Pastor Bob Thibodeau

Welcome to the Faith Based Business Podcast with your host, Pastor Bob Thibodeau.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau

On this podcast we interview fellow entrepreneurs who are willing to share their stories, their trials and their triumphs in business, all in an effort to help you avoid the same obstacles and to achieve success faster.

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But at all times, continue to rely on our faith to see us through to victory.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau

Now with today's guest, here is your host, Pastor Bob Thibodeau.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Hello everyone everywhere.

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Pastor Robert Thibodeau here.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Welcome to the Faith Based Business podcast.

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We are so blessed that you are joining us today.

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Hey folks, Pastor Bob here.

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We're back today in part two of just an absolutely fabulous interview with Stephen Falk, author of the Switched On CEO how to Think Like a World Class Leader.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Now, he has been dropping value bomb after value bomb in this interview and I went through his book.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I'm so excited about his book.

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And this interview is even more fabulous.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I've been taking notes as we go too.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I recommend you get a hold of his book and go through it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Stephen has put together an absolutely wonderful program in this Switched on CEO and his expertise is on getting you to run the business better and have people join it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I'm not going to sit here and explain it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I want to jump back into the conclusion of this interview.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Let him explain it as we go because he does a lot better job at it than Pastor Bob could do.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Alright, let's jump back into the interview now with Stephen Falk.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well explain the importance of this concept and how it can be used to help foster greater information sharing, really, without putting anyone on the defense.

Stephen Falk

Sure.

Stephen Falk

So let's, let's grab Wildfire for a second.

Stephen Falk

Right.

Stephen Falk

And so they have a briefing every complex fire.

Stephen Falk

So there's 400 people standing at 7 o'clock in the morning waiting for their briefing.

Stephen Falk

And the briefing's like 15 minutes.

Stephen Falk

And so there is no time for fluff.

Stephen Falk

There really isn't.

Stephen Falk

So they go through ops, they go through communications, they go through weather, they go through all the different.

Stephen Falk

Each person gets a little sound bite.

Stephen Falk

So it'll be very easy just to skip all the three lane highway protocols and just deliver the message.

Stephen Falk

But you know what?

Stephen Falk

If they do that fire will be ranked very low on the level of engagement and morale and there'll be mistakes made.

Stephen Falk

So literally this is how hard it is for like an instant commander on a fire to use our model.

Stephen Falk

They show up at 7:00 in the morning or 6:30, depends on, you know, when the sun's rising.

Stephen Falk

Say okay, let's get out the gator.

Stephen Falk

Thank you very much for being here today.

Stephen Falk

Okay.

Stephen Falk

Two ducks and a deer walk into a bar.

Stephen Falk

But you're thinking that's no different than what a hypnotist does on the stage.

Stephen Falk

They're capturing people's attention and in a random way.

Stephen Falk

And it takes like two ducks in a bar and two ducks and a deer walk into a bar.

Stephen Falk

Wait one steamboat and then the duck said the bar.

Stephen Falk

The deer said, done.

Stephen Falk

What's happened?

Stephen Falk

You've now taken 350 people that are just came off a text with their family or just looked at their crypto account or just are wondering, wow, why am I so hungover like, or feeling their store like they're all over the map.

Stephen Falk

Right.

Stephen Falk

You don't have any teamwork standing there.

Stephen Falk

And with one stupid joke in lane one, you've now gathered everybody together and then from there they go.

Stephen Falk

Okay, let's go to weather.

Stephen Falk

Okay, weather, what do you got for us?

Stephen Falk

Awesome.

Stephen Falk

What do you got from comms?

Stephen Falk

What do you got from our stakeholders?

Stephen Falk

What do you got from this?

Stephen Falk

Okay, so what's the aerial plan for today?

Stephen Falk

Great.

Stephen Falk

What's the.

Stephen Falk

Everyone have a great day.

Stephen Falk

Oh, wait, just before you go.

Stephen Falk

So two rabbits were talking to each other.

Stephen Falk

It sounds so dumb, but you're actually merging into the, the, the transactional information and you're merging out.

Stephen Falk

If they would be taking like, like, you know, feedback.

Stephen Falk

Aar review of that fire or what do you think of this incident commander?

Stephen Falk

They'll go five star review, best commander in the world.

Stephen Falk

He's like, just loved how she, how she.

Stephen Falk

I just felt energy all the entire 60 days in the fire.

Stephen Falk

Like, why Some stupid opening and closing joke.

