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But what ends up happening is because we've made business such a priority,

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we don't really realize that our body, which is truly, in my

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opinion, our most valuable asset— if you go

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down, I mean, the ship goes down. Even if you've built an infrastructure

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in your business to thrive without you, which not many people have.

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But even if that's true, what about your family?

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Welcome to The King Within, a podcast for men who seem to have it all.

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Yet feel like they're losing what matters most. I'm Mike Salemi, and I've

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been there. Successful on paper, but disconnected on the inside.

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This isn't about grinding harder. It's about mastering your emotions,

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leading with calm strength, and rebuilding trust at home. Each

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week we dive into real stories and tools for becoming the man your family runs

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towards, not away from, because you didn't build this life to lose

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yourself in it. This is The King Within. Let's do the work. What I'm

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about to say might piss you off. I'm going to say it anyway because I've

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seen it over and over and over. What if the most

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expensive thing that a high achiever can do is

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actually less about making a bad investment or even a bad hire

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and has more to do that he's quietly accepted and made peace

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with a version of himself that isn't his best?

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And I know that sounds counterintuitive, Because in the realm of high

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achievers, executive founders, people that are leading teams, kicking ass,

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making big decisions that have ripple effects on many people,

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tens, hundreds, thousands of people, like, what are you talking about, Mike?

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But that's exactly what we're going to go into today. The 5 signs that

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your body is telling you something, that your ambition, that your

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drive is making it really hard to hear. We're going to

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unpack that now. If you haven't listened to yet, I

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want you to go back. If this concept is resonating with you,

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listen to episode 102 of the podcast. I go deep.

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It's called The High Achiever's Dilemma: The Shadow Side

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of Success. Now, in that podcast, I go deep into the

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psychology of what drives many high achievers,

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especially if they've not done some deep inner work and

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explored some of their history and why they are the way they are.

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You know, one thing I'll share briefly is many high achievers are scared

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shitless of a fear of failure, and it's propelled them to

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do some great things. And yet what's driving them, the main energy

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driving them, is, I am so afraid to fail, or I'm so afraid

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that this will be taken away from me. And so how do they

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operate on a day-to-day basis? They act, they behave, they

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think, they emote to disprove that.

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So in that episode, we go into, again, deep into the psychology and

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the shadow side of why many high achievers are the way they are.

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And I give you some tips and things to explore to bring

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greater integration or wholeness into how you operate.

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Like, holy shit, my dream for you is, yeah, you kick ass, you do

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great things, you inspire people, you do great things with your business and in the

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world. And also you do so not from a place of

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I'm less than if I don't. You know who you are, and your

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family and your health doesn't get sacrificed as a result of

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being a high achiever. And then today, though, what we're going to

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talk about is a slightly different angle of it. I want to go into the

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5 signs that your body is trying to tell you something.

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However, it's your ambition that makes it really hard to hear.

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And I touched on it earlier. And the first point, sign number 1,

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is really you've made peace with a version of yourself that isn't your

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best. Now, what do I mean by that? Because you

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apply high standards in your life. There's no doubt about that,

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right? In what you expect from your teams, the time that you show up at

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work, what you expect from employees, their SOPs.

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Do they follow them? How do they treat clients? How do you show up for

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your clients? Do you ever show up for your clients unprepared?

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Most likely not. You hold yourself to a specific

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standard in that one area. But then why

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is it really different than your health or

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your relationships, especially your intimate ones? And I

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know some of this is going to be confronting, but what I'm asking you to

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do is if this is hitting, keep

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listening. Because this isn't about, um,

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shame. But I, I do want to confront you. I do want to

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inspire you and encourage you to look at these parts, because in

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anybody that I work with, my true desire is I, I

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really see people to the best of my ability in their highest potential. And no

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matter what they're struggling with, I do believe if they want it,

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they can have it. And we don't have to sacrifice

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the, the depth and the quality of the relationship with our wife or with our

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kids for work. Like, you can have it all,

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but in order to have it all, we have to take a zoomed-out perspective

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and be very surgical, and we have to come to terms with some of these

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things. And so you can use the same

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mindset, the same approach that you use in business

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that has gotten you to where you've gotten and you can apply it elsewhere.

