Is it just me, or is everybody sitting here going, "I'm gonna go have
Speaker:a bread bowl with a side of pasta"?
Speaker:Oh my goodness, I'm excited about what God is going to do. And
Speaker:I also had a moment— guys, listen, I have a little bit of a sarcastic
Speaker:thing that happens sometimes, and I know you've never noticed,
Speaker:and— but I'm thinking, You know what? All the introverts in the room just
Speaker:went, "He didn't say it had to be 40 different names."
Speaker:So I'm gonna be calling a lot.
Speaker:Like I said, he'll be back and I'll be in trouble. It'll be fine. Anyway,
Speaker:we're gonna talk about love this morning, which seems very
Speaker:appropriate on Valentine's weekend, you know? I love the way
Speaker:the Lord works that out. And we are going to— for some
Speaker:of you who who come on Thursday nights, are able to be in here on
Speaker:Thursday nights, we will call this an encore
Speaker:because Pastor Kevin, a few weeks ago, asked me if I would share
Speaker:this, this morning. Now, we do have some handouts if you
Speaker:feel like you want to take notes, and if you didn't get one coming in,
Speaker:you'll let us know. If you'll just raise your hand, we'll bring one to you.
Speaker:If you don't want to write things down, I would encourage you,
Speaker:if there's something in the path And there's gonna be
Speaker:a couple for, a couple of things I'm gonna ask everybody to take out your
Speaker:phone. I know it's a crazy thing to ask in the middle of a service,
Speaker:but there's gonna be a point in time, if you have a phone, then I'm
Speaker:gonna say, would you take a picture of the screen? Because I want it to
Speaker:be your screensaver for a week or two, if at all possible. So
Speaker:we're just gonna see what the Lord does with that. But if you need a
Speaker:handout, would you raise your hand for just a second? And we will
Speaker:have them run them down to you.
Speaker:God is so good. He is so
Speaker:faithful all the time. He is so faithful, and
Speaker:we are going to get into his Word. We are going to do what Pastor
Speaker:Kevin just asked us to do. We are going to get into the Word and
Speaker:abide. I'll never forget, for a lot of
Speaker:years here, Ash Wednesday, we would have
Speaker:we had a priest that would come and they would do the application of
Speaker:the ashes to enter into the Lenten season. And I
Speaker:just remember it was a very solemn
Speaker:occurrence. It was a very solemn assembly. But I just remember
Speaker:it really marked that season heading into
Speaker:what the Lord would have for us in this time. Okay, we got everybody?
Speaker:Okay, we are gonna jump into the Word in just a second. We are going
Speaker:to be reading from Matthew 22. If you have your
Speaker:Bibles, I encourage you, pull out your Bible.
Speaker:Don't take it for granted that I'm going to be telling you the truth.
Speaker:However, I am. I'm gonna do my best to. But you know what?
Speaker:Get in the Word for yourself and see it. And we're gonna begin with
Speaker:Matthew 22.
Speaker:And we're gonna talk about, "As I have loved you."
Speaker:As I have loved you. In
Speaker:Matthew 22, let me set it up for you just a second. We see
Speaker:the Pharisees and the Sadducees, it's like, you know, the Republicans and the
Speaker:Democrats, and they're trying to prove— it's the political parties
Speaker:and social hierarchy. One is richer than the other. One
Speaker:is supposed to be grassroots. Anyway, they're trying to trip Jesus
Speaker:up. And so they're having this conversation with Jesus and they're
Speaker:asking him questions. And they throw out the question of,
Speaker:well, you know, this man is married to this woman, and then this woman— the
Speaker:man dies, and then the woman marries her brother, and
Speaker:then the brother dies. And then they're throwing out all of this stuff about,
Speaker:well, whose wife is she gonna be
Speaker:when they reach eternity? And I love that Jesus
Speaker:doesn't buy into their stuff, doesn't buy into it.
Speaker:He basically tells them, One thing
Speaker:he says, the very first thing on your paper,
Speaker:"You are in error because you do not know the scriptures
Speaker:or the power of God." In other words,
Speaker:he's looking at these power brokers in the room, and they're
Speaker:asking these questions trying to make him seem like he doesn't—
Speaker:isn't who he says he is. And he basically says, "You have no
Speaker:idea what you're talking about." Because you don't know the Scriptures.
Speaker:And so, they couldn't trip him up, and then the other
Speaker:sect comes in and tries to trip him up, and they do this.