Stephen Falk

So as much as it sounds basic, it's skipped by most CEOs.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yep.

Stephen Falk

Again, the risk management is like, oh, you know, I wouldn't want to show that, you know, the vulnerability of telling a joke.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah, yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And you know, going back to the military side, I've been in these briefings where, you know, we got a new mission order coming out.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You know, the, the leaders, you know, the unit leaders report up here at 1500 hours because you got to get briefed by the Colonel what's going to take place.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And we're sitting there like, yeah, well, you know, how's everything going?

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And you know, how's family?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Have you been talking to everything?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And then the Colonel walks in, everybody shuts up, goes, all right, here's what we got, you know, and yeah, boom, straight into it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Any questions?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

All right, move out.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Make it happen.

Stephen Falk

I, I had, I did an experiment at where switchback is integrated into, into agency administrator training for interagency wildland fire.

Stephen Falk

So it's a five day training that happens every year in Santa Fe.

Stephen Falk

It's amazing.

Stephen Falk

So there's like 18 speakers that fly in and do their thing.

Stephen Falk

And then, then switchback is like drip fed throughout the whole process where we do some training, but we do also interpret what's going on.

Stephen Falk

We close out the day.

Stephen Falk

And, and so day one, it's like, okay, so switch back.

Stephen Falk

You're gonna see on the agendas, throw out his whole thing.

Stephen Falk

So I'm not sure how to introduce some Stephen folks.

Stephen Falk

So he's in the back there.

Stephen Falk

So, Steve, why don't you just get.

Stephen Falk

Why don't you just get it going right?

Stephen Falk

So I'm already mic'd up, and now I have this opportunity to bond with 100 people in the room in the next 30 seconds.

Stephen Falk

So I could say, well, you know, two ducks and a deer walking into the bar, but I'm not there yet because they don't know me yet.

Stephen Falk

So I just go, I turned my mic go, okay, this is gonna be awkward, but has anyone wanted to hug a Canadian and never had the opportunity?

Stephen Falk

I started walking to the front room, going through all the tables.

Stephen Falk

Men and women started popping up out of their seats like Montana men with belt buckles and rang their jeans go.

Stephen Falk

Well, I've never hugged a Canadian.

Stephen Falk

Well, I've never hugged a Canadian.

Stephen Falk

And so hug, hug, hug, hug.

Stephen Falk

I get like eight hugs by the time I get to the front.

Stephen Falk

The room's mine.

Stephen Falk

The room is mine.

Stephen Falk

It's like, how, how simple yet how strategic that one.

Stephen Falk

Athletes.

Stephen Falk

And what you're communicating is, I'm not a robot.

Stephen Falk

You're a human.

Stephen Falk

I'm a human.

Stephen Falk

We're gonna, we're gonna talk about some deadly serious stuff like reducing fatalities and injuries on fires because of our mindset.

Stephen Falk

But in the meantime, let's make a connection.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And that.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I might have to use that one.

Stephen Falk

People yelling from the back room, you're never gonna hug me.

Stephen Falk

And then I'm like, oh, would you rather, like, have a little smooch on the neck?

Stephen Falk

And they're like.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And out of all the speakers that day, they went back and told the story about that one.

Stephen Falk

100.

Stephen Falk

100.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

Amen.

Stephen Falk

Yes.

Stephen Falk

So how, as.

Stephen Falk

As leaders, how do we, how do we use neuroscience and some system systems thinking around communication just to leverage, you know, the.

Stephen Falk

A Connection with people.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah, yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And keeping them from taking that defensive posture of like, okay, what's he gotta say?

Stephen Falk

Yeah, you'll never crack this nut, you know.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Oh, yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You can see it from the stage too.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You can see everybody.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

When someone gets all the arms go across and lean back in their seat, you know.

Stephen Falk

Hey, Bob, you know one of my favorite things to do if I'm in a bigger room like that is, is and there's multiple speakers, I'll flip the room because like switchback, we don't use PowerPoint or anything like that.

Stephen Falk

We just, I just use flip chart paper and I just need a flat wall and enough lighting on the wall to make it happen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

So.

Stephen Falk

Okay.

Stephen Falk

Okay.

Stephen Falk

Stephen Falk is now doing, you'll be doing the next hour, switchback.

Stephen Falk

And I'll get up and say, yeah.

Stephen Falk

Everyone stand up, stretch your backs.

Stephen Falk

Oh, by the way, turn your chairs around.

Stephen Falk

We're gonna be working from the back of the room.

Stephen Falk

And all those back room dudes are like, well, I hate this training.

