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Melissa Deally:Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast. I
Melissa Deally:am Melissa Delia, your host and very excited to bring to you
Melissa Deally:today. A new friend of mine, Lisa Brewer. Welcome, Lisa.
Lisa Brewer:Well, thank you for having me what Thank you for
Lisa Brewer:having me. I'm super excited about this.
Melissa Deally:Me too. It's so perfect that I've recently met
Melissa Deally:you and your work is in the field of inspiration and this
Melissa Deally:month is my focus is on inspiration. And it just turns
Melissa Deally:out that April has five Saturdays, and I needed an extra
Melissa Deally:show. And you popped into my life. How amazing is that? So I
Melissa Deally:just want to introduce you to the audience. Lisa is a doctor
Melissa Deally:of metaphysics and divinity CEO of heart and heart of
Melissa Deally:inspiration and founder of the practical lightworker program
Melissa Deally:and YouTube creator of her channel heart of inspiration.
Melissa Deally:Lisa teaches Lightworkers that making a difference can be
Melissa Deally:rewarding both empathically as well as financially. I love
Melissa Deally:that. So yes, you popped into my life for a reason. And you were
Melissa Deally:gonna say something a moment ago about that. So I'm gonna let you
Melissa Deally:share that and share your story. How did you come to be a doctor
Melissa Deally:of metaphysics and focusing on inspiration in the way that you
Melissa Deally:do?
Unknown:Yeah, thank you, I was just going to say that the
Unknown:universe always conspires, right and make sure that we get to
Unknown:meet the wonderful beings that were meant to at the absolute
Unknown:right time, you know, if you practice being in that flow, and
Unknown:that's a huge part of my story is being in the flow, right? So
Melissa Deally:I'm very definitely working on practicing
Melissa Deally:now and surrendering into and I love it when I do when I
Melissa Deally:surrender into it, the answers come the resources show up the
Melissa Deally:people are there.
Unknown:And yes, and, and it's interesting, because at first
Unknown:when we do surrender to the flow, so we could just let's
Unknown:just go here, when we surrender to the flow, what happens at
Unknown:first is, we naturally feel a little bit nervous, right?
Unknown:Because we are kind of our third dimensional selves, our third
Unknown:dimensional brain and ego is kind of is releasing
Unknown:relinquishing control to an energetic, whatever soup if you
Unknown:will, that it can't see taste, touch or feel or hear, right.
Unknown:And so when we do that, we don't really recognize that we're
Unknown:actually surrendering ourselves not to some external force, but
Unknown:to ourselves, we're actually just kind of allowing our spirit
Unknown:or our Higher Self that is eternal, has been here from the
Unknown:beginning of time to be here to the end, because you can't, you
Unknown:know, you can't destroy or create energy. And so that
Unknown:energetic essence is what's having a human experience. So
Unknown:really, it's our own humanity that's having this experience
Unknown:that we just kind of say, Okay, I'm not going to actually
Unknown:control everything. I'm gonna allow the eternal energy,
Unknown:wisdom, love, light, beauty, all of those things. What's of my
Unknown:highest good to actually move me into the right direction. So
Unknown:scary at first because you're like, Well, I don't know where
Unknown:that's coming from. I've got to make it right. I've got to like,
Unknown:get in here and do or something.
Melissa Deally:Especially if you have all that dialogue of
Melissa Deally:doo doo doo and you got to work hard for success and all of you
Melissa Deally:know I have a lot of that going on. And I'll admit, I'm a little
Melissa Deally:bit of a control freak. And so, you know, learning to let go is
Melissa Deally:you're right. It's scary. And it's hard. Yes. But it's
Melissa Deally:rewarding to.
Unknown:Absolutely. And in letting go, what the coolest
Unknown:thing is, is I've recognized as I actually gain more control.
Unknown:And let me explain that to you. So, because I don't feel on a
Unknown:consistent basis that I have to make things happen, right,
Unknown:because I was told the same things that you were told. And
Unknown:you know, and it's been Mike growing up, right, it was
Unknown:always, for me, being a melanated woman, young woman at
Unknown:the time child, that I had to work twice as hard to get half
Unknown:as much. So you know, because I had all these strikes against
Unknown:me, I'm female, I'm a melanin in my skin, right? You know, all
Unknown:these things. These are strikes, and heaven forbid, actually had
Unknown:children, I didn't stay married to the person I had children
Unknown:with when I'm single parent strikes, right? didn't finish
Unknown:college. Because, you know, the original College, Northwestern
Unknown:University, studying about chemistry didn't finish that,
Unknown:because I got pregnant my senior year and ran out of financial
Unknown:aid all at the same time, strike, there's all these things
Unknown:that I was told that I should not be able to ever have been
Unknown:successful in corporate America, be a minister, and ordained
Unknown:minister in the nondenominational church go all
Unknown:around the country raised three kids climb the corporate ladder,
Unknown:you know, but I also though, had all of these entrepreneurs had
Unknown:these entrepreneurial failures, I started to gain a ton of
Unknown:weight, I started to not eat very healthy, didn't have very
Unknown:healthy habits, no time for exercise, no time to eat good,
Unknown:no time to do this. No time to do that. And then my body, you
Unknown:know, develop high blood pressure, diet, pre diabetic,
Unknown:like all of these other things, and that even of itself, even
Unknown:gaining the weight, then there's a strike against you in
Unknown:corporate America, right? Because you're not a certain
Unknown:size, right there. Are there all of these biases that exist?
