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Is it just me, or is everybody sitting here going, "I'm gonna go have

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a bread bowl with a side of pasta"?

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Oh my goodness, I'm excited about what God is going to do. And

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I also had a moment— guys, listen, I have a little bit of a sarcastic

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thing that happens sometimes, and I know you've never noticed,

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and— but I'm thinking, You know what? All the introverts in the room just

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went, "He didn't say it had to be 40 different names."

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So I'm gonna be calling a lot.

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Like I said, he'll be back and I'll be in trouble. It'll be fine. Anyway,

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we're gonna talk about love this morning, which seems very

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appropriate on Valentine's weekend, you know? I love the way

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the Lord works that out. And we are going to— for some

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of you who who come on Thursday nights, are able to be in here on

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Thursday nights, we will call this an encore

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because Pastor Kevin, a few weeks ago, asked me if I would share

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this, this morning. Now, we do have some handouts if you

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feel like you want to take notes, and if you didn't get one coming in,

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you'll let us know. If you'll just raise your hand, we'll bring one to you.

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If you don't want to write things down, I would encourage you,

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if there's something in the path And there's gonna be

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a couple for, a couple of things I'm gonna ask everybody to take out your

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phone. I know it's a crazy thing to ask in the middle of a service,

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but there's gonna be a point in time, if you have a phone, then I'm

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gonna say, would you take a picture of the screen? Because I want it to

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be your screensaver for a week or two, if at all possible. So

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we're just gonna see what the Lord does with that. But if you need a

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handout, would you raise your hand for just a second? And we will

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have them run them down to you.

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God is so good. He is so

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faithful all the time. He is so faithful, and

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we are going to get into his Word. We are going to do what Pastor

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Kevin just asked us to do. We are going to get into the Word and

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abide. I'll never forget, for a lot of

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years here, Ash Wednesday, we would have

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we had a priest that would come and they would do the application of

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the ashes to enter into the Lenten season. And I

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just remember it was a very solemn

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occurrence. It was a very solemn assembly. But I just remember

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it really marked that season heading into

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what the Lord would have for us in this time. Okay, we got everybody?

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Okay, we are gonna jump into the Word in just a second. We are going

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to be reading from Matthew 22. If you have your

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Bibles, I encourage you, pull out your Bible.

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Don't take it for granted that I'm going to be telling you the truth.

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However, I am. I'm gonna do my best to. But you know what?

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Get in the Word for yourself and see it. And we're gonna begin with

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Matthew 22.

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And we're gonna talk about, "As I have loved you."

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As I have loved you. In

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Matthew 22, let me set it up for you just a second. We see

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the Pharisees and the Sadducees, it's like, you know, the Republicans and the

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Democrats, and they're trying to prove— it's the political parties

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and social hierarchy. One is richer than the other. One

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is supposed to be grassroots. Anyway, they're trying to trip Jesus

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up. And so they're having this conversation with Jesus and they're

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asking him questions. And they throw out the question of,

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well, you know, this man is married to this woman, and then this woman— the

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man dies, and then the woman marries her brother, and

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then the brother dies. And then they're throwing out all of this stuff about,

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well, whose wife is she gonna be

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when they reach eternity? And I love that Jesus

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doesn't buy into their stuff, doesn't buy into it.

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He basically tells them, One thing

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he says, the very first thing on your paper,

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"You are in error because you do not know the scriptures

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or the power of God." In other words,

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he's looking at these power brokers in the room, and they're

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asking these questions trying to make him seem like he doesn't—

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isn't who he says he is. And he basically says, "You have no

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idea what you're talking about." Because you don't know the Scriptures.

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And so, they couldn't trip him up, and then the other

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sect comes in and tries to trip him up, and they do this.

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And if you would stand, we're gonna read one passage, just a very short

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Scripture. And let's read

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it so that Pastor Kevin hears this, okay? He's in East Tennessee, so I'm just

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gonna have to really do a good job. All right, ready?

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"Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the

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law?" Jesus replied, 'Love the Lord your

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God with all of your heart and with all of your soul and

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with all of your mind. This is the first and greatest

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commandment. And the second is like it:

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Love your neighbor as yourself. All the law

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and the prophets hang on these two commandments.'

