Good morning and welcome to the Choosing Happy Podcast.

This week is International Coaching Week, and this is day two of our break, the Pattern Choosing Happy Miniseries.

I'm Heather Marsters and I'm so proud to be here.

This is the 300th actual recording.

I do a longer podcast, which is up to, I think it's 100, 107, but this one is actually the 300th episode being published.

So I'm really happy with that.

So join me today for day two.

I hope you took part in day one.

I am proud of you if you did, and for showing up for yourself during International Coaching Week.

Yesterday you named you discovered the pattern you want to break.

And today we're going to dig into why this pattern keeps showing up for you and using a powerful coaching technique to uncover its roots.

So stay tuned for today's Choosing Happy Podcast.

Hello and welcome.

I'm Heather Masters and we're going to uncover that pattern that we identified yesterday.

We're going to dig into the roots, see why it keeps showing up, and change that for you today.

So every pattern has a trigger, an emotion, a belief, or a moment that sets it in motion.

And maybe yesterday, when you spent that time having a dig around and visualizing and getting into your body, maybe you came up with some hints about why that pattern keeps showing up.

So maybe your pattern is avoiding tough conversations and it's triggered by the fear of conflict.

Or maybe it's overworking, driven by a belief that you're only worthy when you're productive.

Maybe it's around money and you link your worth to how much you're earning, and in the stress and fear of not having enough, you're actually pushing it away.

So today we're going to ask curious, compassionate questions to understand your pattern better.

So I hope you've got your pen and paper and here's your exercise for today.

Just take a moment to think about your pattern.

Close your eyes if you can, and picture a recent time when this pattern showed up.

Similar to yesterday, just think about what was happening.

What did you feel in your body?

What thoughts were running through your mind?

But this time, we're going to ask ourselves a question.

What am I believing about myself or this situation?

When this pattern kicks in, for example, is it a belief that you have to please everyone?

I believe I'll fail if I try.

Do you go into kind of a freeze?

Is it more a traumatic response?

Is it a fear?

If it is, ask yourself, what am I fearful of in this moment?

Allow yourself some space and then write down or say that belief out loud du boss and give yourself a pat on the back for being so honest.

This isn't about judgment, it's about gaining clarity and by understanding the roots we can start to pull them up.

And tomorrow I'm going to use an NLP technique to reframe that belief and start shifting your pattern.

So do today's exercise and I'll meet you back again here tomorrow for day three.

You're doing amazing work and thank you for being here today.

Share your progress in the comments below or at the Choosing Happy Podcast website and let's keep Choosing Happy together tomorrow.

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Sam.