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Welcome to the Masterful Coach podcast with Molly Claire. If

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you're a coach who's ready to impact more lives, make more money,

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and create a life you love, you're in exactly the right

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place. Get the support you deserve as a female

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entrepreneur, master your coaching skills, grow your

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ideal business, and honor your priorities in your personal

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life. Are you in? Let's get started with your

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host, bestselling author, and master life and business

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coach, Molly Claire.

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Okay, coaches. So I wanted to do this episode

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for you about the fundamentals of succeeding in your

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coaching business now and long term. And this was really inspired

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because a few weeks ago, Heidi Alsop, who is

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on the podcast with me today. Say hi, Heidi. Hey.

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So glad to be here. So, Heidi.

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Heidi and I went to Cancun a few weeks ago for

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a business retreat, and Heidi is a former client of

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mine who I somehow roped into helping me do podcast work in

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my business because she's amazing and, and I know she

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has a heart for the work that we do in the Masterful Coach Collective and

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just all of this good stuff. And she has her own business. And so

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Heidi and I kind of started doing this work together, and this business

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retreat was put on. We went, had the best time. So we're

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here to just talk about some thoughts, some insights, and talk about how to have

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a successful business. So let's do it, Heidi. Let's do it.

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I'm so glad to be here. Thank you for having me. And I'll talk about

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Cancun forever. Wasn't it... I know, right? I'm

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like, the other day, I was like, "I think I meant to live in Cancun".

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I mean, and, yes, so many things. So,

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Heidi, let's just talk about what we realize- we are,

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by the way, you guys, we are going to talk about some important things, but

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there are some fun things we gotta talk about here, too. Heidi,

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let's just talk about what we discovered when we met up at the

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airport, about my packing. Yes.

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Well, Molly, just, just so everyone knows,

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her coaches, her clients, her people are at the top of

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her mind, packing a swimsuit for Cancun, not at

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the top of her mind. Molly forgot

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a swimsuit. And spending a week in Cancun said

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no one ever. So. But she had, she had her computer,

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she had all her notes for her business. So we know where, where

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Molly's heart is always taking care of her clients.

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But you made it work. You hodge podged some things together.

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It was amazing. And we have an amazing picture

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in a hammock in the water to prove that we worked around the

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situation. So here's what I have to say in my

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defense and to all of you. Because genuinely, and I know, Heidi, knows

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this to be true as well. I genuinely do believe that

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our life, our business needs to support our ideal personal

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life and those things we enjoy. Right. And I'm at this phase right

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now in my business through the end of this month, where I am

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prepping to take some time off during the summer. I like to have

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extra time with my daughter when she's out of school, spend time with my boys

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also, and have some space and time. So the

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truth is that this really was a business-focused trip for

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me. And I thought, what better way to do it than Cancun? And we also

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had the best time. Yes, we did. We did.

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And. And I think, too, Molly, that that for me,

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going away and being in a beautiful place, but

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having some time to really sit and reflect is

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the best thing that I could have done for my business at the time.

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And. Right. Talking back and forth, having someone and

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a group of people to talk things out with,

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it was a huge business building week for me, although I didn't have my

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computer out as much as I could have. So. Yeah. Yeah. That is part of

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that ideal life and business. Yeah. Yeah. And not to

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mention. Right. Like, of course, I wish I would have brought

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a swimsuit or two. That would have been very helpful.

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And my favorite things to do are exactly what

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I did there. We did a lot of walking every single day I went

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out. There's kind of like this little dock like this. I don't know that

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that's really what it's called. It's kind of this fancy platform out in the water

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where they have events. And I journaled and did yoga out there. And.

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And so it just was amazing. And we had the best time.

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We did. We did. Absolutely. Okay,

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so. So let's get a little bit serious here. So, by the way, and Heidi

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can tell you more about her business or where you can find her at the

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end of this episode, and I am for sure going to bring her back, because

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I do want to at least mention what you do, Heidi, because

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Heidi has been helping me in my business. But what is your

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business about? Tell the people. Yeah, absolutely. I coach

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moms of boys, especially middle

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school boys, when they're, when they're gaining their independence.

