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Speaker:We have a very interesting topic today and it says 'Don't let covid get you
Speaker:down',
Speaker:I've had some people that are very inspired by what's
Speaker:experience. I call it st.
Speaker:Covid and others that have been a bit challenged because it's really thrown
Speaker:quite a bit of a change in their whole life.
Speaker:So I'd like to talk today about a topic that is probably
Speaker:a reality for somebody you love, if not yourself, and that is stress.
Speaker:And so if you have something to write with and write on it,
Speaker:you might want to take some notes. I mean, I know this is audio recorded,
Speaker:but it might be good to get a note down cause sometimes writing it,
Speaker:remember you remember it better.
Speaker:Stress itself has two forms.
Speaker:One is eustress
Speaker:and eustress is actually wellness promoting.
Speaker:And then there's distress which is illness promoting,
Speaker:but actually ultimately assisting you in your journey of being
Speaker:accountable and authentic.
Speaker:So even though it looks like it's creating symptoms in the body and it's stress
Speaker:and causing illness,
Speaker:it's actually also helping you get back on track to what's true for you.
Speaker:So let me elaborate on that.
Speaker:Eustress is when you're doing something that you love,
Speaker:that's inspiring to you, that is challenging to you.
Speaker:That is initiating a sympathetic parasympathetic balance.
Speaker:In inspirations you're doing something you love that supports your values,
Speaker:but you're also having the challenges of tackling the obstacles that it takes to
Speaker:do it. And the reason why it is eustress,
Speaker:which means true stress is that it's actually letting you
Speaker:know with it helping you with your wellbeing, that that's the pursuit,
Speaker:that's the direction to take in life.
Speaker:So eustress is a confirmation that you're actually on track with what's
Speaker:most deeply meaningful and inspiring and productive for your life.
Speaker:Distress is when you are attempting
Speaker:to get sort of a one sided life. And the other side is smacking you with it.
Speaker:And you're wanting a positive without a negative.
Speaker:You're wanting a pleasure without a pain.
Speaker:You're wanting an ease without difficulty. You're wanting a happy,
Speaker:without a sad, a support without a challenge.
Speaker:And then the other side of the magnet,
Speaker:the two poled magnet comes in and you don't want that side.
Speaker:And so because of the addiction to the pleasure side,
Speaker:the other side becomes very painful. And this is distress.
Speaker:Di means two, it's divided, divided stress vs eustress,
Speaker:which truly integrated.
Speaker:So when an individual is doing something they feel they have to do, got to do,
Speaker:and they feel that they're having to live by duty instead of design,
Speaker:they have distress and distress is letting them know that they're pursuing
Speaker:fantasies to some degree,
Speaker:that aren't really congruent and aligned with what's really deeply meaningful to
Speaker:them. And in a sense,
Speaker:it's a feedback and ultimately wellness promoting in the sense that it's
Speaker:offering you feedback. It's like letting you know,
Speaker:that's not the direction somehow re readjust.
Speaker:So distress is actually also ultimately
Speaker:on the way, not in the way. Now, you know,
Speaker:I don't do talks or presentations without discussing values.
Speaker:And so if you had any idea that I would do that,
Speaker:I don't want to let you down because it's just something I do,
Speaker:because really underlying all human drive and motive is the human value system.
Speaker:So let me put that into context first. Every individual,
Speaker:yourself,,
Speaker:anyone you meet at any one moment is living by a set of priorities,
Speaker:a set of values, things that are most to least important in their life.
Speaker:Whenever they're doing something that's highest on their value,
Speaker:the number one priority,
Speaker:the thing that's most important and they're taking
Speaker:spontaneously, intrinsically, desiring to go and fulfill that,
Speaker:the challenges that they face in the pursuit of that is perceived as on the
Speaker:way and is perceived as eustressful.
Speaker:It's like a young boy who loves video games and he's conquering the video game
Speaker:and he wants to beat the video game and he's challenged to do it,
Speaker:but he's not going to give up. He's just going to keep doing it.
Speaker:And he's going to figure out and do it again and do it again until he masters
Speaker:it. And so he loves beating the video game. So that's eustressful.
Speaker:But if you tell him that he's got to do his chores or his homework or clean his
Speaker:room, and he doesn't really want to do it, it's not high on his values.
Speaker:It's low on his values. And he feels he has to do it because of an outside,
Speaker:you know, persuasion, punishment if he doesn't, reward if he does kind of thing,
Speaker:then he has distress and even thinking about having to do it.
Speaker:And when he does it, he doesn't want to do it.
