Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis
Unknown:experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion
Unknown:on this beautiful journey called life. And I'm very excited to
Unknown:introduce you to Anthony Secilia today, a friend of mine who is
Unknown:an author,
Unknown:a really bad as author, I was honored to read into his book.
Unknown:Already that has not been published yet. It's called the
Unknown:footprints of funny feet. And it's a book written to dedicated
Unknown:to Anthony's nieces. And it is so
Unknown:very touching. And it is so exciting to read and funny story
Unknown:because you don't really
Unknown:know who he is, until you start reading and I feel you really
Unknown:get to know Anthony through his words. And yeah, we want to talk
Unknown:about his book today, we want to talk about his experience.
Unknown:During COVID. It was a very intense one, like for many
Unknown:people who are listening.
Unknown:But let's start with you, Anthony, and your beautiful book
Unknown:here. Welcome to the show.
Unknown:Thanks for having me. I appreciate your time today. Yes,
Unknown:you are so welcome. And I'm happy to get to know you in
Unknown:person here over zoom.
Unknown:So I didn't read the book back to back, of course, because
Unknown:there was not enough time. But I started reading at the point
Unknown:where you talk about Nero, your dad, and the relationship that
Unknown:you had with your dad. And I can relate very well. I love my my
Unknown:dad to pieces, but we also had very dark moments and difficult
Unknown:situations. But when I was reading about you and your dad,
Unknown:I could really see feel and sense your anger and frustration
Unknown:with him.
Unknown:How were you able to to overcome these dark feelings with your
Unknown:dad? Or would you say are you still?
Unknown:Yeah, in a in a difficult relationship with him.
Unknown:So that's a very funny story.
Unknown:I was sent to the ICU a couple times. And
Unknown:I was put in there because of blood loss. And
Unknown:I think I was there for about five days on interviewed is
Unknown:because I had lost like nearly half my blood. I had lost about
Unknown:80 units of blood, because I was just getting sick so often.
Unknown:But when I was in ICU,
Unknown:I called my uncle
Unknown:from Italy
Unknown:because they offered to do a endoscopy to see where I was
Unknown:bleeding. And
Unknown:my uncle called my father
Unknown:to
Unknown:go to the hospital to pick me up. Because I was pretty weak at
Unknown:the time and then my
Unknown:mother walked in. I think I was void as a ghost because you had
Unknown:to remember I just lost so much blood and
Unknown:my father
Unknown:suspecting that I would die.
Unknown:Basically apologize for everything he did.
Unknown:And that kind of snapped him out of the whole anger situation.
Unknown:Wow.
Unknown:Wow.
Unknown:So in face in the face of death. You suddenly had that really
Unknown:realisation Oh my God, what did I do? And can I can answer me
Unknown:Forgive me for it.
Unknown:Yeah. Holy shit.
Unknown:Yeah, it was quite a moment.
Unknown:Like I had I had nothing to say because I was too weak. Yeah.
Unknown:But like I heard him.
Unknown:Yeah, I heard him.
Unknown:I think he was trying. I think he was traumatized by the whole
Unknown:city.
Unknown:ration. Yeah.
Unknown:Like in general, like, they picked me up from the ICU vote
Unknown:five days later. And
Unknown:I just went home, and I sat on a chair and I just slept for like,
Unknown:a couple hours.
Unknown:And
Unknown:actually, I guess the hospital made a mistake. Because even
Unknown:though I lost blood, they forgot to say, well, you need some
Unknown:iron.
Unknown:You need some iron pills. So that I was going home, I was
Unknown:sleeping six, seven hours a day, for two weeks. When I said, I
Unknown:called up my doctor, I said, Why am I so exhausted? So then they
Unknown:did these
Unknown:blood tests on me, they're like, Oh, you only have 90 units, 100
Unknown:units of bloody. So we're going to put you on iron pills for the
Unknown:next three months. I said, Okay, that's fine. And
Unknown:so I went on iron pills for the next three months. And then
Unknown:after that, it was like, 160 units of blood, which is quite
Unknown:healthy.
Unknown:And then I slowly recovered from there.
Unknown:But
Unknown:yeah, like the whole experience of me having ulcers basically
Unknown:traumatize my parents enough to actually like, not physically
Unknown:bend to their knee, but emotionally bend their knee, and
Unknown:be like, we're gonna lose this kid. So we better make make
Unknown:things right before we don't have a chance to.