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And as moms, we are a little nervous about what that

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independence is going to look like. And I just really help moms. I help

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them do two things, show up in a way that strengthens their connection,

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that they can really continue to be the greatest influence in their son's

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life and have a lot of fun. And the other thing that I do is

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help them create a really parenting plan, kind of like you

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do with your clients, but a parenting plan that this is how we want to

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show up, this is how you want to be every day, and this

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is what you want to teach him, how you want him to learn and grow

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as he goes through those formative years. So, yeah, all things moms and boys. I

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have five boys of my own, so I know a little bit of what I'm

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talking about. Oh, my gosh. And now she's getting these

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girl granddaughters. Yes. Too

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fun. So. And you know what? I actually.

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I love that we just highlighted right here in this

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episode for you, what Heidi does, because it

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reminds me of the work that Heidi and I have

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done, as each time that there's been some

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carving out of your message and your niche, it always

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comes back to what you feel

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passionate about. The message you want to give women.

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Right. And the message you want to give your clients, it's so heart

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centered and driven by that. And that's really one of the things I want to

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highlight today. And I know, Heidi, you know from experience

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that it's like you're working in your business, right? You're feeling a

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little stuck. It's, like, a little crunchy, a little scary. And then

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we talk about, who do you want to help? What is your purpose? What

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is the thing you want to say? And every time we do that, that's

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when it's like, I can hear and feel from you

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that, like, flow and openness. Absolutely. You know

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it's there, and I know it's there. And sometimes I

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let myself get caught up in maybe how someone else

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articulates things or what the formula is

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or how it should be done in someone's group

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or platform or something like that. And always, always when I

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get into what is my passion, what do

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I feel like can contribute the most to the world? From my

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experience and my training, it really does come out

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so clearly to me. And so I, I do. Every

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time we come back and you ask me, "Well, what do you really want to

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do?" It's there. It's always there. It's always, always

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there. Yes. Okay, so let me back up

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a little bit. So, we go to Cancun, right? We're at this business retreat,

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and the purpose was for us to learn and do a little bit of working

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and all that stuff. And. And as we were there and as I

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was listening to the other people in the group

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wanting to learn how to do their business right, "How do I market?" "What's the

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best thing?" It really, I have to say, for me, being there

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was an interesting moment in time in my

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business and in my life where I realized I

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feel so grateful to say I'm at the point where I am

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bringing together the best parts

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of all the work I've done as a coach. My favorite parts, the things that

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I'm passionate about, the things that I'm great at, and being able to be a

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part of a mission that I feel so, so good

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about.And as I was kind of reflecting on this and this

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being this really great point in my business and career,

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I wanted to be able to share with these other business

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owners some of these key things to helping them have success.

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And it was, it lent itself perfectly to this opportunity. Right. Because they

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wanted all of us to speak and share and all of that, which we, we

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had a good laugh about as well, as we became international phenomenons.

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So we weren't

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really international phenomenons, but we did speak in Cancun,

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technically in clothing, other than our swimsuits. Okay,

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so this is what I want to talk about first. Number one, when

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you are building your business and you want it to

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succeed 100%, you have to lead your

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business with phenomenal service as a coach,

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be the best at what you do. That doesn't mean you have to be the

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best at everything or do everything, but lean into what

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you do and what you're passionate about. Expand your skills

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and abilities and lead with that service.

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I cannot emphasize enough that a

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business led with phenomenal service stands the test of time,

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and it generates referrals that the

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business, in a sense, can build itself. So

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this is one of the things I talked about. I mean, I'd love to hear

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from you, Heidi, because you are definitely a heart centered coach.

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You're here to help people, to serve people. I mean, how does this

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idea impact you or any thoughts you have to share about it as well?

