:00:33,426 Well, it seems that they actually are listening to it every day. 14 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00:01:28,716 And then I really get behind you as a coach and get you moving forward. 42 00:01:28,986 --> 00:01:29,976 It could be your business. 43 00:01:30,006 --> 00:01:32,676 It could be your relationships could be health and fitness, whatever it is. 44 00:01:33,216 --> 00:01:33,906 Let's get on a call. 45 00:01:33,906 --> 00:01:35,316 So go check out that coaching link friends. 46 00:01:35,316 --> 00:01:38,136 I hope you had a chance to listen to yesterday's episode. 47 00:01:38,706 --> 00:01:41,346 Where I shared some really deep insights from a book I've just 48 00:01:41,346 --> 00:01:43,176 finished by a guy called Jay stringer. 49 00:01:43,476 --> 00:01:44,496 It's a really deep episode. 50 00:01:44,496 --> 00:01:45,456 We looked at shame. 51 00:01:45,456 --> 00:01:46,716 We looked at past scripts. 52 00:01:46,746 --> 00:01:48,906 We looked at what we looked at, what keeps us in failure. 53 00:01:49,356 --> 00:01:51,966 So I really think that was pretty cool yesterday. 54 00:01:51,996 --> 00:01:52,956 So go check it out today. 55 00:01:52,956 --> 00:01:55,596 We're going to keep heading along that same path together. 56 00:01:56,196 --> 00:01:57,906 The, uh, I am on a journey. 57 00:01:58,716 --> 00:02:01,326 I'm on a journey of exploring shame. 58 00:02:01,386 --> 00:02:05,646 I have been reading a whole bunch of books about this this morning at about 5:00 AM. 59 00:02:06,156 --> 00:02:10,836 I had my heavy pack on, I went and did like a long, long rock, long hike. 60 00:02:11,496 --> 00:02:15,366 Listening to an 11 hour book at the moment on a, from a clinical 61 00:02:15,366 --> 00:02:17,406 psychotherapist on shame. 62 00:02:18,186 --> 00:02:20,946 I just think there's a really interesting concept that affects so many people. 63 00:02:20,946 --> 00:02:21,636 So many of us. 64 00:02:22,086 --> 00:02:23,016 At a very deep level. 65 00:02:23,466 --> 00:02:26,886 And I'm currently simultaneously reading Kurt Thompson's book 66 00:02:26,916 --> 00:02:28,626 called the soul of shame. 67 00:02:29,256 --> 00:02:34,536 And the start of this book is a kind of exploration of neurobiology. 68 00:02:34,536 --> 00:02:38,856 It's just this wonderful emerging field that takes, uh, how 69 00:02:38,856 --> 00:02:39,636 would I explain this to you? 70 00:02:39,636 --> 00:02:40,926 If you think of how. 71 00:02:41,406 --> 00:02:43,146 You know, psychology has developed. 72 00:02:43,326 --> 00:02:46,536 I started to say to people that the first psychological textbook only 73 00:02:46,566 --> 00:02:48,636 appeared in 1901 by William James. 74 00:02:48,996 --> 00:02:53,196 It's the first ever book on psychology and you go back further and say, well, a 75 00:02:53,196 --> 00:02:56,406 lot of the great philosophers, even Plato and Aristotle were talking about matters 76 00:02:56,406 --> 00:02:59,136 of the soul, which kind of reflect this. 77 00:02:59,676 --> 00:03:02,706 This fascinating aspect of what it means to be human, this deep 78 00:03:02,736 --> 00:03:04,476 inner state that we all possess. 79 00:03:04,956 --> 00:03:07,656 And then of course, you've got the three VNS schools, the 80 00:03:07,686 --> 00:03:09,306 psychotherapy you've got Freud. 81 00:03:10,026 --> 00:03:10,536 And then color. 82 00:03:10,956 --> 00:03:13,176 And then the third Viennese school with Victor Frankl. 83 00:03:13,656 --> 00:03:18,486 All of this I'm getting at is that it's a relatively new discipline, but 84 00:03:18,486 --> 00:03:22,806 now what we're seeing is the merging of that sort of psychodynamic stuff. 85 00:03:22,836 --> 00:03:25,506 The psychotherapeutic areas, Freud even. 86 00:03:25,566 --> 00:03:27,426 You know, like I said earlier, Plato Aristotle. 