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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I

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am Melissa Delia, your host and very excited to bring to you

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today. A new friend of mine, Lisa Brewer. Welcome, Lisa.

Lisa Brewer:

Well, thank you for having me what Thank you for

Lisa Brewer:

having me. I'm super excited about this.

Melissa Deally:

Me too. It's so perfect that I've recently met

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you and your work is in the field of inspiration and this

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month is my focus is on inspiration. And it just turns

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out that April has five Saturdays, and I needed an extra

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show. And you popped into my life. How amazing is that? So I

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just want to introduce you to the audience. Lisa is a doctor

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of metaphysics and divinity CEO of heart and heart of

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inspiration and founder of the practical lightworker program

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and YouTube creator of her channel heart of inspiration.

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Lisa teaches Lightworkers that making a difference can be

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rewarding both empathically as well as financially. I love

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that. So yes, you popped into my life for a reason. And you were

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gonna say something a moment ago about that. So I'm gonna let you

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share that and share your story. How did you come to be a doctor

Melissa Deally:

of metaphysics and focusing on inspiration in the way that you

Melissa Deally:

do?

Unknown:

Yeah, thank you, I was just going to say that the

Unknown:

universe always conspires, right and make sure that we get to

Unknown:

meet the wonderful beings that were meant to at the absolute

Unknown:

right time, you know, if you practice being in that flow, and

Unknown:

that's a huge part of my story is being in the flow, right? So

Melissa Deally:

I'm very definitely working on practicing

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now and surrendering into and I love it when I do when I

Melissa Deally:

surrender into it, the answers come the resources show up the

Melissa Deally:

people are there.

Unknown:

And yes, and, and it's interesting, because at first

Unknown:

when we do surrender to the flow, so we could just let's

Unknown:

just go here, when we surrender to the flow, what happens at

Unknown:

first is, we naturally feel a little bit nervous, right?

Unknown:

Because we are kind of our third dimensional selves, our third

Unknown:

dimensional brain and ego is kind of is releasing

Unknown:

relinquishing control to an energetic, whatever soup if you

Unknown:

will, that it can't see taste, touch or feel or hear, right.

Unknown:

And so when we do that, we don't really recognize that we're

Unknown:

actually surrendering ourselves not to some external force, but

Unknown:

to ourselves, we're actually just kind of allowing our spirit

Unknown:

or our Higher Self that is eternal, has been here from the

Unknown:

beginning of time to be here to the end, because you can't, you

Unknown:

know, you can't destroy or create energy. And so that

Unknown:

energetic essence is what's having a human experience. So

Unknown:

really, it's our own humanity that's having this experience

Unknown:

that we just kind of say, Okay, I'm not going to actually

Unknown:

control everything. I'm gonna allow the eternal energy,

Unknown:

wisdom, love, light, beauty, all of those things. What's of my

Unknown:

highest good to actually move me into the right direction. So

Unknown:

scary at first because you're like, Well, I don't know where

Unknown:

that's coming from. I've got to make it right. I've got to like,

Unknown:

get in here and do or something.

Melissa Deally:

Especially if you have all that dialogue of

Melissa Deally:

doo doo doo and you got to work hard for success and all of you

Melissa Deally:

know I have a lot of that going on. And I'll admit, I'm a little

Melissa Deally:

bit of a control freak. And so, you know, learning to let go is

Melissa Deally:

you're right. It's scary. And it's hard. Yes. But it's

Melissa Deally:

rewarding to.

Unknown:

Absolutely. And in letting go, what the coolest

Unknown:

thing is, is I've recognized as I actually gain more control.

Unknown:

And let me explain that to you. So, because I don't feel on a

Unknown:

consistent basis that I have to make things happen, right,

Unknown:

because I was told the same things that you were told. And

Unknown:

you know, and it's been Mike growing up, right, it was

Unknown:

always, for me, being a melanated woman, young woman at

Unknown:

the time child, that I had to work twice as hard to get half

Unknown:

as much. So you know, because I had all these strikes against

Unknown:

me, I'm female, I'm a melanin in my skin, right? You know, all

Unknown:

these things. These are strikes, and heaven forbid, actually had

Unknown:

children, I didn't stay married to the person I had children

Unknown:

with when I'm single parent strikes, right? didn't finish

Unknown:

college. Because, you know, the original College, Northwestern

Unknown:

University, studying about chemistry didn't finish that,

Unknown:

because I got pregnant my senior year and ran out of financial

Unknown:

aid all at the same time, strike, there's all these things

Unknown:

that I was told that I should not be able to ever have been

Unknown:

successful in corporate America, be a minister, and ordained

Unknown:

minister in the nondenominational church go all

Unknown:

around the country raised three kids climb the corporate ladder,

Unknown:

you know, but I also though, had all of these entrepreneurs had

Unknown:

these entrepreneurial failures, I started to gain a ton of

Unknown:

weight, I started to not eat very healthy, didn't have very

Unknown:

healthy habits, no time for exercise, no time to eat good,

Unknown:

no time to do this. No time to do that. And then my body, you

Unknown:

know, develop high blood pressure, diet, pre diabetic,

Unknown:

like all of these other things, and that even of itself, even

Unknown:

gaining the weight, then there's a strike against you in

Unknown:

corporate America, right? Because you're not a certain

Unknown:

size, right there. Are there all of these biases that exist?