Speaker:So he's got a built in break on in addition to his gas pedal.
Speaker:So he's got a kind of like a hesitation and uncertainty when he's functioning.
Speaker:And it is the pursuit of something low on your value that
Speaker:is what leads to the distress.
Speaker:And any time you do something high on value your selfworth goes up.
Speaker:Anytime you do something low on your values your self worth goes down.
Speaker:So not only is it distressing, but it lowers your self worth.
Speaker:Now with that said, whenever you're doing something low on your values,
Speaker:you tend to, because of the unfulfillment in doing it,
Speaker:you tend to look for immediate gratification and you
Speaker:bias perspective, kind of twist things.
Speaker:And you have an unrealistic expectation you put on yourself or possibly other
Speaker:people. And as a result of it, you sometimes expect it to be done quick and
Speaker:if it takes longer, you're more frustrated and it's distressful.
Speaker:And of course your cortisol levels go up and norepinephrine epinephrine and all
Speaker:the catecholamines, and you know,
Speaker:the osteocalcin and all the things that are the distress process,
Speaker:the fight or flight mechanism go up and it actually raises your blood pressure
Speaker:and causes a digestive disturbances and immune deficiencies and all kinds of
Speaker:problems. And that's because it's,
Speaker:you're trying to go and get something that's not real in life.
Speaker:There is no human being that's one side, there's no goal that's one side,
Speaker:there's no pursuit that's one sided that's real. It's delusional,
Speaker:it's fantasy. So anytime you go off in a fantasy,
Speaker:you're going to end up having these distressful responses.
Speaker:And that's why it's not a bad thing.
Speaker:It's actually giving you feedback to let you know that you're not pursuing true
Speaker:objectives that have been, you know, balanced in your perspective
Speaker:and you're willing to mitigate the risks and planning with foresight.
Speaker:And you're now right now looking for fantasies and
Speaker:Now, let me take that and put that in a different context.
Speaker:And I hope you write this down because this is something that may be a novel
Speaker:idea to you. There's only two forms of stress,
Speaker:only two forms. You will never experience anything but two forms of stress.
Speaker:And stress is the inability to adapt to a changing environment,
Speaker:an inability to adapt to a changing environment.
Speaker:People that are able to adapt and have resiliency,
Speaker:they don't perceive the distress that most people do.
Speaker:So the inability to adapt to a changing environment is distress.
Speaker:Stress has two farms. And please get this and write this:
Speaker:the perception of loss of that which you seek
Speaker:and the perception of gain of that what you're trying to avoid.
Speaker:I'm going to say it again.
Speaker:The perception of loss of that of that which you seek and the
Speaker:perception of gain about what you're trying to avoid.
Speaker:That's it. I boiled it down and distilled it down to the very essence.
Speaker:In the amygdala, which is a subcortical area of the brain,
Speaker:which is called the desire center,
Speaker:which comes active when you're not living by your highest values,
Speaker:but you're living by lower values and you feel trapped doing something you have
Speaker:to do. The amygdala comes in as a compensation for the unfulfilled,
Speaker:highest values. And it wants immediate gratification.
Speaker:And it wants pleasure without a pain. It wants a prey without a predator.
Speaker:It wants an ease without a difficulty,
Speaker:and it sets up a fantasy and a delusion and some unrealistic
Speaker:expectation that is impossible to meet. If you do meet it,
Speaker:it's only transient,
Speaker:which leads to anger and self depreciation and lots of other symptoms,
Speaker:which is distressful.
Speaker:So the second you strive for that which is unobtainable and try to avoid that
Speaker:which is unavoidable, you end up with distress and you're non resilient. Why?
Speaker:Because the more infatuated where you are with something,
Speaker:the more you fear its loss, and the more you resent something,
Speaker:the more you fear it's gain. So stop and look right now,
Speaker:think and do an inventory of what you think you might be distressful about.
Speaker:Or maybe you've got a friend who's distressed. Maybe
Speaker:And I guarantee you, it's going to be one of two things.
Speaker:The perception of loss of that which you seek,
Speaker:or the perception of gain of that what you're trying to avoid.
Speaker:So let's give an example. We'll go around the wheel of life.
Speaker:The wheel of life is made up of the spiritual path, your intellectual path,
Speaker:your business path, your financial path, your family relationship path,
Speaker:your social leadership path,
Speaker:your physical health and well being path and your inspired spiritual path.
Speaker:So let's start with business.
