Unknown: Hi, I'm Paige Killian, and I'm passionate about helping
busy moms of littles organize and style their life in three
simple steps. Living this mom life is incredible, and
sometimes completely overwhelming. is stressing about
overstuffed drawers never ending mail piles, a mountain of Legos
and our kids artwork really what God intended. No way. Getting
organized has been a game changer for me, and also my
clients. But it has to be simple, or it just won't get
done. So let's simplify the process and clear the clutter to
see the blessings God has for us. I know your time is
valuable. So thanks for joining me each week for a healthy dose
of organization and a whole lot of motivation. Hello there. I
wanted to read a chapter of my book to you. So if you have not
gotten it yet, you can head over to Amazon. It is called I've got
you girlfriend. Why? Getting organized and living this mom
life is not a solo mission. It's by Paige Killian and the
foreword is written by a dear friend named generally rude. The
foreword is fantastic. You gotta check it out. Also, this book is
not only available on Kindle, and paperback, and now
hardcover, look how fancy but now it is available on
audiobook. So I thought it would be fun to actually read an
excerpt and you can get an idea. If you like how it's read, then
maybe you want to head over to Amazon and pick it up on
audiobook. You can listen to it in your car while you're doing
laundry. It's totally kid friendly. Although you might
want to watch out for one particular part in Legos in the
bedroom. That's a great chapter, but maybe don't let the kids
listen to that one. Okay, today I wanted to share chapter five,
it's called not just lip service. And all of the chapters
start out with a quote, or a scripture that I love. That sort
of pertains to what I'm going to talk about and I am a huge Mary
Poppins lover. So this one have a quote from Mary Poppins, here
we get chapter five, not just lip service, well begun is half
done, Mary Poppins. When I first speak with a client who wants to
make a change in her home, wardrobe, kids or schedule, I
began taking notes and plug her needs into each category. That's
the three E's prioritizing what's most important to her.
Most of the time, she doesn't know where to begin, which is
totally okay. But she does know what frustrations exist. That's
where we start, identify the problem and write it down. The
written word has power. When you are a busy mom of littles, you
use everything that gives you power to accomplish your goals.
Outside of prayer, writing your pain points down and getting
them in order of importance instantly offers you a sense of
empowerment. That is a great motivator. Here's the three E's
checklists that I share in the book. This is actually something
that you can go to everything with style.com. And you can get
your copy of the three E's checklists just to look about
the top look for the tab that says three E's checklist and you
can print it off. Writing it down makes the list of things
real and actionable. When their thoughts, hopes and dreams
floating around in your head. They aren't tangible. They
aren't accomplishable that's a word, I looked it up. If they
don't get written down, they're less likely to become a reality.
Sometimes it feels like they are solely in your head. Just to
make you a crazy person. You aren't a crazy person. Have you
ever made a vision board? The idea is actually to take those
desires and create a tangible thing to see and touch. When you
do so, it said that you have a likelier chance of manifesting
them into real life. Again, let's use everything we can to
make those dreams a reality. Your time is valuable. Remember,
so instead of me suggesting you get out your first graders
rounded scissors, glue stick last month's Pottery Barn Kids
catalog and travel magazines. Let's just get those pain points
down on paper, shall we? In the words of TLC, don't go chasing
waterfalls. Oh my gosh. For now, let's just focus on one room in
the house that's bugging you so you don't get overwhelmed. When
you get your first list of three E's written you can create
another set for a different room you want to tackle when these
are done. If you aren't in need of a total room overhaul find
three areas in your home you'd like to see change. For example,
there may be one thing you want to adjust in your bedroom, like
a fresh coat of paint, or new bedding. replace an old piece of
furniture in your son's room. And finally, work on purging the
bookshelves in the living room. Use your judgment. If your list
starts to feel overwhelming, dial it back to one room. So
you're setting yourself up for the best chance of success in
getting organized. Go ahead, scribble down below three areas
for change. It's okay if it looks a mess. For now. Just
brainstorm and scratch it out when you decide you want one
thing to appear higher or lower in the lineup. And just for fun,
maybe jot down the date. So when you revisit this page, you'll
have an accountability reminder or a good laugh about how far
you've come. So here is the section for your three areas of
change. This first section is your essentials. And then on the
next page, you have your enhancements and extras, lots of
space to jot down ideas and just brainstorm what you feel like
you might want to prioritize over the other things. Get your
three E's started, it's gonna pay off, we gotta write it down.