Melissa Deally:

And how many people listening are relating to

Melissa Deally:

this right now? Right? It's not like you're the only one and yet

Melissa Deally:

it is a strike against, you know, all of these things are

Melissa Deally:

strikes against so many people. And the reality is, is that some

Melissa Deally:

of those strikes trigger, you know, the responses, and the

Melissa Deally:

actions taken by you, which lead to the next strike and the next

Melissa Deally:

strike. Right, in this messed up judgemental world that we live

Melissa Deally:

in. Yeah, yeah. Which is still a wonderful world. But we, you

Melissa Deally:

know, when we come from that place of love, and curiosity and

Melissa Deally:

inspiration, as opposed to judgment, that's when it can be

Melissa Deally:

a wonderful work.

Unknown:

Absolutely. But you have to do that for yourself

Unknown:

first before you can do with anybody else. Yeah, that was the

Unknown:

thing that I that if I was kind of like, the theme, right? Is at

Unknown:

some point, I had to learn how to have compassion for myself

Unknown:

first, I had a ton of compassion for everybody else. A ton gave

Unknown:

gave gave gave gave to corporations, to people to

Unknown:

children as to that all that. But I didn't have any compassion

Unknown:

for me. Right. So all the stress I was putting myself under some

Unknown:

of it was like, normal, okay, we got to put food on the table,

Unknown:

keep a roof over our head, you know, being a single parent.

Unknown:

Yeah, okay, I get that. But really, it because I didn't

Unknown:

truly love myself. And I didn't have a good passion on myself,

Unknown:

that showed itself in over eating and making bad choices

Unknown:

not doing these things. Because on all honesty, I didn't feel

Unknown:

like I deserved any of that. I didn't deserve to have this

Unknown:

life, whatever this life was, the body then was experiencing

Unknown:

all of that. And when we put ourselves under so much stress,

Unknown:

you know, we're going to hang on to write the visceral fats and

Unknown:

we're going to, you know, we're gonna go to the comfort that

Unknown:

quote unquote, comfort foods, you know, before we choose to

Unknown:

eat in a healthy manner, because our brain hasn't like kind of

Unknown:

turned all the rest of that garbage off and said, You know

Unknown:

what a salad can kind of be a comfort food, like, actually now

Unknown:

I'm like, Oh, let me just go make a salad. That feels real

Unknown:

good right now, but I just switched my whole thing rather

Unknown:

than that piece of chocolate cake to. Oh, that sounds pretty

Unknown:

good. You know what I'm saying? And just become that

Unknown:

compassionate person oneself and really feel like I deserved to

Unknown:

live?

Melissa Deally:

Yeah, yeah. So there's a lot of personal growth

Melissa Deally:

in there a lot of mindset shifts that are happening through that

Melissa Deally:

process as well as even potentially tapping into the

Melissa Deally:

unconscious mind to release some of what has been deeply stored

Melissa Deally:

in there from those formative years of zero to seven.

Unknown:

And that then has been put upon and put upon letting

Unknown:

you know when I think of the layers of the programming that

Unknown:

we receive, not just from zero to seven, but from seven to 70

Unknown:

and 70 into whatever right. It's so multilayer it's just line

Unknown:

upon line, precept upon precept, that we have to make that some

Unknown:

point we make a conscious decision. Hopefully, to say,

Unknown:

this does not need to be this way, I do not need to live my

Unknown:

life this way. And a lot of times what will happen is, you

Unknown:

know, some people will go on a weight loss journey or a health,

Unknown:

a healthy living journey, and not even realize that the true

Unknown:

journey is the spiritual journey that is happening, right? That's

Unknown:

where you get to the core of everything is by going through

Unknown:

the spiritual journey. In our world, we will call it the dark

Unknown:

night of the soul, right? We go through this, like, oh my god,

Unknown:

right. But we've got to do that to root out all of these

Unknown:

programs and the energies and emotions. And the guilt that we

Unknown:

hold on to that doesn't belong to us. The shame, that doesn't

Unknown:

belong to us. I mean, women we were that we imagined men to

Unknown:

write, we were that around our belly, I learned that belly fat

Unknown:

was because I was holding on to I was holding on to like this

Unknown:

guilt and the shame. And this was a protection device. So

Unknown:

people wouldn't come close, right? That's like, that's

Unknown:

crazy. To me, it was absolute craziness to me. But it's so

Unknown:

true. is so true. And then as I began to be willing to shed that

Unknown:

protection, get into the flow, it's kind of all goes back,

Unknown:

right? Get into the flow and release the need to control

Unknown:

because the more I try to control every person and every

Unknown:

energy, and every ounce of my life, the more out of control,

Unknown:

freaking god, I did not get the results I wanted, right, because

Unknown:

I was actually pushing away the very thing that I wanted, which

Unknown:

was just to live in peace and love and harmony and neutrality

Unknown:

itself. So it started moving in slow, and I'm like, okay, then

Unknown:

the little things happen. I was listening to one of your

Unknown:

podcasts, and you were talking about admiring the sunrise and

Unknown:

how we would never use your wake, right for the sunrise. I'm

Unknown:

listening to you describe, sitting on that dock, right? And

Unknown:

watching the sun come up, what a beautiful and amazing moment in

Unknown:

time, and what a beautiful energy to make yourself a part

Unknown:

of him to be in concert with, without having to think about

Unknown:

anything else. Just gonna watch the sunrise and the dawn of a

Unknown:

new day, that now I get to do all these new wonderful things.

