Don't complain about what you didn't get from

the work you didn't put in. Start asking yourself hard

questions like, what's really holding me back in life? Why am

I not transforming in the way that

I want to? How long will you keep playing

small? You are the only one that is responsible for your healing.

You can't point the finger at anybody else for

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and together, let's inspire change. Welcome

back to the Krystal Rowe Impact podcast. In this

episode, we're going to be talking about embracing accountability for

transformation. Now, one thing I've learned along my

journey is that it may not have been my

fault for a lot of things and a lot of challenges that

I had to face, but it is sure as hell my responsibility

to heal from it, to fix it and to grow from

it. Now, if you don't make the change, nobody else

will make it for you. I learned the hard way when I

was expecting somebody to come and save me, to

come and protect me. I had to do that

for myself. It wasn't easy, but I

had to start being accountable for the actions and

the choices that I made that led me to that situation. And

sometimes we can focus on this situation not

being your fault or being the victim, but

that won't get you out of it. That won't change things

for you. that won't heal you and

it's not going to sure as hell make you a better person by staying

in that state of victim mentality mindset. And the

only thing that you can do for yourself is

hold yourself accountable. Hold yourself accountable

in the ways where you actually ask yourself, what did I

do to get myself into this situation? And what am

I going to do to get myself out of it? Start being real with yourself.

Start asking yourself hard questions like, what's really holding

me back in life? Why am I not transforming

in the way that I want to, the way that I

see myself doing? Why

is life still happening the way that it is? Why am

I still in this circle? Maybe it's because you're

not taking accountability and you're not being responsible for your

own healing and your own growth. There's nobody

else that's going to do it for you and there's nobody that's actually going

to come and save you. And I'm sorry if that upsets you

and you want a knight in shining armour to come along and pick

up the pieces. And when I say that, I'm not saying

that Nobody's going to come along and love

you or anything like that. But what I'm saying is you have to get to

a point where you are able to live

again, where you are able to transform

yourself from a once victim or

a sad and broken person to

somebody that radiates confidence, that

is ready to take on life, that is ready to

be committed in a relationship or whatever it

is that your heart desires for your season in your life

right now. I mean, you have to start

looking at why your life is the way it

is and take accountability for that. And it

is quite easy. I mean, when life knocks you down,

It will keep you down if you let it. How long will

you keep playing small? Now self-development is

a choice and it's an amazing choice but it's

not easy. You need to be prepared to

take some hits along this journey and

you can't point the finger at anybody else

for not being where you want to be. It just starts

with one choice, one yes that

I'm worth it, that I'm worth the

transformational journey to finding

out who you are truly inside and

what that can do for you. I mean,

when I look back and reflect on times that

I didn't want to step up and go

after my dreams, I

didn't achieve anything because I wasn't chasing anything.

But if you are ready and if you are

willing to be committed to finding

out what lies ahead for you in

a self-discovery journey of endless possibilities, when

you're ready to say that this shit ends with me and

you're ready to go head to head with your pain or

your trauma, when you're ready to

go out and get what

you want. If you need help

figuring out what that looks like or how

to even start, Heritage Impact is only

a click away. There are many

simple steps to actually starting a journey. And

one is just saying yes. Yes

to changing your daily habits. I

remember that I

remember there was a couple of times where I

would wake up on the wrong side of the bed. And,

you know, it only takes one or two days of waking up

on the wrong side of the bed to get into a

rut. And there's three

things that I always do to get myself

back on track. The three things that I

hold myself accountable for, and that is my own

gratitude, my own gratitude for the life that

I currently live, the life that I have left and

that I have created. You have to be grateful for the small

things. And sometimes we're too busy chasing

other stuff and looking at other people and the

to-do list that we actually forget. the

progress that we've made. So a

daily routine when I'm in my rut to get out of it is

three, minimum three to five gratitudes.

And sometimes it's hard to find it, but

just make that shit up. I don't care what it is,

just write. It might be that you are grateful for your hair

or you are grateful for water or

air. Keep it simple. If you really, really can't find

something to be grateful for, be grateful for the bed that

you're getting out of or the roof that's over your head or

the shower that you're about to have. It doesn't have to be that

you are grateful for the car

that you drive or the goals that you achieve. It's

not out of reach stuff. Just be grateful for the small things. And

then you can do affirmations. I

find that affirmations are really, really, they're an

eye opener. They take you out of where

you are to where you want to be. So

it's simple things like if you say, I want

to be healthy, you say, I am healthy. It's

quite simple, if I want to be loved

today, if I want to be happy, like if you're feeling

like shit and all you think of is like, I wish I could be happy, I

am happy. And that subconsciously starts

to train your brain that you are happy. When you write,

I am happy, that is telling your brain that you're happy. And

you watch, you do it enough, it will come true. And then setting

intentions, even if it's just one intention for the

day, that you get up out of bed and you go

to work, or you say, I love you to

your kids. Just one intention can actually

help you get out of your rut. Because if you look

at that, you've done three gratitudes, three

affirmations, and one intention, and

you look at it as stepping stones, you're getting yourself out

of your rut. But again, it's up to you. And

there's little mindfulness practices that you can do. Some people

like going for a bushwalk or going to the ocean,

taking some deep breaths, like literally in through the

nose. It

can actually change your state. And if you do it

a couple of times, you can get like airy-fairy and you're like, yeah, cool.

Let's go get life. Now, if

you Have the courage to

identify some areas in your life that you have been avoiding

taking responsibility for. And

let's be real, we all do it. We all try to hide and

run away from the things that we really need to be

doing. But I want to let you know when you do that,

you're not actually taking steps towards your goals, towards

becoming the person that you want to. You're actually

just staying still. So

think about that. Where are you not

taking responsibility for in your life? Where

are you avoiding it? Why are you avoiding it? And

then try and set some goals to change it. Maybe explore

your values and see what really matters

to you. What sets your soul on fire?

And maybe, just maybe, you will start to take more

accountability for what matters, what

matters to you. Now,

there's a quote that I love. Somebody that

I love very dearly came up with it, actually. And

it is, don't complain about what you didn't get

from the work you didn't put in. Sit with

that. So at the end of the day, In

summary, you are the only one that is responsible for

your healing. And I know that a

lot of your pain and a lot of your suffering was

not your fault. And in all honesty, I'm

sorry that you've had to go through the things that you have. But

it is your responsibility to stand up

and to say enough is enough. You

don't have to be suffering anymore and you don't

have to be limited by the beliefs that you have lived your

life by. It is your time

to shine. So step up, take

responsibility for yourself, for your actions, hold

yourself accountable and watch your life transform.

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