Unknown:That is so incredibly beautiful. And isn't it so crazy how it
Unknown:takes
Unknown:dramatic circumstances for a person to snap out of a mold.
Unknown:And at the same time, it's awesome. It's so great. But I
Unknown:also think fit doesn't always have to get to that point, I
Unknown:guess. I guess. So. I guess so.
Unknown:I guess for some people, you know, stubbornness. Italian.
Unknown:Yeah.
Unknown:But this is so great. This is this is very beautiful, that,
Unknown:that you were able to experience that and I'm sure for you
Unknown:emotionally. It gave you so much strength to hold on to life and,
Unknown:and to keep fighting for your health. And now Now you're doing
Unknown:way better, right? Yeah, I'm doing so much better. Yeah. So I
Unknown:had I had, I had separated my hip. While I was sleeping one
Unknown:night, I had a metal rod placed in my hip when I was in my early
Unknown:20s to restructure the bone
Unknown:because I had surgery related to my cerebral palsy.
Unknown:Well, in that surgery when I was when I was 20 years old, what
Unknown:they did was they went in and broke both my hips and placed
Unknown:metal rods in my head.
Unknown:Well, turns out 13 years later, the metal rod in one of the legs
Unknown:didn't didn't want to agree with the bone structures. So
Unknown:it dislocated one of the hips.
Unknown:And I woke up and pain and all that stuff. And so when I was in
Unknown:there in the hospital for hernia surgery,
Unknown:I had asked my thoracic surgery team if I could
Unknown:get some physical rehabilitation because at that point, after the
Unknown:hip injury, I walked in about four years.
Unknown:So I didn't want
Unknown:I lost the ability to walk in 2018 and I haven't walked since
Unknown:on my own without any aids or anything like that. So even
Unknown:though I have cerebral palsy, I'm pretty independent, and I
Unknown:walk
Unknown:pretty independently on my own without any support at all.
Unknown:That being said about I'm actually pretty tough on my
Unknown:bones because of that, but I'm also very stubborn because they
Unknown:don't want to rely on AIDS. And you're Italian that doesn't help
Unknown:either right? Yeah
Unknown:I'm not going to cut this out.
Unknown:So when I when I had a physical
Unknown:rehabilitation inside the hospital there.
Unknown:They told me that I've been have rehabilitation for about two
Unknown:weeks. And then I asked if I can go to a rehab center to actually
Unknown:finish the progress.
Unknown:But they sent me there. But unfortunately, the progress
Unknown:wasn't enough to convince the people at the rehab center that
Unknown:the surgery was a good idea. I had planned surgery for a hip
Unknown:replacement in May. But when the other hospital got wind that my
Unknown:hernia first open, they wanted to delay the surgery until I was
Unknown:better. Yeah, of course.
Unknown:But then
Unknown:the thoracic surgeon said, you know, you can operate on him and
Unknown:so many days,
Unknown:they gave me a 60 day window to do to do a hip surgery.
Unknown:Because they had done the hernia surgery, and it was a success.
Unknown:And then
Unknown:my thoracic surgeon gave me the clearance to do the hip surgery.
Unknown:I had the hip surgery in March 24,
Unknown:for the removal of steel rod that was infecting my leg and
Unknown:causing bursitis.
Unknown:Now because I had severe arthritis,
Unknown:there was there's no point in just leaving the leg the way it
Unknown:was.
Unknown:So
Unknown:I was told by my hip surgeon that I would have two surgeries
Unknown:and it wouldn't be staged. The first surgery would be the
Unknown:removal of a steel rod. And the second surgery wouldn't be the
Unknown:the need for total hip replacement on the left side.
Unknown:And he said, Well, you're probably the youngest guy you've
Unknown:ever had, that we've ever had to operate on, because you're only
Unknown:36.
Unknown:And I told him, I told him, Look, I know, we both give me a
Unknown:bad rap because I'm young. And you know, they don't want to
Unknown:operate on me because I'm a young guy, and I may need
Unknown:surgery in the future. And that scares people, because how many
Unknown:replacements will they're going to need for a young guy like
Unknown:myself.
Unknown:So that's why most surgeons, they don't want to touch me. But
Unknown:I made a deal with the surgeon, I said, well,
Unknown:thank you for doing that surgery. But like if, if I'm in
Unknown:pain,
Unknown:like if the pain is radiating through my head, and it's
Unknown:limiting my mobility to move, then we're gonna have to look at
Unknown:the possibility of getting me ahead. Even though I am young,
Unknown:and I get it.