Speaker:Anytime you perceive the loss of what you want, clients, income,
Speaker:business, cooperation of staff. Anytime
Speaker:that's what you seek ,the perception of loss of any of those things is going to
Speaker:be distressful. At any time,
Speaker:the things you don't want, bills, challenges,
Speaker:incompetencies, people not showing up.
Speaker:Anytime you attract something you don't want, you got distress.
Speaker:So the gain of that, what you are trying to avoid,
Speaker:and the loss of that what you're trying to seek is distressful in business.
Speaker:When it comes to financial, same thing, you want money,
Speaker:you don't want bills, typically.
Speaker:So if you have a perception of loss of income or a perception of gain of
Speaker:bills, unexpected bills, that's distressful.
Speaker:If you have a perception of loss of bills and gain of income,
Speaker:that's not distressful, that's invigorating.
Speaker:But what happens is if you feel that you're, you're getting a loss of that,
Speaker:which you seek, and a gain of that, what you're trying to avoid, it's.
Speaker:Or opportunities in business for future income or
Speaker:hindrances of people threatening or challenging in some form or not living up
Speaker:to, or not honoring their agreements.
Speaker:So anytime you have a perception of loss about that which you seek,
Speaker:and a perception of gain of that which you resent in business, you got distress.
Speaker:Now add that to finances, loss of money, gain of money.
Speaker:And then you do that with the relationship.
Speaker:Let's say you're infatuated with somebody and you now fear the loss of them or
Speaker:you resent somebody and you fear of being around them, again,
Speaker:distressful and in friendships, if you have people on Facebook and there's,
Speaker:you fear you're losing people on your, your network or whatever,
Speaker:then that's distressful,
Speaker:or you're getting people you don't want on that network. So the gain,
Speaker:the perception of loss of the people you want,
Speaker:or the perception gain of people you don't want in the social networking.
Speaker:When it comes to health obviously you want
Speaker:vital wellbeing. You want to perform at your peak.
Speaker:Anytime you have a loss of peak performance you feel
Speaker:distressed and you feel like you're, you're losing your health.
Speaker:And at the same time,
Speaker:you feel like you're getting symptoms and fatigue and
Speaker:other symptoms in your body or whatever you, you don't want those.
Speaker:So you have a gain of that, which you don't want. That's distressful.
Speaker:And the same thing with spirituality,
Speaker:you're if you're inspired and you want the inspired path and you want to live by
Speaker:hot priorities, and then you feel that no matter what you do,
Speaker:you're overwhelmed by distractions or something that you're not able to say no
Speaker:to them. And you feel like you've lost what's inspiring to you.
Speaker:It's going to be distressful.
Speaker:And you're gaining all these things that are frustrating to you,
Speaker:that are low in priority, distressful. And the same thing intellectually,
Speaker:you feel like you've got a sharp memory and a great mind,
Speaker:and you're learning things and you're absorbing things and you're using your
Speaker:mind effective and you're being creative.
Speaker:The loss of any of those is going to be distressful.
Speaker:And the gain of cloudiness frustration, lack of memory, lack of information,
Speaker:not getting what you want knowledge wise is distressful.
Speaker:So any area of life, the perception of loss of that what you seek,
Speaker:the perception of gain of what you don't want or resent is
Speaker:distressful. And distressful as I said,
Speaker:runs your immune system down and self depreciates.
Speaker:But what that is, is symptoms, guiding you back to what's authentic.
Speaker:Because when ever you're not filling your day with the highest priority actions
Speaker:that you can,
Speaker:that are proven to work in each of the seven areas of life and making sure that
Speaker:they're either raised on your value list or linked to your highest values where
Speaker:you're spontaneously inspired to do them,
Speaker:doing the things that are really highest in priority. You are designed,
Speaker:designed, to have distress.
Speaker:Distress is a feedback system to let you know, you're not living by priority.
Speaker:So right now let's say you have Corona.
Speaker:And let's say that it's stopping you from doing the things you used to do,
Speaker:that you wanted to do,
Speaker:or stopping you from doing the things you fantasize about doing.
Speaker:If you perceive that what you did in the past had more benefits than drawbacks,
Speaker:and you perceive that what you fantasize about the future has got more positives
Speaker:than negatives, then the perception of loss of that's going to be distressful.
Speaker:So that means when you look at your life,
Speaker:you had a fantasy that it was better, or it's going to be better.
Speaker:My advice is to actually get present right now and do an inventory of what's
Speaker:real. Because comparing your life to a fantasy about how it used to be,
Speaker:or a fantasy about how it will be,
Speaker:instead of looking at what it actually is and starting from what actually is,
Speaker:because anytime you compare what actually is to a fantasy of the past or a
Speaker:fantasy of the future, you won't be present now,
Speaker:you'll be comparing it to fantasy.
