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Hello, and welcome back to another episode of the Elevated Edit podcast.

So I still don't have a name for these Friday short episodes.

I was gonna call them clarity calls, but there's just something about that that doesn't sit right.

So for now, they won't have a name.

And the purpose of these Friday episodes, in case you were wondering, I have noticed myself that the podcast that I enjoy will have different varieties of times.

They'll have some that are an hour long, 30 minutes long.

But the five to seven minute episodes I like because there's times sometimes where I have a lag.

I'm waiting on an appointment, I'm waiting on a client, I'm in between calls, and I've got maybe like 10 minutes and I don't want to start a project that I need to concentrate on.

And so popping on a podcast episode that's super short is really helpful.

And so I wanted to offer that to y'all.

If you are someone who likes long format episodes, you might want to completely skip Fridays because like I said, they are going to be short and sweet, fast and furious, and just kind of packed with good information.

So today we are going to talk about something that is probably a trigger for a lot of women.

It certainly was for me.

I am actively working on it.

But we're going to talk about the fact that it is perfectly okay to be selfish.

We're told that being selfish is wrong, but what if it is the key to unlocking your best life?

So we're going to reframe the idea of selfishness.

And being selfish does not mean that you're neglecting others or that you're being unkind.

It just means that you are prioritizing your own needs so that you can show up as your best self.

You know, that is what they always talk about on, you know, a plane, for example, you're supposed to put your oxygen mask on first.

And I, I know firsthand I had this image that, like, if I made everyone else happy, that would pour back into me.

But what I realized was, a, there's no way to make everyone happy.

B, if that is how you're Living, you're constantly looking for exterior validation from other people, which their validation depends on where they're at that day.

And so it's just a cycle of.

Just a lot of, like, not good.

And you are not taking care of yourself.

You're putting yourself last and that eventually catches up to you.

And one of the hard things about this is all of the guilt that comes with being selfish.

You know, when you do something for yourself.

I feel like we're conditioned to think, well, if I do X, Y and Z for myself, then I take away A, B and C from my friends, from my work, from my family, you know, whatever it is that we're pulling our time away from.

But what I have realized this last year or two, ish, I guess that I've been working on this is if I pull away and take some time to be selfish, for me, I can show up so much better in those other areas.

So a good example is like, I used to feel guilty on like a day off if.

Cause me and Will usually don't have, like a lot of days off together.

And so if we had a day off, I was like, well, I don't want to go, like, take the time to go work out because we only have a couple of hours together.

And I would rather spend time with him than go work out.

Well, now I know that if I go work out, I'm going to be way nicer, way more present, way happier when we do spend time together.

And so that's of course, just like a very, very small example.

But that is one thing that I've noticed was, like, I used to feel guilt about, like, pulling time away from other people to go do something for myself.

And now I know that if it's something that I need, like, I need to at least walk or work out or move in some kind of way every day.

And if I don't do that, I'm kind of a gremlin.

And so taking that time to be a little bit selfish really does pay off.

Like I said, we've been conditioned to have that guilt.

So don't feel guilty about the guilt, but maybe just be aware of it and kind of reframe your mind around whatever it is that you need to do in order to maybe be a little selfish.

If it's a workout, if it's a ride around the block, if it's a cup of tea, like whatever you need, just commit to that.

Like, give yourself a few minutes, give yourself a little time to, you know, do what you need to do.

And selfishness when it is done right, does not have to be looked upon as selfish.

It can be looked upon as self respect.

Like that's what I'm telling myself right now.

Like I am setting boundaries.

I'm saying no to what drains me, and I'm saying no to the things that drain me so that I can say yes to the things that light me up.

And I'm giving myself permission to ask, what do I need right now?

And honoring the answer without guilt.

So today, which is, if you're listening at a later time, it's Black Friday.

Of course today is crazy.

There's cells everywhere.

There's a ton of people needing a ton of things from you.

You've probably still got family at your house, the kids are wild ca they had sugar yesterday.

Just schedule maybe like 5 to 10 minutes for yourself and do something that aligns with what makes you feel good.

Do something that makes you happy.

Like that literally might be like making a cup of tea and locking yourself in the laundry room for a few minutes.

It doesn't have to be this big, exaggerated, exasperated thing, but do something that just makes you feel good.

Do something that makes you breathe a little bit.

And then I want you to go to to the most recent post on the Elevated Edit Instagram page and I want you to let me know what you did in that minute or those few minutes.

I want you to let me know, did you book a massage?

Did you go for a drive?

Whatever it is that you did, I want to hear about it.

And I hope that this.

Obviously overcoming the guilt of selfishness takes a lot of work, but I hope that this maybe kind of gives you a little self awareness, kind of gets the ball rolling and.

And you never know, implementing a system like this can really be great, especially during the holiday season.

So that's all I've got for y'all today.

I will see y'all in the next episode of the Elevated Edit.

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