Unknown:But you have to realize that the circumstances behind me needing
Unknown:surgery is different from someone that's say, able bodied
Unknown:or 80 years old. People that are 80 years old and have arthritis,
Unknown:get more hip replacements than people with disabilities.
Unknown:Because some of the doctors just believe that
Unknown:they have to wait it out, but I'm not that type of individual.
Unknown:So, for me,
Unknown:I hadn't gone to my hip surgeon, I said look like I need it. I
Unknown:need a hip surgery, my grades are hurting, I can't move. It's
Unknown:taking me three or singing me two or three nurses to get to
Unknown:the bathroom. Like this is terrible. I'm 36 years old. If I
Unknown:wait 10 more years, it's going to be 10 times worse. I need
Unknown:this now like
Unknown:and I told him like I said people want ice cream. But I
Unknown:want it like I need it.
Unknown:I want ice cream. But I need it. Like if this was my choice. I
Unknown:wouldn't want it but all but these these are the
Unknown:circumstances that led me do that. So he says he says okay,
Unknown:yeah, we'll
Unknown:give you the hip. And then
Unknown:we had planned for December.
Unknown:Like December just passed and of course with the pandemic and the
Unknown:shutdown the government.
Unknown:The whole regular war with that. They got postponed and then I
Unknown:got into hockey
Unknown:He selling tickets and stuff like that.
Unknown:Just to get my mind off of
Unknown:waiting,
Unknown:I want to, I wanted to stay busy doing something
Unknown:during a pandemic.
Unknown:And I realized, hey, you know, I used to be a sports reporter at
Unknown:college. And it was a pretty good one. If I remember, now, I
Unknown:don't think I'll be able to go into the broadcast booth right
Unknown:down in my condition, but I can ensure sell tickets. So that's
Unknown:what I ended up doing.
Unknown:And then what happened is, is that
Unknown:the arena shut down. And then, you know, there's so many
Unknown:problems with the mandatory mandates, and Ottawa and all
Unknown:that stuff. So I just kind of stepped away from it and
Unknown:cleared up a few things with my book and
Unknown:went to town on that.
Unknown:But the book itself was like
Unknown:I think I started it in September of 2021.
Unknown:And I had finished
Unknown:in
Unknown:just after December.
Unknown:And I had the fortunate
Unknown:circumstance of having a local publisher here, that gave me
Unknown:incentive to actually give me a contact information for
Unknown:photographer, she was really nice. I was really nervous about
Unknown:having my photo taken.
Unknown:Only because I didn't know how things were gonna go. Like, I'm
Unknown:not nervous at all to get my photo taken. But physically, I
Unknown:was nervous, because, you know, I'm in a wheelchair, I didn't
Unknown:know how things were gonna go. I didn't know if I was gonna
Unknown:challenge challenger in some way, or I didn't know if she was
Unknown:gonna be like, No, can't photograph you.
Unknown:But she was so nice. She was like, no, no, no, step into my
Unknown:studio work around that. And I'm like, That's so nice. So I ended
Unknown:up doing that. And
Unknown:so then,
Unknown:from the photoshoot, we ended up
Unknown:where I ended up working with a publisher to finalize some
Unknown:things and, you know, get some details. And then I went back to
Unknown:my surgeons on both sides. And I said, I want to turn this into a
Unknown:book, because I've been through a lot of junk. I've been through
Unknown:a lot of trials
Unknown:of stuff.
Unknown:And I want to turn this into a book. Can I have permission from
Unknown:you guys? To take my medical information and put it into a
Unknown:book?
Unknown:Oh, yeah, sure. It's your medical information.
Unknown:So they gave me the medical information.
Unknown:i Oh, I unfortunately, you know, I'm not a doctor. So I've had to
Unknown:skim through it. And I've had to understand some things. And
Unknown:I've had to actually work alongside the publisher, so he
Unknown:can
Unknown:not make it so that it's so much medical jargon, so that the
Unknown:ordinary person can understand what's going on. Yeah. Damn it
Unknown:down.
Unknown:Yeah. Translated language in itself, right. Yeah.
Unknown:So he's been working with me for about, I want to say two or
Unknown:three months. And, you know, the Publishing Group is pretty
Unknown:fantastic.
Unknown:But I never understood how much publishing the book would take.
Unknown:It's a lot of stress.
Unknown:But it's certainly a lot of fun.
