Welcome to the Masterful Coach podcast with Molly Claire. If
Speaker:you're a coach who's ready to impact more lives, make more money,
Speaker:and create a life you love, you're in exactly the right
Speaker:place. Get the support you deserve as a female
Speaker:entrepreneur, master your coaching skills, grow your
Speaker:ideal business, and honor your priorities in your personal
Speaker:life. Are you in? Let's get started with your
Speaker:host, bestselling author, and master life and business
Speaker:coach, Molly Claire.
Speaker:Okay, coaches. So I wanted to do this episode
Speaker:for you about the fundamentals of succeeding in your
Speaker:coaching business now and long term. And this was really inspired
Speaker:because a few weeks ago, Heidi Alsop, who is
Speaker:on the podcast with me today. Say hi, Heidi. Hey.
Speaker:So glad to be here. So, Heidi.
Speaker:Heidi and I went to Cancun a few weeks ago for
Speaker:a business retreat, and Heidi is a former client of
Speaker:mine who I somehow roped into helping me do podcast work in
Speaker:my business because she's amazing and, and I know she
Speaker:has a heart for the work that we do in the Masterful Coach Collective and
Speaker:just all of this good stuff. And she has her own business. And so
Speaker:Heidi and I kind of started doing this work together, and this business
Speaker:retreat was put on. We went, had the best time. So we're
Speaker:here to just talk about some thoughts, some insights, and talk about how to have
Speaker:a successful business. So let's do it, Heidi. Let's do it.
Speaker:I'm so glad to be here. Thank you for having me. And I'll talk about
Speaker:Cancun forever. Wasn't it... I know, right? I'm
Speaker:like, the other day, I was like, "I think I meant to live in Cancun".
Speaker:I mean, and, yes, so many things. So,
Speaker:Heidi, let's just talk about what we realize- we are,
Speaker:by the way, you guys, we are going to talk about some important things, but
Speaker:there are some fun things we gotta talk about here, too. Heidi,
Speaker:let's just talk about what we discovered when we met up at the
Speaker:airport, about my packing. Yes.
Speaker:Well, Molly, just, just so everyone knows,
Speaker:her coaches, her clients, her people are at the top of
Speaker:her mind, packing a swimsuit for Cancun, not at
Speaker:the top of her mind. Molly forgot
Speaker:a swimsuit. And spending a week in Cancun said
Speaker:no one ever. So. But she had, she had her computer,
Speaker:she had all her notes for her business. So we know where, where
Speaker:Molly's heart is always taking care of her clients.
Speaker:But you made it work. You hodge podged some things together.
Speaker:It was amazing. And we have an amazing picture
Speaker:in a hammock in the water to prove that we worked around the
Speaker:situation. So here's what I have to say in my
Speaker:defense and to all of you. Because genuinely, and I know, Heidi, knows
Speaker:this to be true as well. I genuinely do believe that
Speaker:our life, our business needs to support our ideal personal
Speaker:life and those things we enjoy. Right. And I'm at this phase right
Speaker:now in my business through the end of this month, where I am
Speaker:prepping to take some time off during the summer. I like to have
Speaker:extra time with my daughter when she's out of school, spend time with my boys
Speaker:also, and have some space and time. So the
Speaker:truth is that this really was a business-focused trip for
Speaker:me. And I thought, what better way to do it than Cancun? And we also
Speaker:had the best time. Yes, we did. We did.
Speaker:And. And I think, too, Molly, that that for me,
Speaker:going away and being in a beautiful place, but
Speaker:having some time to really sit and reflect is
Speaker:the best thing that I could have done for my business at the time.
Speaker:And. Right. Talking back and forth, having someone and
Speaker:a group of people to talk things out with,
Speaker:it was a huge business building week for me, although I didn't have my
Speaker:computer out as much as I could have. So. Yeah. Yeah. That is part of
Speaker:that ideal life and business. Yeah. Yeah. And not to
Speaker:mention. Right. Like, of course, I wish I would have brought
Speaker:a swimsuit or two. That would have been very helpful.
Speaker:And my favorite things to do are exactly what
Speaker:I did there. We did a lot of walking every single day I went
Speaker:out. There's kind of like this little dock like this. I don't know that
Speaker:that's really what it's called. It's kind of this fancy platform out in the water
Speaker:where they have events. And I journaled and did yoga out there. And.