Melissa Deally:And how many people listening are relating to
Melissa Deally:this right now? Right? It's not like you're the only one and yet
Melissa Deally:it is a strike against, you know, all of these things are
Melissa Deally:strikes against so many people. And the reality is, is that some
Melissa Deally:of those strikes trigger, you know, the responses, and the
Melissa Deally:actions taken by you, which lead to the next strike and the next
Melissa Deally:strike. Right, in this messed up judgemental world that we live
Melissa Deally:in. Yeah, yeah. Which is still a wonderful world. But we, you
Melissa Deally:know, when we come from that place of love, and curiosity and
Melissa Deally:inspiration, as opposed to judgment, that's when it can be
Melissa Deally:a wonderful work.
Unknown:Absolutely. But you have to do that for yourself
Unknown:first before you can do with anybody else. Yeah, that was the
Unknown:thing that I that if I was kind of like, the theme, right? Is at
Unknown:some point, I had to learn how to have compassion for myself
Unknown:first, I had a ton of compassion for everybody else. A ton gave
Unknown:gave gave gave gave to corporations, to people to
Unknown:children as to that all that. But I didn't have any compassion
Unknown:for me. Right. So all the stress I was putting myself under some
Unknown:of it was like, normal, okay, we got to put food on the table,
Unknown:keep a roof over our head, you know, being a single parent.
Unknown:Yeah, okay, I get that. But really, it because I didn't
Unknown:truly love myself. And I didn't have a good passion on myself,
Unknown:that showed itself in over eating and making bad choices
Unknown:not doing these things. Because on all honesty, I didn't feel
Unknown:like I deserved any of that. I didn't deserve to have this
Unknown:life, whatever this life was, the body then was experiencing
Unknown:all of that. And when we put ourselves under so much stress,
Unknown:you know, we're going to hang on to write the visceral fats and
Unknown:we're going to, you know, we're gonna go to the comfort that
Unknown:quote unquote, comfort foods, you know, before we choose to
Unknown:eat in a healthy manner, because our brain hasn't like kind of
Unknown:turned all the rest of that garbage off and said, You know
Unknown:what a salad can kind of be a comfort food, like, actually now
Unknown:I'm like, Oh, let me just go make a salad. That feels real
Unknown:good right now, but I just switched my whole thing rather
Unknown:than that piece of chocolate cake to. Oh, that sounds pretty
Unknown:good. You know what I'm saying? And just become that
Unknown:compassionate person oneself and really feel like I deserved to
Unknown:live?
Melissa Deally:Yeah, yeah. So there's a lot of personal growth
Melissa Deally:in there a lot of mindset shifts that are happening through that
Melissa Deally:process as well as even potentially tapping into the
Melissa Deally:unconscious mind to release some of what has been deeply stored
Melissa Deally:in there from those formative years of zero to seven.
Unknown:And that then has been put upon and put upon letting
Unknown:you know when I think of the layers of the programming that
Unknown:we receive, not just from zero to seven, but from seven to 70
Unknown:and 70 into whatever right. It's so multilayer it's just line
Unknown:upon line, precept upon precept, that we have to make that some
Unknown:point we make a conscious decision. Hopefully, to say,
Unknown:this does not need to be this way, I do not need to live my
Unknown:life this way. And a lot of times what will happen is, you
Unknown:know, some people will go on a weight loss journey or a health,
Unknown:a healthy living journey, and not even realize that the true
Unknown:journey is the spiritual journey that is happening, right? That's
Unknown:where you get to the core of everything is by going through
Unknown:the spiritual journey. In our world, we will call it the dark
Unknown:night of the soul, right? We go through this, like, oh my god,
Unknown:right. But we've got to do that to root out all of these
Unknown:programs and the energies and emotions. And the guilt that we
Unknown:hold on to that doesn't belong to us. The shame, that doesn't
Unknown:belong to us. I mean, women we were that we imagined men to
Unknown:write, we were that around our belly, I learned that belly fat
Unknown:was because I was holding on to I was holding on to like this
Unknown:guilt and the shame. And this was a protection device. So
Unknown:people wouldn't come close, right? That's like, that's
Unknown:crazy. To me, it was absolute craziness to me. But it's so
Unknown:true. is so true. And then as I began to be willing to shed that
Unknown:protection, get into the flow, it's kind of all goes back,
Unknown:right? Get into the flow and release the need to control
Unknown:because the more I try to control every person and every
Unknown:energy, and every ounce of my life, the more out of control,
Unknown:freaking god, I did not get the results I wanted, right, because
Unknown:I was actually pushing away the very thing that I wanted, which
Unknown:was just to live in peace and love and harmony and neutrality
Unknown:itself. So it started moving in slow, and I'm like, okay, then
Unknown:the little things happen. I was listening to one of your
Unknown:podcasts, and you were talking about admiring the sunrise and
Unknown:how we would never use your wake, right for the sunrise. I'm
Unknown:listening to you describe, sitting on that dock, right? And
Unknown:watching the sun come up, what a beautiful and amazing moment in
Unknown:time, and what a beautiful energy to make yourself a part
Unknown:of him to be in concert with, without having to think about
Unknown:anything else. Just gonna watch the sunrise and the dawn of a
Unknown:new day, that now I get to do all these new wonderful things.