Stephen Falk

I can't believe we're having to sit in this, in this room for two days.

Stephen Falk

But I was like, what?

Stephen Falk

They're now front row seats again.

Stephen Falk

It's like, it's, it looks like I'm just being cheeky or.

Stephen Falk

But it's so strategic because at the end of the day, we as a company, we've decided who do we need to love the most.

Stephen Falk

It's the late adopters.

Stephen Falk

It's the resistors.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

And so how do we reach them?

Stephen Falk

Well, they're in the back of the room in the shadows.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

And so when, when.

Stephen Falk

And we're not intimidated by those, those people, we're fascinated.

Stephen Falk

We actually literally love them.

Stephen Falk

Right.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

And so when you flip a room, all of a sudden they're your front row audience and they're like, okay, bring it on there, Stevie boy.

Stephen Falk

What have you got for us?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That is awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Man, I'm glad I'm recording this because I'm going to be using some of this stuff.

Stephen Falk

Oh, yeah, by the way, it's all trademarks, so.

Stephen Falk

No, I'm just kidding.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Now you mentioned when I was talking about some of the things I was doing in the military about a T bone crash on a three lane highway.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Now we talked about the merging in the three lane.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

So explain that T bone crash syndrome and what it's all about and how to avoid it.

Stephen Falk

Sure.

Stephen Falk

So you can T bone probably in here.

Stephen Falk

The two most common crashes, the first one is what we described already where you just come in, no hellos, no fist bump, no eye contact.

Stephen Falk

In fact, you don't even look up from your screen.

Stephen Falk

You start communicating to someone that's walked into your office and you just go straight to the transactional daily business that is actually, that's.

Stephen Falk

Or if you're the one that's actually trying to get intel from somebody, you don't, you're not emerging.

Stephen Falk

You just go straight to the what do I need?

Stephen Falk

What are the facts?

Stephen Falk

And, and people say, well, we don't have time for that.

Stephen Falk

And it's silly to, to, you know, meander around the, in on the, you know, on the pleasantries, but it really isn't.

Stephen Falk

There's really good science behind it.

Stephen Falk

So that's the first T bolt.

Stephen Falk

The second T bone is the people that all thought that they wanted to be a counselor, but they never became one.

Stephen Falk

And so without even like building trust or the appropriate location or time, they just go, so Bob, you're being married for what was it, 40s, how many years?

Stephen Falk

Tell me about a fight that you've had in the last year that really rattled you to the core.

Stephen Falk

You're like, hold on there, buddy.

Stephen Falk

Hey, you know, that's a no, that's a go zone.

Stephen Falk

But not now and not you.

Stephen Falk

And, and so there, those are the two classic T bones, people that just go straight to, to the daily business and people that jump over all the regular trust building processes and they want to get personal intel from people.

Stephen Falk

And, and the second one, they're, they're well intentioned, but they're, but they're being idiots.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah, Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

And I mean, I get confronted that that way sometimes.

Stephen Falk

Even in the lobby of the church is a dangerous place.

Stephen Falk

People come with their big old eyes after church going, so Steve, how's it going?

Stephen Falk

And they're like, easy, easy, easy.

Stephen Falk

We haven't spoken for a month, we barely know each other.

Stephen Falk

I'm not going to tell you about, you know, cash flow issues in my company.

Stephen Falk

Like, it's like.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah, I heard you once speaking at that conference in San Jose.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

How much did you make?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You know?

Stephen Falk

Oh, that's a perfect example.

Stephen Falk

That's a perfect example.

Stephen Falk

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

And you know, the people that's, that basically unpack that three lane highway and they see it for the first time, they go totally busted.

Stephen Falk

Especially the T boners that go to the lane three.

Stephen Falk

And because they're good intention, their hearts are right.

Stephen Falk

They just, they just have never seen the progressive science of.

Stephen Falk

You start with small talk, you go to the daily Business, you go to the stuff that matters more.

Stephen Falk

You go back to daily business, go back to small talk.

Stephen Falk

And that's the natural flow of building trust and team.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen the minute.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's why.

Stephen Falk

One, two, three.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's why I said, yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's why I said, you know the example I gave about walking into the office with the sergeant, you know.

Stephen Falk

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And because.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And when we, before the recording started, I told you, where were you 40 years ago when I could have used this stuff?

Stephen Falk

I've had grown, grown.

Stephen Falk

Typically men punch me on their shoulder and say where were you like 20 years ago?