Speaker:And so it just was amazing. And we had the best time.
Speaker:We did. We did. Absolutely. Okay,
Speaker:so. So let's get a little bit serious here. So, by the way, and Heidi
Speaker:can tell you more about her business or where you can find her at the
Speaker:end of this episode, and I am for sure going to bring her back, because
Speaker:I do want to at least mention what you do, Heidi, because
Speaker:Heidi has been helping me in my business. But what is your
Speaker:business about? Tell the people. Yeah, absolutely. I coach
Speaker:moms of boys, especially middle
Speaker:school boys, when they're, when they're gaining their independence.
Speaker:And as moms, we are a little nervous about what that
Speaker:independence is going to look like. And I just really help moms. I help
Speaker:them do two things, show up in a way that strengthens their connection,
Speaker:that they can really continue to be the greatest influence in their son's
Speaker:life and have a lot of fun. And the other thing that I do is
Speaker:help them create a really parenting plan, kind of like you
Speaker:do with your clients, but a parenting plan that this is how we want to
Speaker:show up, this is how you want to be every day, and this
Speaker:is what you want to teach him, how you want him to learn and grow
Speaker:as he goes through those formative years. So, yeah, all things moms and boys. I
Speaker:have five boys of my own, so I know a little bit of what I'm
Speaker:talking about. Oh, my gosh. And now she's getting these
Speaker:girl granddaughters. Yes. Too
Speaker:fun. So. And you know what? I actually.
Speaker:I love that we just highlighted right here in this
Speaker:episode for you, what Heidi does, because it
Speaker:reminds me of the work that Heidi and I have
Speaker:done, as each time that there's been some
Speaker:carving out of your message and your niche, it always
Speaker:comes back to what you feel
Speaker:passionate about. The message you want to give women.
Speaker:Right. And the message you want to give your clients, it's so heart
Speaker:centered and driven by that. And that's really one of the things I want to
Speaker:highlight today. And I know, Heidi, you know from experience
Speaker:that it's like you're working in your business, right? You're feeling a
Speaker:little stuck. It's, like, a little crunchy, a little scary. And then
Speaker:we talk about, who do you want to help? What is your purpose? What
Speaker:is the thing you want to say? And every time we do that, that's
Speaker:when it's like, I can hear and feel from you
Speaker:that, like, flow and openness. Absolutely. You know
Speaker:it's there, and I know it's there. And sometimes I
Speaker:let myself get caught up in maybe how someone else
Speaker:articulates things or what the formula is
Speaker:or how it should be done in someone's group
Speaker:or platform or something like that. And always, always when I
Speaker:get into what is my passion, what do
Speaker:I feel like can contribute the most to the world? From my
Speaker:experience and my training, it really does come out
Speaker:so clearly to me. And so I, I do. Every
Speaker:time we come back and you ask me, "Well, what do you really want to
Speaker:do?" It's there. It's always there. It's always, always
Speaker:there. Yes. Okay, so let me back up
Speaker:a little bit. So, we go to Cancun, right? We're at this business retreat,
Speaker:and the purpose was for us to learn and do a little bit of working
Speaker:and all that stuff. And. And as we were there and as I
Speaker:was listening to the other people in the group
Speaker:wanting to learn how to do their business right, "How do I market?" "What's the
Speaker:best thing?" It really, I have to say, for me, being there
Speaker:was an interesting moment in time in my
Speaker:business and in my life where I realized I
Speaker:feel so grateful to say I'm at the point where I am
Speaker:bringing together the best parts
Speaker:of all the work I've done as a coach. My favorite parts, the things that
Speaker:I'm passionate about, the things that I'm great at, and being able to be a
Speaker:part of a mission that I feel so, so good
Speaker:about.And as I was kind of reflecting on this and this
Speaker:being this really great point in my business and career,
Speaker:I wanted to be able to share with these other business
Speaker:owners some of these key things to helping them have success.
Speaker:And it was, it lent itself perfectly to this opportunity. Right. Because they
Speaker:wanted all of us to speak and share and all of that, which we, we
Speaker:had a good laugh about as well, as we became international phenomenons.