Unknown:It's just a lot of work. Yeah, certainly, I was able to put the
Unknown:work in, but I didn't realize how much work it would entail.
Unknown:But I'm glad I did it. Because if I went to say, a Simon and
Unknown:Schuster type,
Unknown:publisher or a Barnes and Noble type publisher, you know, they
Unknown:probably want to talk to my work and it in their own little spin
Unknown:on it without very little input from me. So I'm happy I kind of
Unknown:went independently and kind of went self publishing route.
Unknown:Because then I maintain the integrity of the book.
Unknown:So that
Unknown:At least 100%. Yeah, so it's the publisher asking the questions.
Unknown:You want this picture here and you want this picture there and
Unknown:you want. What about this information? What about this
Unknown:chapter. And so it's constant correspondence with the
Unknown:publisher. And we're working together, like,
Unknown:through the weeks and months. It's just great. It's
Unknown:challenging for both of us. But
Unknown:you know, that's,
Unknown:that's the end zones of creating book.
Unknown:So sweet.
Unknown:Yeah, and I read in your book, also, that
Unknown:it wasn't always clear that you were going to become an author,
Unknown:like you went to school for it for journalism. And you went
Unknown:through your travels there and encountered obstacles. But for
Unknown:some reason, being a writer is way stronger than the obstacles
Unknown:that you you faced. And I find this so beautiful and inspiring
Unknown:for people to know that if you have a dream, if you feel that
Unknown:mission is coming through you, nothing can stop you.
Unknown:Yeah. So a little story about my writing, like, you say, it's,
Unknown:it's great. But I can tell you, like 10 years ago, my writing
Unknown:was horrible. Like,
Unknown:I don't even know how I got through elementary school or
Unknown:high school because my writing was horrible. Even in college,
Unknown:my writing was horrible. It wasn't until
Unknown:my hand conference with a new with a news writing teacher that
Unknown:says, Anthony, your writing is horrible, but you have the
Unknown:passion to write. But you're just all over the map. I said,
Unknown:Well, I don't have the skill. I don't have the skills to do
Unknown:this. What are the skills? What are the like? Because when you
Unknown:write for news, you gotta read in a certain way. Yeah.
Unknown:It's not like, what did you do last summer? Like, you know,
Unknown:it's not like one of those three reports. So I had to learn that
Unknown:skill. It was a huge learning curve for me.
Unknown:Like, there was moments where I just wanted to say, Oh, this
Unknown:professor has no idea what he's talking about.
Unknown:But it turns out he did.
Unknown:So he ended up taking me aside is that if you can actually
Unknown:understand what's happening, so it could be a good writer.
Unknown:He's like, I know you have the passion for it. Because I see it
Unknown:in your writing. You just lack, like, grammar or
Unknown:sentence structure when it comes to news, because you probably
Unknown:have never been taught that. I said, bingo, you're right on I
Unknown:had never been taught how to write news.
Unknown:This is why you're the teacher. Yeah. And
Unknown:it got to the point where I was about ready to fail. Like, the
Unknown:teachers were about ready to fail me.
Unknown:And
Unknown:I said, No, no dough family. I really want to do this broadcast
Unknown:thing. I really want to go and have a life in sports Don't fail
Unknown:me yet. Like don't give up yet. Like if I have to read a book,
Unknown:like throughout the summer to understand like, how news is
Unknown:written in proper format, and then I will do that.
Unknown:And so
Unknown:I don't think the teacher gave
Unknown:gave it much thought.
Unknown:And he basically said, What, okay, I'll give you a shot.
Unknown:But he basically
Unknown:kind of ripped me off, not, not expecting that I would actually
Unknown:come back and prove him wrong. But I wasn't trying to prove him
Unknown:wrong. I was trying to understand what he was trying to
Unknown:teach him.
Unknown:So, in college, we had a lot of time off, we get time off in May
Unknown:and then we go back in September.
Unknown:Well, this is around the time when
Unknown:the procedure Jackson books were very, like very influential in
Unknown:society. And I know a lot of people were Harry Potter fans, I
Unknown:wasn't, but like, back in the day, I said a mythology with a
Unknown:friend of mine.
Unknown:So I said, if I can read the entire series, out loud, maybe I
Unknown:can understand how to write news.
Unknown:So that's what I did. I went home
Unknown:sat on my parents farm. And I read five books in one summer,
Unknown:out loud, outside and
Unknown:outside on a hammock. And they had said, my parents had said,
Unknown:what do you do? I said, I'm getting ready for school. I want
Unknown:to know how to write news properly.
