A strong relationship is based on the way you

communicate. One way is either solving the

problem together, or the other thing is... I remember my brother-in-law,

who is not with us here today, he came to me and he

Those words have stuck with me for so long. Those words, I'm

tired. How many men out there have said that, don't

We find a lot of today's healing needs to be a big show

and all of that and that's not what we're about. Within our men's

retreats, one of our intentions is to... Welcome to

Krystal Rowe Impacts, a space dedicated to empowering

you to be the change that your bloodline has been waiting for. Join

me and together, let's inspire change. Kia

ora and welcome back to the Krystal Rowe Impact Podcast. And

today I have my amazing husband TJ joining me and

we're actually going to share with you something that is so

dear to our hearts, something that we have created together

with a beautiful blend of feminine and masculine energies

and just a true passion to help eliminate

a massive problem in today's society, and that is

men struggling alone with mental health. So

We are, well, we've created some

men's retreats, and I think it's so

needed out there. You know, I'm really passionate about Doing

these men's retreats, you know, I've had a lot of struggles

in my life and a lot of men around me are

struggling. And there's so many more

men out there that are struggling, but they just have this front on there and

Yeah, and the help is just not readily available. It's

not available, no. It's, you know, unless you're really, really

searching. And I think for us, we're trying to bring these

retreats and these community events to the forefront and

to normalize men's mental health, to normalize

solutions. to normalize the

modalities that you've used yourself to get through a

lot of challenging times. And

they've been amazing. So being able to create

a formula in a structured time

away has been really great. And you experienced

I did experience that myself. So

just to go back again a little

bit is, like a

lot of us have had, or they've known somebody that

they've lost to suicide. It's

getting to be fucking so

I remember my

brother-in-law, who is not with us here today, he

He said, I'm tired, bro. I'm

tired. Those words have

stuck with me for so long. Every

time I think of him, those words go round and

round in my head. I'm tired. I'm tired. He

was full of life. He was a people pleaser. He

loved, he was adventurous. He was just an all

around skillful man. And those

words, I'm tired. How many

men out there have said that? How

many men out there have you know, felt

that they're tired and don't know what to do. I

felt that was only about six weeks

ago. You know, I had the pressures of the

kids and the cafe, and there was a lot going on with me

and with the family. And I actually said those

same words to myself, I'm tired. like

I see myself as someone with a lot of mana and

a lot of strength, but you know, even these men, they

will break. So I approached Crystal

and I said, look babe, I need time for myself.

She sent me away for a couple of days up

the mountain, all by myself, romantic holiday for one. And I

just went hard and I just, I

was there for me, but I was also there to create

and design a program for men to just come

away and reset. from everyday life, and

I did different breath works up there, which I've been learning lately,

and different modalities, and a lot

of journaling, and I came back like a new, refreshed man.

It was so good, it was so good. But the reason

why I feel men need to come to these retreats and

to get help is our men are like the pillars of

our whānau. We hold our family up. And

with that alone, there's a lot of pressures. Pressures

of providing and protecting our whānau, as

well as stepping out into the world and being

and doing your best. But I just feel

sometimes you just need to step back, slow

down a bit to be able to

propel forward. So

yeah, it was an amazing two days

I had away on my own and to reflect and really

dig deep into my purpose and what I want to

It was really confirmation, I think, as well to

know, like, even though we believed so much in

the importance of taking men outside of

the chaos and the struggles

and the pressure of daily life, we knew that. We

knew that that was really important and needed, so

that one, you can get time to reflect, rest, and

then enter back in powerful, but to see

the actual results in you, like literally at

breaking point. Like, it sort of almost

became like, we're great communicators. I think that's

the strength, the strongest point of our relationship is

that we do communicate when something's not right. And

I remember reading that a strong relationship is

based on the way you communicate, and

one way is either solving the problem together

and working against that to achieve a common goal. Or

the other thing is that you work against each other. And I

kind of felt just before you were leaving to

go up there, we were sort of starting to separate. It

was you and me and not us. And

you know, these retreats are really designed to take the

man away to be able to to shed

all the weight of the world and then to come back

strong and be all the things that they are

destined to be. And what's important to

them, you know, like society says a man is

the provider and the protector and, you know, it's

sometimes very hard and you can, like you said, get very tired

of doing that day in, day out, day in, day out. And

when you were able to go away and do the breath

work and do the journaling and do an ice bath. You

did, you came back a new person and you were able to give so

much more because your cup was full. And I think normalizing

doing this is going to be a game changer, not

only just for like our generation and the men today, but

for future generations. Imagine like now you're able

to teach your sons. that,

you know, like, yes, push, be the

best that you can be, but also give

Yeah. And also, like, what made me do

what I, you know, what I did is taking responsibility, too, for

my actions and for where I was at that point. Instead

of waiting for someone to come and save me or

tell me, you know, you need help or whatever, I

had to take that responsibility and

know that I needed to better myself. I needed to

Because you're only human, right? 100%. And so with all

those pressures in life that were kind of

piling up on top of each other, you actually started acting a

blaming, all those things

that you've worked so hard to not use

as your first reaction. You

know, like for so long you've been responding to situations and

because you were just under a mountain of pressure, you

started reacting almost like getting, pushing things

away. And yeah, and I think that, Seeing

you come back in your true power and

having a clear focus, I remember one of the things you

said, you needed to find yourself. You needed

to find yourself. And I think that within our men's retreats, one

of our intentions is to help men to discover

who they are and what they want out of life. Like

you could be 30, 40, 50 and still not know, just be

on the daily grind, fighting the pressure of life and chaos

and not actually have a clear direction. But what we

want to do is actually help people find

that direction, eh? and support them,

support them in that direction. And we've

learnt so many modalities and techniques

and we've wrapped it up into three

to five days and really letting go

of the constraints of life and stripping

back everything without the without

the dramaticness of it. We want to normalize going

away, taking time without being so dramatic. We

find a lot

of today's healing needs to be a big show and all

of that, and that's not what we're about. We

feel like we're a beautiful balance of masculine and

feminine coming in together in a beautiful package to

help people to become their

true self. And

that's what I love about you. So whānau,

basically we

are truly passionate about creating

a space for you to become your true self, to

strip away the layers and to remove

the pressure from life. And

we encourage you, if any of this has resonated, if you've

got any more questions, just to leave a comment below,

reach out to us on all of our social platforms, and