Speaker:Anytime you compare your current reality to fantasy,
Speaker:you're gonna get depressed and you're going to get immobilised and you're going
Speaker:to end up distressed.
Speaker:And then you had to get angry because you have an unrealistic expectation on
Speaker:yourself or on the world around you.
Speaker:There's in the Breakthrough Experience program that I teach,
Speaker:which I've taught 1,102 times I believe.
Speaker:There's 15 delusions that people face in their life;
Speaker:unrealistic expectations on others to be one sided,
Speaker:unrealistic expectation on others to live in your values and outside their own
Speaker:values, unrealistic expectations of both of those together.
Speaker:Unrealistic expectation on you to be one sided, always up, never down,
Speaker:always positive,
Speaker:never negative unrealistic expectation on you to live outside your own values or
Speaker:in somebody else's values, unrealistic expectation of both of those combined.
Speaker:Unrealistic expectation of others
Speaker:and you're having all those delusions and those unrealistic expectations,
Speaker:unrealistic expectations on society in general,
Speaker:to be one sided or to live in your values or the combination,
Speaker:or all the above. Unrealistic expectation on mechanical objects,
Speaker:like an ATM machine or a car or whatever,
Speaker:to do something it's not designed to do and to live in your values and read your
Speaker:mind.
Speaker:All of these unrealistic expectations are going to lead to what I call anger and
Speaker:aggression, feelings of blame and feeling betrayed, criticism and challenge,
Speaker:despair, and depression, desire to exit and escape the situation,
Speaker:feel frustrated, futile, and feel grieving and grouchy,
Speaker:and then hatred and hurt, and maybe insanity and irritability.
Speaker:The ABCDFGHI's of negativity I call it.
Speaker:And anytime you have those unrealistic expectation, you're adding distress.
Speaker:But again,
Speaker:the distress is a feedback to you to let you know that what you're perceiving
Speaker:and expecting is delusional. When I look at,
Speaker:when I have been stressed,
Speaker:I found that it's some unrealistic expectation or an attachment
Speaker:to a one sided outcome or a comparison of something the way I
Speaker:fantasize it being which is unrealistic or a fantasy about how it used to be,
Speaker:that I perceivedhad upsides without downsides.
Speaker:But when I actually go back and look at it, there were downsides,
Speaker:but I was blinding myself to it,
Speaker:storing those illusions in my subconscious mind. And now reacting. Again,
Speaker:every thing that's going on in your life is ultimately on the way,
Speaker:not in the way.
Speaker:And distress is a feedback system to guide you to be authentic and
Speaker:authenticity is to live by priority according to your highest values,
Speaker:your real identity,
Speaker:cause your real identity revolves around what you value most.
Speaker:So anytime you're not,
Speaker:you're having distress it's a sign that you're doing something low on your
Speaker:priority,
Speaker:and you're having unrealistic expectations because what's there is what's there,
Speaker:and comparing it to what it's not there is not real.
Speaker:And so here's the, here's the bottom line now.
Speaker:Stop right now and look at what's actual. If you're sitting there in COVID,
Speaker:what may be actual is that you have now clients that are different or
Speaker:situations that are different. The wise thing to do is to ask,
Speaker:how is that situation helping you fulfill what you value most?
Speaker:How is it on the way? How's it helping you get what you want?
Speaker:How's it giving you an opportunity?
Speaker:Who is it getting your opportunity to meet what new creative ideas is
Speaker:initiating, go around the wheel? What ideas is initiating? What is it?
Speaker:What, how, what opportunities do I have in business?
Speaker:How can it help me make more money? How can it help my relationship?
Speaker:How can it help me socially and network myself?
Speaker:How can I use it physically to help my health and fitness.
Speaker:I've been using the COVID to go out and do more jogging and exercise.
Speaker:I did 50 sit ups, 50 pushups and a mile this morning.
Speaker:How's it helping me live an inspired life.
Speaker:The quality of your life is based on the quality questions you ask. If you ask,
Speaker:how is whatever's happening,
Speaker:helping you in the seven areas of life and helping you fulfill what you value
Speaker:most, I assure you,
Speaker:you will discover that what you're perceiving as distressful will melt,
Speaker:and your mind will come up with creative answers and solutions.