Speaker:And if you would stand, we're gonna read one passage, just a very short
Speaker:Scripture. And let's read
Speaker:it so that Pastor Kevin hears this, okay? He's in East Tennessee, so I'm just
Speaker:gonna have to really do a good job. All right, ready?
Speaker:"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the
Speaker:law?" Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord your
Speaker:God with all of your heart and with all of your soul and
Speaker:with all of your mind. This is the first and greatest
Speaker:commandment. And the second is like it:
Speaker:Love your neighbor as yourself. All the law
Speaker:and the prophets hang on these two commandments.'
Speaker:Father God, I thank you that you draw bottom lines for us.
Speaker:I thank you, Father God, that you give us clarity through your Word,
Speaker:Father, a starting point. And Father, this morning, I'm asking, Lord,
Speaker:that you would awaken our hearts to be taught of you, Lord. That's the prayer
Speaker:that David prayed, and that's the prayer that we pray, Lord, that we would be
Speaker:taught this morning. And Lord, I just ask that your Holy Spirit would
Speaker:deliver the Word, not me, Father God. I thank you. Let my stuff fall
Speaker:and you stand, in Jesus' name, amen.
Speaker:Amen. And the very first thing on your list is exactly what I just shared
Speaker:with you. When he spoke to them, "You are in error because you
Speaker:do not know the Scriptures or the power of God." And see,
Speaker:a lot of times, guys, we make mistakes or we head
Speaker:down pathways that aren't consistent with what the Lord would have because
Speaker:we don't know what the Lord really wants in that moment,
Speaker:right? Have you ever walked into a mall and seen
Speaker:a sign that says, "You are here"? And so you can kind of acclimate
Speaker:yourself to, okay, this is what This is where I am right now, and so
Speaker:I need to go this way, or I need to go this way to get
Speaker:where I'm going. Well, the Word does that for us. The
Speaker:Word tells us, this is where you are. This is your starting
Speaker:point. This is the baseline that I want to
Speaker:begin with you. And I believe that that is something that the
Speaker:Lord wants to do with today's message.
Speaker:Sometimes the most clarifying things we can do is to
Speaker:scripturally define the bottom line so that this can become
Speaker:our let's start here. Here, okay? Let's start
Speaker:here. We're not starting with doctrine. We're not starting with
Speaker:opinions. We're not starting with, you know, which religion is right,
Speaker:which person is right, which is— and what. We are starting with
Speaker:a bottom line. Why am I calling it that? Because Jesus
Speaker:was the teacher. He was
Speaker:the teacher. There were— you know,
Speaker:Scripture says, "Never a man spake like this man."
Speaker:Nobody talked like him. Nobody taught like him. So
Speaker:if we are going to listen to the words of someone who
Speaker:is the ultimate teacher, wouldn't you think if they
Speaker:said, "This is the most important thing," that we
Speaker:would want to know what the most important thing is?
Speaker:Well, that's where he's getting ready to take us. So this is where we're
Speaker:gonna start today. We are going to start Everybody,
Speaker:just in your mind right now, just erase that whole chalkboard that's going
Speaker:on in your mind of all the dos and the don'ts and the rules and
Speaker:the regulations and what it looks like to serve God and being
Speaker:a good Christian and all this. And we're going to erase all of that right
Speaker:now. And we're just going to go, we're going to start right here.
Speaker:We're going to start right here with when the— he says, which is
Speaker:the greatest command? He says, love the Lord your God with all
Speaker:of your heart, with all of your soul, with all your mind, with all of
Speaker:your strength. And the second is like it, love one another
Speaker:as you love yourself. Now,
Speaker:that's a high standard, right up to the point that you don't
Speaker:love yourself, right up to the point that you really
Speaker:aren't respecting who you are and don't really have such a high
Speaker:opinion of yourself. And then sometimes you just treat everybody else like
Speaker:that. And God is going, you know, I just, I want
Speaker:you to understand that there's a different way.
Speaker:When it comes to loving God and loving our neighbors, it is love for our
Speaker:neighbor that tends to suffer the greatest. You know, it's so easy to go,
Speaker:God is so good! God is so faithful! I love
Speaker:him so much! I love him so much!
Speaker:And that neighbor thing comes in there.
Speaker:You know, there's something that's kind of heartbreaking for me
Speaker:that has become a little bit trite and trivial
Speaker:in the church. You know, you hear things like,
Speaker:"Man, I so love God, it's his people I have a problem with."
Speaker:Or, "That church would be great if it just wasn't for the people."
