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We have a very interesting topic today and it says 'Don't let covid get you

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down',

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I've had some people that are very inspired by what's

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experience. I call it st.

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Covid and others that have been a bit challenged because it's really thrown

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quite a bit of a change in their whole life.

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So I'd like to talk today about a topic that is probably

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a reality for somebody you love, if not yourself, and that is stress.

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And so if you have something to write with and write on it,

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you might want to take some notes. I mean, I know this is audio recorded,

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but it might be good to get a note down cause sometimes writing it,

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remember you remember it better.

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Stress itself has two forms.

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One is eustress

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and eustress is actually wellness promoting.

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And then there's distress which is illness promoting,

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but actually ultimately assisting you in your journey of being

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accountable and authentic.

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So even though it looks like it's creating symptoms in the body and it's stress

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and causing illness,

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it's actually also helping you get back on track to what's true for you.

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So let me elaborate on that.

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Eustress is when you're doing something that you love,

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that's inspiring to you, that is challenging to you.

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That is initiating a sympathetic parasympathetic balance.

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In inspirations you're doing something you love that supports your values,

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but you're also having the challenges of tackling the obstacles that it takes to

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do it. And the reason why it is eustress,

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which means true stress is that it's actually letting you

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know with it helping you with your wellbeing, that that's the pursuit,

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that's the direction to take in life.

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So eustress is a confirmation that you're actually on track with what's

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most deeply meaningful and inspiring and productive for your life.

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Distress is when you are attempting

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to get sort of a one sided life. And the other side is smacking you with it.

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And you're wanting a positive without a negative.

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You're wanting a pleasure without a pain.

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You're wanting an ease without difficulty. You're wanting a happy,

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without a sad, a support without a challenge.

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And then the other side of the magnet,

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the two poled magnet comes in and you don't want that side.

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And so because of the addiction to the pleasure side,

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the other side becomes very painful. And this is distress.

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Di means two, it's divided, divided stress vs eustress,

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which truly integrated.

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So when an individual is doing something they feel they have to do, got to do,

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and they feel that they're having to live by duty instead of design,

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they have distress and distress is letting them know that they're pursuing

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fantasies to some degree,

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that aren't really congruent and aligned with what's really deeply meaningful to

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them. And in a sense,

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it's a feedback and ultimately wellness promoting in the sense that it's

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offering you feedback. It's like letting you know,

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that's not the direction somehow re readjust.

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So distress is actually also ultimately

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on the way, not in the way. Now, you know,

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I don't do talks or presentations without discussing values.

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And so if you had any idea that I would do that,

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I don't want to let you down because it's just something I do,

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because really underlying all human drive and motive is the human value system.

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So let me put that into context first. Every individual,

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yourself,,

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anyone you meet at any one moment is living by a set of priorities,

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a set of values, things that are most to least important in their life.

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Whenever they're doing something that's highest on their value,

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the number one priority,

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the thing that's most important and they're taking

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spontaneously, intrinsically, desiring to go and fulfill that,

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the challenges that they face in the pursuit of that is perceived as on the

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way and is perceived as eustressful.

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It's like a young boy who loves video games and he's conquering the video game

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and he wants to beat the video game and he's challenged to do it,

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but he's not going to give up. He's just going to keep doing it.

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And he's going to figure out and do it again and do it again until he masters

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it. And so he loves beating the video game. So that's eustressful.

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But if you tell him that he's got to do his chores or his homework or clean his

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room, and he doesn't really want to do it, it's not high on his values.

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It's low on his values. And he feels he has to do it because of an outside,

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you know, persuasion, punishment if he doesn't, reward if he does kind of thing,

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then he has distress and even thinking about having to do it.

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And when he does it, he doesn't want to do it.

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So he's got a built in break on in addition to his gas pedal.

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So he's got a kind of like a hesitation and uncertainty when he's functioning.

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And it is the pursuit of something low on your value that

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is what leads to the distress.

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And any time you do something high on value your selfworth goes up.

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Anytime you do something low on your values your self worth goes down.

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So not only is it distressing, but it lowers your self worth.

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Now with that said, whenever you're doing something low on your values,

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you tend to, because of the unfulfillment in doing it,

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you tend to look for immediate gratification and you

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bias perspective, kind of twist things.

