But what ends up happening is because we've made business such a priority,
Speaker:we don't really realize that our body, which is truly, in my
Speaker:opinion, our most valuable asset— if you go
Speaker:down, I mean, the ship goes down. Even if you've built an infrastructure
Speaker:in your business to thrive without you, which not many people have.
Speaker:But even if that's true, what about your family?
Speaker:Welcome to The King Within, a podcast for men who seem to have it all.
Speaker:Yet feel like they're losing what matters most. I'm Mike Salemi, and I've
Speaker:been there. Successful on paper, but disconnected on the inside.
Speaker:This isn't about grinding harder. It's about mastering your emotions,
Speaker:leading with calm strength, and rebuilding trust at home. Each
Speaker:week we dive into real stories and tools for becoming the man your family runs
Speaker:towards, not away from, because you didn't build this life to lose
Speaker:yourself in it. This is The King Within. Let's do the work. What I'm
Speaker:about to say might piss you off. I'm going to say it anyway because I've
Speaker:seen it over and over and over. What if the most
Speaker:expensive thing that a high achiever can do is
Speaker:actually less about making a bad investment or even a bad hire
Speaker:and has more to do that he's quietly accepted and made peace
Speaker:with a version of himself that isn't his best?
Speaker:And I know that sounds counterintuitive, Because in the realm of high
Speaker:achievers, executive founders, people that are leading teams, kicking ass,
Speaker:making big decisions that have ripple effects on many people,
Speaker:tens, hundreds, thousands of people, like, what are you talking about, Mike?
Speaker:But that's exactly what we're going to go into today. The 5 signs that
Speaker:your body is telling you something, that your ambition, that your
Speaker:drive is making it really hard to hear. We're going to
Speaker:unpack that now. If you haven't listened to yet, I
Speaker:want you to go back. If this concept is resonating with you,
Speaker:listen to episode 102 of the podcast. I go deep.
Speaker:It's called The High Achiever's Dilemma: The Shadow Side
Speaker:of Success. Now, in that podcast, I go deep into the
Speaker:psychology of what drives many high achievers,
Speaker:especially if they've not done some deep inner work and
Speaker:explored some of their history and why they are the way they are.
Speaker:You know, one thing I'll share briefly is many high achievers are scared
Speaker:shitless of a fear of failure, and it's propelled them to
Speaker:do some great things. And yet what's driving them, the main energy
Speaker:driving them, is, I am so afraid to fail, or I'm so afraid
Speaker:that this will be taken away from me. And so how do they
Speaker:operate on a day-to-day basis? They act, they behave, they
Speaker:think, they emote to disprove that.
Speaker:So in that episode, we go into, again, deep into the psychology and
Speaker:the shadow side of why many high achievers are the way they are.
Speaker:And I give you some tips and things to explore to bring
Speaker:greater integration or wholeness into how you operate.
Speaker:Like, holy shit, my dream for you is, yeah, you kick ass, you do
Speaker:great things, you inspire people, you do great things with your business and in the
Speaker:world. And also you do so not from a place of
Speaker:I'm less than if I don't. You know who you are, and your
Speaker:family and your health doesn't get sacrificed as a result of
Speaker:being a high achiever. And then today, though, what we're going to
Speaker:talk about is a slightly different angle of it. I want to go into the
Speaker:5 signs that your body is trying to tell you something.
Speaker:However, it's your ambition that makes it really hard to hear.
Speaker:And I touched on it earlier. And the first point, sign number 1,
Speaker:is really you've made peace with a version of yourself that isn't your
Speaker:best. Now, what do I mean by that? Because you
Speaker:apply high standards in your life. There's no doubt about that,
Speaker:right? In what you expect from your teams, the time that you show up at
Speaker:work, what you expect from employees, their SOPs.
Speaker:Do they follow them? How do they treat clients? How do you show up for
Speaker:your clients? Do you ever show up for your clients unprepared?