Speaker:So we weren't
Speaker:really international phenomenons, but we did speak in Cancun,
Speaker:technically in clothing, other than our swimsuits. Okay,
Speaker:so this is what I want to talk about first. Number one, when
Speaker:you are building your business and you want it to
Speaker:succeed 100%, you have to lead your
Speaker:business with phenomenal service as a coach,
Speaker:be the best at what you do. That doesn't mean you have to be the
Speaker:best at everything or do everything, but lean into what
Speaker:you do and what you're passionate about. Expand your skills
Speaker:and abilities and lead with that service.
Speaker:I cannot emphasize enough that a
Speaker:business led with phenomenal service stands the test of time,
Speaker:and it generates referrals that the
Speaker:business, in a sense, can build itself. So
Speaker:this is one of the things I talked about. I mean, I'd love to hear
Speaker:from you, Heidi, because you are definitely a heart centered coach.
Speaker:You're here to help people, to serve people. I mean, how does this
Speaker:idea impact you or any thoughts you have to share about it as well?
Speaker:Yeah, I thought it was fascinating because I think when you're in a room full
Speaker:of people who are in the service industry and
Speaker:serve so many different kinds of people, kinds of
Speaker:services, that I really came away
Speaker:with getting a lot of clarity on the
Speaker:service that I want to provide and how I want to provide that
Speaker:service. And watching so many people, it helped me get
Speaker:clear on, "Okay, this is how I want to do it." And
Speaker:I would always rather err on the side of being
Speaker:too prepared, of over delivering too much, not at the
Speaker:expense of myself, but in a way that really, I just really want to
Speaker:serve my clients in the best way. And becoming the best
Speaker:coach that I can be is the number one way that I can do
Speaker:that. Because then I can provide that quality of service and
Speaker:also just showing up with integrity before that client
Speaker:works with me as we're having those pre conversations, after that
Speaker:client works with me as we, as we do off boarding and
Speaker:continual support and just every facet of the
Speaker:time that I meet the client, till the time that that client has,
Speaker:has flown off and is doing her
Speaker:thing, I want to just really provide a great service to her.So
Speaker:phenomenal service, I believe, is the key
Speaker:to building a business, to building a business that you're really
Speaker:proud of and that you want to tell people about. It makes it so much
Speaker:easier to tell people about what you do if you're really,
Speaker:really aligned and proud of the way that you provide
Speaker:that service and do what you do. Yes, it's like the most solid
Speaker:foundation. And, I mean, as you're listening to Heidi, you can see why I just
Speaker:love and adore you, Heidi, because you always are interested
Speaker:in leading with service. And here's what I'll say, is that most of the clients
Speaker:that are attracted to the work we do in Master Coach Training and
Speaker:other various programs, are typically more people like
Speaker:you, Heidi, right. Who are saying, "I want to over deliver. I
Speaker:want to really give." And so one of the things that I'm able to help
Speaker:my clients with is understanding how over
Speaker:delivering and exceeding expectations with value
Speaker:does not mean over-giving in an unbalanced
Speaker:way or giving busy work or all of that. Because
Speaker:I genuinely, I do believe in this idea that
Speaker:many times less is more when
Speaker:it comes to serving our clients. And I think that idea
Speaker:can be used in a very backwards way as well. And we've seen this
Speaker:right, where people are trying to, especially when offering
Speaker:like, big, like, sales tactics or like, you know, this idea
Speaker:of, I've talked about before, this idea of, like, sloppy
Speaker:scaling where people are really trying to cut
Speaker:corners on delivering service to their clients.
Speaker:And I just want to emphasize that there is a huge
Speaker:difference between what we're talking
Speaker:about here. What I'm kind of highlighting is, yes, you lead with service, you over
Speaker:deliver, you give, you connect with them, and you do it in a way
Speaker:that feels good and aligned and balanced and does not feel like over
Speaker:giving. And that's what we're going for. Right? What we're not going for is
Speaker:either exhausting ourselves because we think we're responsible for being everything
Speaker:to every one of our clients, which many of my clients struggle
Speaker:with. Right. And it's also not this place that, unfortunately,
Speaker:we see a lot of people talking about in the coaching
Speaker:industry. And when it comes to sales, it's like, hey, don't worry
Speaker:so much about, you know, spending time on, you know, your
Speaker:program or learning. Just like, figure out how to get
Speaker:more clients in the door, sell more. And it's like, well, not really
Speaker:because we want to make sure that when they cross that place
Speaker:at that point of sale into our business that they feel like
Speaker:they are just being scooped up and taken care of. Right. Yeah.
