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This week on the show, Tog interviews Marianne

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Foote about how she lost her business and

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her identity and then unfucked her life by

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starting out fresh out of her basement.

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You're here with Tog Chesterfield on 101.7

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FM The Grack.

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I'm trying to pick up the pieces and

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fix up my life after I hit rock

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bottom, and I'm taking you along as I

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try new things and I also try to

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embrace life.

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Unfuck your life with Tog Chesterfield.

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So welcome to the show.

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Right now it's um it's oh it's uh

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5 0 5 pm.

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I'll be with you while you do your

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commute or while you make your dinner tonight

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or maybe while you doomscroll while you're wondering

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if you've permanently damaged the nerve endings in

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your thumb or maybe if that thing is

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just temporary.

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I'm your default guest for your evening tonight

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because you tuned into 101.7 FM.

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Now in the previous show, I played you

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my interview with Pastel Pumpernickel and that interview

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was done for the very first edition of

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the Grackleton Gazette.

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So that first edition went out listener and

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I was sent this whole parade of celebratory

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gift bread baskets actually um maybe that's a

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bread bread gift basket or is it just

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maybe it's just a bread basket or bread

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baskets that were a gift or maybe it

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was just gifted bread and maybe it's not

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a parade it was like more of a

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succession really because they came like separately and

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parade is all anyways listener um that whole

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thing actually caused my last roommate who you

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met in the last show uh Keith Evergreen

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to move out and Keith said that um

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that they had like a childhood aversion to

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Easter hats so they had to leave.

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Anyways uh Marianne Foote then moved in and

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has taken the room in my uh in

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my place here and actually tonight you'll hear

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an interview that Marianne and I had for

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the next edition of the Grackleton Gazette and

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I'm going to share it with you here

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as a preview.

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So Marianne's full name is Marianne Thimble Foote

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and she is the host of the Mailbox

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Decor show here on 101.7 FM the

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Grack.

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It was actually a show after this one

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last time we were together and Marianne goes

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by Marianne Foote for the show.

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I think she dropped the thimble but you

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might know Marianne from her previous business.

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She was the owner of Grackleton's most successful

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craft store Thimble's Nimble Notions which specialized in

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sewing supplies and craft materials and also workshops.

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Marianne ran the store for 20 years until

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a series of events led to its closure.

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In tonight's interview you'll hear Marianne and I

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discussing what happened that led to Thimble's Nimble

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Notions closing down and how Marianne managed to

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unfuck her life afterwards.

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Now this is Unfuck Your Life with Todd

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Chesterfield.

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I'll be back with Marianne's interview after a

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short message.

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Unfuck Your Life with Todd Chesterfield.

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Back to the show.

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So I'm going to play my interview with

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Marianne Foote.

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It was recorded for the Grackleton Gazette's upcoming

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second edition.

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Marianne and I met at Thick Raven Beak

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Park which as you might know is near

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the old haunted mines in Outer Grack.

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Here's our interview.

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So thank you for meeting me and letting

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us all know how you unfucked your life

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Marianne.

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So I wanted to know did you drop

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Thimble from your name?

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Thank you Todd.

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Only for my radio show Marianne Foote is

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my radio name.

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And Marianne Thimble Foote.

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That is my name.

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Oh um okay.

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So you ran your shop that I'm sure

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everyone listening knows about Thimble's Nimble Notions here

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in Grackleton until 2017 when it suddenly shut

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down.

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It was on the front page of Grack

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News for uh for three weeks.

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Yeah three weeks.

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So what happened Marianne?

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Well it all started when there was this

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Reddit thread.

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It was about how the store was really

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old and dusty and really boring.

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Let me see that was um that thread

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was in 2015.

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It started right near the beginning of 2015.

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It wasn't 24.

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No it was 2015.

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And after that I just I started saying

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yes to everything.

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To spice things up because I didn't want

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to be seen.

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I didn't want my beloved store to be

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seen as old and and dusty and and

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boring and all the things that they said.

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So I just started doing custom orders of

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all kinds of handmade products.

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I and I did these special workshops.

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I tried to take neat things that I

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saw on the internet and I would make

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these workshops all around.

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How to make them.

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How to DIY.

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I mean DIY was really really popular back

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then too.

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And I did these I did events.

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I I learned how to you know talk

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in front of a crowd and larger crowds

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for these events.

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And I learned I did all the decor

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and I had some real real bangers.

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Bangers as they say.

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They do say.

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I like that word bangers.

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It's like mash.

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And I just tried to do anything I

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could think of Tog.

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Anything.

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Anything someone suggested at the counter in the

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store.

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Oh maybe you should do this and I

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would do it.

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I would do it even if I didn't

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if I didn't think it was a good

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idea.