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And you have an unrealistic expectation you put on yourself or possibly other

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people. And as a result of it, you sometimes expect it to be done quick and

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if it takes longer, you're more frustrated and it's distressful.

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And of course your cortisol levels go up and norepinephrine epinephrine and all

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the catecholamines, and you know,

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the osteocalcin and all the things that are the distress process,

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the fight or flight mechanism go up and it actually raises your blood pressure

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and causes a digestive disturbances and immune deficiencies and all kinds of

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problems. And that's because it's,

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you're trying to go and get something that's not real in life.

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There is no human being that's one side, there's no goal that's one side,

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there's no pursuit that's one sided that's real. It's delusional,

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it's fantasy. So anytime you go off in a fantasy,

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you're going to end up having these distressful responses.

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And that's why it's not a bad thing.

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It's actually giving you feedback to let you know that you're not pursuing true

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objectives that have been, you know, balanced in your perspective

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and you're willing to mitigate the risks and planning with foresight.

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And you're now right now looking for fantasies and

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Now, let me take that and put that in a different context.

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And I hope you write this down because this is something that may be a novel

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idea to you. There's only two forms of stress,

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only two forms. You will never experience anything but two forms of stress.

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And stress is the inability to adapt to a changing environment,

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an inability to adapt to a changing environment.

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People that are able to adapt and have resiliency,

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they don't perceive the distress that most people do.

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So the inability to adapt to a changing environment is distress.

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Stress has two farms. And please get this and write this:

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the perception of loss of that which you seek

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and the perception of gain of that what you're trying to avoid.

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I'm going to say it again.

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The perception of loss of that of that which you seek and the

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perception of gain about what you're trying to avoid.

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That's it. I boiled it down and distilled it down to the very essence.

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In the amygdala, which is a subcortical area of the brain,

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which is called the desire center,

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which comes active when you're not living by your highest values,

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but you're living by lower values and you feel trapped doing something you have

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to do. The amygdala comes in as a compensation for the unfulfilled,

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highest values. And it wants immediate gratification.

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And it wants pleasure without a pain. It wants a prey without a predator.

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It wants an ease without a difficulty,

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and it sets up a fantasy and a delusion and some unrealistic

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expectation that is impossible to meet. If you do meet it,

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it's only transient,

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which leads to anger and self depreciation and lots of other symptoms,

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which is distressful.

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So the second you strive for that which is unobtainable and try to avoid that

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which is unavoidable, you end up with distress and you're non resilient. Why?

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Because the more infatuated where you are with something,

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the more you fear its loss, and the more you resent something,

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the more you fear it's gain. So stop and look right now,

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think and do an inventory of what you think you might be distressful about.

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Or maybe you've got a friend who's distressed. Maybe

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And I guarantee you, it's going to be one of two things.

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The perception of loss of that which you seek,

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or the perception of gain of that what you're trying to avoid.

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So let's give an example. We'll go around the wheel of life.

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The wheel of life is made up of the spiritual path, your intellectual path,

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your business path, your financial path, your family relationship path,

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your social leadership path,

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your physical health and well being path and your inspired spiritual path.

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So let's start with business.

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Anytime you perceive the loss of what you want, clients, income,

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business, cooperation of staff. Anytime

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that's what you seek ,the perception of loss of any of those things is going to

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be distressful. At any time,

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the things you don't want, bills, challenges,

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incompetencies, people not showing up.

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Anytime you attract something you don't want, you got distress.

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So the gain of that, what you are trying to avoid,

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and the loss of that what you're trying to seek is distressful in business.

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When it comes to financial, same thing, you want money,

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you don't want bills, typically.

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So if you have a perception of loss of income or a perception of gain of

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bills, unexpected bills, that's distressful.

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If you have a perception of loss of bills and gain of income,

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that's not distressful, that's invigorating.

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But what happens is if you feel that you're, you're getting a loss of that,

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which you seek, and a gain of that, what you're trying to avoid, it's.

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Or opportunities in business for future income or

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hindrances of people threatening or challenging in some form or not living up

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to, or not honoring their agreements.

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So anytime you have a perception of loss about that which you seek,

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and a perception of gain of that which you resent in business, you got distress.

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Now add that to finances, loss of money, gain of money.

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And then you do that with the relationship.