Speaker:And I think a really simple way to say that is when you
Speaker:develop the skills to be the best coach or
Speaker:provider that you can be, that is the ultimate
Speaker:ultra delivery, that over-delivery, because you're providing
Speaker:such, it can be encapsulated in a 45
Speaker:minutes session, that over delivering can be just that. Your skills are
Speaker:so spot on that you're very, very good at
Speaker:what you do. You have developed those skills. That's the greatest over delivery.
Speaker:That's right. That's exactly right. And, you know, that's why sometimes I was
Speaker:just saying the other day to a friend of mine about, I'm like, you know,
Speaker:Master Coach Training, it's like, in some ways, it's not the most
Speaker:sexy thing. It's not the most, like, flashy thing,
Speaker:right? Because it's like education, and yet it,
Speaker:it is so powerful because every time
Speaker:we are investing in ourselves and expanding our
Speaker:skills, we are building such a solid foundation that
Speaker:serves us now and long term. And that's the thing,
Speaker:is that, you know, the coaching industry, it's wild,
Speaker:right? It's like the wild, wild west. Coaches are popping up here and there. They're
Speaker:a dime a dozen. They're coming into business, they're going out of business. And I'm
Speaker:like, no, like, I want to attract those of you that are in
Speaker:this for the long haul. You care about your business. You want it to serve
Speaker:people. You want it to serve your life long term. So,
Speaker:anyway, amazing insights. That is like, like
Speaker:perfect. Okay, so let's. Let's just recap that. Lead
Speaker:your business with service. Be in integrity.
Speaker:Be the best at what you do. Really feel
Speaker:amazing about what you deliver, and that confidence
Speaker:and solid foundation will spill over into your ability to build
Speaker:the business. Period. Yes.
Speaker:Okay.Number two, you
Speaker:absolutely have to ground yourself in building your
Speaker:ideal life and business vision. Your business should
Speaker:support the life that you want. When clients come to
Speaker:me, like, so often, and I know, Heidi, you've seen this,
Speaker:like, being in my groups, right. And experience it. We've experienced this both
Speaker:ourselves. Right. It's like, oh, my personal life and my business, they're in
Speaker:competition. How do I pick between the two? And I know you've all heard me
Speaker:say this, but I can't say it enough. It is worth the time
Speaker:to get clear on what your ideal life
Speaker:looks like on a daily basis, on a weekly, monthly basis,
Speaker:and for the long haul. And when you can get clear
Speaker:on that and understand how your business is
Speaker:a part of that bigger picture, that's when suddenly
Speaker:these different pieces of your life don't feel as though they're in
Speaker:competition, but they're in cooperation. And this is one of
Speaker:the number one things that I see
Speaker:coaches really struggling with and wasting time
Speaker:on is feeling this sense of conflict. Yeah. What are
Speaker:your thoughts on this, Heidi? Either personally or what you. Yeah. Well,
Speaker:I'm just, you're bringing me back to an experience that I had when
Speaker:I, when I first started being a coach. And, you know, I
Speaker:mentioned I have five kids and four of them are married.
Speaker:So I have four daughters-in-law and two granddaughters, and I have
Speaker:a full life, and I love my life. And when I first started
Speaker:coaching, I think it was you, Molly, I think we were having a conversation, and
Speaker:I was feeling that pull. I was feeling like the more that I did the
Speaker:coaching, the more that it was taking away from this big, beautiful life that I'd
Speaker:work all these years to create. And
Speaker:you said such an impactful thing to me, and it was, "Heidi, what if this
Speaker:coaching could add to your life? In what ways could this
Speaker:coaching add to this big, beautiful life?" And that
Speaker:was such a brain switch for me that I started
Speaker:looking at the ways that this creating this business
Speaker:and doing this thing that I had felt so called to do was going
Speaker:to add and contribute to my life instead of taking
Speaker:away from my life. And that made all the difference for me.And
Speaker:so then my brain was collecting all of this evidence that this was
Speaker:adding to my life, this was benefiting my family, that this was helping
Speaker:in so many ways, that then it became fun. Then I had the energy to
Speaker:do the things that were required to build a business. And so
Speaker:that was just a really great switch for me
Speaker:that helped me take it out of that competition
Speaker:and really think, "Okay, how can I create this so
Speaker:that this business is adding to my life, my ideal
Speaker:life, that I want to create?" That is so important to me. So I love
Speaker:that mind, that mindset switch. It was really very
Speaker:helpful for me. Yeah. And I think one of the
Speaker:things, Heidi, and I think you've experienced this, too, is that
Speaker:sometimes we can have this idea when we hear ideal life and
Speaker:business and making space for these different aspects of our
Speaker:lives. It's so easy for us to go to this place of
Speaker:thinking. We're trying to figure out how to do it all and have it
Speaker:all, and immediately it can start feeling like, okay.