Speaker:And, you know, we laugh it off, and we, you know, push
Speaker:it aside, and we make our jokes. And I believe that there's something
Speaker:in it that, that that God and the Holy Spirit are
Speaker:grieved by. Because see, I can look at
Speaker:Justin and Jessica, and I can go, "I love you guys,
Speaker:and I mean it. I mean that I love you."
Speaker:And then you follow it up with, "Oh, but that Lily and Noah."
Speaker:You know? Seriously. And you're going,
Speaker:"Wait a minute. Lily and Noah are their
Speaker:heart." And so, how can I tell them
Speaker:that I love them and totally disregard
Speaker:or have a disdain for the thing that has totally
Speaker:captivated their hearts? God
Speaker:checks our love language to see whether it's true and
Speaker:authentic. And see, that same love that captivates them with all
Speaker:of their babies now— all— let me say that again, all
Speaker:of their babies now, That
Speaker:is the love that God has for you. So
Speaker:much greater. And not just you, but the person
Speaker:who's sitting next to you. He feels that way about
Speaker:them. He feels that way about the person that made you
Speaker:the maddest this week. He feels that way
Speaker:about the person who cut you off in traffic this week.
Speaker:I'm not even going to tell you. Somebody was so ugly to me this—
Speaker:it doesn't matter. Okay, I'll
Speaker:tell you. They were so ugly to me, and I had a heart
Speaker:check. They were coming down the wrong lane, and they did
Speaker:things I should— I'm not even gonna tell you about. And— but they were
Speaker:upset with me, and old Barbie, last Tuesday,
Speaker:would have— old Barbie would have
Speaker:gotten upset. But you know what my response was? God, it's okay,
Speaker:don't hurt them. Don't hurt them, Lord. I know
Speaker:you're upset for me in this moment,
Speaker:but Lord, I'm gonna let it go. So Lord, you go ahead and let it
Speaker:go, okay? That
Speaker:$150 speeding fine that they're gonna get down there is
Speaker:not our fault, Lord. Anyway,
Speaker:God checks those places in us because he loves
Speaker:his people. And so he's not gonna let us get by with not loving
Speaker:his people. His people are not a footnote
Speaker:in the journey. They're not a footnote in the story.
Speaker:So when it comes to loving God, we need to be able to—
Speaker:"If anyone boasts, 'I love God,' and goes right on hating his brother
Speaker:or sister, thinking nothing of it," what does that say?
Speaker:He's using a word I wasn't allowed to use in my house.
Speaker:He is a liar. If he won't love the person he can
Speaker:see, how can he love the God he can't see?
Speaker:The command we have from Christ is blunt. Loving
Speaker:God includes loving people. You have got to do
Speaker:both. What? It's not an option? We don't get to pick and
Speaker:choose. Well, I like them, but them I'm not so
Speaker:sure about. It's not an option. It doesn't say, you know, if
Speaker:you feel like it, because most of us don't need to be doing the things
Speaker:we feel like doing.
Speaker:I'm just— I'm just putting that out there. Anyway,
Speaker:then he goes and does this. You know, we were
Speaker:doing pretty good. We could do okay when we could love somebody as we
Speaker:love ourselves, you know, 'cause we're pretty limited in that. But then he goes and
Speaker:does this. He says, "A new command I give you:
Speaker:Love one another as I have loved
Speaker:you." Can you say that with me? "As I have
Speaker:loved you." What? '"So must you love one another.
Speaker:By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love
Speaker:one another.'"
Speaker:Okay, Jesus raised the bar from "love your neighbor
Speaker:as yourself" to "as I have loved you." And in doing
Speaker:this, our blueprint became his love rather than
Speaker:our own. Wow!
Speaker:His blueprint. Became—
Speaker:his love became our blueprint. That's
Speaker:a higher standard. It's a deeper call.
Speaker:There's more to it than that. And when I look at that, I'm like, okay,
Speaker:how do we do that, Lord? Because, you know, your love— I mean,
Speaker:you know what? The disciples probably could have told you what Jesus loved to like,
Speaker:what he, you know, what he enjoyed. And, you know, I'm sure John
Speaker:could have told you all about his love and how much Jesus loved him more
Speaker:than everybody else. But John would have known about the love
Speaker:of Jesus. He experienced it on a daily basis.
Speaker:Peter experienced it in a completely different way. But if
Speaker:you put their voices together, these are the people who walked with him daily,
Speaker:in and out, good days, bad days, horrible days,
Speaker:blessed days. They could have told you about the love of Jesus, right?