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I just did it because they said they

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wanted that and I thought well I don't

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want to be boring.

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I don't want to be dusty.

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I don't want to be you know into

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some old boring store.

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So I did whatever they said.

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Well did it work Marianne?

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Well it worked for uh what I mean

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what came up in that reddit thread.

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It certainly worked.

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It worked.

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I it made the news.

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I was no longer boring.

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I mean I was in the news.

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You can't be old and dusty and boring

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store if you're making the news all the

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time even here in Grackleton.

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It made people happy.

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But Tog listen it wasn't great for me

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Marianne.

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I guess that's why we're here.

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Well it is.

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So well why didn't it work?

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Why wasn't it great?

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Well Tog I I ended up doing all

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these product lines.

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They just didn't they didn't really line up

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with what I was good at.

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I tried this dog costuming product line like

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a whole thing at Thimble's Nimble Notions.

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Thimble's Nimble Notions your store.

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Yes Thimble's Nimble Notions.

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It's Thimble's Nimble Notions.

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Yeah Thimble Nimble Notions but I never had

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a dog.

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So I kept trying to do all these

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sewing projects and sewing for dogs is actually

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a really hard one because of all the

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extra legs and all the breeds.

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Some are short some are long and the

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body or the legs all the different places

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are different lengths and I tried and I

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just failed to understand really what people like

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dog people what their preferences were for costumes.

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I mean and I'm essentially Tog I'm essentially

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a crafter who specializes in non-bedazzled items

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with a somewhat arbitrary interest in outdoor suburban

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decor for mid-range ranch houses.

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I like dogs.

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You know Tog it's just the ones I

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don't understand are the subset the dogs that

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wear the costumes those dogs anyways.

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Another thing that happened is I had a

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problem with workshops that I ran with like

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overlapping workshops or really just even getting to

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them Tog.

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I'm just really bad with a calendar honestly.

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I'm also really time blind so I'm not

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sure why I really even got into the

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workshop thing Tog but I had leads.

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I had leads at the community center the

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Supra Appreciation Club the Grackleton West Chapter.

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Right the good one.

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I had leads with the school system and

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of course through my shop.

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Of course.

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I just never accounted for my time blindness

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my calendar thing oh the driving time too

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my car.

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What do you drive?

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I drive a 2005 Chevrolet Cobalt.

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It's a really average car really average as

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a car it's just a mess.

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It was a mess when I got it

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in 2006 really.

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Did the Supra Appreciation Club workshop have you

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teach them how to decorate seat covers?

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Oh the Supra Appreciation Club yes I did

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a from scratch crafting project for the Supra

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gear stick like the gear shift yeah but

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what that Tog it actually just started a

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whole new beef at the Supra Appreciation Club

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between the owners that had a automatic model

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and the owners with the manual models because

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the gear shifts are really different between them

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so as soon as they started making those

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projects so it was mayhem.

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They really identified depending on whether or not

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they drive a manual or an automatic it

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turns out oh it was actually much worse

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than the 1984 beef between East and West

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Grackleton about what was the best Supra year.

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Oh I remember that yeah oh that was

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rough.

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Yeah it was actually it was way worse

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than your potato incident Tog.

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Oh we're not going to get into that.

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That's fair all right so taking on uh

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unprofitable custom projects that was also a problem

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like your project Tog actually the one I

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did for you to make those um John

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Bon Jovi wigs for your promotional potatoes for

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the Tad TikTok thing.

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Oh that was so fun you were so

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good.

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I'm not really too sure what that was

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all about but I learned not to ask

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questions after the Supra Appreciation Club had me

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sign that NDA about the aftermath after the

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stick shift cover adornment ceremony thing.

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Oh that's all I can say actually because

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of that NDA it's ironclad.

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Oh well then I won't tell anybody else

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anymore and we won't get into that if

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you have an NDA but oh that was

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uh that was a lot of punches um

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so when did you know it's time for

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a change?

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Well I knew it was time for a

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change when the Supra Appreciation Club of East

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Grackleton asked me to bedazzle the seat covers

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actually.

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Oh I knew there'd be seat covers at

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some point.

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Sure but I want to make it very

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clear to your listeners or readers or whoever

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I do not bedazzle.

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Okay uh so you closed the shop?

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Yes then Cole's Books moved in.

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Right so um what did you do then?

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I mean after your shop closed what did

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you do?

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Well Tog I uh I started saying no.

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I started setting my boundaries.

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I started working in my basement.

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Oh that's good.

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I was uh teaching and I was selling

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the supplies and the crafts that I, Marianne

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Thimblefoot, wanted to sell.

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Oh Thimble.

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Yes but only sometimes.

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Only sometimes.

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Oh okay uh I haven't really figured out

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the pattern yet since we're on the radio.