Speaker:Like. Like we're gearing up to, like, spread ourselves in and hold it all
Speaker:together. And that's not it at all. It's more like,
Speaker:okay, what are the things that actually matter to me?
Speaker:Let's just let go of all the rest. And now if I have these
Speaker:things that I know that matter to me, how do they fit together in
Speaker:such a beautiful way that they're actually creating the
Speaker:experience of my life that I want? The space and
Speaker:time that I want, the ability to
Speaker:build the relationships that I want to enjoy my life.
Speaker:How are the things I'm doing in my business actually aligned with
Speaker:how I'm wanting to spend my time in my business? Right. Because that's another aspect
Speaker:of this.It's kind of like the business supports the life and
Speaker:the business in and of itself, especially for those of you who are
Speaker:coaches and are passionate about this. There are
Speaker:parts of your business and things you offer that you're just meant
Speaker:to do, and they're so fulfilling. And I'll just mention this briefly, I feel like
Speaker:we should do a whole episode on this. But within your business, you know, if
Speaker:you're spending time doing mostly things you don't really like, and
Speaker:it's not leaving time for the things that light you up, you've got to
Speaker:reevaluate, because, yes, there are things that you're going to do that aren't going to
Speaker:be your favorite. And I think the goal should be moving more and
Speaker:more toward doing more of what you love in your business
Speaker:and that business, supporting that ideal life. I mean, it's just, it's
Speaker:all these little shifts, right, in our mind that add up to something really big.
Speaker:Yeah. And when you were doing those things that we love in our business and
Speaker:making those things the priority, we actually work more
Speaker:on our business. We build a better business because we're not trying to
Speaker:avoid going into that office. We're not trying to avoid doing those
Speaker:things because we enjoy that and we are prioritizing those
Speaker:things that we. I love to coach. Just love to coach. So I'm,
Speaker:that's always forefront in my mind. And the other stuff I hope to get
Speaker:done, and usually I do. But if I really focus on
Speaker:talking to the people and helping the people, I'm excited
Speaker:every morning to come into this office and do my thing. That's fun
Speaker:and that's enhancing my life. And the things that, that I'm doing and the things
Speaker:that I'm learning are building my family relationships stronger.
Speaker:They are enhancing my family, which is my first priority in
Speaker:a beautiful way. So they really do go hand in hand, and I no longer
Speaker:separate them in my mind. It's just all part of this wonderful life.
Speaker:Sometimes it's a hot mess, but it's all part of this wonderful life,
Speaker:right? That's right. Yes. Yes. Ideal life
Speaker:and business. This cooperative approach in these areas of your
Speaker:life, it really matters. And it matters in terms of staying the
Speaker:course in your business, because if you are always stressed out, spread
Speaker:thin, you know, feeling guilty, feeling this sense of
Speaker:competition and conflict, it will slow you down.
Speaker:So there's that. So when Heidi was talking about loving to coach, I
Speaker:know so many of you love to coach and teach,
Speaker:and that really is one of, to me, one of my
Speaker:biggest selling points of Master Coach Training as well, right.
Speaker:Is it's like, like, believe it or not, yes, of course there
Speaker:are, there are business things to learn and there's marketing to learn. That's why we
Speaker:have marketing and business within Master Coach Training. Right. It's there. And
Speaker:I really also want to say that when you, when you
Speaker:learn to lean into leading with service, you
Speaker:can coach and teach more. The things you love to do are actually a
Speaker:part of your marketing and your messaging. And that's really what I,
Speaker:what I help my clients do is say, listen, what do you love to do?
Speaker:How do we make the things that you're great at be the very way that
Speaker:you market? It's possible, and I think it's essential if you really want to
Speaker:enjoy your business, too. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely.