Speaker:I can look at people in my life and I can tell you, I can
Speaker:tell you that my husband's love, the way that he loves is
Speaker:faithful, and he is a protector, and he is
Speaker:witty, and he is gentle-spirited. And
Speaker:I can tell you what he is like. He is as faithful in
Speaker:his love as the day is long.
Speaker:But that's because I have walked with him for almost
Speaker:43 years, and he has been consistent,
Speaker:consistent in it. Now, if I try to tell you about the
Speaker:love of Jesus, I can tell you what it looked like in my life and
Speaker:what that redemptive price that was paid and who he is He has
Speaker:been in my life. But according to scripture, you know, it would
Speaker:be really dismissive of us to go,
Speaker:"Well, yeah, but Jesus died for everybody, and so his love
Speaker:was that sacrificial love that just died," you know, "and did that." And it seems
Speaker:so far beyond our ability to do anything like
Speaker:Jesus did. And yet we wear these shirts like,
Speaker:"Love like Jesus."
Speaker:And we don't even know what that means, nor
Speaker:do we move toward trying to do that.
Speaker:So, I'm looking at this, and I'm going, "Okay. Okay, God, then I don't really
Speaker:know how to love like Jesus. I don't really know. If you said,
Speaker:'As I have loved you, so you must love one another.'"
Speaker:I believe that the Word will give us instruction on everything that he
Speaker:asks us to do. And I don't think he ever asks us to do anything
Speaker:that's impossible, right? So, I believe he gave us a
Speaker:plan and an idea. Scripture tells us, All
Speaker:Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching,
Speaker:rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the
Speaker:servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good
Speaker:work. Would you say that learning to love your neighbor as yourself
Speaker:would be a good work? Would you say that learning to love
Speaker:like Jesus, that, that He could teach us how to do that,
Speaker:that He could correct us when we're not getting it right, and that He could
Speaker:train us so that we can love like Jesus? I believe
Speaker:He can. Well, if all Scripture is God-breathed,
Speaker:then it would be a natural progression for me to go, "Okay, Lord, where
Speaker:in Scripture do you talk to us about how to love?" Because
Speaker:if you are going to teach me how to love, and I'm not talking
Speaker:about Cupid love, I'm not talking about box of chocolates
Speaker:love, though those are nice. I'm not talking about
Speaker:Valentine love. I'm not talking about that, and neither
Speaker:is he. Neither is he. So, we're gonna see,
Speaker:I believe that when Jesus— when the Holy Spirit
Speaker:breathed 1 Corinthians 13, I believe he was
Speaker:breathing a teaching to tell us this is how
Speaker:Jesus loves. And this is the instruction that I'm gonna
Speaker:leave for you in my last will and testament. I'm going to
Speaker:leave this instruction for you so that when you read somewhere
Speaker:down the road in 2026 that I'm asking you to
Speaker:love like I love, I wanna show you what that looks like. And so, that's
Speaker:what we're gonna do this morning. All Scripture
Speaker:is God-breathed. I also believe this. I grew
Speaker:up out in the country. I know it shocks you with this accent,
Speaker:you know. You're thinking London, Britain, whatever, but
Speaker:I grew up out in the country, and I had a cousin, and
Speaker:he was a snake handler before snake handling was, you know,
Speaker:exciting. And he was— he knew exactly
Speaker:what he was gonna grab hold of. And I remember one
Speaker:particular day— now, his mama wasn't very fast,
Speaker:but she was that day. Anyway,
Speaker:his mama wasn't very fast, and I just remember him coming in
Speaker:the room, and he had this snake by the head,
Speaker:and his mama's backing out of the room, and he's going, "Momma,
Speaker:it ain't poison. And look at here at its head,
Speaker:it's diamond-shaped. It ain't poison. And it's skinny, it's
Speaker:skinny. It ain't this." Because see, he knew that his mother's
Speaker:peace relied on what it wasn't rather than what it was.
Speaker:And so, he was going really quickly to describe everything
Speaker:that it wasn't. And that makes total sense when you begin to look
Speaker:at 1 Corinthians 13. Because what we
Speaker:find in this passage of Scripture is that the Lord gives us
Speaker:2 descriptors of what
Speaker:it is and 8 of what it isn't. You
Speaker:know what that tells me? It tells me that the Holy Spirit
Speaker:knew that we would have a problem trying to call something
Speaker:love that wasn't. And so, sometimes
Speaker:we're better served by knowing what something isn't rather than what it
Speaker:is. Because those are clarifiers, guys. If I can
Speaker:give you some things from the Word that go, "This is what it
Speaker:is, and this is what it isn't," you might just be able
Speaker:to grab hold of it and go, "Oh, okay. Okay,
Speaker:Lord." And that becomes your starting point.