Unknown:

It's a new adventure, but you put yourself in that flow in

Unknown:

that adventure, and didn't worry about what else was going to

Unknown:

happen for the rest of the day. I thought was that just to like,

Unknown:

wake up and not and enjoy this? To start my day? How

Unknown:

inspirational is that? You kidding me? Just doing those

Unknown:

things, then open things open so much more up for us.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah. Yeah. And you're right. And that that was

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an amazing experience. And I'm grateful to my daughter for kind

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of bully me into being willing to get up early enough to

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experience because it was pretty early. We didn't want to miss

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any of the sunrise. So we had to get up when it was still pitch

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black right so that we could then see those light colors

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start to come across the sky. And and it is it's it's the dawn

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of a new day where it doesn't matter what's happened before?

Melissa Deally:

No, this is a clean slate. We can start fresh. Yes. And it

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happens every 24 hours. And Mother Nature is always there

Melissa Deally:

doing its thing, despite what we as humanity are doing, right. I

Melissa Deally:

mean, we only have to look at the last two years and the

Melissa Deally:

craziness in the world from the perspective of what we humans

Melissa Deally:

have had to deal with. But everything in nature has

Melissa Deally:

remained unchanged. Although they've had The benefits of us

Melissa Deally:

slowing down a little bit in the world getting a little bit

Melissa Deally:

cleaner. Absolutely. But they just keep doing their thing.

Unknown:

Absolutely. And then if you think about that, and

Unknown:

internalize it and bring it into the esoteric, right, every day,

Unknown:

your son or your solar plexus, every day your son dawns, every

Unknown:

day, it dawns. It's a new dawn. So when you allow your son to

Unknown:

rise up over the horizon, and you allow your light to be

Unknown:

turned on, and your power, then to be emanated from you, every

Unknown:

day is a brand new adventure, every single day. So what are

Unknown:

you going to do today with today, and not worry about what

Unknown:

happened yesterday, because that's dead and gone already. By

Unknown:

the time you're any of the listeners right now, by the time

Unknown:

you're listening to this, by the time you process, the words that

Unknown:

have just exited my mouth. It's that time has already passed.

Unknown:

It's already in the past. So we're actually when we say we're

Unknown:

being like mindful and present. We're actually living in a

Unknown:

perpetual time loop of President past president past, yes, the

Unknown:

key is to get out of that time loop and allow the flow of the

Unknown:

future, to allow your consciousness to be in the flow

Unknown:

of the future. So that it inspires, and it molds and it

Unknown:

shapes every moment as you become aware of it in the

Unknown:

present. And then alters your past. So that's the place to get

Unknown:

to. Yeah, yeah,

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And so tell, tell me more tell me,

Melissa Deally:

like, how does one get to that or tell me more about the

Melissa Deally:

courses that you offer, if that's what gets you there. But

Melissa Deally:

I'm just intrigued to know more about the practice of getting to

Melissa Deally:

that place.

Unknown:

Well, getting to that place is all about learning to

Unknown:

live in neutrality and learning to live in your higher self.

Unknown:

Some people might be familiar with the hermetic, seven

Unknown:

hermetic principles. And, you know, we find these principles

Unknown:

actually in in different religious texts and things of

Unknown:

that nature as well. But it's really learning that you are a

Unknown:

energetic or spiritual being having a human experience, it's

Unknown:

not the other way around. So for me, and every given moment in

Unknown:

time, I have surrendered to the flow. So I just know that

Unknown:

whatever I am experiencing in this moment, has been ordained,

Unknown:

right? And is of my highest good, and that my energetic

Unknown:

being, is guiding it in concert with creator with God with

Unknown:

source, whatever name you wish to associate, however, the

Unknown:

universe or God has revealed itself to you. So that that

Unknown:

conversation is always going on. Right? So I talk a lot about

Unknown:

that on my YouTube channel, heart of inspiration. And on my

Unknown:

Instagram, which is at heart of ANSP. We do a lot. I haven't

Unknown:

quite cracked the tic tac code. Maybe I'll get on there for the

Unknown:

young folks at some point. But so those two my main two places,

Unknown:

right, and my website, we put out a weekly newsletter, we

Unknown:

talked about that kind of stuff, harder inspiration, dotnet. But

Unknown:

what I do is I help Lightworkers or people that are of light,

Unknown:

people that wish to be transformational. Coaches,

Unknown:

healers, teachers, mentors, that they want to put their stamp on

Unknown:

humanity. Right, right. Yup. This is who I am. And yup, this

Unknown:

is why I want to do with my life. And maybe you're wanting

Unknown:

to become part of the great resignation and actually be an

Unknown:

entrepreneur. Like, like I am, right and, and like many others

Unknown:

of us. So I help you do that I happen to step into your

Unknown:

purpose, I help you gain the esoteric tools, if that's your

Unknown:

what you'd like to do gain esoteric tools to live in your

Unknown:

purpose, and then also create an actual business. That's what's

Unknown:

called the practical lightworker. So it's not just a

Unknown:

hobby, right? It is, who you speak it to what what

Unknown:

transformation, like I take you through every bit, every bit of

Unknown:

it, so that you can have a solid foundation to have a thriving,

Unknown:

create a thriving six figure business. So that's what I do.

Unknown:

It's called the practical lightworker. And I'm, go to my

Unknown:

website. I'd love to chat with you. It's wonderful. I love it.

Melissa Deally:

I love it too. And I think it's such a needed

Melissa Deally:

service right now because so many people are really heart

Melissa Deally:

centered and they're wanting to give and serve more people, et

Melissa Deally:

cetera, et cetera, but they're finding it hard to make money.

Melissa Deally:

Look at that, right? Absolutely. And so having people be able to

Melissa Deally:

bring the two together. And very often it's, you know, again,

Melissa Deally:

coming back to those blocks from our younger years that are

Melissa Deally:

getting in the way, right. And I was just doing some tapping this

Melissa Deally:

morning on this very subject, right. And because I'm working

Melissa Deally:

on it myself for myself, too, and it was just, you know, part

Melissa Deally:

of it is that realization that it's, it's okay to make money

Melissa Deally:

serving others, because when you make that money, then we'll a

Melissa Deally:

it's a sign that you're serving more people, and be you can do

Melissa Deally:

more with the money that you're making.

Unknown:

Absolutely. Right. And it's not about the money. I

Unknown:

think that's what people need to like, we it's an energy

Unknown:

exchange. And so this is what I teach as well. And you know,

Unknown:

there's a, there's a fabulous transformation that happens in

Unknown:

Sox as we work together, and really step into your purpose.

Unknown:

Because my mantra is to give permission to your purpose to

Unknown:

provide for your person.

Melissa Deally:

I like that.

Unknown:

And so at some point, I had to get permission, right?

Unknown:

And so that's what we did it help others. But when you grow

Unknown:

so much, you want to my inner child healing, and you went

Unknown:

about that, is that get in there because a lot of that has to

Unknown:

surrounds money. I mean, even in, in any religious text you

Unknown:

read, anytime the prophet or the teacher came to town, did they

Unknown:

just let them come to town and not feed them not clothed them

Unknown:

that give them money for their trip on their way? That they did

Unknown:

not bring them something as a gift or a token of their

Unknown:

appreciation? Of course they did. It's just now the token of

Unknown:

our appreciate appreciation rather than a goat or a fine

Unknown:

linen, or some some frankincense or myrrh other oil is in the

Unknown:

form of money. Yeah, it's no different

Melissa Deally:

as you say, it's the exchange. Exactly. It is.

Unknown:

Absolutely is. Yeah.

Melissa Deally:

So I'd love to go back and have you share a

Melissa Deally:

little bit of your story and how you came into this work and how

Melissa Deally:

your own spiritual growth has impacted your health and well

Melissa Deally:

being.

Unknown:

Awesome. So you don't have a long sordid tale here.

Unknown:

But what I can tell you is so I'm the mother of a single

Unknown:

mother of three wonderful adult children, two daughters, one

Unknown:

son, and the grandmother of two beautiful granddaughters. My

Unknown:

eldest granddaughter is going to be eight this year. I've been an

Unknown:

ordained Christian minister. I've been in corporate America,

Unknown:

all these great things and wonderful things, right.

Unknown:

However, I lost my father when I was 40 years old. He was only

Unknown:

65, almost 66. At the time, he died of a in a diabetic coma. He

Unknown:

had battled diabetes, he was adult onset diabetes, he never

Unknown:

would eat right Dad never would like he just refused. So he

Unknown:

could have actually type one, nipped it in the bud and didn't.

Unknown:

And then ended up insulin dependent. And eventually that,

Unknown:

you know, that took him and my mother has his Crohn's disease

Unknown:

is that Crohn's disease for as long as I can remember. And so I

Unknown:

lost that at 40. And then short not too long after that. My son

Unknown:

and his girlfriend at the time, were pregnant with my eldest

Unknown:

granddaughter, and I was almost 300 pounds. I was severely I

Unknown:

really, really bad high blood pressure. And I was pre diabetic

Unknown:

high cholesterol. And I was so she'll be so I'm 33. So I was

Unknown:

like, 4546. So it's been five years after dad passed. And I

Unknown:

realized that if I didn't change, I wasn't going to be

Unknown:

able to see my grandma, my granddaughter. Become a woman.