Unknown:And then
Unknown:I came back in September, and I was given a couple tests on news
Unknown:writing, because we're given news writing assignments. Once a
Unknown:week, twice a week. And
Unknown:the professor scored me 71. And he's like, Oh, you did good.
Unknown:7585. And then by the fourth week is like, what do you do?
Unknown:Because your writing is improved, like, what have you
Unknown:done? I said, Well, I went home and I read three pathology out
Unknown:loud, is like, really? I see? Of course I did. You told me to be
Unknown:better writer. And this is the writing that I understood until
Unknown:I applied it to news, right. And from that, like, he didn't
Unknown:question my ability to write again. I said, No, it's good
Unknown:that you challenged me. Because if he didn't challenge me, I
Unknown:probably would have said, Forget it. It's not worth the effort.
Unknown:But I realize now that because I've had a great teacher, and
Unknown:great teachers in journalism, like they help write the book
Unknown:without even realizing it, because it's their skill that
Unknown:helped me write this book. Like, I can have all the passion in
Unknown:the world. But if, if you don't know how to write a book that is
Unknown:struggling,
Unknown:no, no. Ah, that is so beautiful. I just said
Unknown:goosebumps all over my body. And it is.
Unknown:It is so fascinating, those moments where we feel challenged
Unknown:by another person. And at the same time, there is a part in us
Unknown:that says, No, but actually, they're right. And actually, I
Unknown:can accept the challenge. I'm not going to be a victim and cry
Unknown:in my corner, I'm going to sit down and apply what is taught to
Unknown:me, it also takes great teachers, yeah, if you had an
Unknown:asshole, as a teacher, who would formulate it in a way that made
Unknown:you feel shitty, and, you know, worthless, you might have not
Unknown:picked up that challenge. And
Unknown:but he had this, this talent to challenge you in the right way.
Unknown:Not too much, not not too little. And you, you attacted
Unknown:and tackled it and made something out of it. And I mean,
Unknown:everybody who's reading books, there's always the
Unknown:acknowledgments with the pre fast, where people mentioned
Unknown:other people that helped them. And so it takes it takes a huge
Unknown:team to create a book and not just a writer.
Unknown:And you got to, you got to admit to yourself that you can do it
Unknown:all you can do the perfect selfie, or you can do the
Unknown:perfect illustrations, you need other people, and so nice to, to
Unknown:reach out and then feel that people are on the same page and
Unknown:love your mission. And this is how we met as well. Right? You,
Unknown:you message to book and I'm excited for you. And now we're
Unknown:creating this beautiful podcast episode together. And this is
Unknown:how it all works. And it's it's beautiful. It's gorgeous.
Unknown:Yeah, connecting. Yeah, like social, connecting through
Unknown:social media.
Unknown:You know, especially when it comes to a book is so important.
Unknown:And I thought
Unknown:I thought for years how am I going to write this book because
Unknown:no one's going to write the story for me other than me
Unknown:because no one can understand it other than me.
Unknown:And I know I was in college and
Unknown:I went to college a couple of times and the reason I say that
Unknown:is because
Unknown:cerebral palsy for people that don't know it can wear you will
Unknown:pretty quick if you don't walk with any aids and like you said,
Unknown:I'm Italian so I'm stubborn.
Unknown:And my fiance was walking
Unknown:that's fine.
Unknown:So
Unknown:you
Unknown:So a lot of people don't realize this, that when you have CPE,
Unknown:and you're not walking with AIDS, and I realized is a lot
Unknown:later
Unknown:that your body breaks down a lot faster.
Unknown:It says if like you're competitive
Unknown:your competitive figure in sports, the only way I equate it
Unknown:is, I'm not a professional wrestler, but I think my body
Unknown:treated me as though I was one. So I constantly got burnt out.
Unknown:Because I was like treating my body like it was a runaway
Unknown:train, I couldn't get enough food, couldn't get enough
Unknown:calories, couldn't get enough proteins. And it felt that
Unknown:sometimes my body was like a running Ferrari.
Unknown:And I just,
Unknown:so I constantly got rundown. And then I developed
Unknown:a sense of gait, we need to slow this down, you need to go part
Unknown:time, because your body could not take it. I know you act
Unknown:pretty tough. But like, you have to understand and listen to your
Unknown:body at points, like you cannot run with the crowd. So
Unknown:just stop it like, slow down.
