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In this episode, I'm going to talk you through the different types of coaches

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there are for you and the signs to look out for when choosing the good

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ones. Hi, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset

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coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast.

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Here's my promise to you. If you ever book a call with me,

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come to Brave Biz Labs, which is the call that I do every single fourth

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Friday of the month, where I offer free business strategy and coaching to

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anyone who wants it or message me asking me about your business

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idea. I promise you that I will tell you if it

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sucks. And this is why I'm considering

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dropping the term coach from my title.

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I recently had a conversation with one of my business partners. We're doing

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market research for a new offer that we're launching for a new business, and

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it's very exciting, but we're interviewing business owners

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about where they're struggling, what their idea is,

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how they want to grow, so on and so forth. And he was telling me

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about his most recent interview with a gentleman who has

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spent about two years trying to get his business off the ground. He hired a

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coach who told him that his business idea was good. It

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is not. This coach also told him to

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stop creating content for social media on LinkedIn and

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to start just cold calling a bunch of investors and asking them for money.

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If you're also a trained coach, you know that this is not coaching. The

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term coach gets used in a lot of different ways. And I want to

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explain this first before we get into how you can really

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find the right coach, mentor, consultant, whatever it is

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that you need for where you're at in your business. But before we get there,

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let's talk about what the definitions are so that it makes sense when we

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get there.

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Classical coaching, where you've gone to school, gotten

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trained, you either got trained in life coaching, leadership coaching, executive

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coaching. In traditional coaching, your coach is not

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telling you what to do. In traditional coaching, your coach is

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literally asking you very open ended questions so

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that you can figure out your way of getting to your

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own goal. And if you don't know what your goal is, they're also asking

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you very clear, open ended questions so you can figure out what your goal

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is. In talking to my business partner, David, you know, he was saying it

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was really irresponsible of this guy's coach to not tell him

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that his idea was bad. To which I said, well, actually, if he was

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following the ICF, the International Coaches Federation

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code of Ethics, he actually can't tell his client that his idea

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is bad. It is not a coach's responsibility to

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on their clients dreams. Now, obviously, I don't think this coach was

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following the ICF code of ethics because he was

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very clearly giving directions on what this person should and shouldn't do.

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Don't post on LinkedIn, just go and cold call, which is bad

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advice. We're not doing that anywhere. It doesn't matter what kind

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of business you're in. We're not doing that. But it does open up a really

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interesting conversation around what coaching is and what it isn't. Now, there are

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coaches who are classically trained who are not going to give you

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answers, who are not going to tell you what to do. They're only ever going

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to ask you questions and help you figure out what you want to do.

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This is how I was trained and I no longer really do

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this because it really doesn't matter how many questions I

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ask my clients about what they think they could do on a sales call. If

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they've never sold anything and have no idea about

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best practices for a sales call, me asking them a whole bunch

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of open ended questions isn't going to do to make them better at sales.

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One of the things that I learned in kind of stumbling along

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and changing my niche is that I really enjoy teaching. I really

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enjoy sharing my expertise. I really enjoy helping people

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figure out which of the seven options to grow their business is the

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best option for them and then showing them exactly how they can take action on

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it. And in the world of coaching, the term

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coach gets very messy at this point because you have people

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who are trained coaches who think, okay, well, I'm not telling you what to do.

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I'm going to do classical coaching with you, and that's how I'm going to help

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my clients. And that's valid. And then on the other side, you have people who

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are experts at a specific thing, like LinkedIn,

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copywriting, podcasting, and they can

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call themselves coaches because they are helping people with a very

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specific thing, but they're giving advice and they're teaching and they're

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sharing their expertise and knowledge. And then you have people like me who kind of

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like, bastardize both. You know, I'm so grateful for the training that I have as

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a coach. I use a lot of it with my clients, but it's not the

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primary service that I offer. When my clients come to

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me with their business idea, I will tell them if it's a good idea or

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a bad idea, if it's a bad idea. I'll help

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them figure out what questions to ask to either figure out if they can

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improve it or is there something similar that we can switch to that

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actually has a market for it? If it's a great idea, then we'll just

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jump right into creating a strategy to start making them money

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and getting them clients.

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So how do you know the difference? How do you

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as a business owner and also a business owner who like,

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all the options out there, how do you tell the difference

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between who a good coach is and who a bad coach

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is? And when I say bad coach, they may not necessarily be bad. They

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may just not be right for what you need right now. So here's some

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things that you need to look at before you start looking for your coach.