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You know, when I was competing, you know, through injury, through the pain teacher, one

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of the things that I realized was even though I was working with great

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coaches and on the surface you would be like, oh wow, he's really

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successful, he's won these championships or he's done these things.

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But as I started working more and more, my values got clearer and clearer.

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And so I was very clear, especially in the later years of when I was

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competing, was Okay, I love competing. I love testing my body.

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I want to see what this body can do. However, what's equally,

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if not more important, is how I'm doing that achievement.

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Right? I wanted not only the number on the bar or the volume I was

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able to handle in the gym at the same level as my,

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my discipline, my tenacity, my skill,

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my results, the ROI I was getting in the gym. Around the

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platform, my dream was that those skills also

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translated into deepening my relationships, being

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more present, being more solid, being more trustful, being a man of more integrity.

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And so at the same token, in the beginning,

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I didn't have that. You know, most of the coaches I had worked with were

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more looking at my body and my life like a pigeon, like a, like a

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pinhole. Like, if you're successful on the platform, then that is

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winning. To many regards, it is, but that's not how I define

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winning. And so if you have yet to define what is winning for you, what

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does winning look like for you, and this is already hitting home,

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please do so because you can transfer

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those level of standards into other, into other areas, not just in business, but you've

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got to be ruthless and really take

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self-responsibility for the life that you're creating.

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Because your life, my life, our lives, and how we experience

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life is largely a reflection of our choices. Okay. Sign

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number 2, you're there, but you're not really there. You know, in

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the example I shared earlier, when you come home in the

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beginning of the show, when you kicked ass all day, you win,

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your sales are inflated, you're getting celebrated, you worked your tail

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off. But then what happens? You come home, whether at 4:00,

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5:00, 6:00 PM, 7:00 PM, whatever. And your body is

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physically there, but your mind is still on that sales

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call or is still on that client, is still on what needs to be done

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tomorrow. And maybe you have anxiety because you're future tripping

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on the things where the financials are of the company or how

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an employee performed or didn't perform or what was said during a meeting or

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not said. You're physically here, but

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mentally and emotionally you're not. And so what do you usually tell your

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family? You probably say, well, just give me 20 minutes, just give me a little

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bit more time, or I'm going to work just a little bit later tonight. And

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it's not a one-time thing. It's a pattern. Because what's

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happening unintentionally is a hierarchy, right? My team, my

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work, my sharpest hours, my most clear hours.

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That's what gets prioritized. And usually what ends up happening,

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again, unintentionally, is our families get the leftovers.

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And how do I know this? Because I've lived this, and I've coached this a

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lot. But what hits home most for me is I've lived this,

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and I've heard these words, and I've said these words, and I've had

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the, uh, the discomfort of being

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with my young son who's 3 years old right now and having an

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irresistible urge to keep checking my phone, or even to wake

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up at night sometimes and turn over and just check the email. Like, did, did

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they respond? Did the client respond? Or did we get that sale

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that I had the sales call with that day? I know

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exactly what this feels like, and I coach it far too

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often. And so you're physically there, but you're not fully there.