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Yeah, I thought it was fascinating because I think when you're in a room full

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of people who are in the service industry and

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serve so many different kinds of people, kinds of

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services, that I really came away

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with getting a lot of clarity on the

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service that I want to provide and how I want to provide that

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service. And watching so many people, it helped me get

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clear on, "Okay, this is how I want to do it." And

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I would always rather err on the side of being

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too prepared, of over delivering too much, not at the

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expense of myself, but in a way that really, I just really want to

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serve my clients in the best way. And becoming the best

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coach that I can be is the number one way that I can do

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that. Because then I can provide that quality of service and

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also just showing up with integrity before that client

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works with me as we're having those pre conversations, after that

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client works with me as we, as we do off boarding and

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continual support and just every facet of the

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time that I meet the client, till the time that that client has,

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has flown off and is doing her

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thing, I want to just really provide a great service to her.So

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phenomenal service, I believe, is the key

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to building a business, to building a business that you're really

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proud of and that you want to tell people about. It makes it so much

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easier to tell people about what you do if you're really,

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really aligned and proud of the way that you provide

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that service and do what you do. Yes, it's like the most solid

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foundation. And, I mean, as you're listening to Heidi, you can see why I just

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love and adore you, Heidi, because you always are interested

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in leading with service. And here's what I'll say, is that most of the clients

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that are attracted to the work we do in Master Coach Training and

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other various programs, are typically more people like

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you, Heidi, right. Who are saying, "I want to over deliver. I

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want to really give." And so one of the things that I'm able to help

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my clients with is understanding how over

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delivering and exceeding expectations with value

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does not mean over-giving in an unbalanced

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way or giving busy work or all of that. Because

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I genuinely, I do believe in this idea that

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many times less is more when

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it comes to serving our clients. And I think that idea

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can be used in a very backwards way as well. And we've seen this

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right, where people are trying to, especially when offering

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like, big, like, sales tactics or like, you know, this idea

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of, I've talked about before, this idea of, like, sloppy

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scaling where people are really trying to cut

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corners on delivering service to their clients.

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And I just want to emphasize that there is a huge

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difference between what we're talking

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about here. What I'm kind of highlighting is, yes, you lead with service, you over

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deliver, you give, you connect with them, and you do it in a way

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that feels good and aligned and balanced and does not feel like over

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giving. And that's what we're going for. Right? What we're not going for is

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either exhausting ourselves because we think we're responsible for being everything

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to every one of our clients, which many of my clients struggle

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with. Right. And it's also not this place that, unfortunately,

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we see a lot of people talking about in the coaching

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industry. And when it comes to sales, it's like, hey, don't worry

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so much about, you know, spending time on, you know, your

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program or learning. Just like, figure out how to get

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more clients in the door, sell more. And it's like, well, not really

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because we want to make sure that when they cross that place

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at that point of sale into our business that they feel like

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they are just being scooped up and taken care of. Right. Yeah.

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And I think a really simple way to say that is when you

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develop the skills to be the best coach or

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provider that you can be, that is the ultimate

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ultra delivery, that over-delivery, because you're providing

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such, it can be encapsulated in a 45

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minutes session, that over delivering can be just that. Your skills are

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so spot on that you're very, very good at

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what you do. You have developed those skills. That's the greatest over delivery.

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That's right. That's exactly right. And, you know, that's why sometimes I was

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just saying the other day to a friend of mine about, I'm like, you know,

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Master Coach Training, it's like, in some ways, it's not the most

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sexy thing. It's not the most, like, flashy thing,

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right? Because it's like education, and yet it,

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it is so powerful because every time

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we are investing in ourselves and expanding our

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skills, we are building such a solid foundation that

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serves us now and long term. And that's the thing,

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is that, you know, the coaching industry, it's wild,

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right? It's like the wild, wild west. Coaches are popping up here and there. They're

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a dime a dozen. They're coming into business, they're going out of business. And I'm

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like, no, like, I want to attract those of you that are in

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this for the long haul. You care about your business. You want it to serve

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people. You want it to serve your life long term. So,

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anyway, amazing insights. That is like, like

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perfect. Okay, so let's. Let's just recap that. Lead

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your business with service. Be in integrity.

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Be the best at what you do. Really feel

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amazing about what you deliver, and that confidence

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and solid foundation will spill over into your ability to build

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the business. Period. Yes.