Speaker:Okay. Okay. Let's talk about the last
Speaker:key to really succeeding in your business,
Speaker:staying the course and being in it long term. And
Speaker:that is identifying what is
Speaker:that new identity you are claiming wherever you are in your
Speaker:business right now, thinking about where you ultimately want to be
Speaker:as a coach, how many people you want to serve, how much money you want
Speaker:to make, what you want that to look like. And really, as you
Speaker:create that clear identity. It's got to be something
Speaker:that you commit to making happen
Speaker:you know, and what I say, like, in Master Coach Training, as we
Speaker:talk about the fundamentals of lasting change, right, the cognitive,
Speaker:the emotional, understanding the nervous system and effective action
Speaker:strategies. It's like, okay, from where you are now to
Speaker:claiming this new identity of the CEO, this coach, this
Speaker:person, you ultimately want to be in your business and in your life, right.
Speaker:You're going to need to work through all of those hurdles, right, in those different
Speaker:areas. And by the way, this is why you need a coach,
Speaker:right? Like, we are coaches, because we believe in coaches. You need help to do
Speaker:that. And it's not so much that you have to know how to do
Speaker:each step of the way, and there's not, like, a secret way to get to
Speaker:that end point, but you've got to decide it and commit to it, for
Speaker:sure. Yeah, no, I agree. I
Speaker:think that the one thing that I keep
Speaker:having to come back to is that is that self confidence.
Speaker:And sometimes we need a little reminder. We need that mentor to have the confidence
Speaker:in us until we can reconnect with that, with that confidence. Because
Speaker:there's so many things in building this business that, personally, I've never done
Speaker:before. First of all, the skill of becoming a coach and learning the
Speaker:techniques, and this is not like going on a walk with your friend. There's a
Speaker:lot to coaching, and that's why we love it.
Speaker:And then there's the tech. There's connecting with people. There's, who do
Speaker:I serve? How do I serve them? What platforms? There's so much
Speaker:noise that really coming back, in my experience,
Speaker:to that self confidence and that, hey, look, I can do this.
Speaker:I can do this, and I love who I serve, and this is how
Speaker:I want to serve them. And because I just have that self
Speaker:confidence. But sometimes I do have to lean on. Right.
Speaker:I lean on Molly often. I
Speaker:appreciate her confidence in me because that helps
Speaker:me remember that, "Oh, oh, yes, I can do this. Oh, yes. Oh,
Speaker:the platform. Oh, the tech. Okay. I'll figure it out. That's not a problem." But
Speaker:really, I've had to work and strengthen that self confidence. Which,
Speaker:I'm a pretty confident person in all of the areas of my life, for the
Speaker:most part, but building a business that's from scratch, that's
Speaker:never existed before, it is so, it's
Speaker:so helpful to let go of the noise. Find your people
Speaker:that will lend you that confidence while you're building it and strengthening
Speaker:it as you go, has been invaluable for me.
Speaker:Yes. And as Heidi was talking, you know, I was thinking, Heidi,
Speaker:about how this is why when, I mean, one of the
Speaker:fundamental things I'm working with my clients on constantly,
Speaker:every single day, and I kind of joke with them just yesterday, I'm like, I'm
Speaker:always indoctrinating you with this idea, right, of
Speaker:building that self trust, because I do think that
Speaker:it's everything. And one of the things that came to my mind as Heidi was
Speaker:talking is that I think, as coaches, sometimes we
Speaker:can get this idea that we should be
Speaker:this force of independence,
Speaker:standing alone, always believing, you
Speaker:know, always just being able to do it all and create all our own
Speaker:feelings and da da da da da, right? It's this. Yes. But in
Speaker:truth, we need people. We are human beings
Speaker:designed to connect with other people. And
Speaker:besides, it's way more fun that way, right? Much more. And so
Speaker:it's kind of like when I think about every time I
Speaker:have an identity shift that I'm creating, like right now, I have
Speaker:this new shift that I'm creating, right, as we all do time and again
Speaker:in our business, right? And with my new goals, I have this new identity, this
Speaker:new place that I'm going. And what I know is, and what I want to
Speaker:tell all of you is I'm not always going to feel
Speaker:confident about it every moment. I'm not always going to
Speaker:be. And I'm doing, like, air quotes, right? Like, in belief. I'm
Speaker:not always going to feel that way. And it doesn't matter, because what
Speaker:I have done is I have decided that one day I
Speaker:will be there. One day I will feel it, I will believe it, I will
Speaker:have it. And that's what I want to offer to all of you, is
Speaker:just claim that one day you'll be there, and then all along the
Speaker:way, you know that you're going to feel doubt, you're going to feel insecure, you're
Speaker:going to have all this stuff, right? And this is where you do rely
Speaker:on your mentors, your coach, your teacher,
Speaker:and you are willing to overcome whatever
Speaker:mindset or emotion work, emotion
Speaker:roadblocks or actions that you need to change. It's really so much more
Speaker:about commitment than being in belief or feeling it all the time, right?