Stephen Falk

And I wouldn't have screwed up my kids.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well, you know, and being in leadership though isn't always, you know.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well, sometimes I wonder why anybody want.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau

To be in leadership.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

But there's always, always going to be those, let's just say, quote unquote, difficult conversations that you outline in your book that that will need to take place with subordinates from time to time.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And you outline a method that after I read it it just makes complete sense.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And I wish I'd have known about this again 40 years ago, but you just kind of outlined it a second ago.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Explain how to handle those difficult conversations.

Stephen Falk

Well, again, what.

Stephen Falk

Thanks for asking.

Stephen Falk

But there's I, I always think of it like.

Stephen Falk

Remember I was a family therapist that drew pictures and so when I think about a difficult conversation, it's always going to be this.

Stephen Falk

You're going to lean towards two sides.

Stephen Falk

You're either going to be too passive and not have it or you're going to have it in a very unempowered way as a leader or you're going to be too aggressive and just come through the be a bull in the china shop.

Stephen Falk

Those are the two defaults.

Stephen Falk

So there's something in the middle that's sweet.

Stephen Falk

But in order for it to be sweet, I think you need to create a.

Stephen Falk

It's called, in anthropological terms it's not a closed system.

Stephen Falk

It's not a chaotic system.

Stephen Falk

It's an open flexible system.

Stephen Falk

Meaning a closed system is where you can't get in because it's completely closed.

Stephen Falk

A chaotically open system is there's too much inputs and outputs.

Stephen Falk

There's not enough sort of boundaries on the system.

Stephen Falk

So with a difficult conversation you have to visualize it that this person needs pre warning.

Stephen Falk

They need time to have their adrenaline spike and have it drain and maybe even sleep on it before they have the next opportunity to talk.

Stephen Falk

You want to eat the elephant one bite at a time and then you need to Have a really good opening and close.

Stephen Falk

So it's almost like the three lane highway.

Stephen Falk

Where, where let's say you need to have a difficult conversation, Bob, with one of your employees and you say, okay, here it is.

Stephen Falk

You say, tomorrow at 2:00 in the afternoon, I'd like to sit down with you for about 20 minutes.

Stephen Falk

This is the topic we're having accounting differences of opinion.

Stephen Falk

Our accounting isn't making sense.

Stephen Falk

And so I, I, we need to look at this and particularly with this one client.

Stephen Falk

So now you get in context, you put, you put the topic into it and say, and say, and this, we're not, our company is not about blaming our country.

Stephen Falk

Our company is about learning like what's, what is it, is it a system failure?

Stephen Falk

Is it, is it a character failure?

Stephen Falk

Like where, where is that?

Stephen Falk

Where's the problem?

Stephen Falk

We don't know right now, but you and I, we're going to sit down tomorrow at 2, we spent 20 minutes looking at it.

Stephen Falk

More than likely we're not going to figure it out in those 20 minutes, but we're going to get the ball going.

Stephen Falk

Are you good with that?

Stephen Falk

And they go, I'm good with that.

Stephen Falk

And for sure you'll leave their office and they'll have a rush of adrenaline.

Stephen Falk

They go, bob's blaming me, thinks I'm stealing from the company.

Stephen Falk

I'm no good, I don't have what it takes.

Stephen Falk

I hate this company anyways.

Stephen Falk

They'll have all those back brain operating system responses, but within 24 hours that's all drained out.

Stephen Falk

They maybe even talk to their spouse at home and they say, yeah, you should do your homework, figure this out what happened in September with accounting, with that client.

Stephen Falk

So then when you sit down and you go through, you're not going to say two ducks in the ear.

Stephen Falk

You know, you're not starting with a joke, but you're maybe starting with a handshake or maybe saying, hey, can I get you a drink of water?

Stephen Falk

Then you sit down together.

Stephen Falk

Lane one, you establish like that piece, Lane two is, is that business as usual.

Stephen Falk

But now you can have an opportunity to have what's called Lane three tickets show up.

Stephen Falk

So they're going to say, oh yeah, I am.

Stephen Falk

You know, the truth is, I didn't reconcile last month with that client.

Stephen Falk

I was just swamped.

Stephen Falk

Like my mom got sick and remember I took those four days off, went back to Boston and dealt with her and came back and I just need to confess, I kind of winged it.

Stephen Falk

Oh, okay.

Stephen Falk

But Lane three gave you the intel as to why?

Stephen Falk

I'm not saying it's not excuse or.

Stephen Falk

If they stole from you, they probably need to be let go.