Unknown:And at that point, like I felt in college that I needed to run,
Unknown:run run, I was always running to class, because I was always
Unknown:late. And
Unknown:I don't know how it's possible, because I had a walker with me
Unknown:sometimes. And other times I wouldn't. And then other times,
Unknown:I would just run on through or have someone else carry my
Unknown:books. And but sometimes, like I was always late, I don't know
Unknown:how that's possible. Like I had. Like I said, I had a walker. So
Unknown:I had four wheels. And I had two feet. So I don't I don't know
Unknown:why I was late all the time. But I was.
Unknown:But then I developed and I understand why I was late
Unknown:because of the distance that it took me to get from one area of
Unknown:school to the other.
Unknown:The book wouldn't have been possible. If it wasn't for
Unknown:2007
Unknown:I had read a book called The lion's tail around the world
Unknown:spandex.
Unknown:And at that point, like I had wanted to get into the sports
Unknown:field, notably at that time professional wrestling. So I had
Unknown:I had known that I needed to study my stuff and know my
Unknown:stuff. But before I ended up doing that, I wanted to read
Unknown:books, so that I understood so that I understood the sport of
Unknown:professional wrestling.
Unknown:So that people wouldn't, you know, say, Oh, you don't belong
Unknown:here. You don't know this. You don't know that. So I took it
Unknown:upon myself. And I challenged myself.
Unknown:And I bought one wrestling book every month for like two years.
Unknown:And I read every wrestling book there was
Unknown:a got to the point where my brother and my cousins are like,
Unknown:they're nuts. That's like five grand of information just blown
Unknown:down the toys. Oh, no, I'm going to become the greatest writer
Unknown:that ever lived in sports. And I was so I was so determined. And
Unknown:I have determination now but in a different way. But like
Unknown:I think it was the the fall of 2007 that I ended up picking up
Unknown:the book, a lion's tail around the world spandex.
Unknown:And it was a book by Chris Jericho. And for the life of me.
Unknown:I can't remember any physical matches that he was ever in like
Unknown:he was a professional wrestling. And
Unknown:the stories about is his life. I can't remember anything about
Unknown:the book except one thing.
Unknown:So he talked about an injury his mother sustained while being in
Unknown:an altercation with her boyfriend at the time. And she
Unknown:sustained a spinal cord injury.
Unknown:She sustained a spinal cord injury that left her paralyzed.
Unknown:And when I read the book, and I read that chapter that stuck out
Unknown:to me,
Unknown:because I said, Now here's a crummy situation. And
Unknown:that's got to be awful to write about. But like I've been
Unknown:looking at my situation like
Unknown:How, how was my situation and hurt situation parallel to
Unknown:parallel to each other. And I'm like, Well, if Chris can write
Unknown:about that,
Unknown:no one else is going to write my story. So I better get off my
Unknown:butt, and get in the gym. But I better do it in a way that
Unknown:is safe for me. So I started working with the spinal cord
Unknown:coach, to
Unknown:build up my quadriceps and my arm muscles and stuff like that.
Unknown:And like, even the stretching is important to me. Stretching is
Unknown:so important to me.
Unknown:But I began to understand
Unknown:that that book was probably
Unknown:one of the books that I remember.
Unknown:I remember not being able to put it down.
Unknown:It got so I got so deep into it. Like I would come to the supper
Unknown:table, and I would carry the book with me. And I would I
Unknown:would eat, and I would, I would read, and my mom for the life
Unknown:recently put the book down. I said,
Unknown:this books about my life.
Unknown:And my mom's like, what do you read? I said, What's the moat
Unknown:arrested, stack all that stupid wrestling again.
Unknown:So
Unknown:I came to a realization that I needed to write
Unknown:the book, my way.
Unknown:But as long as I tried to write it, it never felt complete.
Unknown:Never felt it. I tried for a row, 10 years to write it, and
Unknown:sit down, actually go through it and go through it. It never ever
Unknown:felt complete. And then when I got the hernia surgery
Unknown:in January of 2021,
Unknown:the nurses has to have told me, they were looking after me at
Unknown:the time, they said, You're You're a young guy, you've been
Unknown:through a lot of garbage. Have you ever thought about writing
Unknown:the book.
Unknown:And without a, without a blink of an eye, I said, Well, if I
Unknown:write a book, you are gonna get the first copy, because you guys
Unknown:saved my life.
Unknown:And so
Unknown:it's after the, the hip surgeries that I had.