Unknown:

Like I didn't know how long I was gonna live. Right? And that

Unknown:

shook me into changing my lifestyle. You know, over the

Unknown:

years, I've lost probably I'd lost at that point. 85 pounds,

Unknown:

probably put a few more pounds back on, you know, her I'm 53.

Unknown:

Now, so that's that battles a little tougher. But during that

Unknown:

time of weight loss and transformation, and then as when

Unknown:

she was born, I realized this, I'm holding her. I'm like, This

Unknown:

is my legacy. You know, your children. Yeah, either. But your

Unknown:

grandbabies are really your legacy. And I said, I'm going to

Unknown:

teach you everything that I wished I had known. Great. Your

Unknown:

father was little right. And that really catapulted me into

Unknown:

this inner child work. And this inner child discovery and this

Unknown:

spiritual discovery outside of whatever religious norms and

Unknown:

everything else and to finally get into a place where I

Unknown:

actually loved myself. Because yeah, your kids love you. But I

Unknown:

don't know if your grandkids but the grandbabies love you in a

Unknown:

whole new way. You literally can do no wrong, you are a saint.

Unknown:

All sins are forgiven, you are a saint to your grandchildren. And

Unknown:

it really teaches you how to love yourself. Unconditionally.

Melissa Deally:

Yeah, because that unconditional love is being

Melissa Deally:

mirrored right back at you from them. Yes. And probably from

Melissa Deally:

your own children when they're really, really little. But at

Melissa Deally:

that point, you're just so busy trying to do everything that you

Melissa Deally:

need to be doing to care for them that you're not noticing

Melissa Deally:

it, you don't have the same awareness of it as you do with

Melissa Deally:

your grandchild where now you've, you know, got some time

Melissa Deally:

and you're not having to care for them. 24/7. And it just

Melissa Deally:

shows up and mirrors right back at you.

Unknown:

Because it's beautiful.

Melissa Deally:

It is beautiful. And I really love what's so

Melissa Deally:

beautiful is to is that in, you know, she's teaching you as much

Melissa Deally:

as you're teaching her.

Unknown:

Absolutely. And yes, and she's teaching me reminding

Unknown:

me how to be young again. Yeah, the other thing I've found out

Unknown:

through this spirituality, this like journey, and really get

Unknown:

into this quantum living and just living in a space of

Unknown:

neutrality without stress and strain. And all this stuff is I

Unknown:

feel like I'm turning back the clock. In other words, I'm

Unknown:

living a healthier lifestyle. Why? Because I want to take care

Unknown:

of my body a little bit more. And I want to put less of

Unknown:

certain things and energies into my being. Because you know, I

Unknown:

want to remain in tune with the universe at all times and my

Unknown:

higher self. And then what happens is, you get younger,

Unknown:

it's kind of crazy. But like where I had osteoarthritis and

Unknown:

my knees, I don't have that anymore. You eat better for

Unknown:

other reasons. And now all of a sudden, all the inflammation has

Unknown:

left your body and you're like, Wow, I feel pretty darn good.

Unknown:

You have so much more energy. And people on a regular basis

Unknown:

are like your house? No, no way. And I'm like, Yeah, and I don't

Unknown:

know how it's supposed to feel that I certainly don't feel it.

Unknown:

So it is made a huge difference. I mean, I'm no longer pre

Unknown:

diabetic, I've perfect cholesterol, we're almost off

Unknown:

all of my high blood pressure medications like I might, I am

Unknown:

in probably the best house at 53. That I have been in probably

Unknown:

three decades, to be honest with you.

Melissa Deally:

And I love that. And I particularly love it

Melissa Deally:

because that's actually the work that I do with my clients all

Melissa Deally:

the time. And it's it's who I am, too, I say that as well. I'm

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the same age as you are. And I, you know, I feel better than I

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did 20 years ago, because in the last seven years, as I've moved

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into my health and wellness journey, I've slowly taken the

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baby steps to implement all the learning that I've had in how to

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take better care of my body. And the desire to want to take

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better care of my body and to recognize that my body is my

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health, and my body is my greatest asset. And so why am I

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not prioritizing it as my greatest asset? Right?

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Absolutely. Instead of taking it for granted and thinking, I

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don't have to worry about my health, if I get sick, I'll go

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to the doctor, they'll make me better. It's not their job to

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make me better. It's my job to look after this asset. Just like

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I buy a house I look after the house, I take the garbage out

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and I do the vacuuming and the sweeping and I you know, fix

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things when they're broken. And I renovate when I need to or my

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car, you know, I clean that I take it for oil changes, et

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cetera, et cetera. Yeah. So when we align and we respect our

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health in the same way and treat it as an assets, like our other

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big assets in our life, our body is incredible, because it is

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designed to self heal. And it when we create the environment

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for it to heal, that's exactly what it will do. So

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congratulations to you for being able to get you know, bring your

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cholesterol levels down to being normal and almost off your high

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blood pressure medications and you're you're gone away, et

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cetera, et cetera. So amazing. It's truly amazing. Thank you

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what the body can do when we step into that. So how did you

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find the inspiration yourself to step into your purpose? It's

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your granddaughter's part of it. Is there more to it than that or

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that was she was really that was the answer. ration.