Speaker:Most likely not. You hold yourself to a specific
Speaker:standard in that one area. But then why
Speaker:is it really different than your health or
Speaker:your relationships, especially your intimate ones? And I
Speaker:know some of this is going to be confronting, but what I'm asking you to
Speaker:do is if this is hitting, keep
Speaker:listening. Because this isn't about, um,
Speaker:shame. But I, I do want to confront you. I do want to
Speaker:inspire you and encourage you to look at these parts, because in
Speaker:anybody that I work with, my true desire is I, I
Speaker:really see people to the best of my ability in their highest potential. And no
Speaker:matter what they're struggling with, I do believe if they want it,
Speaker:they can have it. And we don't have to sacrifice
Speaker:the, the depth and the quality of the relationship with our wife or with our
Speaker:kids for work. Like, you can have it all,
Speaker:but in order to have it all, we have to take a zoomed-out perspective
Speaker:and be very surgical, and we have to come to terms with some of these
Speaker:things. And so you can use the same
Speaker:mindset, the same approach that you use in business
Speaker:that has gotten you to where you've gotten and you can apply it elsewhere.
Speaker:You know, when I was competing, you know, through injury, through the pain teacher, one
Speaker:of the things that I realized was even though I was working with great
Speaker:coaches and on the surface you would be like, oh wow, he's really
Speaker:successful, he's won these championships or he's done these things.
Speaker:But as I started working more and more, my values got clearer and clearer.
Speaker:And so I was very clear, especially in the later years of when I was
Speaker:competing, was Okay, I love competing. I love testing my body.
Speaker:I want to see what this body can do. However, what's equally,
Speaker:if not more important, is how I'm doing that achievement.
Speaker:Right? I wanted not only the number on the bar or the volume I was
Speaker:able to handle in the gym at the same level as my,
Speaker:my discipline, my tenacity, my skill,
Speaker:my results, the ROI I was getting in the gym. Around the
Speaker:platform, my dream was that those skills also
Speaker:translated into deepening my relationships, being
Speaker:more present, being more solid, being more trustful, being a man of more integrity.
Speaker:And so at the same token, in the beginning,
Speaker:I didn't have that. You know, most of the coaches I had worked with were
Speaker:more looking at my body and my life like a pigeon, like a, like a
Speaker:pinhole. Like, if you're successful on the platform, then that is
Speaker:winning. To many regards, it is, but that's not how I define
Speaker:winning. And so if you have yet to define what is winning for you, what
Speaker:does winning look like for you, and this is already hitting home,
Speaker:please do so because you can transfer
Speaker:those level of standards into other, into other areas, not just in business, but you've
Speaker:got to be ruthless and really take
Speaker:self-responsibility for the life that you're creating.
Speaker:Because your life, my life, our lives, and how we experience
Speaker:life is largely a reflection of our choices. Okay. Sign
Speaker:number 2, you're there, but you're not really there. You know, in
Speaker:the example I shared earlier, when you come home in the
Speaker:beginning of the show, when you kicked ass all day, you win,
Speaker:your sales are inflated, you're getting celebrated, you worked your tail
Speaker:off. But then what happens? You come home, whether at 4:00,
Speaker:5:00, 6:00 PM, 7:00 PM, whatever. And your body is
Speaker:physically there, but your mind is still on that sales
Speaker:call or is still on that client, is still on what needs to be done
Speaker:tomorrow. And maybe you have anxiety because you're future tripping
Speaker:on the things where the financials are of the company or how
Speaker:an employee performed or didn't perform or what was said during a meeting or
Speaker:not said. You're physically here, but
Speaker:mentally and emotionally you're not. And so what do you usually tell your
Speaker:family? You probably say, well, just give me 20 minutes, just give me a little
Speaker:bit more time, or I'm going to work just a little bit later tonight. And
Speaker:it's not a one-time thing. It's a pattern. Because what's
Speaker:happening unintentionally is a hierarchy, right? My team, my
Speaker:work, my sharpest hours, my most clear hours.
Speaker:That's what gets prioritized. And usually what ends up happening,
Speaker:again, unintentionally, is our families get the leftovers.
Speaker:And how do I know this? Because I've lived this, and I've coached this a
Speaker:lot. But what hits home most for me is I've lived this,
Speaker:and I've heard these words, and I've said these words, and I've had
Speaker:the, uh, the discomfort of being
Speaker:with my young son who's 3 years old right now and having an
Speaker:irresistible urge to keep checking my phone, or even to wake
Speaker:up at night sometimes and turn over and just check the email. Like, did, did
Speaker:they respond? Did the client respond? Or did we get that sale
Speaker:that I had the sales call with that day? I know
Speaker:exactly what this feels like, and I coach it far too
Speaker:often. And so you're physically there, but you're not fully there.