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Father God, I thank you that you draw bottom lines for us.

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I thank you, Father God, that you give us clarity through your Word,

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Father, a starting point. And Father, this morning, I'm asking, Lord,

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that you would awaken our hearts to be taught of you, Lord. That's the prayer

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that David prayed, and that's the prayer that we pray, Lord, that we would be

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taught this morning. And Lord, I just ask that your Holy Spirit would

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deliver the Word, not me, Father God. I thank you. Let my stuff fall

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and you stand, in Jesus' name, amen.

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Amen. And the very first thing on your list is exactly what I just shared

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with you. When he spoke to them, "You are in error because you

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do not know the Scriptures or the power of God." And see,

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a lot of times, guys, we make mistakes or we head

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down pathways that aren't consistent with what the Lord would have because

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we don't know what the Lord really wants in that moment,

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right? Have you ever walked into a mall and seen

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a sign that says, "You are here"? And so you can kind of acclimate

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yourself to, okay, this is what This is where I am right now, and so

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I need to go this way, or I need to go this way to get

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where I'm going. Well, the Word does that for us. The

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Word tells us, this is where you are. This is your starting

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point. This is the baseline that I want to

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begin with you. And I believe that that is something that the

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Lord wants to do with today's message.

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Sometimes the most clarifying things we can do is to

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scripturally define the bottom line so that this can become

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our let's start here. Here, okay? Let's start

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here. We're not starting with doctrine. We're not starting with

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opinions. We're not starting with, you know, which religion is right,

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which person is right, which is— and what. We are starting with

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a bottom line. Why am I calling it that? Because Jesus

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was the teacher. He was

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the teacher. There were— you know,

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Scripture says, "Never a man spake like this man."

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Nobody talked like him. Nobody taught like him. So

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if we are going to listen to the words of someone who

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is the ultimate teacher, wouldn't you think if they

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said, "This is the most important thing," that we

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would want to know what the most important thing is?

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Well, that's where he's getting ready to take us. So this is where we're

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gonna start today. We are going to start Everybody,

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just in your mind right now, just erase that whole chalkboard that's going

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on in your mind of all the dos and the don'ts and the rules and

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the regulations and what it looks like to serve God and being

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a good Christian and all this. And we're going to erase all of that right

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now. And we're just going to go, we're going to start right here.

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We're going to start right here with when the— he says, which is

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the greatest command? He says, love the Lord your God with all

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of your heart, with all of your soul, with all your mind, with all of

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your strength. And the second is like it, love one another

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as you love yourself. Now,

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that's a high standard, right up to the point that you don't

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love yourself, right up to the point that you really

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aren't respecting who you are and don't really have such a high

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opinion of yourself. And then sometimes you just treat everybody else like

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that. And God is going, you know, I just, I want

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you to understand that there's a different way.

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When it comes to loving God and loving our neighbors, it is love for our

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neighbor that tends to suffer the greatest. You know, it's so easy to go,

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God is so good! God is so faithful! I love

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him so much! I love him so much!

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And that neighbor thing comes in there.

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You know, there's something that's kind of heartbreaking for me

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that has become a little bit trite and trivial

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in the church. You know, you hear things like,

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"Man, I so love God, it's his people I have a problem with."

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Or, "That church would be great if it just wasn't for the people."

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And, you know, we laugh it off, and we, you know, push

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it aside, and we make our jokes. And I believe that there's something

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in it that, that that God and the Holy Spirit are

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grieved by. Because see, I can look at

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Justin and Jessica, and I can go, "I love you guys,

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and I mean it. I mean that I love you."

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And then you follow it up with, "Oh, but that Lily and Noah."

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You know? Seriously. And you're going,

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"Wait a minute. Lily and Noah are their

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heart." And so, how can I tell them

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that I love them and totally disregard

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or have a disdain for the thing that has totally

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captivated their hearts? God

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checks our love language to see whether it's true and

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authentic. And see, that same love that captivates them with all

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of their babies now— all— let me say that again, all

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of their babies now, That

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is the love that God has for you. So

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much greater. And not just you, but the person

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who's sitting next to you. He feels that way about

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them. He feels that way about the person that made you

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the maddest this week. He feels that way

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about the person who cut you off in traffic this week.