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Okay.Number two, you

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absolutely have to ground yourself in building your

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ideal life and business vision. Your business should

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support the life that you want. When clients come to

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me, like, so often, and I know, Heidi, you've seen this,

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like, being in my groups, right. And experience it. We've experienced this both

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ourselves. Right. It's like, oh, my personal life and my business, they're in

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competition. How do I pick between the two? And I know you've all heard me

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say this, but I can't say it enough. It is worth the time

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to get clear on what your ideal life

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looks like on a daily basis, on a weekly, monthly basis,

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and for the long haul. And when you can get clear

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on that and understand how your business is

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a part of that bigger picture, that's when suddenly

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these different pieces of your life don't feel as though they're in

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competition, but they're in cooperation. And this is one of

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the number one things that I see

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coaches really struggling with and wasting time

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on is feeling this sense of conflict. Yeah. What are

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your thoughts on this, Heidi? Either personally or what you. Yeah. Well,

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I'm just, you're bringing me back to an experience that I had when

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I, when I first started being a coach. And, you know, I

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mentioned I have five kids and four of them are married.

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So I have four daughters-in-law and two granddaughters, and I have

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a full life, and I love my life. And when I first started

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coaching, I think it was you, Molly, I think we were having a conversation, and

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I was feeling that pull. I was feeling like the more that I did the

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coaching, the more that it was taking away from this big, beautiful life that I'd

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work all these years to create. And

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you said such an impactful thing to me, and it was, "Heidi, what if this

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coaching could add to your life? In what ways could this

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coaching add to this big, beautiful life?" And that

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was such a brain switch for me that I started

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looking at the ways that this creating this business

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and doing this thing that I had felt so called to do was going

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to add and contribute to my life instead of taking

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away from my life. And that made all the difference for me.And

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so then my brain was collecting all of this evidence that this was

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adding to my life, this was benefiting my family, that this was helping

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in so many ways, that then it became fun. Then I had the energy to

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do the things that were required to build a business. And so

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that was just a really great switch for me

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that helped me take it out of that competition

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and really think, "Okay, how can I create this so

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that this business is adding to my life, my ideal

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life, that I want to create?" That is so important to me. So I love

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that mind, that mindset switch. It was really very

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helpful for me. Yeah. And I think one of the

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things, Heidi, and I think you've experienced this, too, is that

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sometimes we can have this idea when we hear ideal life and

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business and making space for these different aspects of our

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lives. It's so easy for us to go to this place of

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thinking. We're trying to figure out how to do it all and have it

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all, and immediately it can start feeling like, okay.

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Like. Like we're gearing up to, like, spread ourselves in and hold it all

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together. And that's not it at all. It's more like,

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okay, what are the things that actually matter to me?

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Let's just let go of all the rest. And now if I have these

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things that I know that matter to me, how do they fit together in

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such a beautiful way that they're actually creating the

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experience of my life that I want? The space and

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time that I want, the ability to

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build the relationships that I want to enjoy my life.

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How are the things I'm doing in my business actually aligned with

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how I'm wanting to spend my time in my business? Right. Because that's another aspect

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of this.It's kind of like the business supports the life and

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the business in and of itself, especially for those of you who are

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coaches and are passionate about this. There are

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parts of your business and things you offer that you're just meant

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to do, and they're so fulfilling. And I'll just mention this briefly, I feel like

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we should do a whole episode on this. But within your business, you know, if

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you're spending time doing mostly things you don't really like, and

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it's not leaving time for the things that light you up, you've got to

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reevaluate, because, yes, there are things that you're going to do that aren't going to

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be your favorite. And I think the goal should be moving more and

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more toward doing more of what you love in your business

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and that business, supporting that ideal life. I mean, it's just, it's

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all these little shifts, right, in our mind that add up to something really big.

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Yeah. And when you were doing those things that we love in our business and

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making those things the priority, we actually work more

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on our business. We build a better business because we're not trying to

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avoid going into that office. We're not trying to avoid doing those

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things because we enjoy that and we are prioritizing those

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things that we. I love to coach. Just love to coach. So I'm,

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that's always forefront in my mind. And the other stuff I hope to get

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done, and usually I do. But if I really focus on

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talking to the people and helping the people, I'm excited

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every morning to come into this office and do my thing. That's fun

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and that's enhancing my life. And the things that, that I'm doing and the things

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that I'm learning are building my family relationships stronger.