Speaker:And so what ends up happening, again, our families think,
Speaker:well, I'm not a priority. And while that might not be true,
Speaker:our actions aren't really— aren't lining up with what we say, that they
Speaker:are a priority. We usually justify, I'm doing this for the
Speaker:family. And in part, that's true. That is true. But if you're really
Speaker:being honest, we need to look again at the signals of where your
Speaker:nervous system is, because I get it. If at the end of work you
Speaker:don't have an off switch and there's no signal to
Speaker:transition, hey, physically, mentally, and emotionally,
Speaker:it's time to switch. Right? The role that you play at work. So
Speaker:many men have challenges, myself included, like self-disclosure over
Speaker:the years. We have difficulty stepping out of one
Speaker:role and one mindset into the other. And so how you
Speaker:approach that with skill, with art, with prioritization, knowing what
Speaker:to do to get more in your body, right? The mind is an
Speaker:amazing tool, and it's just a tool. What is
Speaker:needed for you too, not just for your family, right? Your family
Speaker:needs you present. They need you in your heart. And I'm going to make a
statement:that's likely what you need too. Because what
statement:you're running at— and this is going to touch on the next sign— the
statement:pace that you're running at without having some
statement:degrees of any or an ability to skillfully
statement:turn off and step into another role— I mean, we as
statement:humans, like, we're designed to deal with acute levels of stress, high levels of
statement:stress, don't get me wrong, but it's the chronic stress, the inability to
statement:separate and have skill over where our
statement:nervous system is, the ability to change our state. I mean, I'll go
statement:as far as to say I really do think what makes a man
statement:healthy is his ability to consciously and intentionally change
statement:his state. If you're
statement:wound up or if you're wired, whether it's
statement:because the pace of your day, the responsibility, the caffeine, whatever,
statement:and you can't shift out of that, you're literally,
statement:you're in a chronic stress state. And if you can't get
statement:into recharge mode or have the ability to
statement:downshift at times when needed, I mean, the
statement:consequences of that are vast to your health, to your relationship, to
statement:long-term the quality of your business. I mean, it's, I mean, it's
statement:sad, but it's true. How many people make a fuck ton of money.
statement:And yet when it comes time to actually enjoy— and this hits home for
statement:many personal reasons in my close network—
statement:when it comes time to actually enjoy the money, what they're dealing with is cancer
statement:or heart disease or all the anxiety and panic attacks. Like, what the
statement:hell was it for? And so there is—
statement:I'm not saying throw the baby out with the bathwater, like, holy shit. Like, I
statement:want to win. I want to be at my best. I want to serve the
statement:world at the highest level as well, just like you. And what
statement:if there is a way where all the boats could rise and it's not a
statement:this or that, that you hold multiple things in a
statement:similar level of hierarchy and you know how to approach
statement:it skillfully in your day? Okay. Sign number 3,
statement:your body has stopped feeling like an asset. Okay? Your
statement:body has stopped feeling like an asset. So at one time, maybe
statement:is when you started your business. Or when you were an entrepreneur and
statement:you kicked it off the ground, you felt powerful, you felt capable,
statement:uh, you felt solid, you were excited, and you literally
statement:had an endless amount of energy. Maybe it was in your 20s, maybe it was
statement:in your 30s. But now, like, I
statement:don't mean to laugh, it's just— this is such the reality that I
statement:see— but you have to negotiate with your body day in and day out,
statement:right? So you've got little tweaks, little injuries, little blood
statement:markers are starting to show stuff like crazy high cholesterol or blood
statement:sugar issues, things that until they're in the red,
statement:usually you don't wake up to. Maybe
statement:you travel a lot. I've got a lot of clients that travel frequently, and
statement:the toll of the time zone changes,
statement:the toll of just sitting in a chair, even if it is business class or
statement:what, it's tough. And usually they just feel
statement:more broken down. And travel is tough. Sleeping gets
statement:thrown off. You're still required to operate and be sharp at a
statement:high level even though you're exhausted or tired. And then you're fighting your body
statement:once again and you're taken out of the normal rhythm and routine. Maybe you have
statement:a trainer, maybe you have your supplement protocols, maybe you have—
statement:you're dialed with your eating at home, whether you cook or your family member
statement:cooks or you have a chef. It's really challenging. Travel
statement:throws off a lot. But what ends up happening is because we've made
statement:business such a priority, we don't
statement:really realize that our body, which is truly, in my
statement:opinion, our most valuable asset— the
statement:most valuable asset you have is you. If you go
statement:down, I mean, the
statement:ship goes down. Even if you've built an infrastructure in your business to
statement:thrive without you, which not many people have. But even if
statement:that's true, what about your family?