Stephen Falk

Like there's, like there's consequences to bad things that happen in life.

Stephen Falk

However, that little bit intel of a sick mom in Boston and the fact that they kind of winged it so they closed the month off without actually reconciling the bank and the, and the books.

Stephen Falk

And as a result that client was wacky.

Stephen Falk

And I know I'm just making up an example right now, but.

Stephen Falk

And then, and then you go to.

Stephen Falk

Okay, so the power of success is team and people can change.

Stephen Falk

Say.

Stephen Falk

Okay, so what do we need to do?

Stephen Falk

Do we need to, you know, bench strength your department a bit more so that other people can, you know, close off the month better?

Stephen Falk

You know, if you're not available, like, what's our solution?

Stephen Falk

Work towards solution.

Stephen Falk

Maybe do a bit of a check in the whole time.

Stephen Falk

Here's the weird thing, whole time you're never asking how are you feeling?

Stephen Falk

It's more like how are you thinking?

Stephen Falk

Because feeling will go directly into blaming you or self pity to themselves and wait a second, that's a back brain.

Stephen Falk

Typically an exaggerated response in the heat of the moment.

Stephen Falk

Yeah, you want to keep it in that metacognition area which is thinking about our thoughts, thinking about our systems.

Stephen Falk

I know it sounds mechanical, but it's amazing.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

To keep it in that zone to find resolution.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And one other thing I did want to ask you about and to share with us is what you call the three Ps and why they're important in helping us to basically lead effectively in making rational decisions.

Stephen Falk

Bob, you're gonna have to remind me where my three Ps are.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I gotta find the book then.

Stephen Falk

Okay, I'll find the book too.

Stephen Falk

We'll both study it.

Stephen Falk

Sounds fascinating to me.

Stephen Falk

I really like the sound of it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Hey, man.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah?

Stephen Falk

Where are my three P's?

Stephen Falk

That's awesome.

Stephen Falk

Was it close to the end of the book or front of them?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Probably.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

It was probably towards the end of the book.

Stephen Falk

Okay, let's see.

Stephen Falk

Here we are.

Stephen Falk

Does everybody just.

Stephen Falk

Just relax.

Stephen Falk

Those of you listening right now, just relax.

Stephen Falk

This is the human side of any experience.

Stephen Falk

I bet you it was really good.

Stephen Falk

Too bad I didn't index my ideas in this book.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Oh, there it is.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I knew I have a book.

Stephen Falk

We're close at hand here, here and I.

Stephen Falk

So everyone, this is a little study session here.

Stephen Falk

We're just not.

Stephen Falk

That's not highlighted.

Stephen Falk

This was this this is part of, like, if you use this as a teaching.

Stephen Falk

This is what CEOs hate the most.

Stephen Falk

But they.

Stephen Falk

Well, not winging it, being sort of in.

Stephen Falk

In their minds, being blindsided.

Stephen Falk

Right.

Stephen Falk

And so it's.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

But.

Stephen Falk

But here, this is part of living in a.

Stephen Falk

In a transformational relationship.

Stephen Falk

Like, it's.

Stephen Falk

It's okay to have Bob ask.

Stephen Falk

Hey, booked your three P's.

Stephen Falk

I love them.

Stephen Falk

I'm like.

Stephen Falk

And just tell the truth.

Stephen Falk

Oh, gosh, I can't remember what those three P's are.

Stephen Falk

That's.

Stephen Falk

This sounds good.

Stephen Falk

I joke a little bit about it, and then we try our best to find it.

Stephen Falk

And even if we don't find it today, our applause.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Was that one of them?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I don't remember.

Stephen Falk

That's so good.

Stephen Falk

Let's.

Stephen Falk

Let's say we don't even find it, right?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Okay.

Stephen Falk

You and I.

Stephen Falk

Do we lose integrity with our audience by not being able to find it?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

No, absolutely not.

Stephen Falk

Should we be embarrassed and be kicking ourselves to the curb going, oh, man, you know, imposter syndrome.

Stephen Falk

You don't know.

Stephen Falk

You wrote a book and you can't remember your three P's?

Stephen Falk

Like, like, no, no.

Stephen Falk

Is it.

Stephen Falk

Have we committed a crime?

Stephen Falk

No.

Stephen Falk

Have we, you know, defamed anybody?

Stephen Falk

No.

Stephen Falk

And so this is just part of the.

Stephen Falk

This is actually what builds team.

Stephen Falk

Because.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

Because at this point, Bob and I were just like, we're just.