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And so what ends up happening, again, our families think,

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well, I'm not a priority. And while that might not be true,

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our actions aren't really— aren't lining up with what we say, that they

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are a priority. We usually justify, I'm doing this for the

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family. And in part, that's true. That is true. But if you're really

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being honest, we need to look again at the signals of where your

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nervous system is, because I get it. If at the end of work you

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don't have an off switch and there's no signal to

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transition, hey, physically, mentally, and emotionally,

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it's time to switch. Right? The role that you play at work. So

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many men have challenges, myself included, like self-disclosure over

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the years. We have difficulty stepping out of one

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role and one mindset into the other. And so how you

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approach that with skill, with art, with prioritization, knowing what

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to do to get more in your body, right? The mind is an

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amazing tool, and it's just a tool. What is

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needed for you too, not just for your family, right? Your family

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needs you present. They need you in your heart. And I'm going to make a

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that's likely what you need too. Because what

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you're running at— and this is going to touch on the next sign— the

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pace that you're running at without having some

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degrees of any or an ability to skillfully

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turn off and step into another role— I mean, we as

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humans, like, we're designed to deal with acute levels of stress, high levels of

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stress, don't get me wrong, but it's the chronic stress, the inability to

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separate and have skill over where our

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nervous system is, the ability to change our state. I mean, I'll go

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as far as to say I really do think what makes a man

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healthy is his ability to consciously and intentionally change

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his state. If you're

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wound up or if you're wired, whether it's

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because the pace of your day, the responsibility, the caffeine, whatever,

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and you can't shift out of that, you're literally,

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you're in a chronic stress state. And if you can't get

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into recharge mode or have the ability to

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downshift at times when needed, I mean, the

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consequences of that are vast to your health, to your relationship, to

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long-term the quality of your business. I mean, it's, I mean, it's

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sad, but it's true. How many people make a fuck ton of money.

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And yet when it comes time to actually enjoy— and this hits home for

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many personal reasons in my close network—

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when it comes time to actually enjoy the money, what they're dealing with is cancer

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or heart disease or all the anxiety and panic attacks. Like, what the

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hell was it for? And so there is—

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I'm not saying throw the baby out with the bathwater, like, holy shit. Like, I

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want to win. I want to be at my best. I want to serve the

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world at the highest level as well, just like you. And what

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if there is a way where all the boats could rise and it's not a

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this or that, that you hold multiple things in a

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similar level of hierarchy and you know how to approach

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it skillfully in your day? Okay. Sign number 3,

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your body has stopped feeling like an asset. Okay? Your

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body has stopped feeling like an asset. So at one time, maybe

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is when you started your business. Or when you were an entrepreneur and

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you kicked it off the ground, you felt powerful, you felt capable,

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uh, you felt solid, you were excited, and you literally

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had an endless amount of energy. Maybe it was in your 20s, maybe it was

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in your 30s. But now, like, I

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don't mean to laugh, it's just— this is such the reality that I

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see— but you have to negotiate with your body day in and day out,

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right? So you've got little tweaks, little injuries, little blood

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markers are starting to show stuff like crazy high cholesterol or blood

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sugar issues, things that until they're in the red,

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usually you don't wake up to. Maybe

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you travel a lot. I've got a lot of clients that travel frequently, and

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the toll of the time zone changes,

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the toll of just sitting in a chair, even if it is business class or

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what, it's tough. And usually they just feel

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more broken down. And travel is tough. Sleeping gets

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thrown off. You're still required to operate and be sharp at a

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high level even though you're exhausted or tired. And then you're fighting your body

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once again and you're taken out of the normal rhythm and routine. Maybe you have

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a trainer, maybe you have your supplement protocols, maybe you have—

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you're dialed with your eating at home, whether you cook or your family member

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cooks or you have a chef. It's really challenging. Travel

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throws off a lot. But what ends up happening is because we've made

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business such a priority, we don't

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really realize that our body, which is truly, in my

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opinion, our most valuable asset— the

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most valuable asset you have is you. If you go

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down, I mean, the

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ship goes down. Even if you've built an infrastructure in your business to

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thrive without you, which not many people have. But even if

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that's true, what about your family?

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What about your family? You're the leader of your family. So if you go down,

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what's that going to do? What's not only the quality of life that you're going

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to get to experience, but how's that going to have the ripple on our family?

