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Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. I hope you feel good, I

hope you feel safe. Have you feel loved? If you're not

feeling well, at the moment, I hope you get the help that you

need. And yeah, especially hope that my episode here can help

you on your path to feeling better. Today is the first day

I'm recreating outdoors again, and Suze, I'm so excited. And

you might be hearing squirrels and birds out there, or maybe my

dogs sniffing around. It's winter still, if you say that in

English, which is very uncommon here in southern Alberta. And

yeah, it's just a fabulous day. And I'm very excited to be

sharing some of that energy with you. Today, I want to talk about

your interpretation of your story, situations your past. You

see when it comes to coaching, I love to listen to people's

stories, I love to get to know people on a deeper level. But

what is most important for me is to find out what my client is

making out of the story. What are the conclusions, the

assumptions that he or she made about him or herself? Is it a

positive conclusion and empowering one? Or is it one

that is making the person feel small, unimportant? worthless,

B, C, let's look at two people. Person A Person B, they both

live on different continents, they have nothing to do with

each other. Person A goes through traumatic heartbreak

feels shattered fields, totally worthless. And yeah, it's really

really cornered, feels depressed and doesn't know what to do with

her life anymore. Person B is also going through a heartbreak.

And it's also very miserable and sad. But Person B is given tools

that help her to make different conclusions, then Person A. And

even if Person B wasn't getting a coaching, it can very well be

that she makes a very different conclusion about herself because

of the heartbreak. You know, some people can go to a job

interview and get rejected and might just think, Oh, well, it

was just not meant for me. And I will knock at the next door

tomorrow. And another person goes through the very same

interview with the same boss the same vibe, the same reasons for

rejection, and they are just totally shattered. Why is that?

Why are people so different because we perceive life very,

very differently. And we make conclusions about our past that

are not similar. Most of the time was people that we have

around us, but all very unique, that are very special. But it is

really important to to look at your interpretation and to see

how this is secretly guiding you through your life. Let's say

that you are dating and you keep Yeah, not meeting people that

are really in alignment with your values. How do you approach

dating? Do you approach dating as if that's something what I

have to do because my parents want me to have children and get

married? Or I have to be dating because I hate being alone. We

all have different motivations, why we want to date why we want

to be out there. And sometimes our inner world is On a very

unconscious level, manipulating our outcomes, we can't really

make sense of why this person doesn't want to go out with us

anymore. Well, maybe they sensed this vibe that you don't really

want to be dating, that you're doing it for the wrong reasons.

And that's what they are replying to. So, with coaching,

you can make a lot of sense out of yourself, you know, blind

spots, I had an episode about blind spots that I would suggest

you listen to, if you're interested in this. Because if

we are not being made aware of what our blind spots are of what

our beliefs are about ourselves about life in general, then we

will keep running against a wall. Do you know like these car

toys that you can charge up and then they drive on their own.

But if it gets stuck against a wall, then it doesn't know how

to reverse or turn or it just keeps banging against the same

wall. And, you know, I've done that for 10 years. Trust me, I'm

not proud of this. And it took me a long time to not really

feel regret for being stuck for so long. But I was given tools

after 10 years, after opening up to several coaches, that helped

me to get unstuck again, and now, I feel the deep urge to

providing these tools for the world for people out there to

have shortcuts to not struggle as long as I did, to not regret

that they wasted time. Another thing I want to talk about today

is your comfort zone. Sometimes your comfort zone is actually

your worst enemy, enemy. Because you are in a position that is

comfortable that you can exhibit your little habits, your little

addictions, maybe even a no one is going to challenge you. But

at the same time, it's going to keep you in that little comfort

zone. And maybe that comfort zone is not even what your soul

desires. So then we become sick, we become depressed. And we

wonder, well, what is going on? I got my comfort zone and I

should be happy. But you're not. And why is that? It is because

you don't quite know yourself? Good enough. You don't know what

truly brings you joy, you know, what is comfort, you know what

is discomfort, maybe even. But you're not seeking out

adventures that could connect you to yourself again, because

it's outside of your comfort zone. It is really important to

notice what truly makes you happy. When was the happiest

time in your life? Was it a short moment? Was it an extended

time? And where are you at right now? How can you go back? Well,

how can you find new happiness? You see, sometimes when we feel

stuck, it is not necessarily the fault of our circumstances and

the people around us, although we love to blame it on them. It

is all about you and your perceptions and the conclusions,

that interpretation that you have made. It is so important to

be on this quest to be a little bit of a detective and find out

okay, I believe this believe a strongly about myself. So let's

pick a negative one. I suck at math. This is what I believed

for the longest time until I moved to Canada and was exposed

to teachers that are teaching very different styles. And were

motivating, inspiring me in very different ways. And all of a

sudden, I was super good at math, because it changed the

environment because I was open enough to get out of my little

bubble my comfort zone of telling myself that I suck at

math. And this is what I'm wishing for you is that whenever

you have a belief whenever you feel like yeah, you're not

enough. Yeah, you don't got it. You you. Yeah, are going to be

stuck in this situation forever. Is this thought really true? Is

that belief true? Why is it true? What would happen if that

belief would just drop and I encourage you to look at Byron

Katie, because her work is just incredible. She walks you

through these four steps of questioning your beliefs, and

asking yourself again, really,

this is your software, maybe even the hardware that your

brain was running on for the last decade. But is it really

true? Is that really something I want to keep pursuing, you're

going to have the same outcome. Every time you approach a new

project, if you don't change your mindset, again, it is not

your circumstances. It is not the people around you. It's how

you see the world as what you believe you deserve, is what you

feel is an alignment with your identity. But if we go back and

find out who are you, what are you made of, you will will very

quickly see that those beliefs are working against you, they're

holding you back. They're preventing you from meeting your

desired partner. You see, when we start dating, and we've still

feel that we're not worthy for love that love is a mess. Love

is something dangerous, you will never fully open up to your

partner. Because those beliefs are going to be running in the

background in the back of your mind. And they're going to, you

know, hold the the strength strings. And you being a little

puppet, I don't want you to be a puppet anymore and a victim of

your beliefs. I want you to be self empowered, I want you to

exactly know who you are. What is good for you, what do you

desire to see in your life? What is it you want? Instead of

focusing of what you do not want to see life as a cab driver?

Whenever you sit in a taxi and a cap? What are you going to tell

the driver, you're going to tell the driver? I don't want to go

to be I also don't want to go to see also don't drop me off at D.

At E I had a really shitty experience. Do you say that to

your cab driver? I sure hope not. I'm very positive that

whenever you enter a cab, you're going to tell them I want to go

to this destination here. Maybe even point on the map. And this

is what I want you to do in your life as well. I want you to be

crystal clear on what you want. And then inquire every day if

not every week, are you making steps even if it is baby steps

towards that goal. If not, don't come crying on my shoulder. If

you are not willing, wanting to achieve your goals, if your

belief system is so strongly working against you, then we

have to go a step back. Not focus on what you want. But

focus on what the heck is it that you believe about yourself?

itself? Sorry, the assumptions and interpretation. Alright, I'm

gonna leave you with this. take really good care of yourself.

And if you feel called to start a journey with me, please

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care. I'll drink a big cup of water now. And I'll be out there

for you on monday again. Bye bye