This is a beautiful beginning Mary Poppins would be so proud.
You're on your way. Now there's no need to feel married to these
things or even this order. As you start the organization steps
you may find that new needs or desires reveal themselves. Oh,
yeah, that's a very exciting part of getting organized. By
the way. I can't believe I haven't mentioned it sooner.
It's a domino effect. You declutter your mind when you
write these things down on paper, you get your space
organized. And then a cool thing happens. You begin to free up
time in your schedule and room in your heart for brand new
desires to start showing up. You know how I know. I never dreamed
I'd become a professional organizer with my own business,
a creator of online courses and author of a book for busy moms,
or a speaker at events I normally attend for fun. These
things started stirring in my heart as I made plans to
accommodate a new reality. There was a need for me to go back to
work after my second child was born. As I organized in style,
my home wardrobe kids and schedule using these three E's
that I didn't even fully know how to utilize at the time, I
learned some new things about my heart. I didn't just want to
contribute financially to my family with teaching only. I
wanted to create something more. I wanted to serve other moms who
needed many of the same things I did, a new desire was brewing.
When I made room for it, I got clear on what I needed to
organize and style for my new life as a working mom of two,
when I took the time to write down exactly what I needed to
accomplish. I had made room for these new desires to become a
reality. Is there something awesome you're meant to do, but
it's getting lost because of clutter, disorganization, or
total overwhelm is getting in the way, that doesn't have to be
your reality anymore. You could be three steps away from finding
your joy and new desires you never knew existed. Now your
list is made you have it down on paper, so it's not all mixed up
in your head causing you stress or anxiety. Remember, it's
totally acceptable to not have it all figured out right away.
You've identified the problem areas and have attempted to
place them in order of importance starting with those
essentials. If you haven't, go ahead and flip back to the page
with the three E's listed or write them on your bookmark.
Just get them out of your head and on paper friend, it will
feel like forward motion, always. Still waiting. No pen,
have a crayon nearby. I feel like those tend to be in my
purse more often than pens these days. So just like the Duke dove
right in that day, when he triumphantly organized the
coffee pod drawer, I encourage you to do the same. Don't let
paralysis take over. Because you're over analyzing
everything. There's certainly value in pre planning and
thoroughly thinking things through but not at the expense
of accomplishing your goals. Hey there quick reminder that now
there are four ways to get my book. If you head over to
Amazon, you can search up I've got you girlfriend, why getting
organized and living the small life is not a solo mission. You
can now get it on the Kindle app, paperback hardcover, and
the audio book is finally here. So if you've been enjoying this
podcast episode, I have a feeling you might love the
audiobook. Thanks so much for making it a best seller. And now
back to the show.
Do you think Duke's process was to think through each step of
getting those pods into the drawer, and what each possible
outcome could be if he did it incorrectly, accidentally mixing
the French roast with decaf, I can confidently say, No, he
didn't let his mind get overloaded with options of where
to put each pod trying to align them perfectly. Contemplating
the aftermath of his choices based on his placement of them.
He grabbed that bag and got started, there was a goal he
wanted to accomplish, I want you to do the same. Trust me, the
details will come together naturally, unless you never
start the process of moving toward your goals at all. Just
as Mary Poppins says, well begun is half done. This means getting
started is usually the hardest part. And once that's happened,
you're headed for success. Let's take a page from Dukes
organization book, just go for it. It's okay. If it doesn't
work out exactly how you envisioned at first, you can
tweak it or start over if necessary. That's what return
exchange policies are for. It's important to you don't get
bogged down in the details in the beginning. That's even hard
for me to write. If I'm being honest, because I'm extremely
detail oriented. That can often be the cause of halting that
forward motion though, you have your three E's listed in order
of importance. And now it's time to trust the process. Beyond the
three E's I asked you to write out first, so you know what you
want, I have broken up the process of making them happen
into three simple steps as well, so you know how it will get
done. Remember, it's so important to keep the steps to a
minimum. So you're setting yourself up for the best chance
of success. You don't want to be the mom who puts her thoughts on
paper, and then create so many steps to get the result. She
burns out along the way. For now your thoughts are written check.