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Right. And my intention of this

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podcast is to

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Part of the intention is to, to maybe stretch you a bit,

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to create some discomfort. If what I'm saying makes you want to be like, screw

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you, Mike, I want to turn this off, my invitation to you

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is actually lean in. Lean

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in. And so with the signal, I

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understand the word slowing down is one of the hardest things that high achievers—

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like, they don't want to hear it, and I get it, and I'm with you

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in that. But what if it's less about slowing down even— well,

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I would say that would be really valuable— what if it's more

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asking you to look at the whole picture, like more to look at the

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rhythms of your life? Because I'm going to give some, some

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suggestions as we go, but I don't think that we need,

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and you need as a high achiever and a high performer, to completely

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like change your life I mean, depends,

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it depends how far gone you are and like, again, how loud the pain temperature

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is. Like, I mean, if you're like many people I've

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worked with, like if you're on the path of a disease or

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you're really out of sorts, like, okay, maybe there needs to be some major changes.

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But most often, if you can

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integrate high-leverage things into the day that you already

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live, that is what really moves the

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needle. I mean, even think about if you're doing workouts,

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for example, with a trainer, that trainer's probably seeing you 1 to 3

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days a week for 45 minutes to an hour, and you

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may get a good workout. But if you're not

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integrating proper breathing, mindful

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movement, if you're not checking in with your position, your posture, how you're

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holding yourselves, yourself, there's no amount of

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training that's really going to undo the amount of hours

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that you're at a deficit or being compromised. That's why I believe

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it's less about some big overhaul and more about being very surgical, very

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precise, very strategic, and coming up with things that you can

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integrate in your day that you're already doing. Like, everybody

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wakes up, right? Everybody brushes their teeth. Everybody has to eat,

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right? Everybody has to— not everybody has to drive, but if you drive a car,

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you're going to get in your car every day. Or you step into an office,

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you open the office door. There's so many things that you already are

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doing but maybe don't even realize it that you could be

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integrating with things that'll recharge the batteries,

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increase your focus in a way that

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honestly will probably surprise you. Because when I was competing,

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like, yeah, at a certain level from— and I'm speaking more from

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from the aspect of training and physical competition, but you can

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apply this to anything else and I'll make the parallel to work and business.

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But yeah, at a certain level, when someone's first starting off, like if I was

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a beginner in, in weightlifting of whatever sport or I

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was coaching a beginner in the beginning, the progress is, is

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like a, like a bell curve. It's going to be really fast. But if

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you're at a certain level, like you're at the top 10% or 5%

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or 2%, in your given craft, in your given

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industry, you're probably not going to

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notice major gains. Maybe you do, maybe you strike

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some big deal, but largely within your own body,

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especially if that's your priority, like

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at that level in business, in your life with me competing,

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just 1 to 2% improvement consistently

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is unbelievable. If you look at Olympians, when you look at their

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times, for example, in track and field or in swimming, and you look at their

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times year to year, if they're improving even

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fractions of a second, it's astronomical, the amount of

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progress that they're making. And so it doesn't need to be these big jumps,

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but I'm such a fan of reliability,

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stability. Like, if you can improve My coach Paul

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Cech for years would say, and he got this from, I believe, was the track

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coach named Charlie Francis, if you can improve 1 to 3%

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every single time that you step into a gym, that is what we're

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striving for. And so in your business, if you can improve

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1% or half a percent every single week or every

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single month, maybe it could be astronomical in the long run.

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So that's the mindset that I want you to invite in. And so much

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of it is about rhythm as opposed to these

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drastic needing to slow down or completely

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do an overhaul. Like many clients that

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I work with aren't willing to do that until it gets, you know,

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until the pain teacher really knocks on the door and then they have to. And

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if we can implement this stuff now, when you've got some

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autonomy around it and your body's not screaming, you're in the hospital or something drastic

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happens or you're not in a divorce. Like, when's

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the best time to fix a— what do they say? When's the best time to

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fix a leaky roof? You think it's during a thunderstorm,

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or is it during when there's relatively sunny skies? There's no rain out.

