Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. And I'm excited to be

spending some time with you today. And also excited to have

more and more people checking out the yard experience. This is

a physical location that I offer to connect with people to guide

people through intimacy classes with their partners, or loved

ones, yoga classes, relaxation classes, and in winter, excuse

me in winter. And next summer, I will also be offering little

tours around this beautiful country here where we hike in

snow shoes, or on groom trails and get a little bit of

exercising and, and genuine connection and then afterwards

meeting at the yeard for some relaxing, genuine connection

moments. So yeah, it's been quite the journey in the last

couple of months. But I'm very excited to meet you beautiful

listeners in person and light, it's such a blessing. Today, I

want to talk about your mind, and how your mind can create

Hell on Earth. By the way, my episodes are timeless and not

interrupted by any advertisement. And it is all for

free. So make the time and go through season one to season

eight. There will be episodes that are very really relatable

for any situation you're in right now. If it is feeling

stuck feeling troubled in, you know a relationship or having to

make a big decision or just overall, wanting to enjoy more

and depth connection with yourself and others around you.

I deeply encourage you to go back to season one. And to start

there. And to Yeah, find meditations find interviews,

find episodes where it's just me talking or sharing tips and

tools on how you can become the best version of yourself are

add. Let's talk about your mind and how your mind within seconds

can have you drift into a downward spiral. You get up in

the morning and feel well and excited. And go about your day,

go about your routines, maybe drive to work. And then

something happens. Be at you listening to you know, post a

video, something on social media, or be it a person, either

somebody you love and care about or somebody you don't even know

who makes a comment and all of a sudden shit goes south and your

day is ruined. Because for some reason you took something

personal, that others might not take personal we can talk about

triggers here. But yeah, sometimes our mind is just

simply a landmine, a warzone for triggers and we feel vulnerable

we feel on edge we feel criticized. And it's situation.

mind set, a mode that our mind can be and that is very

difficult to get out of, and how to snap out of it is really the

art here how to not believe every thought that you have,

especially when it comes to self doubt. When it comes to feeling

less than not enough, comparing yourself. It is part of the

human experience and it is the way our mind most of our minds

are wired to compare to be anxious and nervous to be on

edge. Especially if, if that's our normal, especially if we're

used to being nervous if you were used to being judgey

towards others, but especially ourselves, and it takes

training. It takes effort to get yourself out of this weird loop

and to feel good again, to feel good about yourself and to not

let your thoughts control who you are, what you are how you

serve your community. It is very tricky as a business owner,

right when you start a business, and you put yourself out there

with your heart and your blood, and you feel like people are not

really interested as much as you were hoping for, or you have a

successful business, and all of a sudden, somebody next door

opens up a business that is similar to yours, and they have

a different kind of success, an easier start or a better

marketing strategy. And that's crushing, that's very, very

difficult to, to go through these moments, but our mind can

usually worsen the situation. And it goes back to how we feel

about ourselves internally, without having a business

without having a relationship. That when we feel challenged, we

go back to maybe even childhood memories where we felt

inadequate, and less than for the first time. And it is really

important to get behind the stories. And to reframe them and

to know that this is a story that I'm telling myself. And it

might have been valid in the past at some point. But it is

not valid anymore. Or it was never even valid. We simply made

a conclusion about ourselves about others about the world.

And it's not even the truth. But at that time back then when we

made the conclusion, it was just an easy fix, to say that's how

we put our mind to sleep ourselves to sleep, that maybe

you know, all men are cheaters or all women are gold diggers or

all teachers and authority figures are just evil and want

to get us and mistreat us, right we we make all sorts of

conclusions when we feel hurt and disappointed. And our

mindset in the present moment might just fall back into that

memory. Your mind is an excellent time traveler and

excellent space traveler. An excellent traveler when it comes

to memories your minds business is to prevent future pain. So

your mind goes back to a painful memory when you feel indecisive

and fearful to protect you from making a mistake from making the

same mistake once over again. But sometimes it does you a huge

disservice. Especially when it comes to comparing yourself to

other people. You compare yourself to a person who might

see more healthy, might see more beautiful, prettier, handsome,

might seem more successful. And you diminish your value

drastically, you only see and the other person what you don't

have and what they have. But you don't see the reality your mind

starts distorting, to a degree that it's not even fair to the

other person because you put them on a pedestal and they have

their struggles too. But your self worth issues are fueling

your mind to be even more insecure than it is already. And

it's just such a shitshow to be in. It's such a detrimental

mindset to have and I know you're not doing it on purpose.