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They are enhancing my family, which is my first priority in

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a beautiful way. So they really do go hand in hand, and I no longer

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separate them in my mind. It's just all part of this wonderful life.

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Sometimes it's a hot mess, but it's all part of this wonderful life,

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right? That's right. Yes. Yes. Ideal life

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and business. This cooperative approach in these areas of your

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life, it really matters. And it matters in terms of staying the

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course in your business, because if you are always stressed out, spread

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thin, you know, feeling guilty, feeling this sense of

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competition and conflict, it will slow you down.

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So there's that. So when Heidi was talking about loving to coach, I

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know so many of you love to coach and teach,

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and that really is one of, to me, one of my

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biggest selling points of Master Coach Training as well, right.

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Is it's like, like, believe it or not, yes, of course there

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are, there are business things to learn and there's marketing to learn. That's why we

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have marketing and business within Master Coach Training. Right. It's there. And

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I really also want to say that when you, when you

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learn to lean into leading with service, you

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can coach and teach more. The things you love to do are actually a

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part of your marketing and your messaging. And that's really what I,

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what I help my clients do is say, listen, what do you love to do?

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How do we make the things that you're great at be the very way that

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you market? It's possible, and I think it's essential if you really want to

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enjoy your business, too. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely.

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Okay. Okay. Let's talk about the last

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key to really succeeding in your business,

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staying the course and being in it long term. And

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that is identifying what is

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that new identity you are claiming wherever you are in your

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business right now, thinking about where you ultimately want to be

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as a coach, how many people you want to serve, how much money you want

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to make, what you want that to look like. And really, as you

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create that clear identity. It's got to be something

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that you commit to making happen

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you know, and what I say, like, in Master Coach Training, as we

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talk about the fundamentals of lasting change, right, the cognitive,

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the emotional, understanding the nervous system and effective action

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strategies. It's like, okay, from where you are now to

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claiming this new identity of the CEO, this coach, this

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person, you ultimately want to be in your business and in your life, right.

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You're going to need to work through all of those hurdles, right, in those different

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areas. And by the way, this is why you need a coach,

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right? Like, we are coaches, because we believe in coaches. You need help to do

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that. And it's not so much that you have to know how to do

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each step of the way, and there's not, like, a secret way to get to

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that end point, but you've got to decide it and commit to it, for

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sure. Yeah, no, I agree. I

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think that the one thing that I keep

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having to come back to is that is that self confidence.

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And sometimes we need a little reminder. We need that mentor to have the confidence

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in us until we can reconnect with that, with that confidence. Because

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there's so many things in building this business that, personally, I've never done

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before. First of all, the skill of becoming a coach and learning the

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techniques, and this is not like going on a walk with your friend. There's a

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lot to coaching, and that's why we love it.

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And then there's the tech. There's connecting with people. There's, who do

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I serve? How do I serve them? What platforms? There's so much

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noise that really coming back, in my experience,

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to that self confidence and that, hey, look, I can do this.

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I can do this, and I love who I serve, and this is how

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I want to serve them. And because I just have that self

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confidence. But sometimes I do have to lean on. Right.

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I lean on Molly often. I

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appreciate her confidence in me because that helps

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me remember that, "Oh, oh, yes, I can do this. Oh, yes. Oh,

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the platform. Oh, the tech. Okay. I'll figure it out. That's not a problem." But

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really, I've had to work and strengthen that self confidence. Which,

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I'm a pretty confident person in all of the areas of my life, for the

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most part, but building a business that's from scratch, that's

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never existed before, it is so, it's

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so helpful to let go of the noise. Find your people

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that will lend you that confidence while you're building it and strengthening

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it as you go, has been invaluable for me.