87 00:03:27,966 --> 00:03:31,356 All the way through the centuries, but now we're because of the 88 00:03:31,356 --> 00:03:33,246 advances of the hard sciences. 89 00:03:33,246 --> 00:03:36,426 We're able to get a much better insight into the actual physical 90 00:03:36,426 --> 00:03:39,696 working of the brains, neurobiology the structure of the brain and how 91 00:03:39,696 --> 00:03:41,286 to fix how we live, think and feel. 92 00:03:41,766 --> 00:03:44,646 So what's good about this book, soul of shame by Kurt Thompson is that 93 00:03:44,676 --> 00:03:46,116 he's bringing these things together. 94 00:03:46,716 --> 00:03:50,616 He's bringing together the neuro-biological, the spiritual 95 00:03:50,856 --> 00:03:53,916 he's running from a Christian perspective and the therapeutic. 96 00:03:53,916 --> 00:03:58,296 So I just want to give you one quote that really jumped out at me and hopefully 97 00:03:58,296 --> 00:03:59,556 I can really make this useful for you. 98 00:03:59,586 --> 00:04:02,706 He says this, ultimately we become. 99 00:04:03,756 --> 00:04:05,856 What we pay attention to. 100 00:04:06,876 --> 00:04:10,206 And the options available to us at any time. 101 00:04:10,326 --> 00:04:16,986 Uh, myriad, the most important of which are located within us. 102 00:04:17,376 --> 00:04:18,036 One more time. 103 00:04:18,366 --> 00:04:21,876 Ultimately, we become what we pay attention to and the options 104 00:04:21,876 --> 00:04:23,286 available to us at any time. 105 00:04:23,556 --> 00:04:24,276 A myriad. 106 00:04:24,846 --> 00:04:27,726 The most important of which are located within us. 107 00:04:27,756 --> 00:04:29,526 This is a rich quote, my friend. 108 00:04:30,336 --> 00:04:32,436 First thing I want to draw your attention to is firstly, that this 109 00:04:32,466 --> 00:04:33,456 guy is quite brilliant, right? 110 00:04:33,456 --> 00:04:35,136 He's a highly educated person. 111 00:04:35,136 --> 00:04:38,376 And to write a phrase like this, ultimately we become 112 00:04:38,376 --> 00:04:39,696 what we pay attention to. 113 00:04:40,296 --> 00:04:43,626 Think about the profundity of that and think about what it means, if he's right. 114 00:04:44,406 --> 00:04:45,246 If he's right. 115 00:04:45,846 --> 00:04:48,336 He saying that where we place our attention. 116 00:04:48,696 --> 00:04:52,956 Determines who and what we become in the journey of life. 117 00:04:53,706 --> 00:04:57,576 So, as I said yesterday, I want you to understand that there are theoretically. 118 00:04:58,026 --> 00:05:02,256 Millions hundreds, moons, even billions of things that you could 119 00:05:02,256 --> 00:05:05,586 pay attention to at any given moment. 120 00:05:06,606 --> 00:05:08,226 So there's the physical world around you. 121 00:05:08,226 --> 00:05:09,306 There's the temperature in the room. 122 00:05:09,306 --> 00:05:09,936 There's the lights. 123 00:05:09,936 --> 00:05:11,076 There's the things that surround you. 124 00:05:11,076 --> 00:05:12,906 There's the feeling of clothing on your body. 125 00:05:13,416 --> 00:05:16,236 You could pay attention to any of that, right? 126 00:05:16,536 --> 00:05:17,136 Theoretically. 127 00:05:18,156 --> 00:05:21,846 So as we go through life, there's this constant process by which we 128 00:05:21,846 --> 00:05:24,246 make decisions about where we place. 129 00:05:24,696 --> 00:05:26,226 Uh, attention. 130 00:05:27,486 --> 00:05:30,306 So, what I want to do is take a big leap here and think about the times in life. 131 00:05:30,306 --> 00:05:34,266 When we struggle with things like depression or anxiety, for example, 132 00:05:34,266 --> 00:05:36,786 cause they're the big ones that are plaguing so much of modern life. 133 00:05:37,656 --> 00:05:39,546 If we're going through these things, think about where our, 134 00:05:39,636 --> 00:05:42,096 where our attention is now often. 135 00:05:42,366 --> 00:05:43,596 You know, in a depressive state. 