Stephen Falk

We're humans having a conversation that's going to definitely bless your audience, and your audience is actually going to find this very relatable.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

And.

Stephen Falk

And this is no different than, like, your spouse giving you the gear.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Here it is.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I got it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I got term, permanent, pervasive and personal.

Stephen Falk

And what's the content?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

What page you mentioned?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I don't have the page number down there.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

But I remember.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I remember reading.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

But permanent, pervasive and personal.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Because I had it in my notes.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

The concept of three Ps, permanent, pervasive and personal, and how they impact our ability to lead effectively and make rational decisions.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Patterns of negative thinking.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Does that make sense?

Stephen Falk

I.

Stephen Falk

I can make something up.

Stephen Falk

Want me to make something up, Randall?

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I just knew I had it wrote down somewhere.

Stephen Falk

I didn't have my notes, but it sounds really good.

Stephen Falk

It sounds like a real smart guy wrote it.

Stephen Falk

Permanence.

Stephen Falk

Well, beginning with it's.

Stephen Falk

They all both start with the letter P.

Stephen Falk

I.

Stephen Falk

I'll make something up for you, Bob, just for fun.

Stephen Falk

Ready?

Stephen Falk

Here we go.

Stephen Falk

So, permanent people that don't have a healthy sense of neuroplasticity that people can change.

Stephen Falk

They think they, they think it's whatever they've done, whether it's a mistake or a habit or whatever, it's permanent.

Stephen Falk

The truth is there's very little that's permanent.

Stephen Falk

Pervasive is.

Stephen Falk

I don't know.

Stephen Falk

I catch you, Bob.

Stephen Falk

I can't make it up for you, but it was fun trying.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well, I, I stumped the expert.

Stephen Falk

This is when I've interviewed CEOs, they say, you know what the, the biggest, their greatest fears this moment right here, because all the way through their careers is they've always been the subject matter expert.

Stephen Falk

Let's say they came through finance, so they became an accountant and they came to, became the CFO and then became the CEO.

Stephen Falk

So, so they're, they're, they were an expert in finance, all of a sudden now they're the CEO, which means they have to be finance, legal, hr, operations, risk management, safety, and they'll have an executive that plays every one of those roles out with them.

Stephen Falk

What they don't have at their fingertips is the ability to pull out the three P's and say, here's the three P's, boom, boom, boom.

Stephen Falk

Because they are not an expert anymore other than in managing and building the team, the trust of the team, making sure that the team are telling the truth to each other, coming up with a collective plan so they can present to the board.

Stephen Falk

And so most CEOs haven't developed that skill set or mindset to be a leader of people rather than the leader as an expert.

Stephen Falk

And that is probably the biggest sort of rub or failure or angst that a CEO or leader will have is that all of a sudden.

Stephen Falk

And the ones that want to still maintain an expert and go, man, that's it.

Stephen Falk

I am never going to be blindsided again by the three psychological.

Stephen Falk

They will lose their families over it because they'll study till 1 o'clock in the morning for the meeting of the next day.

Stephen Falk

But the truth is they could have slept like a baby if they had built trust among their executive.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

There's that overcompensation or an acute sense of lack.

Stephen Falk

If you think you got to have all the answers all the time and you're the actual technical answer person you're going to work yourself to, you're going to burn yourself out of work and you'll probably lose your family and you'll think of yourself as a hero.

Stephen Falk

Or you can take a step back and say, no, the power of success is in team.

Stephen Falk

My new job, even though I'm maybe not qualified because a lot of CEOs come out of an engineering background as well.

Stephen Falk

So they've been really, they've been technical experts their whole careers and they, and they haven't actually paid attention to the human, the human factor dynamic that much because it's more blueprints and CAD drawings than it is about what the dynamics going on within, you know, the people on the ground and the end up here and this, this, like they're not, they're not thinking.

Stephen Falk

That's not what's, what's sort of floating their boat.

Stephen Falk

All of a sudden now they're in CEO position and that is their job is managing the people dynamic.

Stephen Falk

And so I think Switchback offers a really balanced, common sense toolbox for CEOs to be able to go, okay, I need to lay down the fact that I'm an engineer and now I'm a leader of people.

Stephen Falk

I've never even wanted to be a leader of people.

Stephen Falk

Ever since kindergarten.

Stephen Falk

I've always been like, my, my creation is better than yours and it doesn't matter if I hurt your feelings.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

So now all of a sudden, I've actually got a massage truth out of people in the context where everyone's hiding the data and they've got to now, you know, be able to communicate to each other in a way that builds a team of teams.