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Yes. And as Heidi was talking, you know, I was thinking, Heidi,

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about how this is why when, I mean, one of the

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fundamental things I'm working with my clients on constantly,

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every single day, and I kind of joke with them just yesterday, I'm like, I'm

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always indoctrinating you with this idea, right, of

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building that self trust, because I do think that

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it's everything. And one of the things that came to my mind as Heidi was

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talking is that I think, as coaches, sometimes we

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can get this idea that we should be

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this force of independence,

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standing alone, always believing, you

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know, always just being able to do it all and create all our own

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feelings and da da da da da, right? It's this. Yes. But in

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truth, we need people. We are human beings

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designed to connect with other people. And

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besides, it's way more fun that way, right? Much more. And so

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it's kind of like when I think about every time I

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have an identity shift that I'm creating, like right now, I have

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this new shift that I'm creating, right, as we all do time and again

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in our business, right? And with my new goals, I have this new identity, this

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new place that I'm going. And what I know is, and what I want to

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tell all of you is I'm not always going to feel

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confident about it every moment. I'm not always going to

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be. And I'm doing, like, air quotes, right? Like, in belief. I'm

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not always going to feel that way. And it doesn't matter, because what

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I have done is I have decided that one day I

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will be there. One day I will feel it, I will believe it, I will

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have it. And that's what I want to offer to all of you, is

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just claim that one day you'll be there, and then all along the

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way, you know that you're going to feel doubt, you're going to feel insecure, you're

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going to have all this stuff, right? And this is where you do rely

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on your mentors, your coach, your teacher,

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and you are willing to overcome whatever

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mindset or emotion work, emotion

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roadblocks or actions that you need to change. It's really so much more

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about commitment than being in belief or feeling it all the time, right?

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And that self trust that you will figure it out. You will figure it

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out. It keeps you moving forward when you know that the end

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is, is that belief, and you know that you will get to that. It just,

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It keeps you moving forward. It keeps you doing the next thing. And,

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wow, that building of confidence as you go, as you do the next thing is

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so fulfilling. So really, it really is. And as

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we're doing it right, we can we then become more equipped to help our

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clients do it. And whatever they're trying to achieve, we're really doing a,

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just a different version of the work we're doing with our clients. All right?

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Everyone is. And isn't that the way that we connect? Yes. Connect in that

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way. And it's so much like, think about motherhood. It's so much like that.

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My daughter in law is potty training her two year old here. And there's

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so many ways to do it right. There's all this noise out there. Do it

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this way, do it that way. Oh, this is the proven way. And do it

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this way and do it that way. And that's, that's so confusing. But you, if

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you have someone that you trust, it's like, hey, listen, you'll do it

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fine. You're going to figure it out. I'm not going to tell you the exact

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way to do it because you and your daughter are unique,

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and you'll figure it out. Here are some ideas. And, like, this is going to

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be a good time. You'll figure it out and be a good time.

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Said no mom ever. And no mom ever. But there's

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so much noise. Yes, there's so much noise. And if we listen

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to all the noise, if we do all of the things, this is

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one thing that I really work a lot with my clients on is listen,

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there's a lot of parenting books out there, and they all are great, and

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they all have something, some little nugget in them. And there's

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your mom and your sister and everybody giving you parenting advice, and it's

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beautiful. And when those things fall flat,

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oftentimes we think that we are the problem. We'll never figure it out. We are

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the problem. What I work so hard with them on is,

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really, close your eyes. What works for

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you? What do you feel is the right thing here? And you can

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take the nuggets from all of the places, but really, when it's all said and

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done, you're the mom. And I just know you can figure it out. And let's

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figure out how to build that confidence so that you can move forward

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and do the things in a more confident,

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specific, intentional way. And it's the same thing with building a business. There's a

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lot of noise. There's so much noise. And if we listen

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to all of it and then it falls flat, we get discouraged and think we're

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the problem and we give up. That's just not the case.