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Let's say you're infatuated with somebody and you now fear the loss of them or

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you resent somebody and you fear of being around them, again,

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distressful and in friendships, if you have people on Facebook and there's,

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you fear you're losing people on your, your network or whatever,

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then that's distressful,

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or you're getting people you don't want on that network. So the gain,

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the perception of loss of the people you want,

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or the perception gain of people you don't want in the social networking.

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When it comes to health obviously you want

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vital wellbeing. You want to perform at your peak.

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Anytime you have a loss of peak performance you feel

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distressed and you feel like you're, you're losing your health.

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And at the same time,

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you feel like you're getting symptoms and fatigue and

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other symptoms in your body or whatever you, you don't want those.

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So you have a gain of that, which you don't want. That's distressful.

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And the same thing with spirituality,

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you're if you're inspired and you want the inspired path and you want to live by

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hot priorities, and then you feel that no matter what you do,

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you're overwhelmed by distractions or something that you're not able to say no

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to them. And you feel like you've lost what's inspiring to you.

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It's going to be distressful.

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And you're gaining all these things that are frustrating to you,

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that are low in priority, distressful. And the same thing intellectually,

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you feel like you've got a sharp memory and a great mind,

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and you're learning things and you're absorbing things and you're using your

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mind effective and you're being creative.

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The loss of any of those is going to be distressful.

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And the gain of cloudiness frustration, lack of memory, lack of information,

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not getting what you want knowledge wise is distressful.

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So any area of life, the perception of loss of that what you seek,

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the perception of gain of what you don't want or resent is

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distressful. And distressful as I said,

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runs your immune system down and self depreciates.

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But what that is, is symptoms, guiding you back to what's authentic.

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Because when ever you're not filling your day with the highest priority actions

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that you can,

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that are proven to work in each of the seven areas of life and making sure that

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they're either raised on your value list or linked to your highest values where

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you're spontaneously inspired to do them,

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doing the things that are really highest in priority. You are designed,

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designed, to have distress.

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Distress is a feedback system to let you know, you're not living by priority.

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So right now let's say you have Corona.

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And let's say that it's stopping you from doing the things you used to do,

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that you wanted to do,

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or stopping you from doing the things you fantasize about doing.

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If you perceive that what you did in the past had more benefits than drawbacks,

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and you perceive that what you fantasize about the future has got more positives

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than negatives, then the perception of loss of that's going to be distressful.

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So that means when you look at your life,

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you had a fantasy that it was better, or it's going to be better.

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My advice is to actually get present right now and do an inventory of what's

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real. Because comparing your life to a fantasy about how it used to be,

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or a fantasy about how it will be,

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instead of looking at what it actually is and starting from what actually is,

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because anytime you compare what actually is to a fantasy of the past or a

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fantasy of the future, you won't be present now,

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you'll be comparing it to fantasy.

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Anytime you compare your current reality to fantasy,

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you're gonna get depressed and you're going to get immobilised and you're going

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to end up distressed.

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And then you had to get angry because you have an unrealistic expectation on

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yourself or on the world around you.

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There's in the Breakthrough Experience program that I teach,

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which I've taught 1,102 times I believe.

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There's 15 delusions that people face in their life;

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unrealistic expectations on others to be one sided,

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unrealistic expectation on others to live in your values and outside their own

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values, unrealistic expectations of both of those together.

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Unrealistic expectation on you to be one sided, always up, never down,

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always positive,

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never negative unrealistic expectation on you to live outside your own values or

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in somebody else's values, unrealistic expectation of both of those combined.

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Unrealistic expectation of others

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and you're having all those delusions and those unrealistic expectations,

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unrealistic expectations on society in general,

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to be one sided or to live in your values or the combination,

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or all the above. Unrealistic expectation on mechanical objects,

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like an ATM machine or a car or whatever,

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to do something it's not designed to do and to live in your values and read your

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mind.

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All of these unrealistic expectations are going to lead to what I call anger and

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aggression, feelings of blame and feeling betrayed, criticism and challenge,

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despair, and depression, desire to exit and escape the situation,

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feel frustrated, futile, and feel grieving and grouchy,

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and then hatred and hurt, and maybe insanity and irritability.

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The ABCDFGHI's of negativity I call it.

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And anytime you have those unrealistic expectation, you're adding distress.