Speaker:Because guys, some of the things that we call love, it
Speaker:ain't. It ain't love. It's got other words
Speaker:for it, but it ain't love. And I hope, and my prayer would be,
Speaker:that we would begin to define some of this. According to the
Speaker:Scripture, true love has two
Speaker:initial authenticators. If you want
Speaker:to know if it's love, the two things that it will be
Speaker:is it will be patient, and it will be kind.
Speaker:Love is patient, and it is kind. And if
Speaker:you are in a relationship, or you're seeking a relationship, or you're looking
Speaker:for that person, and boy, they're pretty, or boy, they're
Speaker:handsome, are they patient? And are they
Speaker:kind? Because that's gonna matter in
Speaker:your life. That is gonna matter in your life.
Speaker:Looks fade. Popularity wanes. Kindness,
Speaker:patience, that's what you want.
Speaker:Kindness, and patience. Let me
Speaker:give you this first one. Patience is the
Speaker:level of endurance one exemplifies in difficult
Speaker:circumstances before moving into negativity.
Speaker:How patient are you? How patient
Speaker:are you? When things start to go south, do you jump in the deep end
Speaker:with them? Or do you try to point them toward the shallow end,
Speaker:a way out? Do you go negative? Patience.
Speaker:You know what? Patience destroys
Speaker:the— I'm sorry, impatience
Speaker:will destroy kindness. It will just destroy it.
Speaker:Patience, the level of endurance.
Speaker:When people talk about you, or your name gets brought
Speaker:up, do they say that about you?
Speaker:Do they like, "Oh man, they are just so
Speaker:positive. They are so positive. They live in this land
Speaker:of positivity." It's a
Speaker:marker of His love. And then there's this,
Speaker:kindness, marked by good and charitable behavior,
Speaker:having a pleasant disposition, and showing genuine
Speaker:concern for others. Is that you?
Speaker:When people talk about you, do they say, "They have the most
Speaker:pleasant disposition"? Or
Speaker:when you start down the hallway at church, do you see people starting to pretend
Speaker:they're on their phones? Because that could be an indicator.
Speaker:When all of a sudden they have a phone call and step into a side
Speaker:room until right after you pass.
Speaker:Do you have a pleasant countenance? Has God done enough in
Speaker:your life for you to be grateful and walk around like you're grateful?
Speaker:I mean, seriously, come on. We're not all
Speaker:born happy, you know? But the goodness of God and
Speaker:what he has done should provoke a smile from time to time.
Speaker:I mean, we should be the most peace-carrying people on
Speaker:the planet, and yet we look so miserable sometimes.
Speaker:Speaking of driving in cars, as we were talking about earlier,
Speaker:Have you ever looked at people's faces as they drive past you?
Speaker:Oh my goodness, did they have a bad day?
Speaker:Or a bad year? We don't know. But it's like,
Speaker:when the Lord started pointing that out to me, I have the fakest
Speaker:smile when I drive because I'm like, "What if somebody passes?"
Speaker:But I'm honest about it. Anyway,
Speaker:patience and kindness. Guys, those are the only
Speaker:two things he says that love is.
Speaker:Love is patient. It is kind.
Speaker:That's what you want. That's what you want to be, and that's who
Speaker:you want to be involved with, right? Now, let's talk about the
Speaker:nots. Let's talk about what it isn't. Because
Speaker:a lot of times, the enemy tries to tell you that what you are
Speaker:experiencing is love, and it's
Speaker:not. Patient kindness. And let me tell you what else it
Speaker:isn't. "Love is not envious or jealous,
Speaker:boastful or proud. It is not
Speaker:dishonoring or self-seeking. It is not easily angered or unforgiving."
Speaker:Now, let's break that down for just a second. Okay,
Speaker:envy. Everybody's like, "Oh, envious and jealous, they're the same things." No,
Speaker:they're not. Envy is rooted in
Speaker:fear.
Speaker:No, I'm switching those. Jealousy is rooted in fear. Jealousy is
Speaker:rooted in fear because you are afraid someone is going to
Speaker:take something that you have. And so, you are
Speaker:jealous and you're not at peace with it because
Speaker:you don't want anybody messing with what's yours. Well, it ain't yours.