Speaker:Because anytime you're living by highest values, you open up your creative mind,
Speaker:your ingenious, innovation, creativity, and your,
Speaker:your new ideas and original ideas emerge whenever you see things on the way,
Speaker:not in a way.
Speaker:So you can transform distress and the symptoms which are offering a feedback
Speaker:to guide you back into priority. And once you go back into priority,
Speaker:you'll transform distress into eustress. It has nothing to do
Speaker:with what's going on around you.
Speaker:It has everything to do with how you perceive it.
Speaker:It's not what happens to you on the outside.
Speaker:It's how you perceive it on the inside. You have control of your perceptions,
Speaker:decisions, and actions in life. And so it's not external things.
Speaker:People that are run by external things are never masters.
Speaker:They're run by external. I said on The Secret many years ago,
Speaker:'When the voice and the vision on the inside is louder than all opinions on the
Speaker:outside,
Speaker:the greater and more profound and louder than all opinions on the outside and
Speaker:all events on the outside,
Speaker:you've mastered your life.' William James said the greatest discovery of his
Speaker:generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their
Speaker:perceptions and attitudes of mind. By asking new questions,
Speaker:how specifically is whatever's happening helping me get what I want,
Speaker:what's highest on my value, what's truly inspiring to me. What is really,
Speaker:really most important and meaningful. What is most productive?
Speaker:How's it helped me business? How has it helped me in each area?
Speaker:By asking that question, and don't lie and say, 'I don't know. I can't find it.
Speaker:It's not.' Don't be giving into the power to outside and blame things on the
Speaker:outside.
Speaker:You will never empower your life dissociating and blaming
Speaker:out there every time you blame something on the external you'll look for some
Speaker:savior on the outside. Of course, religions have sold you saviors for, for,
Speaker:for centuries.
Speaker:If you want to be disempowered and offload accountabilities in your life and
Speaker:blame the world out there for the devil and blame somebody out there or give
Speaker:credit to somebody out there, that's going to save you,
Speaker:well you're not going to master your life.
Speaker:You're going to disempower your life and give your power to other people.
Speaker:That's called brain offloaded.
Speaker:And that's a sign that you're living in low values and uninspired and not
Speaker:prioritizing taking command and becoming a leader. So don't do that.
Speaker:Don't waste your time on that. You're not going to get anywhere doing that.
Speaker:That's a false reality, a scape goat of reality.
Speaker:Stop and ask,
Speaker:how is whatever's happening - get grounded in what's actually happening - how
Speaker:right now is it helping me fulfill what is inspiring to me?
Speaker:And do not come up with anything but that answer, dig. And don't say,
Speaker:I don't know. When somebody says, I don't know, I can't, and I'm not.
Speaker:It means they don't have enough motive to go and look,
Speaker:I see it every week in the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:And every week when I have people go back and do it again,
Speaker:they find an answer and then they go, thank you.
Speaker:Once you go through that hurdle and find the answer,
Speaker:a creative idea comes out of the same situation you're facing,
Speaker:and this so-called distress turns into eustress
Speaker:and you're back in the game again. And immediately you got a surge of energy.
Speaker:Cause the second, you see things on the way, not in the way your energy goes up.
Speaker:And the second you do,
Speaker:your blood sugar goes up and you start creatively thinking in the brain because
Speaker:the brain uses the most glucose and oxygen.
Speaker:And it starts thinking again and boom, you come up with solutions.
Speaker:How is whatever's happening on the way, not in the way?
Speaker:How's it helping me in the seven areas?
Speaker:How's it helped me fulfill my highest values?
Speaker:And if you have not taken the time to go and determine what your values are and
Speaker:you're new to maybe these, these little programs I'm offering here,
Speaker:please go on my website,
Speaker:drdemartini.com and do the value determination process.
Speaker:Just take the time to go on there and do the value,
Speaker:determination process and do it once. Sit on it for a week.
Speaker:Do it again a week later, sit on it,
Speaker:do it another month and be fricking honest with yourself.
Speaker:Answer the questions, integrally and don't write what you think it should be.
Speaker:Don't think what, what it used to be or what you hope it would be,
Speaker:the fantasies, write what your life demonstrates is really important to you in
Speaker:those 13 questions that's going to ask you. And if you do,
Speaker:you'll get clear about what's important to you because anytime you're doing an
Speaker:action and pursuing something, that's not really high on your priorities,
Speaker:you're going to create distress.
Speaker:A lot of times people go and they think there's something wrong with them.
Speaker:I've seen major psychologists. There's a guy right now.
Speaker:I don't need to give his name, but a very,
Speaker:very intelligent psychologist that's in a delusion right now.
