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Well, hello there, my friend,
my name's Jonathan Doyle.

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And guess what I always say at
this point, I say, I am pleased.

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It does my heart.

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Good to know that you're here.

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Thank you so much for tuning in
for hitting that play button,

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wherever you're listening.

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It's a, it's really great to have you
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The content or, you know, I do
a YouTube version every day.

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Right.

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So I do a more visual version.

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Uh, visual version, you can,
uh, there'll be links to that.

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You can go and hit that link and come and
check out the, uh, the YouTube channel.

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And there'll be a bunch of other links to
different places where I'm doing stuff.

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But welcome aboard.

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Uh, wherever you are listening.

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In the gym in the car who knows?

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Today.

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I want to talk to you about fulfillment.

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I want to talk to you about.

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Really getting clear on what fulfills you.

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Because too.

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To lead to develop and lead a rich.

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Meaningful.

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Enjoyable life, not a perfect life.

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Nobody gets a perfect life, but
to get a life that is trending

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more towards what lights you up.

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What makes you happier?

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What lets you be a
blessing to other people?

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One of the crucial things is to
know what really fulfills you.

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Conrad bars, BW, ARS.

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And I'm looking in my studio here
at the shelf, bookshelf, trying to

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see if I can see the book, um, has
written a whole bunch of great books.

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He wrote around the end
of the Sycamore war.

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And he wrote a lot of stuff around people
that had enjoyed great trauma in the

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prison camps of the second world war.

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And he, one of his books, I remember
reading it and he said, This one

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line that really stuck with me.

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He said the people.

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You know, need to learn.

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How to live a life in
keeping with their nature.

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I really struck me because I am somebody
who gets up on stage and loves to speak

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and to interact with people and to.

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You know, really do my best to yeah.

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And if you've ever seen me live, you
know, I bring a lot of energy to that.

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Right.

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I really go a hundred percent because
every time I get on stage, I have this

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sense, this feeling that I may never
get to speak to this audience again.

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So I want to give them
everything I've got.

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But when I'm not on stage by,
by nature, by personality.

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I am highly introverted.

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I have spent time in monasteries.

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I'm the kind of guy that, you
know, What lights me up is to read.

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And to think.

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And.

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To meditate.

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And to pray.

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And then to speak.

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So my nature.

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Is really quite fixed in that sense.

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I really liked being around lots
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introvert, I then need to recover.

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I need to kind of recharge in some, you
know, exactly what I'm talking about.

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So what's the purpose of
me sharing this with you.

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Well it's because it's taken me a long
time to understand what fulfills me.

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That what fulfills me is unique to me.

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Whereas there's two, there's
probably three people in my family.

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There'd be my wife, Karen, and two
of my kids that are more extroverted.

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And Karen.

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Karen can just go all day.

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On the phone or with
people just lights her up.

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She's just the most beautiful soul.

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And she just is such a blessing
to people and she loves people.

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Right.

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And I'm not saying I don't, I'm
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gets jazzed by being with people.

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So recently it was our 22nd
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her on this surprise trip to
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And secretly, I mean, she was so
excited because, you know, she loves

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having time, just the two of us.

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And she was so excited because
it was a break for us and we

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hadn't been away from my kids in.

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22 years.

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Just saying.

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And she was really stoked, but I'd also
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best friends to take her out to lunch,
who they all lived in this other city.

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You know, she was just so excited.

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Like she had this squealing and
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other and they had this incredible.

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Lunch together.

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And you know what fulfills
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with so many special friends.

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So.

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What I want to ask you today is,
are you clear on what fulfills you

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and are you doing enough of it now?

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There is a spectrum here, right?

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There's a there's parameters because
on one end is the person who never

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does things that fulfill themselves.

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And they're constantly.

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And have you, if you're that person you'll
often end up in resentment and bitterness.

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Because you're constantly having to meet
other people's needs and expectations.

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You're giving, giving, giving,
giving, giving, giving, giving.

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You're sick of it.

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You're like, oh my gosh,
I'm just so tired of this.

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And on the other end
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Have a look.

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Uh, you could say narcissistic
in a sense is that everything is

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about their own fulfillment, right?

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Everything's about their own fulfillment.

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So you can see those two poles.

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Where you do nothing for
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where everything's about you.