Unknown:

I think the next biggest thing was when my second

Unknown:

marriage broke up near I thought I had the life perfect life in

Unknown:

my late 40s, right. And then my second marriage, completely

Unknown:

exploited and imploded. And all in the same 30 days, to break

Unknown:

up, move him out. And then I was downsized from my corporate job

Unknown:

at the time because I stood up for someone in my organization

Unknown:

that was being bullied. And so all of a sudden, in 30 days, my

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perfect life was in shambles. And I couldn't find solace in

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anything that I had ever found it in before it was all fake and

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phony to me. And finally, as I finally said, Well, what do you

Unknown:

want to do lease? What do you want to do with your life. And I

Unknown:

didn't even know at first fully what that meant. All I knew is I

Unknown:

wanted to help other people find themselves love themselves and

Unknown:

not get into toxic relationships over and over in any toxic

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romantic, or, or career or friendship, or familial. Like, I

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recognize that there was toxicity that littered my whole

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landscape. And I kept choosing and kept getting in these

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situations, the pattern that we keep repeating, yes. And my

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desire, my need my absolute, like, I've got to get out of

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this, get off this hamster wheel, right. And live life is

Unknown:

what propelled me into starting to find my purpose. And so

Unknown:

that's when I started the YouTube channel. And then I

Unknown:

started working with women in different ways. And men, some

Unknown:

men as well, but that were like going on this path, right? of

Unknown:

toxic, toxic, toxic and just like suffering all this stuff,

Unknown:

right. And I was I needed to help them out of their trauma.

Unknown:

That's how I started. And then it over three years, four years

Unknown:

now, it's become my life, and it's become everything that it

Unknown:

is now, and I'm really able to be in it. But yeah, take that

Unknown:

first step, this is going in flow, take that first step,

Unknown:

because you don't know what it's going to evolve to. Mm hmm. And

Unknown:

I

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love that the sharing in that story there

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because I actually just bought Darren Hardy's journal, living

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your best year. And I bought it because I'm reading the book,

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atomic habits. And, you know, I have my to do list books like

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this one here for those watching on video. But I haven't really

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sat down and deeply contemplated what I want my year to look

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like, you know, I kind of just pull it off the top of my head

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in my rush, rush, rush, go world, right? And I thought, no,

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I need to sit down and do this. And so I love this book, because

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it actually takes you through eight steps in designing your

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year. And one of the things that he said was when he was talking

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about relationship and family is that your spouse really meet can

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meet 80% of your needs, right? But we focus on the 20% that

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they don't meet. And then we might leave that relationship

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and go to another relationship where initially it might feel

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better because they're meeting the 20% that weren't being met

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before, but still only another 60%. So there's still going to

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be a 20% gap, right? And the reality is, is that it's us that

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have to change, not the other person. But so often, we spend

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all of our time and energy focusing on what's wrong and how

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the other person has to change. Yeah. And we do, and then we're

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not able to move forward. Because we're not growing, we're

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blaming, we're not taking responsibility. Absolutely. And

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so it's just a really interesting way that he put that

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because I've never seen that stat before if 80%

Unknown:

Yeah, I haven't either. It's interesting, though,

Unknown:

because I look at relationships a little bit differently. I

Unknown:

don't feel that your partner should meet a need of yours at

Unknown:

all.

Unknown:

No, interesting. Yeah,

Unknown:

I feel like relationships should it's really it's not 5050 or

Unknown:

8020 or 6040. It's 100 100. And if you can come into it or grow

Unknown:

while you're in it. Yeah. To a point where you recognize that

Unknown:

what we perceive as a need, typically, I find is an area of

Unknown:

unhealed energetic trauma. Right? Right. And so we somehow

Unknown:

feel like we need someone to fill that gap when that's really

Unknown:

That's really where we're at. To me, this is Lisa. So I come into

Unknown:

it, like, let's get you as whole as we can. So that I can present

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myself then as here. I'm not looking to you to make me happy.

Unknown:

I mean, right now, because happiness is my choice. Yes,

Unknown:

definitely. Just like happiness is yours. I can't make you be

Unknown:

happy. Right? Like that song says, I can't make you love me

Unknown:

if you don't, great. I can't make your heartbeat something

Unknown:

that it won't. Right. So they can't make you that feel that

Unknown:

either. So I come to it in a sense of, I would say for me, if

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I was going to get at 20 There's probably 80% of stuff that I can

Unknown:

like, I'm cool with like, it's no problem. And there's probably

Unknown:

that 20% That grades on my last earthly nerve. And I gotta

Unknown:

decide whether I'm just gonna like be like, Okay, that's, you

Unknown:

know, we got 80 Over here. We're cool. Yeah. But yeah, there's

Unknown:

more that we need to do within ourselves. Absolutely, I would

Unknown:

rather be wanted than needed.