statement:What about your family? You're the leader of your family. So if you go down,
statement:what's that going to do? What's not only the quality of life that you're going
statement:to get to experience, but how's that going to have the ripple on our family?
statement:Right. And my intention of this
statement:podcast is to
statement:Part of the intention is to, to maybe stretch you a bit,
statement:to create some discomfort. If what I'm saying makes you want to be like, screw
statement:you, Mike, I want to turn this off, my invitation to you
statement:is actually lean in. Lean
statement:in. And so with the signal, I
statement:understand the word slowing down is one of the hardest things that high achievers—
statement:like, they don't want to hear it, and I get it, and I'm with you
statement:in that. But what if it's less about slowing down even— well,
statement:I would say that would be really valuable— what if it's more
statement:asking you to look at the whole picture, like more to look at the
statement:rhythms of your life? Because I'm going to give some, some
statement:suggestions as we go, but I don't think that we need,
statement:and you need as a high achiever and a high performer, to completely
statement:like change your life I mean, depends,
statement:it depends how far gone you are and like, again, how loud the pain temperature
statement:is. Like, I mean, if you're like many people I've
statement:worked with, like if you're on the path of a disease or
statement:you're really out of sorts, like, okay, maybe there needs to be some major changes.
statement:But most often, if you can
statement:integrate high-leverage things into the day that you already
statement:live, that is what really moves the
statement:needle. I mean, even think about if you're doing workouts,
statement:for example, with a trainer, that trainer's probably seeing you 1 to 3
statement:days a week for 45 minutes to an hour, and you
statement:may get a good workout. But if you're not
statement:integrating proper breathing, mindful
statement:movement, if you're not checking in with your position, your posture, how you're
statement:holding yourselves, yourself, there's no amount of
statement:training that's really going to undo the amount of hours
statement:that you're at a deficit or being compromised. That's why I believe
statement:it's less about some big overhaul and more about being very surgical, very
statement:precise, very strategic, and coming up with things that you can
statement:integrate in your day that you're already doing. Like, everybody
statement:wakes up, right? Everybody brushes their teeth. Everybody has to eat,
statement:right? Everybody has to— not everybody has to drive, but if you drive a car,
statement:you're going to get in your car every day. Or you step into an office,
statement:you open the office door. There's so many things that you already are
statement:doing but maybe don't even realize it that you could be
statement:integrating with things that'll recharge the batteries,
statement:increase your focus in a way that
statement:honestly will probably surprise you. Because when I was competing,
statement:like, yeah, at a certain level from— and I'm speaking more from
statement:from the aspect of training and physical competition, but you can
statement:apply this to anything else and I'll make the parallel to work and business.
statement:But yeah, at a certain level, when someone's first starting off, like if I was
statement:a beginner in, in weightlifting of whatever sport or I
statement:was coaching a beginner in the beginning, the progress is, is
statement:like a, like a bell curve. It's going to be really fast. But if
statement:you're at a certain level, like you're at the top 10% or 5%
statement:or 2%, in your given craft, in your given
statement:industry, you're probably not going to
statement:notice major gains. Maybe you do, maybe you strike
statement:some big deal, but largely within your own body,
statement:especially if that's your priority, like
statement:at that level in business, in your life with me competing,
statement:just 1 to 2% improvement consistently
statement:is unbelievable. If you look at Olympians, when you look at their
statement:times, for example, in track and field or in swimming, and you look at their
statement:times year to year, if they're improving even
statement:fractions of a second, it's astronomical, the amount of
statement:progress that they're making. And so it doesn't need to be these big jumps,
statement:but I'm such a fan of reliability,
statement:stability. Like, if you can improve My coach Paul
statement:Cech for years would say, and he got this from, I believe, was the track
statement:coach named Charlie Francis, if you can improve 1 to 3%
statement:every single time that you step into a gym, that is what we're
statement:striving for. And so in your business, if you can improve
statement:1% or half a percent every single week or every
statement:single month, maybe it could be astronomical in the long run.