They're out of your head and made real and actionable. Give
yourself some credit for that celebrating this forward motion.
After you've done your happy dance and perhaps schedule this
celebratory, happy hour with your bestie. There's another
thing you can do to seriously increase your chances of making
these awesome changes actually happen. It's time to publicly
declare your plans to someone, anyone? Yes, writing it down,
definitely make it real. And we'll start that forward motion
but sharing it. And even setting a deadline with your spouse,
your kids, your best friends or even a mentor will add the
accountability factor. Think of the written word as essential,
and the spoken word as an enhancement. This reminds me of
when I was saved at six years old in my Sunday school
classroom at First Baptist Church in Humboldt, Tennessee. I
had asked God to come live in my heart, forgiving my sin and
giving me new life. As a Christian. I have such a
specific memory of this. I was overjoyed to tell my parents who
were in big church at the time. When I shared my exciting news
with them. It became real, and they were so pleased with my
choice. That choice was an essential part of my story and
my walk with the Lord for the rest of my life. As the days
went on, we talked about my decision and how in our faith,
it was highly encouraged for this very special moment to be
shared publicly through baptism. It would be my public
declaration that I was choosing a life of serving God in all
that I did. This was a massive declaration. If you think about
it, especially for this perfectionist. Of course, I
needed constant encouragement and support for my loved ones
and the church. The public declaration was the enhancement
to my salvation. It made my decision so much better, and
came with an added bonus of accountability. So at age 10,
when the weight of my decision had settled in my heart, and I
was old enough to really grasp the idea of living for Christ
through this life and delighting in the eternal promise of
heaven. I was baptized. I remember the nervousness that
came over me as I waited at the top of the stairs. Then at
Bellevue Baptist Church in Memphis, Tennessee. As the
pastor spoke, I saw him motion for me to step forward into the
warm water. With my all white robe and thin white socks fully
engulfed in water. I anxiously moved toward him and slid my
feet under a short metal rod in the bottom of the giant tub. So
my little feet Oh, who am I kidding? I have huge feet for a
petite person wouldn't pop up in the air as I was dumped. After a
few meaningful words were spoken and I had announced my name to
the congregation supportively watching below. I was laid back
into the water and raised to walk in newness of life. It was
beautiful and powerful. I'm joyful. be transported back to
that place as I write these words, what an incredible step I
took as a child into a new world where I had been given the
greatest gift. Isn't that funny how a simple act can be so life
changing? Have you had one or more of those life altering
moments that happened by a simple choice to change
something in your world? Maybe those three E's you've been
thinking about, and hopefully have been written somewhere by
now could be simple steps toward a big change for you and your
family. Since I referenced a couple of my E's, I may as well
go one step further. Just like writing down your essential
goals has power and publicly declaring it can enhance your
experience of accomplishing it by way of countability. You can
go that extra mile by outsourcing to take your end
product to another level. In my baptism example, this can be
like finding a great small group to do an ongoing Bible study
growing more in your faith and staying in the word as often as
possible, in relation to your three E's in your home. This
could be like finding a painter, a carpenter, not Jesus, though,
he's moved on to things other than carpentry now, a stylist or
interior designer to complete your vision beautifully if you
need help with execution. If you found a mega motivation and
seeing your three E's on paper, and also shared them with
friends or family, who am I to stop your momentum, by all means
sprang from your chair or bed or the bathroom floor, where you
may be patiently awaiting the sound of success in potty
training with your toddler and get to work. Hopefully you liked
this chapter. If you did, check it out on Amazon. Again, you can
get it on Kindle paperback, the hardcover or now on audiobook.
Thanks so much for listening, and I'll talk to you next time.
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