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First and foremost, are you at the point where you need to start

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this business? If you're not, if you're still at the ideation phase,

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if you're still not sure if this is really what you want, if

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you're still toying with a bunch of other options in your life, I would actually

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recommend that you work with a classical coach. I would recommend that you

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find a coach who is trained and certified, who follows the

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International Coaches Federation for the definition of coaching, who can

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help you discover what it is that you really

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want. Because it doesn't matter how much money you throw into starting

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a business if it's not actually something that you want and if you don't have

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a clear idea of how it's going to make your life better, I guarantee you

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you're not going to do the work. And because you're not doing the work, you're

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not going to get the results. And because you're not getting the results, you're going

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to have zero return on investment for that

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program, those sessions, whatever it is that you signed up for,

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really take your time to make sure that this is the path that you want.

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giving you advice on it, who's genuinely asking you the

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right questions to help you figure out what you want your life to look

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like. There are some really shady coach

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schools out there. So here is the gold

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standard is you want to find someone

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who has been to a coaching school that

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is ICF recognized International

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Coaches Federation. I personally know really talented

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coaches from the Coactive training institute where I was trained and

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certified, from IPEC, which is very similar to

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coactive and from accomplishment coaching.

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If you're looking for a coach like this, then you can also dm me

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on any of the social media platforms, or you can email

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me@katyatimcmanis.com and ask me

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if I can give you a recommendation. I'm happy to offer this to

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anyone who's listening. If you need to figure out what your next steps are and

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you're not at the point where you know what kind of business you want to

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start, okay. But you do not want to sign up for a mentorship. You do

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not want to sign up for a program. Here's what I did and how you

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can do the same, because it's not going to work for you at this point.

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idea, then you have to ask yourself this question.

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like? And is there a model out there that already matches that

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perfectly? Because if there is and you're really good at following

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instructions, you can absolutely find someone who will

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mentor you, who's done exactly what you want to do,

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and will turn around and say, cool, here's what I did. Here's how I did

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caveat here, that this typically works better for people who are

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neurotypical. So if you have ADHD, like most of

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my listeners do, because this is an ADHD business building

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podcast, these programs may not work for you. You

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know, you may take really useful tips from them, but

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a lot of the instructions, a lot of the

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processes in these programs just aren't designed for an

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ADHD brain. So make sure that if you want to

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sign up for something, that it's going to be the right fit for you.

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don't really see a model out there that is like, oh, yeah, I want that.

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mixes coaching and consulting like I do. You want to look for someone who

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has a level of customization in their program that really

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helps you find your way, but also add some

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expertise who also trains you on the bits that you don't even

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know, that you don't know. Okay. So now that you've asked those questions and you

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kind of have an idea of who you want to work with, here's how we

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spot the good ones and the bad ones, all right? Because there

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are a lot of charlatans out there. There are a lot of people who are

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really profiting off the fact that this is not a regulated

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industry, and so we want to be able to spot them from a mile off.

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First and foremost, anyone who has a

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gazillion followers on social media and uses the fact

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that they have a gazillion followers on social media as proof that

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they're good at what they do. How many followers you have doesn't

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mean about the quality of service that you provide. It

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has no correlation. Even if someone is a social media

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coach who trains people how to build their following on social

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media, if they're bragging about how many followers they have

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and not how many followers they're closer clients have gotten and how that has

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helped their business monetarily, they're not

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legit. They're selling some snake oil, and they're hoping that you

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won't notice. Now, how do you spot these people? Because there are

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some good people out there who train on social media,

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who have massive followings, who actually provide a quality service,

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and they have massive following. So how do you tell the difference between someone who's

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good at what they do with a massive following and someone who's really at what

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they do with a massive following? Here's the key is

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you go into their comment section and you see if

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the people who are commenting actually sound like real humans

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very stilted language that is obviously a robot

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that's synthesizing whatever was in the post. And the comments

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that you'll see will basically be summarizing what the person said in their

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post. All these comments happen within a very quick

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succession after the post was made. If I post

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something, not all my people that follow me, that

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see my content and comment on my stuff, they're not all just waiting by their

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computer to be like, oh my God, did Katie post yet today? Like, I bet

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she posted, I bet she posted. I'm just going to keep refreshing, refreshing, refreshing, refreshing.

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posting this. No, that's not how it goes. I don't

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have that big of a following. I have like 17,000 followers

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on LinkedIn and then smaller amounts on the other platforms.

