Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. Yeah, the title says it already. Let that shit

go. Do you pick your fights wisely? Are you always calm and

kind of contained? When it comes to irritating situations, or

annoying people or just a little fight with someone you love?

Well, then you can go ahead with your life and skip that episode.

If you are like me, easily triggered on some days more than

others, then this is the exact thing you need to listen to. The

noise in the background is my three month old puppy wrestling

with himself. And I'm going to leave him in there because his

kind of rough housing mentality totally suits my vibe today.

Yeah, how do you react when something really annoys you when

a person is being rude? When a person is being? Yeah, just

simply annoying. Do you talk back? Do you pick a fight? or?

Yeah, do you corner them? Do you confront them? For the longest

time I was the person who would pick fights when someone really

annoys me and confront them and really get verbally, aggressive,

passive aggressive, and you name it everything above. And I

learned that not only wasting my time, I'm wasting precious

energy. Because most of the time, the person who's annoying

you. Or if they're made a mistake, if they repetitively,

repetitively do something that is, yeah, triggering you, they

know, they know it. A few have told them in a calm fashion

before they know you and know what triggers you. And maybe it

just happened and was not a big intention behind it. And even if

there was then let me tell you, I learned so much by just

letting things go and not talking back. It took me a lot

of training. And I'm not 100% there yet. That's why it's so

awesome. I get to talk about it because I today have you

extremely triggered and irritated and to talk about it

helps. So if you can just let it go in the moment and just go for

a walk or drink a cup of water or do something completely

different. Like calling a friend not talking about that

incidents. Just moving on with your life and pretending nothing

happened. But also being honest with yourself and reflecting

about it later on. It is so so precious advice that I received

a couple years back and that I'm trying to apply now way

nowadays. And it's incredible, how much more energized I feel

at the end of the day, instead of feeling drained because of

other people or a situation that really really annoyed the crap

out of me. So when it comes to a person, maybe a person you live

with a family member, it is very hard to change because those

people know who you are, how you reacted in the past. And now if

you react differently, it will be different for them to but not

necessarily in a bad way. It is for you own sake, that you can

just let it go and know that life will move on and the world

keeps spinning. And when you find quiet, more,

how do you say rest for a state later on, you can address it and

say, Hey, this made me feel powerless, or this made me feel

very stupid, or you make me feel inferior. And I know, I'm 100%

accountable of how I feel. But I felt uncomfortable, they're how

you talk to me. So take all the emotions and reactions out and

express yourself in a very calm way. And you'll have set a

beautiful outcome in the future. And I know, like I'm the first

to just blow up and to just react and it kind of feels

awesome too, because you can let that energy out right away. But

trust me, it makes you feel shitty. The second, you're done

with your explosion, you blow out, you let that steam out. But

then it kind of leaves a weird aftertaste. So I want to spare

you that. And maybe if you're starting out to be a more

responsive person, instead of reactive person, it will take

some time and some training. But don't give up know that it is

really the path to engage in. And it will bring you lots of

extra energy that you didn't have before. And then when it

comes to situations in daily life, maybe a rude grocery

clerk, then I advise to invent a little story. So that grocery

clerk is super rude and doesn't even say hi, and blah, blah,

blah, just invent a little story and think, oh, maybe that person

got dumped today, maybe her mom died, or maybe her dad is in a

hospital and she is just not able to being friendly today. So

don't make it about yourself when someone is being rude

outside of your bubble, try to have compassion and to know that

we all have struggles. And we all face some times where we

cannot be happy and engaging with other people. Like they

want it or expected from us. And when it comes to life situations

that happen, then I can only say it is stuff that is outside of

your that cannot be controlled. And we have to learn that life

is a river life is a flow, nothing is stagnant. Everything

is changing. And to be most resilient is to have backup

plans. like of course engaging 100% on a path that you want to

commit. But also knowing that things can go wrong. And you

need kind of a support net, let's call it support net

instead of a backup plan to be more resilient. And this was doe

they're getting angry at his antlers is here. And you can

save a lot of energy and not getting upset with the news or

stuff that you really can control because it's a waste of

your precious beautiful energy that we need out there. And you

can't control it anyways. only focus on the stuff that you can

really influence and maybe control to some degree and give

your best and when shit goes sideways, know that it is okay

to have a bad day. It is okay to not be succeeding. Every day.

There's plateau days, there's days where things go worse than

others and just sit there reflect about it and know that

you are in a good place and things will change again for you

very soon. So, yeah, thank you so much for listening to me

today about shit that can go wrong fights that can be picked

or can be chosen to be avoided. And, yeah, my biggest

mission here is to help you save energy and to feel good with

yourself and your relationships and your environment around you.

Take good care of yourself. Until next time, tomorrow. Bye