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I'm not even going to tell you. Somebody was so ugly to me this—

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it doesn't matter. Okay, I'll

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tell you. They were so ugly to me, and I had a heart

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check. They were coming down the wrong lane, and they did

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things I should— I'm not even gonna tell you about. And— but they were

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upset with me, and old Barbie, last Tuesday,

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would have— old Barbie would have

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gotten upset. But you know what my response was? God, it's okay,

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don't hurt them. Don't hurt them, Lord. I know

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you're upset for me in this moment,

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but Lord, I'm gonna let it go. So Lord, you go ahead and let it

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go, okay? That

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$150 speeding fine that they're gonna get down there is

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not our fault, Lord. Anyway,

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God checks those places in us because he loves

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his people. And so he's not gonna let us get by with not loving

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his people. His people are not a footnote

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in the journey. They're not a footnote in the story.

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So when it comes to loving God, we need to be able to—

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"If anyone boasts, 'I love God,' and goes right on hating his brother

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or sister, thinking nothing of it," what does that say?

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He's using a word I wasn't allowed to use in my house.

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He is a liar. If he won't love the person he can

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see, how can he love the God he can't see?

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The command we have from Christ is blunt. Loving

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God includes loving people. You have got to do

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both. What? It's not an option? We don't get to pick and

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choose. Well, I like them, but them I'm not so

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sure about. It's not an option. It doesn't say, you know, if

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you feel like it, because most of us don't need to be doing the things

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we feel like doing.

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I'm just— I'm just putting that out there. Anyway,

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then he goes and does this. You know, we were

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doing pretty good. We could do okay when we could love somebody as we

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love ourselves, you know, 'cause we're pretty limited in that. But then he goes and

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does this. He says, "A new command I give you:

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Love one another as I have loved

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you." Can you say that with me? "As I have

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loved you." What? '"So must you love one another.

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By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love

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one another.'"

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Okay, Jesus raised the bar from "love your neighbor

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as yourself" to "as I have loved you." And in doing

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this, our blueprint became his love rather than

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our own. Wow!

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His blueprint. Became—

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his love became our blueprint. That's

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a higher standard. It's a deeper call.

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There's more to it than that. And when I look at that, I'm like, okay,

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how do we do that, Lord? Because, you know, your love— I mean,

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you know what? The disciples probably could have told you what Jesus loved to like,

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what he, you know, what he enjoyed. And, you know, I'm sure John

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could have told you all about his love and how much Jesus loved him more

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than everybody else. But John would have known about the love

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of Jesus. He experienced it on a daily basis.

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Peter experienced it in a completely different way. But if

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you put their voices together, these are the people who walked with him daily,

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in and out, good days, bad days, horrible days,

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blessed days. They could have told you about the love of Jesus, right?

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I can look at people in my life and I can tell you, I can

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tell you that my husband's love, the way that he loves is

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faithful, and he is a protector, and he is

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witty, and he is gentle-spirited. And

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I can tell you what he is like. He is as faithful in

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his love as the day is long.

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But that's because I have walked with him for almost

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43 years, and he has been consistent,

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consistent in it. Now, if I try to tell you about the

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love of Jesus, I can tell you what it looked like in my life and

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what that redemptive price that was paid and who he is He has

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been in my life. But according to scripture, you know, it would

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be really dismissive of us to go,

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"Well, yeah, but Jesus died for everybody, and so his love

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was that sacrificial love that just died," you know, "and did that." And it seems

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so far beyond our ability to do anything like

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Jesus did. And yet we wear these shirts like,

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"Love like Jesus."

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And we don't even know what that means, nor

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do we move toward trying to do that.

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So, I'm looking at this, and I'm going, "Okay. Okay, God, then I don't really

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know how to love like Jesus. I don't really know. If you said,

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'As I have loved you, so you must love one another.'"