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Radio name.

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Anyway I only took on specialized workshops.

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Okay.

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From that point on and I made myself

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a specialized alarm system too.

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I let the cats into my bedroom at

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night and they always wake me up and

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that doesn't make me grumpy so I can

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go to my workshops happy and I also

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have this really complicated system of alarms.

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I guess I can't show you because you're

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not at my basement but um I had

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this complicated system of alarms so I don't

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miss any of my workshops and then I

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only have to walk downstairs because I do

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them all from my house.

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I either have people come to my basement

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or I use zoom so and that's so

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I never have to rely on on my

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very average 2005 Chevy Cobalt and my alarms

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are all they're all decorated too.

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Oh that's nice.

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I wish I could show you Tog but

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uh they're not they're not bedazzled.

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Got it.

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Listeners if you're listening to this and Tog

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you'll write about this right?

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You'll say no bedazzling.

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I'll put a call out.

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Anyways I set up the workshops to be

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more human.

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They're a lot more me Mary Ann Foote.

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No Thimble.

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And I set up some boundaries.

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No okay no Thimble on the workshop.

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No no Thimble on that one.

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Um so it's a not not a very

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safe car either.

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The Cobalt.

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The Cobalt had the highest vitality rate in

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the small four-door car class actually.

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Right back in 2005.

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Oh even when it was new.

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Probably still.

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Yeah maybe.

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Um so what was the result of making

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those changes?

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Setting your boundaries for yourself?

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Well I made more meaningful connections.

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I had fewer customers and but I saw

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people more often.

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And I had time for my personal projects

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like the mailbox show that I'm doing on

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on the radio.

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And uh actually can I plug that?

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Of course you can Mary Ann.

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It's called Mailbox Decor.

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It's on at 6 p.m only once

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a month but it's a great show.

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I think people will really like it.

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Then I do higher quality work as a

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result because I have the less stress.

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I'm much closer to Mary Ann Thimble Foote.

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No Thimble.

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I still don't get the pattern.

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But I I find that I'm you know

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I'm I'm identifying more with the connections that

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I'm making within Grackleton.

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And that uh that makes me feel closer

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to myself.

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So I'm just doing some of my most

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creative crafts ever now.

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Even I was at my store for 20

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years.

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Talk 20 years.

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And I was never doing my best work.

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And now I'm just doing my best work.

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I've really rediscovered my original passion for crafting.

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The original passion before I even had the

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store.

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Honestly Mary Ann I couldn't even imagine decorating

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alarm clocks while stressed out.

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And so uh Mary Ann are things better

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now?

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Now that you've had some years that have

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passed?

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Well Tog I'm doing the hard work now

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to continue on with that.

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To to work on identifying myself through my

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new work that I do.

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And all the connections that I make.

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And the people that I see.

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And and my output.

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The creative things that I do instead of

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where I work.

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Letting go of being you know Mary Ann

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Thimble Foote of Thimble's Nimble Notions.

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That's really hard.

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Yeah.

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I miss the shop still.

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Right.

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I miss being known as a Grackleton shop

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owner.

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Yeah.

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And being in the news a lot quite

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honestly Tog.

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But I really I am happier.

402

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Oh good.

403

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I consider my life unfucked.

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That's what the show's about.

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I I think that my new identity is

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from that unfucking.

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Oh.

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To be honest.

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And it's getting stronger every day.

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So hopefully soon I won't miss the store

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still.

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And miss being that shop owner that I

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identified with for so long.

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But I honestly Tog I'm not quite there

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yet.

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Oh well you'll get there hopefully soon.

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So you closed Thimble's Nimble Notions.

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Do you have a name for your new

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business at your house Mary Ann?

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Foote's Fanciful Fiber Fiefdom.

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Foote's Fanciful Fiber Fiefdom.

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Yes.

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Foote's Fanciful Fiber Fiefdom.

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Oh.

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Foote's Fanciful Fiber Fiefdom.

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Fiefdom.

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Not Fife-dom.

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Fiefdom.

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Foote's Fanciful Fiber Fiefdom.

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I love it.

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And that was my interview with Mary Ann.

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And now it's time for the weather.

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Tonight's weather for your drive at five with

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unfuck your life is brought to you by

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Boone's Tackle N Thrift.

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We have whatever you might need in the

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way of footballs and stuff.

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Even some footballs I thrifted.

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But also other stuff I thrifted and like

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found around Grackleton and stuff.

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That's uh Boone's is saying that.

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Get ready for the weather.

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Tonight Grackleton is expecting some snow in higher

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elevations between 8 and 8 30 p.m.

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You just learned all about the weather.

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And that's it for the weather on your

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drive at five from Boone's Tackle N Thrift.

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We have a lot of stuff here.