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business. You need solid people who are following you,

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who are your ideal client. But even my posts that get a ton of

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engagement, that get hundreds of likes and hundreds of comments, you

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know, they happen over days. It doesn't happen all at once.

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when the comments were made and that'll tell you if someone

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is falsifying their engagement versus having

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legitimate engagement, their engagement is clue number

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one as to whether they're legit or not.

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Next, we want to go and we want to look at their testimonials.

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Testimonials that are worth anything should

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be given after someone has completed work with a coach. One of the

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biggest red flags that I see when I go onto scammy coaches

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websites is all of their testimonials are from people who just signed

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up for their thing. I just made payment and signed the contract. I'm so excited

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to start. Oh my God. I'm one week into the content and it's so

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helpful. This is going to be great. Just enrolled in the program.

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I've been following them forever. This is going to be so transformational

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to my business that doesn't help anyone, that doesn't have

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any proof of concept, that doesn't tell anyone about the results that they've

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gotten after working with that person. When you go into someone's

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website, you want to look for testimonials that speak to

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how long they've worked with the person, where they started from,

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what they were struggling with when they hired this person, and what

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results they've gotten out of it. We're looking for

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ROI, which if you don't know what that is, it's return on investment.

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proof of a good return on investment. That said,

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it's not necessarily bad if they have some negative reviews, especially

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if they've had a lot of clients say they have a lower ticket option. Not

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everyone's work is going to work for everyone. You want to be very

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cognizant, however, about what kind of

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negative review they have. This just didn't work for me. It's allowed for

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someone to have a couple of those if they have

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dozens of other good ones where people did see results.

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You're not looking for perfect because perfect does not exist.

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What you're looking for is real. Another red flag is if there's

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no last name, if it's a first name only

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and there's no indication about what kind of business they have or there's really no

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way to go. And, like, kind of like cyber stock and see if they're actually

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like real human beings in the world. That's another red flag. Now, of

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course, in the coaching space, we have confidentiality with a lot of our clients.

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name or it's just happy client, or it says,

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you know, senior executive, and that's okay. But

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all of the testimonials shouldn't be that. There should be some

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testimonials where you're able to literally just go and look up this person's name and

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find them on LinkedIn and see that they're a real human being that does the

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job that they say they do. Lastly, you want to look at their

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content and what their messaging is. What we're looking for

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is we don't want rainbows and sunshines only,

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and we don't want doom stayers. Rainbows and

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sunshines means, like, your idea can be turned into a million dollar

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product, blah, blah, blah, blah, without any caveats around

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how you determine what ideas are good and what ideas are bad.

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Rainbows and sunshines can also be, oh, it's just your mindset. Once you have your

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mindset dialed in, then you can have a. A seven figure

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business. No, go off mindset

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alone will not help anyone have a seven figure business. You

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have to learn how to do a lot. You have to have a good idea.

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You have to have a really strong market presence. There's so much that goes into

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it. And if you're not also talking about all the stuff you have to learn

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and do and fix and figure out as you go

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along, if you're only saying mindset, then you're a

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snake oil salesperson and you should go away. And you,

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as my listener, I hope you're not spending money with these people. The

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doomstairs on the other side, they're

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making it seem like if you don't hire them, then you'll never be

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successful. The doomsters also have this edge of,

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like, I have the secret and you don't have the secret. And the only way

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you're gonna get the secret to do this thing is if you hire me. No,

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they don't have a secret. There's no secret. They're just like,

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best practices. They know one of the best practices.

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And sure, you can hire them to learn that best practice, but it's not

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anything special. Like, there's no new story.

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Every single story we have, every single movie, every single book

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follows the same model of the hero's

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journey. It's the only way we pay attention to sh t. Have you read

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a self help book recently? It's the same thing with

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different words. There's no new ideas and there's

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no big secret to starting a business. If someone's trying

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to sell you that they have the secret and no one else has a secret,

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and so you should buy from them because they'll give you the secret, please don't

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buy from them. Please don't. You can find best

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practices from so many other people and this is my promise to you. Like,

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sure, I know a lot of really helpful things that help my clients

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start businesses. I'm never going to claim that any of them are

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super special secret stuff that only I know. No,

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because it's bull. I just happen to have a collection

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of really helpful best practices that I know

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across a really broad range of business building things

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like sales, marketing, branding, how to figure out your niche, how to design

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an offer like it just happens to be the right collection to help people start

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businesses. But back to, like, the proper doomsdayers.