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Maybe. Maybe it's cloudy. Like, that's the time.

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Proactivity will serve you, me, all of us so well.

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All right. Sign number 4, you're more reactive than you used

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to be. So usually what I tend to see

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is we all have a certain amount of capacity.

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We all have a certain, uh, amount of reserves, gas tank in

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us. The longer that we operate

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in a high level of stress, high responsibility, high pressure— there's

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nothing wrong with it— but the longer that we operate with that,

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and if our body doesn't expand in its capacity to

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hold that and in fact most people's vitality are going down

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and down over the years, then usually what ends up happening is our

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fuse gets shorter and shorter. It becomes more

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difficult to have patience. Maybe comments,

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criticism, feedback that colleagues or even clients

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giving, they just hit harder. Conversations might escalate

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more and we get more reactive. So we lose our shit, we

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get more aggressive. Right. So if we're

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not able to, again, increase our capacity at

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the level, like an incremental level over time, especially as our pressure

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goes up, then I just see this— the

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internal state, especially for most men,

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is pretty— it's tough. And if we're

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not like— even if we're not reactive

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outward, usually we're reactive inward. But if this

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goes on for long enough, then it's usually our families

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or the people that we love most that get it, right? Because

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usually there's some level of safety in there. I was just with my

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3-year-old. It's just so interesting observing him as an example, which

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kids, especially at that age, they're like purely emotional. Their

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prefrontal cortex has not fully developed. And so they don't

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have the rational thinking, the mature mind to help them

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process, assimilate, digest, and navigate

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these major emotional surges. And so

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with my, with my son Luca, for example,

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um, he will, uh, what was, what was something that happened the other

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day that'll illustrate this? Um,

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he just goes from level 1 to 10 like that.

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Right? And it's because he doesn't have the wherewithal to

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know, like, how to regulate himself. And

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so he ends up with mom and dad

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specifically. We usually get the worst of it when

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he's with my mom or Lauren's mom or, you

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know, his, his grandma and grandpa. He's usually really sweet and he's a

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sweetheart, don't get me wrong. But there's also a level of safety that he

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has with us. That when he's with us, he really lets it rip.

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And what I see as well, that's what happens with people in life too.

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It's like there's a, there's a belief that they'll always be there, right?

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Family's family. And that's true.

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And if your family, whether it's your wife or your kids,

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continually are your punching bag for when you get home, for your

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inability to deal and manage and handle the amount of stress that you're

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under, and you're not taking care of yourself, you're not looking at stuff,

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one, that's not fair, but that's going to have some high consequences. And we—

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how often do we see it? I mean, look at divorce rates. Look at most

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guys' relationship with their kids, especially if you're a high performer.

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Likely, I would imagine you're working a lot,

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many hours. So the hours that you are at home,

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it's— I mean, this is just the fact. Like, I get it. It

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just becomes even more important that when you're there, you're there. And

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if that's hard to hear, I mean, good,

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good. And

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you can do something about it because you are,

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especially in your work, you kick ass. You got those standards,

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right? And I don't think it's honestly a lack of awareness. It's really not.

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You probably listen to tons of books, tons of podcasts. You've had, you know, great

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coaches. You follow protocols. But one of the problems is, is— and this

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is sign number 5, honestly, we're heading right into it— is you probably

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know what to do. It's just really hard to make it stick.

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So maybe in certain aspects, your wife has commented

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something that pushes you and you're inspired and you make a change. Maybe you plan

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a vacation. Maybe you start prioritizing going to your kids'

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games. You take some action, but then you get thrown right back

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into the sauce and into the demands of work. And even though you know

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what to do, it's really hard to integrate that over time.

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And usually what comes with that is some level of quiet shame.