Unknown:It's a new adventure, but you put yourself in that flow in
Unknown:that adventure, and didn't worry about what else was going to
Unknown:happen for the rest of the day. I thought was that just to like,
Unknown:wake up and not and enjoy this? To start my day? How
Unknown:inspirational is that? You kidding me? Just doing those
Unknown:things, then open things open so much more up for us.
Melissa Deally:Yeah. Yeah. And you're right. And that that was
Melissa Deally:an amazing experience. And I'm grateful to my daughter for kind
Melissa Deally:of bully me into being willing to get up early enough to
Melissa Deally:experience because it was pretty early. We didn't want to miss
Melissa Deally:any of the sunrise. So we had to get up when it was still pitch
Melissa Deally:black right so that we could then see those light colors
Melissa Deally:start to come across the sky. And and it is it's it's the dawn
Melissa Deally:of a new day where it doesn't matter what's happened before?
Melissa Deally:No, this is a clean slate. We can start fresh. Yes. And it
Melissa Deally:happens every 24 hours. And Mother Nature is always there
Melissa Deally:doing its thing, despite what we as humanity are doing, right. I
Melissa Deally:mean, we only have to look at the last two years and the
Melissa Deally:craziness in the world from the perspective of what we humans
Melissa Deally:have had to deal with. But everything in nature has
Melissa Deally:remained unchanged. Although they've had The benefits of us
Melissa Deally:slowing down a little bit in the world getting a little bit
Melissa Deally:cleaner. Absolutely. But they just keep doing their thing.
Unknown:Absolutely. And then if you think about that, and
Unknown:internalize it and bring it into the esoteric, right, every day,
Unknown:your son or your solar plexus, every day your son dawns, every
Unknown:day, it dawns. It's a new dawn. So when you allow your son to
Unknown:rise up over the horizon, and you allow your light to be
Unknown:turned on, and your power, then to be emanated from you, every
Unknown:day is a brand new adventure, every single day. So what are
Unknown:you going to do today with today, and not worry about what
Unknown:happened yesterday, because that's dead and gone already. By
Unknown:the time you're any of the listeners right now, by the time
Unknown:you're listening to this, by the time you process, the words that
Unknown:have just exited my mouth. It's that time has already passed.
Unknown:It's already in the past. So we're actually when we say we're
Unknown:being like mindful and present. We're actually living in a
Unknown:perpetual time loop of President past president past, yes, the
Unknown:key is to get out of that time loop and allow the flow of the
Unknown:future, to allow your consciousness to be in the flow
Unknown:of the future. So that it inspires, and it molds and it
Unknown:shapes every moment as you become aware of it in the
Unknown:present. And then alters your past. So that's the place to get
Unknown:to. Yeah, yeah,
Melissa Deally:I love that. And so tell, tell me more tell me,
Melissa Deally:like, how does one get to that or tell me more about the
Melissa Deally:courses that you offer, if that's what gets you there. But
Melissa Deally:I'm just intrigued to know more about the practice of getting to
Melissa Deally:that place.
Unknown:Well, getting to that place is all about learning to
Unknown:live in neutrality and learning to live in your higher self.
Unknown:Some people might be familiar with the hermetic, seven
Unknown:hermetic principles. And, you know, we find these principles
Unknown:actually in in different religious texts and things of
Unknown:that nature as well. But it's really learning that you are a
Unknown:energetic or spiritual being having a human experience, it's
Unknown:not the other way around. So for me, and every given moment in
Unknown:time, I have surrendered to the flow. So I just know that
Unknown:whatever I am experiencing in this moment, has been ordained,
Unknown:right? And is of my highest good, and that my energetic
Unknown:being, is guiding it in concert with creator with God with
Unknown:source, whatever name you wish to associate, however, the
Unknown:universe or God has revealed itself to you. So that that
Unknown:conversation is always going on. Right? So I talk a lot about
Unknown:that on my YouTube channel, heart of inspiration. And on my
Unknown:Instagram, which is at heart of ANSP. We do a lot. I haven't
Unknown:quite cracked the tic tac code. Maybe I'll get on there for the
Unknown:young folks at some point. But so those two my main two places,
Unknown:right, and my website, we put out a weekly newsletter, we
Unknown:talked about that kind of stuff, harder inspiration, dotnet. But
Unknown:what I do is I help Lightworkers or people that are of light,
Unknown:people that wish to be transformational. Coaches,
Unknown:healers, teachers, mentors, that they want to put their stamp on
Unknown:humanity. Right, right. Yup. This is who I am. And yup, this
Unknown:is why I want to do with my life. And maybe you're wanting
Unknown:to become part of the great resignation and actually be an
Unknown:entrepreneur. Like, like I am, right and, and like many others
Unknown:of us. So I help you do that I happen to step into your
Unknown:purpose, I help you gain the esoteric tools, if that's your
Unknown:what you'd like to do gain esoteric tools to live in your
Unknown:purpose, and then also create an actual business. That's what's
Unknown:called the practical lightworker. So it's not just a
Unknown:hobby, right? It is, who you speak it to what what
Unknown:transformation, like I take you through every bit, every bit of
Unknown:it, so that you can have a solid foundation to have a thriving,
Unknown:create a thriving six figure business. So that's what I do.