Stephen Falk

And then, guess what?

Stephen Falk

We don't get blindsided.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Praise God.

Stephen Falk

However, at the end of this, this, this, when we shut this off, I'm going, right, in my book, I'm finding the three Ps, and I'll have a great answer for you.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well, I, I can help you out with that because it's not in your book.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

It was on an interview you did and he talked about the three piece.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And so I was like, well, that's interesting because I do my research.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I, you know, I just don't, you know, And I was like, oh, that's a good question.

Stephen Falk

Well, thank you, thank you for that.

Stephen Falk

Because now I'll be real.

Stephen Falk

I'll be like, man, I just watched.

Stephen Falk

I could be watching cartoons with my grandkids, but I'm like, looking for the three P's in my book.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You, you'd be doing a T bone crash on your assistant, say, find the three Ps in my book.

Stephen Falk

Nobody ever questions whether a CEO is smart.

Stephen Falk

They're all going to be.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Supposed to be.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

No, but they are.

Stephen Falk

You don't get to that spot without being smart.

Stephen Falk

You don't get to be A leader without being smart.

Stephen Falk

The question is whether you are a fascinated now with the people side of your job.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Stephen Falk

And whether you're willing to tool up into that world.

Stephen Falk

That's.

Stephen Falk

That's it.

Stephen Falk

And for that, all of us need to take a giant dose of humility.

Stephen Falk

Because the tools that got us to this new role are not necessarily the tools or the mindset that's going to help this role flourish.

Stephen Falk

You are no longer a technical expert.

Stephen Falk

Now you're an expert of people.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

I've seen fantastic examples of that transition, by the way.

Stephen Falk

Some people just crush it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And others.

Stephen Falk

Don'T, and others don't.

Stephen Falk

I remember we worked with a crown corporation in Australia in forestry and wildland fire.

Stephen Falk

And that CEO, he was like the finance guy.

Stephen Falk

Pretty, pretty quiet.

Stephen Falk

Quiet and non confrontational.

Stephen Falk

But he recognized I need to be that guy that people come to.

Stephen Falk

So he, when he got his office, he designed it as a place where people could visit.

Stephen Falk

He made himself a commitment.

Stephen Falk

He said, I am not going to sit at my desk when someone comes in the room.

Stephen Falk

And then here it is ready.

Stephen Falk

He told himself this.

Stephen Falk

Distractions are now my primary job.

Stephen Falk

So someone says, hey, Steve, you got a minute?

Stephen Falk

Hey Bob, you got a minute?

Stephen Falk

In his mind, he says, absolutely.

Stephen Falk

You are my primary job.

Stephen Falk

Me, like working on my presentation for the board.

Stephen Falk

That's a secondary piece of homework that I do kind of on my own time, but listening to people and hearing them out.

Stephen Falk

And of course, you have to have great boundaries.

Stephen Falk

You say, absolutely, I've got seven minutes.

Stephen Falk

Come sit down.

Stephen Falk

I'll even set my clock because I do have a meeting at three.

Stephen Falk

So the go seven minutes.

Stephen Falk

Do we have time for a joke?

Stephen Falk

Maybe not.

Stephen Falk

Okay, so tell me what's up.

Stephen Falk

See, that alone is a joke.

Stephen Falk

Just saying that.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Yeah.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's right.

Stephen Falk

Then you lean forward and say, what do you have?

Stephen Falk

What do you have for me?

Stephen Falk

Say, oh, man, this, you know, this ranger district is just like, we're under the pump.

Stephen Falk

Things are not going great.

Stephen Falk

We had did a community meeting and went totally south.

Stephen Falk

We basically have people throwing fireballs at us at the community meetings.

Stephen Falk

Like, well, I'm not sure.

Stephen Falk

I might even lose my chief forester out of the deal.

Stephen Falk

Like, this is not good.

Stephen Falk

And go.

Stephen Falk

So what's your plan?

Stephen Falk

What's your thought?

Stephen Falk

How can I support you?

Stephen Falk

And then you come back in and say, just the fact that we're talking about this means that we're going to sort this thing out.

Stephen Falk

Thank you for bringing.

Stephen Falk

Your bringing it to me.

Stephen Falk

Thanks for not holding it back.

Stephen Falk

I know it's sometimes not necessarily embarrassing, but you don't want to show the soft underbelly to what happened at that, at that community meeting.

Stephen Falk

But there you did it.