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Like, maybe it's me, I'm failing, I'm not

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doing enough, or they're always asking enough. It's that inner voice, that inner

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critic that is relentless. Okay. But

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I'll just tell you what I've seen, because this isn't a discipline problem, and

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oftentimes it's not a— again, a knowledge problem. It's

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that what you're doing just hasn't been personalized or

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customized to you. It hasn't met you where you're at.

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It's too extreme. And so whatever the

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programs, protocols, things you're doing, nothing against that.

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Those are all great action steps. Get a blood test, for heaven's sake.

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See what's under the hood, work with a coach, and

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you creating a structure, a rhythm, a

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rhythm that integrates with your daily life and is

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actually built and constructed for the life that you're living.

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That is really what I see when it comes to integration and getting

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this stuff to stick. You know, there's been a founder that I've been

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working with. He's in Silicon Valley. He's the CEO of a tech company.

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and we've been working together now

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over 13 months. At some point we're going to have him on the show.

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We've been working together over 13 months.

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Amazing human being, has actually been studying meditation for over like 20 years, so

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he's done a lot of the deep inner work, and he's worked with,

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if I recall correctly, 13 different coaches and specialists

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to help him out of a lot of the challenges. you know, largely

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physical challenges as well. He had, you know, without going too much into it,

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he had his challenges, we'll say that. And what we really

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identified was each

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specialist, each coach was really helping them in the lane

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that they specialized in. The model in the West is

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let's cut up the body and treat the shoulder like a shoulder, for example, for

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a physical reference, a shoulder like a shoulder. Let's treat the knee like a

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knee, but they're not really looking at the whole picture and

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how all things are connected and how someone's life actually

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looks. That's why one of my— the mentor

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that I've learned the most from is Paul Chek, who's made his

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career around solving medical failures, the most complex challenges

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from Olympians to professional

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athletes to high-level CEOs. To cancer

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patients, like you name it. And when we were working together for 2 and a

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half years, one-on-one, every single day

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we were checking certain markers. We were looking at heart rate, we were looking at

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mental and emotional stress, we were looking at hormonal stress, we were looking at

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physical recovery. And what we were doing was

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adjusting my plan, my training

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plan and things outside of it, because it was very holistic, very integrated.

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Based off of where I was at in the moment. And this was

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actually right around the time things like Whoop and Oura Ring, which I'm not

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against, but I'll tell you what I am against. It's

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when we over-rely on those

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technologies. Like, they can provide some great insight, but if

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we've lost connection with our innate intelligence,

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like, what happens when we forget the Oura Ring at

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home? It's a great tool. Yay, amazing. We can use that information

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as a tool, but can we survive and thrive without it?

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That's also what I found. We were doing most of that work manually, and it

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was so insightful so that I knew without a shadow of a doubt, no matter

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where I am in the world, I know how to take care of myself. I

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can be vital as shit no matter what business I am in, where I'm at

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in the world, what stress. And I'm not saying I handle it perfectly every

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time by any means. But those skills, even when I'm off my center,

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even when I'm pulled away, I know how to bring it back.

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Right. And I can, I can manage high levels. There's a high capacity, but

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it's because I've trained it and I'm sensitive enough to pick up the signs and

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signals well before something big happens.

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And so I remember one time with the Oura Ring that I did get

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later, I fell into the trap of

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you know, checking it every single day. I was over-relying on it. It helped me

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to a certain extent, but then I forgot it at home on a travel trip

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that I was teaching out to Texas. And I remember once I got there and

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realized I had forgotten it, the first morning I woke up, I had a rush

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of anxiety, total body anxiety. And I was like—

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the, the texture of it was, what the fuck, what am I gonna do?

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And it was such an aha for me that I was like, oh my God,

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I know what to do. I've just forgotten it.

