Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora.

And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today.

First off, I want to apologize for not posting my episode as

usual on Thursday.

I had kind of an emergency yesterday

and was not able to show up and tense back pain

to the point that I was not able to breathe properly anymore,

held me back.

And

I'm slowly but surely healing and taking really good care of

myself.

And I thought Yeah, first thing I want to do, once I have a

little more power, again, is to be there for you, and share with

you what I'm learning because I know, in sharing this, I might

am might be able to help you.

And

I can show up as authentically as I want. And that's going to

help me heal as well.

I think I was living under the impression that the more good I

was doing in the world,

the less likely

I will be hurt or disappointed or attacked by people.

And for the same reason. So thinking that if I do good in

the work world,

I also don't have to, yeah, really stand up for myself.

I can avoid

weird,

uncomfortable situations because I just want goodness in my life.

But in doing so I totally neglected myself, I was not

there for myself, I just kept putting work and content out

there thinking that I'm kind of paying into my health account.

But I was not. I was Yeah, doing an out of balance.

And now I'm paying the price.

Life will force you on to your knees and make you learn these

lessons.

Take care of yourself first. Make yourself a priority. And

you're not going to be selfish, you're going to be authentic,

you're going to be able to speak your truth and make people see

you understand you. Setting a boundary with someone doesn't

mean that you want to shut them out of your life. It means that

you give them a manual on how to treat you.

And I share this with people I preach this I beg people to take

care of this and focus on this

yet at the same time. I don't do it for myself.

And that's really concerning.

In German we say the dentist has the most crooked and ugly teeth

right they see what they can fix and do and the other and how to

serve others but they kind of neglect themselves.

Of course not every dentist has crooked teeth but I think you

know what I'm trying to say here

so yeah, I'm slowly but

surely you're recovering here

my

house practice you know my little rituals that I engaged

in. I also did in a in a resentful way kind of Yeah, I

have to go for this walk now I have to take care of my physical

health.

And I kind of abused myself into these habits to be healthy.

What the fuck was I thinking that that's going to keep me

healthy? No on a mental emotional level. I'm abusing

myself and my body may be to

to some degree.

So self care is really a tricky

Saying,

a thing that we have to learn to integrate in life and to not

practice it in an abusive way.

So yeah, I'm learning these very valuable lessons right now.

And

I'm just, yeah, very bad pain and my back is just

forcing me onto my knees and forcing me to look at where I

was not assertive, where I didn't speak up for myself.

And I know the situations now. And I know that in those

situations, I had physical pain. Mentally, I just had these sorts

of I need to escape, I need to run away, I need to make the

stop.

But acts externally, I didn't act, I didn't do anything, I

didn't do anything to make the shitty situation stop. So like a

sponge, I kept inhaling

that toxic energy. And now it accumulated inside of me. And

I'm dealing with that pain. And I think that's what I'm supposed

to learn. I'm supposed to learn to stand up for myself to not

expect my partner or anybody else around me to do it for me,

I have to do it for myself. I have to feel the self worth.

And then stand up for myself.

And know that it is going to improve my relationships and not

destroy them, because I think that's what I'm scared.

I'm scared that if I show up authentically, if I start

setting boundaries, that I'm going to piss people off that I

have to deal with their resentment and pain.

But if I learned to communicate my boundaries in a gentle way,

I can go to bed at night peacefully.

And know that any weird reaction is like from the other side from

the other party is not going to say anything about me, but about

them.

So

sometimes a coach needs a coach.

If you are connected with me on Facebook, he probably saw that

little video of mine. If we haven't connected there yet,

please join me there. I would love to connect with you on a

deeper level. I love to know where my listeners are from and

if ever you have a topic request, don't hold back and you

just message me there. Aurora Eggert coaching or just Aurora

Eggert. And you're more than welcome to message me, I usually

get back to people.

Once they let me know that they listen to my podcast and they

want to comment or share something about their lives.

Also,

I'm being very vulnerable with you.

It is a

it is

how do you say

I have to overcome resistance for sure. Before I'm being that

vulnerable because I thought, I'm a life coach. Now. I can't

feel that way. I have to be strong, I have to be a leader.

But I figured that I want to create connection with you. I

want you to trust me and to know that I'm not hovering somewhere

above you. I'm right there with you.

And I'm sure I can learn tons of things from you.

And that's what I'm learning right now with my coaching

clients is that yeah, they learn from me, I provide them all the

tools they need and I serve them

to the best of my abilities, but I also learned so much about

life and about myself and it's just a beautiful journey to be

on.

So if you feel like you're ready for a coaching session, don't

hold back for 60 minutes are for free. And it's it's incredible

what we can

unlock when it comes to a potential

It is incredible how we can experience a little shift of

perspective within one session. And it can change our lives. And

as

Yeah, I feel very blessed and grateful to be working as a

coach, it gives me so much and it excites me to see other

people grow and flourish.

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a space of recharging your batteries.

Alright, I will take really good care of myself now. Please do

the same. Until next time. Bye