136 00:05:44,496 --> 00:05:46,266 Our attention will be upon. 137 00:05:46,866 --> 00:05:51,726 The experience of low energy, our attention will be upon our brain is 138 00:05:51,726 --> 00:05:54,306 a meaning making machine our mind. 139 00:05:55,056 --> 00:05:56,616 So it's looking for meanings. 140 00:05:56,616 --> 00:05:57,756 Why do I feel this way? 141 00:05:57,906 --> 00:06:03,006 Oh, it's because I am ex because I'm no good at, because this person 142 00:06:03,006 --> 00:06:06,606 said this because no one loves me because I always screw up because. 143 00:06:07,146 --> 00:06:10,896 You know, my parents were never there when I was a kid or I never knew my 144 00:06:10,926 --> 00:06:13,386 father or fill in the blanks now. 145 00:06:13,776 --> 00:06:16,896 I'm not diminishing or minimizing the significance and importance 146 00:06:16,896 --> 00:06:18,786 of any of these things. 147 00:06:20,256 --> 00:06:23,526 But what I am saying is that we have this incredible power to 148 00:06:23,526 --> 00:06:25,026 choose where we place our attention. 149 00:06:25,746 --> 00:06:27,156 So, let me give you some obvious examples. 150 00:06:27,186 --> 00:06:30,066 I was speaking to someone just the other day about the 151 00:06:30,066 --> 00:06:32,316 incredible book, the happiest man. 152 00:06:32,826 --> 00:06:33,546 Alive. 153 00:06:33,576 --> 00:06:34,926 I don't know if you've read that Edie. 154 00:06:34,926 --> 00:06:36,606 It's a book by a guy called Eddie Jack, who. 155 00:06:37,416 --> 00:06:38,316 And it blew my mind. 156 00:06:38,346 --> 00:06:41,856 I actually heard the audio version first, and then I bought about 157 00:06:41,856 --> 00:06:44,586 five copies as I do sometimes instead of giving them to people. 158 00:06:44,586 --> 00:06:46,896 So long story short, Eddie, Jack, who. 159 00:06:47,526 --> 00:06:50,436 Survives the most horrendous experience in world war II. 160 00:06:50,886 --> 00:06:53,706 It captured by the Nazis is families killed and. 161 00:06:54,336 --> 00:06:59,256 And just the experiences he's imprisoned in Auschwitz for the duration of the 162 00:06:59,256 --> 00:07:01,086 war, but manages to come out alive. 163 00:07:02,016 --> 00:07:04,536 And I remember exactly where I was. 164 00:07:04,536 --> 00:07:07,506 I was on a long training run when I really heard this 165 00:07:07,506 --> 00:07:08,886 profound part of the book where. 166 00:07:09,666 --> 00:07:11,256 He was repatriated. 167 00:07:12,156 --> 00:07:16,026 Oh, he was, you know, after the war, he emigrated, sorry to Australia. 168 00:07:16,656 --> 00:07:20,226 And set up a life in the beach side area, Bondai, which many of 169 00:07:20,226 --> 00:07:23,106 you would know is kind of like the Copacabana beach of Australia. 170 00:07:23,136 --> 00:07:24,186 It's sort of the beach. 171 00:07:24,816 --> 00:07:25,926 For tourists and stuff. 172 00:07:25,926 --> 00:07:27,696 And he started this real estate business. 173 00:07:27,696 --> 00:07:27,876 And. 174 00:07:28,776 --> 00:07:33,366 But his first son was born Michael and Eddie Jack, who was still dealing 175 00:07:33,366 --> 00:07:35,136 with this profound oppression. 176 00:07:35,376 --> 00:07:37,116 Just just understandably right. 177 00:07:37,956 --> 00:07:40,776 Because it look, think of all the loss and the trauma and the stuff. 178 00:07:40,866 --> 00:07:43,086 So think about where his attention was. 179 00:07:43,086 --> 00:07:43,266 Right. 180 00:07:43,266 --> 00:07:44,346 And his attention. 181 00:07:45,066 --> 00:07:46,716 Was understandably. 182 00:07:47,166 --> 00:07:51,696 Placed upon all the evil, all the loss, all the pain, all the. 183 00:07:52,206 --> 00:07:56,676 You know, the complete lack of justice and decency and all of that. 184 00:07:57,546 --> 00:08:01,416 But his son was born and he was living in this deep, dark depression. 