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If you're enjoying my content, and someone

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that wants to step into being proactive in your health and

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learning more, I would love to invite you to join my membership

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community, there's a link in the show notes for only 1999 a

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month, you get access to all of my content. And there's a lot as

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well as weekly calls that you can come and get your health

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questions answered. It's truly priceless. I'd love to see you

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join the community, check out the link in the show notes. Yes,

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I totally agree with I totally agree with that approach. And

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what you're saying there as well. And I think there's some

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form of fusion between the two. And definitely while you've said

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it there. But really what it comes down to is taking

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responsibility ourselves, yes, for our own happiness, for our

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choice as to how we view the world and how we asked who the

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other people in our world, it's out. There, we choose to focus

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on the negative or two instead, which could only be 20%, or

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focus on the 80%. That is super positive.

Unknown:

And that's empowering in your entire life of choice

Unknown:

chosen to listen to the statistics, and the this and the

Unknown:

that and the narrative that the world wants to put out here

Unknown:

about me, as a melanated. Woman, I could have chosen that, as a

Unknown:

single mother could have chosen that could have chosen to do

Unknown:

that for my kids or whatever. But I chose a long time ago not

Unknown:

to, and I absolutely, now vehemently refuse to. So when

Unknown:

people come to me about certain situations that are happening in

Unknown:

the world. I hear it. But that's not my life. I make a conscious

Unknown:

decision every moment of every day, that that's not my life.

Unknown:

And that's not my experience. Now something comes in that's

Unknown:

looks similar to what that other world is I'm now you're not part

Unknown:

of my story. So I can approach it from a place of neutrality

Unknown:

and power, because you I'm not allowing myself to devolve into

Unknown:

the fear. Right. And the control. Yeah, we can choose

Unknown:

this life. Yes. And I wish we would more often like this a

Unknown:

fabulous way to live.

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It is a fabulous way to live. And I really I wish

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this was taught more through our school system. Absolutely.

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Honestly, you know, I'm stepping into all of this personal growth

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and learning and figuring out who I am and my purpose and my

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passion and understanding that yes, this is what I was put here

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on this earth to do. But in my 40s and 50s. I know, how much

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nicer would it have been to you know, have been figuring this

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out when I was 10?

Unknown:

Absolutely. But isn't it beautiful that we now get to

Unknown:

teach the younger generation that's raising the 10 year old?

Unknown:

Exactly. It's why it's okay to let them dream. It really be all

Unknown:

right. You know, and let them just explore. Yeah, that's

Unknown:

wonderful.

Melissa Deally:

And it's okay to have mindfulness in the

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classroom. And yeah, so beneficial. And, you know, there

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was a time here where yoga couldn't be taught in our

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schools because it had religious connotations. And that has now

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changed, which I'm very grateful for. And at the time I was

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laying, okay, let's call it stretching. Yeah, right. Right.

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So we're definitely moving in the right direction. And there's

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so much more awareness around all of this and so your message

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is getting out in the message of others, but maybe share with the

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audience how living in purpose has really helped you overall,

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move forward.

Unknown:

It is renewed not only just my faith in humanity, but

Unknown:

most importantly, my faith and self. I wake up every day,

Unknown:

knowing that today, I'm going to impact hundreds of people's

Unknown:

lives every day. And I'm excited to find a new way to do it. I'm

Unknown:

excited to like meet new people, and help them in their purpose.

Unknown:

I don't feel like I'm in competition with anyone, because

Unknown:

I'm not, I'm living my own purpose. So that has just given

Unknown:

me such an energy and such as stability. And you know, my

Unknown:

light just shines, because I'm like, like God, because what I

Unknown:

get to do today, and then when I see the results from the people

Unknown:

that I've worked with, and helped, and all the healers and

Unknown:

the teachers, and I mean, I've got like, you know, I've had

Unknown:

like, medical, like doctors and nurse practitioners and

Unknown:

counselors, all kinds of people come in, like, Hey, could you

Unknown:

help me do this? I want to do this in a real, authentic,

Unknown:

holistic way. And the impact they're having. So the you don't

Unknown:

think that your purpose while maybe it's just to do this isn't

Unknown:

isn't? Lisa? Maybe I'm not meant meant to have a huge tribe? I

Unknown:

don't know. Maybe you're not. But guess what? The people that

Unknown:

you do touch, and that you do impact that has an exponential

Unknown:

effect on the entire world,

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like the domino effect, or the ripple.

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Absolutely. And you may never know what that is. And yet, it

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is happening. Yes.

Unknown:

Yeah. So that's how it's just giving me I feel like

Unknown:

a new lease on life. Like I literally feel like, my son came

Unknown:

to me other days like, Mom, they're saying that people are

Unknown:

living to 150. I'm like, Yeah, I guess I'll be one of those

Unknown:

people.

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I'll be there with you. I've always said I'm

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going over 100.

Unknown:

Why do we have to die? Anyway, that's a whole nother

Unknown:

show.

Melissa Deally:

Exactly, exactly. But I love what you've

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said there and to the audience to have them here that yes, you

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can wake up every day, excited, and passionate about why you're

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here, what you're doing, and the ability to help others. And if

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you're not there yet, then work with someone who can help you

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get there, because we are given one life. And I heard someone

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say about I don't know, seven years ago when I really took it

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to heart that we are placed on this earth to serve others, to

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find our passion or purpose and to never stop learning. And when

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we have those three, we truly are fulfilled. And we can wake

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up and choose to be happy every single day as you do as I do.