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But again,

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the distress is a feedback to you to let you know that what you're perceiving

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and expecting is delusional. When I look at,

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when I have been stressed,

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I found that it's some unrealistic expectation or an attachment

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to a one sided outcome or a comparison of something the way I

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fantasize it being which is unrealistic or a fantasy about how it used to be,

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that I perceivedhad upsides without downsides.

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But when I actually go back and look at it, there were downsides,

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but I was blinding myself to it,

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storing those illusions in my subconscious mind. And now reacting. Again,

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every thing that's going on in your life is ultimately on the way,

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not in the way.

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And distress is a feedback system to guide you to be authentic and

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authenticity is to live by priority according to your highest values,

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your real identity,

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cause your real identity revolves around what you value most.

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So anytime you're not,

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you're having distress it's a sign that you're doing something low on your

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priority,

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and you're having unrealistic expectations because what's there is what's there,

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and comparing it to what it's not there is not real.

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And so here's the, here's the bottom line now.

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Stop right now and look at what's actual. If you're sitting there in COVID,

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what may be actual is that you have now clients that are different or

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situations that are different. The wise thing to do is to ask,

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how is that situation helping you fulfill what you value most?

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How is it on the way? How's it helping you get what you want?

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How's it giving you an opportunity?

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Who is it getting your opportunity to meet what new creative ideas is

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initiating, go around the wheel? What ideas is initiating? What is it?

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What, how, what opportunities do I have in business?

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How can it help me make more money? How can it help my relationship?

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How can it help me socially and network myself?

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How can I use it physically to help my health and fitness.

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I've been using the COVID to go out and do more jogging and exercise.

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I did 50 sit ups, 50 pushups and a mile this morning.

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How's it helping me live an inspired life.

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The quality of your life is based on the quality questions you ask. If you ask,

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how is whatever's happening,

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helping you in the seven areas of life and helping you fulfill what you value

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most, I assure you,

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you will discover that what you're perceiving as distressful will melt,

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and your mind will come up with creative answers and solutions.

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Because anytime you're living by highest values, you open up your creative mind,

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your ingenious, innovation, creativity, and your,

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your new ideas and original ideas emerge whenever you see things on the way,

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not in a way.

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So you can transform distress and the symptoms which are offering a feedback

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to guide you back into priority. And once you go back into priority,

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you'll transform distress into eustress. It has nothing to do

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with what's going on around you.

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It has everything to do with how you perceive it.

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It's not what happens to you on the outside.

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It's how you perceive it on the inside. You have control of your perceptions,

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decisions, and actions in life. And so it's not external things.

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People that are run by external things are never masters.

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They're run by external. I said on The Secret many years ago,

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'When the voice and the vision on the inside is louder than all opinions on the

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outside,

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the greater and more profound and louder than all opinions on the outside and

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all events on the outside,

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you've mastered your life.' William James said the greatest discovery of his

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generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their

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perceptions and attitudes of mind. By asking new questions,

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how specifically is whatever's happening helping me get what I want,

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what's highest on my value, what's truly inspiring to me. What is really,

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really most important and meaningful. What is most productive?

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How's it helped me business? How has it helped me in each area?

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By asking that question, and don't lie and say, 'I don't know. I can't find it.

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It's not.' Don't be giving into the power to outside and blame things on the

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outside.

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You will never empower your life dissociating and blaming

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out there every time you blame something on the external you'll look for some

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savior on the outside. Of course, religions have sold you saviors for, for,

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for centuries.

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If you want to be disempowered and offload accountabilities in your life and

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blame the world out there for the devil and blame somebody out there or give

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credit to somebody out there, that's going to save you,

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well you're not going to master your life.

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You're going to disempower your life and give your power to other people.

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That's called brain offloaded.

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And that's a sign that you're living in low values and uninspired and not

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prioritizing taking command and becoming a leader. So don't do that.

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Don't waste your time on that. You're not going to get anywhere doing that.

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That's a false reality, a scape goat of reality.

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Stop and ask,

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how is whatever's happening - get grounded in what's actually happening - how

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right now is it helping me fulfill what is inspiring to me?

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And do not come up with anything but that answer, dig. And don't say,

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I don't know. When somebody says, I don't know, I can't, and I'm not.

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It means they don't have enough motive to go and look,

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I see it every week in the Breakthrough Experience.