Speaker:It ain't yours. Anything we have, God gave into our hands, and either He can
Speaker:keep it in our hands or He won't. And if He doesn't, we didn't need
Speaker:it in the first place. Jealousy,
Speaker:envious. Envious is to be rooted— it's rooted in
Speaker:lust. Envy is rooted in this place, "Well, why did they
Speaker:get that? They've got this, and I want that, and
Speaker:I deserve that, and I want that." And that is jealousy and
Speaker:envious. If you are in a relationship where the person you are with
Speaker:does not celebrate your victories and wants to hold you back and keep
Speaker:you from moving forward in the Lord, this is an area of
Speaker:prayer. Because we're not supposed to be jealous or
Speaker:envious with our mates. We're just not supposed
Speaker:to. Boastful or proud. Guys, listen here. If the person
Speaker:that you are trying to do life with wants to tell you how good they
Speaker:are all of the time, it's probably not a good, good reason to be with
Speaker:them. If somebody gives you their resume, You know,
Speaker:can I just tell you, there's no reason for
Speaker:one single person in this room, myself
Speaker:included, to boast.
Speaker:I don't have anything to brag about except the goodness of God,
Speaker:and that's on Him. He did that, not me. I don't need
Speaker:to tell you what I've done. And if somebody else— now, if somebody else
Speaker:wants to talk to people about how good you are, yay! Yay!
Speaker:God has done something with your reputation, and that needed to be done anyway.
Speaker:But if somebody else wants to do that, that's fine, that's good, but don't sing
Speaker:your own praises. And if you're with somebody who wants to tell you how
Speaker:lucky you are to be with them, don't be.
Speaker:Proud, proud.
Speaker:Do you receive correction? Are you
Speaker:able to go, "Yeah, I was probably wrong there. Yeah, I'm sorry about
Speaker:that." Love means never having to
Speaker:say you're sorry. Who made that
Speaker:up? I say it multiple times
Speaker:every single day, and it's necessary.
Speaker:Seriously, apologize. You know what? I
Speaker:don't need to be prideful. I missed it. I miss it all
Speaker:the time, and I'm so sorry.
Speaker:Be quick. That's called repentance.
Speaker:Turn and go the opposite direction. If you've got to say— tell
Speaker:the Lord you're sorry. Now listen, there is a sorrow that
Speaker:leads to death, according to Scripture, and it is a worldly sorrow.
Speaker:And you can be sorry all day long and never change a thing.
Speaker:But there is a godly sorrow According to Scripture, that
Speaker:leads to repentance, and that leads to life.
Speaker:Don't just be sorry, repent and don't do it again.
Speaker:Rowan and Nora were playing this past week, and I
Speaker:think Nora took something from Rowan, and they started
Speaker:bickering, and I said, "Okay guys, okay, all
Speaker:right, stop." They're 4 and they're 5, but I've heard 40 and 50-year-olds
Speaker:do it too, anyway. But I said, "Okay guys, stop.
Speaker:Now, let's fix this." And Nora says,
Speaker:"Okay, Rowan, I apologize."
Speaker:And he says, "Well, I forgive you.
Speaker:I forgive you, but we're not gonna do that again."
Speaker:And sometimes that's okay, right? You
Speaker:know, I forgive you, And he said, "But that wasn't okay."
Speaker:And sometimes, it's okay to let people, "You know what? That
Speaker:wasn't okay. I forgive you, but that wasn't okay."
Speaker:You know? Anyway, it's not
Speaker:dishonoring or self-seeking. It's not easily angered or unforgiving.
Speaker:Okay, this is the one, if you are willing, I would like you to
Speaker:get a
Speaker:Screenshot. If you've got your phones, would you pull them out? Because
Speaker:I feel like this is where we're supposed to live for just a little while.
Speaker:And if it's on your phone, I know people look at
Speaker:their phone at least once a day, you know, once a second
Speaker:anyway. This right here.
Speaker:Love will not bring dishonor.
Speaker:It will not cause you to feel shame or disgrace.
Speaker:It will not remove your honor, diminish your worth,
Speaker:affect your honesty, or compromise the integrity
Speaker:of your personal values.
Speaker:Love will not remove your honor,
Speaker:diminish your worth, Affect your
Speaker:honesty or compromise the integrity
Speaker:of your personal values. Lay
Speaker:that against the blueprint, guys. When the
Speaker:enemy comes and tries to tell you, "Oh, but it's love, but
Speaker:it's love, but it's love," is it that? Are you
Speaker:compromising? Is it affecting the way you're walking in the earth? Are you
Speaker:having to lie to your parents? Are you having to make up excuses?