Unknown:It's called the practical lightworker. And I'm, go to my
Unknown:website. I'd love to chat with you. It's wonderful. I love it.
Melissa Deally:I love it too. And I think it's such a needed
Melissa Deally:service right now because so many people are really heart
Melissa Deally:centered and they're wanting to give and serve more people, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera, but they're finding it hard to make money.
Melissa Deally:Look at that, right? Absolutely. And so having people be able to
Melissa Deally:bring the two together. And very often it's, you know, again,
Melissa Deally:coming back to those blocks from our younger years that are
Melissa Deally:getting in the way, right. And I was just doing some tapping this
Melissa Deally:morning on this very subject, right. And because I'm working
Melissa Deally:on it myself for myself, too, and it was just, you know, part
Melissa Deally:of it is that realization that it's, it's okay to make money
Melissa Deally:serving others, because when you make that money, then we'll a
Melissa Deally:it's a sign that you're serving more people, and be you can do
Melissa Deally:more with the money that you're making.
Unknown:Absolutely. Right. And it's not about the money. I
Unknown:think that's what people need to like, we it's an energy
Unknown:exchange. And so this is what I teach as well. And you know,
Unknown:there's a, there's a fabulous transformation that happens in
Unknown:Sox as we work together, and really step into your purpose.
Unknown:Because my mantra is to give permission to your purpose to
Unknown:provide for your person.
Melissa Deally:I like that.
Unknown:And so at some point, I had to get permission, right?
Unknown:And so that's what we did it help others. But when you grow
Unknown:so much, you want to my inner child healing, and you went
Unknown:about that, is that get in there because a lot of that has to
Unknown:surrounds money. I mean, even in, in any religious text you
Unknown:read, anytime the prophet or the teacher came to town, did they
Unknown:just let them come to town and not feed them not clothed them
Unknown:that give them money for their trip on their way? That they did
Unknown:not bring them something as a gift or a token of their
Unknown:appreciation? Of course they did. It's just now the token of
Unknown:our appreciate appreciation rather than a goat or a fine
Unknown:linen, or some some frankincense or myrrh other oil is in the
Unknown:form of money. Yeah, it's no different
Melissa Deally:as you say, it's the exchange. Exactly. It is.
Unknown:Absolutely is. Yeah.
Melissa Deally:So I'd love to go back and have you share a
Melissa Deally:little bit of your story and how you came into this work and how
Melissa Deally:your own spiritual growth has impacted your health and well
Melissa Deally:being.
Unknown:Awesome. So you don't have a long sordid tale here.
Unknown:But what I can tell you is so I'm the mother of a single
Unknown:mother of three wonderful adult children, two daughters, one
Unknown:son, and the grandmother of two beautiful granddaughters. My
Unknown:eldest granddaughter is going to be eight this year. I've been an
Unknown:ordained Christian minister. I've been in corporate America,
Unknown:all these great things and wonderful things, right.
Unknown:However, I lost my father when I was 40 years old. He was only
Unknown:65, almost 66. At the time, he died of a in a diabetic coma. He
Unknown:had battled diabetes, he was adult onset diabetes, he never
Unknown:would eat right Dad never would like he just refused. So he
Unknown:could have actually type one, nipped it in the bud and didn't.
Unknown:And then ended up insulin dependent. And eventually that,
Unknown:you know, that took him and my mother has his Crohn's disease
Unknown:is that Crohn's disease for as long as I can remember. And so I
Unknown:lost that at 40. And then short not too long after that. My son
Unknown:and his girlfriend at the time, were pregnant with my eldest
Unknown:granddaughter, and I was almost 300 pounds. I was severely I
Unknown:really, really bad high blood pressure. And I was pre diabetic
Unknown:high cholesterol. And I was so she'll be so I'm 33. So I was
Unknown:like, 4546. So it's been five years after dad passed. And I
Unknown:realized that if I didn't change, I wasn't going to be
Unknown:able to see my grandma, my granddaughter. Become a woman.
Unknown:Like I didn't know how long I was gonna live. Right? And that
Unknown:shook me into changing my lifestyle. You know, over the
Unknown:years, I've lost probably I'd lost at that point. 85 pounds,
Unknown:probably put a few more pounds back on, you know, her I'm 53.
Unknown:Now, so that's that battles a little tougher. But during that
Unknown:time of weight loss and transformation, and then as when
Unknown:she was born, I realized this, I'm holding her. I'm like, This
Unknown:is my legacy. You know, your children. Yeah, either. But your
Unknown:grandbabies are really your legacy. And I said, I'm going to
Unknown:teach you everything that I wished I had known. Great. Your
Unknown:father was little right. And that really catapulted me into
Unknown:this inner child work. And this inner child discovery and this
Unknown:spiritual discovery outside of whatever religious norms and
Unknown:everything else and to finally get into a place where I
Unknown:actually loved myself. Because yeah, your kids love you. But I
Unknown:don't know if your grandkids but the grandbabies love you in a
Unknown:whole new way. You literally can do no wrong, you are a saint.
Unknown:All sins are forgiven, you are a saint to your grandchildren. And
Unknown:it really teaches you how to love yourself. Unconditionally.