Stephen Falk

Good for you.

Stephen Falk

And I'm here to help.

Stephen Falk

Okay, so we don't have a time for a joke, but that's seven minutes.

Stephen Falk

And you get up, take their hand, pat them on the shoulder on the way out, and they go, best leader I've ever had.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's right.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's awesome.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Steve, this has been great and I appreciate you sharing all this with us.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

How can someone get in touch with you to ask a question, receive more information on your programs, your trainings and all that?

Stephen Falk

We're pretty old school because our clients are mostly government agencies and like private, like aerospace, like on people that are flying helicopters.

Stephen Falk

And so it's switchbackos.com so OS stands for operating system.

Stephen Falk

So it's really easy to remember switchback os.com and then of course, there's just a contact me, contact us.

Stephen Falk

And surprise, surprise, it comes into my inbox as well as my IT and my business partner.

Stephen Falk

But anyways, it'll come right onto my desk.

Stephen Falk

And, and, and I last thought, take a page out of Mother Teresa's playbook.

Stephen Falk

And so some people asked her interviews, would say, how do you do it?

Stephen Falk

How do you, how do you serve in Calcutta?

Stephen Falk

And then you meet with presidents, like, what's.

Stephen Falk

Like, how do you sort it out in your brain?

Stephen Falk

And she said, easy eight.

Stephen Falk

She's a life of prayer.

Stephen Falk

But then she says, I stopped for the One.

Stephen Falk

And so I'm letting you know, if you send us an email, contact us, I'll stop and read your email and I'll respond because that's stopping for the one.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Stephen Falk

And then if Boeing is the next email, I'll stop for Boeing.

Stephen Falk

And if, and if, you know, Montana Wildland Fire is the next one, I'll stop for them.

Stephen Falk

If it's Bob next, you stop for Bob.

Stephen Falk

And so that's a model where, where you just trust even in God's email management system that you have the provision to stop for the one.

Stephen Falk

And if you feel overwhelmed with stopping for the one, you probably just need more bench strength.

Stephen Falk

So maybe you need an assistant that helps you stop for the one.

Stephen Falk

Or maybe you need a team of 300 that helps you stop for the one.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Well, Steve, I appreciate your time.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And how can someone get a copy of your book Switched On CEO how to Think like A world class leader.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I take it it's on Amazon?

Stephen Falk

Yes, that's the very best place to find it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Okay.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

All right.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And I'll put in the show notes giant copies.

Stephen Falk

Like if you want like 100 copies, then you should definitely contact me because I get author copy price.

Stephen Falk

Right.

Stephen Falk

And so I can then ship to a different address and offer a really great discount.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I'll put links all this in the show notes below.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Folks, I want to thank you for joining us today as Stephen Falk shared some incredible insights into the power of neuroplasticity, the battle of the brains, the role of teamwork and leadership transformation.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

If you're ready to implement the strategies that he's discussed today, like reframing your limiting beliefs and managing back brain triggers and fostering a culture of resilience, you need to connect with him right now.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Don't wait.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You don't know what tomorrow brings.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You need to be ready for this as soon as possible.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Let's put it like that.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Okay.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

By applying these principles, you can unlock better communication, improve decision making, and have a more dynamic, engaged workplace.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Immediately visit switchbackos.com to connect with Stephen and his team right now.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Just drop down the show notes, click the links right there.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

They're all, they're all there for you to connect with Stephen and his team.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Just take action.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Do it now.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Don't let those X's in the back of your brain hold you up.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Amen.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Take, take, move to the front.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Click the links down below right now.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Be sure to click the link to order his book switched on CEO as well.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Discover how his tools can transform your leadership and team dynamics right now, today.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

And don't miss the opportunity to take your growth to the next level.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Praise God.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Stephen, I want to thank you again for taking the time out of your busy schedule to come on the program and join us today.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

Man, I learned a lot and I just.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I just appreciate you taking the time to do it, brother.

Stephen Falk

Yeah, thank you.

Stephen Falk

And I'm glad.

Stephen Falk

Those three P's just blessed you right to the core.

Stephen Falk

In fact, that might be the most memorable part of our whole conversation and honestly the most transformational.

Stephen Falk

So by the way, you're hired.

Stephen Falk

You can do the grad, the best promo ever.

Stephen Falk

So thank you so much for your kind words.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

I appreciate it.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

You have a blessed day, folks.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

That's all the time we have for today for Steve Falk.

Pastor Bob Thibodeau 2

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Pastor Bob Thibodeau

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