Speaker:What is it? Love does not dishonor you.
Speaker:It just doesn't. Jesus' love,
Speaker:His love will not bring dishonor. So
Speaker:we, to love like Jesus loved, cannot put
Speaker:ourselves or anybody else in a situation where
Speaker:we're calling something love and it's bringing dishonor.
Speaker:Okay? Shouldn't affect
Speaker:your honesty. Shouldn't have to lie about it.
Speaker:Shouldn't have to hide it. Love is pure. Love is
Speaker:pure, and it's kind, and it is patient.
Speaker:Anything that isn't that, you need to really
Speaker:examine it. It
Speaker:isn't self-seeking, guys. Contrary to
Speaker:popular belief, love doesn't put itself
Speaker:first. You don't get everything
Speaker:your way. It's not all going to always work out
Speaker:to where you win.
Speaker:Love will take a back seat
Speaker:and allow other people to shine and prosper and grow in
Speaker:Him.
Speaker:It isn't easily angered. This takes us back
Speaker:to the very beginning, guys. One of the initial
Speaker:markers was that it was patient and it was kind.
Speaker:It isn't easily angered. Now listen, I get— I
Speaker:run into this from time to time, more often than I would like to,
Speaker:people who have issues with anger. People who just blow off
Speaker:steam at the people that they say they love the most. And they
Speaker:just, they're just easily angered in this a hair trigger and you can go off
Speaker:with anything. And what I hear the most is, "Well, I'm just like
Speaker:that," or, "Well, he did," or, "She did."
Speaker:Listen, you are not like that.
Speaker:God did not create you with a short fuse. The world
Speaker:did that to you. And if you are struggling, and if you are
Speaker:anger-driven, and you're causing everybody in your household to have to walk on
Speaker:eggshells, That is
Speaker:not a— that is not part of your personality. That is a lack of the
Speaker:fruit of the Spirit, the fruit of the Spirit of self-control. And
Speaker:if you will begin to pray, the Holy Spirit can bring about
Speaker:self-control in your life. Guys,
Speaker:as long as we make excuses, as long as we make
Speaker:excuses, the enemy will let us make excuses, and
Speaker:we will continue down with patterns and things in our life that God
Speaker:never intended for us. You know what? God created
Speaker:you whole, not broken. God created you with a
Speaker:propensity toward the eternal. He created you to
Speaker:love, and to be kind, and to display all
Speaker:of the attributes of the fruit of the Spirit. So when you find yourself
Speaker:deviating from those things that He says, then it's a
Speaker:spirit issue. It's not a flesh issue. We try
Speaker:to fight it with our flesh, and we can't. And that's
Speaker:why we say, "I'm just like that." No, your flesh is just like that.
Speaker:But if you will flip the triangle, and if you will allow your spirit
Speaker:to lead you, you'll find that you have more strength, more
Speaker:integrity, more honor, more patience, more peace
Speaker:than you ever dreamed imaginable.
Speaker:Because that's what God does, and that's what the Holy Spirit does when
Speaker:he takes control. Love is
Speaker:not easily angered and it isn't unforgiving.
Speaker:I'm going to ask the worship team to come out here in just a second,
Speaker:if they'd come on out. Can I tell you something?
Speaker:Love doesn't throw your past up in your face.
Speaker:Love doesn't get into arguments and remember what you did 3 years
Speaker:ago, and when you said this, or you did that. See, the love that I
Speaker:see from God says that He casts our sins as far as
Speaker:the east is from from the west into the sea of
Speaker:forgetfulness. His love erases that
Speaker:in our life, right? So, when you find
Speaker:yourself wanting to throw someone else's past up,
Speaker:understand that yours can be brought up too. And I
Speaker:sure don't want the Lord bringing mine up. I sure don't want
Speaker:to have to deal— I already dealt with my past once, or twice, or three,
Speaker:or four, or five, many times, all right? I don't want to have to go
Speaker:there again because he's not going there again. God
Speaker:has cleansed my heart. God
Speaker:has forgiven me. The Word tells me that if I
Speaker:confess my sins, he is faithful
Speaker:and just and will forgive me
Speaker:and, and cleanse me
Speaker:from all unrighteousness. You can't change
Speaker:what happened yesterday. You can't change how you
Speaker:behaved yesterday, but you can do a "let's start here."