Melissa Deally:Yeah, because that unconditional love is being
Melissa Deally:mirrored right back at you from them. Yes. And probably from
Melissa Deally:your own children when they're really, really little. But at
Melissa Deally:that point, you're just so busy trying to do everything that you
Melissa Deally:need to be doing to care for them that you're not noticing
Melissa Deally:it, you don't have the same awareness of it as you do with
Melissa Deally:your grandchild where now you've, you know, got some time
Melissa Deally:and you're not having to care for them. 24/7. And it just
Melissa Deally:shows up and mirrors right back at you.
Unknown:Because it's beautiful.
Melissa Deally:It is beautiful. And I really love what's so
Melissa Deally:beautiful is to is that in, you know, she's teaching you as much
Melissa Deally:as you're teaching her.
Unknown:Absolutely. And yes, and she's teaching me reminding
Unknown:me how to be young again. Yeah, the other thing I've found out
Unknown:through this spirituality, this like journey, and really get
Unknown:into this quantum living and just living in a space of
Unknown:neutrality without stress and strain. And all this stuff is I
Unknown:feel like I'm turning back the clock. In other words, I'm
Unknown:living a healthier lifestyle. Why? Because I want to take care
Unknown:of my body a little bit more. And I want to put less of
Unknown:certain things and energies into my being. Because you know, I
Unknown:want to remain in tune with the universe at all times and my
Unknown:higher self. And then what happens is, you get younger,
Unknown:it's kind of crazy. But like where I had osteoarthritis and
Unknown:my knees, I don't have that anymore. You eat better for
Unknown:other reasons. And now all of a sudden, all the inflammation has
Unknown:left your body and you're like, Wow, I feel pretty darn good.
Unknown:You have so much more energy. And people on a regular basis
Unknown:are like your house? No, no way. And I'm like, Yeah, and I don't
Unknown:know how it's supposed to feel that I certainly don't feel it.
Unknown:So it is made a huge difference. I mean, I'm no longer pre
Unknown:diabetic, I've perfect cholesterol, we're almost off
Unknown:all of my high blood pressure medications like I might, I am
Unknown:in probably the best house at 53. That I have been in probably
Unknown:three decades, to be honest with you.
Melissa Deally:And I love that. And I particularly love it
Melissa Deally:because that's actually the work that I do with my clients all
Melissa Deally:the time. And it's it's who I am, too, I say that as well. I'm
Melissa Deally:the same age as you are. And I, you know, I feel better than I
Melissa Deally:did 20 years ago, because in the last seven years, as I've moved
Melissa Deally:into my health and wellness journey, I've slowly taken the
Melissa Deally:baby steps to implement all the learning that I've had in how to
Melissa Deally:take better care of my body. And the desire to want to take
Melissa Deally:better care of my body and to recognize that my body is my
Melissa Deally:health, and my body is my greatest asset. And so why am I
Melissa Deally:not prioritizing it as my greatest asset? Right?
Melissa Deally:Absolutely. Instead of taking it for granted and thinking, I
Melissa Deally:don't have to worry about my health, if I get sick, I'll go
Melissa Deally:to the doctor, they'll make me better. It's not their job to
Melissa Deally:make me better. It's my job to look after this asset. Just like
Melissa Deally:I buy a house I look after the house, I take the garbage out
Melissa Deally:and I do the vacuuming and the sweeping and I you know, fix
Melissa Deally:things when they're broken. And I renovate when I need to or my
Melissa Deally:car, you know, I clean that I take it for oil changes, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera. Yeah. So when we align and we respect our
Melissa Deally:health in the same way and treat it as an assets, like our other
Melissa Deally:big assets in our life, our body is incredible, because it is
Melissa Deally:designed to self heal. And it when we create the environment
Melissa Deally:for it to heal, that's exactly what it will do. So
Melissa Deally:congratulations to you for being able to get you know, bring your
Melissa Deally:cholesterol levels down to being normal and almost off your high
Melissa Deally:blood pressure medications and you're you're gone away, et
Melissa Deally:cetera, et cetera. So amazing. It's truly amazing. Thank you
Melissa Deally:what the body can do when we step into that. So how did you
Melissa Deally:find the inspiration yourself to step into your purpose? It's
Melissa Deally:your granddaughter's part of it. Is there more to it than that or
Melissa Deally:that was she was really that was the answer. ration.
Unknown:I think the next biggest thing was when my second
Unknown:marriage broke up near I thought I had the life perfect life in
Unknown:my late 40s, right. And then my second marriage, completely
Unknown:exploited and imploded. And all in the same 30 days, to break
Unknown:up, move him out. And then I was downsized from my corporate job
Unknown:at the time because I stood up for someone in my organization
Unknown:that was being bullied. And so all of a sudden, in 30 days, my
Unknown:perfect life was in shambles. And I couldn't find solace in
Unknown:anything that I had ever found it in before it was all fake and
Unknown:phony to me. And finally, as I finally said, Well, what do you
Unknown:want to do lease? What do you want to do with your life. And I
Unknown:didn't even know at first fully what that meant. All I knew is I
Unknown:wanted to help other people find themselves love themselves and
Unknown:not get into toxic relationships over and over in any toxic
Unknown:romantic, or, or career or friendship, or familial. Like, I
Unknown:recognize that there was toxicity that littered my whole
Unknown:landscape. And I kept choosing and kept getting in these
Unknown:situations, the pattern that we keep repeating, yes. And my
Unknown:desire, my need my absolute, like, I've got to get out of
Unknown:this, get off this hamster wheel, right. And live life is
Unknown:what propelled me into starting to find my purpose. And so
Unknown:that's when I started the YouTube channel. And then I
Unknown:started working with women in different ways. And men, some
Unknown:men as well, but that were like going on this path, right? of
Unknown:toxic, toxic, toxic and just like suffering all this stuff,
Unknown:right. And I was I needed to help them out of their trauma.