Unknown:I was placed in a long term care unit while I wait for this hip
Unknown:replacement. And I was brought here on July of 2021. And like,
Unknown:I formulated the book, chapter by chapter, and I sat down in a
Unknown:row. Okay, what, what are the chapters is going to look like?
Unknown:What are my experiences?
Unknown:Is it worth writing?
Unknown:Yes.
Unknown:And by December, like I finished the book, and then I went
Unknown:looking for the publisher, and
Unknown:the rest is history. But I ended up top, I ended up talking a lot
Unknown:about like the influence of versus book, a lion's tail
Unknown:around the world spandex a lot in the book itself. And I thank
Unknown:him for the inspiration behind the ability to write the book
Unknown:because, like, yeah, I wanted to write it.
Unknown:But I needed a good kick in the pants to do so. And so even
Unknown:though it took me 10 years, and I realized now why it took me 10
Unknown:years, it's because the book wasn't finished, because I
Unknown:hadn't done I wasn't done experiencing all that needed to
Unknown:be experienced. And I knew that after the hernia surgery, and
Unknown:the hip surgery, I knew that I would have enough material to
Unknown:finish the book. And then I would have no problem writing
Unknown:it. I just had to get off to a quiet place. And then I
Unknown:realized, hey, when I was in long term bear, there's nothing
Unknown:to do. So all you're doing is just typing. I know some of the
Unknown:residents here when I got here. There's they said, We can hear
Unknown:you typing through the walls.
Unknown:And
Unknown:I said, Well, yeah, I'm writing the book and then
Unknown:They staff hear that you're writing a book. How old are you?
Unknown:I'm like, I'm 36.
Unknown:And then there's they said, What are you writing in your book
Unknown:about? I said aloud to my challenges with CP. And what
Unknown:I've been inspired fun. What inspired by and influenced by
Unknown:all the things that I've experienced? They said, why
Unknown:don't we want to read it? I said, Well, I got to be written
Unknown:first. And
Unknown:so the generalities of the book, like it must have gone through,
Unknown:I think three or four different trials of does this work, just
Unknown:this work? Is that work? Can Can we include this in the book and
Unknown:we included that in the book? So originally,
Unknown:it had about 50 chapters. And then I'm like, no, this doesn't
Unknown:work. You know, I don't want to write about this. Because this
Unknown:is very small. I don't want to write about that. Because then
Unknown:you drag on or drag on, and I don't want to lose readership.
Unknown:Right. So then went from 50 to 23 chapters. And, you know, I, I
Unknown:read through it five or six times. And, you know, I don't
Unknown:want to toot my own horn. But this seems like a good quality
Unknown:book to me that I can actually send it to a publisher, a
Unknown:publisher would say, hey, it's a good book. Nice job.
Unknown:And so the rest is history.
Unknown:I find it so beautiful, how you describe that.
Unknown:You wanted to finish that book earlier. But for some reason, it
Unknown:didn't feel as if it was finished, and you took the time
Unknown:and all the experiences, and then finish the book. And now
Unknown:looking back, you realize, yeah, this is what it took, you can
Unknown:just start a book and finish it. I mean, probably some people can
Unknown:do that in a couple months. But if you really want, like, if you
Unknown:feel it's not finished, then you have to listen to that intuition
Unknown:and trust, that there's still proce progress happening, even
Unknown:though it doesn't really feel like it. Yeah, you're you're
Unknown:living, you're living in the moment, you're experiencing
Unknown:things that you think have nothing to do with the book. But
Unknown:then one day, Soon, it will all fall into place and, and create
Unknown:this beautiful piece of art. And one day, you might turn it into
Unknown:a movie maybe.
Unknown:I don't know, a
Unknown:lot of extra work. That doesn't matter. But you know, what I
Unknown:would love to see when we publish this book is that there
Unknown:is pictures in there, from a picture of your dad a picture of
Unknown:your mom, and to see faces to the characters that you describe
Unknown:so nicely.
Unknown:Because you, you write so vividly, and maybe it's just me,
Unknown:I just started to create pictures in my mind. And
Unknown:sometimes you're like, oh, no, that person looks totally
Unknown:different than I thought. Yeah.
Unknown:But this is so beautiful. Anthony, thank you so much for,
Unknown:for sharing all this with us. And I would like to ask you one
Unknown:last question. If sure if there is listeners right now who who
Unknown:listen to you. And they feel like they have a talent. But
Unknown:they might be stuck in a situation where they can't
Unknown:really pursue their talent.