185 00:08:02,196 --> 00:08:04,686 And he had this kind of a piffy when he suddenly realized 186 00:08:04,686 --> 00:08:05,886 that he had to change that. 187 00:08:06,546 --> 00:08:09,366 He held his son in his arms and realized that he had to change and. 188 00:08:10,266 --> 00:08:13,116 I love these stories because you know what he did, he, he just changed. 189 00:08:13,116 --> 00:08:14,736 He just literally changed. 190 00:08:15,366 --> 00:08:19,476 He became a fundamentally different person and started this incredible 191 00:08:19,476 --> 00:08:22,806 real estate business and did all this amazing stuff over the years and 192 00:08:22,806 --> 00:08:25,236 influenced huge numbers of people. 193 00:08:26,016 --> 00:08:29,526 And I'm going to argue that at least a very significant part of 194 00:08:29,526 --> 00:08:31,236 this was because his attention. 195 00:08:31,416 --> 00:08:31,896 Shifted. 196 00:08:32,406 --> 00:08:36,126 His attention was placed upon his son and his attention was shifted 197 00:08:36,126 --> 00:08:37,746 to the time that he did have left. 198 00:08:38,046 --> 00:08:40,836 And his attention was shifted to the things that he could still do. 199 00:08:41,706 --> 00:08:43,956 So let's come back to this Kurt Thompson quote. 200 00:08:43,956 --> 00:08:47,226 He says, ultimately, we become what we pay attention to. 201 00:08:48,036 --> 00:08:51,606 And the options available to us at any time, a myriad, of course, you understand 202 00:08:51,606 --> 00:08:55,716 myriad means multiple, but the most important of which are located within us. 203 00:08:57,006 --> 00:09:00,306 So think about the ability to place our attention internally on 204 00:09:00,306 --> 00:09:03,966 all the things that are missing, all the lack in our lives, all the 205 00:09:03,966 --> 00:09:06,006 ways we've been hurt or mistreated. 206 00:09:06,396 --> 00:09:11,076 We have utter complete freedom to place our attention upon those areas. 207 00:09:11,616 --> 00:09:13,236 Absolutely all the time. 208 00:09:13,296 --> 00:09:14,346 No problems. 209 00:09:15,426 --> 00:09:17,346 But we also have other options. 210 00:09:18,726 --> 00:09:21,816 And friends, if you're anything like me, I have struggled with this because 211 00:09:21,816 --> 00:09:24,456 I've been like in the midst of real pain at times in my life, I've been 212 00:09:24,456 --> 00:09:25,806 like, you want to be justified, right? 213 00:09:25,806 --> 00:09:29,166 You want to, you want to scream at the world, but I have every 214 00:09:29,166 --> 00:09:31,326 right to feel this way because. 215 00:09:32,016 --> 00:09:33,306 And absolutely. 216 00:09:34,266 --> 00:09:36,726 And over many years of speaking on stage, I've taught people. 217 00:09:36,726 --> 00:09:37,626 This principle I've said. 218 00:09:38,256 --> 00:09:42,576 You can come to me and you can list every single thing that's 219 00:09:42,576 --> 00:09:44,796 happened to you, how terrible it is. 220 00:09:45,516 --> 00:09:48,396 What it's done to you, why you are suffering. 221 00:09:49,206 --> 00:09:51,906 And then I'm going to listen to you carefully and I'm going to 222 00:09:51,906 --> 00:09:53,316 listen to you and pathic glee. 223 00:09:53,946 --> 00:09:56,496 And then at the end of it all, when you're finally blown out 224 00:09:56,526 --> 00:10:00,426 all of that emotion, energy, I'm going to say three words to you. 225 00:10:00,426 --> 00:10:01,806 And here are those three words. 226 00:10:02,616 --> 00:10:03,096 And. 227 00:10:03,606 --> 00:10:05,316 Now what. 228 00:10:07,656 --> 00:10:08,586 And now what. 229 00:10:09,666 --> 00:10:10,626 You'll probably right. 230 00:10:11,166 --> 00:10:13,386 And I understand that you would feel this way because what 231 00:10:13,386 --> 00:10:14,706 happened to you is terrible. 