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I believe that the Word will give us instruction on everything that he

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asks us to do. And I don't think he ever asks us to do anything

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that's impossible, right? So, I believe he gave us a

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plan and an idea. Scripture tells us, All

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Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching,

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rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the

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servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good

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work. Would you say that learning to love your neighbor as yourself

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would be a good work? Would you say that learning to love

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like Jesus, that, that He could teach us how to do that,

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that He could correct us when we're not getting it right, and that He could

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train us so that we can love like Jesus? I believe

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He can. Well, if all Scripture is God-breathed,

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then it would be a natural progression for me to go, "Okay, Lord, where

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in Scripture do you talk to us about how to love?" Because

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if you are going to teach me how to love, and I'm not talking

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about Cupid love, I'm not talking about box of chocolates

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love, though those are nice. I'm not talking about

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Valentine love. I'm not talking about that, and neither

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is he. Neither is he. So, we're gonna see,

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I believe that when Jesus— when the Holy Spirit

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breathed 1 Corinthians 13, I believe he was

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breathing a teaching to tell us this is how

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Jesus loves. And this is the instruction that I'm gonna

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leave for you in my last will and testament. I'm going to

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leave this instruction for you so that when you read somewhere

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down the road in 2026 that I'm asking you to

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love like I love, I wanna show you what that looks like. And so, that's

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what we're gonna do this morning. All Scripture

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is God-breathed. I also believe this. I grew

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up out in the country. I know it shocks you with this accent,

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you know. You're thinking London, Britain, whatever, but

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I grew up out in the country, and I had a cousin, and

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he was a snake handler before snake handling was, you know,

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exciting. And he was— he knew exactly

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what he was gonna grab hold of. And I remember one

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particular day— now, his mama wasn't very fast,

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but she was that day. Anyway,

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his mama wasn't very fast, and I just remember him coming in

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the room, and he had this snake by the head,

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and his mama's backing out of the room, and he's going, "Momma,

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it ain't poison. And look at here at its head,

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it's diamond-shaped. It ain't poison. And it's skinny, it's

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skinny. It ain't this." Because see, he knew that his mother's

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peace relied on what it wasn't rather than what it was.

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And so, he was going really quickly to describe everything

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that it wasn't. And that makes total sense when you begin to look

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at 1 Corinthians 13. Because what we

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find in this passage of Scripture is that the Lord gives us

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2 descriptors of what

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it is and 8 of what it isn't. You

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know what that tells me? It tells me that the Holy Spirit

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knew that we would have a problem trying to call something

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love that wasn't. And so, sometimes

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we're better served by knowing what something isn't rather than what it

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is. Because those are clarifiers, guys. If I can

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give you some things from the Word that go, "This is what it

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is, and this is what it isn't," you might just be able

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to grab hold of it and go, "Oh, okay. Okay,

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Lord." And that becomes your starting point.

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Because guys, some of the things that we call love, it

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ain't. It ain't love. It's got other words

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for it, but it ain't love. And I hope, and my prayer would be,

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that we would begin to define some of this. According to the

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Scripture, true love has two

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initial authenticators. If you want

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to know if it's love, the two things that it will be

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is it will be patient, and it will be kind.

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Love is patient, and it is kind. And if

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you are in a relationship, or you're seeking a relationship, or you're looking

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for that person, and boy, they're pretty, or boy, they're

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handsome, are they patient? And are they

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kind? Because that's gonna matter in

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your life. That is gonna matter in your life.

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Looks fade. Popularity wanes. Kindness,

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patience, that's what you want.

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Kindness, and patience. Let me

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give you this first one. Patience is the

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level of endurance one exemplifies in difficult

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circumstances before moving into negativity.

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How patient are you? How patient

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are you? When things start to go south, do you jump in the deep end

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with them? Or do you try to point them toward the shallow end,

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a way out? Do you go negative? Patience.

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You know what? Patience destroys

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the— I'm sorry, impatience

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will destroy kindness. It will just destroy it.

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Patience, the level of endurance.

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When people talk about you, or your name gets brought

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up, do they say that about you?

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Do they like, "Oh man, they are just so

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positive. They are so positive. They live in this land

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of positivity." It's a

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marker of His love. And then there's this,

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kindness, marked by good and charitable behavior,

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having a pleasant disposition, and showing genuine

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concern for others. Is that you?

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When people talk about you, do they say, "They have the most

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pleasant disposition"? Or

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when you start down the hallway at church, do you see people starting to pretend

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they're on their phones? Because that could be an indicator.

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When all of a sudden they have a phone call and step into a side

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room until right after you pass.