statement:So that's the mindset that I want you to invite in. And so much
statement:of it is about rhythm as opposed to these
statement:drastic needing to slow down or completely
statement:do an overhaul. Like many clients that
statement:I work with aren't willing to do that until it gets, you know,
statement:until the pain teacher really knocks on the door and then they have to. And
statement:if we can implement this stuff now, when you've got some
statement:autonomy around it and your body's not screaming, you're in the hospital or something drastic
statement:happens or you're not in a divorce. Like, when's
statement:the best time to fix a— what do they say? When's the best time to
statement:fix a leaky roof? You think it's during a thunderstorm,
statement:or is it during when there's relatively sunny skies? There's no rain out.
statement:Maybe. Maybe it's cloudy. Like, that's the time.
statement:Proactivity will serve you, me, all of us so well.
statement:All right. Sign number 4, you're more reactive than you used
statement:to be. So usually what I tend to see
statement:is we all have a certain amount of capacity.
statement:We all have a certain, uh, amount of reserves, gas tank in
statement:us. The longer that we operate
statement:in a high level of stress, high responsibility, high pressure— there's
statement:nothing wrong with it— but the longer that we operate with that,
statement:and if our body doesn't expand in its capacity to
statement:hold that and in fact most people's vitality are going down
statement:and down over the years, then usually what ends up happening is our
statement:fuse gets shorter and shorter. It becomes more
statement:difficult to have patience. Maybe comments,
statement:criticism, feedback that colleagues or even clients
statement:giving, they just hit harder. Conversations might escalate
statement:more and we get more reactive. So we lose our shit, we
statement:get more aggressive. Right. So if we're
statement:not able to, again, increase our capacity at
statement:the level, like an incremental level over time, especially as our pressure
statement:goes up, then I just see this— the
statement:internal state, especially for most men,
statement:is pretty— it's tough. And if we're
statement:not like— even if we're not reactive
statement:outward, usually we're reactive inward. But if this
statement:goes on for long enough, then it's usually our families
statement:or the people that we love most that get it, right? Because
statement:usually there's some level of safety in there. I was just with my
statement:3-year-old. It's just so interesting observing him as an example, which
statement:kids, especially at that age, they're like purely emotional. Their
statement:prefrontal cortex has not fully developed. And so they don't
statement:have the rational thinking, the mature mind to help them
statement:process, assimilate, digest, and navigate
statement:these major emotional surges. And so
statement:with my, with my son Luca, for example,
statement:um, he will, uh, what was, what was something that happened the other
statement:day that'll illustrate this? Um,
statement:he just goes from level 1 to 10 like that.
statement:Right? And it's because he doesn't have the wherewithal to
statement:know, like, how to regulate himself. And
statement:so he ends up with mom and dad
statement:specifically. We usually get the worst of it when
statement:he's with my mom or Lauren's mom or, you
statement:know, his, his grandma and grandpa. He's usually really sweet and he's a
statement:sweetheart, don't get me wrong. But there's also a level of safety that he
statement:has with us. That when he's with us, he really lets it rip.
statement:And what I see as well, that's what happens with people in life too.
statement:It's like there's a, there's a belief that they'll always be there, right?
statement:Family's family. And that's true.
statement:And if your family, whether it's your wife or your kids,
statement:continually are your punching bag for when you get home, for your
statement:inability to deal and manage and handle the amount of stress that you're
statement:under, and you're not taking care of yourself, you're not looking at stuff,
statement:one, that's not fair, but that's going to have some high consequences. And we—
statement:how often do we see it? I mean, look at divorce rates. Look at most
statement:guys' relationship with their kids, especially if you're a high performer.
statement:Likely, I would imagine you're working a lot,
statement:many hours. So the hours that you are at home,
statement:it's— I mean, this is just the fact. Like, I get it. It
statement:just becomes even more important that when you're there, you're there. And
statement:if that's hard to hear, I mean, good,
statement:good. And
statement:you can do something about it because you are,
statement:especially in your work, you kick ass. You got those standards,
statement:right? And I don't think it's honestly a lack of awareness. It's really not.
statement:You probably listen to tons of books, tons of podcasts. You've had, you know, great
statement:coaches. You follow protocols. But one of the problems is, is— and this
statement:is sign number 5, honestly, we're heading right into it— is you probably
statement:know what to do. It's just really hard to make it stick.
statement:So maybe in certain aspects, your wife has commented
statement:something that pushes you and you're inspired and you make a change. Maybe you plan
statement:a vacation. Maybe you start prioritizing going to your kids'
statement:games. You take some action, but then you get thrown right back
statement:into the sauce and into the demands of work. And even though you know
statement:what to do, it's really hard to integrate that over time.