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And I've given my power away to a device, to a technology,

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and I've forgotten that the human body is the most intelligent being,

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uh, technology on the planet. So when we use these

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things strategically, intentionally, they're

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amazing. And my encouragement is to

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not over-rely on anything outside of yourself, because at the end of the day, it's

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you. It's you. And I would imagine

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what's made you so successful, or one of the biggest things that made you so

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successful in business as a high achiever or a high achiever in anything you're

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doing in your life, wasn't some

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technology. Even if you sold tech,

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it was your ability to make gut decisions, to

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read people, to value relationships,

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because the technology is going to be as good as the technology, but it's you

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that's got to get that in the door. It's you that has to connect. We're

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still human beings, we're social creatures. But when we know how to use

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the technology to our advantage and remember that we are our number one asset,

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and to pay attention to the symbols— not the symbols, but the signs—

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then we become really dangerous. Then we're like

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unstoppable. When you can use technological advancement

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and marry that with a body, mind, spirit, and a

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relational being that's finely tuned, attuned to himself, attuned to others,

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that knows how to listen to his gut, that's connected to his heart, his mission,

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and his values. Like, that's what we're talking about,

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right? That's what I mean. That's what really excites me. And

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there is so much opportunity. Like, again, I want to hit this

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home as we bring this episode to close. I've

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worked with enough people over the last 21 years to say, like,

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The body's amazing. It's

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remarkable at our body's ability to heal

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if we give it a chance to. If we give it a chance to,

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right? And the best version of yourself that you're giving

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to your craft or to your work, if we apply that same level of

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skill— because it ain't a discipline issue, it's not a motivation issue,

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it's just we need to get more strategic. Not necessarily

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tactics. Yes, maybe. But we need to get more strategic and

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zoom out and look at the body as a system of systems

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and recognize that if we're thriving in one area, but there's

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another area that's getting nothing— like maybe you're a 10 in your business,

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but your relationship's a 3 and your body's a 4— like, fuck

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that. No, that's To me, that's not

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acceptable because you wouldn't have accepted any less in your business.

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So why are you accepting less outside? Just because

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it's become the norm? This is what it feels like at this age, or

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this is a consequence of, you know, what it's taken to

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achieve that level of business success? Like, how about it

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could be both? And it can be, and I've seen it and I

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live it. So I hope today pushed you a bit,

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maybe was confronting. And if you know someone who is

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living like this, please share this podcast, share this podcast

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with them. And because high achievers are

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some of the, the greatest game changers in the world,

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people are making big decisions. Their decisions have ripples on many

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people. And so if we can get more in our bodies

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and start being at a level 8, 9, 10 in all areas,

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watch the world completely change and shift.

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And be powerful, yes. Be ambitious, yes.

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But do so that brings everybody for the ride. Everybody,

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not just your bank account, but everybody. The people you serve, the people you love,

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the people who look up to you, your, your dog, your cat, your

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kids, all of them. Can rise as the boats rise

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together. So if this resonates,

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yay. If it challenges you, yay. If it stretches you,

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and if this really does hit home for you and

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you're looking for support, this is exactly— with

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one-on-one coaching, this is what I do. I

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call it the executive edge because most executives, founders,

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high performers, high achievers, high-level operators

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demand that they operate at their edge.

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High levels of energy, high levels of focus, high drive.

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And usually at somewhere that starts taking a dip. And if you want more,

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this is what I do. The main work, though, is customizing it,

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personalizing it, and having enough understanding of

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what are the demands you're under, what are the stresses you're under, what does life

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really look like? And then personalizing an

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entire system, not a tactic, not an

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exercise, not, but entire system that integrates into your

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life. That's rhythm, that's flow, that actually feels

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fun, that doesn't feel like a chore. That's what I

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love doing, meeting people where they're at and getting them to effing

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thrive day in and day out. So if you're interested, I'll put a link in

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the show notes. For more information on this. We call it— I'm calling it the

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Executive Edge right now. I've worked with a few guys on it, this

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specific way of integrating it exactly in their life, and I would love to support

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you too. Have a beautiful, beautiful day. Catch you later. Peace.