Speaker:And he's caught in an unrealistic expectation and he's distressed.
Speaker:Not because he has to be not because of what's happened,
Speaker:but because of the expectation. So it's not necessarily,
Speaker:you know what your experiences are. It's basically how you perceive him.
Speaker:So take the time, do the value, determination. Do it again. And again,
Speaker:until you get clear and what you say on there is integral to what
Speaker:your life demonstrates. Don't write a fantasy down, that's,
Speaker:that's the thing that will cause you more distress.
Speaker:The pursuit of fantasies is the cause of people's nightmares.
Speaker:That's the cause of it.
Speaker:I've watched people go after delusions and then end up wondering why life beats
Speaker:them up. Life is magnificent. It's giving you feedback.
Speaker:It's offering you symptomatology. Symptoms are not bad.
Speaker:I'm going to make sure that I say that twice.
Speaker:People think that symptoms are bad.
Speaker:Symptoms are feedback mechanisms to guide you to wise actions.
Speaker:If you pig out and you feel yucky the next morning,
Speaker:the yucky feeling symptoms are letting you know, quit pigging out little oinker,
Speaker:don't pig out. If you go and stay up late and you didn't get any sleep.
Speaker:And you feel trashed. It's feedback to let you know, that's not the way to live.
Speaker:So it's feedback, all symptoms in any of the seven areas of life,
Speaker:act as feedback mechanisms to guide you, to set priorities
Speaker:with yourself and to put realistic expectation of yourself and to take
Speaker:prioritzed actions and to set realistic expectations on others.
Speaker:People live by their values, not yours.
Speaker:So if you project your values onto them and expect them to live in your values,
Speaker:you're going to be distressed.
Speaker:If you expect you to live in somebody else's values,
Speaker:you're going to be distressed.
Speaker:If you expect to live them or you in one side ways, always one sided,
Speaker:you're going to be distressed.
Speaker:If you try to do something low on your priorities in life,
Speaker:you're going to be distressed.
Speaker:Cause cause whenever you're doing something that's high on your values,
Speaker:you're more objective. You're more balanced, more resilient,
Speaker:you're more adaptable. You have a bigger vision. You expand yourself.
Speaker:You see things from an overview effect where you're less judging.
Speaker:You're more creative. You see solution orientation, not problem orientation,
Speaker:but the second you go down to lower priority things and not be accountable to
Speaker:what is high in priority in your life and subordinate to everybody else's
Speaker:expectations,
Speaker:which is trying to please people instead of being prioritized and doing a
Speaker:service that serves people. The second you do that,
Speaker:you're going to get the ABCDs of negativity.
Speaker:You're going to end up with the symptoms of distress and they're going to,
Speaker:there'll be feedback to let you know. I've seen people, self depreciate,
Speaker:beat themselves up because they're comparing themselves to other people,
Speaker:expecting to live in other people's values. Try to be somebody they're not.
Speaker:And they beat themselves up and they go,
Speaker:'why do I keep beating myself up?' I said,
Speaker:because you keep building yourself up with a fantasy about who you are
Speaker:instead of honoring who you are. And as long as you don't honor who you are,
Speaker:you're going to beat yourself up because the symptoms in your body and your
Speaker:psychology are going to get you to be who you are.
Speaker:The magnificence of who you are,
Speaker:is greater than all the fantasies you impose on yourself.
Speaker:And the most magnificent you are is the authentic you,
Speaker:which is based on what's truly priority and important to you in your life based
Speaker:on your true, authentic values. And even though those values are evolving,
Speaker:you need to keep current with them and make sure your goals are consistent with
Speaker:them.
Speaker:You will transform distress into eustress the moment you live by priority.
Speaker:And so I'm a firm believer that you need to take the time,
Speaker:go back and do the value determination process and get clear about what's really
Speaker:important to you. Look at your priorities, prioritize what you do in business,
Speaker:prioritize what you do with money. You know,
Speaker:many people are just impulse buying it,
Speaker:walking in a store and letting the world out there with its sales tactics and
Speaker:rhetorical persuasion mechanisms, grab your money,
Speaker:instead of you going in there with an agenda, a little piece of paper that says,
Speaker:here's what I'm going to buy today. Go in there on priority.
Speaker:Think it out with foresight, foresight saves you money.
Speaker:Hindsight costs you money. The same thing with friends,
Speaker:prioritize who you hang out with, prioritize what you read,
Speaker:prioritize what you eat.
Speaker:If you're living by the highest priority things and not living to eat,
Speaker:but you're eating to live. You're reading to live.