Unknown:What would you what would you recommend? What would you
Unknown:give them as an inspiration to still explore the talent even
Unknown:though the time might not be right?
Unknown:I would say just be patient. If they realized talents there, but
Unknown:they realize the timing is off. I would just say keep the
Unknown:talent, but be patient but continue to work, work at the
Unknown:talent itself. Maybe not let it out entirely.
Unknown:I would say this.
Unknown:If you're a baseball player,
Unknown:and you realize you have a talent for baseball, but say the
Unknown:field is sold and you can't play
Unknown:but it's so important for
Unknown:the baseball player to
Unknown:Got to keep practicing in like any weather.
Unknown:Like, if it's raining, put on a raincoat or a tarp, and just get
Unknown:out there
Unknown:and throw the ball around.
Unknown:Because the timing isn't always going to be perfect.
Unknown:And so I realized that
Unknown:when I came to long term care, even though it's very
Unknown:uncomfortable for me to be here, it's uncomfortable for me to be
Unknown:here, because I'm only 36. And I'm dealing with people that are
Unknown:on their way out in life. And I'm just starting my life.
Unknown:So I realize I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, from a lot
Unknown:of these other people.
Unknown:And so the staff here realize that they see that, and they
Unknown:understand how difficult and challenging it is. And that's
Unknown:why I continue to read and continue to
Unknown:listen to music will continue to motivate myself to just keep
Unknown:going. Because, for me, this is just a waiting, like just a
Unknown:waiting room to get to get a hip. It's not a permanent
Unknown:fixture. And so I realized in the process of writing this
Unknown:book,
Unknown:The timing was never right, to actually write the book in the
Unknown:timing that I want it.
Unknown:Because I do experience some things. Like even though I've
Unknown:been in the hospital for about eight months, you would think
Unknown:you get a lot of downtime in the hospital, but you really don't.
Unknown:Because
Unknown:promotions that hurt new stuff.
Unknown:I was on my back
Unknown:then dealing with internal injuries, and then I was dealing
Unknown:with,
Unknown:you know, bow stuff. And
Unknown:so I realized at that point, like, writing book wasn't my
Unknown:first bird. Yeah. So So I realized when I went to rehab,
Unknown:that,
Unknown:okay, if I can get into a nice quiet place.
Unknown:And I don't have anything to do.
Unknown:For the next three months, I can do this. All I would need
Unknown:is my computer.
Unknown:I need to keep my medical notes.
Unknown:And they need to keep a journal of everything going on.
Unknown:So while I was in rehab, I asked to take photos. So I can put it
Unknown:in the book. And they're like what book? I said, Well, I'm
Unknown:going to write a book after this is all done.
Unknown:There. So are you serious? I said, Yes. I'm going to write a
Unknown:book about this whole experience. So you better be
Unknown:nice to Nero put some bad stuff in the bug.
Unknown:And so I realized that, at the time, coming to London there
Unknown:physically and emotionally was very uncomfortable for me.
Unknown:But it became the perfect situation where it could just
Unknown:slow down. Stay quiet, and just right.
Unknown:Not so crazy interesting.
Unknown:And I love how you see your situation now as temporary. I
Unknown:thought right away of Nelson Mandela, right. He was in prison
Unknown:for 27 years. And he knew one day he's going to be out there
Unknown:and
Unknown:you know, live a normal life again. And maybe you feel the
Unknown:same you feel imprisoned right now. But you're doing the very
Unknown:best out of it. And you're you're even creating something
Unknown:for all of us to enjoy.
Unknown:later on. So yeah, thank you so much for sharing all this with
Unknown:us. And I hope we stay connected.
Unknown:And absolutely, yeah, it was a great pleasure to have you here,
Unknown:Anthony.
Unknown:Thanks for
Unknown:Well, thank you so much for listening to today's episode. I
Unknown:hope we were able to give you inspiration for your life. It is
Unknown:so worth to fight for your dreams to never give up. And
Unknown:what I love about Anthony so much is that he doesn't make his
Unknown:cerebral policy, an excuse to not show up for himself. He's a
Unknown:fighter and a deep inspiration for so many out there. Thank you
Unknown:so much.
Unknown:For listening, thank you so much for supporting. If you haven't
Unknown:already, please subscribe and I will put Anthony's details
Unknown:contact information into the show notes. Alright, take care.
Unknown:Bye bye