Speaker:And that self trust that you will figure it out. You will figure it
Speaker:out. It keeps you moving forward when you know that the end
Speaker:is, is that belief, and you know that you will get to that. It just,
Speaker:It keeps you moving forward. It keeps you doing the next thing. And,
Speaker:wow, that building of confidence as you go, as you do the next thing is
Speaker:so fulfilling. So really, it really is. And as
Speaker:we're doing it right, we can we then become more equipped to help our
Speaker:clients do it. And whatever they're trying to achieve, we're really doing a,
Speaker:just a different version of the work we're doing with our clients. All right?
Speaker:Everyone is. And isn't that the way that we connect? Yes. Connect in that
Speaker:way. And it's so much like, think about motherhood. It's so much like that.
Speaker:My daughter in law is potty training her two year old here. And there's
Speaker:so many ways to do it right. There's all this noise out there. Do it
Speaker:this way, do it that way. Oh, this is the proven way. And do it
Speaker:this way and do it that way. And that's, that's so confusing. But you, if
Speaker:you have someone that you trust, it's like, hey, listen, you'll do it
Speaker:fine. You're going to figure it out. I'm not going to tell you the exact
Speaker:way to do it because you and your daughter are unique,
Speaker:and you'll figure it out. Here are some ideas. And, like, this is going to
Speaker:be a good time. You'll figure it out and be a good time.
Speaker:Said no mom ever. And no mom ever. But there's
Speaker:so much noise. Yes, there's so much noise. And if we listen
Speaker:to all the noise, if we do all of the things, this is
Speaker:one thing that I really work a lot with my clients on is listen,
Speaker:there's a lot of parenting books out there, and they all are great, and
Speaker:they all have something, some little nugget in them. And there's
Speaker:your mom and your sister and everybody giving you parenting advice, and it's
Speaker:beautiful. And when those things fall flat,
Speaker:oftentimes we think that we are the problem. We'll never figure it out. We are
Speaker:the problem. What I work so hard with them on is,
Speaker:really, close your eyes. What works for
Speaker:you? What do you feel is the right thing here? And you can
Speaker:take the nuggets from all of the places, but really, when it's all said and
Speaker:done, you're the mom. And I just know you can figure it out. And let's
Speaker:figure out how to build that confidence so that you can move forward
Speaker:and do the things in a more confident,
Speaker:specific, intentional way. And it's the same thing with building a business. There's a
Speaker:lot of noise. There's so much noise. And if we listen
Speaker:to all of it and then it falls flat, we get discouraged and think we're
Speaker:the problem and we give up. That's just not the case.
Speaker:Yep. I'm so glad you brought that up because, I
Speaker:mean, it really is true. And I know all of you listening relate to that,
Speaker:to having all of the noise. And one thing, this was
Speaker:perhaps one of the best things that I experienced this week. So as I've
Speaker:been doing some video calls with my master coach
Speaker:students, like, individually, and it's like they're sharing with me what they
Speaker:like and how they feel about it, you know? And we're just kind of capturing
Speaker:some of their testimonials and some of what they love about
Speaker:it. And what I kept hearing from people is,
Speaker:I don't feel stressed out. I don't feel like I'm
Speaker:behind. I feel relaxed. I feel
Speaker:like I know what I'm doing. It's this sense of
Speaker:almost this space of a little bit of peace and
Speaker:quiet and the opportunity to make
Speaker:choices that are in alignment and feel that trust. And
Speaker:it was beautiful to see how powerful that has been. And
Speaker:so, yes, we do all the other skills, right? And we're teaching and we're learning
Speaker:all these things. But to me, to hear not from one,
Speaker:but from one after the other after the other, that they're
Speaker:feeling more at ease and relaxed and confident was like,
Speaker:that's the win. That's the win right there. And they're leading the way for their
Speaker:clients to feel the same way in whatever area of their life they.