Unknown:That's how I started. And then it over three years, four years
Unknown:now, it's become my life, and it's become everything that it
Unknown:is now, and I'm really able to be in it. But yeah, take that
Unknown:first step, this is going in flow, take that first step,
Unknown:because you don't know what it's going to evolve to. Mm hmm. And
Unknown:I
Melissa Deally:love that the sharing in that story there
Melissa Deally:because I actually just bought Darren Hardy's journal, living
Melissa Deally:your best year. And I bought it because I'm reading the book,
Melissa Deally:atomic habits. And, you know, I have my to do list books like
Melissa Deally:this one here for those watching on video. But I haven't really
Melissa Deally:sat down and deeply contemplated what I want my year to look
Melissa Deally:like, you know, I kind of just pull it off the top of my head
Melissa Deally:in my rush, rush, rush, go world, right? And I thought, no,
Melissa Deally:I need to sit down and do this. And so I love this book, because
Melissa Deally:it actually takes you through eight steps in designing your
Melissa Deally:year. And one of the things that he said was when he was talking
Melissa Deally:about relationship and family is that your spouse really meet can
Melissa Deally:meet 80% of your needs, right? But we focus on the 20% that
Melissa Deally:they don't meet. And then we might leave that relationship
Melissa Deally:and go to another relationship where initially it might feel
Melissa Deally:better because they're meeting the 20% that weren't being met
Melissa Deally:before, but still only another 60%. So there's still going to
Melissa Deally:be a 20% gap, right? And the reality is, is that it's us that
Melissa Deally:have to change, not the other person. But so often, we spend
Melissa Deally:all of our time and energy focusing on what's wrong and how
Melissa Deally:the other person has to change. Yeah. And we do, and then we're
Melissa Deally:not able to move forward. Because we're not growing, we're
Melissa Deally:blaming, we're not taking responsibility. Absolutely. And
Melissa Deally:so it's just a really interesting way that he put that
Melissa Deally:because I've never seen that stat before if 80%
Unknown:Yeah, I haven't either. It's interesting, though,
Unknown:because I look at relationships a little bit differently. I
Unknown:don't feel that your partner should meet a need of yours at
Unknown:all.
Unknown:No, interesting. Yeah,
Unknown:I feel like relationships should it's really it's not 5050 or
Unknown:8020 or 6040. It's 100 100. And if you can come into it or grow
Unknown:while you're in it. Yeah. To a point where you recognize that
Unknown:what we perceive as a need, typically, I find is an area of
Unknown:unhealed energetic trauma. Right? Right. And so we somehow
Unknown:feel like we need someone to fill that gap when that's really
Unknown:That's really where we're at. To me, this is Lisa. So I come into
Unknown:it, like, let's get you as whole as we can. So that I can present
Unknown:myself then as here. I'm not looking to you to make me happy.
Unknown:I mean, right now, because happiness is my choice. Yes,
Unknown:definitely. Just like happiness is yours. I can't make you be
Unknown:happy. Right? Like that song says, I can't make you love me
Unknown:if you don't, great. I can't make your heartbeat something
Unknown:that it won't. Right. So they can't make you that feel that
Unknown:either. So I come to it in a sense of, I would say for me, if
Unknown:I was going to get at 20 There's probably 80% of stuff that I can
Unknown:like, I'm cool with like, it's no problem. And there's probably
Unknown:that 20% That grades on my last earthly nerve. And I gotta
Unknown:decide whether I'm just gonna like be like, Okay, that's, you
Unknown:know, we got 80 Over here. We're cool. Yeah. But yeah, there's
Unknown:more that we need to do within ourselves. Absolutely, I would
Unknown:rather be wanted than needed.
Melissa Deally:If you're enjoying my content, and someone
Melissa Deally:that wants to step into being proactive in your health and
Melissa Deally:learning more, I would love to invite you to join my membership
Melissa Deally:community, there's a link in the show notes for only 1999 a
Melissa Deally:month, you get access to all of my content. And there's a lot as
Melissa Deally:well as weekly calls that you can come and get your health
Melissa Deally:questions answered. It's truly priceless. I'd love to see you
Melissa Deally:join the community, check out the link in the show notes. Yes,
Melissa Deally:I totally agree with I totally agree with that approach. And
Melissa Deally:what you're saying there as well. And I think there's some
Melissa Deally:form of fusion between the two. And definitely while you've said
Melissa Deally:it there. But really what it comes down to is taking
Melissa Deally:responsibility ourselves, yes, for our own happiness, for our
Melissa Deally:choice as to how we view the world and how we asked who the
Melissa Deally:other people in our world, it's out. There, we choose to focus
Melissa Deally:on the negative or two instead, which could only be 20%, or
Melissa Deally:focus on the 80%. That is super positive.