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But for that person who's still, you know, maybe in that place of

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wondering, what is my purpose? What message do you have for

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them?

Unknown:

It might be counterintuitive to everything

Unknown:

else that we've said today, I find that we did we the first

Unknown:

inkling of what our purpose is, is what has been the pain that

Unknown:

we have come through and overcome and healed. Mm hmm.

Unknown:

Right. So the pain of growing up in a household for me, that was

Unknown:

filled with domestic violence and all kinds of things, right.

Unknown:

And fear and control that began to lead me and then as an adult,

Unknown:

having toxic relationships, that began to lead me to my purpose

Unknown:

of helping women who've come out of abusive toxic relationships.

Unknown:

Right. So and then that just helped. And then and then it

Unknown:

just evolved and it just grew. But usually the first step is

Unknown:

what's the pain that you yourself have come through, and

Unknown:

that you have begun to heal? Right? That's where you can

Unknown:

start finding your purpose.

Melissa Deally:

And it's so true. And that's how I found

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mine it it was watching my girls go through their concussions and

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supporting them through their concussions just after I'd been

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let go and two concussions at the same time in the same

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household. Like when does that happen? Right when I got the

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phone call, two months after the first one about the second one

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from grade eight gym class. I was literally like, wow, really?

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This is how you show me my path. Stop taking out my children.

Unknown:

Well, hopefully it's not that dramatic.

Melissa Deally:

Well, exactly. But again, it was that, you

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know, it's like what did I go through in through that process?

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I went through realizing there was a gap in the market in the

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medical market or model, I should say, of people need to be

Melissa Deally:

supported on that healing journey. It's not enough just to

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go to a practitioner, listen to what they have to say, and then

Melissa Deally:

see them in a week or two weeks, especially with concussion,

Melissa Deally:

because they didn't have the cognitive ability to come home

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and tell me what they've been told I was already forgotten. I

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was going to their appointments with them. So I heard the

Melissa Deally:

information, so I could then support them between the

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appointments and then realizing what other people do. Right? All

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of that is what led me into my journey to becoming a health

Melissa Deally:

coach, and then an integrative health practitioner, etc. As I,

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you know, watched and went through this with my kids. And

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that was the learning that I needed to have in order to step

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into my purpose. Wow, in this world, and my second career, and

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so yeah, so for anyone listening, what's going on in

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your world? What are the lessons that you are being taught? What

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are the challenges that you're facing that you when you come

Melissa Deally:

out the other side, you will have the lesson with that 2020

Melissa Deally:

vision. And then that is what your purpose is likely going to

Melissa Deally:

be as you then share that with others. And help them through

Melissa Deally:

what you've just been through? Because you know exactly where

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they're at. And you know how to guide them through? Absolutely.

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So yeah, well, thank you so, so much for your time. Today. This

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has been a really fun interview. And I love to ask all of my

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guests What does don't wait for your wake up call mean to you.

Unknown:

Don't wait for your wake up call means to me hmm.

Unknown:

Don't put it don't don't put off because of what your parents or

Unknown:

society or the media, social media, whatever, your external

Unknown:

world. Do not wait until it's a crisis moment for you have to

Unknown:

either live or die, basically, for you to choose. I choose

Unknown:

life. Choose life today. You don't have to live it the same

Unknown:

way you're living it right now. Choose life today. That's what

Unknown:

that means to me.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. And so if anybody wants to reach out

Melissa Deally:

to you, at what I know, you've mentioned earlier, a couple of

Melissa Deally:

your social media sites, but please just let everyone know

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the best way to reach out to you.

Unknown:

Yeah, so probably the best way to reach out to me or

Unknown:

to get in contact is to go to heart of inspiration.net. And

Unknown:

you can sign up for my free newsletter, which is like chock

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full of like, blogs and information and tells you I went

Unknown:

I'm going to be on YouTube at heart of inspiration. And what's

Unknown:

coming up on Instagram and got podcasts. There's a lot going

Unknown:

on. Okay, so I got a lot. I'm everywhere, right?

Melissa Deally:

And what is one last tip that you would like to

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leave the audience with so that they can step into their best

Melissa Deally:

version of themselves? Starting today, whatever that might look

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like for them.

Unknown:

Yep. So something that I learned from Mel Robbins

Unknown:

actually make when you get that thought that inspirational

Unknown:

thought that drops in, you have five seconds 54321 Before your

Unknown:

mind takes over and says you can't do it. So when you get

Unknown:

that inspirational thought, I want you to move. Don't wait.

Unknown:

Just move.

Melissa Deally:

I love that. I love that wonderful tip. So

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thank you so so much for joining me here today. Lisa, I really

Melissa Deally:

appreciate your time and wishing you and the audience a fabulous

Melissa Deally:

week. Thank you to everyone for listening. And we will see you

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back here next time.

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