Speaker:Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. What a gift. Okay. Okay,
Speaker:listen, coaches, we're going to wrap up. These are the highlights. And then I do
Speaker:want Heidi to tell you all as well where you can find her because you
Speaker:probably all want to hire her after hearing I need to go hire
Speaker:Heidi. Okay, so key points from this episode. Number
Speaker:one, lead your business with service. It will
Speaker:always, always be in your business's best
Speaker:interest. Number two is be clear on your ideal life
Speaker:in business. And by the way, if you go to
Speaker:myperfectbiz.com, you will be able to get a free training from
Speaker:me. This is actually the starting point that I do with every single one of
Speaker:my clients in every program that we ever do. It is the pre-workout.
Speaker:So myperfectbiz.com, you can get that. Get clear on your
Speaker:ideal life and business. Point 3 from this episode
Speaker:is really be clear on what that new identity is and
Speaker:commit to making it happen. I really
Speaker:do believe that if you do these three things and do them over and
Speaker:over again as you build your business, it is
Speaker:everything. And before I turn it
Speaker:over to Heidi to tell you where you can find her. Here are the other
Speaker:important things to remember. Go to Cancun.
Speaker:Definitely take your swimsuit, your
Speaker:swimsuit. Go to cancun. Take your
Speaker:swimsuit. Take someone awesome with you, like Heidi, like I did,
Speaker:so you can have a lot of fun. And the other thing
Speaker:is, Master Coach Training is open for enrollment, and it is
Speaker:the place to be if you've been excited, if you've been curious, do not
Speaker:hesitate. Definitely submit your application and set up a
Speaker:call and just have the best time building
Speaker:your business. I mean, how lucky are we that every day we get
Speaker:to work with people who are interested in growing and expanding
Speaker:their lives? It is the best place to be, and I just, I
Speaker:feel grateful every single day. Yeah, it's a privilege. This is a
Speaker:privilege for us to get to do this, and it really is. It
Speaker:really is. Okay, Heidi, thank you so much for the conversation.
Speaker:How can people find you? Well, okay, first of
Speaker:all, thank you for having me. And I I have
Speaker:been your client for a while, a long while, and
Speaker:now have a little glimpse into the backside of your business. And, Molly, you are
Speaker:just as genuine and unique
Speaker:and amazing as I thought the first day I met you.
Speaker:So thank you. Aww. Thanks for having me on. But thank you for what you
Speaker:do. You do really provide a space that calms people and
Speaker:helps people move forward and become the coaches they desire to
Speaker:be in a way that enhances their life. So, thank you, and thank
Speaker:you for having me on. And let's go to Cancun again, very soon. Let's go
Speaker:to Cancun. Can you all feel the love? We're having this little love fest
Speaker:party. Thank you so much. It's an honor. Honor to do.
Speaker:You're so sweet. So, thanks for having me. I am so
Speaker:easy to find. I'm on instagram, all the social
Speaker:platforms. Heidiallsopcoaching. Two L's a L
Speaker:L sop. Heidi allsopp coaching. I have a
Speaker:website. Heidi Allsopp coaching. I just. I'm
Speaker:everywhere. And come and find me. If you have a son, come talk
Speaker:to me. Oh, my gosh. It's not for. It's like. It's like you're wading
Speaker:through the jungle. I get it. Oh, my gosh. Right? And then it's like middle
Speaker:school is coming, and you're like, oh, my gosh. What's going to happen with girls?
Speaker:What's going to happen with video games? What's going to happen with social
Speaker:media? Oh, my gosh. And. And.
Speaker:And social skills. Like, what's happening to our souls. Oh, my
Speaker:gosh. We need a whole episode on that. Don't even get me started.
Speaker:Right. Good. Yeah. Okay. Thank you. Thank
Speaker:you for having me. Come and find me. If if you want to know more
Speaker:about moms and boys in middle school and all the way to
Speaker:manhood, like, I've got you. Yes. I love it. Middle school
Speaker:to manhood. I love it. Love it. All right, coaches, thank
Speaker:you so, so much for being here, and I'll talk with you next week.
Speaker:Thanks, Molly. Thanks for listening to the
Speaker:masterful coach podcast. Are you ready to build your
Speaker:amazing business with Molly as your coach? Check out
Speaker:www.mollyclair.com.com to find
Speaker:out about masterful coach foundations and the ten k
Speaker:accelerator method. It's the ultimate support for you as a
Speaker:coach, building your ideal life and business.