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And every week when I have people go back and do it again,

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they find an answer and then they go, thank you.

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Once you go through that hurdle and find the answer,

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a creative idea comes out of the same situation you're facing,

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and this so-called distress turns into eustress

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and you're back in the game again. And immediately you got a surge of energy.

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Cause the second, you see things on the way, not in the way your energy goes up.

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And the second you do,

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your blood sugar goes up and you start creatively thinking in the brain because

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the brain uses the most glucose and oxygen.

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And it starts thinking again and boom, you come up with solutions.

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How is whatever's happening on the way, not in the way?

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How's it helping me in the seven areas?

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How's it helped me fulfill my highest values?

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And if you have not taken the time to go and determine what your values are and

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you're new to maybe these, these little programs I'm offering here,

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please go on my website,

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drdemartini.com and do the value determination process.

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Just take the time to go on there and do the value,

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determination process and do it once. Sit on it for a week.

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Do it again a week later, sit on it,

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do it another month and be fricking honest with yourself.

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Answer the questions, integrally and don't write what you think it should be.

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Don't think what, what it used to be or what you hope it would be,

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the fantasies, write what your life demonstrates is really important to you in

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those 13 questions that's going to ask you. And if you do,

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you'll get clear about what's important to you because anytime you're doing an

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action and pursuing something, that's not really high on your priorities,

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you're going to create distress.

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A lot of times people go and they think there's something wrong with them.

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I've seen major psychologists. There's a guy right now.

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I don't need to give his name, but a very,

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very intelligent psychologist that's in a delusion right now.

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And he's caught in an unrealistic expectation and he's distressed.

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Not because he has to be not because of what's happened,

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but because of the expectation. So it's not necessarily,

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you know what your experiences are. It's basically how you perceive him.

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So take the time, do the value, determination. Do it again. And again,

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until you get clear and what you say on there is integral to what

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your life demonstrates. Don't write a fantasy down, that's,

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that's the thing that will cause you more distress.

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The pursuit of fantasies is the cause of people's nightmares.

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That's the cause of it.

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I've watched people go after delusions and then end up wondering why life beats

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them up. Life is magnificent. It's giving you feedback.

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It's offering you symptomatology. Symptoms are not bad.

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I'm going to make sure that I say that twice.

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People think that symptoms are bad.

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Symptoms are feedback mechanisms to guide you to wise actions.

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If you pig out and you feel yucky the next morning,

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the yucky feeling symptoms are letting you know, quit pigging out little oinker,

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don't pig out. If you go and stay up late and you didn't get any sleep.

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And you feel trashed. It's feedback to let you know, that's not the way to live.

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So it's feedback, all symptoms in any of the seven areas of life,

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act as feedback mechanisms to guide you, to set priorities

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with yourself and to put realistic expectation of yourself and to take

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prioritzed actions and to set realistic expectations on others.

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People live by their values, not yours.

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So if you project your values onto them and expect them to live in your values,

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you're going to be distressed.

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If you expect you to live in somebody else's values,

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you're going to be distressed.

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If you expect to live them or you in one side ways, always one sided,

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you're going to be distressed.

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If you try to do something low on your priorities in life,

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you're going to be distressed.

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Cause cause whenever you're doing something that's high on your values,

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you're more objective. You're more balanced, more resilient,

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you're more adaptable. You have a bigger vision. You expand yourself.

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You see things from an overview effect where you're less judging.

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You're more creative. You see solution orientation, not problem orientation,

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but the second you go down to lower priority things and not be accountable to

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what is high in priority in your life and subordinate to everybody else's

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expectations,

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which is trying to please people instead of being prioritized and doing a

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service that serves people. The second you do that,

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you're going to get the ABCDs of negativity.

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You're going to end up with the symptoms of distress and they're going to,

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there'll be feedback to let you know. I've seen people, self depreciate,

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beat themselves up because they're comparing themselves to other people,

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expecting to live in other people's values. Try to be somebody they're not.

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And they beat themselves up and they go,

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'why do I keep beating myself up?' I said,

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because you keep building yourself up with a fantasy about who you are

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instead of honoring who you are. And as long as you don't honor who you are,

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you're going to beat yourself up because the symptoms in your body and your

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psychology are going to get you to be who you are.

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The magnificence of who you are,

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is greater than all the fantasies you impose on yourself.

