Hello, no and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host of Aurora. And I'm so happy to be spending some time

with you today.

It is 20 degrees out there. It's so sunny and warm. I can't

believe it. I'm so happy. And I hope wherever you are, it's

sunny, you have enough sunscreen, you can maybe go to

the beach or drive to a lake and just enjoy this beautiful

weather out there.

And if it's in the evening, then just Yeah. Dream about the next

beautiful summer day. And what do you would like to do

outdoors? Today's episode is inspired by Clinton, I will have

an interview with him. Next Wednesday, I'm very excited for

that. And today we had our first phone call. And yeah, he

reminded me of the importance of being present. living in the now

instead of being influenced, tortured, haunted, by the past.

I feel I mean, at least that's how it was for me. In my 20s You

just make decisions, you make mistakes, but you kind of are in

a mode, you just get things done. You make mistakes, and

then get up again and just continue with life. In your 30

zone, or in my 30s I find myself to look back and reflect and

regret a lot of the times and also to compare my life today to

the life that I was leading a couple years back. It was not

necessarily a better life, for sure not. But some some things I

miss. And how can we manage to not fall back into old behavior,

old patterns, living with regrets missing things in our

lives that we used to have and that we don't anymore? How can

we learn to be a little more appreciative of what we have

now. And the only thing that I've learned so far, like the

biggest tool is gratitude. Gratitude. You might have heard

it many, many times. If you're interested in my podcast,

chances are that you are interested in other inspiring

people out there people who have been out there way longer than I

have been. And gratitude will never be a topic that gets out

of date. Because too often we are caught up in our daily life

or as I said at the beginning here and our past, and we are

trying to

make peace with our past. But at the same time we idolize our

past do you say that in English? Yeah, we

see only the good things. Maybe in our ex partners, and maybe in

a lifestyle that we used to live or a city we used to live in and

we chose to live it. We forget about the bad times we forget

about the stuff that was not working out well. And now in our

present situation. We are harsh and quick to judge and to have

an opinion about something because we compare it to that

wonderful, beautiful past we had. Even if it wasn't that

beautiful our brain sometimes plays tricks on us and we have

to go beyond that and see what is reality. What is right in

front of me right now and how do I feel? And what are the

changes? As I can make in order to feel better to get better. So

when it is a past lover, when it is your ex that you're missing,

again, it's oftentimes that we only see the good things and the

good character traits and maybe the intensity, the way they made

us feel. But we want to forget about the pain that was created

the disappointment. There's people out there who only see

the bad things in the past, and I feel they have it a little

nicer, I don't want to say easier, but they embrace the

present moment, more, and they're more appreciative. When

they went through hell, then people who, yeah, might have had

to say goodbye to a partner, because it was not the perfect

match, there was not a huge drama, we both just decided that

it was not the right time to be together, and we moved on. And

now you are maybe with a new partner, and you compare that

partner to your past partner, but forget how things were not

working out in the past. So all this to say is that we need to

learn to be more present with what we have around us. And that

doesn't mean going on Facebook and starting to, yeah, make

Facebook, our life or Instagram or live, we need to connect with

our immediate surroundings. So everything that is around us,

except Facebook and Instagram. I love Facebook and Instagram, I

think you know that about me. Sorry about me. But don't take

this as your immediate reality. Because you can take Facebook

and Instagram, wherever you go in your life, wherever you move,

whoever you're with, you can always take your Instagram and

Facebook with you. But the place you live in your apartment, your

little house, the neighbors you have around you. The job you

work in, the relationship you're in, you have to constantly

remind yourself that those are the things that really shape who

you are and how happy you are. And you have to be present, with

your partner, with your family, with your friends, with your

neighbors, with your living situation with your job. Because

if you're not, you're just living on our autopilot. You're

just living a routine that might feel comfortable. But it's maybe

not the perfect fit. So when we're not aware of how we live,

when we're not aware of our reality of the now that are

surrounding us, then we might miss out of very important clues

that could lead us into a new direction. You see, a lot of the

times I hear people say, I've been in a job for over 10 years

and I just can't get that promotion. And yeah, I make

enough money but my coworkers are also not really like awesome

to work with. And I just wonder you've been in that job for so

long and you don't feel the need to find a new job that makes you

feel fulfilled and excited. When you wake up in the morning.

You're excited to go to that job. Well, chances are that you

are distracting yourself so much around your job with

entertainment was sports with social media that it is not

uncomfortable enough for you to make that change. See if you

were just imagining yourself being single and having that

job. You live in an apartment where it's just you and you wake

up But in the morning, and you have to go to that job, you have

no social media to distract you. And then in the evening, you

come back home, and you maybe read a book or exercise a little

and then go to bed. And the next morning, same thing again. If

you were living in that kind of routine, you would very quickly

numb up or totally realize that this is not the job that makes

you fulfilled. On the flip side, you will very easily see and

feel when you started to work in that position, or at that

workplace that really fulfills you. And yeah, makes you feel

good about yourself and your life. You spend most of your

time in your 20s 30s and 40s and 50s, with your co workers. And

yeah, involved in your job. So you have to make a wise choice

there. And you can waste any minute and sitting in a job that

is not fulfilling you. That doesn't make you feel as if you

have a purpose in life as if you can make a change in people's

life. So I drifted off here a little bit. But I think you got

my message, it is important to be grateful for what you have.

And it is important to see if something is not going until the

right direction that you make changes. And that you train your

brain to not dive back into the past all too often. And to

compare your beautiful past seemingly seemingly, seemingly

sorry, beautiful past, with your present, you have to see how

things make you feel. And you have to put your monkey mind

into the back seat more than ever, when it comes to your

past. Because you have to trust that you made the choices you

made to become a better person, or be to fully unlock your

potential to live and your purpose and to live a fulfilled

life. So stop thinking about your past and regretting things

and know that your ex partners are well off because they will

learn at their own, like in their own rhythm. Focus on what

is in front of you right now. And embrace novelty, embrace

approaching things in a new way. See, when it comes to dating,

you were maybe in a pattern of analyzing of

making sure everything is perfect and stuff. Instead,

observe how you feel and focus how you can make the other

person feel. Stop comparing your present partner your potential

date to people that you met in the past and that you are

putting on a pedestal because they don't belong there anymore.

They belong in your past. And you can close that box and be

happy that you made those experiences. But you don't have

to repeat your experiences. You're here to evolve and grow

and make new experiences. So be open for the now be open for the

future. And be endlessly grateful for what you have.

Because if it's uncomfortable what you have right now, it will

teach you something very valuable. And if it is a

comfortable situation you're in right now. Totally indulge in it

and relish every second of it. And every night you go to bed be

grateful for it. And every morning when you get up. Be

excited for it. Thank you so much for listening to the

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