Speaker:You can do a "let's start today." Let's start to
Speaker:redefine what relationships look like in my life. Let's
Speaker:begin to redefine what I'm putting out
Speaker:into the world. What kind of love am I portraying
Speaker:in this world?
Speaker:Now, if we know what it isn't,
Speaker:that means we know what it is, right? Because that
Speaker:would be the opposite, correct?
Speaker:I'm going to share this, and then we are going to stand and sing,
Speaker:and then I'm going to finish it because I want to
Speaker:show you If it isn't this, then
Speaker:it's this. And after I've read these to
Speaker:you, we're going to take just a moment and
Speaker:we're going to worship. We're going to just have a moment
Speaker:where we allow the Holy Spirit to take these things and
Speaker:to examine our heart. And then we'll come right back
Speaker:into this because this is what it says. If knowing what
Speaker:it isn't serves to clarify what it is, we can know this:
Speaker:if it isn't envious, it is content.
Speaker:It is content. I know that doesn't make sense to some of you, but
Speaker:when you're not satisfied, when you're not
Speaker:satisfied with what God has done, you
Speaker:lose that contentment. If love isn't envious, it's content. If it
Speaker:isn't boastful, it is modest.
Speaker:Has a right estimation of who they are in Christ. It's
Speaker:settled. If it isn't proud, it is what?
Speaker:And if it isn't dishonoring, it is
Speaker:honorable. Honorable. If it isn't self-seeking,
Speaker:it is selfless. If it isn't
Speaker:easily angered, it is— and if
Speaker:it isn't unforgiving, it is
Speaker:compassionate. How is that? How is that?
Speaker:Because see, if I can't forgive you, then I'm not having compassion for where
Speaker:you're standing. I'm not able to go, I,
Speaker:I'm, I have so been there. We have a high
Speaker:priest who is touched by the very feeling of our
Speaker:infirmities. And when you
Speaker:blow it, or I blow it, and they mess up, and everything
Speaker:in you wants to get angry, my prayer would be that compassion would
Speaker:rise and go, Lord, I've done that myself. Lord, except for the grace of
Speaker:God, there I would be. Lord, birth
Speaker:compassion as you are compassionate,
Speaker:as you are compassionate, as I have loved
Speaker:you. Guys, we're just going to dim the lights for a minute. I'm going
Speaker:to get you guys to just ponder this a moment. Go
Speaker:ahead, Jonathan.
Speaker:I believe the Lord is sharing this with us
Speaker:because there's a higher call in a world that
Speaker:doesn't know what love looks like, that doesn't understand
Speaker:this kind of compassion, this kind of calling. God is going,
Speaker:I need you to be that. I need you
Speaker:to be that. Love like I love.
Speaker:Jesus' love was content, modest, humble,
Speaker:honorable, selfless, patient,
Speaker:and compassionate. And in the end, guys,
Speaker:the stamp of love's authenticity is its willingness to surrender its own
Speaker:will, and in doing so, serve a
Speaker:greater good that we sometimes cannot see or understand.
Speaker:We're not always going to see the end result. We're not always
Speaker:going to see why the Lord has us apologize or
Speaker:move this way or act in compassion or lay down our
Speaker:rights or, or set things aside. We're not always going to know why,
Speaker:but we can know that he is faithful and he is good,
Speaker:and he sees the beginning from the end, and he
Speaker:knows the outcome. Guys, there's a
Speaker:better kind of love, a better kind of love.
Speaker:Greater love has no one than this, to lay down
Speaker:his life for his friends.
Speaker:As I have loved you,
Speaker:so must you love one another. He
Speaker:wouldn't have asked us to do it if it wasn't possible. He
Speaker:wouldn't have put that in front of them and it be unattainable.
Speaker:So this is what's on my heart this morning. If you will allow, if you
Speaker:would stand, I would like the honor of praying over you.
Speaker:And if you feel led, if you just raise your hand.
Speaker:Father God, I thank you so much for each of these, and I thank
Speaker:you, Lord, that you set the standard, not
Speaker:anybody else, Lord. You set the standard. And so,
Speaker:Father, I thank you, Lord, that you are calling us, entrusting us
Speaker:with a higher kind of love, a better kind of love, the only kind
Speaker:of love that you offer that's selfless and kind and
Speaker:compassionate and patient, Father God. And Lord, I
Speaker:pray even at this moment, Lord, that you would do something in our
Speaker:hearts, Lord, that we would move toward that kind of love.