statement:And usually what comes with that is some level of quiet shame.
statement:Like, maybe it's me, I'm failing, I'm not
statement:doing enough, or they're always asking enough. It's that inner voice, that inner
statement:critic that is relentless. Okay. But
statement:I'll just tell you what I've seen, because this isn't a discipline problem, and
statement:oftentimes it's not a— again, a knowledge problem. It's
statement:that what you're doing just hasn't been personalized or
statement:customized to you. It hasn't met you where you're at.
statement:It's too extreme. And so whatever the
statement:programs, protocols, things you're doing, nothing against that.
statement:Those are all great action steps. Get a blood test, for heaven's sake.
statement:See what's under the hood, work with a coach, and
statement:you creating a structure, a rhythm, a
statement:rhythm that integrates with your daily life and is
statement:actually built and constructed for the life that you're living.
statement:That is really what I see when it comes to integration and getting
statement:this stuff to stick. You know, there's been a founder that I've been
statement:working with. He's in Silicon Valley. He's the CEO of a tech company.
statement:and we've been working together now
statement:over 13 months. At some point we're going to have him on the show.
statement:We've been working together over 13 months.
statement:Amazing human being, has actually been studying meditation for over like 20 years, so
statement:he's done a lot of the deep inner work, and he's worked with,
statement:if I recall correctly, 13 different coaches and specialists
statement:to help him out of a lot of the challenges. you know, largely
statement:physical challenges as well. He had, you know, without going too much into it,
statement:he had his challenges, we'll say that. And what we really
statement:identified was each
statement:specialist, each coach was really helping them in the lane
statement:that they specialized in. The model in the West is
statement:let's cut up the body and treat the shoulder like a shoulder, for example, for
statement:a physical reference, a shoulder like a shoulder. Let's treat the knee like a
statement:knee, but they're not really looking at the whole picture and
statement:how all things are connected and how someone's life actually
statement:looks. That's why one of my— the mentor
statement:that I've learned the most from is Paul Chek, who's made his
statement:career around solving medical failures, the most complex challenges
statement:from Olympians to professional
statement:athletes to high-level CEOs. To cancer
statement:patients, like you name it. And when we were working together for 2 and a
statement:half years, one-on-one, every single day
statement:we were checking certain markers. We were looking at heart rate, we were looking at
statement:mental and emotional stress, we were looking at hormonal stress, we were looking at
statement:physical recovery. And what we were doing was
statement:adjusting my plan, my training
statement:plan and things outside of it, because it was very holistic, very integrated.
statement:Based off of where I was at in the moment. And this was
statement:actually right around the time things like Whoop and Oura Ring, which I'm not
statement:against, but I'll tell you what I am against. It's
statement:when we over-rely on those
statement:technologies. Like, they can provide some great insight, but if
statement:we've lost connection with our innate intelligence,
statement:like, what happens when we forget the Oura Ring at
statement:home? It's a great tool. Yay, amazing. We can use that information
statement:as a tool, but can we survive and thrive without it?
statement:That's also what I found. We were doing most of that work manually, and it
statement:was so insightful so that I knew without a shadow of a doubt, no matter
statement:where I am in the world, I know how to take care of myself. I
statement:can be vital as shit no matter what business I am in, where I'm at
statement:in the world, what stress. And I'm not saying I handle it perfectly every
statement:time by any means. But those skills, even when I'm off my center,
statement:even when I'm pulled away, I know how to bring it back.
statement:Right. And I can, I can manage high levels. There's a high capacity, but
statement:it's because I've trained it and I'm sensitive enough to pick up the signs and
statement:signals well before something big happens.
statement:And so I remember one time with the Oura Ring that I did get
statement:later, I fell into the trap of
statement:you know, checking it every single day. I was over-relying on it. It helped me
statement:to a certain extent, but then I forgot it at home on a travel trip
statement:that I was teaching out to Texas. And I remember once I got there and
statement:realized I had forgotten it, the first morning I woke up, I had a rush
statement:of anxiety, total body anxiety. And I was like—
statement:the, the texture of it was, what the fuck, what am I gonna do?
statement:And it was such an aha for me that I was like, oh my God,
statement:I know what to do. I've just forgotten it.