Speaker:You're reading high priority things that inspire you.
Speaker:You're hanging out with people that are inspiring.
Speaker:You're going places that are inspiring. If you take the time to do that, you,
Speaker:you think about what will be of the most value to your customer. Most value,
Speaker:highest priority to them,
Speaker:it's about going and figuring out what's the highest priority thing to the
Speaker:customer. What's the highest priority thing to do.
Speaker:So you can't wait to get up in the morning and do what you love to do,
Speaker:helping them get what they want to do.
Speaker:If you do that you'll flourish and the distresses will go down because
Speaker:distress is a feedback to get you to priority,
Speaker:getting you to authenticity and who you are revolves around what you value most
Speaker:and who other people are, who they revolve around, what they value most,
Speaker:find out what they value most by asking questions and caring about them,
Speaker:to find out what they need are their needs are. Meet those needs.
Speaker:Find the niche of people that you love serving and get to those people,
Speaker:bringing the highest quality, most efficiency and systems.
Speaker:When you're living by priority,
Speaker:you're more effective and efficient in your actions.
Speaker:It's called in Ricardo's economic law.
Speaker:Every country has a competitive advantage based on the resources that are most
Speaker:natural to that habitat and resources in your life are based on whatever's
Speaker:highest on your value. Cause that's where you're going to excel.
Speaker:And that's what you're most at.
Speaker:So if you stick to what you are most powerful at, stay in your core competence,
Speaker:prioritize your life and stick to that, You open the doors for opportunities,
Speaker:but the second you go away from that, scatter yourself,
Speaker:react and not with by foresight, distress is going to be there.
Speaker:And distress is going to again, give you feedback to let you know, oh,
Speaker:change course. I've seen people literally lose it,
Speaker:just irrational as hell. And in the process of doing that,
Speaker:I've had it in my own life, watching myself doing that.
Speaker:And I stopped and looked at it and it's almost like a feedback to let you know,
Speaker:whatever you're perceiving, whatever you're doing,
Speaker:turn 180 degrees because that,
Speaker:that has given you a symptom to let you know the path you're on is not it.
Speaker:So it's offering you feedback to approach it with a different perspective and a
Speaker:different priority.
Speaker:So all of the symptoms in your life in the seven areas of your life are feedback
Speaker:mechanisms to guide you to the most authentic you. Most powered you.
Speaker:The most fulfilled you. Most inspired you, the most self-governed you.
Speaker:When you live by priority you end up self-governed,
Speaker:you're not distracted and you can easily say no to people that are trying to
Speaker:occupy space and time in your mind.
Speaker:And also if you're infatuated with things,
Speaker:the more infatuated you are or the more resentful you are,
Speaker:the more likely you're going to feel the loss of that and feel the gain of that.
Speaker:So anytime you allow yourself to live by low priority things,
Speaker:you're going to subjectively bias your perceptions and exaggerate what's going
Speaker:on, how good it is how bad it is, stop the story.
Speaker:If you're infatuated with somebody, stop the story.
Speaker:If you're resentful to something, stop story, running the story.
Speaker:Every time you run the story,
Speaker:you tend to exaggerate and dramatize with a positive feedback,
Speaker:subjective bias and get it more polarized. The more polarized,
Speaker:the more distressed you're going to be. The solution is love.
Speaker:The solution is balanced. The solution is priority. The solution is objectivity.
Speaker:The solution is going to forebrain and executive center.
Speaker:Self-Governance so prioritize your life because every time you prioritize life
Speaker:and stick by the highest priority things that blood glucose and oxygen goes into
Speaker:the forebrain and the forebrain governs down and calms down emotions,
Speaker:governs those down. Dampens the extremes of those,
Speaker:put some sort of objective gives you creative insights,
Speaker:allows you to see all your vision that you want. Those with a vision flourish.
Speaker:You're able to flourish and you're able to come up with solutions that transcend
Speaker:the problem. So take the time to prioritize your life. First,
Speaker:determine your values, prioritize your life,
Speaker:stick to priority and watch what happens.
Speaker:Your distress levels will become eustress and ask quality questions,
Speaker:How specifically, whatever's happening today, whatever's happening, what's real,
Speaker:how's it helping me get what I want in the seven areas of life in my highest
Speaker:values? And don't compare yourself to the past or future.
Speaker:Look at what's here right now.
Speaker:And how can you use the resources in front of you to do something amazing on
Speaker:planet earth. If you do that, amazing things will happen.
Speaker:And that's why I teach the Demartini Method.