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Do you have a pleasant countenance? Has God done enough in

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your life for you to be grateful and walk around like you're grateful?

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I mean, seriously, come on. We're not all

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born happy, you know? But the goodness of God and

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what he has done should provoke a smile from time to time.

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I mean, we should be the most peace-carrying people on

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the planet, and yet we look so miserable sometimes.

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Speaking of driving in cars, as we were talking about earlier,

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Have you ever looked at people's faces as they drive past you?

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Oh my goodness, did they have a bad day?

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Or a bad year? We don't know. But it's like,

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when the Lord started pointing that out to me, I have the fakest

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smile when I drive because I'm like, "What if somebody passes?"

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But I'm honest about it. Anyway,

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patience and kindness. Guys, those are the only

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two things he says that love is.

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Love is patient. It is kind.

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That's what you want. That's what you want to be, and that's who

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you want to be involved with, right? Now, let's talk about the

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nots. Let's talk about what it isn't. Because

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a lot of times, the enemy tries to tell you that what you are

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experiencing is love, and it's

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not. Patient kindness. And let me tell you what else it

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isn't. "Love is not envious or jealous,

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boastful or proud. It is not

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dishonoring or self-seeking. It is not easily angered or unforgiving."

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Now, let's break that down for just a second. Okay,

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envy. Everybody's like, "Oh, envious and jealous, they're the same things." No,

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they're not. Envy is rooted in

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fear.

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No, I'm switching those. Jealousy is rooted in fear. Jealousy is

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rooted in fear because you are afraid someone is going to

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take something that you have. And so, you are

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jealous and you're not at peace with it because

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you don't want anybody messing with what's yours. Well, it ain't yours.

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It ain't yours. Anything we have, God gave into our hands, and either He can

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keep it in our hands or He won't. And if He doesn't, we didn't need

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it in the first place. Jealousy,

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envious. Envious is to be rooted— it's rooted in

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lust. Envy is rooted in this place, "Well, why did they

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get that? They've got this, and I want that, and

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I deserve that, and I want that." And that is jealousy and

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envious. If you are in a relationship where the person you are with

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does not celebrate your victories and wants to hold you back and keep

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you from moving forward in the Lord, this is an area of

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prayer. Because we're not supposed to be jealous or

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envious with our mates. We're just not supposed

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to. Boastful or proud. Guys, listen here. If the person

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that you are trying to do life with wants to tell you how good they

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are all of the time, it's probably not a good, good reason to be with

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them. If somebody gives you their resume, You know,

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can I just tell you, there's no reason for

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one single person in this room, myself

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included, to boast.

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I don't have anything to brag about except the goodness of God,

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and that's on Him. He did that, not me. I don't need

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to tell you what I've done. And if somebody else— now, if somebody else

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wants to talk to people about how good you are, yay! Yay!

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God has done something with your reputation, and that needed to be done anyway.

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But if somebody else wants to do that, that's fine, that's good, but don't sing

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your own praises. And if you're with somebody who wants to tell you how

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lucky you are to be with them, don't be.

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Proud, proud.

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Do you receive correction? Are you

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able to go, "Yeah, I was probably wrong there. Yeah, I'm sorry about

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that." Love means never having to

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say you're sorry. Who made that

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up? I say it multiple times

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every single day, and it's necessary.

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Seriously, apologize. You know what? I

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don't need to be prideful. I missed it. I miss it all

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the time, and I'm so sorry.

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Be quick. That's called repentance.

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Turn and go the opposite direction. If you've got to say— tell

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the Lord you're sorry. Now listen, there is a sorrow that

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leads to death, according to Scripture, and it is a worldly sorrow.

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And you can be sorry all day long and never change a thing.

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But there is a godly sorrow According to Scripture, that

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leads to repentance, and that leads to life.

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Don't just be sorry, repent and don't do it again.

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Rowan and Nora were playing this past week, and I

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think Nora took something from Rowan, and they started

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bickering, and I said, "Okay guys, okay, all

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right, stop." They're 4 and they're 5, but I've heard 40 and 50-year-olds

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do it too, anyway. But I said, "Okay guys, stop.

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Now, let's fix this." And Nora says,

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"Okay, Rowan, I apologize."