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You should come to the store and see

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what I have.

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I'm Boone's.

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Thanks.

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I close at 5 p.m. instead of

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6 on Thursdays by the way.

455

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It's TOG talking not Boone's.

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Unfuck your life with TOG Chesterfield.

457

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Back to the show.

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So we learned a lot from Mary Ann

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who taught me that a lot of us

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try to show our worth as a human

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being through our productivity.

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Things that we produce or projects that we

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take on.

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But talking with Mary Ann has also made

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me realize that I really identified and still

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identify as TOG.

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Who worked at Apocalypse.cloud. Who ran all

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the social media accounts there.

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And had all the potatoes.

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But I never really connected with people that

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I met there and knew there.

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Even though I ate lunch with them all

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the time.

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And we chatted.

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And we passed the time on breaks together.

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Sometimes we went on walks.

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And I thought I was friends with him.

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But then I left and it turned out

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that we kind of weren't.

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That can be for the best sometimes.

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And lots of people say to be human

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but don't get too connected at work personally.

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But I thought I did.

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And then when I left I realized nope.

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But despite that I still identified as that

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thing that I was.

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Even though it wasn't much of who I

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was.

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Because I left it just disappeared right away.

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So I knew I had to figure out

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who I really was now as me TOG.

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Not my work personality or my productivity or

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what I did.

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And not to be worried about what other

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people thought.

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Like if they thought that I was a

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failure.

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Because that analysis was only up to me.

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And it sounds like that's what Marianne is

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up to as well.

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By doing her own thing.

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Oh hi Marianne.

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Are you settling into your room now?

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Good to see you.

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Hi TOG.

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I just I want to thank you again

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for letting me move in while I sponge

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paint my basement.

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Right.

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Now that's so useful that we met.

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I just quickly wanted to ask you.

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Well I wanted to ask you about the

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fridge.

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Oh of course.

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I got your note but I do have

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a query.

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Okay.

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But first I just wanted to ask you

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if it's okay if I use my hot

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glue gun.

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Hot glue gun.

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Sure.

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Why not?

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Are you okay if I use three hot

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glue guns?

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Three.

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Sure.

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Why not?

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Are you okay if I use all four?

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One more than three.

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Okay.

532

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Sure.

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That's excellent.

534

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If you want to join me you can.

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But I'm going to warn you that there

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is no pain greater than hot glue gun

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on your arm hair.

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It will have to compete with the pain

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in my heart.

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It's surprising.

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Anyways to the fridge I wanted to know

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if you were okay if I had a

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little bit of extra space.

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But I'll make it worth your time.

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Well it's not really time is it?

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I'll make it worth your it's are you

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uncomfortable if I take a little bit of

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extra space?

549

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No it's I'm comfortable with that Marianne.

550

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Okay well then it's not gonna be worth

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your discomfort.

552

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Yeah I wouldn't be uncomfortable.

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I guess I'm gonna say it'll be worth

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the intrusion on your fridge space because I

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was gonna go get a whole bunch of

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vegetables including potatoes.

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I consider a potato a vegetable.

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Do you Tog?

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This will be interesting.

560

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Yes I do actually.

561

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That's a good question Marianne.

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Do you really?

563

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Well okay.

564

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Uh-huh now you're interviewing me.

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Cool then I'm gonna make the best potato

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vegetable gratin that you've ever had in your

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life.

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It's using vegan cheese.

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You will not know the difference I swear

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on this table right here.

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Oh the blue one.

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Interesting.

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I'm just gonna move this beanie baby out

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of the way.

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Is this a Tog?

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Is this a potato?

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Yeah it is actually and please don't ask

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why it's there.

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I swear yeah right uh you get it.

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Okay well I'm just gonna go back to

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the room.

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Also Tog I'm gonna teach you how to

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do proper embroidery.

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I love that the towels are embroidered but

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I'm gonna show you a new stitch.

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Oh it's like a private workshop.

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This is just gonna be the best time.

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I hope a really slow sponge painting.

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Oh yeah me too.

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All right bye Tog.

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I'm just gonna close the door.

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Oh thank you Marianne.

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So that's it for this week's episode of

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the show.

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Thank you to our guest this week Marianne

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Foot or Marianne Thimblefoot.

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I'm not too sure.

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You can find her show Mailbox Decor here

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on 101.7 FM The Grack but for

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now stay tuned for Dive N with Boons

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at 6 with host Boons Sevier.

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Treasure hunting tips and tales of thrifted glory

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in and around Maple and Third Avenue or

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underneath the houseboat community I sometimes snorkel under.

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Again that's Boons not me.

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You have been listening to Un-Fuck Your

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Life with Tog Chesterfield a Stereo Forest production.

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all voices were by Jen DeHaan.

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