Hello, hello, and

welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today. This huge thunderstorm rolling in as I speak. And it's

crazy because from sunshine and blue sky, it is turning to this

thick gray sky now, and I can see the rain over there over the

hills coming slowly but surely. Thank God, I'm in a warm place.

Cozy on a couch. And I'm able to be spending some time with you

now. If you haven't yet, make sure to subscribe to this little

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would mean the world to me. Today I want to talk about the

number one killer of your ambition. What is it that

cripples your self esteem that makes you feel small? That makes

you feel unimportant? That makes you think these sorts of what

message do I have to tell the world? Why do I think I should

be doing this? I feel the number one killer is comparing yourself

to others. If you look at social media, I love social media, you

know that I love it so much. Because they're I get to connect

with you, I get to post videos. And yeah, I interact with with

all you lovely people out there. But there's days where I peek

into other people's success paths and see everything they

are doing and I'm not doing and yeah, start comparing myself.

And it all happens very unconsciously. You just click on

somebody and then you go through their feed and you just think

holy, what am I doing? Why do I think I should keep doing what

I'm doing. And these awful thoughts come up.

And I'm sure

it is very relatable. To many people out there doesn't have to

be Facebook, it doesn't have to be social media, or podcasting,

it can be anything that you would like to start and then you

kind of get going a little bit, but then you start looking left

and right. And you think oh my god, like I'm so far from being

as good as others here. And this is very important to notice. And

to stop. Immediately. When these thoughts come up, when these

ugly feelings come up and start consuming your energy and your

positivity and your drive. You have to stop it right away. And

have tools have things in place that you can do right away in

order to feel better and to keep in your

tracks.

What I like to do is, call a friend, talk to a friend, and

then not whine about how I feel but ask about their day. And ask

about how they're doing and on which journey they are on. And

usually that's very inspiring already. And if they asked me

how I'm feeling, then I will be open and transparent and tell

them what was going on in my brain just recently. And they

will help you to get back on tracks.

Another thing that

you should really learn to do is that when you start doing

something that you trust, your intention and your motivation,

you want to be good at something. You want to express

yourself. You want to show to the world what you have to offer

and you're offering something that serves other people that

causes no harm to other people, but only brings value to other

people's lives. And when you start focusing on that mission

and intention only When you face a dark day, when you face a

moment of comparing yourself to another person, you will be able

to remind yourself of your mission. And to know that, if

you only help one person out there, you are successful

already. And if it is to person, you can count yourself lucky.

And other people might be very successful too. And try to see

them as an inspiration, instead of an intimidation, try to see

that there might be focusing a little bit more, they might be

engaging in distractions a little bit less, they might take

a little bit better care of their physical body and their

emotional body, they might be surrounding themselves with

people that inspire them and uplift them on a daily basis. It

is very important to see who you surround yourself with, and to

seek approval from the right people and to seek approval in a

healthy way. I think it is wrong to say that we shouldn't seek

approval because I feel it is a very human thing to do. It's

happening automatic, we want to feel like we belong, we want to

feel like we're doing good, we want to feel that we're enough.

And we want to even feel sometimes that we are

influencing people in a very good and healthy way. But you

have to seek that approval from a trusted source from a person

that you might be even looking up to never seek approval from a

person that you don't want to trade places with, if you know

what I mean. And the sad part about this is that sometimes the

people we love most, sometimes our parents or siblings are on a

very different path are in a very different stage of their

healing and process and living and everything. And sometimes we

cannot ask for help or approval from those people that are

closest to us. Because they're not there yet. Maybe they don't

really understand what you're trying to do. And they will try

to hold you back, they will limit you with their limiting

beliefs. And you will just end up frustrated and confused and

lost and not knowing should I be pursuing my passion, or should I

just let it go and become a banker after all, and becoming a

banker is not a bad thing. But it is a bad thing, if you were

meant to become an artist or an actor, or a creative

personality. So the number one killer, I believe is comparing

yourself to others. Try to schedule time away from social

media. Try to use social media as a tool to boost your

confidence and to inspire you and never to compare yourself.

Try to consume a little less and create a little more. And again,

it doesn't have to be on Facebook. But on a daily basis.

Ask yourself, Am I consuming more than I'm creating? Am I

expressing more then just soaking in information and

letting it sit on my little lazy shelf inside of my brain? If you

know what I mean? Am I just you know with your eyes you consume

with your mouth you consume with your ears you consume, what kind

of quality of stuff are you consuming? And what kind of

stuff are you putting out there in the world. So, catch yourself

next time when you feel you're comparing yourself. catch

yourself when you feel you're seeking approval from someone

who has no credibility to give you any kind Have critique or

comment on what you're trying to do. And surround yourself with

people that are good for your soul and that are pushing you to

become better, and not making you feel as if you're not

enough. Another thing that I want to mention here when it

comes to your ambition, it is very important to I want to say

schedule.

But

maybe scheduling is not a good thing for you. But let's try it

out to schedule, maybe weekly. You sitting down at your desk,

and writing down all the little steps that you've done over the

week, to get closer to your goal to your dream. And I want you to

go back to all my episodes that I record it for you so far about

your dreams, and your goals. If you go onto my website, the

Borealis experienced.com you can at the very top, put in

keywords, and then it spits you out the episode yet that you

need for your specific mood or questions. And I want you to

listen to the episodes about your dreams. Because if you keep

track of the little steps that you took over a week, you will

see over time that this is very motivating and that you will

keep that beautiful new habit.

And this in turn will get you closer to your goals and dreams.

And it doesn't really matter how you approach like how you take

those little tech

steps.

It can be talking to someone who has done it already who is

successful already. It can be reading a book about what you're

passionate about and about the goal you want to reach. It can

be meeting up with people, strangers, on Facebook, in

Facebook groups, and bombarding them with questions. It can be

all sorts of things, but small little steps that you can track

and know that at the end of the week, you have become closer to

your goal and your dream. And those levels step will compound

over time and will transform into big steps. And one day you

can look back and see Yeah, you've done it, you are there.

And it only took a little bit of discipline, a little bit of self

awareness. And now you got to where you want it to be. The

better you know yourself. The more confident decisions you can

make, and the happier person you will be. And the happier person

you can be to others here, and society and communities on

planet Earth. I'm always there for you, you can always reach

out to me on Facebook, I launched my patreon profile here

recently, where you can connect with me directly we can have a

little zoom session, you can pour

out your

heart to me and then we can find constructive ways to get

yourself out of your mess. We can also meditate together if

that is something you would like to

try.

I'm sending my love out to you. Thank you from the bottom of my

heart to listen and to share these episodes with people that

you love and respect. And I will be out there very soon again.