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Anyone who's telling you that there's something wrong with you and

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that if you don't hire them, it's going to continue to get worse

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for you. Anyone who goes down that road in their

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messaging and doesn't at least explain the parts that you need to

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work on doesn't at least point to, here's what you need to learn.

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They're actually not going to teach you anything. They're just selling fear.

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Fear that you're in a up, fear that you're not gonna be perfect. They're selling

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this idea that if you hire them, then you're gonna get the

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answer. But doesn't that sound a bit like a cult? We're not signing up for

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snake oil stuff. We're also not signing up for cults here, thank you very much.

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We're also not signing up for the just work harders. This is a big one

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because especially for those of us with ADHD, we have grown

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up being told that we just need to try harder, that we just need

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to work harder, that we just need to focus harder, that we just need to

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do so much more harder. And throughout that

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messaging, throughout growing up that way, you really start believing that

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there's something wrong with you, that you're lazy, that you just don't try hard enough,

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and that if you could just get yourself to work another extra 10 hours a

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week, it would somehow be magically different. These are the hustle bros.

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You're not hustling hard enough. Now go shove it in a very

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uncomfortable place, please. You and I both know

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that it's not that you're not trying hard enough, it's that you need to

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figure out the way to work that's going to work for you. That's

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going to work for what you enjoy doing, right? Because with

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ADHD, if you don't enjoy doing something, you're never going

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to do it. You need to figure out what it is that you want to

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sell. What's the difference you want to make in the world. You have to actually

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believe in it. And when you have the right support, that support is going

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to help you figure out what that thing is. I can't tell you how many

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clients I've had who've started with me thinking that one thing was going to be

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their niche, and they get a few months in, they're like, I hate this. I

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don't want to help these people with this thing. I'm so bored with talking about

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x, y and z topic. Trying harder, hustling

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more is not going to help you be more interested in that thing. For an

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ADHD business owner, having someone who will support you through the

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pivot is the most important thing. Having someone who

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can tell you when it's time to quit is the most important thing.

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Because we're programmed throughout our whole life to just stick with

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something and try harder because that's what we've always been told is the problem with

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us and it's actually not. That's what we want to look out for

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when we're trying to identify the baddies and not the, like,

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fun baddies, the bad baddies. The thing. The people that we do not want to

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work with. How do we identify someone who's the right person for us to

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work with? Oh, what am I going to say next? Well, you'll have to keep

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listening to find out. But first. Squirrel, squirrel, squirrel,

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squirrel.

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How do we identify someone who's the right person for us to work

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with? Now, first and foremost, our instincts

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are spot on. Our intuition is spot on. Right.

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So, like, when you have this intuition that you're connected to someone,

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like maybe you feel like, oh my God, I already feel like we're friends. I

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already feel like we have this connection. Trust it.

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Don't just trust that. But that is a really good sign.

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Your intuition will never lead you wrong. If you ever have a I'm not so

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sure about this person kind of feeling, trust that too.

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Second, like I said, testimonials. If

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their testimonials are solid, and they're talking about real

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results they got after working with this person. That's amazing.

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But on top of that, you want to look to see, are these

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people like me, the people who've gone through this program or worked with this

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person before me? Did they start from a similar position

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that I'm in now? Did they have similar goals?

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Did they need help with the same stuff? And there's nothing wrong with

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reaching out to some of these people and asking about their experience, right?

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Anyone who has genuinely had a really good experience with a service provider

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is generally going to be happy to share about that experience.

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Another green flag for a solid coach is they're going to tell you exactly

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who they do not work with. Someone who is willing to take money from

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anyone because they're like, yeah, you can do anything you want. They're full of

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crap. Someone who says, hey, listen, I only work

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with these types of people who have these kinds of situations going on for

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them, they have some standards, and the reason they do this is because they

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understand that they can best support people who fit a certain

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criteria. They're not out there. Just take everyone's money.

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For instance. I don't work with people who want to start retail businesses

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because I don't really know anything about retail business. My only experience in

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retail is a managing a yarn shop, which I had

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a lot of fun with, but it's not something that I'm an expert at. And

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working at J. Crew 4 hours every two weeks for a summer when

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I was in college, so I could get the discount. Okay. You don't want me

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helping you with your retail store. All right. Also, restaurants.

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I used to work in restaurants. I hate restaurants. I don't want to

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ever talk about starting a restaurant again. Not my bag, baby.