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Yep. I'm so glad you brought that up because, I

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mean, it really is true. And I know all of you listening relate to that,

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to having all of the noise. And one thing, this was

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perhaps one of the best things that I experienced this week. So as I've

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been doing some video calls with my master coach

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students, like, individually, and it's like they're sharing with me what they

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like and how they feel about it, you know? And we're just kind of capturing

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some of their testimonials and some of what they love about

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it. And what I kept hearing from people is,

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I don't feel stressed out. I don't feel like I'm

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behind. I feel relaxed. I feel

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like I know what I'm doing. It's this sense of

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almost this space of a little bit of peace and

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quiet and the opportunity to make

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choices that are in alignment and feel that trust. And

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it was beautiful to see how powerful that has been. And

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so, yes, we do all the other skills, right? And we're teaching and we're learning

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all these things. But to me, to hear not from one,

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but from one after the other after the other, that they're

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feeling more at ease and relaxed and confident was like,

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that's the win. That's the win right there. And they're leading the way for their

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clients to feel the same way in whatever area of their life they.

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Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. What a gift. Okay. Okay,

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listen, coaches, we're going to wrap up. These are the highlights. And then I do

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want Heidi to tell you all as well where you can find her because you

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probably all want to hire her after hearing I need to go hire

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Heidi. Okay, so key points from this episode. Number

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one, lead your business with service. It will

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always, always be in your business's best

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interest. Number two is be clear on your ideal life

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in business. And by the way, if you go to

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myperfectbiz.com, you will be able to get a free training from

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me. This is actually the starting point that I do with every single one of

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my clients in every program that we ever do. It is the pre-workout.

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So myperfectbiz.com, you can get that. Get clear on your

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ideal life and business. Point 3 from this episode

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is really be clear on what that new identity is and

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commit to making it happen. I really

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do believe that if you do these three things and do them over and

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over again as you build your business, it is

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everything. And before I turn it

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over to Heidi to tell you where you can find her. Here are the other

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important things to remember. Go to Cancun.

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Definitely take your swimsuit, your

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swimsuit. Go to cancun. Take your

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swimsuit. Take someone awesome with you, like Heidi, like I did,

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so you can have a lot of fun. And the other thing

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is, Master Coach Training is open for enrollment, and it is

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the place to be if you've been excited, if you've been curious, do not

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hesitate. Definitely submit your application and set up a

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call and just have the best time building

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your business. I mean, how lucky are we that every day we get

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to work with people who are interested in growing and expanding

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their lives? It is the best place to be, and I just, I

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feel grateful every single day. Yeah, it's a privilege. This is a

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privilege for us to get to do this, and it really is. It

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really is. Okay, Heidi, thank you so much for the conversation.

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How can people find you? Well, okay, first of

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all, thank you for having me. And I I have

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been your client for a while, a long while, and

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now have a little glimpse into the backside of your business. And, Molly, you are

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just as genuine and unique

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and amazing as I thought the first day I met you.

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So thank you. Aww. Thanks for having me on. But thank you for what you

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do. You do really provide a space that calms people and

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helps people move forward and become the coaches they desire to

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be in a way that enhances their life. So, thank you, and thank

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you for having me on. And let's go to Cancun again, very soon. Let's go

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to Cancun. Can you all feel the love? We're having this little love fest

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party. Thank you so much. It's an honor. Honor to do.

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You're so sweet. So, thanks for having me. I am so

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easy to find. I'm on instagram, all the social

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platforms. Heidiallsopcoaching. Two L's a L

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L sop. Heidi allsopp coaching. I have a

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website. Heidi Allsopp coaching. I just. I'm

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everywhere. And come and find me. If you have a son, come talk

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to me. Oh, my gosh. It's not for. It's like. It's like you're wading

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through the jungle. I get it. Oh, my gosh. Right? And then it's like middle

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school is coming, and you're like, oh, my gosh. What's going to happen with girls?

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What's going to happen with video games? What's going to happen with social

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media? Oh, my gosh. And. And.

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And social skills. Like, what's happening to our souls. Oh, my

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gosh. We need a whole episode on that. Don't even get me started.

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Right. Good. Yeah. Okay. Thank you. Thank

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you for having me. Come and find me. If if you want to know more

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about moms and boys in middle school and all the way to

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manhood, like, I've got you. Yes. I love it. Middle school

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to manhood. I love it. Love it. All right, coaches, thank

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you so, so much for being here, and I'll talk with you next week.

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Thanks, Molly. Thanks for listening to the

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masterful coach podcast. Are you ready to build your

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