232 00:10:15,606 --> 00:10:16,836 But you still have to live. 233 00:10:17,496 --> 00:10:19,926 And you have to find a way to find meaning and move forward. 234 00:10:21,216 --> 00:10:24,246 And I just think that Kurt Thompson's offering is something quite extraordinary 235 00:10:24,246 --> 00:10:26,676 today, which is a decision around where we place our attention. 236 00:10:28,566 --> 00:10:31,326 So Franz, I turned 50 this year on December. 237 00:10:31,356 --> 00:10:33,426 The first I'll be turning 50 years of age. 238 00:10:33,456 --> 00:10:35,106 I still feel about 25. 239 00:10:35,946 --> 00:10:37,746 But I'm just struck. 240 00:10:38,376 --> 00:10:40,386 By the importance. 241 00:10:40,956 --> 00:10:42,306 Of how much time I have left. 242 00:10:43,266 --> 00:10:48,546 And how I want that time to be useful and the blessing and rich and joyful. 243 00:10:49,896 --> 00:10:52,926 You know, some of, you know, I've been camping a lot lately. 244 00:10:52,926 --> 00:10:55,896 I've been taking the kids out and we went out Friday night. 245 00:10:55,896 --> 00:10:58,056 I took them out into the national park. 246 00:10:58,296 --> 00:10:58,836 Um, 247 00:10:59,676 --> 00:11:02,136 Middle of nowhere and it was just the best. 248 00:11:02,226 --> 00:11:04,746 And we're just about, they're all about just to get into bed 249 00:11:04,746 --> 00:11:06,696 in the tent at about 10:00 PM. 250 00:11:06,726 --> 00:11:07,536 And I noticed. 251 00:11:08,166 --> 00:11:11,616 That the moon had come up and we walked around the corner of these 252 00:11:11,646 --> 00:11:16,836 trees and you had to be there I guess, but the moon was just artily spec 253 00:11:16,926 --> 00:11:20,886 tacular, because there was no light pollution and it was just incredible. 254 00:11:21,276 --> 00:11:24,276 And I've got these really good binoculars that I use for hunting, 255 00:11:24,276 --> 00:11:27,546 and I took them out and gave them to the kids and you could see every 256 00:11:27,546 --> 00:11:29,346 crater on the moon and it was like, 257 00:11:29,796 --> 00:11:33,006 Well, I'm telling you this because it was just this beautiful moment of. 258 00:11:33,606 --> 00:11:35,016 Or, and wonder. 259 00:11:35,526 --> 00:11:37,656 And being together and sharing it together. 260 00:11:39,126 --> 00:11:43,206 And I guess that we can choose to pay attention to these kinds of opportunities. 261 00:11:43,206 --> 00:11:46,506 We can choose to pay attention to the things that are beautiful around us. 262 00:11:46,986 --> 00:11:48,306 They're quite extraordinary. 263 00:11:49,326 --> 00:11:49,866 So. 264 00:11:51,036 --> 00:11:56,316 The last thing I wrote in these notes in preparing here is. 265 00:11:58,656 --> 00:12:00,306 Was that this is a discipline. 266 00:12:01,056 --> 00:12:02,796 It's a genuine discipline. 267 00:12:02,946 --> 00:12:07,296 It's very easy to just get on this microphone and say these words and 268 00:12:07,296 --> 00:12:08,646 people like, yeah, yeah, I get it. 269 00:12:08,676 --> 00:12:09,066 I get it. 270 00:12:09,216 --> 00:12:09,486 Yep. 271 00:12:09,516 --> 00:12:09,876 Sure. 272 00:12:09,876 --> 00:12:10,416 I understand. 273 00:12:11,646 --> 00:12:12,906 But how do we actually do this? 274 00:12:12,906 --> 00:12:16,026 Especially if you're not somebody that, you know, naturally gravitates 275 00:12:16,026 --> 00:12:17,616 to the optimistic or the positive. 276 00:12:18,816 --> 00:12:20,256 And I say it's a discipline. 277 00:12:20,346 --> 00:12:22,206 It becomes something that you practice. 278 00:12:22,356 --> 00:12:24,816 And like almost everything that I teach it requires. 279 00:12:26,676 --> 00:12:28,686 Awareness and being awake. 280 00:12:30,336 --> 00:12:33,396 Of removing things in your life that keep you asleep. 281 00:12:34,386 --> 00:12:35,586 So that you are awake. 282 00:12:36,546 --> 00:12:37,596 Because when you're awake. 