statement:And I've given my power away to a device, to a technology,
statement:and I've forgotten that the human body is the most intelligent being,
statement:uh, technology on the planet. So when we use these
statement:things strategically, intentionally, they're
statement:amazing. And my encouragement is to
statement:not over-rely on anything outside of yourself, because at the end of the day, it's
statement:you. It's you. And I would imagine
statement:what's made you so successful, or one of the biggest things that made you so
statement:successful in business as a high achiever or a high achiever in anything you're
statement:doing in your life, wasn't some
statement:technology. Even if you sold tech,
statement:it was your ability to make gut decisions, to
statement:read people, to value relationships,
statement:because the technology is going to be as good as the technology, but it's you
statement:that's got to get that in the door. It's you that has to connect. We're
statement:still human beings, we're social creatures. But when we know how to use
statement:the technology to our advantage and remember that we are our number one asset,
statement:and to pay attention to the symbols— not the symbols, but the signs—
statement:then we become really dangerous. Then we're like
statement:unstoppable. When you can use technological advancement
statement:and marry that with a body, mind, spirit, and a
statement:relational being that's finely tuned, attuned to himself, attuned to others,
statement:that knows how to listen to his gut, that's connected to his heart, his mission,
statement:and his values. Like, that's what we're talking about,
statement:right? That's what I mean. That's what really excites me. And
statement:there is so much opportunity. Like, again, I want to hit this
statement:home as we bring this episode to close. I've
statement:worked with enough people over the last 21 years to say, like,
statement:The body's amazing. It's
statement:remarkable at our body's ability to heal
statement:if we give it a chance to. If we give it a chance to,
statement:right? And the best version of yourself that you're giving
statement:to your craft or to your work, if we apply that same level of
statement:skill— because it ain't a discipline issue, it's not a motivation issue,
statement:it's just we need to get more strategic. Not necessarily
statement:tactics. Yes, maybe. But we need to get more strategic and
statement:zoom out and look at the body as a system of systems
statement:and recognize that if we're thriving in one area, but there's
statement:another area that's getting nothing— like maybe you're a 10 in your business,
statement:but your relationship's a 3 and your body's a 4— like, fuck
statement:that. No, that's To me, that's not
statement:acceptable because you wouldn't have accepted any less in your business.
statement:So why are you accepting less outside? Just because
statement:it's become the norm? This is what it feels like at this age, or
statement:this is a consequence of, you know, what it's taken to
statement:achieve that level of business success? Like, how about it
statement:could be both? And it can be, and I've seen it and I
statement:live it. So I hope today pushed you a bit,
statement:maybe was confronting. And if you know someone who is
statement:living like this, please share this podcast, share this podcast
statement:with them. And because high achievers are
statement:some of the, the greatest game changers in the world,
statement:people are making big decisions. Their decisions have ripples on many
statement:people. And so if we can get more in our bodies
statement:and start being at a level 8, 9, 10 in all areas,
statement:watch the world completely change and shift.
statement:And be powerful, yes. Be ambitious, yes.
statement:But do so that brings everybody for the ride. Everybody,
statement:not just your bank account, but everybody. The people you serve, the people you love,
statement:the people who look up to you, your, your dog, your cat, your
statement:kids, all of them. Can rise as the boats rise
statement:together. So if this resonates,
statement:yay. If it challenges you, yay. If it stretches you,
statement:and if this really does hit home for you and
statement:you're looking for support, this is exactly— with
statement:one-on-one coaching, this is what I do. I
statement:call it the executive edge because most executives, founders,
statement:high performers, high achievers, high-level operators
statement:demand that they operate at their edge.
statement:High levels of energy, high levels of focus, high drive.
statement:And usually at somewhere that starts taking a dip. And if you want more,
statement:this is what I do. The main work, though, is customizing it,
statement:personalizing it, and having enough understanding of
statement:what are the demands you're under, what are the stresses you're under, what does life
statement:really look like? And then personalizing an
statement:entire system, not a tactic, not an
statement:exercise, not, but entire system that integrates into your
statement:life. That's rhythm, that's flow, that actually feels
statement:fun, that doesn't feel like a chore. That's what I
statement:love doing, meeting people where they're at and getting them to effing
statement:thrive day in and day out. So if you're interested, I'll put a link in
statement:the show notes. For more information on this. We call it— I'm calling it the
statement:Executive Edge right now. I've worked with a few guys on it, this
statement:specific way of integrating it exactly in their life, and I would love to support
statement:you too. Have a beautiful, beautiful day. Catch you later. Peace.