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I also don't work with people who charge generally less than

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$200 an hour because it's not worth it for

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them to hire me if you're charging

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less, you know, and I'm not saying that you can't make really good money from

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starting a virtual assistant business. I specialize in helping

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people sell high ticket services like legal services,

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copywriting, coaching, consulting. My clients generally

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charge anywhere from $300 to $1,000 an hour, if not

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more. And they're able to do that because they provide a ton

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of value. Look for a coach who is that

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specific about who they work with and who they do not work with, because that

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shows that they have some integrity. People who can help anyone and

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everyone under the sun don't buy it. Squirrel. Squirrel.

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And lastly, and this takes some time to glean from someone,

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if you're following someone for a while, you can generally

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see that they're consistent. They have consistent

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beliefs, they have consistent opinions. They have

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consistent lessons that they teach. There's no bait and

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switch. They're not changing their mind and being contrary

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without explaining how they changed their mind. I don't think I'll ever

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change my mind on this. That if you're starting a business, the best way to

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start is with one on one clients. They are your fastest path to

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cash. You do not want to start a business where you're immediately

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jumping into group programs or into digital classes. The

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failure rate is just too high, and you have to get too many

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people to buy into it versus just working with one

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person, and you also charge less. Find someone who has an

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opinion, and you might not like that opinion, but

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find someone who has a stalwart opinion that they're not

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changing, and they give good reasoning for it.

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And lastly, find someone who isn't pressuring

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you to sign up to their timeline. Anyone who tries to

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pressure you into spending the money now. Signing up

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now. Now's the time. You don't want to waste time. Give me

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your credit card information right now, and then we'll jump right in.

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Now. This is your life and this is your business. If you have

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urgency, if you're ready to jump in now, great, do

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it. But if you need time, if you need to fill out, if this is

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the right person, someone who's trying to get you to bypass that

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process for yourself is not going to be the right person. So

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find someone who supports you making the decision to hire them

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on your timeline. It's funny, whenever I get on a sales call

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with someone and we get to the conversation about the

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program and how much it costs, and, like, when the start date would

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be, oftentimes people are terrified to say,

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oh, well, I just need some time to think about it, and they start justifying

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it and I have to stop them. I say, you know, I will never pressure

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someone to start a program to my timeline. If you want to start right

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now, great. But if you also need a week, if you need a few days

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to think about it, if you need to talk to some people, go for it.

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If you're talking to me and you're realizing this is not the right time for

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me, I think I need a few months to be able to get some ducks

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in a row then absolutely take that time, come back to me,

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find the people who are there. For you making the right

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decision. And lastly, and this is a really important part that gets

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overlooked a lot, find someone that you know you'll have fun working with.

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Remember in school where, like, you had classes where the teacher was just

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mean or, like, wasn't fun or was really boring? How hard was

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it for you to learn things in those classes? Like, you were always nervous that

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you get it wrong or you were always really struggling to pay attention, especially

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if you have ADHD. And it was just. It was such an uphill battle, and

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it didn't need to be. The class is where the teacher

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made it fun and engaging and, like, let you kind of ease yourself into it.

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One of my favorite teachers who I'm, like, super excited. I'm actually going to have

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a beverage with her this Friday. Miss Blanchard, she was my french teacher in high

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school. I adore this woman. I always idolized her. I always wanted to be her.

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When I was a kid, she had this way when you showed up in class,

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she wouldn't jump right into teaching. Generally. She would tell you kind of a funny

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story. She'd tell you about something like self deprecating that happened that morning,

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or she'd vent about something. She treated us like peers, and she'd

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ask us questions. And, like, I remember one class she came in, she was

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talking about dream analysis, and then she just, like, did some dream analysis for

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some of the kids in the class, and it was great. And then she went

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into teaching. And to this day, I remember some of the

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weird mnemonic tools that she gave us to remember verb

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conjugations or different words that were really hard for us to

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remember. The fact that she made it fun and low pressure

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and made that classroom a safe space where everyone

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got to show up just as they were. That made the things

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she taught that much more sticky. I cannot tell you

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a single thing that I learned anywhere else in school, but

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I, to this day, know how to conjugate for the

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imperfect because she taught us a rap song about it. Ah.

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o n s e o z I e o n tay

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like, that's sticky. I will remember that when

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I have dementia and I am in an assisted

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living situation in about 60 years from now,

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and my nurses will have no idea what the f I'm singing about, but it'll

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