Unknown:And that's empowering in your entire life of choice
Unknown:chosen to listen to the statistics, and the this and the
Unknown:that and the narrative that the world wants to put out here
Unknown:about me, as a melanated. Woman, I could have chosen that, as a
Unknown:single mother could have chosen that could have chosen to do
Unknown:that for my kids or whatever. But I chose a long time ago not
Unknown:to, and I absolutely, now vehemently refuse to. So when
Unknown:people come to me about certain situations that are happening in
Unknown:the world. I hear it. But that's not my life. I make a conscious
Unknown:decision every moment of every day, that that's not my life.
Unknown:And that's not my experience. Now something comes in that's
Unknown:looks similar to what that other world is I'm now you're not part
Unknown:of my story. So I can approach it from a place of neutrality
Unknown:and power, because you I'm not allowing myself to devolve into
Unknown:the fear. Right. And the control. Yeah, we can choose
Unknown:this life. Yes. And I wish we would more often like this a
Unknown:fabulous way to live.
Melissa Deally:It is a fabulous way to live. And I really I wish
Melissa Deally:this was taught more through our school system. Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:Honestly, you know, I'm stepping into all of this personal growth
Melissa Deally:and learning and figuring out who I am and my purpose and my
Melissa Deally:passion and understanding that yes, this is what I was put here
Melissa Deally:on this earth to do. But in my 40s and 50s. I know, how much
Melissa Deally:nicer would it have been to you know, have been figuring this
Melissa Deally:out when I was 10?
Unknown:Absolutely. But isn't it beautiful that we now get to
Unknown:teach the younger generation that's raising the 10 year old?
Unknown:Exactly. It's why it's okay to let them dream. It really be all
Unknown:right. You know, and let them just explore. Yeah, that's
Unknown:wonderful.
Melissa Deally:And it's okay to have mindfulness in the
Melissa Deally:classroom. And yeah, so beneficial. And, you know, there
Melissa Deally:was a time here where yoga couldn't be taught in our
Melissa Deally:schools because it had religious connotations. And that has now
Melissa Deally:changed, which I'm very grateful for. And at the time I was
Melissa Deally:laying, okay, let's call it stretching. Yeah, right. Right.
Melissa Deally:So we're definitely moving in the right direction. And there's
Melissa Deally:so much more awareness around all of this and so your message
Melissa Deally:is getting out in the message of others, but maybe share with the
Melissa Deally:audience how living in purpose has really helped you overall,
Melissa Deally:move forward.
Unknown:It is renewed not only just my faith in humanity, but
Unknown:most importantly, my faith and self. I wake up every day,
Unknown:knowing that today, I'm going to impact hundreds of people's
Unknown:lives every day. And I'm excited to find a new way to do it. I'm
Unknown:excited to like meet new people, and help them in their purpose.
Unknown:I don't feel like I'm in competition with anyone, because
Unknown:I'm not, I'm living my own purpose. So that has just given
Unknown:me such an energy and such as stability. And you know, my
Unknown:light just shines, because I'm like, like God, because what I
Unknown:get to do today, and then when I see the results from the people
Unknown:that I've worked with, and helped, and all the healers and
Unknown:the teachers, and I mean, I've got like, you know, I've had
Unknown:like, medical, like doctors and nurse practitioners and
Unknown:counselors, all kinds of people come in, like, Hey, could you
Unknown:help me do this? I want to do this in a real, authentic,
Unknown:holistic way. And the impact they're having. So the you don't
Unknown:think that your purpose while maybe it's just to do this isn't
Unknown:isn't? Lisa? Maybe I'm not meant meant to have a huge tribe? I
Unknown:don't know. Maybe you're not. But guess what? The people that
Unknown:you do touch, and that you do impact that has an exponential
Unknown:effect on the entire world,
Melissa Deally:like the domino effect, or the ripple.
Melissa Deally:Absolutely. And you may never know what that is. And yet, it
Melissa Deally:is happening. Yes.
Unknown:Yeah. So that's how it's just giving me I feel like
Unknown:a new lease on life. Like I literally feel like, my son came
Unknown:to me other days like, Mom, they're saying that people are
Unknown:living to 150. I'm like, Yeah, I guess I'll be one of those
Unknown:people.
Melissa Deally:I'll be there with you. I've always said I'm
Melissa Deally:going over 100.
Unknown:Why do we have to die? Anyway, that's a whole nother
Unknown:show.
Melissa Deally:Exactly, exactly. But I love what you've
Melissa Deally:said there and to the audience to have them here that yes, you
Melissa Deally:can wake up every day, excited, and passionate about why you're
Melissa Deally:here, what you're doing, and the ability to help others. And if
Melissa Deally:you're not there yet, then work with someone who can help you
Melissa Deally:get there, because we are given one life. And I heard someone
Melissa Deally:say about I don't know, seven years ago when I really took it
Melissa Deally:to heart that we are placed on this earth to serve others, to
Melissa Deally:find our passion or purpose and to never stop learning. And when
Melissa Deally:we have those three, we truly are fulfilled. And we can wake
Melissa Deally:up and choose to be happy every single day as you do as I do.