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And he says, "Well, I forgive you.

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I forgive you, but we're not gonna do that again."

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And sometimes that's okay, right? You

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know, I forgive you, And he said, "But that wasn't okay."

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And sometimes, it's okay to let people, "You know what? That

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wasn't okay. I forgive you, but that wasn't okay."

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You know? Anyway, it's not

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dishonoring or self-seeking. It's not easily angered or unforgiving.

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Okay, this is the one, if you are willing, I would like you to

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get a

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Screenshot. If you've got your phones, would you pull them out? Because

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I feel like this is where we're supposed to live for just a little while.

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And if it's on your phone, I know people look at

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their phone at least once a day, you know, once a second

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anyway. This right here.

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Love will not bring dishonor.

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It will not cause you to feel shame or disgrace.

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It will not remove your honor, diminish your worth,

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affect your honesty, or compromise the integrity

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of your personal values.

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Love will not remove your honor,

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diminish your worth, Affect your

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honesty or compromise the integrity

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of your personal values. Lay

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that against the blueprint, guys. When the

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enemy comes and tries to tell you, "Oh, but it's love, but

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it's love, but it's love," is it that? Are you

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compromising? Is it affecting the way you're walking in the earth? Are you

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having to lie to your parents? Are you having to make up excuses?

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What is it? Love does not dishonor you.

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It just doesn't. Jesus' love,

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His love will not bring dishonor. So

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we, to love like Jesus loved, cannot put

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ourselves or anybody else in a situation where

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we're calling something love and it's bringing dishonor.

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Okay? Shouldn't affect

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your honesty. Shouldn't have to lie about it.

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Shouldn't have to hide it. Love is pure. Love is

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pure, and it's kind, and it is patient.

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Anything that isn't that, you need to really

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examine it. It

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isn't self-seeking, guys. Contrary to

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popular belief, love doesn't put itself

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first. You don't get everything

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your way. It's not all going to always work out

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to where you win.

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Love will take a back seat

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and allow other people to shine and prosper and grow in

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Him.

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It isn't easily angered. This takes us back

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to the very beginning, guys. One of the initial

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markers was that it was patient and it was kind.

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It isn't easily angered. Now listen, I get— I

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run into this from time to time, more often than I would like to,

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people who have issues with anger. People who just blow off

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steam at the people that they say they love the most. And they

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just, they're just easily angered in this a hair trigger and you can go off

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with anything. And what I hear the most is, "Well, I'm just like

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that," or, "Well, he did," or, "She did."

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Listen, you are not like that.

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God did not create you with a short fuse. The world

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did that to you. And if you are struggling, and if you are

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anger-driven, and you're causing everybody in your household to have to walk on

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eggshells, That is

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not a— that is not part of your personality. That is a lack of the

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fruit of the Spirit, the fruit of the Spirit of self-control. And

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if you will begin to pray, the Holy Spirit can bring about

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self-control in your life. Guys,

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as long as we make excuses, as long as we make

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excuses, the enemy will let us make excuses, and

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we will continue down with patterns and things in our life that God

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never intended for us. You know what? God created

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you whole, not broken. God created you with a

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propensity toward the eternal. He created you to

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love, and to be kind, and to display all

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of the attributes of the fruit of the Spirit. So when you find yourself

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deviating from those things that He says, then it's a

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spirit issue. It's not a flesh issue. We try

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to fight it with our flesh, and we can't. And that's

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why we say, "I'm just like that." No, your flesh is just like that.

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But if you will flip the triangle, and if you will allow your spirit

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to lead you, you'll find that you have more strength, more

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integrity, more honor, more patience, more peace

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than you ever dreamed imaginable.

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Because that's what God does, and that's what the Holy Spirit does when

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he takes control. Love is

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not easily angered and it isn't unforgiving.

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I'm going to ask the worship team to come out here in just a second,

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if they'd come on out. Can I tell you something?

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Love doesn't throw your past up in your face.