Speaker:My Method is designed to neutralize those extremes,
Speaker:which lowers the distress level and the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:If you've never been to the Breakthrough Experience,
Speaker:please consider coming to the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:I promise you what you learn there, you aren't going to learn anywhere else.
Speaker:And it's a science on how to neutralize all the polarities
Speaker:that distract you from being present and inspired that add to the distress level
Speaker:and distress ages if it's not perceived properly from relate,
Speaker:but if it's used as a feedback that could be very powerful.
Speaker:And also one last thing I want to share a little gift,
Speaker:cause I think I've been a little bit long winded here.
Speaker:There's a number of years ago, a few years ago,
Speaker:I I went to a planetarium in South Africa,
Speaker:Johannesburg and I spoke to a YPO group, Young Presidents Organization.
Speaker:And these are adept individuals that were running businesses of a certain
Speaker:caliber.
Speaker:And we were in there and we were talking about how to have an astronomical
Speaker:vision. I said that if you want to make a difference in yourself,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as your family.
Speaker:If you want to make a difference in your family, to be a leader in the family,
Speaker:need a vision as big as your community.
Speaker:If you want to be number one in the community,
Speaker:you need a vision because you're sitting.
Speaker:If you want to be number one in the city,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as your state, you want to be number one in the state,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as the country, the nation,
Speaker:you want to be number one in the nation,
Speaker:you need an astronomical vision or global vision.
Speaker:And if you want to have a global effect,
Speaker:which is inevitable today on the internet, you need an astronomical vision.
Speaker:And so I explained that every time you're living by priority,
Speaker:your astronomical vision starts to emerge. And if you want to leave a legacy,
Speaker:you want to make a difference. You're not going to make a difference standing,
Speaker:fitting in. You're going to make a difference by standing out.
Speaker:And if you want to make a vast difference,
Speaker:you're going to do it by being unique. And if you want to make a bigger impact,
Speaker:you're going to do it by prioritizing your life and expanding and achieving.
Speaker:And every time you achieve,
Speaker:you wanna achieve something greater so that your astronomical vision Awakening
Speaker:Your Astronomical Vision is a gift.
Speaker:I'm absolutely certain you will inspired by it.
Speaker:You'll be inspired by this because I know everybody in that room was inspired by
Speaker:that night. And I know it's going to help you look from a bigger vision,
Speaker:an overview effect, astronauts and cosmonauts.
Speaker:And they go into space and look back at the earth and they fall in love with the
Speaker:earth and they can't judge it. The terrestrial world is a world of trial.
Speaker:The celestial world is a world of great grace.
Speaker:And the second you astronomically vision, you see things,
Speaker:your solution oriented, not problem oriented.
Speaker:So I just thought that that would be a perfect gift to give in this situation.
Speaker:So please, go to demartini.ink/mission
Speaker:and grab it.
Speaker:It's a very it's about living a purposeful life and it's insightful and it'll
Speaker:help you live inspired and it'll help you expand your vision.
Speaker:Cause the bigger your vision, the bigger your cause,
Speaker:the bigger outcome and the greater your wealth and the greater your,
Speaker:eustress levels, eustress and distress, the same things can happen in your life,
Speaker:but it's all about your perception.
Speaker:Once you take whatever's happened and turn it on the way instead of in the way,
Speaker:then the world is in your command instead of you're at the,
Speaker:you're either on top of the world,
Speaker:looking down on it from an overview effect from an astronomical vision,
Speaker:or you're on the bottom of the world where it's overwhelming you and you're
Speaker:feeling overwhelmed and it's on top of you, you decide,
Speaker:I hope today was helpful. And I, I know that you know,
Speaker:there's no reason for us to have anything on the outside world,
Speaker:stop us from our dreams. Don't let anybody on the face of the earth,
Speaker:stop you from what you know inside.
Speaker:There's nothing your mortal body can experience that your immortal soul can't
Speaker:love and turn into opportunity. So thank you for listening.
Speaker:Have a fantastic and inspiring day. Take what I've said and put it into action.
Speaker:Grab the opportunity by the astronomical vision, waking astronomical vision.
Speaker:I promise you, you'll say thank you.
Speaker:It's truly inspiring evening a presentation.
Speaker:And I look forward to seeing you on the next program.
Speaker:If I can see you live or online,
Speaker:on the Breakthrough Experience or whatever programs,
Speaker:I look forward to meeting you, please introduce yourself when we get there.
Speaker:And thank you again for being with me today, have an absolutely inspiring day.
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