Melissa Deally:But for that person who's still, you know, maybe in that place of
Melissa Deally:wondering, what is my purpose? What message do you have for
Melissa Deally:them?
Unknown:It might be counterintuitive to everything
Unknown:else that we've said today, I find that we did we the first
Unknown:inkling of what our purpose is, is what has been the pain that
Unknown:we have come through and overcome and healed. Mm hmm.
Unknown:Right. So the pain of growing up in a household for me, that was
Unknown:filled with domestic violence and all kinds of things, right.
Unknown:And fear and control that began to lead me and then as an adult,
Unknown:having toxic relationships, that began to lead me to my purpose
Unknown:of helping women who've come out of abusive toxic relationships.
Unknown:Right. So and then that just helped. And then and then it
Unknown:just evolved and it just grew. But usually the first step is
Unknown:what's the pain that you yourself have come through, and
Unknown:that you have begun to heal? Right? That's where you can
Unknown:start finding your purpose.
Melissa Deally:And it's so true. And that's how I found
Melissa Deally:mine it it was watching my girls go through their concussions and
Melissa Deally:supporting them through their concussions just after I'd been
Melissa Deally:let go and two concussions at the same time in the same
Melissa Deally:household. Like when does that happen? Right when I got the
Melissa Deally:phone call, two months after the first one about the second one
Melissa Deally:from grade eight gym class. I was literally like, wow, really?
Melissa Deally:This is how you show me my path. Stop taking out my children.
Unknown:Well, hopefully it's not that dramatic.
Melissa Deally:Well, exactly. But again, it was that, you
Melissa Deally:know, it's like what did I go through in through that process?
Melissa Deally:I went through realizing there was a gap in the market in the
Melissa Deally:medical market or model, I should say, of people need to be
Melissa Deally:supported on that healing journey. It's not enough just to
Melissa Deally:go to a practitioner, listen to what they have to say, and then
Melissa Deally:see them in a week or two weeks, especially with concussion,
Melissa Deally:because they didn't have the cognitive ability to come home
Melissa Deally:and tell me what they've been told I was already forgotten. I
Melissa Deally:was going to their appointments with them. So I heard the
Melissa Deally:information, so I could then support them between the
Melissa Deally:appointments and then realizing what other people do. Right? All
Melissa Deally:of that is what led me into my journey to becoming a health
Melissa Deally:coach, and then an integrative health practitioner, etc. As I,
Melissa Deally:you know, watched and went through this with my kids. And
Melissa Deally:that was the learning that I needed to have in order to step
Melissa Deally:into my purpose. Wow, in this world, and my second career, and
Melissa Deally:so yeah, so for anyone listening, what's going on in
Melissa Deally:your world? What are the lessons that you are being taught? What
Melissa Deally:are the challenges that you're facing that you when you come
Melissa Deally:out the other side, you will have the lesson with that 2020
Melissa Deally:vision. And then that is what your purpose is likely going to
Melissa Deally:be as you then share that with others. And help them through
Melissa Deally:what you've just been through? Because you know exactly where
Melissa Deally:they're at. And you know how to guide them through? Absolutely.
Melissa Deally:So yeah, well, thank you so, so much for your time. Today. This
Melissa Deally:has been a really fun interview. And I love to ask all of my
Melissa Deally:guests What does don't wait for your wake up call mean to you.
Unknown:Don't wait for your wake up call means to me hmm.
Unknown:Don't put it don't don't put off because of what your parents or
Unknown:society or the media, social media, whatever, your external
Unknown:world. Do not wait until it's a crisis moment for you have to
Unknown:either live or die, basically, for you to choose. I choose
Unknown:life. Choose life today. You don't have to live it the same
Unknown:way you're living it right now. Choose life today. That's what
Unknown:that means to me.
Melissa Deally:I love that. And so if anybody wants to reach out
Melissa Deally:to you, at what I know, you've mentioned earlier, a couple of
Melissa Deally:your social media sites, but please just let everyone know
Melissa Deally:the best way to reach out to you.
Unknown:Yeah, so probably the best way to reach out to me or
Unknown:to get in contact is to go to heart of inspiration.net. And
Unknown:you can sign up for my free newsletter, which is like chock
Unknown:full of like, blogs and information and tells you I went
Unknown:I'm going to be on YouTube at heart of inspiration. And what's
Unknown:coming up on Instagram and got podcasts. There's a lot going
Unknown:on. Okay, so I got a lot. I'm everywhere, right?
Melissa Deally:And what is one last tip that you would like to
Melissa Deally:leave the audience with so that they can step into their best
Melissa Deally:version of themselves? Starting today, whatever that might look
Melissa Deally:like for them.
Unknown:Yep. So something that I learned from Mel Robbins
Unknown:actually make when you get that thought that inspirational
Unknown:thought that drops in, you have five seconds 54321 Before your
Unknown:mind takes over and says you can't do it. So when you get
Unknown:that inspirational thought, I want you to move. Don't wait.
Unknown:Just move.
Melissa Deally:I love that. I love that wonderful tip. So
Melissa Deally:thank you so so much for joining me here today. Lisa, I really
Melissa Deally:appreciate your time and wishing you and the audience a fabulous
Melissa Deally:week. Thank you to everyone for listening. And we will see you
Melissa Deally:back here next time.
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