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And the most magnificent you are is the authentic you,

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which is based on what's truly priority and important to you in your life based

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on your true, authentic values. And even though those values are evolving,

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you need to keep current with them and make sure your goals are consistent with

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them.

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You will transform distress into eustress the moment you live by priority.

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And so I'm a firm believer that you need to take the time,

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go back and do the value determination process and get clear about what's really

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important to you. Look at your priorities, prioritize what you do in business,

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prioritize what you do with money. You know,

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many people are just impulse buying it,

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walking in a store and letting the world out there with its sales tactics and

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rhetorical persuasion mechanisms, grab your money,

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instead of you going in there with an agenda, a little piece of paper that says,

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here's what I'm going to buy today. Go in there on priority.

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Think it out with foresight, foresight saves you money.

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Hindsight costs you money. The same thing with friends,

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prioritize who you hang out with, prioritize what you read,

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prioritize what you eat.

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If you're living by the highest priority things and not living to eat,

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but you're eating to live. You're reading to live.

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You're reading high priority things that inspire you.

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You're hanging out with people that are inspiring.

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You're going places that are inspiring. If you take the time to do that, you,

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you think about what will be of the most value to your customer. Most value,

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highest priority to them,

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it's about going and figuring out what's the highest priority thing to the

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customer. What's the highest priority thing to do.

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So you can't wait to get up in the morning and do what you love to do,

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helping them get what they want to do.

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If you do that you'll flourish and the distresses will go down because

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distress is a feedback to get you to priority,

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getting you to authenticity and who you are revolves around what you value most

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and who other people are, who they revolve around, what they value most,

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find out what they value most by asking questions and caring about them,

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to find out what they need are their needs are. Meet those needs.

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Find the niche of people that you love serving and get to those people,

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bringing the highest quality, most efficiency and systems.

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When you're living by priority,

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you're more effective and efficient in your actions.

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It's called in Ricardo's economic law.

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Every country has a competitive advantage based on the resources that are most

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natural to that habitat and resources in your life are based on whatever's

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highest on your value. Cause that's where you're going to excel.

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And that's what you're most at.

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So if you stick to what you are most powerful at, stay in your core competence,

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prioritize your life and stick to that, You open the doors for opportunities,

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but the second you go away from that, scatter yourself,

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react and not with by foresight, distress is going to be there.

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And distress is going to again, give you feedback to let you know, oh,

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change course. I've seen people literally lose it,

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just irrational as hell. And in the process of doing that,

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I've had it in my own life, watching myself doing that.

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And I stopped and looked at it and it's almost like a feedback to let you know,

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whatever you're perceiving, whatever you're doing,

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turn 180 degrees because that,

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that has given you a symptom to let you know the path you're on is not it.

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So it's offering you feedback to approach it with a different perspective and a

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different priority.

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So all of the symptoms in your life in the seven areas of your life are feedback

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mechanisms to guide you to the most authentic you. Most powered you.

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The most fulfilled you. Most inspired you, the most self-governed you.

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When you live by priority you end up self-governed,

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you're not distracted and you can easily say no to people that are trying to

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occupy space and time in your mind.

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And also if you're infatuated with things,

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the more infatuated you are or the more resentful you are,

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the more likely you're going to feel the loss of that and feel the gain of that.

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So anytime you allow yourself to live by low priority things,

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you're going to subjectively bias your perceptions and exaggerate what's going

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on, how good it is how bad it is, stop the story.

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If you're infatuated with somebody, stop the story.

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If you're resentful to something, stop story, running the story.

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Every time you run the story,

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you tend to exaggerate and dramatize with a positive feedback,

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subjective bias and get it more polarized. The more polarized,

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the more distressed you're going to be. The solution is love.

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The solution is balanced. The solution is priority. The solution is objectivity.

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The solution is going to forebrain and executive center.

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Self-Governance so prioritize your life because every time you prioritize life

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and stick by the highest priority things that blood glucose and oxygen goes into

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the forebrain and the forebrain governs down and calms down emotions,

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governs those down. Dampens the extremes of those,

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put some sort of objective gives you creative insights,

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allows you to see all your vision that you want. Those with a vision flourish.

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You're able to flourish and you're able to come up with solutions that transcend

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the problem. So take the time to prioritize your life. First,

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determine your values, prioritize your life,

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stick to priority and watch what happens.