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So we don't want to be on
either of those ends, right?

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We want to be right in that sweet spot.

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Where we are.

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Meeting our own needs and meeting
other people's needs in a balanced way.

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But we also to do that must
know what lights us up.

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So one way to think about.

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Uh, fulfillment.

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In terms of a definition is one
of the things that is always

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going to fulfill us as humans.

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Or there's two things is
growth and contribution.

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If you want to feel fulfilled in life.

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You kind of need a couple of elements.

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One is growth.

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You want to feel that in some
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physically, relationally,
intellectually humans need growth.

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We don't do well.

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If we are stagnating or everything
seems to be getting worse all the time.

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So you're going to be looking
for growth in your life.

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Where are you growing?

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And related to that is
where are you contributing?

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How do you get more fulfillment?

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You grow and you contribute.

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All right.

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You hear that growth?

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So that you are doing things that lead you
in important areas of your life to become.

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You know, more fully
yourself and contribute more.

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Contribution so important, you
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On our death beds.

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That is the part that is going to matter.

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Everything else is going to be taken from.

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You must understand that, right?

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We are a culture that
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We hide it.

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We don't talk about it.

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It is deeply.

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Resisted.

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But it's going to happen.

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Isn't it funny that it's
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We know we don't want to interact with.

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And us.

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Gosh, the other day I
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I'm doing a lot of research and
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And one of the things that just
nauseates me to be honest about AI is

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this new fascination with they can.

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You know, That you can kind of live
longer and you can have all your memories

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stored and then they can map your voice
against all your memories and people

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can talk to you after you're dead.

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There's this endless sense of like, you
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It was not like.

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We're not here forever.

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We're not.

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And we need to remind ourselves that
this journey will come to an end.

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And at the end.

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And I said this the other
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250 people in other city.

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And I said, you know, On your death bed.

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You're not going to be saying to yourself
if only I'd spent more time in the office.

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Now that doesn't mean the office is bad.

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It doesn't mean work's bad.

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That's important part of life.

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And you can do really
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But you never going to be
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Wishing you'd worked more.

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Well at the end of your life,
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about is the contribution that you
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That is what you will be thinking about.

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Why.

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Because that's the thing that
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What you have in the bank, you know
how you looked, all those things

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are going to be gone, forgotten.

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What will remain is how
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You don't think about my own life
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many, many years, I've been able to
make some people's lives a little

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bit better by encouraging them.

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Like I'm trying to do with you right now.

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And I look at my own kids and
I think, well, well, you know,

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I'm not going to be the general
secretary of the United nations.

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I'm not going to be.

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You know, the prime minister
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But I am going to be able to
impact the future after I'm gone

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by how I interacted my own kids.

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And how I relate to my friends.

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So you can see that fulfillment
as a human person to get to

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the end of your life and go.

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I really grew.

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I, I, there was growth in my life.

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I became a better person.

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Uh, Uh, kinder more integrated,
more alive, more positive

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human over the journey.

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And it was hard and it was challenging and
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I took what I was given and
I made something out of it.

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And also to be able to say that
you contributed that you made other

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people's lives a little bit better.

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You know, I think if you had that
on your death bed, you'd be like,

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wow, that was quite a good ride.

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So this episode is about fulfillment
and about taking a moment in your

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busy, busy life to ask yourself,
what is it that fulfills you?

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And that's got something to do with
growth and contribution, but is it music?

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Is it nature?

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Is it surfing?

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Is it cooking?

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Do things that fulfill you do things that
I've been playing guitar again lately.

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I, I used to play for
many, many years and I'd.

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I pulled it out again recently and
started jamming and on a sing a bit.

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I'm not singing for you right now.

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You have to ask me if
you meet me at an event.

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But I do in these things that just
add richness and color to life.

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And I think the risk in the busy-ness
and intensity of our lives is that we

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forget to do these sorts of things.

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All right, my friend, God bless you.

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That's it for me today.

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Please make sure you've subscribed.

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I'd love you to share this with people
and go and check out all the links.

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There's links to all the
different things I'm doing.

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You can book me to speak live
at your business, your school,

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your event, your conference.

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Go check that out.

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All right.

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God bless everybody.

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My name's Jonathan Doyle.

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This has been the daily podcast and you
and I are going to talk again tomorrow.