283 00:12:38,436 --> 00:12:39,846 Metaphysically to life. 284 00:12:40,086 --> 00:12:43,716 Then you can begin to notice things like, yeah, I'm paying attention 285 00:12:43,716 --> 00:12:44,796 to everything that's missing. 286 00:12:45,306 --> 00:12:46,746 I'm paying attention to. 287 00:12:47,256 --> 00:12:50,526 All of these internal states that are not helping me move forward. 288 00:12:50,556 --> 00:12:52,536 I'm not talking about denying what you feel. 289 00:12:52,536 --> 00:12:54,006 I'm not saying you ignore things. 290 00:12:54,006 --> 00:12:54,696 I'm just saying. 291 00:12:56,346 --> 00:12:57,966 You don't have to pay attention. 292 00:12:58,956 --> 00:13:01,686 To all of the things that are not helping, maybe this helps. 293 00:13:01,686 --> 00:13:05,106 Maybe it's like you have a party at your house and you invite 50 guests and. 294 00:13:05,796 --> 00:13:07,536 And 49 of those guests. 295 00:13:07,836 --> 00:13:11,106 Uh, interesting, energetic, happy, positive. 296 00:13:11,466 --> 00:13:12,966 Greg grateful to be there. 297 00:13:12,966 --> 00:13:15,246 And you've got this one guest who's like miserable. 298 00:13:15,546 --> 00:13:18,186 And wants to complain about the temperature in your house, the food. 299 00:13:18,606 --> 00:13:21,186 Uh, remind you that you had a party five years ago, that wasn't 300 00:13:21,186 --> 00:13:22,806 very good and hit their surprise. 301 00:13:22,806 --> 00:13:24,006 Anybody came to this one. 302 00:13:24,636 --> 00:13:27,726 And you have 49 guests, you could be paying attention to. 303 00:13:27,876 --> 00:13:32,166 And those 49 guests are going to help you to enjoy yourself and to learn things 304 00:13:32,166 --> 00:13:33,606 from them and to have a great time. 305 00:13:34,236 --> 00:13:36,156 But you're paying attention to this one guest. 306 00:13:36,156 --> 00:13:36,606 I've done it. 307 00:13:37,746 --> 00:13:39,336 So maybe that's a helpful metaphor. 308 00:13:39,366 --> 00:13:41,136 Don't pay attention to the one guest. 309 00:13:42,126 --> 00:13:43,326 You don't have to deny there. 310 00:13:43,776 --> 00:13:45,306 You just smile and wave, right? 311 00:13:45,306 --> 00:13:46,806 Like, Hey, glad you could make it kind of. 312 00:13:47,526 --> 00:13:50,691 And then go and spend time focusing your attention on the 4 313 00:13:50,691 --> 00:13:52,806 49 guests that really light you up. 314 00:13:53,556 --> 00:13:54,396 To discipline her. 315 00:13:54,486 --> 00:13:55,896 It is a discipline. 316 00:13:55,986 --> 00:13:58,506 All right, that's it for me today, please make sure you've subscribed. 317 00:13:58,536 --> 00:14:00,036 Please make sure you have subscribed. 318 00:14:00,036 --> 00:14:01,056 That's very helpful for me. 319 00:14:01,506 --> 00:14:02,616 Go and check out the coaching link. 320 00:14:02,886 --> 00:14:04,536 If you want to do some coaching with me, we can work on 321 00:14:04,536 --> 00:14:05,436 this kind of stuff together. 322 00:14:05,436 --> 00:14:06,066 We can help you. 323 00:14:06,066 --> 00:14:08,436 I can help you to start paying attention. 324 00:14:08,736 --> 00:14:11,766 Not to what's wrecking your life, but towards you, what towards. 325 00:14:12,756 --> 00:14:15,486 What you want to go towards, if you understand what I mean, I want to help 326 00:14:15,486 --> 00:14:18,966 you focus your attention on the good things and the things that you still can 327 00:14:18,966 --> 00:14:22,476 do that are gonna move you forward to go book yourself a coaching session with me. 328 00:14:22,776 --> 00:14:23,856 All right, God bless everybody. 329 00:14:23,856 --> 00:14:24,726 My name is Jonathan Doyle. 330 00:14:24,726 --> 00:14:26,196 This has been the daily podcast. 331 00:14:26,196 --> 00:14:26,946 I've enjoyed this one. 332 00:14:26,946 --> 00:14:29,706 I hope it's a blessing to you and I'll have another message for you. 333 00:14:30,036 --> 00:14:30,576 Tomorrow.