Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience.

And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today. I hope you're doing well.

I hope life is light and easy flowing.

If it is difficult, complicated, harsh.

Really bad.

At the moment,

I hope I can give you energy. I hope I can give you hope. I hope

I can give you tools to help you get to know yourself better to

recharge your batteries.

The better you know yourself, the better decisions you're

going to make. The stronger, healthier boundaries, you're

going to set.

It's really important. It's something that I'm still

learning, still learning to say? No. When in the past I said yes.

To please or appease somebody.

Sometimes a no is way healthier for you than a yes, was

compromises. There's no doubt about it right?

Today's episode, I will label say yes to yourself, and no to

compromises.

And season one and two and even three, I think I talk a lot

about

self care and how you can better take care of yourself and the

importance of alone time.

And in season five here, I want to

emphasize the importance of alone time. One more time.

It is so critical that you spend time with yourself.

And that you know that spending alone time spending time with

yourself doesn't mean

to watch TV on your own or to go to the bar and drink by yourself

or to binge eat.

alone time. For me what I'm learning right now with a coach

can be a time where you process

where you process feelings and thoughts where you brainstorm.

alone time can also mean being present fully present with what

is.

And if you can imagine going for walks I really encourage you to

going for walks, little walks every day, just a couple

minutes, just 15 minutes to start out. And to be fully

present with your environment.

You can set an intention for every walk. But presence is

something really magical. You don't have your phone yet don't

have a podcast running in the background, not even mine. It is

just you walking around the neighborhood. Of course not

putting yourself in any danger

and being present with what happens around you.

All too often, we rushed from A to B and tried to do 20,000

things at a time

where we could actually relax and reconnect to ourselves.

I find it also helps with feeling less lonely feeling more

connected.

The more connected you feel to yourself.

The more connected you feel to your surroundings. And that's

really fascinating to observe. The better you feel with

yourself.

The better you will feel with people the more accepting you

are with yourself. The more accepting you're going to be

with other people, you know, people who are very judgmental

perfectionist.

They usually very very harsh on themselves.

And on others, they accept the same from others that they

accept from themselves.

And the standard is usually way too high, and not easy to

maintain for others outside of your bubble.

So these walks that I encourage you to do several times a week

can really help you to reconnect to yourself to reconnect with

your environment, and to be there in the moment. And if you

have your mind, your monkey mind, your beautiful little

monkey mind that always wants to be busy creeping up on you, and

coming up with to do lists, brainstorming, processing of

arguments of conversations that might happen in the future

of conversations that happened in the past,

then you can just learn to turn the volume down, and to let it

sit in a corner for a little bit. And then tune back into

your breath, and to what is happening around you. Maybe

there's people walking around,

very busily, maybe there's children playing, maybe there's

cars driving by or bicycles. Maybe you walk in the park or in

the forest, and you notice trees and plants and animals.

And it's funny because while I describe this silent walk or

quality, alone time walk to you.

I feel very relaxed already.

Maybe you observed somebody

in the past who in a waiting line was not looking down on his

or her phone, who was just looking at you and smiling and

saying hello, who was engaging in a conversation with the

cashier, or with the person sitting next to him or her on

the bus.

I feel

we use our phones, for very important things. Don't get me

wrong. I love my phone. I love the internet. I love Facebook,

everything about it.

But there comes a point where we forget to interact and connect

with our direct environment.

And sometimes people start nagging and being upset with you

because they don't know how else to make you stop and connect

with them. Sometimes, an accident happens or you trip or

you hurt yourself because you are not fully present. Sometimes

we lose things like wallets or keys or lipsticks or bubble

gums. Because when we put them away the last time we were not

aware we were not mindful, we were not consciously putting it

away. We just put it somewhere. But it had something else in

mind.

So when you go on these walks, without your phone without any

music,

and really connect to your environment.

It might make you feel very grounded and very good about

yourself.

It might also bring up stuff that you have been running away

from in a long time and this is why you avoid spending a long

time

without distractions.

But this is very important.

It is very important to notice and to observe and to feel and

then to go deeper and to resolve at a later stage.

But to see

in observing your thoughts and your feelings, how you really

are doing

without compensation without distraction.

It is critical.

All too often we run around and

you know we're not feeling 100% Awesome. We call a friend we

call our parents and we unload our stuff and they can help us

to some degree.

And then we go back to our place and same old stuff again.

Sometimes they might not even be available and then you blame it

on them why you're not feeling better.

This little practice here that I'm sharing you with you today

is going to help you to be more self fulfilling

isn't sufficient sorry.

Of course you call a friend when you're not feeling good, of

course you call your parents or guardians or whoever you'd like

to talk to when you're not feeling well.

But I want to give you these tools for you

to know that you can also help yourself.

You can only be there for you so much.

When you have a very distracted life and compensation,

allow some time to yourself, allow some time of no

distraction.

And you will see that you will maybe even sleep better, make

better food choices.

Be more content in life, in general, more confident.

It is really important to take time to yourself, in between

meeting friends and between work and meeting up with your

partner.

And your partner will feel inspired. And maybe also start a

self

empowering journey. And it can improve relationships so

drastically. The better you feel about yourself, the more content

you're with yourself, the

better partner you can be.

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