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Your distress levels will become eustress and ask quality questions,

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How specifically, whatever's happening today, whatever's happening, what's real,

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how's it helping me get what I want in the seven areas of life in my highest

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values? And don't compare yourself to the past or future.

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Look at what's here right now.

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And how can you use the resources in front of you to do something amazing on

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planet earth. If you do that, amazing things will happen.

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And that's why I teach the Demartini Method.

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My Method is designed to neutralize those extremes,

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which lowers the distress level and the Breakthrough Experience.

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If you've never been to the Breakthrough Experience,

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please consider coming to the Breakthrough Experience.

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I promise you what you learn there, you aren't going to learn anywhere else.

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And it's a science on how to neutralize all the polarities

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that distract you from being present and inspired that add to the distress level

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and distress ages if it's not perceived properly from relate,

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but if it's used as a feedback that could be very powerful.

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And also one last thing I want to share a little gift,

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cause I think I've been a little bit long winded here.

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There's a number of years ago, a few years ago,

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I I went to a planetarium in South Africa,

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Johannesburg and I spoke to a YPO group, Young Presidents Organization.

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And these are adept individuals that were running businesses of a certain

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caliber.

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And we were in there and we were talking about how to have an astronomical

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vision. I said that if you want to make a difference in yourself,

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you need a vision as big as your family.

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If you want to make a difference in your family, to be a leader in the family,

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need a vision as big as your community.

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If you want to be number one in the community,

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you need a vision because you're sitting.

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If you want to be number one in the city,

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you need a vision as big as your state, you want to be number one in the state,

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you need a vision as big as the country, the nation,

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you want to be number one in the nation,

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you need an astronomical vision or global vision.

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And if you want to have a global effect,

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which is inevitable today on the internet, you need an astronomical vision.

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And so I explained that every time you're living by priority,

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your astronomical vision starts to emerge. And if you want to leave a legacy,

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you want to make a difference. You're not going to make a difference standing,

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fitting in. You're going to make a difference by standing out.

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And if you want to make a vast difference,

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you're going to do it by being unique. And if you want to make a bigger impact,

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you're going to do it by prioritizing your life and expanding and achieving.

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And every time you achieve,

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you wanna achieve something greater so that your astronomical vision Awakening

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Your Astronomical Vision is a gift.

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I'm absolutely certain you will inspired by it.

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You'll be inspired by this because I know everybody in that room was inspired by

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that night. And I know it's going to help you look from a bigger vision,

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an overview effect, astronauts and cosmonauts.

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And they go into space and look back at the earth and they fall in love with the

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earth and they can't judge it. The terrestrial world is a world of trial.

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The celestial world is a world of great grace.

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And the second you astronomically vision, you see things,

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your solution oriented, not problem oriented.

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So I just thought that that would be a perfect gift to give in this situation.

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So please, go to demartini.ink/mission

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and grab it.

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It's a very it's about living a purposeful life and it's insightful and it'll

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help you live inspired and it'll help you expand your vision.

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Cause the bigger your vision, the bigger your cause,

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the bigger outcome and the greater your wealth and the greater your,

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eustress levels, eustress and distress, the same things can happen in your life,

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but it's all about your perception.

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Once you take whatever's happened and turn it on the way instead of in the way,

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then the world is in your command instead of you're at the,

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you're either on top of the world,

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looking down on it from an overview effect from an astronomical vision,

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or you're on the bottom of the world where it's overwhelming you and you're

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feeling overwhelmed and it's on top of you, you decide,

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I hope today was helpful. And I, I know that you know,

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there's no reason for us to have anything on the outside world,

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stop us from our dreams. Don't let anybody on the face of the earth,

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stop you from what you know inside.

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There's nothing your mortal body can experience that your immortal soul can't

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love and turn into opportunity. So thank you for listening.

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Have a fantastic and inspiring day. Take what I've said and put it into action.

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Grab the opportunity by the astronomical vision, waking astronomical vision.

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I promise you, you'll say thank you.

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It's truly inspiring evening a presentation.

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And I look forward to seeing you on the next program.

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If I can see you live or online,

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on the Breakthrough Experience or whatever programs,

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I look forward to meeting you, please introduce yourself when we get there.

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And thank you again for being with me today, have an absolutely inspiring day.

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