Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And today, let's practice shifting our language.

So anytime today, when you say the word you as in you are so frustrating or you're making me feel bad, or you make me so mad, or, or you make me so mad, whatever those you sentences are right, I want you to change it to I so it will sound something like this.

You make me so mad.

Instead you say I am mad.

Instead of saying you're just trying to ruin me, you can say I feel ruined or I feel whatever that feeling is.

So anytime that you want to tell somebody that they're in charge of your feelings or they're in charge of your thoughts or they're in charge of your destiny, you're going to take it back.

They don't make you mad.

You don't make me mad.

I am mad.

A great way to think about this today is actually to get a notebook out or you can use your phone, but start keeping track of it today.

Keep track of the times you felt anytime like somebody else made you feel or do something or think something.

You put that into my head?

No, I have that in my head.

I want you to really pay attention to how often you give your power away and believe somebody else is in charge of your feelings, thoughts and actions.

You are going to take your life back.

And every time you want to blame somebody else, you are going to take it back and take full responsibility for your feelings, your thoughts and your actions.

So today, just watch and listen for the word you or they and shift it to I. I promise you that as you do this, you will start feeling more empowered, more powerful.

You will feel more in charge of your life.

You know, I know that when I get ever, you know, one of my fear responses is competitiveness.

I get competitive, competitive.

And I'm not talking about card games.

I'm talking about just competitive and for the sake of competitiveness.

And when I'm feeling competitive, I know it's because I am not staying in my lanes.

I am not.

I'm not staying in my lane.

I'm not keeping track of me.

I'm not doing what I should be doing.

I want to do what I am meant to do.

I'm focused on what somebody else is doing or thinking or being.

And that's when I get sad and frustrated and feel hopeless and angry and justified and resentful.

Right?

We can have all those feelings and all those thoughts.

So today let's start practicing.

Not you make me mad, but I'm mad.

Not you always do this to me.

You always do this to me.

It's like I.

Whatever it is, I don't trust you, or I don't feel good, or.

This doesn't seem right.

Or right.

So take it back.

What if there was no you or they and there was only I?

That everything, every feeling, thought and action was coming from you and not propelled by anybody else, not forced from anybody else?

You.

If you're doing it, if you're feeling it, you're thinking it, it's inside you.

So let's own it, take responsibility for it, so then we can change it.

Without guilt, without shame, without fear.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.