I'm not doing another purpose when it happens to me, but it

happens and to raise your awareness to sharpen your tools

when it comes to yourself awareness is so crucial in this

like in everything that I teach. And everything that I talked

about self awareness, I believe is the key to a genuine

connection to yourself and others. And to become aware that

when your mind slides into comparison, self doubt, self

destruct, sorry, self destruct mode,

you can just observe it You can take the back seat, and watch

this movie playing in front of you, as if you were sitting in a

movie theater. You just watch it for a while and see what your

mind your beautiful, beautiful mind comes up with beautiful

ideas or not so beautiful ideas to make you feel shitty. And to

not attach to these thoughts and to know that, oh, now your mind

is doing this negative, downward spiraling game again. Am I going

to hook into it? And believe it and allow my whole being to

slide into this? No, maybe I can question some of the thoughts

that I have. Really, is that person that I'm comparing myself

to? Better than me? Are they more successful? Maybe they have

tools and resources that I can claim in the future, maybe I can

learn from that person that I'm comparing myself to? Really is

my partner. What is an example I can bring up here? Yeah, is my

partner attracted to this person over there, because they have,

you know, a beautiful fancy car, and a beautiful body and they

look so healthy. And he always talks about how he enjoys having

friends that are healthy, and beautiful. And I don't feel

healthy and beautiful right now. So he's probably going to cheat

on me. And then that downward spiral, right. And when it comes

to your parents and your siblings and kind of feeling

that, yeah, your parents prefer your sibling. And yeah, they've

been doing way more, and they're more compassionate, and then

more present, and they're just overall a better person. And I'm

just the worst person and to just watch these thoughts in the

future. And to know that your mind is very capable to create

Hell on Earth. But you don't have to believe it, you don't

have to go after it. You can observe it. And maybe at the

beginning, not snap your snap self right out of it, but kind

of slowly navigate out of the situation. Because now you're

becoming more aware of what's going on, you know, now that

your minds default, is to go into a negative place of

comparison and insecurity and self doubt. And that it's

perfectly fine. But you don't have to believe it, you can

watch it. And the more you manage to watch it and not hook

into it, the more you can detach from it, dis identify from it

and know that your mind is just trying to protect you. And it's

not serving you in a way that suits you right now. And you

will focus it in on your breath, you can go for a walk and just

deeply tune into your environment. Or you can just

change the subject or do something else. Or spoil

yourself to a hot bath, a nice meal, would talk to a friend

about it and maybe joke about it and see that hey, your monkey

mind is,

you know, on this weird path, downward spiral,

and once again, and you're just trying to not hook into it. Like

the more we

are transparent about these things with the people we love,

the more we can connect to them and they might share with you

like here. Awesome. For me. I had a day like this yesterday,

and I felt like shit. Especially when you are a parent when you

are a business owner when you are a single and you hate being

single when you are in a relationship and you're just so

frustrated about certain things that are not going well. The

more we can talk about it and be transparent about it and just

human about it, the easier things will get and the less

charge things will have and drain our energies and just

Yeah, make us feel weird and lonely. So yeah, your mind is

beautiful. Your mind is a mystery and your mind is not

always your friend. And that's perfectly fine. We can become

the observer of our thoughts of our mind. And just know that

thoughts will pass by like clouds and we don't have to jump

on to Every cloud that applause

passes by, and believe it, we can question it or we can just

altogether drop it and not hook into it at all. All right, this

is my episode for you. I hope I didn't. Yeah. Just scream your

ear off.

take really good care of yourself.

If I can help you in any way when it comes to coaching if you

want to meet in person, if you want to have an experience

together when it comes to intimacy and deepening your

connection with other people in yourself, reach out to me. I'm

very excited to work with you and take really good care of

yourself. Until next time, Bye