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Love doesn't get into arguments and remember what you did 3 years

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ago, and when you said this, or you did that. See, the love that I

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see from God says that He casts our sins as far as

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the east is from from the west into the sea of

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forgetfulness. His love erases that

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in our life, right? So, when you find

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yourself wanting to throw someone else's past up,

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understand that yours can be brought up too. And I

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sure don't want the Lord bringing mine up. I sure don't want

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to have to deal— I already dealt with my past once, or twice, or three,

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or four, or five, many times, all right? I don't want to have to go

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there again because he's not going there again. God

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has cleansed my heart. God

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has forgiven me. The Word tells me that if I

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confess my sins, he is faithful

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and just and will forgive me

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and, and cleanse me

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from all unrighteousness. You can't change

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what happened yesterday. You can't change how you

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behaved yesterday, but you can do a "let's start here."

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You can do a "let's start today." Let's start to

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redefine what relationships look like in my life. Let's

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begin to redefine what I'm putting out

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into the world. What kind of love am I portraying

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in this world?

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Now, if we know what it isn't,

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that means we know what it is, right? Because that

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would be the opposite, correct?

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I'm going to share this, and then we are going to stand and sing,

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and then I'm going to finish it because I want to

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show you If it isn't this, then

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it's this. And after I've read these to

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you, we're going to take just a moment and

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we're going to worship. We're going to just have a moment

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where we allow the Holy Spirit to take these things and

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to examine our heart. And then we'll come right back

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into this because this is what it says. If knowing what

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it isn't serves to clarify what it is, we can know this:

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if it isn't envious, it is content.

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It is content. I know that doesn't make sense to some of you, but

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when you're not satisfied, when you're not

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satisfied with what God has done, you

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lose that contentment. If love isn't envious, it's content. If it

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isn't boastful, it is modest.

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Has a right estimation of who they are in Christ. It's

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settled. If it isn't proud, it is what?

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And if it isn't dishonoring, it is

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honorable. Honorable. If it isn't self-seeking,

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it is selfless. If it isn't

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easily angered, it is— and if

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it isn't unforgiving, it is

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compassionate. How is that? How is that?

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Because see, if I can't forgive you, then I'm not having compassion for where

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you're standing. I'm not able to go, I,

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I'm, I have so been there. We have a high

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priest who is touched by the very feeling of our

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infirmities. And when you

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blow it, or I blow it, and they mess up, and everything

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in you wants to get angry, my prayer would be that compassion would

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rise and go, Lord, I've done that myself. Lord, except for the grace of

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God, there I would be. Lord, birth

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compassion as you are compassionate,

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as you are compassionate, as I have loved

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you. Guys, we're just going to dim the lights for a minute. I'm going

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to get you guys to just ponder this a moment. Go

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ahead, Jonathan.

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I believe the Lord is sharing this with us

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because there's a higher call in a world that

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doesn't know what love looks like, that doesn't understand

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this kind of compassion, this kind of calling. God is going,

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I need you to be that. I need you

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to be that. Love like I love.

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Jesus' love was content, modest, humble,

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honorable, selfless, patient,

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and compassionate. And in the end, guys,

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the stamp of love's authenticity is its willingness to surrender its own

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will, and in doing so, serve a

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greater good that we sometimes cannot see or understand.

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We're not always going to see the end result. We're not always

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going to see why the Lord has us apologize or

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move this way or act in compassion or lay down our

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rights or, or set things aside. We're not always going to know why,

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but we can know that he is faithful and he is good,

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and he sees the beginning from the end, and he

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knows the outcome. Guys, there's a

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better kind of love, a better kind of love.

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Greater love has no one than this, to lay down

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his life for his friends.

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As I have loved you,

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so must you love one another. He

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wouldn't have asked us to do it if it wasn't possible. He

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wouldn't have put that in front of them and it be unattainable.

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So this is what's on my heart this morning. If you will allow, if you

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would stand, I would like the honor of praying over you.

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And if you feel led, if you just raise your hand.

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Father God, I thank you so much for each of these, and I thank

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you, Lord, that you set the standard, not

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anybody else, Lord. You set the standard. And so,

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Father, I thank you, Lord, that you are calling us, entrusting us

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with a higher kind of love, a better kind of love, the only kind

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of love that you offer that's selfless and kind and

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compassionate and patient, Father God. And Lord, I

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pray even at this moment, Lord, that you would do something in our

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hearts, Lord, that we would move toward that kind of love.